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accountability.

Recently, for my 17th birthday at the start of March, I received this tiny pocket A7 book. I didn't know what to write in it considering I used to have a habit of collecting pretty notebooks and never using them.

This book was too small for me to write long things in. I considered making daily to-do lists but decided I'd stick to my other systems for that. Then yesterday, whilst reflecting on some things weighing on my mind, I decided to write it down. There isn't much space on each page so I kept it brief and just tried to use the most concise words possible to acknowledge what I was feeling.

I call this book my 'honest truths' book. It is a way for me to acknowledge harmful thoughts, beliefs and behaviours I may have, and I aim to use it as a way to be present when facing difficulties whilst also remembering that they do not define me.

If you want to start one, you can use whatever medium you like, but I would recommend pen and paper because there's nothing like that feeling of pen on a page, which evokes such honesty. Just be honest with yourself. Spare your ego the feelings associated with finally acknowledging you are struggling. Leave yourself some words of encouragement at the end of each entry so that whenever you feel yourself slipping back into old habits, read that entry and remind yourself that you can come out stronger.

Stay safe.

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You attract what you are and you create what you think about. Act like the person you want to become. Think like the person you want to become. Nothing changes in your life unless you make the decision and commitment to change it. Hold an image in your mind of how you wish to see yourself living. Visualize it everyday and you will unconsciously start to do things that will move you towards that goal.

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one of my favourite songs from my favourite artist. listen to music that nourishes your soul ☀️💗

song: secrets from a girl (who's seen it all) by lorde

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the real glow up is when your inner beauty shines out ✨️💕

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To all young people out there: Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't love you back. No matter how amazing they are. Don't pine and online stalk and cry and mourn for someone who has no interest in you, no matter how much a part of your culture that seems to be. Find someone that puts in effort for you, that shows up for you, that buys you flowers and writes letters for you and is deeply in love with you and cares about you. If you're young, you might cling to your first emotional experiences, but this person is gonna come around one day and you will know what you deserve, to not look too long at people that don't matter.

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I found peace when:

I began to trust myself

I accepted the things that I can't change

I realized that not every relationship had to last

I no longer let people dictate how I felt about myself

I started to appreciate the things I had

I accepted my own imperfections

I began to be honest about how I felt

I learned to set boundaries

I started to show up authenticity

I stopped committing to more than I had time for

I stopped trying to "save" or "fix" people

I stopped trying to prove my worth

I stopped explaining myself to people who didn't want to understand me

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Abilities that will forever benefit you

The ability to walk away

The ability to manage your time

The ability to remain consistent

The ability to self analyze

The ability to learn how to learn

The ability to understand others

The ability to listen

The ability to express your thoughts and feelings

The ability to break down tasks

The ability to adapt

The ability to control your mind

The ability to ask for help

The ability to act upon facts not feelings

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hot girl tips to be more productive

With a million things to do, where do we find the time? Sometimes it can be so easy to just procrastinate, not do your work and keep pushing it back till it's too late. Let's not do that anymore.

5-minute rule - start small. If you've been putting something off for a long time, trying to commit 1 hour to it can be challenging. You can't do a marathon without a warm-up first! Could you set a timer for 5 minutes to do that task? After 5 minutes if you want to continue, go for it; if you don't, that's okay, because at least you've done 5 minutes today, which is better than 0. Tomorrow or later in the day, try to challenge yourself to do 7 minutes this time, then 10, then 15, and you will get into that rhythm.

Eliminate distractions - it's all because of that damn phone 🙄 but seriously, tech and social media can have such a tight grip over our productivity and our attention. If you cannot control your usage, set app timers that lock the app after you use it for a certain amount of time or delete the app. I've been using a minimalist phone launcher called 'OLauncher' that removes all my icons and makes me manually have to type and search for the app. In the time it takes me to search for the app, I get to ask myself, "What am I looking for? Do I need to use it for something specific or do I just want to scroll?"

Schedule properly - note down all your commitments and non-negotiables in an app like Google Calendar and make sure all your big events are displayed there. Some people can fall into the habit of planning every second of their day, but I instead delegate a few tasks to each day and give myself any time within the day to complete them, the important thing being not when I do them, but that I do them in the end.

Write to-do lists - now this doesn't just mean in-app lists, which are very useful. Physically write them out. I use a scrap piece of paper and I write: "Today I WILL..." and then list all the things I want to get done. Having it written down helps me commit to it more and the feeling of ticking it is so satisfying.

Know your WHY - Why are you doing this? Why do you want to be more productive? Why do you want to study more? Always look at the bigger picture. Where do you want to be and how will your productivity help you get there?

Celebrate your wins - whether you completed all the things on your to-do list or just one, be proud of it. Some days, you will feel super motivated and fly through all your tasks, and other days you just want to stay in bed and do nothing. Making an effort is the first step to your success.

No matter whether your goal is to complete a project, get good grades, get into the school of your dreams, or just get your work out of the way so you can focus on other things, tackle it little by little. Just 20 minutes every day for a week is better than trying to do 140 minutes worth of work on the last day.

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hi—i just wanted to send some appreciation for the post on handling rejection. a guy i’ve been talking to just broke things off because he says he doesn’t know what he wants, and it hurts, but reading your post is helping me accept the emotions and also realize it’s not the end of the world. so thank you :)

thank you so much for this! I know exactly how it feels and the only good advice is to keep pushing through! We can only focus on the things we can control and we cannot control how others feel about us, no matter how much we want to be able to. It will get better! I'm glad I could help! 💗💗💗✨

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real 'glow up' advice i wish i had

Imagine getting to the point in life where YOU are your own vision board; where you are that girl who has the life that you want, and you don't have to seek it out through other people. That should be the ultimate goal.

Here are subtle things that you should be doing to channel your ideal person and improve yourself for the better FROM THE INSIDE

take care of your hygiene: brush your teeth every day, wash your face with soap, wash your hair, take meaningful showers

be kind to yourself: speak nicely to yourself, treat yourself every now and then, love yourself exactly the way you came

make the effort: do your hair and wear something cute, even if you're only going to the supermarket. I bet your ideal self looks stunning wherever she goes, so make that effort if you really want to become her

move your body: dance to some music for just 5 minutes, take a walk, get off the bus a (reasonable) few stops earlier and walk the rest of the way

romanticise the hell out of your life: wear those bows, create that vision board, play that aesthetic background music even if you're just washing the dishes, wear that outfit!!!!!

admire yourself: look at yourself in the mirror and remember what you look like, take a million selfies to look back and smile at, give yourself a compliment every time you pass your reflection

get creative: if you want cute decor, make it! if you want cute clothes, find some easy DIYs!

focus on what you can control: if you cannot change the situation, let it resolve itself. don't waste your precious time obsessing over something you cannot change

get to know yourself (again): rediscover your hobbies, try new activities, learn to appreciate your solitude, get out of your shell

I really wish I was part of a community like this when I was going through a really insecure and lonely phase of my life.

Instead of deciding to wake up a 3am every day from now on, and trying to reach 20k steps every day, start small and walk your way up to greatness!

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Being Embarrassed is AN ILLUSION!

(I don’t own these photos!)

“Most importantly, you must always have faith in yourself.” - Elle Woods

What does being embarrassed feel like? Well, our first feelings are always insecurity and to overthink. We worry about what others think of us. We worry about getting judged, to even overthinking what we said. I promise you all that these people are too focused on their own life. They could even be just like you and overthinking what they said or did.

Why do we get embarrassed? A big part of our population are most likely people pleasers. We all care about what someone thinks about us. Whether it’s your parents, relatives, friends, bf/gf, etc. We also get judged a lot, from the day we came into this life. It’s hard to go from a pure and innocent child to a child scared of being judged. In conclusion, being scared of getting judged is why we get so embarrassed.

The mindset! In order to truly realize being embarrassed is an illusion, you have to walk with this thought. It has to become a life motto, not just that but a rule for yourself. You have to become committed and make sure you’re aware of this. If you get embarrassed and forget it’s an illusion, brush it off.

Validating yourself! One of the main reasons why we get embarrassed or afraid of being judged is, because we love praise. Praise from others that is, so start praising yourself. When you see yourself in the mirror, compliment yourself. Tell yourself the things you want to hear so badly from.

Love you dolls! Thank you dolls for reading 😘

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Water yourself, even in toxic environments. Groom yourself, even in toxic environments. Pamper yourself, even in toxic environments. We are nothing if not a sum of our habits. Don't wait to escape to start being who you deserve to be.

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living on auto-pilot // surviving the february slump

Now that we are in February, all of that 'new year new me' motivation has worn off. It feels like we are living our days floating from one event on the calendar to the next. Sometimes days just go by where we do things, but it feels like we've done nothing at all. January the 1st was the grand 'reset' button, but one month later, how are you holding up on your goals?

For me, I've found that the goals that I personalised the most and tailored to fit my attributes are the ones that have been the most successful so far, like embracing my natural hair.

Some more abstract goals have been harder to attribute success to because it feels like no matter how many smaller goals I break them down into, there is just not enough clarity or it just doesn't identify with me.

This past month, we've all faced some setbacks in some ways. I hope that you haven't let it discourage you completely. There have been moments when I didn't get what I wanted and I realised instantly why it was better that I didn't, and some where I'm still waiting for that moment to hit me, but I want you to know that everything happens for a reason. Never feel like you have to settle because you're tired of reaching out for better.

Some things that have really helped me take back some control in moments where I feel like I'm not present are:

Faith - whether you are religious or not, knowing that there is better out there for you can bring you great warmth.

Nature - the weather has been quite terrible recently, but it has made me appreciate every bit of sunshine I get

Stillness - being able to just sit and breathe without being bombarded by different thoughts is so healing

Being able to just take a step back and look at where you are, and how far you've come, is so important and can serve as a great motivator, especially during moments where you feel like life is controlling you, instead of you being in control of your life.

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the power of positive self-talk

The words we speak hold so much power. Our words can enforce our positive self-concept, or drag us into endless spirals of self-doubt. The way we talk to and about ourselves is important more than ever in a world where others' opinions, beliefs and expectations are constantly being forced down our throats.

It is so easy to get stuck in a fixed mindset, where you catastrophise every little inconvenience as if it's the end of the world. You know it's not, but at the moment, it feels like the worst thing to ever happen to you. Here's how to tackle those negative emotions and affirm yourself through the art of positive self-talk:

Rewrite the narrative. You are the author of your own story. Instead of "I don't think I can ever recover from this", tell yourself "I don't know how or when, but I will get through this."

'Fake' it till you make it. I hate this quote generally because I believe that new things will feel foreign and strange at first, but this doesn't mean that it's a fake practice. Do whatever you need to do, to get you to believe, but don't lose sight of yourself. It might seem strange at first, but one day you'll be able to say that you'll be okay and actually believe it so keep moving towards that moment.

Practice the art of consistent practice. Learn to catch yourself when you find yourself growing in negativity. Try to reaffirm yourself, and metaphorically swim back up to the surface. Some days, it will feel like the tides are against you, but catastrophising events in life can lead to a whole host of physical, emotional and mental side effects.

Allow yourself to feel. Positive self-talk should not be misconstrued with toxic positivity. You are allowed to be sad. You are allowed to sit in bed and bawl your eyes out. You are allowed to feel your emotions. You just need to be able to acknowledge how you feel, and still be able to bounce back.

You are your own best friend. If your best friend was having a bad day, would you tell them that they're pathetic and they deserve it, or would you try to show them just how loved they are? If you'd put them down, then you need to rethink what a friend is. If you would try to uplift them, why won't you do this for yourself? Instead of blaming yourself, comfort yourself. Be that friend and tell yourself those words of encouragement that you would give to someone you love and care about.

At the end of the day, you should be someone that you love and care about.

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How to set S.M.A.R.T goals

Well, January's almost over... Have you abandoned your New Year's resolutions yet? Did you give up trying to work out for an hour every day yet? It's never too late to start fresh and a new hour, day, week, or month could be the chance to hit that restart you need.

It's great to be ambitious, but a hint of realism can make our goals more achievable.

S - Specific

What exactly do you want to accomplish? Why do you want to accomplish this? Get into the smallest details about what it is you actually want. Don't just say you want to 'glow up', what does this actually mean for you?

M - Measurable

How are you going to accomplish it? Break this big goal into little steps. If you want to 'get clear skin', how will you do this? Will you make sure you drink your water every day? Will you develop a skincare routine that you stick to?

A - Achievable

Is this something you can actually get done? Is this something possible for you? There is no limit in life, but if you make a goal that you don't believe you can actually achieve, you're setting yourself up to fail because your own belief is not there. Pick a goal and commit to it. Commit to the idea of yourself being able to succeed in whatever it is.

R - Relevant

Is this goal in line with your greater ambitions? Is this something that will help you become the best version of yourself? How will achieving this thing benefit you? Do you believe it is the best thing for you? If so, why?

T - Timely

How long do you think this will take you? How long do you want this to take you? Do you have the time to dedicate to accomplishing this goal? If not, are you prepared to make time to spend working towards your goal?

How I set S.M.A.R.T goals

Let's use the example of my Tumblr. At the start of the year, I decided that I wanted to start a blog. I didn't just write 'start a Tumblr blog' in my 2024 planner and leave it there, I wanted to 'start a Tumblr blog AND grow it consistently', but even this wasn't all. I didn't set a goal to reach x number of followers by the end of the year, but my main goal was to post consistently every week. I set myself the goal of posting at least once a week, instead of trying to post 5x a week because realistically, I know how busy things can get. I knew that starting this blog would help me improve my own discipline, and also allow me to help others, thus making me a better, more committed person. I was prepared to dedicate an hour of my time every week to sit down and just write. I've done this so far in January and hope to continue this for the rest of the year.

Instead of just setting goals in your head, try to put exactly what you want to accomplish into words somewhere for you to look back for motivation, but also to have as a plan of action to get it done.

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