#you're not too old and it's not too late

[thepeacefulgarden]

If you're an adult...

You are allowed to read comic books. You are allowed to write fanfiction. You are allowed to play video games. You are allowed to collect stuffed animals, dolls, Funko Pops and whatever else. You are allowed to go to cons. You are allowed to cosplay. You are allowed to have a comfort show, even if it's not popular, or hasn't been "on the air" for decades. You are allowed to have anime crushes. You are allowed to have fun. You are allowed to pursue hobbies, even if you can't monetize them or turn them into a career or a "side hustle." You are allowed to take time out for yourself; that's not the same as totally neglecting all your responsibilities to their detriment. You are allowed to write your own life script, instead of following the one your parents and culture mapped out for you at birth. You are allowed to decide you don't want to have children, or don't want to get married. (Or that you'd like to do those things someday, but not today.) You are allowed to go at your own pace, on your own path. You're allowed to have a life that's not all bills and back pain, fatigue and drudgery. You are allowed to play, as well as work.

#adulting #fandom #play #you're not too old and it's not too late #quarter life crisis #midlife crisis #ongoing crisis #self care #self care is not selfish #rest #give yourself permission to rest

[ahmoments]

#deep thoughts #self awareness #self help #inner peace #thoughts #you're not too old and it's not too late #stop enabling #life #positivity #sittingwithyou

[weird-an]

Following your mutual into a new hyperfixation like:

#sara don't turn around i'm behind you screaming about hilson #my friends have good taste is all i'm saying #hilson #greg house #james wilson #house md #idc how old this show is this is the best about fandom #that you're never too late to the party #fandom #mutuals #hyperfixation

[riverfish-jpg]

marlon, just say you'd like to stay

shoutout to the like three other people that enjoy these two together, sometimes you gotta make your own food

#stardew valley #sdv rasmodius #sdv marlon #wizard sdv #marlon sdv #can't date the old men so i guess i'll just make them date each other #(willy ily too i promise you're next) #it's really late and i'm aware this is a mess of a drawing but have it anyway #fuck i just noticed i drew marlon's eyepatch on the wrong side #i'm so sad i had a whole tender expression under there

[adelphenium]

your coloring is so beautiful I don’t even know how to explain it like your understanding of light and anatomy makes me want to sob because it’s just so pretty 😭😭 I’m not sure if you take rqs or not but if you do would you be willing to draw Angry Greaseball Brad Marchand & Perfect Angel Patrice Bergeron / flower? anyway I just wanted to tell you how amazing your art is 🫶🫶🫶

dearest sweet anon.

this request intrigued me so much that i got carried away and ended up making a whole comic based entirely off of this legendary post by @cats0p and @ghostgeno .......

thank you for the req and your kind words :,)!!!!

#my sister: what's up #me: i'm drawing old men kissing #sister: you're fuckign WHAT #THE FORMATTING....... it's too late....... #brad marchand #patrice bergeron #and zdeno chara jumpscare #marcheron #boston bruins #putting my decade of french learning to good (?) use🫡 #hockey art #yjart #req! #comic #bergy's face is so unique and iconic BUT so hard to draw.. delicate ecological balance #brad on the other hand. yeah #rats can live just about anywhere #hrpf #hockey rpf

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

do you ever just sit there thinking about your favorite ocs while violently shaking. god. clenches fist. They're So.

#every time a song from their Joint Playlist comes on i go fucking feral #the betrayal the refusal to Let Go the haunting the persisting love the renunciation the resentment the abandonment the resignation #the overwhelming desire to do good vs the fear of admitting you were wrong vs the two people you love most tearing each other apart #AGHHHHH FUCK FUCK FUCK IM SUDDENLY DEEP IN THE ORIGINAL SAUCE #five seconds i was Normal. scribbling welcome home #then One Of The Songs Came On and now im losing my fucking marbles #perceived betrayals leading to real betrayals.... #going too far and now its too late you're Committed you cant go back #he came to you thinking he could make you understand and you could work together to make things Better #and instead you ripped his heart out and left it bleeding on the floor for everyone to see #THEY MAKE ME MORE INSANE THAN LITERALLY ANYTHING #absolutely unprompted #the oc Unwellness comes and goes in waves but its the only true constant obsession with my life #god those three... my dearest darling Trio.... how old are they turning this year? #is it year eight of having them? year nine? #one of the two is for sure how long ive had My Specialest Boy Light Of My Life The Reason I Am Still Alive #the other two came after... maybe only mere months after but he was the first and he is just. i love him so fucking much #he is so so personal to me. he has a permanent place carved out in my chest #he sleeps on my ribs <3 #the other day i was reminiscing about his development over the years. his changes his different Versions #and fuck... he's really changed with me huh?? #his past selves are echoes of my own self over the years #like he is Very different from me but at the same time. i created him with little pieces of myself sewn in #we hold the same views the same beliefs. im not him and hes not me but we're Kindred yk yk #i think i need to go listen to his playlist.... how long is it now... let me check... 15 hours 13 mins... 228 songs... #my gay 5'2 powerhouse of a guy. him <3 #maybe 'them' too he's played fast and loose with gender over the years. holy shit wait #his development echoes mine... i characterized him as 'fucks with gender norms' long before i realized my own gender fuckery #god damn. i love him even more now. i didnt think that was possible. im going to cry. hes so important to me #he has been with me through my worst years... and will be with me through all the hard times to come <3

[b1dl0]

happi birthday to this 2 years old random animation i did when i whanted to learn animation

#you realize you're getting old when you no longer have the sudden urge to take up some random hobby #where is my childish naivete that everything will work out #some kind of wave of melancholy enveloped me this evening wtf. gotta stop before it's too late aaa

[cassolotl]

Sometimes something puts me into my context as a queer born in the 80s and growing up in Section 28 England, and there's nothing else really to do except have a little cry about it.

“There’s a generation of queer people grieving for the childhood they never had,” Haigh says. “I think there’s a sense of nostalgia for something we never got, because we were so tormented. It feels close to grief. It dissipates, but it’s always there."

#queer #i was too small to know it was going on #and by the time i was old enough to understand it was too late #when i try to imagine a childhood without anti-queer and anti-trans violence as a cultural influence i just go totally numb and empty #like flipping a switch #you've all had a pandemic now right #imagine a pandemic that targets identity #imagine a pandemic that targets people like you #if you catch it you will die a slow and painful death and infect the people you love the most #and everyone else thinks that it's killing you because you are you #and 75% of the population thinks who you are is an abomination #and so no one cares that you're all dying #and then imagine that instead of it happening to you as an adult who can process that. it's happening to you as you develop a sense of self

[son1c]

who is gonna save you now?

#sonic #sonic the hedgehog #sth #sonic au #infinite the jackal #bad ending art YEEHAW!!!!!! #project nova dlc #scribbles #tfw u are having a BAD TIME because it looks like the past is going to repeat itself #and you're going to lose the one (1) person who has managed to befriend you since your old friends all Died #because the magical rock in his chest is going to Burn Him Alive with its overwhelming energy #but wait! your boss stuck him in a battery chamber to siphon away all that energy so he's safe... for now #but he doesn't want to stay in there obviously. so your boss slaps a MIND CONTROL COLLAR ON YOU to force you to #make sure he stays in there . and that sucks. but also it's kind of the only way to prevent his demise that you can see #so you're not even really fighting it . because then what? you stop and HE DIES??? #somehow that has become the worst case scenario and you hate yourself for being weak AGAIN and CARING but it's too late . you care </3

[babacontainsmultitudes]

80 or so years of life really ain't enough can I have an elf lifespan instead please? Or at least a dwarf's... I need at least a couple hundred years... Oh and a new spine every 5 or so years, if that's not too much to ask. 3. 3 years actually. Yeah, a new spine every 2 years, and a lifespan of 350-750 years, that's all I want really.

#SORRY this is such a random thing to be posting about and I guess it's a vent post haha #I suppose I've just been feeling a lot of... dread and fear lately... especially in the late hours... #''Lately'' as in on and off for most of my life but *a lot* as of the past few months #Like #Oh it's weirdly embarrassing to talk about this here it's a tad personal uh **tw (discussions of) death #But do you ever just feel paralyzed by the knowledge that one day you'll be 40? Or 60? Or 80? If you're lucky! #I worry a lot about wasting my life #I worry a lot about dying an unpleasant death #Or a painful one #I suppose I've always been gerascophobic... #But finishing school and turning 23 and not having a job and having just a hard time with my physical health lately... #I haven't been great I guess #I just feel like time has been moving so quickly lately!!! #And I've been going nowhere. #:0 not to be too much of a bummer y'all I'm not like feeling horrible rn or anything but I do need to vent I think #Cause if not it just stays coiled up inside of me. #*gah* I should channel all of this energy into Glenn in my pirate fic lol #😌 he's insecure (in part) cause he feels old #🥲 ough and I don't feel amazing about that most recent chapter but I guess that's a whole new vent #working on some different stuff for a bit. #ANYWAYS #I hope whoever happens to be reading this is having a good night ✨️ #oh or day if it's day for you lol

[thepeacefulgarden]

#starting over #you're not too old and it's not too late #healing #recovery #live your life #self care #self compassion #self love #self respect #you are enough #you are worthy #you are not a failure #you are not your past #you are not your mistakes #you deserve happiness

[parasocialdnp]

i've noticed this for a while now but:

i hate how everytime dan posts an unexpected stunt of his like him in the nun costume or him in the recent catboy ears and stockings there'll always be 'phans' hating on him for it or bringing up questionable remarks. like are you really supportive of d&p?? i haven't really seen the chaos on tiktok or twitter but the comments on instagram are ridiculous, on one hand, you're hoping d&p are more open about themselves and on the other hand when dan DOES get open and expresses himself with some goofy stockings and cat ears or a seductively costume he's immediately being shamed for it or being called gross? like so just because he's trying out new things he's kept himself away from or trying to have fun he's immediately seen as weird or not the same as he was pre-coming out.. in my opinion, it just screams some sort of oppression? i never understood the "dan/phil are too old for this, dan/phil should be more mature" argument at all

#dan and phil #mei rambles #using usual tags because i think this needs to be spoken about #like some people are expecting d&p to be more open and happy with themselves but the second #dan posts him doing something unexpected he gets hate?? #and the comments about phil being old and stuff is so uncalled for and rude #if you think late 30s is OLD maybe you're just too young lmao

[silenthillbunni]

🐰🌧️

#so on my way home.. #i walked by a school and besides the fact that i felt so depressed bc just looking at these kids and adults i have NO hope for the future #i saw two boys on a bench as i walked by... and i just thought they were talking. and too late i realized that no one of the boys were #bullying the other boy. the bully walked away and the other boy just sat there looking so lifeless and dejected #a teacher came and sat down w that boy and i just kept walking. even if i wanted to say smth it's like what would i even do abt that situati #that made me so sad both bc that boy.. he looked so dejected and used to it. that anxiety going to school knowing you're bullied is awful #and like i imagined talking to him and saying heyyy if you're lucky you'll grow up to be 25yrs old #live like a parasite off your mom and be on wellfare and never have had a job :) #you'll have no education or highschool diploma :) you will still struggle to finish hs even at an easier level :) #you will also not have had friends in 10yrs and you'll be terrified of ppl and getting close to anyone and even going outside!! #you'll have no interests and hobbies and skills! you'll simply be a waste of space loser being a burden on everyone around u! #whoop whoop stay alive buddy it will only get worse ❤️ #god i just wanna cry. how did i let my life turn out this way??? i used to be full of dreams and life and passion and HOPE #i used to believe in things and in people. i had so many dreams and i wanted to try and do so many things #now all i can think is 'i wanna die i wanna die i wanna die'. im miserable wherever i go lmao #there's this bridge over the highway i have to cross when i walk to school and every time i look down at the trafic and when a truck drives #by i feel my entire body vibrate. i just wanna jump and get mauled by it. #or i dont *want* to but i feel so deeply and desperately that it's the only way for me #only way to make it stop hurting. and i am weak. i dont know how to just 'stop' or take control of my life. thats why i wanna die #bc i know that i wont be able to. that my life will never amount to anything #for fuck's sake my dream now is just to have my own 1bedroom apartment and have a shitty job - like in a grocery store or whatever!!!!! #not even that can i make happen! bc im so worthless i cant do anything. im also stupid so i wouldnt be able to do my job right #i dont know... i dont know... these feelings and thoughts are too much i just wanna relax #but i cant bc my ribs hurt and idk if it's heartburn or an ulcer 💀 why am i even alive???? what am i doing all this for? 😭 #my thoughts ran away but i meant like seeing that reminded me of how much of a failure i became #bc of my circumstances and all the shitty ppl around me thru out my life

[flamestar126]

HAPPY NEW YEAR'S!!

#dexdark #dexter's laboratory #dexter's lab #dexter #mandark #flame draws #every year they stayed up and wish each other a happy new year ever since they were young #even when they rivals although it seemed more mocking. they were lonely and did it anyway and it tumbled into a tradition from then on #each year passing their wishes of a new year turned softer. this year? the same tradition. they've tried to stay up but they were much olde #staying up late is difficult when you're so tired from the entire year crashing on you #they fell asleep right before the clock hit. and when it did it only it only woke Mandark. who quickly turned it of to let his husband #have a few more winks of sleep and kissed his forehead and joining his love in sleep once again #dexter love mandark's stubble and giving chin scratches that dark relishes in. make him fall warm and fluffy inside #i mostly drew it to show they were older. hope it showed #soft sleepy kisses are one of my favorites #also mandark drools in his sleep #there could have been a much sadder verison of this >:> but lets have fluff lmao #there was several verison of this! dexter waking first and giving the kiss. mandark trying to wake up dexter before the clock hit #only to be too sleepy and kiss him on the lips quickly before passing out again then the clock hits while mandark is dumbfounded. #just quickly threw colors around lol i hope it looks fine #it was a really good year for art I grew so much since then. mentally and artistically #hope to be here for a very long time. you cant get rid of me easily #my resolution? to spam that tag till it's a overflowing bucket in my free time and explore more fandoms :D #also maybe lessen my rambles in tags. . .

[aroacehanzawa]

tried to make a recommendation post for why you guys should read steppenwolf and accidentally just started describing the entire novel. so i think you just have to trust me on this

#it has like. really good philosophical discussion on war and technology and combatting anti-intellectualism #while being wary of falling into an elitist mindset #and the big theme is that it's never too late to learn new things and reinvent yourself and reach your potential #even if you're a sopping wet beast of a 50 year old divorced man who hates the world and hates himself #it is also. extremely bisexual 👍 #just trust me bro #hesseposting

[thenwethrowitonthefire]

it doesn't have to be that way.

okay

I need you to know that I've been thinking about this ask non-stop for the last 3 days. This song came for us all and took us under its wing. I live here. It's a gem of a song. (This reply will get very long.)

My first time hearing it was live, as it was for a bunch of us as the album release was at the beginning of the tour. To set the scene, I was obviously really excited for any new songs I'd be hearing that night, and then Russell introduced the song like this:

"This is another brand new song for any of you who feel like maybe you're not on the right course. [He pauses briefly.] It's a song that's called 'It Doesn't Have To Be That Way'."

I was already nearly in tears, and then it started:

They always said that you cannot change your mind, Do it once and you're defined, do it twice and you're divine

...

It doesn't have to be that way, okay?

Every line of the entire song hit me like a brick while also being the most comforting thing I've ever heard. It was beautiful. And coming from the guys who for over a decade have been my personal champions of "things not having to be that way", the guys who are my people, who have by their very existence been telling us all this exact message for all these years. And here it was, in words, aimed at all of us.

They always said that you need to have a plan, Doesn't matter, any plan, any plan they'll understand, It doesn't have to be that way, okay?

... They've not been known to go for songs that bring people to tears, and I'm not known to be the kind of person to listen to songs and cry. And yet here we were.

While I can write an essay on every verse, a part that's especially meaningful to me, as a queer person, as an aspec person, is this:

They always said that it must reflect your life, And incorporate your strife, maybe mentioning your wife, It doesn't have to be that way, okay?

These *are* lines that seem to reflect their life (the entire song seems to, just as it does ours), and they're all things I've always loved so much about them, things that have paved the way for all of us. But I'm going to especially highlight the "maybe mentioning your wife" line. Here we have two (likely) heterosexual men, but they don't bring their love lives to the public eye - very consciously, and by choice. What they do with their lives is all about their music. Their lives are highly meaningful, to them and to so many people, and you don't need amatonormativity or the nuclear family to have a beautifully meaningful life. They show that every day, in all they do. Their work has always attracted many queer people of all sorts for obvious reasons, and it's been so easy to find aspec people among the fans which is a real treat. While they likely both have partners, the beauty is that we don't really know. We don't know that part of their lives and we don't need to know to know them, if they're not telling us it doesn't concern us. There's a lot of people who don't understand this though, people who feel like they don't know who Sparks are as people because these people feel like in order to know who a person is, they need to know their relationship status and whether they have a family. (In reality these people are looking at the wrong things, they're trying to classify and understand life in the only way they know, and therefore they seem to be unable to see what's there.) The added beauty of all this is that it doesn't just gives Sparks some privacy, but also it creates a safe space for all of us who aren't looking to live that way, who aren't looking to build our lives around a romantic partner, for whom the ideal life isn't one where you build a family, or for whom that do wish to live that way but where it isn't the thing that defines you. You don't have to mention a partner or make your life about that. It doesn't have to be that way, okay?

And then there's those parts of the song that go,

I may be wrong, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it,

No chart-bound song, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it,

No sing along, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it

I'll pay for it

Which can be read and felt in a number of ways which all mean so much to me ... There's their own lives in it, where they've always done things their way, where people may tell them to not do things that way, and where it might not work out - I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it. Theres our lives, where we equally all make our decisions, try to just live our own ways to the best of our abilities and where we make mistakes - I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it.

And then, thirdly, to me, there's the feeling to it where they've got our backs. No chart-bound song, no sing along, that can be about an album not becoming the success it was hoped to be, but if you just look at No sing along, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it, to me there's also an aspect of not wishing it upon another - instead carrying it for you, don't sing along. (This feeling feels further supported by the ending of the song, how 'bout a drink, I'll pay for it, it's been too long, I'll pay for it, which to me reads as paying for that drink for your friend so no one has to go through it alone nor without support.)

I'll look uncool, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it

I'll look the fool, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it

I'll look too schooled, I'll pay for it, I'll pay for it

I'll pay for it

The price of authenticity, the price of following your heart and your beliefs. And we all felt that.

As you can tell, this is one really really special song. It had so many of us in tears. We all spoke about it for weeks, I'm still talking about it. It's kind of like Sparks' life concepts we all already understood, that drew us here in the first place, got beautifully distilled into a song. (So much of this recent album has that quality, and it was felt all throughout the entire tour too.)

Every night Russell gave the song a slightly different introduction that hit people right in their heart. There's a quality to it performed live that makes it hit even harder than on the album. I recorded it at every show I've seen. Here's two of them:

... it especially hits hard when you're near the front, looking at these guys with your big eyes, locking eyes for a second and you know they know. (I also did a quick shot of Ron's Jordans here, seeing him wear them was always a dream of mine and here I was, stood right in front of him seeing him wear Jordans.)

#thanks again for these asks you've been sending <3 #sorry it took so long to reply. this one means so much that it's hard to translate all the feelings into words #what i feel and what it means is so much more and so much bigger than I can say. but I've tried my best #it's important to me that they're both over 70 too. they don't like mentioning their age. but they're beautifully young guys. #the way they age is another 'it doesn't have to be that way'. #we go through school with the conditioning that we need to have our shit together at 20 and #there's all these beliefs in society that a life is over or stops being worth something at a certain age. it's complete bullshit #they've been going their entire lives. reinventing all the time. #when they were my age they hadn't yet made a lot of the albums that I love the most. it's never too late. You're not old. and never too old #it doesn't have to be that way. okay? #Sparks #Russell Mael #Ron Mael #Sparks (band) #it doesn't have to be that way #The Girl Is Crying In Her Latte #ask #anon