Just a heck in to ask how are you? Hope you're well! All love.
I am! Thank you :) Chapter 2 is moving along really well and I am way ahead of the schedule I made in my head which is great. I think it helped that I outlined it pretty thoroughly! It’s going to be much longer than I anticipated though, but I think the pacing is good in my head. Chapter 2 kind of formed itself. Patreon stuff is basically done so I’ll have an update on that yay!
As for personally, I’ve been well <3 hope you are too!
Anyway, the first time I talked about that [child perceived as queer] experience it was with a queer elder and stone butch woman who was talking to me about the nuance between having that sort of "can't hide" childhood and how she wanted to be able to articulate that even though it happens to a lot of different kinds of queer people, there is unique inherent differences in trauma between:
You having the [child perceived as queer] experience and your community was "wrong" about your orientation/gender.
You having the [child perceived as queer] experience and your community is right about your orientation/gender.
And because most adults who abuse children in this way are doing it out of homophobia without nuance, #2 is mostly experienced by gay and lesbian people (though the way things are now, a lot of trans children are experiencing #2)
That there is something uniquely bad about being [insert here] and knowing that Something is different but getting older (by older i mean 9-14ys) and going "oh, I am trans." and often getting an added layer of transphobia on top of the homophobia. Among other traumas.
And something uniquely bad about being gay or lesbian and having your community of ignorant brutes accurately call your number before you even knew you had one. As if everyone has access to a secret in your depths, and the terror of that. They don't know anything, but somehow, they ""know"" you. and you're like 8-10 yrs old dealing with that.
And that both are really bad and uncomfortable and one is not necessarily worse than the other, but they are notably different.
But this was almost nineteen years ago so pretty much every word she used while talking to me about this we no longer use. So most of the time while thinking about this, I've been thinking about her specifically and how she was trying to articulate her experience as a he/him/her lesbian.
14 (specifically single parents), 2, 39, if youre alright with that! im a javid guy first and foremost but i think you said you wanted to write more sprace so surprise me! - @pigeonwit
Hey thanks for sending this! I do want to write more of Sprace being happy this year, but I have never written anything where they actively want to be parents, so here's some Javid :)
Parent AU/Enemies to lovers/"You confuse me."
“You confuse me.”
Jack wasn’t sure what he’d expected when he agreed to be one of the classroom parents for the year, but working with the world’s most annoying(ly handsome) single dad hadn’t been on the list. “It’s a great idea!” he insisted. “Parent-child paint day—it’ll be so fun!”
“Fun, or messy?” David raised an eyebrow.
“And a tea party is neater?” Jack said. “Have you seen a five-year-old eat?”
“Yes,” David said flatly. “Every day. Since I’m, you know, also a parent.”
“We’ll put down a tarp,” Jack said. “And get washable pai—”
i interrupt your regularly scheduled fandom content to bring you a clip from my friends’ band’s set last night. the band is borderline thrills and the clip is from the end of their song deadnamed, which is exactly as transgender as you think it is.
I went to see a local college's natural history display today with some friends from out of state today and I was surprised to see that one of their bathrooms had a track for a hoist in the ceiling, so if they had a student that needed to be transferred to the toilet via hoist they could put a hook up there to hook it on to. There was also space next to the toilet for me to pull my wheelchair into which is rare. It's just nice to see people actually care once in a while.
Me, after forgetting to cut the top off an onion before dicing it: “Aw dammit”
The Gordon Ramsey that lives in my head: “Don’t worry there, this mistake isn’t going to ruin anything. No need to be too hard on yourself”
Me: “Wow, that’s…not what I was expecting”
Gordon: “Of course, you ought to know by now that I don’t shout at cooks just to do so. I do it because the people in hit television show Kitchen Nightmares are putting their services out into the public and claim to be good enough to have the title of head chef. You’re just some guy in your twenties making beef stroganoff for yourself and your roommate. I’m kind of a dick, yeah, but I’m not gonna scream at you for a minor mistake like this”