#unsolicited medical advice

[spooniestrong]

#spooniestrong #spoonie #unsolicited medical advice #ableism

[vizthedatum]

Things "concerned" healthcare professionals who are your friends should not say to a fat person (or any person) who posts this after clearly having a bad day

On Oct 4, 2022, I posted this: https://www.instagram.com/p/CjTHAXjrpuY/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

"CW/TW: body stuff, consumerism, medical things, mention of “fat”

So, like how do you (read: me with a very annoying fear of judgement) post something like this? (I guess I’m just posting this anyway because I’m so tired of giving into my fears anymore)

I had my routine medical treatment appointment thing today and it was just so rough - I’ve been having them on and off for years now and since last August, I’ve been taking it way more seriously. I just want to cry and cry - I know I’m resilient and all that and I’m used to it but it’s still so fucking hard every single time. Jon took me to a pie place afterwards and this is almost all for me (Jon claimed two of the pie slices). Yep: the wine, the two drinks, the three slices of pie, oh! and very likely a lot of medication. It’s hard to post because food posts (esp indulgent ones full of things that might flare you up or cause people to think that you’re being irresponsible) are hard to post when you’re fat and chronically ill. All food posts are hard to post when you’re fat.

Does it matter that I mostly eat very healthy and that I barely drink alcohol and for the past year or so, I’ve been working on my mental and physical health? IDK.

Yeah that’s the post - I am learning to love my body and mind but it’s a new process everyday. I truly feel like I’m a shadow of the person I could be, and all my life, people have put so much expectation on me - I just want to be me from now on, which, by the way, means that I’m going to unapologetically (I will still apologize because society has conditioned me to be traumatized this way - I’m working on it) be a somewhat functional chaotic mess who wakes up every single day intentionally and radically accept their reality for what it is." And then I get a message on social media from someone who doesn't really know me that well saying this:

I debated whether I should even write about this - especially on social media.

But I digress. This post is a serious one, aimed at the well-intentioned who don’t realize the harm they cause.

And… wow.

I think people should know that this is what happens when people open up like this. That this person (who has no idea about the reality that I experience) could step in and say one of the things that people stereotypically say. Like - it’s like if you know, you know… we basically always expect someone (esp a healthcare professional) to say this. It’s honestly almost laughable.

Yeah I indulge myself (LIKE A LOT, in all the ways - it’s self-preservation and it’s what I like. I don’t think it’s a problem, and I see like a fuckton of medical professionals.). I posted what I posted as a sign of rebellion because I didn’t want to feel any shame - I had a really rough morning and (what I didn’t write) my partner took me out to a place we had a really romantic date in several years ago and bought me everything that I liked. Because I was sobbing after my treatment. Because I really realized that I am probably going to have these appointments for the rest of my life because they stave off some very intense and life-altering (at least to me) symptoms for me.

But this person doesn’t know any of that or that I could not even drink any of the alcohol today. Or that I see a nutritionist on and off. Or that I’ve tried elimination diets to see which foods flare me up. Or that I’ve been having so many issues with my appetite lately overall. Or that I am trying actually very hard to eat “right” and not shame myself or whatever - and it is a work in progress. Or that I have had problems with my weight since I was in elementary school because I have PCOS and like a bunch of other things and that I’ve been skinny and fat and everything in between and the constant judging and shaming doesn’t ever stop.

Anyway, I’m posting this because I’m fine. This is what fine looks like in the face of everything: I’m allowed to be upset and frustrated about this. I (and any of us) don’t want unsolicited medical advice or assumptions about my health/body - y’all should know better and if not, then this is your opportunity to learn.

#fat #self indulgent #it's okay to eat food omfg #harm #harm reduction #things people say #unsolicited medical advice #medicine discriminates against fat people #MDs are not taught about proper nutrition anyway #healthcare is a joke sometimes #i was literally expressing myself #eating right #eating healthy #desserts #desserts aren't bad #food #food shame #mental health #i post an indulgent food pic and say that i'm scared of judgment and then someone tells me to consider binge eating disorder wtffffff

[rootfish13]

I hate it when in public people ask what's wrong with me because of my zombie walk & give unsolicited medical advice.

"Have you ever tried Apple Cider Vinegar?"

I always want to say: "Have you ever tried a nice big glass of 'shut the fuck up'?

#disability #ableism #unsolicited medical advice #quit asking disabled peoplw what's wrong with them and mind your own fucking business

[waterdeeping]

Thanks Gale 🤢🤢

#time for an episode of unsolicited medical advice from dr waterdeep ❤️ #gale #gale of waterdeep #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #bg3edit #gamingedit #mine:bg3 #mine:gifs #baldur's gate #bg3 spoilers

[spacedocmom]

Doctor Beverly Crusher @SpaceDocMom You're allowed to ignore unsolicited/ignorant medical advice, even from a doctor. If you go in to be seen about your injured finger and get a lecture about weight loss, you're allowed to ignore that because it's nonsense. emojis: black heart, blue heart, masked 3:43 PM · Nov 20, 2023

#star trek #doctor crusher #star trek the next generation #star trek memes #star trek tng #kindness #care #compassion #health care #healthcare #medicine #fatphobia #unsolicited advice #ignorance #medical gaslighting #medical fatphobia #bad doctors #spoons #spoonies

[thatlittleegyptologist]

u literally started that post with a "girl help" is it really fair to throw a "i didn't ask for advice" at them 😭

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(no, seriously, 'girl help' has been a meme on this site for years)

Yeah, when I didn't ask for advice and explained that I knew exactly what it was in the tags on that very post, someone coming onto that post and offering unsolicited advice about a serious medical condition to a person who is already anxious is not particularly well received. It did in fact take me from 'low level anxiety' into a full blown panic attack and I wasn't impressed.

That's like telling someone who's nervous about driving that 'well, hey, the car making that noise could just be what you think it is, but y'know when I heard it the engine was about 5 minutes from exploding.' It's a silly idea and likely to make the whole situation worse because saying it wasn't necessary.

You may also have noticed I deleted that response to them. Which you must have done because it was up for all of maybe two minutes before I felt bad about it and removed it. This ask was pointless guilt tripping about something that isn't your business.

#y'know one person reblogged with a calm breathing exercise and I've not said anything to them #because that was 'help' without giving unsolicited medical advice #it's better to ask someone if they need help or would like some advice before just doling it out #especially if you don't know the person that well

[sergle]

People always miss the “it’s the only thing keeping my pain management Manageable” part of me mentioning that I go to a chiropractor

#like can I help you? #sergle.txt #honestly people sending Inappropriate asks can be funny but people sending me unsolicited medical advice never is lmao #you'd think one of them would annoy me more

[shcherbatskya]

the reason i suspect chronic fatigue over all else is because i have had this lingering sore throat for many months that no other suspicion has been able to account for…

#don’t talk to me if i am wrong though . do not suggest things do not comment i will kill somebody #NO unsolicited medical advice or one of us is going to end up dead #samael speaks

[ryanxross]

“Have you tried herbal medicine” no but im happy to try ripping your flesh out with my bare teeth and seeing if that helps

#next time you think about giving a disabled oerson unsolicited medical advice just know no matter how politely they respond. #they are envisioning going full yellowjackets on your ass #personal

[rars]

@ the person who sent an anon, thank u for ur concern but please don’t send unsolicited medical advice 😭

#text #i kept anon on for art requests and such but im gonna turn it off now bc this is the second time ive gotten unsolicited advice about health #i know my own body and the risks i take by missing certain medications and i do not need an essay about it lol

[gale-in-space]

It always grinds my gears a bit whenever I see some obviously false health claims going around (e.g., salt lick test or anything adjacent to that) but I have to hold my tongue because I'm not a fucking doctor and I shouldn't be giving unsolicited medical advice

#it's going around again #this time it's 'consume more sodium to get rid of chapped lips!' #like. my brother in christ. no #anyway. i wrote up a whole response to it with sources linked to the FDA and cleveland clinic and pubmed but it's not worth it #and again i'm not a doctor and should not be giving unsolicited medical advice! so yeah

[demon-princess13]

“you need to cut down on the cigarettes, weed and energy drinks before your surgery”

you need to cut down on the telling the dying girl what to do, Doc, before I make you

#bruv if I’ve got 20 years left on this planet #they are not gonna be spent sober #you stupid? #sigh #I work with these people #me #txt post #medical bitching #yes I know it’s his job #but idc #leave me alone w/ the unsolicited advice

[ink-asunder]

Since the trigger point injections have basically cured me, I would like to revisit the time someone in a Youtube comment section gave me UNSOLICITED ADVICE when I disclosed having chronic pain, telling me to "look into a therapist and work on trauma healing. Chronic pain can actually be rooted in childhood trauma" and beat that guy with a chair cuz DAMN.

#i decided to be unknowable in my silence as god because otherwise i wouodve gone off #like. no. i know for a fact that it is medically caused!! i am very literate about my own chronic illness AND complex trauma thank you #it was outrageous #ableism #whats the opposite of overmedicalization where everything instead comes from some trauma related shit #because i am right sick of hearing about it from ppl giving legitimately physically ill people unsolicited advice #chronic illness #chronic pain #disability #disabled #anyway feels good to be right 😌

[bulldog-butch]

Hey I just wanted to let you know!! Over time T can mess with your pussy integrity, so if at some point it gets ore sensitive or prone to infections and stuff, all you gotta do is get a script for like this estrogen cream that goes inside your pussy and it's kinda weird but totally fine and helps a lot!!

hahdhdj yes i know. i’m hoping to never get dry pussy from it but at the moment i am a gd slip ‘n’ slide

#also like #i get this was sent with good intentions (or at least i hope so) #but i really don’t need unsolicited medical advice on tumblr #i have a really awesome clinic and GP and like you can rest assured she went over all the basic stuff before i started t #asks #anon

[sassygwaine]

hi if you’re reading this

what are your most tried and true ways to get food in your body when it’s the last thing in the world you want to look at/smell/touch?

#food mention #specifically that feeling where one is Hungry but cannot eat anything #crowd sourcing basic human function it’s modern neurodivergence #also unsolicited medical advice is unnecessary i just need to try something bc obviously what i’ve been doing isn’t working

[clarabow-mp3]

if my regular pms symptoms change is that normal or should i see a doctor about it

#filed under 'questions i should ask a qualified professional but instead will pose to my beloved mutuals' #av discord i'm actively so it's not unsolicited medical advice dw <3 #anyway my last two cycles i've had SUCH bad nausea and that doesn't usually happen i don't think? so that's kinda weird and not very fun.