#toxic reasons

[gotankgo]

On this date in 1986

#gbh #Cro-Mags #cro mags #effigies #the effigies #toxic reasons #7 seconds #1986

[spilladabalia]

Toxic Reasons - War Hero

#toxic reasons #hardcore punk #punk #punk rock #war hero #7" ep #1980 #Youtube

[inkskinned]

it's been said before and i'm sure said better than i can phrase it. but really, really - if you like making "i'm going to kill myself" jokes, please try switching to being ironically conceited instead.

anytime something goes wrong, say things like "ah well at least i'm beautiful and charming and everyone loves me." when you forget something, try "my big huge brain is so smart and thinking about too many other very big wizardly thoughts you wouldn't even understand." when you're frustrated by one of your symptoms, start talking like you're in My Immortal. "Life has come for me but my eyes are beautiful pools of gorgeous fire and my hair is amazing. I stuck my middle finger up at life and told it to fuck off and it did."

just... try it for a month or two. try saying the most absurdly self-congratulatory shit you can think of.

i know it's tempting to make suicide or self-harm jokes. and for me at least, a decade ago (!) when someone suggested i stop making those kinds of jokes, i was kind of at a loss for what to replace them with. i wanted to make light of these moments, but genuinely (at the time) my first thought really was suicidal ideation. there was a part of me that even felt like ... i was kind of "making light" of that voice. that if i could say i want to die lol, it would help take the sting out of that genuine (albeit passive) desire. like i could turn my illness into a joke.

when i started complimenting myself instead, it felt awkward and stupid. it felt really, really ironic. what i was actually saying was nobody would ever think this stuff about me, that's what makes it so fucking funny.

but. the effect was immediate. first thing i noticed was the people around me. when i dropped a glass and said ah my skin is too beautiful and sleek the glass has swooned and broken for me, other people were suddenly overjoyed to jump in with the joke. rather than making an awkward moment, we'd both start cracking up. ah princess sleek hands, i've heard of you.

i was 19. i hadn't noticed i'd been making others tense when i said i want it all to end. i know now that it's incredibly hard to know how to walk that moment - do you talk to them about your concern? do you potentially make them uncomfortable by asking if they're okay? do you ignore the situation? do you help them pick up the glass, or do they need to do it by themselves? are they genuinely made suicidal over this small moment? and most importantly, how do you - without professional training or supplies - actually help?

most people want to help you pick up the glass in your life, they just have no fucking idea how to do it. they don't want to make anything worse. they don't want to make assumptions about you. they love you, they're scared for you - and being scared makes people kind of freeze up. it's not because they don't love you. it's because they do.

now when something bad happens, my first thought is how can i make a stupid joke about this. it isn't my brain saying you're a dumb fucking bitch. i spend more time laughing. i spend more time being gentle with myself. i spend more time feeling good.

and the thing is - what's kind of funny - is that you'd be surprised by how many people agree with you. the first time i said i'm too pretty to understand that, someone else said to be fair you're the prettiest person in this room. i promise - you really don't know how kindly your friends see you. but they love you for a reason. they sort of reverse-velveteen-rabbit you. your weird and ugly spots fade away and you just become... the love they want to give you.

go love yourself ironically. the worst thing that happens is that you end up tricking your reflection into actually loving you.

#something something toxic relationships notwithstanding #(re: the friends stuff) #most people love you. automatically. for being alive. like people are just MADE that way. #and the reason kms jokes don't always land is bc people fucking love you and are like - ahhh how do i help #let them help you!!!!!!

[bestfuckinmusic]

Toxic Reasons: In the House of God - 1993

Toxic Reasons, but a rockin’ out version of Toxic Reasons! Really enjoyed it.

#toxic reasons #1993 #hardcore punk #80s hardcore

[goplayintraffic]

perfect comp

#punk #hardcore punk #void #hüsker dü #5051 #rebel truth #personality crisis #sin 34 #violent apathy #dogs of war #misguided #articles of faith #die kreuzen #double-o #district tradition #toxic reasons #uxb #music #Youtube

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

I'm a doctor, not a miracle worker.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen ning #wei wuxian #wen qing #jiang cheng #Truly Massive disclaimer here: I am a Jiang Cheng enjoyer. I like his character. I enjoy that he is very flawed and volatile. #This episode of the audio drama has a lot of great breakdown scenes featuring JC - and they all deserve a feature. #But underlying this comic is a small meta comment of 'ah man I have too many comics of JC just wailing sadly' #My goal is to draw 6-8 comics per episode - I sometimes have to truncate and cut good scenes out. #Especially when a large majority is just different flavours of trauma and toxic relationships to your self-worth. #I would also like to make a note here that just because you lose the ability to do something that is very tied to your core identity- #-does not mean your life is over. It will feel like the end of the world. It will send you into a spiral of grief. It will hurt so badly. #Sometimes we do not realize how tied up our identities can be in certain things until we are cut loose. #You don't lose yourself. I promise the pain will fade in time. I promise you will find other things to tether you. I promise you will be ok #Life moves forwards. Time moves forwards. You move forwards. #Ego death just means an opportunity for ego rebirth. You are never committed to being the same person forever. #To wrap this around to JC: Yeah I love the twist with the core transfer but man I would have loved to see JC accept the loss. #Obviously it happens for a reason (story) but I can have my AUs. I can have these 'what-ifs'. #described in alt text #I'm trying it out! *please* give me feedback - I want to eventually Add image ID to all of these comics one day

[hatchetc]

SIMON WAS NOT A PROFESSOR. HE WAS A GUEST LECTURER/PHD CANDIDATE. BETTY WAS NOT HIS STUDENT, SHE WAS A PEER.

I am literally so sick at the fact that people keep saying that petrigrof has an unbalanced power dynamic. It is so incredibly common for guest lecturers to be peers in grad school! And it has been WELL established that Simon and Betty were in grad school! Simon was not teaching, he was studying/doing research work to become an antiquarian.

I keep seeing misinformation that implies she was in undergrad. She. Was. Not!!!!!

SHE LITERALLY STATES IN ELEMENTS THAT SHE WAS IN GRAD SCHOOL.

AND SIMON STATES IN “holly jolly secrets” THAT HE WAS STUDYING TO BE AN ANTIQUARIAN

Also! May I just add- aside from this fact- YOU CAN GO TO GRAD SCHOOL AT LITERALLY ANY AGE! AND FUN FACT! MOST! PEOPLE! IN! GRAD! PROGRAMS! HAVE! TAKEN! HIATUSES!

But - since people seem to have trouble conceptualizing this I feel like it is necessary to pull statistics just to reiterate this point since so many people are just blatantly ignoring this.

From Crimson Education,

And Steve Tippins from Beyond/PhD Coaching,

Honestly - I don’t mean to like - be aggressive. But they are both fully consenting adults that are more than likely over the age of 30 around the time that they met! Even if Simon was a professor Betty still would have statistically likely to be over the age of 30. That is a whole ass grown woman.

edit: ALSO I FEEL AS THOUGH IT IS NECESSARY TO MENTION- this does not change the fact that Betty was a fan of Simon’s work and placed him on a high pedestal.

Also - if I have any misinformation on this post regarding grad school, please feel free to inform me!

#petrigrof #simon petrikov #betty grof #fionna and cake #jesus christ im so tired of people saying this is the reason why their relationship is toxic

[letoscrawls]

To honor Akira Toriyama i drew future Trunks aka my first ever crush

#my art #dragon ball #trunks #first time i draw him since i was 8 #i was crazy obsessed with him and i just deep dived his wiki to find out they got him a toxic problematic love interest WTF DUDE #free my man he did nothing wrong he was always the loml #i said it on twt too but if you had a crush on him and not on toxic man vegeta or man child goku you're actually EliteTM #anyways it was bittersweet to see sooo many artists i admire and look up to say that the reason they started drawing was toriyama's work #like we are all connected by the same experience and it's crazy to think he had such an influence on so many #been thinking about it all day

[swiggity-swexual-i-am-asexual]

I love seeing Danny Phantom showing up and being like ‘don’t ask too many questions but John Constantine I own your soul. All of it. Lmao sucks to suck bitch’, and he’s usually all Ghost King Full Regalia as he does it, at least in front of the Justice League, but consider—

He just shows up as Danny Fenton.

“yeah I got bored and collected the pieces like Pokémon. Gotta catch ‘em all” says the 5’2 teen who looks like a stiff breeze could trip him. He denies being a sorcerer, or a magician, concedes he’s maybe psychic but mostly he’s just…. The kid of two mad scientists—who have a basement lab where they opened a portal to what he SAYS is not hell but no one is frankly CONVINCED, by the way—and he hasn’t decided what to do with Constantine yet besides getting Danny into some r rated horror movies, but figures he should tell the dude probably.

“What’d you even trade for some of his soul contracts?”

“Don’t worry about it”

They worry about it

#danny phantom #john constantine #dp x dc #dc x dp #demons will NOT admit to being menaced by a baby ghost #not to mention that said baby ghost probably kicked their asses #this maybe changes some of Constantines powers? #like I don’t know the exact details but he primarily sold his soul for an immortality cheat. but he probably got some powers out of it? #so like maybe now it’s fueled by Danny/the ghost zone or some such? #not quite a Halfa but like what do you MEAN his pretty gold magic is TOXIC GREEN? #Danny just sorta shrugs and goes Yeah That Sounds About Right #and then does not elaborate further #he’s selling that he’s just a normal kid VERY HARD #they’d almost believe him if they didn’t know he had ALL OF CONSTANTINES SOUL CONTRACTS #bonus content of Batman #you can choose what he’s doing but I think it’d be funny if Danny found out about the contingencies and went Oh Cool I’m super allergic to.. #… this one specific flower haha #not at ALL elaborating that this flower is rare and WILL melt his skin. oh and that he destroyed the world in at least one timeline hehe #one reason I love OP Danny in DC universe—if Danny’s native to that universe he HAS to be OP. because he WOULD HAVE TO HAVE defeated… #…if not outright killed #the ENTIRE LEAGUE #ITS GREAT #1k #2k #3k #hnnnnnnnn #4K #5k #?!??!!!

[fuckmeyer]

the choice between Edward & Jacob is not a question of which relationship is healthier or which partner is best suitable for Bella. neither is correct. neither is best. neither produces a happy ending for Bella. at the end of the day this is still a vampire novel. any choice Bella could make would yield, at best, a bittersweet happily ever after.

if she chooses Edward, she gets the terrifying Breaking Dawn ending: a girl who rejected her call to grow up has hung her love & her eternity on an emotionally stunted partner who hates himself marginally less than he loves her. she's a teen mom with a kid she never wanted who perpetuates the generational trauma passed down from her parents. by keeping this child, the Cullens have set the stage for an uprising/cold war against the Volturi who are likely to take revenge in order to maintain power. Bella is living in a tenuous "dream come true" wrapped in a nightmare & doesn't realize it.

choosing Jacob is the true coming-of-age ending that rips the stitches out of a wound that never fully healed. even if we ignore the fact that she ends up with a man who sexually assaulted her (we must bear in mind Jacob's character is influenced by smeyer's racism, but it did happen), they can't have a secure romantic relationship. based on the high imprinting rate of the pack, Jacob will likely find his imprint in his lifetime & will lose himself to the imprintee. he will no longer be her Jacob. he will inevitably abandon her (whether he wants to or not), & she must reconcile with the reality that she will always be inadequate to Jacob's imprint. & say he never manages to escape the vampires? he will presumably not age for a long time, meaning the relationship Bella always feared with Edward (her being an old grandmother while he stays forever young) remains a possibility. this is the story of a girl who slaps a Band Aid on an open wound & calls herself healed while flinching every time she sees the shadow of the knife that cut her.

if she chooses neither (team therapy), her healing requires her to lose or be at least partially disconnected from everyone she cares about. Bella must spend the rest of her life shut out from one world while never fully existing in her human world ever again. she must always keep secrets. she can never go back home. even in the unlikely event that she manages to escape the Volturi, the threat of being hunted by vampires will never leave her. in addition, she must face her worst fears (aging, losing Edward) while always keeping in mind the immortal life that could have been hers, if only.

even the "healthiest" option produces scars that will never quite heal.

Twilight is a horror. Twilight is a vampire novel. Twilight is gothic. Twilight is fiction. neither Edward nor Jacob is a "bad" choice because neither will give Bella her happily ever after. the choice between Edward & Jacob is simply a matter of which horror story you prefer to read.

#twilight #twilight renaissance #bella swan #the twilight saga #edward cullen #twilight saga #twilight meta #not to be a downer but the edward/jacob feud is silly #i understand this feud will continue in perpetuity because controversy & drama will always garner attention in online spaces etc #but the idea that either of these men will provide the happy story some people in this fandom want is an illusion #because no matter what happens The Twilight Saga still operates in the context of the vampire/gothic genre which by design can't produce #a 100% happy ending. the vampire itself reflects the inner anxieties of a society - & isolation & change & death - etc. #these are anxieties that can be alleviated thru vamp media. they can be escaped but never solved. which is part of the horror of the genre #The Horror Will Not Go Away #& in this respect Twilight is NOT the exception to the rule. #'oh but it's a YA romance so-' yeah so the black walls get wallpapered. they're still black underneath & nothing changes that #i wish we were able to debate the choice between Edward & Jacob while still bearing in mind neither choice is wrong #i think this fandom would be a lot less toxic & mean to each other for no fuckin reason but oh well

[bigfatbreak]

Never thought I’d see Gabriel being a semi-reasonable parent. Cool comic!

it's only because at that point he didn't have memories from the last timeline. the moment the old timeline memories boot in, gabe becomes an insufferable asshat lmao

#replies #listen he was somewhat reasonable initially #but once gabriel.asshole.exe loads in from the miracloud network of bullshittery #he's too busy fawning over emelie to consider what sort of toxic ass habits she's developed

[froschli96]

🗣️ Darlin', you give love a bad name

Found this in my old wip folder and it feels now more relevant than ever :)

Also these don't know why I never uploaded these they were just sitting there completely finished:

#good omens #crowley #aziraphale #michael sheen #david tennant #good omens fanart #go fanart #good omens tv #go tv #my art #other relevant lyrics include #an angels smile is what you sell you promise me heaven then put me through hell #and #your very first kiss was your first kiss goodbye #:D #for the record I am on team 'they are both wrong bc crowley can't keep trying to solve problems by spiriting his angel away to the stars' #like maybe your arguments should be more elaborate than 'lets just run away together' #like idk for example don't just say 'heaven is toxic' maybe give some reasons for that #MAYBE tell him what happened during aziraphale's 'trial' #or what actually happened with gabriel #u know #communication.

[bestfuckinmusic]

Toxic Reasons - Bullets For You LP - 1986

Classic Toxic Reasons release. Fantastic cover art, fantastic political hardcore music inside!

Toxic Reasons are from Dayton, Ohio - fun fact, for three decades I thought they were from Canada!

#toxic reasons #ohio #80s hardcore #hardcore punk

[steampunkedemon]

idk but saying tyler being a manipulative serial killer means he can’t be with wednesday is genuinely so funny to me like baby this is the addams family we’re talking about. being a manipulative serial killer should put him at the top of the viable choices for wednesday list.

#she literally calls him her type so idk where y’all are getting the whole ‘she never liked him’ thing from 💀 #‘he’s too toxic for her’ she once said having attempted murder on her record would be terrible bc everyone would know she failed to get the #job done. like what do you MEAN. toxicity is like the one thing her family adores #you don’t have to ship them all i’m saying is ‘he’s toxic :(‘ is a terrible reason when we’re talking abt fuckin wednesday addams #babygirl has done terrible things like. this is the one family that values toxic serial killing people wym 😭 #if you’re looking for happy fluffy healthy pure relationships this is not the family for you #not looking to argue so if u do i’m just gonna ignore it #wednesday addams #tyler galpin #wednesday x tyler #weyler #wednesday #wednesday tag #guys please stop replying or rb with different reasons why they can’t date we’re not talking abt them

[rubixpsyche]

I love using "Angry ex, spitefully making their way to success to make sure their ex knows they never needed them" songs for Vox because it turns to comedy the second you remember Alastor 100% doesn't give a shit and still think he's a hack

Like have your vindication girlie, go off Vox, he is reading the papers and sipping coffee and refusing eye contact with anything with a screen I'm sorry he won't see you cuntily walking the red carpet in whatever Velvette put you in

#radiosilence #onewaybroadcast #hazbin hotel #radiostatic #vox #alastor #the cube clicks #NOW. using it for STATICMOTH on the other hand for their 207th breakup? also funny for seperate reasons #AND I get to make the mega toxic hot about it

[bidisasterevankinard]

To all the people in the fandom who forgot: Buck grown ass man who has no problems with asking people call him Buck not Evan if he wants them. He told 118 when he was super anxious about first day and they pranked him right before it, he told Maddie, he told HIS PARENTS. If I'm not mistaken he corrected A*by too. So you really think if he would be not ok with being called Evan by Tommy he would say nothing? He would ask to be called Buck. But he DIDN'T. Because he LOVES Tommy calling him Evan

Tommy is not toxic or transphobic to call Buck by his given name and not choosen name as he never was corrected

#And let's not forget we HAD NEVER SEEN WHO TOLD TOMMY BUCK'S REAL NAME #I really doubt it was Chim. More likely Buck himself introduced himself as Evan #and not said to Tommy *call me Buck* and Tommy had a reason to believe it's *Buck* that he uses as special name only for 118 #bc remember begins episodes and taht nickname is given only to people inside firehouse who proved themselves? #Tommy sees nicknames differently #and he called Buck 'Evan' and Buck was ok #so stop making Tommy toxic #evan buckley #911 #evan buck buckley #bucktommy #911 abc #tommy kinard #that* #tevan #kinley