Which ones of these arbitrary trauma-induced rules do you follow?
No spending money, ever. what if you need it later and your life depends on it.
Assume that all strangers are 3 seconds close to becoming hostile. fawn to keep them friendly.
No delegating tasks. no telling other people to do things you could potentially do yourself. what if they mess up.
Assume that everyone will consider you a burden if you do 1 single mistake that inconveniences them. do all that is possible to not make that mistake.
Do not admit when things are going wrong. wait until theres no other option but to ask for help, and even then consider not doing that.
Always act like you're okay. not doing so might make you seem 'not normal' and 'accused of being crazy and unstable'.
Do anything for friends, even if it sounds weird, dodgy, illegal. you want to prove that you're fun and easy going and helpful and useful and extremely cool with anything.
Never let it show if you're suspicious of someone. never say out loud that you think their intentions are bad. that might set them off.
If hurt, hide and isolate. Do not let anyone see you hurt.
Do not ask help for problems you feel are your own responsibility to solve. Even if you don't see yourself solving them successfully. If you can't do it, assume nobody can help you.
Help others to try and build positive relationships. Don't accept help so you don't end up relying on them for anything.
Do not start things that involve help or participation from other people. People are not reliable.
Assume that institutions, government, police, social services, and any kind of groups of people are all considering you a nuisance, and would attack you on sight, in every single situation. Never rely on them or assume they would do anything else.
No arguing, confronting, or standing up for yourself unless the situation is absolutely unsurvivable otherwise. Lay low until doing otherwise is seriously damaging your mental health and ability to live.
Give up on hopeful social encounters before they disappoint you. If you have to interact with people, assume the worst is about to happen.
No allowing yourself to idealize, or dream of positive future with people. It's a trap and your expectations need to be either extremely realistic or low.
Assume that fancy and expensive things don't exist for you. Despise them and get away from them.
No comparing yourself and your life to how other people live. It causes depression and despair. Other people's lives and standards of living are none of your business.
Do not showcase any skill or brag about any achievement. Jealous people can destroy you for satisfaction.
Assume people think the worst of you and don't consider changing their mind. Just try to keep out of their way.
Do not display anger. You don't want to be called insane or get arrested. You don't know what people could potentially blame you for if you're openly angry. But other angry people are dangerous and you need to get away from them.
If you follow more than half of these, you have a trauma-induced problem. These are not normal or healthy. These are not developed in a healthy environment. These are extremely self-protective, isolating, ruled by terror of the world and the people living in it. If you follow these, something bad has been done to you.
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💖 Day 3.5 is now available! 💖
For the last couple of months, only Server Boosters had access to the 3.5 update... Buuuuut now it's available for everyone to play in the 14DWY Discord — and soon itch.io once I'm happy with the QA and state of the game — so please don't feel pressured to join unless you want to!!
The full devlog + even more screenshots are under the cut ^^
What's been added to the 3.5 version?
📺 Streamer Mode!
I've been told that it's difficult to stream and monetise age-restricted videos on YouTube and Twitch, so I added an option to remove the sexual content and strong language used in the demo.
Now y'all can invite Ren into your bed for cuddles without putting your streamer career on the line /silly /lh
This won't affect the 18+ rating or dark themes/elements of the game, however! Although Streamer Mode will prevent you from seeing any "gruesome" CGs in the future, most of the core elements of the game will still be tied to the choices and decisions you make. So you won't miss out on the overall experience by using streamer mode!!
⚙️ Custom Pronouns!
It only took me one entire year to get around to it, but you can finally choose your own preferred pronouns (or use a set of pronouns instead)... At the cost of being able to change them mid-game ^^;
Since the original pronoun screen wouldn't update until a new scene was displayed, I temporarily disabled the feature. But once I find a workaround, I'll bring it back!
💗 Choose how others perceive you!
You can now choose how the cast and narration perceive you! Originally, the narration was kept strictly gender-neutral (outside of pronouns and genitalia picked by the player), but this will soon change in future updates.
For more clarity: you don't get to choose the words specifically, but you can choose between masculine, feminine, and androgynous terms!
📋 Separate top and bottom genitalia!
You can now choose your tatas and pps separately! >:3
Alongside that, you can also choose your preferred body type!
I removed the "both" genitalia option because a few players still assumed it was an obscure version of "intersex". That wasn't my intention and I don't want to mislead anyone, so I took it out for now ^^;
I also didn't want to include a screenshot of the new genitalia choices in action (because it's NSFW), so y'all get the same character menu screen for the nth time instead lmao
📱 Relationship Screen Overhaul!
You can now change your own status for more immersion, and long-term Server Boosters will eventually be able to submit and use their own icon within the game as well!
Stalking finding your friends has now become easier by using "Buddy Maps"; a new app that allows you to see the location of all the cast members!
I want to offer players more incentive to check the relationship screen since they tend to miss the status updates, so hopefully this might help ;v;
It also says it "updates every few hours" so folks don't go overboard and check every 5 seconds to see where Ren is gdsghf (also keep in mind that he's a hacker lol)
🖤 Additional Scenes Update!
Day 2 received a brand new CG!!!!! Originally, I planned on only adding a few CGs sporadically throughout the game, but it didn't feel right to leave Day 2 so... empty... so I added a brand new CG to (hopefully) make things feel more balanced and natural!
If you decline Teo's offer on Day 3, Leon will now call and try to convince you to reconsider. However, players are still allowed to decline, and if they do, they'll reach a dead end.
After listening to feedback on itch, I changed some of the dialogue during Days 1-3 to make it seem more consistent! They're only small changes though, so it's honestly not worth looking for sdgjssga
🎶 Updated BGM and SFX!
I wanted to try out a different style of music to see if it fits the vibe of 14DWY more! The BGM features more acoustics to suit the "beachy" theme of Corland Bay, though I made a conscious effort to include piano elements as well to stay true to the original!!
I figured it'd be better to give players a live example before I make a poll (to see if they prefer the change or not) and publish it to Itch.
Some new SFX have also been added, though it's very minimal and honestly not that noticeable.
How to download and play the update?
(warning: clicking on the following links will open Discord!!)
To download the Day 3.5 update, simply join the 14DWY Discord server, verify your age, and visit the "14dwy-updates" channel!
Alternatively, you can also wait until the update is publicly released on Itch to play it as well!! (It normally gets released shortly after a round of QA testing/getting feedback from the server, though I may release it earlier if I feel like it hehe ^^)
Enjoy!!
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Write your RPer Resolutions for 2023!
One of my biggest resolutions is to focus on more one shots. I always have ideas, they are always on my to do list, but I usually get sidetracked and I find answering replies to be more important, so they get pushed and pushed until they are no longer relevant. (RIP to the one shot about bellou I was going to write...) I have a few I want to do upcoming with Simba specifically, but I also have another backstory series for Elinor planned. I think that most characters can benefit from them every now and then. Plus, it’s good to flex my prose muscles from time to time.
I also wanna keep working on myself! Being chill. Letting things go. I’ve worked really hard over the past years and it is a continual thing for me. I want to have more relaxed plots, be more loosey goosey, and just enjoy the journey. Not worry so much about making sure I’m doing replies for people and that things get done on time, and everything is formatted properly...(okay, maybe not that last one, formatting is important. :)) But, yeah. Just in general! Everyone makes mistakes (everyone has those days.) Growing forward is important to me.
Write at least one resolution, or “goal,” that you have as an RPer for your character(s).
Belle: This year I want Belle to open her own law practice. It’s something I’ve been working towards with her and the accumulation of a few plots is hopefully gone make that go forward.
Simba: Have him interact with as many new characters as possible and deepen the relationships with characters he already has. I wanna make sure that he is remembered. :’) Also, this year is the 10 year anniversary of his father’s death, so I have few things planned I want to do with that. I have a few other things, but they’re spoilers.
Toulouse: Get him back on track with his life. Do some more important art commissions around town. Start planning for the future properly...some other things that are spoilers, lol.
Thomas: Explore the tension between being a single father with the brio, I think there is some really juicy stuff there with growing pains of this new lifestyle for everyone.
Candace: I talked about this in my response to Anya on the voice memo, but I wanna delve more into Candace’s relationship. I also want to start our women in STEM club at PrideU and get her involved with that. Grow her confidence as a scientist. Maybe reveal her as CaNDyPoP101?
Vishaka: Spoilers, sorry. :)
Danny: Have him connect more with his family. Maybe have him explode at some point. Repair his relationship with Jane.
Thistle: This is also spoilers, lol.
Elinor: I want to delve more into her grief and also her curse! I also want to get her in position to open her museum this year. Also toying with having her run for Board in the fall.
Gem: Explore his magic more. Explore his relationships more. Gem is a slow boil kind of character. I’d like to get him some more long term arcs. I have one in the works that could lead to some good drama, so hopefully I’ll be able to flesh that out.
Isabela: Spoilers. :D
Evangeline: I would like to use her magic more. Maybe have her confess to someone what she is. Have something bad happen where Evy is in danger. Grow her relationships...I don’t know honestly, she’s just vibing.
Gaston: Get him into poaching. Create the Villain Squad. Bother Belle and cause some tension with the mayor, lol. Start his slow decent into madness.
Write at least one resolution IN CHARACTER for your characters.
Belle: Help her children get back to their time. Be a better mother.
Simba: Come to terms with leaving Swynlake. Be a good husband. :)
Toulouse: Toulouse only subscribes to resolutions when he’s in a good place and he is not in a good place.
Thomas: Be a good father.
Candace: Get top marks. Be a good RA.
Vishaka: Figure out what she wants to do. (Good resolution, Vixey, lol.)
Danny: Danny doesn’t do resolutions, they stress him out.
Thistle: He does not subscribe to the mortal calendar.
Elinor: Do better by her children. Repair her relationship with Merida. Open her museum. Quit the bookshoppe. Run a 5k. Read 50 books.
Gem: None.
Isabela: Get to a million followers. Deepen her relationship with Clayton (and make sure she hangs onto him.) Do yoga once a day. Stop and smell the roses. :)
Evangeline: Oh! Resolutions are so fun! Evy wants to get better at her job and be a good friend and love life!
Gaston: Bench 225.
List one or more characters you have never interacted with that you would like to do so.
Milo, Cruz, Riley, Hook, and King are the only characters I haven’t interacted with, I believe. I’d love to change that for all of them!
Obviously, I have Hook and Gaston, so that is easy. I have Candace for Cruz potentially, though also Simba as a fellow native and sporty person. I think they could do something fun with InterPride and Magic Prix.
I want to have Riley and Belle, because I think that could be an interesting interaction, considering Belle’s relationship to Amity. If not, I have some uni kids I can throw at them. I feel like they’d get along with Gus when he comes, he’s very sporty too.
For King, I will be bringing in Gus soon! They have a fun relationship in the show. The reason I haven’t really interacted with him yet is because Candace has been busy and Danny is the worst, lol.
Milo is harder for me, just because he is in secondary and I don’t have any concrete connections there right now! But, I believe that we can make something work. We have an interesting connection with Milo x Gaston right now potentially!
Talk a bit about your plotting style.
So, I’ll just come out and say that I’m really bad with relationships and threads that are more spontaneous and don’t have a plotted end. It’s not that I don’t like them! I just am bad at throwing characters together on the fly. (This is a reason that Discord events is hard for me, but see below for that.)
I have some tools to circumvent this. Usually, if you come to me to plot I ask a series of pre-prepared questions: which of my characters are you interested in? (I have so many, it can be hard to choose unless some sort of connection/interaction jumps out immediately.) Do you have any characters that need threads or need something specific in their story I can help with? I have a hard time with open ended stuff so it helps me brainstorm a bit more if you have an idea beyond an IDK.
It is something I am working on, but it can be super difficult for me--and then I feel bad because I think it makes me sound unenthusiastic. Which isn’t the case! I just get really in my head if I can’t come up with a good idea.
I love all types of plots, but I gravitate towards “bigger” ones. I put bigger in quotes because I usually just mean...long term. I like being able to plot a relationship, to see the end, and to successfully reach it. There is just something so satisfying to me. It’s like finishing a good book!
That isn’t to say I don’t mind one offs. And really, I LOVE just being a cog in the machine. If your character wants to open a business but they need someone to randomly inspire them in a coffee shop, hit me up!
Additionally, I am not shy about coming up with ideas to get involved with current plots, because I think that is the most fun and collaborative part of the RP! For example, when the plot dropped for Marie, I asked Bee if she’d be okay with me having Gaston set up a team to go into the woods “tracking” the beast. I just saw an opportunity for my character and I ran with it. That means sometimes I might jump into your DMs when a plot drops or something exciting happens.
I love to be involved, but I am also extremely respectful of other people’s stories. If Bee had said “No, actually, I’d prefer you didn’t do that because [whatever reason]” I would say no problem! That’s why I asked! I have an extremely open communication style, which I know might come off a little callous sometimes, but its just because I want everyone to be on the same page and make sure that everyone is satisfied with the story. If anyone has any problems, I am always wiling to talk it out and reshape plots so that everyone is happy.
TL;DR: This is very long, so I’ll just end by saying I am so, so excited to be included in any plot you have--if you think my character might suite your plot, please let me know! And I am not shy at all. If I want to plot something with you or I see a plotting opportunity, I’ll absolutely jump into your DMs--but you are never obligated to say yes. Just be honest and communicative!
Talk a bit about character relationships.
I love any and all character relationships. Family, friends, enemies, frenemies, lovers, exes, one night stands, neighbors...
I will always always say yes to feeling out some characters! Never hesitate to pitch a relationship with me. You want your character to date mine? GREAT. Obsessed with the idea already. You want to get in a fight? Put ‘em up! I am totally down. You wanna plan an elaborate bank heist? I’m honored to be invited to commit crime with you.
There is really only two scenarios where I will say no:
1) I am full on threads and would like a few to close before I start something new. In which case I will ask if we can hang on to it until something finishes! If not, that’s okay, I understand.
2) It isn’t in character or not something I want for my character in that moment. I feel very firmly that everyone should be able to tell the stories they want to tell--within the confine of everyone else’s story! That means, sometimes, I will say no because it isn’t the path I want for my character. It is never anything personal and always simply has to do with my character’s trajectory! I would hope people tell me the same, if I ever pitch something to them that doesn’t work for what they want for their character.
Finally, shipping. While I LOVE shipping and love a good ship, I have two different kinds of ships: long term and short term.
For short term ships, I am always down for whatever. Cheating? Explosive break ups? Turned down proposals? Let’s get it! Short term relationships don’t mean I don’t care about them. I fall in love with any character falling in love with mine. Truly. I’ve had many short term relationships that give me the warm fuzzies, that make me incredibly fond of those characters, that relationship. Lou has dated several people--and especially his six month relationship with Peri still holds a soft place in my heart.
I will always communicate and be up front with my expectations and I will ask you about yours, so I can make sure they match and no one’s feelings get hurt. I will say “I think they should date for six months and then X should be their reason for breaking up.”
Long term ships are much more rare for me. Usually, if my character is in an “endgame” relationship, there have been many discussions about it before it happens. (And usually a few break ups before they finally get together, lol.) I tend to ship these endgame ships with active, participatory members. I have been burned before and am cautious to tie my character’s romantic relationships to someone else, as I love to play them and tend to have them feature heavily in my character’s story and it’d absolutely break my heart to lose my character’s soulmate. Again, this is nothing personal!! If our RP styles don’t match, that’s totally okay.
And, honestly, if the chemistry is there (and a good story, I’m a sucker for a good, angsty story)--the rest doesn’t matter. At the end of the day, it comes down to whomst my character loves. <3
Talk about your dash, doc, and Discord reply style!
Dash: I reply nearly every day. I tend to reply twice if we have 4+ threads, and once if we have less than that. Often it might be a few days, just because I don’t do all my replies in one day. I average about 10 and I prioritize by mun, how long it has been, and my character’s activity. If it has been more than THREE days, I have probably missed something. I generally have one of the biggest thread loads in the RP -- over 50, consistently, so sometimes things fall through the cracks. I will NEVER drop a thread without discussing ending it first. I think it is a rude thing to do, lol. However, if it has been 3+ weeks, please message me before responding because often time I have marked those off my tracker.
Doc: These are generally reserved for secrets, smut, and sensitive material. The three S’s, if you will. Plot drops are common. I prefer smut off dash, just because I hate tumblr’s formatting, lol. Sensitive material refers to triggering material. If I know a thread will heavily feature something triggering (such as severe mental health or gore and violence), I will usually suggest doing it off dash. I keep doc threads on my replies list and italicize them when it’s my turn to reply, so they don’t get lost and I’m pretty on my game about replying to them.
Discord: For some reason, Discord has gotten hard for me. I used to love Discord events and would really throw myself into them. Recently, they’ve been a little more overwhelming and I feel very lost in the shuffle. Therefore, if we plot an event thread but we don’t get very far or I don’t seem engaged, it’s not you at all!! It’s just a me thing. I prefer dash or docs. Hopefully I’ll get over this hump and ready to jump back in! (Also, Discord replies are SO easy for me to lose, I forget about them in a blink, lol.)
Plotting Exercise!
VIXEY GIVES UP HER SHOPPE
1. Something happens (maybe a town emergency, or I fabricate someone getting an injury) and VIXEY goes to the hospital with someone, where she runs into FELIX or TIBBS or DIAN -- and has a chat with them about being nurse, they compliment her on her expertise in handling whatever situation.
2. After this experience, VIXEY confides in TIANA that she isn’t happy with the shoppe, who feels hurt and betrayed that Vixey would give up on her shoppe. She tells Vixey that she just is going through a rough patch and owning a business is hard.
3. Bucking up, VIXEY goes about her days, but is still feeling hurt and restless. She runs into NEMO, who is also struggling with his life path and school. They have a heartfelt chat and Vixey gives Nemo some advice...that she reflects on and decides to take for herself.
4. VIXEY talks to AL and JUN (separate paras) about her feelings and what they think she should do. Either one (or both) advise her to try and find someone to take over the shop from her.
5. PLOT CALL -- for someone to take over From Farm to Table. A para where Vixey does this. (I don’t know how--putting out an ad, making a heartfelt Instagram post?) Someone answers!
6. Several threads where VIXEY and [REDACTED] negotiate handing over the shoppe, ending with BELLE signing on as the lawyer to finish the deal.
7. Once VIXEY is free from her shoppe, she returns to the hospital to see if this is what she really wants...
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