#these are bad but posting anyways because i'm EXCITED

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for going to a wedding?

I'm curious about tumblr's opinion on this one, it's low stakes but i'm not sure if my beheaviour is ok. Mild trigger warning for cuss words, also English isn't my main language.

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I (27F) have been dating Eliott (26NB) for 3 years. Eliott is very close to their best friend and roommate, Damian (26M), to the point that they are invited to every event in Damian's family. Being Eliott's girlfriend, I have started being invited too. Most of the time, it's small events where I don't feel too bad for intruding and I can bring something to share the costs (barbecue, cocktail party, that kind of stuff).

Damian's sister, Petunia (30sF), is getting married. Eliott is invited and I am their +1. Petunia is having a gigantic wedding, the kind that stresses everyone in the family and is quite expensive. I am actually super excited about it, I have been hearing about the preparations for months and I live for big fancy events like this, even more so when I don't have to actually take part in the planning (selfish, I know, but the drama I hear from behind the scenes makes me glad to not be involved, Petunia is going a bit bridezilla). I was very touched to be included, most of all because I only met Petunia once or twice max. She has always been polite and even friendly.

Here is where I feel I might be the asshole : I heard from the rest of the family that Petunia has a strict "no ring no bring" rule. She said something in the style of "I don't want to pay for everyone's bitches". First, ouch, a bit rude, but she didn't say it to my face or about me specifically, so I try not to feel attacked since I know weddings can be stressful. Eliott and I are not married, we plan to but we aren't even living together right now. I was invited in no unclear terms (I received an invitation in the mail).

We are also taking full advantage of the invitation, having opted in even for the optional stuff. There was an option we took to pay for a room on the grounds so that we can come friday evening, the party is Saturday and then we are staying for the brunch on Sunday. Damian won't even be here Friday.

I fear we are intruding a bit too much, and that maybe it would have be better to only be here on the Saturday party. It might be a bit awkward to be here as Damian's friends when he won't even be here. I know this kind of party is quite expensive, and even though Eliott and I tried to be as generous as possible with the wedding gift, I feel a bit guilty to make Petunia and her future husband pay for my place when we are not close at all.

The question is theorical, as canceling a week from the event would be even more impolite and a declaration of war (and this post won't appear before a few weeks anyway), but AITA for going to the full wedding?

#aita #am i the asshole

[ornithological]

redwing (turdus iliacus) and fieldfare (turdus pilaris) feeding on hawthorn berries, ireland

#passeriformes #turdidae #turdus #redwing #fieldfare #display flight #these are bad but posting anyways because i'm EXCITED #took these about 15 minutes ago! #first fieldfare of the winter in the garden and second redwing

[woozapooza]

BREAKING BAD (2008-2013) 🧪

BETTER CALL SAUL (2015-2022) ⚖️

#brbaedit #bcsedit #usergilliverse #Breaking Bad #Better Call Saul #x #my gifs #omg I have been working on this for almost two months!!! #I kept adding more characters because I kept thinking of people I just couldn't stand to exclude #I did have to exclude a couple very small characters that I love because it just wasn't reasonable to include absolutely everyone #anyway I hope people like this! I'm really excited about it and I love how it turned out! #also I almost accidentally posted this without the Lydia/Nacho/Todd row 😫 #100 #500

[cradle-of-darkness]

COOKIES OF DARKNESS NATION WE ARE OFFICIALLY BACK 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

(long rambling in tags if u care)

#cookie run #licorice cookie #red velvet cookie #affogato cookie #I KNOW im late to this but i was at school ok 🙄 anyways i have a lot of thoughts #first off LICORICE UGH I MISSED HIM SO BAD IM SO HAPPY FOR HIM #his stats are so fascinating to me. i don't think anyone was expecting his strength to be that high #its pretty average but its still his best stat surprisingly #im shocked his strategy and puzzle solving are only 3. i think that's a strange decision to make them so low but I'm open to accepting it #maybe his avoidance/lack of ability to see the big picture contributes to the low scores? #his stats are so unexpected but I could get used to it. still i want an elaboration from devsis on these #i want them to show his strength in the show because i was expecting his strength to be like. 3 or 4 #but anywho. i think its very funny how affo is 0 strength. i love how its canon licorice could easily kick his ass in a fist fight #i really do love affo and im SO happy to see him with the cod fucking finally all we got with him as a cod until now was ODYSSEY 😭 #im so excited to see him work with the cod as an actual member. he's a very fun character for me #i cant wait for them to actually make him feel like one of the cookies of darkness its been over a year since he joined by now c'mon #im just so ecstatic that the cod are back. hopefully this is a good omen and will pave the way for more cod appearances soon #bcs u all know how i feel about the lack of cod for the better part of the past year. this better be their comeback i believe in them #😁😁😁😁😁😁 IM JUST SO HAPPY THIS IS THE BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOME IM SO HAPPY U HSVE NO IDEA I LITERALLY SCREAMED #btw ik crepe is there. but they're in a weird grey area of being a cod so i didn't post them BUT IM VERY HAPPY THEY'RE THERE TOO ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ #♦️charlie's miscellaneous

[iknowwhereyousleepatnight]

trying to change my major on the second day of classes just to keep things interesting

#i have come to a decision that i might regret but whatever #i just realized that the field i'd be working in would put me somewhere i'm not sure i want to be (it's comp sci btw) #and my eyesight suckssssss. i don't think having a job that requires a lot of looking at screens will do me any favors #so we're changing it! #and i might be double majoring too because i'm bad at making decisions and i have very varied interests #(maybe i want to be allowed in the art studios. is that too much to ask for?) #thinking i'll go with psychology and studio art #that or psych and geology (<-likes rocks) #currently trying to figure out how to do it w/o losing my financial aid #because if i lose it i'm just dropping out tbh #if this wasn't mostly covered i wouldn't be touching college #even if i love the campus and the buildings and a couple professors #actually my fav professor is a history professor maybe i should minor in history so i can see him again? i do love history a lot #but majoring in history would be silly because wtf would i do with a history degree? #anyways i'm also working on a stupid drawing thing today while i ignore my classwork because i'm dropping all of my classes #i was very inspired by that washing machine post #so get excited for that #or not. live your life #and unrelated to anything at all but i'm sitting outside and it is. so nice today #like beautiful weather even if it's been sweltering all last week #maybe it's because it's early as fuck #also unrelated to anything #but i love tumblrs tagging system #i want to tag all day every day #i will write a whole essay in the tags #no-one can stop me because i am undefeatable

[ejunkiet]

caffeine I love and loathe you

#i promise there will be fewer of these posts soon; i'm in my final two weeks of break #but afdjkhsfhjk second cup of coffee was a MISTAKE #I was travelling and needed a boost #got TOO MUCH of a boost #just had a meeting with the head of the organisation i'm joining #and it went well! super well. but I am excited to start okay and quite enthusiastic #because ngl I whole heart everything I do #which is both good and bad #but i'm legit excited about this new career shift #and that definitely came out ahahah #i'm professional #and #honestly enthusiastic about things #problematic trait? maybe? or the opposite? i hope? #anyway. it went well. #but caffeine is the devil #can we just #fast forward two weeks #so I can do something with this energy #tmi

[anarcho-masochist]

Okay, I thought this was universal but maybe my last three therapists were right that it is not:

Is it normal for boredom to be truly unbearable?

As in, worse than anything else, would rather get eviscerated while fully conscious, will do anything to escape it which might actually include suicide if no satisfactory options are available?

#it's bad #and no it's not 'when you aren't distracted you're forced to experience existing pain' #I'm not generally suicidal. There are a lot of things I enjoy and want to do. I have plenty of problems but I tend not to care about them. #I do have things to do. Usually even if I don't want to do anything I can entertain myself since I can't switch my brain off anyways. #Literally infinite things to think about #The problem is when none of it feels interesting or exciting enough. Which doesn't make any sense at all. #If I'm unbearably bored and a friend makes the mistake of talking to me I get really toxic. It is a problem. #Usually I have great self control when it comes to destructive or toxic behaviors but not so when I want to end it all because nothing is #interesting enough. #It's like 'if I do something really extreme I'll stop because bored' #Bad things happen... #Or I try to overdose or slit my wrists #better yet is when I try to get myself killed because suicide isn't good enough.... great reasoning (disappointed) #I met three of my ex boyfriends that way #Note to self to stop fucking men i get in knife fights with PLEASE #it is ALWAYS a bad idea. Has never turned out well. #Invariably they always either have anger management/impulse control issues or they're just arrogant jerks who want to be tougher than you #sometimes both #Man really rambling in the tags here. Should probably delete that. Oh well. POST

[breezypunk]

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#thinking so hard about vaughn - goro - alex #and i'm certain i will make an au for this because of course vaughn and goro are my mains but... i wanna fit alex into this so bad #im obsessed with her djfnfsj #anyways a lot of vaughn's post pl storyline in dogtown will probs be au based #his appearance is different in dt as well so yeaaaah my thoughts are everywhere #and when i say im thinking about all three of them i mean.... the three of them :) #am excite

[mumblingsage]

With the caveat that I know I shouldn't speculate on people's sexuality, even that of my current celebrity crush, Joey Batey is either sailing under a rainbow flag of some color combination or he's a straight guy who passionately writes 7,000-word email dissertations about portraying his character's queerness respectfully. Either way, what a wonderful world, and we live in a world where one of those options has to be true.

#I will not go so far as to remark on his ability to kiss guys onscreen because Actors are Professionals #but it's late at night and my judgment is just hazy enough to post #I'm actually very excited to live in a world where Straight Allies write thousands of words about sensitive portrayals of queerness! #I can't contribute to that vision because I'm not straight and my portrayals are wonderful Bad Bisexual Representation but ANYWAY...

[rosenfey]

I'm actually excited to play bg3 casually. since it's the next big thing I feel like there's pressure to get on the hype and create content for it asap and while I love making gifsets I think I just want to be able to enjoy something without feeling im behind because I'm not racing to post gifsets before anyone else

#ambie.txt #it's silly but I feel like a fake fan when I'm not posting gifsets for the Current Big Thing like every day #because like.. once I finally do it it's not gonna be the current popular thing and my content will flop #but also it makes me so anxious feeling like I need to constantly compete?? to stay relevant in the fandom #I'm actually not as much excited for the game because I'm stressed I will feel bad when everyone will be giffing it left and right #and I would feel the pressure to do the same but I'd rather take my time #anyway lmao.

[creativesplat]

I'm so excited for MiphLink week 2023, but like, the general theme of the stuff I've done is: "Who's motivation, I don't know her" and "Welp... it's good enough..." because this splat ran out of time and she's sorry ✌️

#creativesplat rambles #will delete later #just thought I'd let y'all know! #also a good chunk of the drawings I posted as like a 'hey this is for mlweek' are not done and therefore not being posted because #I'm bad at time management! #we love that for me #anyway I'm still super excited even though I've gone for quantity of stuff over quality #and that is fine because it's a hobby and all that

[fictionadventurer]

The eternal struggle between wanting to talk to you all about my story ideas and knowing that if I don't keep this totally to myself I will never get it written.

#adventures in writing #it's a struggle i tell you #i get so excited about ideas and want to talk them out with you guys #but i know that getting other people in on this will just increase the pressure to live up to the idea #whereas if i keep it to myself the only expectations i worry about are mine #and anything that doesn't work is just 'oh too bad it's published already just deal with it' #longer works can be a different case #i'm still excited about the thief's debut and my shapeshifter goose girl story in part because of response here #but with shorter works anything other than the briefest of snippets is a death sentence #the only things i finished last year were stories i had not said a word about #and now that i think about it #that may partly be because i knew i had to post the story before i could talk about it #anyway i've got one fairy tale idea i'm really excited about #i'd love to discuss the ideas behind it because it would fit the vibe here so well #but i know i can't #so i have to settle for the vaguest of vagueposting

[torgawl]

i'm actually obsessed with this line from chapter 6 of trigun maximum. this might be my favourite scene so far!!!

bonus cool vash panel from the same scene because it's so *chef's kiss*:

#i haven't read past it but it's obvious this is such a character rebuilding moment for vash #the way vash 'peace and love' stampede who refuses to kill and wants to be kind to all humans is confronted with a deeply recurrent ethical #question in our society which is : is it ok to kill someone if they have committed an atrocious crime? #he is obligated to ask himself who is he to impose his beliefs on this man that is carrying such a deep wound and hurting with him because #of the person he wants to save in a matter of seconds... #it's him coming to terms that peace and love are good in theory but in practicality morality is so much more a grey area than his - until #now - black and white thinking #if my beliefs are wrong does that make me a bad person? but are my beliefs wrong if my intentions have always been the best? #idk vash being the character he is has always had great potential to be thrown into situations that challenge his morals and deep rooted #beliefs besides the humanity vs plant motif and i'm so glad he is being presented these fille as #dilemas* (pardon) #it's very satisfying and i'm very excited to see the way he will handle all of this and what he will take from it #also excited to see nicholas' stance and progression throughout the manga #trigun has been such a pleasant read :D #all the characters are so good!!!! #i'm also surprised how the story is so different from stampede #i can't wait to know more about knives in the manga #so far i'm enjoying knives in stampede quite a lot (also the fact he named himself post everything and hasn't been knives from the start) #i thought it was a cool detail #anyways that's all #i had to make a post cause i can't find any post with this scene and this made me extremely excited 😂 #trigun spoilers #< gonna tag it for the people reading the manga atm like me i hope this is okay tell me if you want me to tag it differently

[running-in-the-dark]

I'm finally almost done organising/putting away all the stupid shit I've bought recently - it's mostly all kinds of sewing supplies. I've got about a million buttons and zippers now. and lots of random fabric. a whole box full of sewing patterns. pretty much... everything you could ever need for sewing.

I've also not touched my (brand new) sewing machine since I tried it out in the couple of days after I got it. not once. because all the stuff that I bought made me feel so fucking anxious and guilty. and, well, I couldn't have used it anyway because there were boxes everywhere.

I've tried fixing the problem - I finally deleted the ebay app from my phone, for example. whenever I felt bad I'd just spend hours browsing ebay and bidding on stuff. I mean, the auction is gonna end in a week, that's not even real! I'm not buying things, I'm just saying hm well I'd pay this much for this, and then I might even win! winning is nice, it feels good! and I get a product, or even a box of products?! that also feels good!

except I bid on so. much. stuff. that the anxiety felt like it was killing me.

anyway. that part is fixed now. I did bid on a few barbies after that whole disaster, but that finally made me go, wait why am I doing this again after how shit it just made me feel?! so then I deleted the app.

but. I don't know. the real problems are still there and I don't know what to do about it.

#I think the real issues are 1. I buy things to feel better 2. I feel bad a lot of the time and 3. I fixate on a new hobby and feel like I #need to have alllll the supplies or I can't get started and then get so overwhelmed that I don't start anyway. or I do and it still loses #that new exciting feeling after a short while and I move on to the next shiny new thing #idk I just wish there was something that would fix me #and tbh I don't think I could bring the shopping thing up with a therapist even if I found one again #my previous one basically just shrugged and said it's fine because it's not a bunch of expensive stuff #well unfortunately a looot of inexpensive things are still.. a lot of money #and anyway isn't that like. not the important part?! idk I'm not an expert but it feels like a bad thing that might need help or something #but anyway I've made my vent post so it's time for bed now! who knows maybe I'll even be able to sleep now that I've said all this! #personal #cw mental health

[zan-77]

University really burned me good man jeez

#z talks #like #i realized why i havent been doing much art or liking the process #theres other factors sure but its mainly that i am required to do art to continue uni #being an arts major #even if I'm making something because i want to i still am only making it because i need to present it to teacher to get a grade to pass #ans that kills me man #havent felt a lot of joy from my creations foe uni bevause of this #now im doing my thesis and i gotta make a bunch of art but im blocked because i literally dont feel like it will be good #however thr drawing im making of a spidersona cuz i got excited to do it after watching spiderverse is bringing me so much joy #like its literally the idea that this art isnt solely because i want to do it but because i have to makes me feel bad and makes the srt bad #anyway spidersona gonna be posted in a while gotta finish some stuff first lol

[swordsonnet]

hey folks, just wanted to let you know that i'll be taking a break from tumblr for a little while (see previous post for explanation). i've realised that all this drama is really getting to me, and so i think i should keep my distance for now to protect my mental health, until things have calmed down and/or i'm in a better headspace to deal with it. i'll definitely be back though! i love my weird little corner of the internet too much to abandon it permanently. thank you to everyone who reacted to my vent post, it made me feel a lot less alone <3

#atm there are so many different opinions floating around that i find it very difficult to make up my mind about the article #i still think that at least some of the points are valid but it may not be as simple as people (myself included) have made it out to be #harlan guthrie of malevolent made a post about it that imo offers a really interesting alternative perspective #so i'd encourage people to check that out if theyve read the article so they can get a more balanced view #but i'll try not to draw any conclusions until we have more evidence #but i think its important to remember that boycotting rq network shows because of this will only harm the creators #and even for tma i personally dont believe that rq deserves sole (or even most of the) credit #for turning it into something that resonated with so many people #many of those who worked on tma arent rq execs or even all that involved with rq outside of tma (including jonny himself ofc) #so i think itd be a real shame if rq's (alleged) shady business practices ruined tma for people to whom it really meant something #my excitement about tmp has certainly been... dampened but i'll still try to approach it with an open mind #as long as jonny is working on it (and seems genuinely excited about it) i'm cautiously optimistic that it won't be a bad story #but i'm rambling again so tldr: shit is complicated #i really need to pick up my meds today because this is not a great time to be going through antidepressant withdrawal #todays a bad pain day so i'm not thrilled about leaving the house but whatever #anyway bye for now! see y'all (hopefully) soon :)