#stay safe people

[bettyshoweduptotheparty]

My Exit Note (for now) - and A Letter to Taylor

I’m so very sorry to the lovely people on here who will be saddened to read this, but this will be my last post for a while. I re-joined tumblr in June last year to re-reconnect to this lovely community, and it genuinely seemed so much safer to do than back in 2017. I thought the fandom had gained some perspective as a whole. But after only 7 months, the fandom (and by that I mean swifties) has once again become a battle ground for us, fuelled by none other than Taylor herself, and I’m no longer willing to gloss over that. I’m choosing my own peace.

It may seem like a very fickle move after only 7 months in this space, when the good people on here are genuinely some of the kindest and most intelligent people I’ve ever met online, but let me explain why I need to take a break. I don’t intend to leave Taylor Swift and her art behind and never look back. In fact, I have Eras tour tickets for the summer and I want to give myself a chance to actually be excited about that by the time June comes around. But it’s all too familiar, pretty much exactly the same reason I left tumblr the first time in 2017. I’m here to discuss and analyse Taylor’s art with likeminded (queer) people and I can’t respect the artist of that very art when she continually gives her toxic ‘fans’ ammunition to come into our safe space and harass us and then watches as we scramble to keep ourselves safe amidst abuse and threats. They are doing this in HER name. Members of a marginalised community she claims to be an ‘ally’ to are being doxxed and harassed in HER name and she’s doing nothing. If anything she’s fanning the flames while it burns. Whatever it is that she’s doing with her brand right now, her silence when her own crazy fans are sending DEATH THREATS to people for simply interpreting her art, means that I cannot be part of that right now. I thought the fandom had changed, that Taylor had grown more confident defending what she stands for, but clearly, I was wrong.

The tipping point back in 2017 for me, was when she told those kids from the rep secret sessions that the album was all about her darling bf and gave them permission to go after anyone who said otherwise. And boy, did they take that seriously. They came after us in our little corner for gushing over how beautifully gay those songs were, fuelled by words straight from the horse’s mouth. SHE sent those people after us. Because she wrote the gayest album in history and she couldn’t deal with the noise getting too loud. And I lost all respect for her. It was only in 2019 when she was suddenly draped in rainbows that I carefully looked at gaylor spaces online again, because it seemed like she was finally actually committing to it. But we all know how that ended… So, to see one of those very rep secret session kids on my YouTube feed yesterday picking apart this beautiful NY Times article with lies and inaccuracies in the name of Taylor’s straightness, just reminded me whose side she decides to put herself on. She invited those people to her house. She caters to them, not us. She made them think they were her friends and then sent them after us. With HER OWN WORDS. And I can’t be in the trenches for someone who hands my bullies a gun and points at the target.

I will leave my blog active this time, so my content will be here for people to engage with if they want. But I won’t be on here to receive your messages or dm’s. I’m sorry that I’m leaving you guys at a time where we need to stick together, but I’m getting more anger and hurt out of this than joy atm and that’s always the time for me to put myself first and step away. I hope that we will come together again when the tide changes, I’m still somewhat convinced that the clock is ticking towards a better time for us, but I need Taylor to come through for us (and herself) before I can look at her again. And I promise if that happens, I won’t hold a grudge.

And lastly, here’s something I’ve never done because I’m not crazy enough to think that Taylor sees us on here, but I don’t have any other social media and I had to get this off my chest. (If you have twitter/instagram, maybe do something similar, you never know, she might actually see it and I think she needs to know how much hurt she’s causing with this)

Dear Taylor, @taylorswift

What are you doing, love? I wish I could actually ask you that. In fact, I’ve wished it many times throughout the decade that I’ve been a fan of your music. I’ve wished that I could tell you what your music meant to me when I was heartbroken, and how much joy it brought me when I was young and felt invincible. You changed my life when you proudly held a girl’s hand in public with a smile that showed me that love is there for people like me to find, after all. And when the world was hard on you, I wished I could ask you if you were ok. But today, I just want to ask you this: what have I done to deserve you sending the worst kind of people after me? Time and time again. And you can’t tell me you didn’t know that would happen, I know you’re smart. I know you know the kind of people I’m talking about, the ones that worship you like a God, that will stop at nothing to defend the version of you they have in their heads. The ones you built your empire on. Good on you, but when did you stop caring for the people that actually see you and read the words you put out into the world for us? Was that not what you wanted? I can’t claim to understand how you live the life you’ve chosen, but at least your art was always there to bring joy to my life and community when I needed it. I didn’t need you to be a hero, but now you’ve become part of the problem.

So, here’s the thing: choose a side. Commit to us, or let us go. This line that you’re walking has reached the end. You want to be an ally? Fine. Let me help you with that: Don’t claim to be a safe space for queer people and then throw a grenade into our community and watch it burn. That’s not what an ally does. Don’t appropriate our culture by using our pride flag colours or the colour lavender and then deny the cultural and historic significance of those colours, effectively erasing their meaning. That’s not what an ally does. And most importantly, don’t let people be slaughtered, gaslit and harassed on the internet, or mainstream news, for interpreting your music as queer. A young queer woman, who is an incredible journalist, got called ‘inappropriate’ and a liar on national news yesterday, because she picked up what you’re putting down in your music and wrote an article about it. An incredible article by the way, one that made us all feel seen and validated. And then you’re letting old white men on national television call that inappropriate and invasive. You may not have said those words, but you let them stand there uncommented, let your cultish fans think that their hero is offended by being presumed to be gay. You guessed it, that’s also not what an ally does. A marginalised group of your fans got DEATH THREATS in your name in the last 24 hours because we pick up on queer flagging in your art. And you did nothing. You handed our bullies weapons and left us to fend for ourselves. That is not a safe space for LGBTQ people. And for that reason, you’re losing me.

Because I have nothing to believe. Unless you actually choose me (and yourself for that matter). Just once.

Until then,

J

#lgbtq rights #lgbetty #friends of dorothea #I’m out for now #hope I can be back some day #but I need Taylor to show me why I should #i’m sorry #love our community #stay safe people

[phantomphaeton]

IMPORTANT PSA

men who say 'i don't understand women' are actually using the age old trick of weaponizing incompetence. just like how he actually does know how to do his laundry, cook his dinner, and clean his bathroom (because how tf else would he have lived before meeting you) he knows that he ought to treat you with respect and decency. if he says 'i don't understand women', 'girls are speaking a different language' or any variation of this, it's his way of weaseling out of having to put in the effort of treating you like a human being, and he's flat out telling you not to expect basic respect/consideration from him.

we all want the same things, which is mutual respect, and no matter what they tell you, men know this. men who say this are not interested in respecting you, but will have no trouble respecting the boundaries/personal space/showing manners to their male friends and hide behind the 'women are a different species' wall to justify their desire to continue pushing your buttons/the envelope/crossing your lines/low-balling you in order to get away with (what they absolutely know) is shitty behavior.

also PSA: men who say they do understand women are also to be avoided at all costs. you will be smiled at, given flowers, and promptly roofied.

IN CONCLUSION: GOOD/DECENT MEN DO NOT NEED TO TELL YOU THEY ARE GOOD/DECENT MEN. CONFUSED MEN WILL TELL YOU THEY ARE CONFUSED/ASK FOR CLARIFICATION OF WHAT YOU WANT. THEY WILL NOT MAKE EXCUSES/GIVE YOU SOME HALF ASSED 'I dOn't UnDErsTaNd' AS THEY CONTINUE TO MAKE YOU UPSET/UNCOMFORTABLE

#helping my less experienced ladies navigate dating safely #i don't want y'all in therapy #do not confuse this with lack of communication #there is a difference between not communicating correctly #and flat out REFUSING to communicate #pay attention #stay safe people #advice #dating #safety #mental health #relationships #love

[ace-in-gotham]

Heard scarecrow is out again. Stay safe. I don't need a chemically induced panic attack, thanks. (nobody does, but scarecrow does what scarecrow does sadly)

Also I have a chance to brag about my mask. The basic ones were boring af, so decorated a little

#gotham rp #scarecrow #only in gotham rp #he is out and about #i am definitely using this to show off #stay safe people

[incorrect-koh-posts]

My dear followers, I wish all 333 of you (or those among you who celebrate it) a very merry Christmas and happy holidays! ❤

Thank you for another fantastic year with our medieval boys in a fandom that isn't quite so tiny anymore. It's really been a lot of fun with you people and I appreciate the good vibes we've got going on in our little corner of the internet very very much. Best wishes and season's greetings to you all!

#christmas post #i'll be back with more content and answered asks in the coming days #stay safe people

[deerest-me]

Hi there! I’m very sorry to bother you at this time but I’m hoping if you’d be so kind to check the post that I pinned on my blog and maybe give it a little help by boosting/sharing it? it’s for my cat who struggles to breathe :((( and we need help to get him the tests that he needs. Thank you if you do as it would really mean the world to me and I understand if you don’t, still appreciate you and I hope your gets better! Btw, please do send me a msg to reply or answer the ask privately instead as I dont want other blogs to think im a spambot or what, sorry for asking this, praying you’d consider! 🥲🙏

hi, ignoring those suspicious instructions at the end and posting this so my followers know to block you. if you scroll down far enough, you'll see that the blog was made just this morning, so, by all indications, it IS the classic pet paypal scam.

#stay safe people #the great spambot plague of '22 '23

[thisisanfiahateaccount]

For once the FIA have made the correct decision 👏🏼

To those of you gutted that a race weekend has been cancelled. Go outside and touch some fucking grass. There are people who have lost everything!

#f1 #formula 1 #emilia romagna gp 2023 #stay safe people

[nooneinherekeeplooking]

Since nobody has posted an update from Otto, here from Jermo logs.

#jerma #jerma985 #otto #Thank god the doggo its ok #as a dog person i feel happy #Check the sus for the next stream guys #stay safe people

[unsigneddreams]

Wishing the world was a kinder place.

#too many devastating news recently #and some too close to home #stay safe people

[epicsandwich301]

Was scrolling through the trans tag and got jumpscared by random ass nsfw video

I AM A MINOR BTW

Why can't ya ban all those bots, mr Tumblr? It's straight up illegal for me to see it.

Do better than this.

Wait are minors are even allowed on this platform? Eh idk

#stay safe people #be careful with opening Tumblr in public #or scrolling through tags #mario movie tag has a lot of shit like that too

[bettyshoweduptotheparty]

Anons in my inbox, I see you but I’m not reacting to anything until I have read the whole prologue and listened to all of the music in the morning. I’m not a fan of the words she used that I’ve seen so far but I feel like I’m missing a whole lot of context here so I’m leaving the battleground for now and will log back on here tomorrow when I’ve seen/listened to and processed it and will come back to your messages then.

Sleep tight and see you tomorrow people (and if trolls come, use the block button liberally! No space for hate 🥰)

#gaylor #1989 (taylor's version) #1989tv #I’m off until tomorrow #this may turn ugly #stay safe people

[serotonjn]

Girly, you can’t say you’re having a daily existential crisis and then watch a Roy Anderson movie, for the love of God, please

#stay safe people #letterboxd

[steelwoolcardigan]

I think crime (or hurting people in general) would lessen if we'd have something more visual to prove the offense done.

Stabbed? Spurt glitter all over them.

Mentally abused? Puke glitter all over them.

Stressed? Cry glitter then hurl it towards the stressor rub that shit around the stressor.

Mark it like Faerie Fire.

Shimmer all over the nasty shit.

#this is so random what the fuck #stop hurting people wtf #what the hell is this post #stay safe people #nothing against shimmer #i love glitter

[takemetoasummereve]

Dating loser men will set you back like 10 years

#stay safe people

[stuckinapril]

friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me

#It’s just so different #even though it’s public it still feels secret and safe. i feel comfy sharing a lot more on here than I do in my actual day to day life lol #in my head I’m also just speaking to myself 90% of the time which helps #if a friend off tumblr saw my thoughts I’d feel so weird ab it #esp bc they might get the vagueposting about certain situations and tell mutual friends #no thank u. this is for me. I’m not about to start censoring my thoughts bc someone I know knows my tumblr #u guys literally saw me have LIVE BREAKDOWNS #meanwhile I’ll have the worst fucking day in history and tell no one about it. I’m already cripplingly private but way more so in real life #this is basically a low stress journaling outlet for me. it’s so important for me to maintain the separation #like this is actually my diary & has been so handy for letting out emotions / articulating thoughts / staying on track !! #& I’ve met so many kind people on here who actually get me. which is so hard to find irl bc I’m surrounded by pre-med gunners/overachievers #who are by standard not very good w emotion & can be competitive/judgmental. or at least it’s hard for me to be vulnerable in front of them #and I’m part of that crowd so I reserve my emotions only to a handful of very close friends #it’s nice to hop on here and express negative emotions!! or positive emotions!! just whatever I want and it’s low stress and people get me #I don’t have to worry about judgment or competitiveness etc etc #like everyone on here is so kind & nice & understanding. & just a breath of fresh air from the types I run w. it’s just nice to have this #so idk that’s why I think I’ll always be strict about keeping the worlds separate. it just works #p

[uncanny-tranny]

Little things adults and older people can do to help younger people and children feel included, safe, and respected as an equal individual:

Ask before touching the young person - even for hugs. Ask before you take pictures of them, and let them see photographs of them before they are printed or sent to others (even family).

Apologize when you are wrong

Ask for a young persons thoughts on a subject, then engage with them after they have spoken

Demonstrate behaviour you want to see from them (see: apologizing). Say "excuse me," say "thank you," say "please" to them

Validate their feelings, even if they don't know how to express them just yet

Remember that this is the first time they've been alive, and that you've had way longer to "figure it out"

These are some things I wish other adults remembered when engaging with young folks. We so often forget what childhood felt like and how unfair it all was because we were often awarded freedoms as adults that we never had as children. These kids are equal to adults, and they deserve the same courtesy, respect, kindness, and understanding we give to other adults.

#youth liberation #the first point was something i had SO many struggles with #i would have breakdowns because i was scared my picture would be taken without my consent then shared to others #i took a picture of my younger brother with his permission and i let him decide if i could send it to our dad... #...because it felt so scary when people did that without my consent and i would NEVER want him to ever EVER feel that because of ME... #...and it turned out that we had a really positive engagement and he was happy and excited with the picture! because he was informed! #and i think that made him really happy and brought us closer because he felt safe because he knew he was respected as a human being #that stays in my head a lot. i want him to never ever feel how i did as a child. he is such a cool kid :)

[nelkcats]

The Fenton "Boor"

The Fentons have always been famous for their legal sale of weapons, usually based on ectoplasm and used to hunt ghosts. That's where they got most of their funds, whether it was to finance new inventions, their laboratory, or their children's education.

The problem began when they found out that Phantom was their son. Because of that revelation they accepted that they couldn't continue on the "weapon creator" path, how could they continue to create and sell weapons that help hunt down their baby? Even if they didn't trust all the ghosts Danny changed their perspective of the Infinite Realms and they were more or less at peace.

That is why they debated for hours on what to do to make money again, until they noticed something curious: Most of the people in Amity couldn't get drunk. It was a silly thing to focus on, but thanks to a quick investigation they noticed that after the portal opened no one had made it.

That's the reason they created a new brand of beer "Boor", which affected both ghosts and humans contaminated with ectoplasm. Their business quickly became a success and the beer was exported elsewhere (with many care and prevention labels).

When Jason Todd noticed "Boor" on the shelf at the bar he frequented, he snorted. The beer had a small ghost on the bottle, which caught his attention, he ordered it out of curiosity and when the waiter told him that the brand claimed "the product was capable of making even the dead drunk" Jason almost laughed.

Big was his surprise the next day when he woke up on one of Gotham's rooftops with a severe hangover. He had at least 8 missed calls from Nightwing and a bottle with a cartoon ghost in his hand.

#dpxdc #The Fentons created a beer #Jack wanted to call it Fenton beer #Danny didn't agree with that #Boor is not better but it stayed like that #dp x dc #dc x dp #The product is safe for most humans #and extremely effective with people that died before #Jason is excited #he couldn't get drunk since his death #The JL is curious because it works on most of them #even Flash #The Fentons created the beer mostly because Danny was complaining about being unable to do most things normal people could do #like getting drunk #because of his half ghost metabolism #he was sad about that #His parents helped #Danny is older here #stil living in Amity tho #Jason will track the boor creators later