#sometimes its just nice to be validated

[dynamicduoofstackie]

Seb: *waxes poetically about how much he loves Mackie, how he is literally his comfort person that helps him open up*

Fandom: …

Seb: Makes one insta story about Chris

Fandom: IT’S TRUE LOVE RIGHT THERE. NOTHING ELSE TOPS THIS

Right! Those double-standards are ridiculous. Sebastian and Anthony could be making heart eyes at each other on and off screen the moment they see each other and they are friendship goals. Chris and Sebastian could literally wish each other happy birthday and suddenly the internet is planning their wedding.

But I'm so glad you get me.

#stackie #thank you for being a friend #sometimes its just nice to be validated #say it loud for those hoes in the back #stackie people unite #we are small but mighty #ship your ship #just stop trying to sink my ship #dem double standards though #sebastian stan #anthony mackie #anthony and sebastian #i stan stackie #fandoms in glass houses shouldnt throw stones #dont hate celebrate

[toxifoxx]

truly at the end of the day its all about receiving validation

#<- was having a lot of fun drawing fat william till he stopped to think about what other people might think #<- very important that people like him just as much as i do #<- incredibly important (i love him so much and his character is so much more nuanced than the fandom ever gives him credit for #and he already gets shat on way too often by people who don't understand what they're talking about) #truly the amount of hate based around him being a murderer is insane. Brother he's not a real life murderer. he's not going to #come out of the screen and hurt you #I NEED PEOPLE TO AT LEAST LIKE HIM A LITTLE BIT *bursts into tears* #and i need validation #and getting people to simp for him and think oh hes hot 😳 is one of the easier and more entertaining ways to get nice comments #what i lack in skill and talent i can make up for in character design and suggestive subtext right? #ugh #i dunno it feels like the only way to get people to say sometjing nice about my art sometimes #don't get me wrong i adore drawing him slutty but. ougggghhhhhh #hope it doesnt sound like im implying he's less attractive if hes fat personally i think hes hot as fuck #its mostly about stupid ass conventionally attractive shit #and also that people get bullied for portraying him fat... That too #anyways #im normal again now #toxi.txt

[lazaruspiss]

sometimes i complain about being a comic fan bc of like, dc being a garbage company, tumblrinas reinventing the same comic fan misogyny that gets prescribed to old men fans but when they do it its #woke bc they feel they have justifiable reasons and that is somehow something unique to them and not something shared by most misogynists, etc, etc

but the irl events and stores ive been to have been so great. it is still predominantly dudes but ive yet to have any of them show any difference in how they treat me despite me not fitting the typical demographic. it's just nerds happy to talk about nerd stuff with other nerds. i don't /talk/ to vendors selling me the thing i like in any other context, but with comics it becomes so easy that i hardly think about it. it's also lowkey helped with my fear of men, lol. also finding out that my comic preferences are actually agreed with by Real People who dedicate their time to comics is crazy. like u agree that the recent babs batgirl stuff is ableist?? and that shes been degraded to a shallow love interest?? oh wow, and other people think the n52 is bad too?? this is like cocaine to me.

and u guys are cool too i guess (joking)

#ramble tag #id make a joke about needing male validation but its more like #its just nice to talk face to face in a way that no amount of digital connection can replicate #thats why seeing ur internet friends in person is such a common fantasy yall #bc people like to be near people more than i think we realize sometimes

[moodlesmain]

Saotome Ranma and Fujioka Haruhi should be friends

#I think Haruhi’s takes on gender would genuinely help Ranma #Ranma: stuck in the internalised tramsphobia loop going wildly between ‘weehee turning into a girl is so fun!’ #and ‘I must rid myself of this curse and become a Real Man again!!!’ #Haruhi: literally could not care less what gender people percieve them as and actually thinks its kinda fun to confuse people #Ranma to Haruhi: ‘being mistaken for a boy all the time as a girl must be so insulting’ #Haruhi to Ranma: ‘lol not really i actually kinda like getting to be seen as both a boy and a girl :)’ #‘must be nice to get to transform like you do! would sure make my life easier if i could choose to have a boy’s body sometimes’ #Ranma’s brain would explode. No one has ever validated them this much #sorry Ouran was my very first anime and im currently binging Ranma and wow!! i love genderqueer anime protagonists so much #ouran high school host club #ohshc #ranma 1/2 #also yes i wrote their names surname first. It just feels more right to do that with anime characters

[cecenyss]

My parents are angry. They lose their temper quickly and get ahold of it just as fast. They’re not violent—not towards people, anyway.

Quick bouts of rage come and go so fast it gives me whiplash. My mom will grit her teeth in an angry burst and apologize in the same breath. My dad slams cabinets and swears like a sailor and then turns and says “sweetie?” like nothing is wrong within seconds.

But the apology is said like a chore, the endearment sounds like a threat. I know that they’re not, because I know my parents. I know their mannerisms, I’ve memorized their moods. I can read them as easily as myself.

Those kinds of things are characteristics displayed in abused characters, and I wonder what it says about me that I know my life is good but I still show them. I know they’re not perfect, because nobody is; sometimes I despair over what they could have done better and how much more I’d love myself if they had. But despite that, they don’t hurt me. There’s no malice, and they don’t even realize when I’m in pain.

And yet I fear them. Fear doesn’t come from violence. I know that. But they’re not manipulative, they’re not unloving, they’re not malicious. They love me, and they tell me. Not just when they want something, just when they see me. We’re very big on physical affection, and we talk freely. I roll my eyes and tell them to shut up and they laugh.

And yet I fear them.

My dad snaps and swears loudly about how my mother is a pain. He never threatens me. I don’t think he even processes that he’s saying this to his teenage daughter; he’s venting. And there’s nothing wrong with that that I can think of. Expressing your emotions freely is healthy. But I say thank you more than I would, I don’t talk as much, I don’t crack as many jokes. I stay quiet and talk when I need to. I do what I’m told. I’m scared. I don’t know if I’m scared of hurting him or of him hurting me.

My mom ignores me when she’s doing something, and when I repeat a clarifying question she tells me I need to leave her alone so she can do it. But other times she’s focusing and I leave her alone and she asks if I’m going to help her or not, or if I’m going to just stand there? Sure, the situations are different, but I don’t know what makes one something I should help with or ignore. And if I try to ask, like sometimes do, she says I’m being silly and I should know. I stay quiet and do nothing so I’m not just goofing off; I sit there and watch her in case she tries to ask me something, and I try not to tense. I’m scared.

I don’t know if this is normal or bad. I never had chores; is that neglect or lenience? I don’t know how to clean or do laundry or cook; is that a failure on their part or on mine? Sometimes I’m asked questions in school about where I live and I know my address but I know it like something I’ve memorized, not the actual meanings of the letters and numbers of the streets and where they are and what’s next to them. Is that because I was never taught or because I never paid attention?

Parents aren’t meant to just hold their child through every single life experience. I know that. Sometimes kids are just lazy and it’s their own fault for not trying. But I don’t know which it is. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong or they are. Am I just playing the victim or should they have done better? I know that in the past few years I’ve rejected all attempts by them to do anything, because of depression. Am I responsible for what I’ve missed out on because of it? Am I meant to fix it now? I’m better, but not healed. I still need help, but I’m at an age where I’m meant to be independent. But I can’t. I just can’t.

I love my parents, but I resent them. Am I wrong for resenting them? Do I have nothing to complain about? Am I just being dramatic? I haven’t spoken with them about any of this because I’m scared; is it my own fault I haven’t tried to confront them? When things don’t improve should I blame myself for not pursuing change?

It feels like my mother holds my hand through everything I do. Is that my fault for not being more independent? Is it hers for being too indulgent? Is it both of ours? How does it get fixed if neither of us are going to change? I’m too scared to take any independence because it feels like there’s too much and I feel like I’m constantly on the brink of collapsing, but she’s too complacent.

She’s always complacent. I ask her for things and she promises them so I stop asking and then it never happens and I complain and she says that I stopped asking but she promised but never does it. She doesn’t do anything. Nothing ever changes. My father barely knows what goes on in my personal life.

But they are good parents. They don’t do anything wrong. But I’ve just said things they do wrong. But they mean well, so how can I blame them? I say nothing, so aren’t I just complacent? But I’m scared. Am I allowed to be scared? To do nothing because of fear?

A lot of my friends have actual serious parental issues. Several of them have dead parents. How can I complain about my problems when they have so many actual, active problems? I have a hard enough time opening up about actual problems I deal with that are serious but this one is so mundane and might not even be a problem at all. I can ignore it if I don’t think about it but when I do think about it I want to cry because I hate it so so much.

I started this wanting to make a point about how anger doesn’t have to be violent to hurt someone, but now I’m just venting.

Whenever I take on a new responsibility or activity or anything, it takes over everything. I stress about it all the time, I double think how I do it and what I’m supposed to do and excuses I have for why I did it this specific way if someone asks and how I’m going to explain every single little action and it’s so exhausting. How can I expect myself to deal with the processes my mom does for me when I’m barely holding on with the things I do now? I double think everything. I think I’m doing better but I feel like I’m inching forward.

I don’t bring up suspicions about having autism with my psychiatrist because I’m scared of being wrong or being right or how my parents or cousins or aunts or anybody will react if it’s true or if it’s not true and they found out I thought it was and every single possible change is so exhausting to even think about.

I tell my mom I want to go home while we’re sitting on the couch in the apartment that they’ve lived in since before I was born. I am home, but I don’t feel like it. I never do. I want to be safe, I want to stop thinking, I want to not stress, but it’s so ingrained in how I live and act that I don’t even notice it until I hyper focus on my life and what happens so much it hurts.

She tells me she hates it when I say that. We are home. I can only tell her I want to go home when we aren’t there because that’s the only time she’ll comfort me. “I hate when you say that. We are home. What do you even mean? Stop saying that. It’s annoying. I hate it. I hate it.”

She knows I’m depressed and I have anxiety. I have meds now, and it helps. But sometimes I relapse and I fall into this pit of pain and depression and I can’t tell her, I can’t, because I know that she thinks that I’m better now, I’m good, I can deal with it, because the problem is the chemicals in my mind and the meds help with that. But it’s not just that. I hate my life, I hate everything, I hate myself, I hate her. But I love her. That would hurt her. She would cry. I hate it when my mother cries.

I’m sitting in a rental car crying because I’m depressed and my father is right in front of me. He hasn’t noticed and I doubt he will. When we pick up my mother she might notice my dried tears, and I’ll tell her it’s a sad fanfiction. She’ll believe me. They both will.

I want to go home.

#I don’t feel entirely comfortable posting thiz #but I’m going to anyway #because sometimes you just need to get your emotions out there #this reads like poetry in some parts and just venting in others #tw: depression #tw: vent #venting #vent post #parents #I hate that this half feels like a writing piece #can I only express myself in poetry and in writing? am I nothing more than feelings to be recorded in pretty words? #I don’t like being candid with my feelings because it’s easier to phrase it artistically #my emotions are only valid if they sound nice on paper #my dad keeps pointing out things as he drives #I think he just had a child to have someone to tell things (bc he’s such a nerd /aff) #which is sweet but also not #but no reason for existing will ever feel good #because ultimately it all boils down to they wanted me to fulfill something for them #and I just want to live for me #times like this Catholicism really appeals to me on its base level #because they say God created us because he loved us and wanted us to live. so it’s right to live for me #just for me #but the idea of someone (God or not) being so selfless in their creation of a person or in general is so unrealistic #tw: long post

[1o1percentmilk]

whew that felt good to get off my chest even if it doesn't really matter to anyone besides me

#i have been thinking about that for a while but it was really hard to explain/find resources for #still its nice to explain myself sometimes and why i don't think of myself as ace even if i am #sorry i know i have kinda controversial views on my gender and sex stuff personally i think other people are valid in whatever #labels they choose #it's just me and my stuff that i kinda do mental gymnastics around to get around a number of mental barriers #(i need to work on those) #milk (normal)

[sharkneto]

How long do you think it should take between chapter uploads on Ao3?

As long as the author needs

#if i have a whole long fic written out i like to have something come out ~once a week #people don't have to wait too long between chapters and i get a steady drip of Validation lol #but thats not always the case - life happens. things have to be written and sometimes they dont cooperate #so that week is sometimes two sometimes a month sometimes three #and sometimes its a year or more for people #it's nice when fast chapters happen but fanfic writers are doing this for free and sometimes things just get in the way #pro tip? if youre missing a fic and it hasnt updated in a while and youre craving new content? #comment on it. #not a ''loved this when's the next chapter comin?'' comment #but write something you liked from the chapter - a moment some dialogue the feelings some part made you feel #if an author is struggling to finish something that little reminder that people like it and *why* can be *huge* #as time stretches on and interactions slow to a trickle it's really easy to get disheartened about finishing #''no one is reading it anyway its been so long I'm not good at writing anymore i dont remember what i was doing with this'' #so give your favorite authors some specific love and that might just kick things into gear #idc if its been a month or three years - i almost guarantee the author will still get your love even if its been years #and you don't know what their life is like - maybe that comment is just what they need to sit down and finish it up #sharkneto speaks #ask response #ficblogging

[seiwas]

the writer of one of the fics i commented on replied to me expressing just how happy my lil tags and comments made them and how much it meant to them to get a response like that and i just!!! my heart!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺

#i normally write rlly long tags and comments and i love it!! i rlly truly do!! but it takes time and sometimes i feel bad that i dont get #to fics fast enuf bc of it 🥺 sometimes some comments/tags are rushed (and i feel bad for that too) and i get tired (feel bad for this too) #but this just!! reminded me so much of why i do it in the first place 🥺🥺 bc idk!! its just so nice!! contributing to smth that makes ppl #feel good!! validated!! uplifted!! complimented!! iDK!! #anyway the point is 🥺 i love leaving long tags and comments and i might be a lil slow w reblogging fics bc of it but i will get to it!!!! #i talked so much again

[superchat]

Hey fathör. Genuine question. How do you get like okay with the idea of like "it's better if I'm alone"? Cause I really resonated with some of the posts you've made talking about that but like the idea of being alone also kinda makes me scared. Like how do you get over that feeling?

uhmmmmmmm, im not the best person to ask cuz i have Problems and have had zero therapy in my life. im on no medications and have no diagnosis i am confident in saying i have, other than general depression but even then i dont know the extant that i have it, or the ways i feel it or deal with it.

generally the feeling doesnt go away. for me itts an unhealthy battle of "will my selfishness win or my will?" cuz its always conflicting feelings of "i dont think i should be friends with ppl cuz i can be shitty and im not mature enough for them" vs. "i am lonely and want to talk and connect with ppl" and eventually my selfishness wins and i start talking to ppl again even tho i cant justify itt to myself so

ive always been kind of a solitary person, or someone who enjoys their alone time. over the years its gotten more? worse?

humhumhum i noticed a ttrend over time where i like. get in like, a better mood and then act like an ass in some way or another and that will knock down my self esteem and stuff

last year was very eventful in a lot of bad ways and after it ive had enough things settle in my head that its okay to stay away from others for my own good as well as theirs. i kind of live in a constant "i dont think im being a good enough friend" while also feeling very exhausted as if im doing a lot but like really, im not. after many months this is still the case so i think itts just the new standard for me

#a lot of times i am just a bad person and at the same time i have a hard time coping with that #i do want to be honest with who i am and not being a shitty denial manchild #i remember when anon would like. be so very exciting and make my heart rush cuz its like! someone wants to talk! or say hi! or w/e! #but lol after last year they just kind of hrm #sometimes dread fills me when i see one cuz im like ''what did i do now'' #or sometimes indifferent. if anons ever compliment me now and im like :| #nott to be rude to whoever compliments me cuz its very nice of them but also i just #dont feel much with it. like tyvm i recongize its a nice thing youre doing and i want you to feel validated in that #anways #is 1am thoughts #anon #asks

[felidaefatigue]

femme adjacent of anykind people with lower or rumbly, like just deeper in your chest relaxed voices make me so warm n fuzzy bless each and every one.

#including myself because one time someone ranked me as lowest of all the fems in the room and i was like hahA WHAT i didnt know this #would be validating bUT IT SURE AS FUCK IS #prompted by finding out kaylee from firefly which i only just watched is canadian and on tiktok #and shes got a rounder chest voice despite being varied into high sometimes too and its nice

[cyancherub]

Hi, do you have any advice for getting over a breakup? I just had my first one (at 23 ugh) and I’m feeling kind of pathetic and like I won’t ever experience real love

my dearly beloved!! i feel for you so much. when my ex broke up with me a couple months ago i was probably at one of the lowest points in my life. that was a 7+ year relationship. he was my best friend. i thought i was going to marry him, have kids with him, be with him forever. so losing that probably hurt more than anything i'd ever experienced. it hurt like fucking hell and it left me feeling more empty and worthless than i'd ever felt in my life. 

BUT!!! I PROMISE that you are so much stronger than you know. you will be so surprised at the resilience you have. i actually feel stronger now than i have in a very long time. i realized that i was too dependent on my ex and that was making me lose touch with who i was if that makes sense? so i took it as an opportunity to get to know myself.

you’re going to feel like laying down and doing nothing and being miserable over this loss. and you CAN!! you should allow yourself a period to grieve, because you’ve lost a significant part of your life. and grieving is going to HURT,, but something i’ve learned in therapy which always helps me in times of heightened emotion is that no intense feeling lasts forever. hurt comes in waves. let yourself feel it, let it pass. some days will be harder than others. 

BUT!!! don’t let yourself wallow in these feelings. opposite action is an effective technique to handle depression and anxiety. (i know this because it’s something i use to manage MDD and GAD LKDFKL.) opposite action will help you get over a breakup. what this means is - the sooner you GET UP and start doing things, the sooner you’ll feel better. you have to pick yourself up, because no one's going to do it for you. it's HARD. some days are better than others. some days you’ll feel fucking miserable. but it’s an upward trend. the pain won’t last forever. you’ll be happy again. you’ll find joy - whether it’s in other people, or other things, or yourself.

stay busy!! not to distract yourself from the pain, but to find new things that make you happy. i forced myself to apply to jobs after the breakup and i ended up getting a new job that i REALLY like.

some of the other things that helped me cope - 

reach out to the people who love you. after losing someone important, you’re going to feel lonely and isolated. but you’re not alone. there are many people who care deeply for you. family and friends will be there for you. you can take this time to strengthen your relationships with people who are important to you. make new memories with them!!

focus on yourself. you don’t have to worry about what anyone else is doing. you can pour all your time and energy now into yourself. that is so, so liberating. your time on this earth is limited. valuable. use it for things you care about!! you can pick up old hobbies you haven’t had time for. you can start something you’ve always wanted to do. do things to better yourself. whether that’s moving forward in a creative pursuit, or in your career, or in school, or physically - invest your time and energy in yourself. at the end of the day, life is full of loss. people will come in and out of your life without explanation or warning. the only person you are guaranteed to have until the day you die is you. so be strong and work to be a person you are proud of. love yourself!!! i know it’s trite to say but in times like this it's important to nurture and treat yourself with kindness.

this isn’t a setback. it’s a natural part of life. if you take it as an opportunity to grow, you’re going to come out a better person. every relationship and every person in your life has taught you something. don’t fixate on the negatives - appreciate the good times that you had, appreciate everything that person taught you, and accept that that phase of your life is over.

let it go. let that part of you die. move forward, and you’ll come back stronger.

#cherub.mail #cherub.anon #it's going to be okay I PROMISE #im here for you if you need to talk #i miss my ex terribly sometimes and i miss the good times but it was necessary for me to grow as a person #dont look back dont ruminate on the past just keep moving forward #happy times await u !!! #something that also helps if u rely on external validation like me is just.. go see other ppl!!!! u will realize that person was not the / #only person in the world #who u could have a connection with #and its also rly fucking nice to see that ppl want u LMAO #also this is so random but just go outside and sit in the sun LOL #it helps

[forbiddennhoney]

struggling very hard to feel connected to my femme identity and feeling big grief about that

#like idk #theres so many complex feelings and shit involved #but like i cannot deny that the femme community by and large equating the femme experience and struggle #to that of someone who is thin and on some level attractive is really fucking w me mentally #cause its like when there's femme positivity in general i cant relate #cause when its general femme positivity it focuses on validating queerness - but mine is never invalidated because ive always been Other #when its fat femme positivity its usually describing someone with a body still smaller than mine or only talks about rolls and tummies bein #good and often times the default in those is WHITE fat femmes #general positivity for femmes of color feels nice tbh #but even then i dont feel femme enough because femmes are always talking about being hyperfeminine and subverting femininity #and as someone who has never really quite fit in any manner hyperfemininity for me ends up being simply just wearing a dress #the amount of vitriol i get for just wearing a dress #hell even just a skirt #idk there's so much wrapped into these feelings and it feels liek the only ppl who ever understand are fat brown femmes who were also #masculinized/othered from the start and remain othered for the most part #which is such a small fraction of ppl ive met irl bc a lot of ppl like me usually just hide #and i get it #i do it too #its just hard to connect sometimes because i Know im femme but when the acknowledgement of femme existence centers mostly on the femmes who #are closest to the default......

[riftwalker-limbro]

a take about something adjacent to this floated around yesterday but i didn't have the spoons to reblog it then and my brain generated this today so

happy that verica popped up completely irrelevant to any other plot i had going on. the romance between her & vince is just about the least focused thing in my story. which gives me the opportunity to be as silly with it as i like. and it gets on my ass about making her a fully fledged character bc these brainworms of mine suffer heavily from vince favouritism.

but i can already somewhat tell that she's probably gonna become pretty high up in the favourites ranking as well. as much as i have in common with vince on an interests level, there is more with verica, and the things i have in common with her i've explored through writing much less so far, so that's gonna be a Journey of (Self) Discovery again i'm sure. and the few character traits i have in stone for her are already looking pretty interesting too, again mostly to play well with vince's own, but i want to add more to make her more unique and alive still too.

mmm gonna be fun

#character development my absolute beloved #rift noises #see just how little their relationship matters to her overall character? #i meant to make a post about that #but she derailed it #as she should #the post i referenced at first made a point to showcase like #sometimes people write a romance to write a romance but the story is really then all about the romance #and the book ends when the will they/wont they is resolved or smth #with her and vince it is literally in the past and also the start and i would fucking love to write the before times as well #but its just another character dynamic #one with lots of potential for juice but no more or less valid than any other ties we have going on #ace spec and proud. let me inflict the love of chosen family upon you all #MY BRAIN KEEPS DERAILING #i've also written those stories where romance is the be all end all goal and it feels Awkward to write more after that #which is perfectly fine when that's your goal!! it's fun and nice to have!! #it's just interesting to me that this sprouted up and immediately said 'props to those but im gonna be different' #and i am super interested to see where it will take me #that is a lot of rift noises. im gonna go back to work

[guinevereslancelot]

shoutout to girls who can't drive

#working on it but at what cost 😭 #i need a job that pays money instead of costing money tho to fund my job that costs money until it starts paying money someday 😔 #spending so much money i dont have right now on it 😬 #almost my entire savings went to trees for this spring and then i have to plant 700 by myself <3 #and we're renting sheep to restore one of our fields and just everything else to get ready is really adding up i really need some income #hopefully i can get away with part time tho bc there's so much work to do at home lol #im doing a pumpkin patch and a sunflower field this year too #and if i can scrape together 500 dollars im going to get a decent starter camera for funzies and also to take nice pics for the website #bc its very pretty but hard to capture on my phone #anyway if u cant drive u are smart you are valid you are capable you can succeed #anyway i know cars are evil etc but i live in a rural area w no public transportation of any kind and rn im relying on my mom lol #i do drive short distances with my dad in the car bc his driving is terrifying #but anxiety 😬 #there's a place im hoping i can work that's not too far i think i can handle the driving its just getting a license that's stressful #anyway @ girls who can't drive i believe in you <3 #this has been a shitpost #my mom would sometimes drive me to freelance stuff thats how i have savings but i really hate to bother her driving me everywhere #so i really want to be able to drive myself to a regular job lol

[the-chattering-tower]

Honestly the fact that i so happily jumped into making another accent so soon after the previous one really shows that the Issue with Making Skins doesn't lie in the skinmaking itself but rather the approval system

#and its a damn shame bc im having FUN #its nice to work on things sometimes that arent full independent artworks #and also on things that actually get a bit of attention and validation #kata's chatter #hi im once again thinking about how badly the skin approval system needs an overhaul #rules that are murky at best and a truly pitifully low level of qol/automation #and all of the workload falling onto two ppl about it #im just. man. has the skin system ever received an update at all

[thunderboltage]

unpopular opinion (apparently): i love all of the attention and love my writing gets and could never really be bothered much that it only gets likes or that people comment what they wanna?

#i do wanna point out that i get it - its always to have people reblog your stuff cause it definitely helps with visibility and such #but i cannot find it within myself to tell people DONT BOTHER because they dont?? #im blessed to even get 1 like on the silly stuff i put out there lol #i just find it so rude and a good way to dissuade people from wanting to engage at all #im doing better when it comes to commenting - whether here or ao3 - but sometimes likes/kudos are kinda just themost convenient atm #until i can find that one post addressing this i just felt the need to say it here - but i def wanna reblog it over yonder as well #its just like...man..yeah validation is nice but do you for YOU #i personally enjoy constructive criticism so yes please tell me how to improve but i also enjoy knowing you simply liked what you read <3 #something something algorithm something something empty accounts - cant really do anything about them and they dont bother me lol #i just felt the need to vent a lil bit about this - i get what people are saying but whoa it comes across very rude and mean #and now i dont want to even interact with you lol because you came across waaaay to strongly about something that wasn't that deep #anyways i should go to bed its 6 am #ami sez