#silver bridges

[faithfromanewperspective]

coming to the realisation that we generally don't know what to do as a society when artists share hard experiences in their songs. the fans being a little parasocial and dramatic about it? that's how fandom works when you see yourself in it like. a lot a lot. the pity? ends up coming usually from new fans who see the fans' reaction from the outside, know nothing about the artist to be able to place it in their life and what they've been through (and are thus caught off guard) and react to their first encounter with said art. no one actually wants to be pitied, they just want to be honest. and we're so used to a society of faking being fine that honesty, even about completely normal (and yet stigmatised) things sounds dramatic. feels uncomfortable. does this sound familiar? parents when their child tells them what they're going through either going 'it's not that bad everyone experiences that' or I Must Fix It And Fix It ASAP.

like I know it feels uncomfortable at first. but you can just sit there and be like 'cool, this person went through something that vaguely inspired them to make this emotional art. something that surely less talented and creative people go through every day.' and then you can see the reaction of some fans and be like 'they either relate or they care about this artist really dramatically' and decide if this is something you want to get in on or just let it by and go find the kind of entertainment you enjoy. go through the world being kind to others and yourself because there are people out there going through things you don't need to know about and sometimes the best thing you can do is care for yourself so you don't get bitter.

and i'm not here to tell you there isn't a place and time for criticisms, but when you get close to policing how dramatically someone expresses their emotions and how publicly they share the processing of their experience? that's when it's time to look at yourself. go 'is it really harming anyone or might it possibly be helping?' and when you do, remember, there's no 'taking away from real victims' if it's art made for real victims or whoever wants to to insert their own story into it. which most art is!! and 99% of the time when people make it about something in the artist's life? that's the fandom. fans get a bit parasocial! they get an attachment to the artist and end up knowing a lot of their personal details. which no one else has to.

but invalidating people's experience doesn't actually help anyone. you probably had it happen to you before. it probably helped you put together a framework in your head of what you are and aren't allowed to feel upset over. and i ask you: does this framework help you? or does it just leave you frustrated? you can throw it away you know. of course you don't have to be emotional publicly but you can validate what actually hurts you for yourself. you'll feel freer and more equipped to deal with trauma and handle other people's emotions when you do.

and as for whatever someone else might be going through or not? you don't need to validate it either, to take the authority to do either of those things. it's likely you'll never know all the details unless it's someone you're very close with. in fact, sometimes when you hear things there is misunderstanding of information!! such as if it is something someone said once and then changed their mind about later, but you only hear the first statement that went viral and another thing they did years and years later with everything in between missing that frankly, doesn't make sense with the previous thing. I feel like I've noticed people treating anyone we don't personally interact with (yet because of culture end up hearing about anyway) a similar way that it's still acceptable to treat children. and neither is helpful. the person who probably needs to heal is you, and that's okay! we're pretty much all in that boat, and it's a pretty good boat to be in.

#yes i am talking about taylor swift btw #and the interesting reactions i've seen to ttpd #which are like. not completely invalid but also built on assumptions that we get certain social rules around things we don't #and a quote taken from literally 13 years ago with all the growth in the time in between missing #but also from the number of people i've known listening to wfttwtaf for the first time too just absolutely freaking out #and it's like. reactions of any kind only really become bad when they reach the artist and they are not nice to them #otherwise they're pretty much just neutral and it's good to acknowledge that and understand why your brain goes there #silver bridges #the tortured poets department #unpacking this also helps with-> #neurodivergent liberation

[edge-oftheworld]

“yknow as a fandom I think we could do a better job of appreciating Sierra Deaton”

No just have less appreciating Sierra cause she’s been anti-black, a creep towards fans, invalidated a 5sos fan’s mental health because they’re a fan, trauma dumped on young fans and overshared, slut shamed Ashton, and so on and so forth

hey anon!! Thanks for this concise little list. But seriously, thanks for making me think and pull together a bunch of ideas in my head; I hope in this essay really you can see some of my thought process. I can’t imagine how hard it’d be to be reaching out with something really hard and expect compassion and get a negative interaction instead—if that was you or whoever it is I hope they’re doing better and finding community and people who care. And I don’t want to pretend she’s perfect or has done everything right, we know that’s not how it is, Sierra knows that, Luke knows that, so does, idk, God.

and I’ll admit I’m a bit old fashioned when it comes to cancelling people and I do like to try and see the good in people where possible—sometimes imo it’s the only way to get any positive change. to look beyond the superficial where someone might lash out—is it in malice, or fear, a momentary impulse they might regret later or maybe realise for some reason were pushed to a point where they couldn’t manage anything better. I know I’ve been to that point and I know how I spiral if I don’t know how to forgive myself. I also know this is a fandom where shit gets real and we’re young and hurting and sometimes that just makes us defenceless against our idols and those around them being human, and the shitty side of human we all have potential to become too. And we live in an era of systemic racism and lack of access to mental health services which both causes and exacerbates so many issues that, was the world not so anti-black; had every mentally ill child and youth a support network in real life (instead of the way many of us often spend years only ever feeling seen by the songs we listen to, 5sos songs easily filling in that need)—we might be a little more able to be like ‘wtf that’s not cool but that’s a her problem’ and move on. and can I say we do deserve a world that doesn’t discriminate. And in order to get what we deserve we have to make it. and in order to make it we have to learn how to do better and let people learn to do better—these people aren’t going anywhere. somehow bad people have to turn into good people and yes in order to do that they have to be made accountable. Repentance is truly a beautiful thing; it’s also something that can’t happen when we feel scared and in our survival brain. When we feel like that we tend to easily get into us vs them and dig deeper into our (often wrong) convictions and that’s actually an evolutionary response to when we have to fight against predators; we don’t have time to think ‘but what if they’re actually in the right’ when we’re fighting for our lives.

and this isn’t the place to psychoanalyse Sierra. I don’t know exactly what goes on in her head, I don’t know if she’s sorry or even remembers these things but I do know the rift between her and fans has been quite heated and even scary at some points over the years. And maybe I have the privilege of never being someone who has been hurt by her to have grace for the fact that ‘gotta be nice to this fan they’re having an experience of a lifetime to be interacting with my partner and I’m gonna give the benefit of the doubt that they’re not one of the individuals in a sea of fans who all look identical to me sending me death threats’ is a hell of a lot to put your brain through every single day. If she (and it’s not if, we know she did) make mistakes. If there was too much trauma to hold and she put it out on the internet to cope in a season of her life. If the insecurity became jealousy of one of the most important people in her s/o’s life which became insults that were thrown around back in high school before everyone realised how uncool they were and tried to stop using them but they were still burned in their brains to come out on impulse (I actually have no idea how that specific event went down, or if there were one or multiple). I hope they sorted that out internally; I don’t know what else I can do but trust that it’s something they’re capable of doing and care for each other enough as a group of friends and songwriters to do.

I wanted to save the lateral racism example for last because I feel like everything above is kind of a metaphor for it, if you follow. I’m coming from a place where I’m southeast asian and part white living in a largely western country, so is Sierra, so I’m automatically going to see her as ‘like me’ (and can I say how rarely I get this kind of representation?) whereas if you’re black, or if you find your experience more relatable to blackness, then you’re going to experience this very differently. I can’t know your experience. I also know that asians can be brutal in this area: it’s the reason my childhood best friend hasn’t told her dad she got engaged to her partner nearly a year ago. Lateral racism isn’t okay. But unfortunately what happens is often when you’re discriminated against in some ways we’re conditioned to take the side of the oppressor against someone who’s discriminated against in other ways. It’s all ‘okay maybe I’m x and I should be y but at least I’m not z’ and again it’s that evolutionary survival instinct to not be at the bottom of the pile; channeled in horrible ways into today’s society. It takes a lot of effort and self awareness to be like ‘we’re united in this experience of being oppressed, together we have the power to make a stand that this is Not Cool’ and most of us fail the first few times. but what’s important is we keep trying. we can all heal together when we do.

so anon I have no idea who you are or your background or how much you’ve had to wrestle with this yourself, if you’ve had to stand up against communities who were hostile, if you’ve had to do this while being discriminated against from outside as well, if you know the experience of not fully being one race but not fully being another etc. and also you’ve got no obligation to like Sierra, this is such unsolicited advice but this whole release period for boy ep I’ve really just been thinking ‘it’s healthy to feel our feelings even when it’s not always pleasant isn’t it’ and wherever that hurt is please love it embrace it bring it into the light whatever you do to realise you’re valuable and you don’t have anything to be ashamed of. even your mistakes and where you’ve hurt people and regret that, you’re gonna grow so much from that and have so many chances to do better. maybe you’re young and you haven’t had the chance to hurt anyone yet. I hope you manage to stay that way but if you do, I hope you can forgive yourself too. I hope you dip your toes in activism for Black Lives Matter, for mental health, for sex positivity, I can see you really value these things and that’s really encouraging to see.

and in the end: sometimes I have to be annoyingly human and come down to the fact that I really enjoy the songs that Sierra writes. I’ve fanned enough about gothic summer on this blog already. I enjoy the things she writes and so I listen to them, and I’m not actively boycotting Sierra specifically, I love the creative outcomes when she works with 5sos as a whole, with Luke, with other artists I love as well. As a result I do care about her as a person, I always do, and hey, I respect her funny little routine donations and the undertones of her UNICEF donation back in October and the random animal sanctuary and the occasional nod to some Australian mental health charity.

I’ve inferred a lot about how much more relaxed and at ease and free to feel things and process life at his own pace Luke seems to be with her than beforehand—and the fan in me who’s so protective of these guys just desperately wants someone to be there for them in ways that really matter and I feel like we have seen that, even despite the often rocky nature of the relationship between Sierra and Luke’s fans. Luke is someone I relate to a lot, and there are some experiences that are really hard to come back from, and I’m really proud of him right now and I do get the impression being with Sierra has really helped him get there. I don’t know for sure, I could be wrong, but I’m always going to be grateful when celebrities get to be human and not have their lives and choices dictated by fans either directly or indirectly. I’ll take the allies I can in my activism and even if there are criticisms around sincerity I do generally see Sierra trying and I want to appreciate that. I don’t want to say she hasn’t hurt anyone ever and I pray for resolution and peace for the fans, for Ashton, for her, for the Black community in general, for everyone who’s been hurt in the wake of colonialism and the generational trauma it breeds. And then I’ll go listen to bloodline and think, maybe in some ways we were born inheriting the sins of our parents before we knew better. But every day I discover ways of choosing better and compassion takes us so far and I hope every day I learn a bit more about how to channel that.

thank you for the ask, it really got me thinking and the opportunity to compile some thoughts I’d had that I didn’t realise formed a neat little mindmap around Sierra as a case study!! Much more fun than regular sociology. And I didn’t even get to delve into the political history of Saigon that I’ve been trying to understand more about!!

#decolonisation ariel strikes again #doesn’t capture global racism and the impacts of power structures perfectly I know but it’s my best #and I feel like it needed to be said so. there’s so much art to creating a better world honestly #I hope the activist in you finds this essay satisfying #sierra deaton #luke hemmings #5sos #5 seconds of summer #ashton irwin #calum hood #michael clifford #sorry if the first paragraph comes across a bit bitchy I genuinely had no idea where to start #I think I get nicer as it goes on but hopefully it wasn’t bitchy to begin with but like. if it was that’s on me #should I have an asks tag?? I don’t think I get many on this blog #anyway don’t mind my sorting tags I use for my main idk if it even works to bring them here #silver bridges #decolonise #decolonisation #<-should check which one it is lol; if you saw this from the tag expecting a decolonisation post I hope this wasn’t too weird

[paeinovis]

Compiled this lil piece from solar filter I used during the eclipse and plants I grabbed from my friend's parents' yard in Arkansas (they have those cool helicopter seeds we don't have around Florida)! Included Jupiter and Venus symbols on two handheld filters since those planets were very visible during the eclipse, and bits of a cyanotype I did the day before! So all the components are directly related to the eclipse/general area I viewed it from :-)

#my art #i don't actually usually post my actual art here bksndjd but I kinda busted my butt and thought this was a very cool thing I did ! #text #eclipse #solar eclipse #the truth is out there #all of the inorganic materials are solar filter or cyanotype #(aside from glue lol) #the silver is the side that faces the sun - the black is what you look through! #and all the organic materials were from near eclipse path #i like the little red leaves which I grabbed bc I thought they looked cool but they ended up being neat as prominences too lol #anyway. inspo'd by exquisite creatures exhibit in crystal bridges AR bc the guy there uses bugs n plants n such in his art #also fuck leaves for use in art those little bitches fr . very annoying ! #probs my fault in part bc I'm too impatient to book dry them tho... I rly wanted to get this Out Of Me y'know? #i put that dandelion together by hand lmaooo #like reattached the seeds to the head . so I could glue em on somewhat and keep em kinda more in place #than how they were attached naturally

[k-i-l-l-e-r-b-e-e-6-9]

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#Type O Negative #I Don't Wanna Be Me #live in New York #Bridge Street Music Hall Syracuse (NY) #peter steele #Genre: Gothic/Doom Metal #Themes: Depression Death Relationships Love Dark humour #USA #peter #josh silver #live #my gif #gifs #gif #my edit

[cheollipop]

i was busy rewatching the mv like three times sorry but we know sounds fucking amazing im ascending

#panda.txt #gonna update the tags while i listen to avoid spamming lmao #HJ AND MINGIS RAPS KILLED ME BRO ISTG #EMERGENCY IS ALREADY HOT ASF #my ass is shaking on its own i swear #DRINK UP ONE MORE DRINK UP ONE MORE #MINGI SKJBRSKBKSN HONGJOONG FUCK #THE BRIDGE HELLO???? STFU THIS IS CRAZY #(intermission while i shake ass to crazy form again) #FUCK that beat is so sick #ARRIBA ALREADY SOUNDS SO CUNTY HOLY FUCK #SAN'S VOICE I WANNA DO THINGS TO HIM #SEONGHWA FUCKING HELL AND JONGHO LORD HAVE MERCY #SKRRT SKRRT IM DYING THIS IS GOLD #ARRIIIBBAAAAAA #stfu song mingi stfu right now SHUT UP OH MY GOD #the build up to the chorus is so fucking good im gonna commit a felony #SAN'S HIGH NOEETBKJJBGKAAKNGKNS NO ONE SPEAK TO ME THE RASP #ok this song will be my personality for the next three months tyvm #WOOYOUNG'S OPENINGIN SILVER LIGHT HELLO????????? NO #silver light is SUCH a driving song omg it's fucking beautiful #also a song i'd play while contemplating life but that could just be me #the instrumental is NASTY i love it oh my god #SING IT WOOYOUNG TELL EM AHHHHHHHHHHHHH #I LOVE THE LOW TONES SO FUCKING MUCH #my eyes rolled back at that last verse holy shit man waht the heck #my throat is dry my lips are cracked hands shaking pussy dri-*GUNSHOT* #im gonna take a quick break to break and come back for the second half bc holy FUCK that was intense and im drained #NO SKIPS #ok brb

[knifeforsale]

GAMBLER’S DELIGHT CHEESE KNIVES | LISTING

#butter knife #knife #multi #gambler #dice #cards #bridge #white #black #silver #red #blue #yellow

[onceandfuturewarlqck]

if merlin is blue and arthur is red, then merlin and arthur together are gold.

everything about merlin is blue. his kindness, his anger, his fear. they are the color of the sky and the depth of the ocean. merlin's mourning is a grey shade of dirty cerulean, his grief drips deep blue everywhere, falls from his cheekbones, from his lips. his sadness and his happiness are azul and they swirl, twin butterflies taking flight. pale blue is death and cyan is the relief of forgiveness and blue is the silent quiet. azure is healing and pain and gentleness and electric power. blue his unshaken faith and blue his loyalty, marked on his skin and bones. merlin is spring horizons, cloudless night, where the indigo almost turns black.

arthur is coated in red. blood red, frustration and annoyance red, his hands and his voice are full of it. arthur is the softest velvet, embracing with a shy yet bold love. red is his pride, weapon and shield, and adorned with rubies his protection. arthur is the heart that beats hard, he pumps blood in camelot, he is affection and pure passion. red is war and red is penitence. he is crimson courage, fearless because of his cherry honeyed love. a scarlet hued justice follows in his steps, beneath his trademark cloak. he is dusk and sunset and coming back home. he is summer hot and blazing midday.

merlin and arthur are blue and red but oh, together they are the most anciet shade of gold.

gold of magic and gold of camelot. gold the lining of arthur's cloak and heart, gold the brightness in merlin's eyes and soul. gold the tendrils that bind them together. gold the sun and the stars, which twinkle above them all, dancing to a silent tune. gold is the pendragon crest, and gold the eyes of dragon. gold is where the night meets the day, and gold is eternity, and gold is time outside of time, where the young and the legend live forever, untouched. gold the bridge, the door and the key. gold is life.

gold is memory and gold are the smiles that are shared.

gold the dawn when love is born and a new era begins for them all.

#i love my blue x red couples #but merlin and arthur together are gold and you wont fhange my mind #i also love when people are merlin being blue and silver while arthur is red and gold #but i think i love the idea of merlin and arthur being linked together #gold is the color of magic. merlin is magic and arthur is born of magic #magic is merlin and magic is also arthur #merlin's magic is for arthur but arthur's existence is for merlin as well #separate they are blue and red but together they are light #pure light #merthur fic in which something goes wrong in a spell or potion or whatever and whenever merlin and arthur touch the skin is color stained #gold is the bridge between merlin and arthur #merlin is night and arthur is day but gold is gentle down and they can meet there #for all their days and more #merlin #merlin bbc #merthur #arthur pendragon #merlin and arthur #i wrote this #colors #merlin ficlet #maybe #merlin headcanon

[ninelivesart]

I’m having a bit of an artist dilemma and I’m hoping someone might be able to help.

Every year my work does a pumpkin decorating contest (painted, not carved). And the prompt is always “Favorite book character.”

This year I thought it would be fun to do all the main SJM girls. I also bought a pack of acrylic paint pens just for my pumpkin.

However, I usually work digitally and wanted to draw up my designs digitally just to play it safe. Since you can’t really sketch on a pumpkin.

Now I’m stuck trying to figure out how to get the designs onto the pumpkin. Nothing I’ve tried so far has worked. I tried to decoupage the images but they just peeled right off. I then downloaded a paid app that’s supposed to superimpose your images over the camera. Great in theory. Didn’t work out for this particular project.

And now I’m back at square one. I considered the old pencil tracing technique but the designs are just too detailed and I know it won’t come out visible enough to be worth the effort.

The only other thing I’ve thought of is a projector. But since I have no plans to use it for tv, I don’t know what to look for. I still want something relatively affordable. But I’m not looking for something to project big images. The pumpkin is fairly small even for a pumpkin. I know I’ll probably use it for canvases. But I still don’t want to shell out the money for something unless I’m sure it’ll do what I want it to do. And we don’t really have a store here that I can go browse and talk to people.

Also I did consider a home made projector but to get it to do what I need, I’d have to buy so many supplies that I may as well just buy a real one.

So that’s where I’m at. I had this issue last year too and i ended up giving up just because nothing worked out. I’m hoping I can get at least one of these ladies on my pumpkin this year.

If you have any ideas or know of a good projector I can buy, I’d be really grateful.

#my art #ninelivesart #art #procreate #digital art #art 2023 #art dilemma #sjm #yes I’ve used some of these lines already before #Nesta is a full piece I already did #feyres is a redo of an old feyre drawing of mine #and aelin’s was a redo of my drawing of lara from the bridge kingdom #I thought she had the right energy and I’ve been going through a bit of an art block #Bryce’s is completely new though #anyway idk what else to do and I’m already frustrated #I only have about 2 weeks to finish it #last year I just gave up and turned my pumpkin into madame leota #I won 2nd place but we ended up not doing ranking beyond 1st #so I only won the knowledge that I won 2nd #also feyres dress is unfinished because I was going to cover it in silver stars or actual glitter

[vodkaandsnakes]

On this day, April 17, in Type O Negative history:

Type O Negative rested on this day.

The Brooklyn Bridge in 1978, courtesy of the Library of Congress.

#type o negative #peter steele #josh silver #kenny hickey #johnny kelly #heavy metal #goth #gothadelic #roadrunner records #vinland #brooklyn bridge #new york #brooklyn #sal abruscato

[giveamadeuschohisownmovie]

#tumblr polls #kieran duffy #lamar davis #junpei iori #dylan lenivy #silver the hedgehog #sam porter bridges #quiet mgsv #ivy valentine #kh kairi #mikan tsumiki #cassie cage #sakura kasugano #street fighter #mortal kombat #persona 3 #the quarry #soul calibur #metal gear solid #kingdom hearts #red dead redemption 2 #gta v #sonic the hedgehog #death stranding #danganronpa #gaming poll #lawyer

[s7ieben]

Mangata

lino paint on paper – linocut – 23 x 32 cm

Hard-to-translate words series 4/8 Mangata – Swedish word, means the silverish bridge from the reflection on the quietly undulating night water from the moon to your feet. Yakamoz in Turkish, ezüst híd in Hungarian.

S7IEBEN.art RedBubble

#art #black and white #full moon #lino paint #linocut #night #ocean #original art #sea #silver bridge #traditional art #water reflection #artists on tumblr

[faithfromanewperspective]

it’s been really great to see posts standing up for the dignity and autonomy of neurodivergents who don’t need the quantity/type of social connection that neuronormative assumptions consider to be essential. but I do also want to spare a thought for the neurodivergents who have higher connection needs or needs for a very specific kind of connection that isn’t readily available, who go around feeling lonely in groups of people despite being actually really well connected and having a lot of friends. people who might develop habits for seeking that attention that aren’t productive. people who learn to be empathetic and read everything they see in anyone around them for the slim hope that sometimes, just some of the time, it might become something to bond over. people who pour themselves out a lot socially and know how to give, how to make other people feel every kind of seen and heard and accepted the way they only wish others would do for them. some people need more connection, quality connection, to function and be healthy and that’s a valid need we deserve to have met.

#neurodivergent liberation #neurodivergence #silver bridges #this is me btw #pda profile #bpd #hpd #the little prince #or whatever that oscar wilde example is

[beanmaster-pika]

Me when I get into a new series or game: hello! where are the tragic brothers

#I AM NOTICING A PATTERN. #I don’t think this ever actually got me when I was younger but mdzs changed my brain chemistry #yunmeng bros rotted my brain. then ragbros filled in the empty spot. now it’s malleus and silver. #and like it’s specifically the closeness that gives way to diverging paths and direct conflict. #pika’s ramblings #THE BROKEN TRUST #THE RESIGNATION #I will say though that the tragedy has gotten potentially somewhat less with each one #wwx and jc may never speak again although I hold hope that over their long lifetimes they WILL try to patch things up #for their nephew’s sake if nothing else #but diluc and kaeya have been canonically starting to rebuild the bridge #malleus and silver’s conflict will probably end when malleus’s overblot does #ALTHOUGH THE TRAGEDY OF MALLEUS OUTLIVING HIS BABY BROTHER BY MILLENNIA WILL STILL BE THERE.

[suntails]

anyone that ever thought i was crazy for doing this pmv full color: i am two files from fully drawn. i. oughh. i've planned a rough schedule around my job and i am tentatively planning to post on friday 3/1. i can feel it in my BONES im so close to done

#hush catríona #'anyone that thought i was crazy' i say as if u were wrong. u weren't. i AM crazy. im just Also crazy enough to follow thru #the color script seeing the thumbs in my file is INSANE its so FUN. idk if ppl would be interested in a little behind the scenes thing? #i included a lil zip on gumroad the last time i made an animatic w my process and the first roughcut vid and some files. twas FUN #if ppl would be interested in that id be happy to put it together but its a lot of work if nobody wants it FGHJDK #i would like to thank neel and lettie specifically for helping me brainstorm at the very beginning to bridge the gaps #i would like to thank ell for allowing me to dump a MILLION BILLION wips in dms and for motivation and overall loveliness #i would like to thank kara and dove and sleepie for sitting in calls with me while i stream at desk prison at various points #i would like to thank my mom #i would like to thank silver twisted wonderland. i would like to thank the academy (night raven college). i would like to thank robin

[pottedplant53]

Silver has been my favourite character since I started playing almost a year ago, and it's taken me nine fucking months, the amount of time it takes to create a baby inside of you, to realise that this smug fucking narcoleptic hipster is wearing two belts. look at him. he's wearing two belts. i hate this fucking game god

#silver twst #twisted wonderland #honestly why the fuckity fuck is he dressed like this #sir you don't need two belts one is enough #i'm going to throw myself off a bridge because of this i hope you realise what you've done silver

[opmshitposts]

#opm #one punch man #saitama #king #silver fang #bomb #dr kuseno #fubuki #hellish blizzard #blizzard of hell #genos #no because fr would they not jump off a bridge if saitama jumped off a bridge