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orbleglorb · 2 months

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I would love to hear the aro essay if you want to write it actually

okay so i KNOW what post you're referencing but i cannot fucking find it. but it's about grollis and qais's qpp. btw you want to read the last best dream by waveridden so bad (although this deviates from that somewhat, it's what got me thinking about them)

the exact post was something along the lines of, "aro ppl can write aro characters in relationships but if an allo person wants to do that they need an essay explaining why." and i added tags along the lines of "i could write this essay about grollis and qais, even tho it's not really romantic." which is funny because i've realized now that i'm probably arospec. but anyway. then i got this ask and went "wow! i should do that" and then couldn't find the time and energy to dedicate to it. but today my body is forbidding me from doing anything that isn't laying in bed and thinking about blorbos so here we go.

grollis was formerly in a qpp with yusef fenestrate and a friend group (brokyo) with yusef, coolname galvanic, val hitherto, and gerund pantheocide. ze naturally grew apart from them, especially when they got shadowed in season 20, and fell into a weird in-between state where ze didn't definitively know where ze stood with anything or anyone. blaseball is going up in flames, hyr personal relationships are full of ambiguity, and it doesn't seem like anyone in the world has a clue what's going to happen next. grol has never handled not knowing things very well. ze's not really good at going with the flow, but ze has literally no other choice now.

qais dogwalker is the captain of the miami dale and, like, the party guy. im convinced they've never made a plan for anything. it's a good temperament to have with blaseball. after the death of their partner jenna, qais sort of lost interest in dating. they're arospec and feel romantic attraction very, very rarely. and, despite feeling aromantic attraction more frequently, they never really got over the whole watching-their-girlfriend-die-in-front-of-them thing. they're not afraid of being open or forming relationships, and have tons of friends and acquaintances, but in the back of their mind, becoming "a thing" with someone leads them into a disaster zone. one of them will die. it's happened with a ton of the big blaseball couples: allison and kichiro, tillman and declan, caligula lotus and beck whitney (that one they got to witness first hand, with cali dying the day after the dale got beck in the feedback). it seems like every other week, the tabloids are reporting on how so and so has died or been alternated or feedbacked to a different team and how it's affecting their relationship with their friend/partner/whatever. subconsciously (and somewhat consciously), qais has a superstition that once The Universe is aware that you have someone you really like, romantically or not, one of you is going to die. and, again, qais has a ton of close friends. but they're all, like, the same level of close. qais doesn't have a best friend. and it's not like they're particularly upset about any of this, but sometimes it hits them that it would be super cool to have a special someone(TM).

so grollis is in a state of trying very desperately to fight against the current, so to speak, when ze meets qais. well, ze has technically met qais plenty of times when they were playing games against each other. but back then, qais was like... a celebrity. and technically grollis is too, but ze doesn't think of it like that. the lift's fans don't even like grollis. qais seems to be universally liked. loved, even. qais talks to people easily, doesn't ever seem to get nervous, and is comfortable with being the center of attention or on the sidelines. qais has a smile that stretches ear to ear and laughs easily. qais loves being at big loud parties and acts like socializing is the easiest thing ever. grollis set foot on the party yacht once and left about ten minutes in, and that was one of the sensory friendly parties. grollis doesn't really hang out with the dale, mostly because ze doesn't care too much for a team centered on partying, but also because there's not many places to meet them that aren't a game or overstimulating. qais remembers grollis as a pitcher for the lift, and... that's pretty much it. they could recognize grollis, but they never spoke. until...

neither of them really remember why or how they started talking; they just kind of did. but, it was during season 21 party time (hosted by the seattle garages). grollis had just gotten out of the shadows and was feeling more disconnected from hyr friends than ever. qais, however, had a very uneventful* season and was pretty damn bored. qais noticed grollis's patchwork coat and came up to hyr to ask where they got it. grollis reponded by telling them ze made it, and they got into a conversation about making clothes, then fashion, then so on and so forth. eventually, one of them had to leave, and grollis had enough courage to ask for their phone number. they began hanging out fairly often, and grollis became well-known amongst the dale. conversely, grollis didn't really introduce qais to any of hyr teammates, and many of them didn't know much about qais, or that they were even friends until much later. but engine eberhardt, the one person grollis still felt somewhat close to, mostly because she refused to let them "sulk in solitude," got to know qais. as did val, who ran the beef wings stand qais frequented.

both of them share common interests in fashion, detective media, urban exploration, "bad" movies and books, movies and tv shows in general, and trying new foods.

now. this is all well and good. but what do they gain from being in a qpp? what does it add narratively? well.

first off, qais has to come face to face with that subconscious-ish superstition. although they know jenna's death affected them, they didn't realize how much it still influenced their everyday decisions. because of their (aromantic) (i cannot stess the nature of this relationship enough) (there's a capital D Difference between romantic attraction and aromantic attraction. no i don't know how it works) attraction to grollis, qais has to decide whether or not they're going to let that superstition continue to inform how they make relationships. here's someone that would love to be their Special Someone(TM), but they have to get over the fear that something bad will happen. and that fear takes the form of, like, beginning to ghost grollis a little -- not enough that it's obvious, but there's that danger of becoming too close, and then The Universe hears and strikes you dead. so qais takes longer to respond, or sometimes just doesn't. but with the help of the lazarus pit and supportive teammates, they get to process All Of That more and get back to normal with grollis.

secondly, grollis strikes me as the type of person who wants a special someone. whereas qais would be totally okay being single forever, grollis wants to have someone that's hyr go-to. ze like having someone to cuddle and kiss and talk about movies with. although ze don't want romance, per se, ze wants a partner. and! having a partner that's not only able to go with the flow, but able to do so excitedly, really helps grollis feel more comfortable not always having a plan, or knowing how ze feels.

however. grollis and qais cannot live together. they tried around season ß1 and just couldn't. grollis needs a home to be a private place of refuge, while qais needs a home to be a community center for all of their loved ones that's open any time they need. that's just inherently not compatible. so they live apart and see each other often.

*i assume it was an uneventful season. i can't find much on the blb wiki that suggests otherwise

i got really tired towards the end of this so i im posting and hoping it makes enough sense

#my bad if i messed up pronouns #grollis zephyr #qais dogwalker #qails #asks 4 sasha #blaseball (organizational)

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creepypastasomethingsomething · 1 year

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Can you write something queer platonic for Ticci Toby? I’m aromantic and don’t see a lot of love for qprs in the creepypasta spaces! If I have to be specific I’d say I want some fluffy content, but if you have anything else in mind I’m open to anything! Have a great day/night!

Got it, I hope this is good eough👍Have a good night/day yourself :)

BTW, this is set before Toby's story

(Platonic) Ticci Toby x GN! Aromantic! Reader

You sighed heavily once you stepped outside on the back of your porch, the big and bright moon shining like a night light down upon its surroundings. The air was freezing cold and the wind blew only slightly, but you still had a jacket to protect you, just in case. Your hair, if it was long enough, blew in the wind and you sighed in delight at the smell of rain, as it was going to start storming soon.

I really hope Toby comes before it starts raining... You thought as you tapped your foot on the concrete ground.

Tobias Rogers was one of your oldest and closest friends. The two of you met in Primary school, before he became homeschooled, and you both hit it off really well. The two of you became close and your family always said to each other, "Just wait until they're older, they're going to get married for sure."

Yeeeaaahhh, no.

That wasn't going to happen.

In your Freshman year of high school, you had a realization that you were Aromantic and didn't really want any romance after thinking about how you didn't have a romantic attraction to anyone. You were okay with this; that's just who are and how you liked it. Toby was supportive of you, and told you he himself was Aro-ace. You were happy since that was another thing the two of you had in common.

Your family.... didn't really get it.

"But, don't you want children? Or get married one day to a pretty man/woman?" They would say.

"I don't know yet." You would reply.

And yes, you didn't know if you wanted children yet. You didn't know if you wanted to get married since that never really crossed your mind. If you really liked someone and wanted to be with them for the rest of your life, then maybe. But you didn't have any romantic feelings for anyone at the moment.

You knew that people in the Aro community could date and have romantic relationships, you just didn't think you were one of them. Being single was something you liked; you don't have to worry about anniversaries, dates, getting your partner angry, cheating or breaking up.

Having friends, like Toby around sounded good to you.

"But the two of you would make such a cute couple!" a relative's voice said in your mind.

"You two are so close, you're basically dating at this point." Another said.

"Do you want to be lonely forever?"

"You'd make a great girl/boyfriend."

"I don't understand, how can you not like someone?"

"Hey."

You were brought out of your thoughts by Toby's voice and looked up to see him walk out of the back door, and come to sit with you on the porch's swing.

"Oh, hey."

"Um, your family seems, uh.. happy to see me."

"Yeah, shit, they think we're dating secretly even when I told them repeatedly that I don't want romance in my life."

"Well, good to see you again." He told you as you began to move your feet and push the swing.

"Good to see you too."

The two of you were quiet for a bit until he spoke up.

"Are you okay?"

"I don't know, a little upset, I guess? My family tried to set me up with some guy earlier today, and I just don't know what to respond with. It's good to have you around, or else I'll go crazy. You understand... What about you? What's going on?"

"Oh, nothing too bad. Frank's been arrested and Lyra's at her friends. My mom has been drinking lately and getting drunk and... getting violent."

"Oh. Sorry."

"It's okay. I know you have my back, and going to your place beats staying at home in my room all day."

Toby smiled lightly and put his hand on top of yours. You smiled back and the two of you looked at the stars and moon together as you held hands.

You were lucky to have him as a friend.

#Creepypasta #creppypasta x reader #x reader #Ticci Toby #Toby Rogers #Ticci Toby x reader #Toby rogers x reader #Aromantic

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genderqueerdykes · 1 year

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hello, i’ve 100% now realize after a two year journey that i am aro. but idk, i want to be more open about it to my irl friends, just like with my lesbianism, but i’m afraid that people will make arophobic comments or just straight out deny it in front of me. i’m always asked, “do you have a special someone/crush/etc?” and im afraid that if i say no, then ppl will go “oh but everyone has a someone!” the casual arophobic bs like that. i also only have interests in qpp and possibly short term relationships, and i just hate how so much of the people around me except me to be this perfect partner for a potential romantic relationship. also i call myself more grey-romantic because i still want to experience what being in a romantic relationship feels like, despite the fact that i dont feel romantic attraction. kinda like wanting to go on a roller coaster but your afraid of heights. if you get what i mean.

i at least have a group of supportive online friends who get what i am (and are also aro lol)

felt. just. oughhhh, hit me right in the feelings

i'm glad that you've realized who you are, and have a group of online friends who get you for who you are (and are also aro lol). i get that fear because people just make a bunch of assumptions or accuse you off the walls stuff. it's weird because like... idk i've tried to be in romantic relationships and i always, always burn out on the kisses, cuddling, using pet names, being mushy, etc. very quickly. i can do it at first because it makes the other person happy but i always burn out and wish i didn't have to do it anymore after a few months into the relationship, and i don' tthink that's fair for me to keep doing to people who Like romance. i just don't though it's tedious and very uncomfortable for me as an autistic traumatized person. i don't like being touched that much, especially not light touches. makes my skin crawl. but again i don't want to keep withholding that from people who want it

humans have a diverse and varied experience. some humans adore romantic gestures and being soft and intimate with people in that kind of way. a lot of people don't. the people who tell you you're broken are projecting their feelings on to you, because it would harm them to go without. well, you are not them, and if they say those kinds of things, those folks need to realize that humans are not cookie cutter people and we all experience something a bit different. no two aro people are exactly alike, either

i hope you're able to find some qpps or something that suits your needs and that people in your irl life come to understand that it means that you just. don't have certain feelings like others may but that it's literally okay. i have had very piss poor reactions from just about everyone i've admitted that to, so i wish you the best of luck, it's hard, but having support online is a great place to start to build your confidence. take care of yourself, stay chill

#asks #answers #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #aromanticism #greyromantic #grey aromantic

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pestis-blight · 2 years

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If it's not too personal, How did you come to realise you were aro-ace? I'm kind of one of those people who always knew they were bi but finding out I was grey-romantic was a bit of a challenge

Hi anon! I'm sorry this took so long to answer ! I've have my notifications off and phew dead lines ! HOWEVER I am here for you now !

I think I knew I was Ace pretty early on. The Aro came later definitely. I think, trying to figure out if you're both at the same time is a massive challenge and understanding the different affections and identifying them helped me a lot too. But honestly, it was always difficult to really truly understand at first.

Personally, I've never enjoyed the idea of s*x or anything s*xual. Being surrounded by peers who were more than open about their lives like that made me realize I had no desire to interact with people like that at all! And that was alright! Pregnancy unsettles me, the thought of someone else near me wasn't ever comforting, and then to have any s*xual nature in the mix would, in short, be horrific in my case (though that's not to say everyone feels this way) - I knew I was ace from the get go.

Aro was... a lot more difficult. And initially I wasn't sure if I could use the term because, well, I do want a relationship, and I yearn and love and want, but... not easily. at all. In fact, half the realtionships I've been in, serious or not (some lasting up to 2 years) I never really felt attracted to my partner, or had a desire to love. I was kind, and I cared for them, because I knew I valued them more than a friend, but it wasn't romantic. It was comfort mostly - and that's alright. It was a relationship for the comfort of my partner and I stayed because I enjoyed each of their company.

I think it hit me a few years back that... no, I've never had a crush... and no, I've rarely felt the need to have a relationship. Until recently, I felt lost and then dabbled with the idea of "well hold on" to the AceAro identity.

What I've come to understand is the umbrella terms are okay. The vague labels are alright. They're a community. You're validated there. And just because it took me a while to recognize I don't feel romance strongly, and I don't see people and have any desire to fornicate with them doesn't make my identity any less valid! Or yours!

I do believe it takes time to come to terms with yourself and who you are in a place where theres hetero and amatonormativity everywhere. From small comments to the nuclear family still being a standard expectation... it's rough. But honestly, forums and communities helped me understand. Interacting with people like myself really really helped.

I'm not sure how you'd fair, I'm not sure if you'll see this, but what I can say is that if at any point you want to talk, or have more questions, my messages and ask box are always open for the safety of anonymity.

TL;DR It took me a while to realise but mostly it was just because I came to talk to other people in the community. Read posts, learned about the identity. The umbrella term of Aro fits for me personally and I rolled with it!

#answer #ask #acearo #asexual #aromantic #identity question #anon #I hope you can see this #I also hope this is a comfort that all journeys happen differently #long post #aroace #blight.babbles

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emilywaters · 2 years

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Love Story (Sano Version) - Chapter 1

Cross-posted on AO3

Fandom - Tokyo Revengers

Ships - Wakasa Imaushi/Shinichiro Sano, Izana Kurokawa/Kakucho Hitto, Emma Sano/ Ken 'Draken' Ryuuguji, Keisuke Baji/Chifuyu Matsuno/Kazutora Hanemiya

CW - Fluff, Fake relationships, Crack, Humor, Family bonding, Alternate Universe - Everybody lives/Nobody dies

Summary - Emma Sano has returned from studying abroad. The Sano family must therefore have a reunion.

4 siblings

The oldest is always getting teased about not having a partner so he asks his best friend to fake date him for the family holiday gathering.

The aro/ace middle child of the family told the second oldest there is no way he'd ever get a partner so, of course, he asked (ordered) his childhood best friend from the orphanage to fake date him to rub it in his brother's face.

The youngest sibling has a partner. She and the middle child (with the help of friends) cause chaos by offering useless dating advice to their older siblings who are yet to realize that they are in love with the people they are fake dating.

The friends are tired of dealing with their family shit.

Ages

Shinichiro and Wakasa - 34 Izana - 27 Mikey and Baji - 24 Kakucho and Emma - 23

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"Absolutely not."

Shinichiro Sano fell to his knees, clinging onto Wakasa's shirt. "Waka, please! Omi laughed at me, and Benkei has a girlfriend. You're my only hope!"

Wakasa turned and walked towards the gym entrance, dragging Shinichiro behind him as he stubbornly held on. "I said no. Now get your ass off the floor. You're embarrassing yourself."

"Please! Emma and Manjiro are so mean to me every time we get together, and I don't have a girlfriend," Shinichiro tightened his grip, moving from Wakasa's t-shirt to his waist. "And Izana will be there too! I'll buy you all the lollipops you want if you date me for one week."

Wakasa yanked Shinichiro's arms off him, pushing him away roughly. "If you're so desperate, pay some random girl on the street to date you."

"But Waka, that's rude, undignified and embarrassing." Shinichiro crossed his legs and sat on the gym floor, pouting childishly.

Wakasa raised an eyebrow, "And this isn't?"

Shinichiro shrugged. "You've seen me do worse."

"The fact that you can say that with no sense of shame," Wakasa shook his head in disbelief. "Anyways, I'm not doing it."

"Please, I'll owe you for life!"

Wakasa sighed and massaged the headache forming at his temple. "I want monetary compensation. And lollipops."

Shinichiro immediately got up from the floor, hugging Wakasa roughly. "Thank you so much! I swear I will buy you anything you want."

"Don't thank me yet," Wakas shrugged out of the hug, already regretting his decision, "I'm going to make your pockets hurt."

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"Date me."

Kakucho looked up from the bookshelf he was browsing. "Pardon?"

"Date me, Kakucho." Izana's soft orchid eyes stared back at Kakucho's stunned face. "We're having a family gathering this weekend, and that little shit Manjiro said there's no way I could ever get a partner by then." He picked up a fantasy novel and began to read the blurb, but his voice continued. "Of course, I have to prove him wrong."

Kakucho blinked a few times, "So you want me to fake date you so you can show off to Mikey, out of pettiness?"

Izana wrinkled his nose. "Well, it's hardly pettiness when he's such a brat. And he and Emma bet on it." He looked up, noting the alienated expression on his friend's face. "Well?" He asked with a touch of irritation. "Your answer?"

"Do I have a choice?"

Izana shrugged, "Not really."

Kakucho sighed; This was going to be a long weekend. "Lovely."

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"Mikey! Open up, you little shit!" Baji banged on the door to Mikey's room, almost hitting Emma's face when she opened it.

"Come in and be quiet, idiot," she whisper-yelled, ushering him in and closing the door. "Gramps is sleeping, and I will destroy your kneecaps if you wake him up."

"Wow, I see you for the first time in, what, three years after you went abroad to study, and the first thing you do is threaten me? What cruelty."

Emma rolled her eyes but hugged him tightly. "It's great to see you again."

"Yeah, yeah, whatever." Baji pulled away from the hug, smiling

"Now," he turned to Mikey, who was peacefully snacking on the couch, "why the fuck did you call me here at 11 pm on a Sunday? I had to drive for half an hour, leaving my babies at home alone because you said it was an emergency."

"It is an emergency," Mikey said, ignoring his friends glare. "Operation cupid 4.2 is a go."

A wicked grin replaced Baji's frown. "When?" He asked, pulling out his phone to check his schedule. "It better not be on Friday."

"What's wrong with Friday?" Emma asked, sitting on the couch, stealing a dorayaki from Mikey's hand. One of the only people to ever do that and live.

"Friday is date night. We're going to take Tora to the carnival. He's never tried candyfloss, so if it's Friday, you better reschedule."

"It's on Saturday. Get Chifuyu and Tora to come too." Mikey wriggled around until he lay on the couch with his head hanging off the edge and his feet in the air. "Gramps thinks Chifuyu is an angel. He'll love having them. I'm pretty sure he loves them more than me."

Emma laughed, "Of course he does. They don't call him at 1 am to pay bail because they beat someone up."

Mikey pouted, which only made his sister laugh harder.

Baji decided to stay the night after a brief call to his boyfriends, who firmly ordered him not to drive in the night.

"They act like I'm a child," he complained to Emma. She was cooking ramen, and he and Mikey sat at the kitchen island watching her. "I'm a totally competent adult who can drive home in the dark safely."

"I'm sure they were worried more about any pedestrians than you," she replied. "Considering that you beat up a trio of smokers last time because they were 'looking at you wrong'."

"Didn't you crash into a lamppost one?" Mikey piped up, having dozed off in the middle of the conversation.

"Shut up!"

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Tags are open. Updates are random. Enjoy.

#mikey tokyo revengers #tokyorev headcanons #izana kurokawa #baji #baji x chifuyu #tokyo manji gang #tokyo revengers #tokyorev spoilers #shinichiro sano #imaushi wakasa #wakashin #bajifuyutora #kakucho x izana #drakemma #emma sano

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liquidlikecats · 3 years

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For the aro asks: 7, 18 and 30?

7. Do you want to remain single all your life or do you want to have some sort of life partner?

Single, thank you! We're all very nonam, apl-spec and loveless. So, no, no partners! Not like that. We are in a polycule, but it's... complex. It's not a qpr or a partnership of any kind, cuz we're not comfortable with that. It's our own thing, and we're happy. We would like to spend our life with close friends :)

18. What is the best part of being aromantic?

When we first realized we were aro, an overwhelming wave of relief hit us because we didn't have to be in a relationship, ever. We don't need love and all that jazz to be happy. To us, aromanticism is freedom.

30. Do you have any advice for anyone who may be questioning if they are aromantic or on the aromantic spectrum?

There's no right or wrong way to be aro. We often hear that many struggle with feeling as though they're faking - you're not. Faking is a deliberate choice and you can't trick yourself into it.

If you think aro/arospec suits you, the community will welcome you with open arms! If you one day find that a label no longer fits you it doesn't mean it was all a lie. It was true then. We are all such fluid beings and change so much throughout our life. Labels can help you name your experiences and find others who feel similarly to you, but they're never set in stone. They're like a piece of clothing you can put on and tailor to fit you better. You define your own identity for yourself. Don't be afraid to explore yourself and change things up as you go. There's so much for you to discover <#

There's many blogs that'll be happy to help you out with questions and terms, like @/aspecpplarebeautiful for example.

All the best, anon!

#Whoops this got long #Anon #Asks

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