This is me, during a hockey game! I play hockey for the Arizona Legacy Pride Hockey Association, ALPHA for short.
Growing up gay and playing sports was not an easy experience by far - I didn't relate to any of the locker room talk my teammates would have and I often felt isolated as a result. Sometimes gay jokes were made, and I'd have to remind my teammates that "Hey, I'm gay. Is that how you feel about me?"
None of my queer friends played sports either, which made me feel somewhat left out in my friend group as well. They'd rag on "barbaric" sports and how dumb jocks are, and I'd have to remind them "Hey, I run cross country and track. Do you think I'm dumb?"
So when I got into hockey, I never dreamed I'd end up playing.
Sports in general aren't known for being that accepting of queer people, and hockey can be especially heinous. So I resigned myself to watching the Coyotes play and reading the queer hockey comic Check, Please! by Ngozi Ukazu. (It's great; you should check it out!)
And then I found it. This is Tumblr, so I'll actually mention that I was on one of The Apps talking to a guy, and he mentioned that we were both into hockey - and that there was a local queer startup league called ALPHA. I chatted with the league president and then I was the official photographer for the league!
And even though I was just the photographer, I still made friends with the players over the course of the season and we all bonded over our shared experience of being both queer and playing sports growing up. ALPHA became my safe space where I didn't feel ashamed of being gay, nor did I feel weird for liking sports as a queer person.
I enjoyed the experience so much that I signed up to play. I am an Arizona native. I had never set foot (or skate) on ice aside from maybe one time when I was 12.
I spent the entire summer learning to play hockey and falling all over the place. Not once was I judged. Not for being gay. Not for being a newbie. Not for wanting to play a sport.
I had finally found my intersectional safe space - somewhere that I didn't have to hide or alter any aspect of who I am to meet expectations. It's something that I hope everyone gets to experience at some point.
CW: Homophobia, Underage Drinking, Discussion of Mental/Emotional Abuse, Weed
4/5
Scottie is a basketball player for a small town's team alongside her best friend Danielle, the student coach. Just a few months ago Scottie and the team lost Tally to a rival school. Tally is Scottie's emotionally abusive ex that she still isn't over. When shaken up after a game against each other, Scottie gets into a car crash in the school parking lot. With Scottie's bad luck, it isn't just a simple exchange of insurance information, as the car she crashed into belonged to a cheerleader she has beef with.
Irene already has a lot on her plate between dealing with her own rival, wishing her mother would take her seriously, and vying for student athlete of the year. When Scottie's mom suggests they carpool, Irene is not happy about having to spend time with some rando that doesn't respect cheerleading as the sport it is.
This is where we get to the combo of my 2 favorite tropes, enemies-to-lovers meets fake relationship! Irene can't afford the car costs and Scottie wants to get back at Tally, so she pays Irene to date her. It's deliciously dramatic but also allows for growth and respect to form between the two girls.
While this book does sometimes feel like a Hallmark movie, complete with romanticizing small-town life, a Christmas company, and a grand gesture, it's exactly what this book needs. She Drives Me Crazy balances the light, gooey, funny, romantic stuff with the serious, important, complicated, messy stuff. All of the characters are well written and the story accomplishes everything it set out to do.
i believe the easiest solution to the 'trans people in competitive sports' ""debate"" is simply to stop separating competitions by sex/gender and start separating them by zodiac sign.
"Wisconsin Gov. Tony Evers (D) has vetoed a Republican-led ban on transgender high school athletes, saying that such legislation would needlessly harm the mental well-being of trans youth and make the state less safe for LGBTQ+ people. State Republicans reportedly lack the votes to override his veto.
“This type of legislation, and the harmful rhetoric we get by pursuing it, harms LGBTQ Wisconsinites’ and kids’ mental health, emboldens anti-LGBTQ harassment, bullying, and violence, and threatens the safety and dignity of LGBTQ Wisconsinites, especially our LGBTQ kids,” Evers wrote in his veto message.
“I am vetoing this bill in its entirety because I object to codifying discrimination into state statute and the Wisconsin state legislature’s ongoing efforts to perpetuate hateful and discriminatory rhetoric and policies targeting LGBTQ Wisconsinites including our transgender and gender nonconforming kids…. I will veto any bill that makes Wisconsin a less safe, less inclusive, and less welcoming place for LGBTQ people and kids,” Evers added.
He vetoed the bill in a public ceremony while surrounded by trans advocates, Democratic lawmakers, the mayor of Madison and others, NBC News reported.
The bill would have required public, private, and independent charter schools to designate each team by the gender of its participants, and then require participants to play on teams matching the gender listed on their birth certificates.
The bill would have overruled current policies, established in 2015 by the Wisconsin Interscholastic Athletic Association, that allowed trans students to play on sports teams matching their gender identity as long as they provided a personal letter; supporting documentation from parents, teachers, and medical professionals; and proof of any gender-affirming care...
Last September [in 2023], Evers vetoed a Republican-led bill that would’ve banned gender-affirming medical care for minors."
Soccer superstar Megan Rapinoe expresses strong support for transgender athletes
In a recent Time cover story interview, Megan Rapinoe said that she “absolutely” would accept a trans woman on the United States women's national soccer team.
The two-time defending soccer World Cup champion despises policies designed to keep transgender girls and women from playing on female sports teams:
“We as a country are trying to legislate away people’s full humanity... It’s particularly frustrating when women’s sports is weaponized ...Oh, now we care about fairness? Now we care about women’s sports? That’s total bullsh-t. And show me all the trans people who are nefariously taking advantage of being trans in sports. It’s just not happening...
“The most amazing thing about sports is that you play and you’re playing with other people, and you’re having fun and you’re being physically active. We’re putting this all through the lens of competition and winning. But we’re talking about people’s lives. That’s where we have to start.”
According to Time Rapinoe believes that questioning transgender participation in women’s sports, as Martina Navratilova and ESPN anchor Sage Steele have done, does harm that reaches far beyond the athletic field:
“I don’t want to mince words about it. Dave Chappelle making jokes about trans people directly leads to violence, whether it’s verbal or otherwise, against trans people. When Martina or Sage or whoever are talking about this, people aren’t hearing it just in the context of elite sports. They’re saying, ‘The rest of my life, this is how I’m going to treat trans people.’”
Would Rapinoe embrace a transgender woman on the U.S. women’s soccer team, even if that woman took the place of someone assigned female at birth? Her answer:
“Absolutely. You’re taking a ‘real’ woman’s place,’ that’s the part of the argument that’s still extremely transphobic. I see trans women as real women. What you’re saying automatically in the argument—you’re sort of telling on yourself already—is you don’t believe these people are women. Therefore, they’re taking the other spot. I don’t feel that way.”
Read the whole Time article here.
See also:
US soccer star Megan Rapinoe is supporting trans people’s participation in sports 100%
US Soccer Star: Bills to Ban Transgender Kids from Sports Try to Solve a Problem that Doesn’t Exist
Sometimes a book will give you something you weren't expecting. In my case, Jennifer Dugan's Some Girls Do gave me closure for Hayley Kiyoko's Girls Like Girls novel. They each have a relationship with a similar dynamic, even though they're set 15 years apart. It's what Kiyoko's book should have been. Some Girls Do also made me understand why I still had a draw to Dugan's writing despite her other books (more on this later). This novel was so sweet and well written, and it also understood how to handle the heavy material included.
Some Girls Do starts when Morgan transfers to a new school near the end of the school year in her senior year of high school. Ruby runs into her that day, almost. Despite their rocky start, these two girls can't help but be interested in the life of the other. Morgan is facing a legal battle with her old school, which had discriminated against her for being a lesbian. She's a track star, but this is leaving her future in question. Ruby is seen as white trash because she's poor and does pageants at her mother's request. Except she doesn't have much control over her life at all. What she wants is to fix cars, and she might have a plan to do that. Will Morgan and Ruby be able to help each other or will they make things worse?
My first introduction to Dugan was Hot Dog Girl. I liked the book well enough, I even recommended it to a few people. Ultimately, the relationship didn't really work in it. The love interest deserved better than the main character. I tried Verona Comics next. Shakespeare, comics, and a bi dude? That absolutely sold it! Unfortunately, the relationship was so toxic that I'm not sure how I made it through the book. Despite only having read these two books by Dugan, I never swore off her writing. Her books have been on my radar. I can tell they do well because there's always a line on Libby. I'm careful about putting books on hold because I don't want them all to come in at once, but I finally put two more of Dugan's books on hold (look out for Love at First Set in the future!). I'm glad I did, as I was enamored with Some Girls Do the whole time.
It should come as no surprise by this point that the thing I valued the most in Some Girls Do was the relationship between Morgan and Ruby. Only one was out and both were experiencing queerphobia within their communities. Morgan had recently left a bad relationship and Ruby didn't feel safe enough to commit to one, no matter the gender. There were a lot of chances for their relationship to not work, but the book explored what they could do about that. It never felt like Dugan was asking us to accept a situation that felt toxic as romantic. She learned, for sure. She also included a range of queer experiences and showed the importance of queer spaces for teenagers. Other queer identities included in this novel were trans, non-binary, and pansexual. Different experiences and situations were also explored. Not everyone has the same queer experience, but we can still be stronger and safer together.
One thing I enjoy about Some Girls Do is that not everything has to be neatly tied up or turn out the way you expect for the characters to find happiness or a good future. The book absolutely has an ending, but there's the suggestion that the story is still ongoing for Morgan and Ruby. They still have things to face and enjoy in the future, but we got to be there while they went through this part. Although the pacing was confusing at times it didn't affect my appreciation of the novel. Dugan is great with plot and world-building, and now characters too. This book was released back in 2021, so I'm excited to see how she's grown since!
If you're looking for a heavy but wholesome queer teen love story, Some Girls Do by Jennifer Dugan is a great option. You'll get rewarded with 2 whole instances of the title being said by characters, relatable queer thoughts, and lines that make you laugh out loud. Go on and give the book a try, you know that some girls do!