#like my man needs therapy

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

#warm up #writeblr #this one has bothered me for a bit #any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime #hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying #as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing #like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts #why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge #''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it #ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace #if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!! #men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible #ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing #the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....

[winchester101]

Thats just Sanji’s love language

#my mans does not know how to communicate with men someone help him lmao the exposure therapy is not working #sanji needs to be socialized like a feral cat haha #and he’s come pretty far already considering his first appearance his him choking a man to death and fighting anything that moves #sanji #Lusan #zosan #jambles #zosanlu

[thal-ent]

I think people should think more about how self destructive c!Dream is.

#thal talk #like. dude lost two lives and ten months just for what ? a plan that will bring Nothing back like it wzs ? #how his relationship with others always seems to be based on how usefull he is ? and the genuine friendship he felt he had with Techno fell #apart as soon as Dream was out ? #how he just accepted to be hated by everyone and to do bad things because of that ? #like my man needs therapy

[dustbunsinspace]

Part of 🟢 Leo gets Overwhelmed au🟢

Aah, I’m so happy I made it in in time! 💙✨ Merry Christmas, tumblr nation! Here’s a little comic about 03 Usagi and Leo going so see the Rockefeller tree after the events of the Christmas Aliens episode.

Little post about events earlier that night

Also this is literally how maskless Leo looks to me, he’s so moomincore ;

#leosagi #katana shipping #03 leosagi #leo gets overwhelmed au #tmnt 2003 #03 tmnt #03 leonardo #03 usagi #ens tmnt 03 #I need a tag for this #cause I have more of this timeline in my drafts #merry Christmas loves #may this year be a good one #I’ve been watching old romantic comedies with my mom while drawing this #can you tell #also fun fact #it’s been in my drafts since like march? #I just wanted to draw something cute #that’s why they’re also extra round and squishy #also #got engaged last week #so I feel extra sappy hahahah #the full name is Leo Gets Overwhelmed and Elopes to Usagi’s World Nstead Of Going to Therapy au #because he later does just that #I have a few comics drafted for this #but man #when will I clean them #who knows #I’m moving to a brand new apartment next month and will have to do a lot of renovations

[gxlden-angels]

Bro I hate fundamentalists and culturally-fundie parents they'll say shit like "spare the rod spoil the child am I right haha yea my parents used to have to beat my ass with a switch almost everyday but I sure did learn my lesson" but like??? no you didn't??? you were hit multiple times for something you very obviously did not, in fact, learn

Like studies about how harmful even lightly spanking children is aside, you're literally contradicting yourself?? Some even admitted they got worse as they got older cause they wanted to see how far they could push their parents before they got punished

And studies not aside, you're gonna get child raising advice from the same book that tells you to stone your wife if her hymen doesn't break on your wedding night instead of the decades of research we have now?? Just say you're a bad parent and move on my guy. Skill issue

#bro I had a coworker go 'unpopular opinion I think some kids really do need beatings' and I'm like???? #unprompted???? what's going on there???? #well anyways I ended up going 'yea so I plan on specializing in play therapy with autistic children so I've been learning about talking #to children and the ways their parents and environment affects them' #and they're like hmmm but beating this kid with a stick after they broke something or I upset them to the point of yelling is good actually #had a boss say it taught him and his kids respect cause they were hard-headed #and I'm like?? that's fear not respect! they fear punishment! they do not act out of respect for you! #he's a conservative christian black man tho so he's like 'But Authority!' like bro I don't even respect you what are you on about #'You don't respect police and their authority?' Nope! I fear them! I do not respect cops and every cop/cop-adjacent person I personally know #has reinforced that for me #'We'll agree to disagree' Cool! Doesn't mean you're not wrong! I could believe trees aren't real but that is in fact incorrect #then he pulled out the bible verse and I was like ah okay I forgot you like 'here's how to treat slaves' book you're so right bestie #I'm totally wrong now and so sorry for doubting you and your 2000+ year old book I don't believe in <3 #They'd go 'well I turned out fine!' then say something that directly contradicts that #anyways I need christians to get their grubby little hands off the current state of Child Protection and Rights in the U.S. #So we can actually start working on helping kids without the force of christian hands suffocating them #cause homeschooling and child raising by evangelicals are so fucked up bro I'm tired of this shit #I'd only stay in my current state to help children get out of that cycle since I'm in the bible belt #ex christian #religious trauma #child abuse tw

[povertygoblin]

The skrunkl— i mean the Demon king!

Casually sneaking into the AFO side of the mha fandom dont mind me

#bnha #boku no hero academia #mha #my hero academia #afo #bnha afo #all for one #all for one mha #This man right here #hes deranged and in DESPERATE need of therapy.. #but hes also classy and i would snatch him like a stray cat #🤍❤️

[pinksilvace]

very normal pen sketches from a very normal week

#SGHAAAAAAAAAAAGHHHHH AGONY #but it's over. it's done. ack #this one isn't getting ANY tags. it does NOT need that attention #also I apologize to all but three of my mutuals for this one... keep on scrolling #there were other drawings too but this is already at enough of a risk of getting labeled without those #old man save me. save me old man #I do decently like the first one though. that's nice. I rarely like my own art but yeeting it into the void is like exposure therapy #my art #fernart #lesbelosposting

[your-average-art-dealer]

Oh lord he comin'-

#shadow the hedgehog #he is now just a little guy #maybe even a little man #he's so babygirl #he comin #wonder if I can do others like this #maybe..... #sonic the hedgehog #yeah #i probably wont #i probably need therapy #my art #my artwork #YourAverageArtScribbles

[winters0689]

Why is he like this? He ALWAYS looks either confused, terrified, shocked, or on the verge of a mental breakdown. I know he is suffering, but like my dude, get help I CANT KEEP WORRYING ABOUT YOUR WELL BEING YOU BETTER GET A HAPPY ENDING MAN!!

#alan wake #alan wake 2 #my man needs a hug and a break #a vacation #therapy #ANYTHING NOT INVOLVING HIM SUFFERING #I get it the Dark Place is an awful place #but he should’ve gotten like a burger when he emerged from the Dark Place #I know Scratch was possessing him but he really should’ve taken a nap while Saga went to Watery #I need my man to be HAPPY #and with Alice and Barry #can’t wait for NG+

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

#i used to think it was romantic too and then i was like. now i see it as a HUGE red flag #writeblr #it is also almost EXCLUSIVELY said by immature ppl who think this is normal #fyi even if u think it's funny and ur like 'im an introvert it's just TRUE' like. you need therapy (ily tho) #healed introversion is just ''i would prefer to be by myself'' not ''i hate every person'' ... hate is not normal. that is not healthy #im sorry. i know it feels accurate. but if you're walking around with that kind of rage.... #1. you're making a LOT of assumptions about every single person u have ever met. which is often unfair and unkind #and also usually involves judging people based on their worst moments or little mistakes #2. you are being unfair to the person who is ur ''exception'' #3. there is a VAST difference between ''ur my favorite person'' and ''the ONLY person i like.'' #idk i think this is just a personal bias thing tbh #im sure there are people who have this experience normally #but i have YET to find a man who thinks like this and ISNT absolute DOGSHIT. although tbh.... like. im sure he exists #when u hit like 30 some of the things that were once kind of hot now just sound fucking exhausting. like ''im in a band'' #edit in the tags: i used to kind of be like this too. but the thing is that like. my life became so much more peaceful #once i started believing that people are generally good. like yes i am mad at the world at large #but it's just.... a very hard way to live. you're not a bad person or wrong for the ways other people hurt you and taught you to be angry. #but that anger will continue to hurt YOU. it will punish YOU. it will prevent YOU from making new deep connections. it will protect you yes #but it will also cause MASSIVE blowback. bc if you lose the One Person... your life will fall apart. i know this personally. #i really recommend just trying to be... cautiously optimistic instead. like. yes #people can be horrible and cruel and there are some communities (incels for example) that aren't worth that optimism #but i think like... most people will hold a door for you . most people want to help you find your wallet . #i hope one day you are able to find peace. i hope that rage eventually smooths over. i know how hard it is PERSONALLY #and i know what must have happened to you. and im deeply deeply sorry we share the same wound. #but i promise - sometimes we all need someone else to help us carry the weight. eventually the rage has to die so that we can let help in #i had to spend years biting at outstretched hands. i still often do. im still very wary . and my heart breaks that you flinch too. #here's the thing: i don't blame you. but we were both acting out of fear and pain. .... not out of healthy behavior. and ... change #was needed. i needed change too. rage was useful for a while. then it just left me isolated and bitter. i had to (with effort) #choose to let that rage go. and let people in . VERY SLOWLY THO LOL

[moeblob]

Deacon loves two things: Ymber and digging himself a grave.

Fulj hates one thing: Deacon.

#my characters #waiting on some info on the next commission so i indulged in ocs today bc i doubt i will have as much time for lil comics for a bit #deacon is so devoted hes like yeah i would kill for a deity that could easily kill anything himself but yknow teehee #and fulj just did you tell him you needed therapy also does he even know youd murder in his name #deacon caught red handed haha no of course i havent told him it should be obvious enough haha.... and its in his defense not his name :c #man really does have some issues but i love him so much and hes so devoted but like. unhealthily after a while #he does in fact need a chill pill and therapy but to be fair #ymber has needed therapy for centuries and yet he just bottles it all up and suffers so #its pretty unhealthy until they yell at each other one (1) time bc they are so insecure about things and get mad over very valid reasons #but then theyre like you know what that was necessary and i still want to stay by your side if you let me #and then fulj is like dude hey sorry you seem really happy did you fu- and ymber is like no please stop there we have not #fulj just squinting cause have not is very different than will not but whatever she doesnt wanna think about that with deacon involved ew #and eventually fulj is like hey ymber im sorry to say but i really do hate deacon and i dont even know why but he makes me uncomfortable #while deacon is just. in the room. hearing this and thinking how he knows she thinks hes weird but wow that wording hurts #and ymber doesnt wanna fill in memories better forgotten by fulj which she had forcefully removed #so he just says oh well his hair and clothing are black and you had someone in the past that you might see in him and its not a pleasant en #so you know maybe its that idk #and fulj is then WHATST i was rude to him for someone i cant even remember? lame im gonna try SO HARD to be nice to him now #and deacon just still sitting there with some food like this is v awkward and i wish i could not be here for it #and later he asks ymber about who he resembled and as ymber is descibing her it clicks in deacons head and he gets really sad #that he might somehow remind fulj of the woman she loved before she was punished for loving a mortal #and he feels kinda bad pestering her so much with his curiosities about deities and he kinda gets it #the fact hes close to ymber might remind her at the core that she was once that close with a mortal if not closer #anyway story time in the tags again #im so obsessed with these peeps and i have made them suffer so much but they do all end on a happy note #its still funny and nice to me that while fulj is creeped out by deacon and doesnt like talking to him #he still expresses the most emotions to her - he tries hard to remain serious around ymber and collected and obedient at all times #and when out and about with ymber he has to be intimidating and refuses smiling but fulj?? all sunshine and smiles and emotions easy to rea #and she is just that is so weird go away i hate you

[wackachewbacca]

The Dracula men: You’ve done your work Mina but now it’s time for us men to do the rest and for you to leave the plot relevancy so you will not go into womanly hysterics

Mina, who has compiled together the entire record of Dracula up to now, has lost her dearest friend and had to take care of her husband going through anxiety and shock: okay…

Dracula watching from the sideline: Wow that’s super fucked don’t worry I’ll keep you in the plot ;)

Mina: Oh thank you that’s very kind— WAIT

#basically the re:dracula experience from September 30th to October 1st experience summed up #as if you could sideline my girl Mina after carrying this boo for so long #I mean arthur has had like three emotional breakdowns at least and no one wants to take him off the team even tho he might need it #seriously man gets some therapy that’s fucking harsh #I know this novel is very much of its time but sometimes I want to bash Abraham Stoker over the head with a feminism book #re: dracula #Dracula #mina harker

[sysig]

He needs so much attention, all the time (Patreon)

#Doodles #Wander Over Yonder #Commander Peepers #Lord Hater #Wander #Death Glare #Wandering Eye #Those first two made me start a whole new page just to get them out of my head and then a bunch more followed lol #Early Death Glare maybe? First coming to terms with his massive crush? Just an average day of being Commander Peepers? Who's to say lol #The idea of him vibrating out of his skin trying to not act weird around Hater is very funny to me haha #How do act normal around the guy you like when it's just you two but in a professional setting?? Training didn't cover this #Meanwhile Hater is oblivious obviously haha #They have to be mismatched - one has to be like ''Oh grop I love him so much but can never tell him'' at a time for the max comedy of errors #Peepers is so small I can't get over it lol #And then a little Wandering Eye for the road <3 He can't be emotionally open so much of the time! #Anger is about it and even then it mostly manifests as frustration - he sublimates it into work as much as he can #Anger is hit or miss depending on what Hater's willing to put up with too ahh #Give this man a therapy session and a box of tissues pls #Is it because it's fun to draw his whole head/face crying? Shhhh that's irrelevant (it's not) lol #Wander always has a hug ready for whoever needs it <3 #Sweet lad #Both of their feet are really fun to draw too haha - Peepers' are like plush and pillowy #While Wander's are so stretchy and squishy and silly haha they're fun to pose! #Been so happy with the points of contact lately as well ah ♪ Knees and ball of the feet touching the ground! Yes!

[poetry-protest-pornography]

Kiyoi giving Hira a makeover to show off how hot his boyfriend is, and then immediately regretting it when it works is so deeply funny to me.

"Look at my man! No, not like that!"

They're so weird. I love them.

#i also need them both to get like. so much therapy. and then smooch about it. #utsukushii kare s2 #my beautiful man #hira x kiyoi

[welcometogrouchland]

[ID: a sketch page of various drawings of Willow Park from the owl house. From left to right the drawings are: timeskip willow playing flyer derby, Willow in her season 1 casual outfit next to her in her season 3 Halloween costume, Willow as Anne in an amphibia au, young willow doing pottery with her dad Gilbert, young willow and amity holding hands/hugging and smiling, and willow looking at clover, who's perched on her finger and wearing a dress and wig made of yarn so as to resemble Willow. Willow is trying to hold back laughter while clover looks unamused. In the center is a drawing of Willow drawing a large spell circle with her staff, and the title of the sketch page reads "willow week 2023", with each drawing labeled as a specific day/prompt, such as day 3: flyer derby/fav on-screen outfit, day 1: crossover, day 2: childhood/father-daughter, or day 1: palismen bonding. Drawings 2, 6, and 7 are coloured while the rest are uncoloured. The background is a scribbly green. End ID]

hi I’m only a month or so late to it BUT! Nearly out of the mines (finals) and that means i can post the sketch page i worked on for Willow Week! Hosted by @agrebel18

#the owl house #toh #willow park #willow week 2023 #gilbert park #amity blight #eh yeah. They’re there too #anyway i had. So many issues regarding the quality of this drawing man #I MADE THE CANVAS TOO GOTDANG BIG!!! #im gonna draft this first and then do a quality review #anyway i wanted to do willow week back when it was actually running but like i said. Ihave been in the mines #almost out though! Just gotta get through Wednesday #still kinda going insane in my enclosure though. Idk if its a period mood swing or if imjust drinking internet pond water #and thats why I’m starting to think evil thoughts #ive just been watching jerma play simpsons hit and run #fr though I’m being digitally waterboarded i need to go to a social excursion so bad #god. I missed posting art just to vent in the tags. Exhilarating. This is my therapy #anyway hope you enjoy this aggie and all other willow enjoyers #also i missed posting abt the 2 month anniversary of the finale #im not coping <3

[nuvolisa]

me when my silly little otome game about flirting with 4 men at a time and being a severely overworked attorney gets me FUCKING ABDUCTED and almost KILLED in a sauna by the uncle of one of the love interests and then makes me fake being a PROSTITUTE to get out of an illegal auction

#send help #obviously this is about tot #tears of themis #episode 10 #artem is too shy to ask me how my day was #but he is totally ok with faking BUYING ME #and also vyn #scared the shit out of me #after he has told someone to commit suicide like #that man is a menace #artem wing #vyn richter #like #i need therapy