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letsgetrowdy43 · 9 months

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a part two to the luke angst?

His biggest regret ❧

Part one

Luke had been beside himself for the last two weeks of the summer, just as she promised Y/n had left the morning after their fight, leaving him alone with his thoughts. He broke it off with his girlfriend the second his best friend left the lake house, knowing that if he intended to fix his wrongs the now ex-girlfriend was not a part of the solution.

Quinn had heavily scolded his youngest brother for days following the departure of Y/no. “You’re an idiot!” "it's not my fault she and my girlfriend don't get along!" “It’s not even about your girlfriend, it’s the fact that you felt the need to dictate her decisions when you basically removed her from your life!” Quinn was at a loss, what wasn't Luke understanding how wrong he is, “You didn’t even invite her to the lake, you’ve been best friends since you were babies!”

Let’s just say Quinn definitely made Luke feel like shit, what was worse was when Ellen, Jack, and even Jim put their two cents in.

Things only got worse for Luke during the school year, sophomore year was expected to be his last season as a Wolverine, and then he’d be headed to New Jersey with Jack, as stated in his plan. But now he was going to be spending this year attempting to make it up to the girl who’d been at his side for years and years.

“Y/n this is Luca,” Ethan introduced them as she smiled shyly. Luke didn’t like that at all, his new teammate practically eye fucking her at parties as she stared at him innocently (let’s be real, she’s only into it cause she knew it would piss off Luke)

Luca had become her target, and he was just as into their little game as she was into pissing off Luke.

They went on study dates and left parties together, it was a no strings attached ordeal that they were both thoroughly enjoying.

Luke watched silently and was extremely annoyed. Biting his tongue not to say anything at practices, or to call her to tell her that he needs it to stop. He wasn’t in charge of her, he knew that now, but it took a lot in him to stay quiet when he watched Luca and her flirting in public, or even just conversing in between classes.

It took a long time to realize but over the course of the four months that they weren’t talking he'd come to the conclusion that maybe he’d been way over his head. The conscious thought that he was in love with her was so overwhelming all of the time, so Luke grew even more antisocial as time went on.

Y/n's world paused the moment Luke ran into the bathroom and slammed the door shut, the boy's chest heaving as he locked the door and hid from some girl who had been chasing after him all night. His heart stopped the moment he turned around to see a wide-eyed Y/n splashing some water in her face.

“Sorry” he apologized as his heart beat against his chest, she continued to stare at him, unable to speak, “I’ll leave” “Don’t go, you’re obviously hiding for a reason,” she finally spoke as she dabbed her face off with a face cloth she found in one of the drawers. “Are you okay?” He asked as he reached forward to feel the blotchy red skin on her cheeks. "I drank too much, don't have you to mediate my liquor intake anymore," she grinned as her hand wrapped around his wrist to lower his hand.

Luke smiled as he maneuvered his hand to hold hers, "am I allowed to speak to you now? I have some things I need to say to you" he mumbled as she nodded and sat down on the edge of the tub.

This was his moment to make it right, no excuses, no bullshit to cover up his mistakes, just an apology and some promises to make it better.

"I've been practicing this speech to you for a while, and I'm just gonna start with a sorry, cause that's all that I really want you to take away from it," her eyes started to tear up as she listened, "I was wrong, you have every right to still be mad cause I put you through a lot last year, and that wasn't fair to you, so I'm sorry, and I'm willing to do everything I can so it can go back to the way it was before."

Y/n nodded as her hand dried to tears that had fallen, he could've apologized months ago and she would've accepted it. His words felt very real, she knew they were, she'd heard from all of the guys how lost he was without her guidance in his life, it was just really nice to finally hear it from his mouth.

"Thank you," she stood up to hug you, "I don't think it can go back to the way it was before though." His smiling expression fell as he unburied his face from her neck, "What?" "In our time apart Luke I realized a lot, in the way that I don't think I can keep loving you in the way I'm used to, I need some time to get over you, cause its not fair to you," she said honestly, drunken word vomit as she watched the relief spread on Luke's face, her expression growing confused.

"What if I don't want you to stop loving me that way?" "that's not fair to me then," she said defensively, not understanding what he was insinuating. Her hands left their spot on his chest as she pulled away, he reached down and pulled her hips closer to him, "let me speak," he laughed as her face softened at the sound, "I love you, I'm so dumb for not realizing it sooner, I think I always have though, I just didn't know how to differentiate the two types, but that's because they are the same to me," his face grew flush as he realized just how lovingly she was staring at him.

"You are my best friend, always will be, but you're my best friend in the way that I don't think I'd last another day without you in my life, and in the way that I want to kiss you pretty and then go to sleep with you in my clothes, and the way that my family views you as one of us, there are so many things that make you my best friend, but in the same way that I want you to be a forever type of thing."

Y/n stared at him in shock as he took a deep breath, her hands finding the side of his face as she smirked at him, "I'm glad we're on the same page," she whispered before her hand found the collar of his shirt and slammed his lips onto hers.

#rotalks: luke hughes night #luke hughes imagine #luke hughes x reader #luke hughes #luke hughes blurb #jack hughes #quinn hughes #umich hockey

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attonposting · 1 year

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Okay, so Carth keeps coming up lately, both by people who love him and people who don't, and I thought I'd throw my two cents into the ring.

People complain that Carth is sexist, a lot. And I get where that's coming from, I've got the same issues with his romance as anyone else. I love the bones of Carth's character and remember him very fondly – he's tied for my favorite character from KotOR I, even! But the writing is... flawed, to say the least, and in a way that goes past just 'poorly aged.' I don't think his lines themselves ever go worse than awkward, but there's some more fundamentally unhealthy stuff written into his relationship that I suspect wasn't intentional.

What I find interesting, and what a meme just very succinctly pointed out, is that many of the same people who have beef with Carth are cool with Atton. Who is definitely the more sexist of the two, both incidentally and deliberately. And it's a really interesting differentiation between the two pilots/f!PC love interests/earlygame buddies, because I think their palatability comes entirely down to how the games portray that sexism. So this is my attempt to figure out why one thing works and the other kinda doesn't.

Carth Onasi is introduced as a stand-up guy. He stays behind as long as he possibly can to save other survivors on the Endar Spire; he believes in the Republic wholeheartedly, he serves to protect and approves when you do the same, and other characters sing his accolades. He's supposed to be wholesome, but with PTSD-related trust issues that cause friction between him and you.

Atton Rand is the opposite of that. You find him in a jail cell, he's untrustworthy and a cad, at any given moment he's either abrasive or lying through his teeth, he complains when you help people, and when you get to the bottom of his trust issues, you find out he's a worse guy than you ever could have imagined.

It's much too oversimplified to say that Carth is supposed to be a good person and Atton is not, that's not where the problem comes from, but it will become relevant later.

When Carth starts flirting with you... okay. The biggest, most obvious problem is that the game wants you to be into it. Carth flirts and continues to flirt after you can tell him to stop. Sure, whatever; that's not egregious. You can respond to Carth's flirting positively or negatively, and that's great... but when you do respond negatively, the game loves to pull you into these playful insult exchanges where your PC shouts and pouts while Carth taunts you. There's where the issues start. Even when the player is trying to shut him down, they get dragged along for the ride anyway, and the narrative decides that this is also romantic. Thus KotOR I only has a shallow understanding that it's presenting a situation a woman may want nothing to do with. It's kind of impressive that you can actually call Carth sexist in-game, and yet it doesn't feel like the game actually understands that he is in fact being sexist.

Actually, no. Maybe I'm reading too deep into this, maybe this is why I'm so forgiving to Carth as a character, but I don't think the problem is Carth, I think the problem is that the game is being sexist in this particular spot. I was more annoyed by my own return dialogue options than anything Carth said to me - especially the ones where I was being mean. It felt like f!Revan was being pigeonholed hard into the writer's idea of 'women', that it was not an especially flattering or nuanced view, and there wasn't anything that I actually wanted to say. Definitely the writer did not understand my perspective as a player – but that's not a problem unique to K1 and it's one even the sequel is super guilty of at times, so I'll move on for now.

When Atton makes skeevy remarks, you always have at least one dialogue option to call him out for it, and you cannot ever react positively to what he says. Either you smack him down or you ignore him. This is extremely important. Yes, you could argue that it's not as accommodating to how different players might react... but what this establishes is that the game is self-aware. It does not think what Atton is doing is in any way attractive, or that it should be interpreted positively. Instead it acknowledges what a lady's probable reaction to his unwanted advances would be and encourages the player to express it, and the way that's written isn't a playful back-and-forth, it's the Exile snapping at him and Atton backtracking. Atton's being a piece of shit, but instead of stirring up chemistry, the narrative goes out of its way to mete out karma – hence everyone else on the ship mocking him, or the comically topical details like him being an unwashed loser who smells terrible and scratches his junk in public. Whether you like Atton or not, the game wants you to know that it thinks he sucks, and you are never left feeling like there is an unsettled score.

On the contrary, this lack of self-awareness is what makes Carth's romance in K1 hard to swallow if you didn't start out receptive to it. When you can react negatively to Carth's comments, it doesn't feel like you can do so in an intelligent way. The tone is very “Ugh, MEN, amirite” rather than “I don't like the turn this conversation has taken and would like to just be your colleague again” or just “Stop.” - which is probably what you wanted to say if you were just platonically enjoying or less-amicably bickering with your dorito-jacket companion when the gorgeouses started coming out of left field.

Worse, when you actually can shut Carth's romance down, it involves being a dick to him and stomping hard on his personal issues. Like I'd understand if a player was angry with him at this point, because again, you've been forced into a romance arc even when you were telling the game no as much as it would let you - but there's a huge difference between wanting to tell a guy to back off and wanting to shit on his dead wife or his Sith kid or his blown-up planet. I dunno, I'm not that vindictive! I think there's only a couple of options at the very end of his romance tree where you can turn him down... not even amicably, it's still rude, just without being a Grade-A asshole, and by that point, you have been through a lot of flirting you presumably didn't want to be involved with. Generally, the game won't let you break things off with him without being a dick, even if you never agreed to board that train in the first place. Now loop back to the way that K1 unfailingly portrays Carth as a great guy, whose flaws have nothing to do with his upstanding sense of morality, and there's where the dissonance comes from. Not only does the game push you into his romance after you said no, it makes you the bad guy for trying to get out of what he initiated.

But there's another issue in the timing of the Carth relationship. He starts his flirting while he's expressing intense distrust and standoffishness with your PC. With Carth's nonstop skepticism about your trustworthiness, and constantly bringing up his issues with you... at least during Taris and Dantooine, it comes off more like his attraction to you is superficial and not as a result of him growing to like you, something that's pushed by how it's always focused on shallow hooks like your appearance or your 'cute' attitude. It's very awkward. I do not think this was the writer's intent. I think Carth's supposed to be captivated by what he's seen you do, and that's just going in recursive loops in his paranoid little brain and making things harder for him. By the end of the romance, it's extremely clear that Carth's into you for you. But it's clumsily handled at the start.

Contrast this with Atton, who starts off aggressively sexist towards a female Exile, fifty times more offensive than anything Carth ever does. Literally the first line he gets is leering at the PC's forced state of undress, mocking her vulnerability, and he continues in that vein for much of Peragus. He creeps on your nudity at least four times off the top of my head, he ogles you, he complains about women, he tries to hit on you, he even contemplates the possibility of Sexy Kreia (which is a level of dickery I can scarcely comprehend.)

But that tapers off and disappears around the time he starts showing actual romantic interest in your PC, like when Kreia threatens him and it's revealed how much your opinion matters to him, or when he asks Bao-Dur for advice. And a female PC never sees it again. This creates the opposite impression – that Atton's attraction is a result of your time together. Sure, he's still a pig, but it follows that he wasn't making serious passes at you on Peragus because his behavior now that he is actually interested in you has changed. And it implies that in an actual relationship, that would not be how he'd view or treat you, which I think is crucial for how willing people are to ship Atton with their Exiles.

Now, this is all a product of how K2 did not actually answer that question and let you romance Atton, because with Carth, it's the opposite and you see exactly how he behaves once he gets into a serious relationship. It involves spanking. Things could be very different if K2 actually had fleshed out romances. It's hard to say, because both the PC and the crew were very thoughtfully written (I will take a bold step here and say that K2's characters were on the whole written much better than K1's), but on the other hand, Atton is still the worst and I'm pretty sure the game would want to remind you of that if you agreed to play tonsil hockey with him. And it may have crashed into the same pitfall that Carth's did; if the game railroaded your interactions with Atton up to some point, it'd leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth who wasn't already signed up for the ship.

With the way things are, Atton not only gets a free pass to be interpreted as generously as his fans want and easily ignored by those who weren't keen on him, he even gets an interest boost from this because people will always want what they can't have.

Anyway. With a male PC, you'll continue to see Atton make sexist remarks towards other female characters and can even have a wingman chat with him that is entirely him projecting his issues all over women. He doesn't make these comments with a female PC, suggesting that he's on his best behavior... but that he'd still totally be a leering asshole if he wasn't trying to impress you. With a male PC and Carth, his sexism is nonexistent, again probably because he was never intended to be sexist and it's a product of clumsy/oblivious writing.

There's an additional layer with Atton and the question of how much anything he does is an act, but that doesn't exonerate him from any of the crap he says. I could write a separate essay on Atton and his relationship with women, but the guy is very much a womanizer who's terrified of the idea of intimacy and has a lot of shitty opinions that stem from his defensive need to believe that nothing emotional is ever real or relevant to him. He might've been casing the Exile on Peragus, but his chauvinism is genuine.

But I digress. The tl,dr; is that Atton acts less sucky the more he crushes on you and Carth acts more. Combo that with how their respective games make Atton pay for being creepy but give the strong impression they want you to go along with Carth's nonsense, and it's a little less mystifying why Carth gets so little benefit of the doubt while the King of Trash enjoys fandom sexyman status. His romance is almost predicated on the fact that he's a scumbag, where Carth's is very confused to whether the awkward parts should exist or not.

There's a bit more that kinda hurts Carth. The flirting... well, from what I remember it just got “wow, okay then” later on, and I found it way more silly than offensive in any way, but him repeatedly bringing up how you remind him of his dead wife doesn't help the relationship much and suggests that Carth may be projecting someone else over you. I can live with that, drama's tasty and it doesn't prevent a real connection from burgeoning. You can make the exact same argument for Atton anyway, and I think his is way worse. My major issue is at the end of the game. Mr. Trust Issues does not react well to the events on the Leviathan, when it turns out he was right to have kept an eye on the PC all along. It's great payoff! And I absolutely adore his discussion after that, when he admits his struggles to reconcile you and Revan, how he tried but he can't hate you, how helping you gave him something real when revenge only left him hollow. Seriously, for all the shade it gets, there's some really great stuff in his romance too - you just have to stick it out long enough to see it. But then, on Rakata Prime, Carth seems to reconcile his crisis of faith and finally, wholeheartedly decide to love you in a way that falls flat on its face. He confirms you're a good person because you're not Revan anymore, like Revan is some purely evil part of you you've now cast off, when... that really seems more like denial than anything else, and not the foundation for anything healthy.

Seriously, I wish they'd handled that with more nuance. It would have counted for so much in my books.

All of that said. I know I just went after the man like a vending machine with a stuck bottle of chocolate milk, but I think the sexist vibes in Carth's romance are worst at the start and that he does not deserve the sheer amount of flack he gets. I've seen far worse offenders in the world of video game romances, and this might drive some controversy in and of itself, but I vastly prefer Carth x f!Revan to Bastila x m!Revan. There's a whole 'nother pile of issues in K1's other official ship (f in chat for Juhani), and I think those are much harder to deal with than the ones here. If anything frustrates me with Carth's romance, it's how unnecessary all of the bullshit is. I really want to get into it! The concept is perfectly fine! I love the character! There's good stuff in there! And when I replay KotOR, it's not that difficult to close my eyes to the bleh parts and enjoy the rest, especially once the first couple of conversations are past. Again, all Carth needed was a more conscientious writer at the wheel.

I'd be really interested in hearing other people's takes, both on how they interacted with either of those romances or where their interpretations differed from mine. I only have my own perspective and that of a few people I've talked to over the years, and I'm given to understand this is something of a fandom hot topic!

#carth onasi #atton rand #kotor #kotor 2 #kotor ii #basically a dissertation on how framing makes all the difference #i'm sorry carth #i love you a lot but your writing is so bad #kotor remake pls fix

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little-miss-dilf-lover · 7 months

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hello!!! tired anon here... please disregard my last ask and request, i ended up quitting the dance team 'cause i couldn't handle it anymore and got sick. :(

may i have a request of miguel comforting the reader instead after they quit something they put a lot of effort into? i'm sorry for changing my mind, you don't have to do it if you don't want to! thank you so much!!

hii!! you did?? im sorry :(( hope you’re okay!! I don’t wanna shove this in your face (bc I know it may be annoying to hear) but id like to think I understand how you feel, I had to quit ice skating 10 years ago and I still think about it every few days. thank you for requesting, hope you like it 💌

I just know he'd be super supportive with you- helping you along the way. he'd help you weigh the pros and cons, helping you before deciding you want to quit. he doesn't want his personal opinion to get in the way, so he'd be pretty quiet, nodding and humming along while you basically debate with yourself. he'd be a great listener, and a good, solid person to talk to

although he doesn't want his thoughts to get in the way, he does put his two cents in, mentioning things that may be affecting you and your health- how you'd constantly be in pain, or tired and groggy. he knows how much you love it so he'd be careful with his wording. he just wants you to be happy, and if something you love is making you unhappy, he'd tell you

before the days coming up to your decision, he'd offer you a lending ear, wanting to hear your thoughts and feelings. maybe he stays up with you one night while you vent

but when the day comes when you finally decide to quit, he'd be the best :((( he'd get you all your favourite things, and await for your mood. if you wanted to stay in, you'd watch some movies on the couch to distract you, or if you wanted to be left alone, he'd leave you be. he'd run you a bath if needed or make your favourite meal. stay with you while you cry and rant. whatever it is you need at that moment- he'd give it to you. he'd give you all the loving and care you needed to help get your mind off it (that's if you wanted to get your mind off it- he'd go with the flow and navigate you along the way. and understand you may not be in the mood to talk etc)

he'd tell you that he's proud of you, telling you did a great job and that deciding to quit isn't easy, especially if it's something you love and have put a lot of effort into. he also understands that you may need time to grieve it, so he doesn't rush you or make you feel silly for being hung up over a hobby/passion

he just loves you and wants to look after you <33

— — — — — — — — — — ☆ — — — — — — — — — —

#ask #miguel o'hara #miguel o’hara fluff #miguel ohara #miguel o’hara x reader #miguel o’hara imagine #miguel ohara x reader #miguel o'hara x reader #miguel o’hara fic #miguel o’hara comfort #miguel headcanons

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ceescedasticity · 3 months

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Hi!

How long did your acid reflux last? I currently have it and I'm going through hell... any tips for relief???????

I am very very very far from an expert, so like…

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gerd/symptoms-causes/syc-20361940

My two cents from personal experience:

If you have constant ongoing terrible acid reflux pain, it might not really be acid reflux. Acid reflux makes my life unpleasant sometimes; hours-long episodes of agony turned out to be gallstones.

Omeprazole works. I wanted to get off it because I read taking it long-term is associated with higher rates of dementia, but it works. Famotidine also works. Mylanta tastes nasty and doesn't have the preventative effect of the pills, but it will soothe the burn. I haven't had much luck with Tums.

I'm not good about sticking to the ~lifestyle adaptations~ Doctors Recommend™. When I have tried them I haven't had much luck. But they are cheaper than omeprazole.

Just to reiterate — when my acid reflux was putting me through hell (rather than being unpleasant and annoying), it turned out to be gallstones and not acid reflux. If you can see a doctor and haven't yet, I recommend it.

Edit: I never answered the question. I've had recurrent acid reflux for… I don't know, over five years probably? More? It's been mostly controlled for, uh, also over five years probably (except for aforementioned episodes of prolonged agony which were actually gallstones).

In terms of how long a single episode lasts, my acid reflux has never been nonstop, at least not that I can remember — it lasts a couple hours at most and subsides, depending on whether and what I've eaten.

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adambja · 6 months

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Hi Adam

I don't know why I'm telling you this to be honest hehe,but as my fav blogger I want to ask you for advice.

So I discovered the law last two years and for 8 months I tried using subliminals each one month but no matter how hard I stuck to one subliminal it never gave me results.

Then last year I read motivation on loa and all in other bloggers post but I never manifested anything no matter how hard I tried,I tried to be the creator of my reality,I pretended to be living my dream life even though I was broke asf and my family was suffering,ppl called me stupid but I didn't care,even when I never got results I believed it would come soon,I literally kept convincing myself for a year,I worked so hard but nothing happened,I never Manifested anything,and then I heard about the void state,I didn't believed in it but then I saw success stories and I believed it immensely,I thought there's still hope for me,for months I suffered but I pushed through and tried to get into the void state every day and every night,I worked on my self concept,I applied the law in every way but then nothing happened and then my dad fell ill,I was worried and I kept affirming to manifest his health,I affirmed in tears and I was fed up.i wanted to pay you for a custom tape because I thought it might help me but then I had no cent on me,so I could only keep affirming and affirming but nothing happened and then my mum died,she couldn't keep up with all of these,I had no siblings so yeah,then the dad died too.but I still didn't give up I didn't want to but it's useless,right now when I see any blogger giving ppl motivation,it annoys the hell outta me,I know I might be wrong but the law never helped me so now I'm gonna be sent to an orphanage home tomorrow in which girls are constantly molested each time,I literally pass by and see guys trying to touch them and I don't wanna go there please I need your advice,I'm tired of all these you are the creator speeches it's annoying to be honest,I wouldn't say I didn't try enough because I did extremely well,my phone is the only thing supporting me right now pls I need you to tell me what to do,it was my dad's gift to me on Christmas,he worked so hard to buy me one.ive tried every method possible

Most of y'all think you've had it bad??? I've faced worse,I don't even have access to my own house because of my fucking family members y'all give up immediately you try something

I tried for over 2 years but I never got anywhere and I need help,I'm going insane,if there's anything you can do to help me please do if there isn't then it's okay

First of all

My name isn't Adam it's adambja baby it's A GIRL HERE AND THIS IS WHAT I CALL A TRAUMA DUMPING THAT'S it

I didn't read anything because I am about to sleep I am so tired but you are welcome to talk to me privately and we will see

I understand your frustration and all your feelings and all this anger about some bloggers here saying the same repeated things over and over!

It's not my responsibility either cause I am not even like them hopefully I helped a lot of people here!

But when you send me a message make sure you tell me about what you want from the tapes if you are gonna buy them BECAUSE I DON'T MAKE CUSTOM TAPES FOR FREE you gave me your whole life thing how would I even help you if you aren't paying me for your personalized tape or coaching!!!!

I CAN LITERALLY HELP YOU IN ONE MONTH WITHOUT ANY VOID SH IN YOUR NORMAL PHYSICAL REALITY I DID HELP A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO HAD THE WORST SITUATIONS YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE!

This is the issue here guys

This is MY ISSUE okay? Stop trauma dumping instead tell me WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAPPEN!!! NOT WHAT HAPPENED CAUSE IDGAF ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED I AM HERE TO MAKE YOUR NEW REALITY HAPPEN

Again the old story MUST BE DEAD!

Also baby you need tapes NOT TALK NOT WORDS YOU NEED TO REWIRE YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

How SHOULD I MAKE THE OLD STORY DEAD, ADAMBJA?

Just tapes THAT'S WHY I AM MAKING TAPES WITH BENEFITS ITS BETTER IN MANY WAYS

And that's what I am originally a coach for!

#law of assumption #loa #neville goddard #self concept #loassumption #loa success #success stories loa #self development #self esteem #void success

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my-autism-adhd-blog · 11 months

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hi! um. i have a kinda awkward question

so my friends are always making this joke about me being neurodivergent but i'm starting to wonder if i might actually have it? um. rephrase.

so i stim a lot and have some trouble sleeping if i'm not exhausted. and i always thought it was recent and bc of depression but

i've always walked on tiptoe for as long as i can remember and i remember as a kid my grandma would get annoyed at me for: perching on my chair instead of sitting normally / and wringing my hands as a nervous habit (she told me i looked like an old maid, repeatedly) / and being so restless that when we sat down to eat the table would vibrate / when we sat down on bleachers to watch my cousins play sports the bleachers would vibrate.

but i don't think i have adhd, 'cause i do well academically and love reading books, and i don't think i have autism, because i have no sensory issues or communication troubles. maybe i'm just making something out of nothing? sorry, i'd just like your two cents, thank you!

Hi there,

I toe walk while stimming (usually on my tiptoes and spinning counterclockwise). And tie walking does have a relationship with autism. According to the Autism Research Institute:

Idiopathic toe walking (toe walking that persists without a diagnosed neuro-motor or physical dysfunction) is most frequent in children with neuropsychiatric and communication and learning conditions (Sala et al., 1999; Engström and Tedroff, 2018). Studies on the prevalence of idiopathic toe walking did not differentiate between ASD and other neuropsychiatric conditions until recently. However, in 2019 a large-scale review of trends and treatment patterns found that 9% of children with ASD are diagnosed with persistent/idiopathic toe walking compared to less than 0.5% of children without an autism diagnosis (Leyden et al., 2019).

Causes for this increased prevalence of toe walking in individuals on the spectrum are varied and unclear. In some cases, it results from tight heel cords that restrict the range of movement in the ankle (Barrow et al., 2011). Toe walking can also be caused by a dysregulated vestibular or sensory system involving touch, proprioception, and vision. More research is needed to fully understand which tactile/sensory processing differences may cause idiopathic toe walking in children with ASD.

The full article will be linked below if you’d like to read it.

I found something else from the Autism Research Institute:

A dysfunctional vestibular system, a common problem in autism, may be responsible for toe walking. The vestibular system provides the brain with feedback regarding body motion and position. It may be possible to reduce or eliminate toe walking by providing the person with therapeutic vestibular stimulation (e.g., being swung on a glider swing).

Toe walking may be directly or indirectly related to a visual-vestibular problem. I have conducted several research studies with Melvin Kaplan, O.D. at the Center for Visual Management in Tarrytown, New York. While performing these studies, I observed four individuals who were toe walkers. In each case, their toe walking was eliminated within seconds after the child began wearing prism lenses.

The article goes over prism lenses in more detail. I’ll also link to below so you can read it.

I hope these sources help. Thank you for the inbox. I hope you have a wonderful day/night. ❤️

#inbox #inbox reply #inbox is open

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nintendocrowbro · 5 months

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Wanted to put my two cents out about the splattercolor screen special

personally, it doesn't affect me sensory wise but it is damn annoying and screws w me a bit (and I usually die pretty fast if I'm hit/go through so)

but I know (personally and just generally speaking) people with sensory issues or vision problems are being affective severely by the new special and just wanted to drop my ig suggestion for the change (if not just removing the whole special/swapping for something safer for others :/)

But instead of plunging the whole screen/game into monochrome shades- why don't they just change the ink colors-

like. inked floor/walls and the tentacle colors. make those monochrome. also for weapons and splats ofc

but the whole stage?? why is the sky/ceiling gray. there's no reason. or the architecture or water or whatever else is on the stage. mahi mahi for example- bright ass blue to grays and whites is a VERY significant change colorwise, that to someone affected visually is a v overstimulating experience and that fact that the special only lasts like 10 seconds makes it that much more damaging- since your eyes are trying to adjust to the sudden change of the special to immediately have to REadjust to was you were originally looking at and hurt your eyes and cause headaches etc etc

but yeah- I hope nintendo does something about this soon, people shouldn't have to be anxious about playing bc they could get jumpscared of encountering the splattercolor :<

#crow chats #splatoon 3 #splatoon #splattercolor screen

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teamsieben · 9 months

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re: where'd Ethan go???

So someone fronting a lot and then just, stopping, is a pretty common system experience. Has happened to us and some other system friends/mutuals.

But there's always the "why'd this happen?" That kinds of lurks in the back of your mind. I'm just bringing up a couple reasons why Ethan isn't showing up a lot now.

In our humble system experience, fronting too much can be the reason why. Just cause the fronter gets tired and needs to take a break (which manifests in our system as "I'm really tired/I want to sleep" and then proceeding to do that in sys.)

Takes bout a week to a month or two for them to be back to fronting shenanigans, depending on if they still want to front as frequently or not.

'Course there's other things that might be at play (new situations for the system i.e hyperfixations, life changing event, stressful situation etc)

Or there could just be no reason. Maybe there's no reasonable explanation. And that's ok too. Sometimes you can't make sense of shit and that's perfectly alright. (Even if it's annoying/scary. It's ok, it happens.)

And this is just me going off from what I've observed of our system. It's not gonna be the same for everyone else, your system is likely to have differences and all etc.

But those are just my two cents, hope it helps! :]

-Oracle

Thanks!! Yeah, he was originally a very uncommon fronter and then suddenly became frequent so it makes sense that he's just tired. Thank you for the explanation!

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laylanatorseventeen · 2 years

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tbh the more I think about it mass effect 3 kind of sucked. before I start dunking on it, a couple good things:

*actually, first, uh, warning. I don't like Kaidan. I don't like Ashley. Mild character bashing ahead.*

-enemy design actually awesome. the reaper forces were cool and unique and I liked them. Cerburus forces, while annoying, also good designs.

-i got to kill Udina. Fuck that bitch.

-Geth Shotgun My Beloved

-Getting to know the geth better. They got done so dirty but I appreciate the worldbuilding

Bad things about the game, both big time and small time things that annoyed me personally:

-all the annoying tedious fetch missions. Like bro. Bro. Is this really necessary. I'm not even getting to shoot anything.

-Kai Lengs whole existence. I hate you you pretentious ass dressed like an emo 13 year old ass bitch. Fucking big talk from a motherfucker who never landed a hit on me in any of our "fights" despite having backup and a literal gunship. Fuck you, and fuck whoever came up with your infuriating ugly bitch ass.

-in mass effect 2 you make all these bonds with these awesome characters. and then they get tossed aside in mass effect 3. Like no offense Traynor and James and whoever the fuck else but like bro literally why not just let me have the CREW I HAD BEFORE

-THEY CHANGED THE FUCKING NORMANDY AGAIN AND NOW NOT ONLY DO I NOT KNOW WHERE ANYTHING OR ANYBODY IS BUT I ALSO CANT SEE SHIT TURN ON THE FUCKING LIGHTS

-Kaidan/Ashley mouthing off to me in the first mission and then like I send JAMES back to the shuttle???? Bitch!!!! When will Bioware let me slap Kaidan in the mouth. Ashley too. The Reapers are literally fucking here, I do not give a rats flea bitten ass what you think of me. We literally have bigger problems, shut up or find another ship to serve on hoe

-adjacent to that, WHY AM I STILL PANDERING TO BUREAUCRATIC BULLSHIT!!! IT IS LITERALLY THE END OF FUCKING LIFE AS WE KNOW IT!!! I HAVE SAID IT BEFORE BUT PERHAPS NEVER SO EMPHATICALLY: FUUUUUUCK THE COUNCIL

-AND THE ASARI COUNCILOR AFTER THESSIA. WHY ARE THERE NO DIALOGUE OPTIONS. THEY JUST MAKE YOU BE A LITTLE SHRINKING VIOLET AS IF I DON'T HAVE A FEW WORDS OF MY OWN FOR THAT BITCH. LIKE HELL DOES SHE GET TO BE MAD AT ME WHEN SHE ONLY CHOSE TO TELL ME ABOUT THIS CRUCIAL PLOT POINT WHEN HELL WAS LITERALLY AT HER DOOR. FUCK YOU!!!! I FEEL BAD FOR THE CITIZENS OF THESSIA BUT I DO NOT FEEL BAD FOR YOU OR THE MATRIARCHAL SOCIETY THAT HID THIS SHIT. FUCK YOU AND FUCK BIOWARE FOR JUST MAKING ME TAKE THAT SHIT

-i just gotta ALLOW DARO'XEN TO STAND ON MY FUCKING SHIP AS SHE THREATENS TO DISSECT MY FRIEND LEGION??? I AINT AFRAID TO HIT YOU I DON'T CARE

-also why does mass effect 3 always make my ported mass effect 2 femshep look like someone kicked her face in and she's swelled up.

-so James is the new Kaidan huh???

Image of me trying to have an actual human conversation with James to like, get to know this random guy they foisted upon me without the game making me tell him I want to throw Garrus over for his grotesquely muscled dick

-you mean to tell me that out of the entire salarian society/military, renowned for their intelligent and logical approach, only Kirrahe is willing to look past the genophage and band together TO STOP LITERAL GALACTIC EXTINCTION!!!!! they frame it like ooohhoo you can either have the KROGAN or the SALARIANS and bro I just don't buy it. I get the stupid dalatrass is gonna be petty but surely there are at least some salarians gonna be like. bro.

-i know EVERYBODY bitches about the ending but tbh imma put in my two cents cause it's just That bad. Bro. For one thing. I hate that kid. The dream sequences were so annoying. Also maybe if the kid had more than one creepy bland ass expression I would care like the game wants me to. All in all, bad choice for the vi to look like the kid. I don't care. Also. How you HAVE to choose one of the damn options and they're all BAD. like congrats you spent half the game trying like hell to save the geth!! But for some reason now you have to KILL THEM ALL to kill the reapers!!! Or!!! You can make this DEEPLY INVASIVE CHOICE FOR EVERY SOUL IN THE GALAXY. or you can control the reapers which the entire game has framed as the WORST OPTION EVER and annoying internet people will act like YOU PERSONALLY BETRAYED REAL ACTUAL PEOPLE and are also VERY STUPID if you choose that option. Like the fucking AI controls the reapers correct. SHOOTING/DESTROYING THE STUPID AI SHOULD BE A REAL VALID OPTION INSTEAD OF IT JUST MEANING "HAHA EVERYONE FUCKING DIES." WHAT HAPPENED TO GOOD OLD FASHIONED FIREPOWER. WHAT HAPPENED TO STRATEGY. WHAT HAPPENED TO A FULFILLING ENDING TO A GAME SERIES YOU SPENT DOZENS OF HOURS PLAYING.

And also idk about the other endings but I chose synthesis (which I'm told Bioware considered the "best" ending) and YOU GET ZERO CLOSURE. YOU LEARN EDI AND JOKER AND YOUR LI AT LEAST SURVIVED THE BLAST BUT NO KNOWLEDGE OF LIKE, WHAT HAPPENS NEXT, OR THE FUCKING CONSEQUENCES OF THE STUPID ACTION YOU WERE FORCED TO MAKE BY A DUMBASS AI. THE GAME QUIT ON ME AND ERASED MY PROGRESS SO I ESSENTIALLY PLAYED THE ENTIRE SERIES FOUR TIMES FOR THIS.

-i have read not only a rumored ending where the reapers were going to be lured into a system and then they'd blow the mass relay, but at least 3 separate fanfiction solutions to the reaper war that not only made more sense but were more personally fulfilling. Most involving just fucking using actual normal warfare against the reapers, who are not, in fact, invincible to everything except a stupid ai program.

-overall I think the main problem with mass effect 3 is that the gamemakers seemed to forget to put the fun in the game. Like homedog I am playing this game because I care about the characters and playing video games is supposed to be FUN. this is not fun. This is, by turns, infuriating and tedious. Highlights of the game are Curing the Genophage, Geth Worldbuilding, and firing a clip into the head of a dead Cerberus Combat Engineer, because fuck you and fuck your turrets.

#long post #idk man. just my opinion.#mass effect #character hate

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aegor-bamfsteel · 2 years

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tbh i love your metas but the piece trying to defend against the velaryons being black was so silly and "benevolent trying to sensitive" white woman cycling back to obtuse points staight up racists make with the "i'm hardly the arbiter of what is and isn't racist" when you were using misinformation or jumping to conclusions about dark-skinned people in essos or equating black people to our oppression tacked on at the end.

Are these asks also from you?

not a specific message for you but just in general-justified critiques of grrm gross analogous descriptors aside for just a sec, it is exhausting how people pulling irl equivalents and history and possible explanations for their various anti-black velaryon points immediately sum up African people and civilizations to the slavery and colonization is exhausting and very telling... like such glaring biases its almost borders on parody for those to fancy themselves as rlly doing something just because they can make metas

happy seven years to this post

i mean this all in good fun to everyone but remember to get off your high horse for sec and not take yourself too seriously if you're getting too worked up over media consumption

my two cents even bc im biracial and like sonoya - saying the casting decided to take the lazy route when we don't even know how her characterization will change, which it likely will, is kind of sad to me idk

you make some good points and i know your invested views of these characters as people (which i couldnt get cause i havent read all the books yet/really take time in fandom spaces seriously so respect) but for i just like to see non-white actors JUST EXIST and get these jobs and spotlight and i just know mysaria will bring something different however it may be and that steve toussaint will bring a strong performance

(Regarding these posts)

…I don’t know what you were trying to accomplish with adding more tone policing and personal (inaccurate) attacks about my background, rather than actually talking about the substance of the argument with this newest ask. Other than making me annoyed, when before I was just chalking it up to you expressing your different opinion with some unintentional tone policing. Which, congratulations if that was your aim.

Between the two of us, I really don’t think I’m the one who needs to “get off [my] high horse if [I’m] getting too worked up over media consumption”; I didn’t send 3 asks to someone because I didn’t like their language, then over a week later sent a new ask attacking the character and background of the user when they didn’t answer fast enough for them. Neither you nor anyone else on tumblr is entitled to my free time.

Your opinions about what I said wrt HOTD!Velaryons are noted. But as of this ask, they are not appreciated.

#ask #anon hate

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champagnepodiums · 2 years

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I don't know if anyone will agree with me, but my two cents to add to this whole discussion is that I find drivers trying to constantly sell me things very off-putting. Like with Lando, I feel like every 2nd post (hyperbole) is him selling a special mini helmet or a new merch drop or a new quadrant merch drop. It's come to the point where I sometimes even just skip past his stories on IG cause that's what I'm expecting. Same with Daniel, but to a lesser degree. Even Pierre had a phase going with the nfts/crypto thing. Maybe if I were a hardcore fan of any of them I would feel differently, but as just a casual fan it just annoys me a bit. I sometimes think thank god for Ferrari and their strict policies, cause at least there are 2 drivers who probably won't try to sell me anything (watch me jinx this with a special Ferrari Spain/Monaco drop)

OOH yeah, this is a really good point.

Awhile back, I did an informal survey on Twitter where I talked to people who unfollowed drivers recently and the common thread among them all was that with the drivers they unfollowed, they did too much blatant advertising so it’s definitely not just you who thinks it’s a turn off!

(Also if Ferrari does a special drop, I will laugh because I’ll know you jinxed it 😂😂😂)

#f1 #formula 1 #driver social media

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haithussy · 2 months

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If you were curious, my "Watson" had their 2 cents to share cause of how annoying your shit has gotten. Believe it or not, I've been the more.... understanding of us two... despite all the shit you put me through. Jess just thinks you should stop trying to half assedly fool everyone and just leave. I am willing to talk. But you need to start explaining to people who you instead of faking it. It's getting stupid and making you look stupid. Your victims don't want to take the chance of running into you. So I'm trying to help them. You said you and Reci were trying to do that with me, but the difference is... I didn't hurt anyone EXCEPT you. And my "hurt" was because you couldn't handle me being a better artist and writer than you and Reci. So you had to try and pull on past actions to tear me down. Nah. That was not okay. But you actively picked fights with half the community over your feelings of inferiority. And tried to turn everyone against each other. Your crimes outweigh mine by a huge margin. So yes, we are keeping people safe from you by making sure they know where you are and how to avoid you. And we will keep doing it so long as you keep trying to trick others.

#I really just want others to be safe #and if you want to keep playing these games then I will just keep doing my job #we've been reporting your urls to people so don't think you're getting away with your lies

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psychelis-new · 1 year

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I hate late replies. Wbu? I'm sure you will say,, they have reasons or something. If it's like this they can just say it. Not replying the next day, being online the day before...seems so made up for me honestly

You're right, late replies sometimes are annoying. But yes, people may have something up that they don't wanna talk about, so they even avoid to mention it and just go silent; maybe they just need to be silent and on their own for their own reasons, and don't feel like interacting [being online doesn't mean they're really interacting with someone else and avoiding you + you said they weren't online after your message... "anything could happen, anything could be" and it just takes a few seconds to change everything, for a problem or a need to show up, and it doens't have to be about you or what you said/did]. Sometimes it happens: you don't want to be a burden for others, you realize that others may not be really interested into you or only search you for their own needs, and so you just wait to feel better to interact again and give away your energy's excess (even to sb specific) -call it loneliness if you like-; or, simply... they forgot to answer you or thought they had already. It's rare, I know, but it has happened to me too, tbh: I was sure I had replied but then I checked cause the other person was silent and realized it was on me. Stress plays up with us in so many ways.

But if you know already that they're playing you, then what makes you doubt about it? Feel with your guts, not with your ego. And I don't mean that what you "know" it's true: ego can work in different ways, it can make you feel the cause of every pain in the world and not let you consider any other reason, but also make you fear it's you the reason while you wonder about a thousand other possible explanations. Beware, it's a double trap for our minds. The only way to clear it up is to simply ask. But ask not attacking the other as if you already know the answer (a.k.a. they're playing you): ask kindly, as per confirmation that they read your message and if they are okay. Maybe they're just taking a break from the online world (which we all should do every now and then). Communication can solve most of our problems (especially if used with respect and understanding each other, through opennes), but we sometimes fear it... cause of the truth it brings and we may not be ready for, or the reactions of others we may not be able to afford (of which we're not in charge of anyway), I guess. It's a matter of being brave and knowing we can survive anything... Ofc these are my two cents, you are always in charge of your life and your decisions and how to live it: this includes what to wait for and how/what to act on.

Take care!<3

P.S. Are you sure an answer was needed? Cause sometimes the other party may think it's not. It's just us willing to keep a convo that has no reason to be...

#.#asks

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me-uglypretty · 1 year

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Wasn't there some bits of their relationship having issues nearing the end? (I'm not sure I remember cause I haven't done my rewatch yet for this year)// Just joining the convo (hoping you don't mind or find this annoying). I don't remember properly bc the timeline was a little bit messy and we jump from one event to another. I think they had a rocky relationship towards the end bc leigh wanted him to write the comic but i don't recall when he started seeing nina and at which point he tried to start something with her, even just by thought or when he told danny. Like in season 1 we see that during summer he changes the antidepressants, tries to exercise and does the comic.. then the hiking thing happens so i'm assuming the nina thing was before that summer during the school time? but then he went on summer and he stayed with leigh and i don't recall their relaitonship being bad? maybe it was meant to be explored in season 3 and we got to see if he went all the way down with nina but i think dany would've known? i'm so frustrated with the lack of answers bc there's so much potential.

About the danny thing i would like to add my two cents. I think leigh was using him to feel close to matt ,which was awful of her (love her and i understand her pain but using him was not cool)... however i think there was something between them since the very beginning... maybe it was attraction or just a product of grief and despair but i think danny's animosity towards her and how she was acting with him and wanting to stay in touch shows that while she wasn't in love, she cared about danny.. it was doomed and they were never meant to be together (i wanted leigh +girlfriend and danny+black woman) but if i couldn't get those i wouldn't mind to see them together at some point

It's totally cool to join in! cause we need to talk more about sfyl.

I think S3 was meant to reveal more of all this? Since we only got like a bit of the Nina thing, then the sudden seeing/dreaming of her husband. Like it’s so weird, why she’s getting all this signs. But I feel like there's too many layers of Matt, that's it's easy for him to pretend? and for Leigh to just not see pass it.

Though, I’d like to see them tell Leigh’s story than her trying to remember back things and being told things about her husband.

AGREED. Danny was a rebound + that was during Leigh’s “I’m gonna fuck which ever man I desire” era. Honestly, Danny must had felt some kind of attraction towards her (and jealous? with the whole, how did his brother find someone like Leigh who’s the total opposite). I think Leigh needs a good therapy and not latch on to whatever last memory she has of her dead husband, cause that’s what happened with Danny. It makes me wonder if she imagined it was her husband when they were together since he’s the closest to him that she could ever get.

I’m petitioning for Leigh x Girlfriend then another man. I’ve watched enough shows to know what they’ll do but if S3 happens, I need Leigh to figure out that she should date woman instead.

#me-uglypretty answers

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