#jeff foster

[vesora]

#nd #nondualism #nonduality #jeff foster

[thecalminside]

Stop thinking your way through life, always trying to work it out before living it. Life is to be lived, not analyzed to death. Feel.

-Jeff Foster

#jeff foster #quotes #wisdom #peace #healing #mindfulness #love #life #change #spiritual #insporational

[ragazzoarcano]

“E a volte devi spezzarti per ricordarti che sei indistruttibile.

E a volte devi ricordare che sei indistruttibile per scoprire il coraggio di andare in pezzi.

Sei a pezzi ma indistruttibile;

umano, eppure divino nella tua umanità.”

— Jeff Foster

#a volte #spezzarsi #spezzare #ricordare #indistruttibile #coraggio #a pezzi #umano #divino #frasi e citazioni #frasi tumblr #frasi #jeff foster #frasi profonde #frasi ad effetto #frasi sagge

[kamala-laxman]

Life is a moment by moment adventure to be lived, not a story to be completed or an image to be upheld. Conclusions are not your job. In this moment, answers are not required. – Jeff Foster

#jeff foster #adventure

[namitha]

Your self-worth is not tied to what others think of you. It is tied to the moon, to the infinite expanse of the cosmos, to comets blazing towards unknown destinations, to the forgetting of time and the love of solitude and this unspeakable gratitude for each new dawn, unexpected, given.

🌿 Jeff Foster, A New Dawn: The End Of Co-dependency

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#jeff foster #a gentle reminder #self worth #words

[wholenessblooming]

The beauty of life is that it’s constantly changing, moving. We cannot feel the same thing all the time. In present experience, there is no “all the time,” and there is also no “never.” There is only the dance of waves now.

Jeff Foster, The Deepest Acceptance

#jeff foster #the deepest acceptance #quote #life #spiritual #nonduality #present #now

[yoestuveaquiunavezfrases21]

1664- HONESTIDAD

Honestidad, no significa simplemente vomitar tu "verdad sin censura" a cualquiera que escuche. “Compartir tus sentimientos” en realidad no siempre es lo más amable, más a tono o lo más consciente que se puede hacer. ¡Sí, seamos reales y honestos el uno con el otro! Por supuesto. Salgamos de nuestro escondite y revelemos nuestra autenticidad. Rompamos el hechizo de la vergüenza en la relación y mostremos con valentía quiénes somos realmente. Por supuesto.

Pero, y esto también es crucial, mantengamos y desarrollemos nuestro discernimiento. Sintonía. Sensibilidad, a lo que necesitamos, sí, pero también una profunda sensibilidad a dónde está la otra persona, una profunda preocupación por tu vida interior también. De lo contrario, "¡Solo estoy compartiendo MI cruda verdad!"... es simplemente narcisismo, ensimismamiento, ego, disfrazado. Ego… ¡disfrazado de “autenticidad”!

No siempre es amoroso, amable o útil compartir tu verdad más profunda (tu ira, tu tristeza, tu miedo, tu dolor, tus opiniones, tus consejos, tus profundas realizaciones espirituales) con alguien que no se ha registrado para recibir, o no puede recibir, o no quiere recibir, o no tiene la capacidad de recibirlos.

Podemos ser auténticos Y ser muy respetuosos y conscientes de los límites, sentimientos y necesidades de otras personas. Podemos ser sensibles a tu disposición a recibir nuestras palabras y sentimientos. Tu capacidad de escuchar. Cómo están administrando tus energías. Lo que pueden manejar en un día determinado. Tu propio dolor y trauma. Los demonios con los que luchan en secreto (aquellos de los que tal vez nunca sepamos). Con quién se sienten cercanos, seguros y en quienes confían.

Podemos aprender a preguntar antes de derrochar nuestras historias, compartir nuestra vida interior privada, decir nuestras verdades, opiniones y juicios más profundos, expresar nuestro "yo crudo y sin censura" a otro. De lo contrario, simplemente les arrojaremos nuestro sagrado mundo interior, utilizando a otros como receptáculos para nuestro propio dolor, miedo, soledad y las regiones no metabolizadas de nuestra psique. Esto no es amable con los demás y, en última instancia, no es amable con nosotros mismos.

Porque nuestras sagradas entrañas también merecen un entorno de contención seguro y comprometido.

Sí, seamos “honestos y reales” entre nosotros. Digamos nuestra verdad sin adornos... a aquellos que están abiertos y dispuestos y listos y capaces de escuchar, a aquellos que se han inscrito en este trabajo sagrado y que tienen la capacidad de sostener nuestra verdad. Un terapeuta. Una buena amiga. Un socio. Un miembro de la familia. Alguien que se ha comprometido a ofrecer su tiempo y su corazón ya escucharnos de esta manera.

Sí, “digamos nuestra verdad”, con valentía y en voz alta si es necesario. Pero también aprendamos cuándo dejar de hablar a veces, y respira. Y quédate quieto. Y escucha. Y abrir nuestra conciencia de una manera diferente. Pregunta por la otra persona. Averigüe lo que quieren, necesitan y pueden ofrecer, mantener y procesar. Siéntete deliciosamente curioso acerca de su mundo interior también.

Hay un tiempo para hablar y un tiempo para callar. Un tiempo para compartir nuestra vida interior más profunda, y también un tiempo para escuchar. Un tiempo para estar juntos y un tiempo para estar solo. Un tiempo para acercarse y un tiempo para darse espacio. Un tiempo para "decir nuestra cruda verdad", y un tiempo para... bueno, mantener nuestra verdad cerca, y esperar, y cultivar la paciencia, y tal vez encontrar una salida alternativa. A veces eso es lo más amable. Para no compartir. O esperar. O para escuchar en su lugar.

No hay manera correcta o incorrecta. Solo queda este baile misterioso e interminable… y todos estamos invitados.

(Jeff Foster)

#palabras #frases #textos #textos nocturnos #pensamientos #vida #culture #books & libraries #escritos de amor #amor #honestidad #verdad #la verdad #de verdad #vivir #verdades #empatia #poemas de amor #poesias #critica letteraria #critica social #jeff foster

[msexplorer]

"The healthiest relationships are the honest ones, the ones grounded in Presence, not fantasy or false hope, and a deep commitment to a living truth.

Where two souls can share their authentic, real-time, embodied selves with each other, reveal their deepest truths – raw, messy, unresolved, unfinished and rough at the edges - and continually let go of their preconceived, conditioned ideas about how they ‘should’ be.

The relationship is continually renewed in the crucible of intimacy. There may be ruptures, misunderstandings, intense feelings of doubt, anger, fear, anxiety and groundlessness along the way, yes, of course, but there is a mutual willingness to face this mess as it arises. To be vulnerable. To say “I hurt. I am in pain. I feel deep sorrow” and not blame the other for that pain. To say “I need some support” but not demand it of the other. To share desires and hopes and longings and dreams and not command that the other see things in the same way, or meet all of your needs. To receive their ‘no’ and their ‘yes’ too, even if it hurts. To stay in the crucible of transformation; to look with wide open eyes together at the present rupture, not turning away, or clinging to ‘the way it used to be’ or follow other people’s ideas about how things ‘should’ be. To let second-hand concepts of happiness burn up. To sit together sometimes in the rubble of shattered dreams and expectations, plans and hopes, and work towards finding a place of reconnection, repair and reconstruction. This is the courageous and often intense work of relationship.

Even if we have to start by admitting deep feelings of disconnection. This is a relationship that is alive. A relationship that makes space for our deepest longings, fears, pains, yet does not expect the other to resolve these, or take the hurt away. That asks the other to be a witness, a midwife for our own healing. And offers the same in return.

To inspire each other to find our own happiness. Even if that means letting go of or 'breaking up' the relationship in its current form. Love holds the other lightly, it does not cling or attempt to control. It only wants the best for the other, only wants them to step into their power, live their fullest life, find their deepest joy, follow their original path, learn to love their bodies and their own deepest feelings, and find new ways to take care of themselves.

“I love you, and I want you to flourish”.

Relationship can be the ultimate yoga, yes, an ever-deepening adventure and rediscovery of ourselves and each other, rediscovering ourselves in the mirror of each other, a continual letting-go and a meeting, a dance of aloneness and togetherness, not losing ourselves in either extreme but playing somewhere in the middle. Sometimes coming together, sometimes moving apart. Closeness and space. Intimacy with other, intimacy with self. Breathing in, breathing out.

Relationship is not a place we reach, a point of arrival, a destination, a 'thing', a dead story; it is alive, and forever a point of departure, a beginning, each day. We can only start together, here, and there is joy in that beginning.

There is excitement in the not knowing. There is life in the continual death of expectations. Staying close to a healthy fear of loss. Staying near to the groundlessness of things without losing ourselves in that groundlessness. Finding safety in the uncertainty. Finding a new ground in the power of love itself. Standing where we stand. Breathing in, and breathing out.

As Eckhart Tolle says, relationships aren't here to make us happy - for true and lasting Happiness lies within us all, that unshakable Presence that nobody can ultimately give us, or take away. We are safe either way.

Others will not complete us. They will not save us, or resolve our deepest inner experience for us. They will, however, give us the gift of exposing our wounds, our inner children, those lost fragments, bringing them to the surface, the places within us that are crying out for empathy, those beautiful orphans of the light.

And then, a risk! To reveal our raw hearts, our loneliness, our vulnerability, our sensitivity, our not knowing, our joy, our ‘shameful’ secrets, to another human being on this small blue planet in the vastness of space. To drop the mask and expose the unprotected, unguarded heart. To risk being rejected, left alone, shamed and ridiculed. To risk a repetition of the old, perhaps.

But a bigger ‘risk’, maybe: To be loved for who we are! To be held in the blinding light of another’s fascinated attention, like a baby held with such tenderness by an adoring, attentive mother. To be met in the present moment, nowhere to hide, nowhere to run. To let in the New. To risk losing the image, the false self, the carefully constructed persona, and to let another embrace the softness here.

This is the highest possibility of relationship - to see another’s exquisitely delicate heart and to let your own soft heart be seen. In the seeing, there can be healing, transformation, great beauty. We can be therapeutic vessels for our brothers and sisters. We can bring each other medicine, encouragement and great companionship on this sometimes lonely path of coming alive before we die.

And maybe it takes a lifetime to discover:

The One you always longed for was actually deep inside of you. And to have that One reflected by another – a partner, a friend, a lover, a therapist, or an animal, a tree, a mountain, the moon or the Vastness of the Cosmos – even if it’s only for a moment…

…well, then you know Heaven on Earth."~

~Jeff Foster

#jeff foster #this author is fantastic

[dk-thrive]

This is life. This is the gift. Receive it.

My love, you are alive. You are not a problem to be solved, or a wound to be healed. You are not a failure, or a disappointment. You are not a burden, or a threat. You are alive. Your heart is beating. Your breath is flowing. Your senses are awake. Your mind is aware. You are alive. This is not a problem. This is not a wound. This is not a failure. This is not a disappointment. This is life. This is the gift. Receive it.

—  Jeff Foster, from “The Way of Rest: Finding The Courage to Hold Everything in Love” (Sounds True, October 1, 2016)   (via Make Believe Boutique)

#Jeff Foster #love #alive #gratitude

[kellymagovern]

#Jeff Foster #emotions #emotion #feeling #feelings #acceptance #allowing #psychology #wisdom #spiritual #awakening #spirituality #spiritual bypassing #anger #fear

[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

#Jeff Foster #quotes #surrender #one moment in time #now

[gravity-rainbow]

You cannot save anyone. You can be present with them, offer your groundedness, your sanity, your peace. You can even share your path with them, offer your perspective. But you cannot take away their pain. You cannot walk their path for them. You cannot give answers that are right for them, or even answers they can digest right now. They will have to find their own answers.

Jeff Foster

#jeff foster #you cannot save anyone

[thecalminside]

This moment is not life waiting to happen, goals waiting to be achieved, words waiting to be spoken, connections waiting to be made, regrets waiting to evaporate, aliveness waiting to be felt, enlightenment waiting to be gained. No. Nothing is waiting. This is it. This moment is life.

-Jeff Foster

#jeff foster #quotes #wisdom #peace #healing #mindfulness #love #life #change #spiritual #insporational

[ragazzoarcano]

“Non guarisci "dal" trauma.

Guarisci "in esso".

Guarisce "in" te.”

— Jeff Foster

#guarire #trauma #in te #frasi e citazioni #frasi tumblr #frasi #frasi vere #frasi sagge #jeff foster

[kamala-laxman]

“Life is not a series of present moments, but a single present moment with infinite depths.” – Jeff Foster

#jeff foster #life #present

[namitha]

Your happiness cannot come from outside of you.

If it does, it is a dependent happiness, a fragile happiness that will turn to sorrow so quickly. And then you will get caught up in a web of blame and guilt, regret and persecution.

True happiness is directly related to your presence, your connection with your breath, your body, the earth. Your happiness is not small, and cannot be removed by fear, or anger, or the most intense shame. Your happiness is not a state, or a passing experience, or even a feeling that others can give to you. Your happiness is vast, ever- present, the boundless space of the heart, in which joy and sorrow, bliss and boredom, certainty and doubt, loneliness and connection, even fear and longing, can move like the weather, like the rain and the sunshine, all held in the hugeness of the sky.

🌿 Jeff Foster, A New Dawn: The End Of Co-dependency

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#jeff foster #a new dawn #the end of co dependency #words #your happiness cannot come from outside of you. #a gentle reminder