#it’s so strange how common of this kind of mindset is

[byregot]

Specifically there seems to be a bizarre trend on this webbed site to only view issues through like your specific lens of what is Most Important and it leads to some extremely bizzare takes such as “diaper/abdl fetishes are problematic, not because of the pedophilia but because disabled people use adult diapers therefore everyone with this fetish is ableist” which is a very real take I just saw

#woofing barking woofing #same person I went to go block them for being annoying #and the other top post on their blog was #‘disabled people especially need to support plstine. not because of the genocide but bc they’re creating more disabled people’ #< censoring the word jusr so my little bitching posts don’t clog anything important #but I’m just like is that really the only way you can possibly care about this issue #it’s so strange how common of this kind of mindset is

[loveemagicpeace]

Synastry & Composite chart Part 2 🍬💍🍒

🦋Composite Chart🦋

☁️ASC : How the relationship started & how others / environment see you

☁️ASC ruler : Area of focused expression

☀️Sun : Indicates what brought you together and what goal you have in life

☀️Aspects to Sun : Shows purpose of the relationship supported or not

🌙Moon : Emotional connection & the soul of the relationship

🌱Mercury: communication, thinking and how they fit together in mindset

🍒Venus: how u two love and your love language together

🥨Mars: drive, anger & power, sexual attraction

🔥Jupiter: luck , gift, wisdom, traveling, exploration, growth

🪐Saturn: karmic things, honesty, responsibility, maturity of the relationship

❄️Uranus: difference, uniqueness, unpredictability, rebellion

🫀Pluto: intensity, depth, transformation

🧚🏼‍♀️Neptune: dream, fantasy, confusion, obscurity, illusion, lies

🍬Northnode : Indicates in what direction you should grow as couple

💕1st, 5th and 7th : Important houses in Composite

✨Aspects✨

Conjunction : Binding force, depending on the planets combined

Sextile : Harmonic union, comforting

Square : Challenge, No break-ups when you understand each other

Trine : Harmonic union, cooperating well together

Opposition : More prone to break-ups, attraction

💍7th houe shows what’s needed to make the relationship work.

☀️Sun : Need for balance in ego’s inorder to make it work. It’s a good placement for marriage, but it can quickly evolve into becoming open enemies if you are not willing to compromise and listen to each other.

🌙Moon : Emotional involvement is a strong theme. Giving security to each other is needed aswell as balancing the emotions of both people. Safe place and home of relationship.

🌱Mercury : Equally sharing is a theme. Communication is strong, but also the point that needs to be balanced inorder for it to work.

🍒Venus : A very good placement for all love relationships aswell as business related relationships. It’s important to find balance in giving & receiving.

🦋Venus & Neptune placed within the 7th house can indicate a relationship where it will feel so familiar, it’ll feel as though it is unreal and goes beyond this realm. Soulmate energy, especially in tribes, but any aspect. It could be hard to stay angry at one another.

🍬Neptune Conjunct Juno can indicate a twin flame/ soulmate energy. It could also feel as though you’ve been with this person before within past lives if you believe in that kind of thing. The connection will not be easy to let go of and will have something for the natives to learn.

🫐North Node in the 12th house can indicate a connection that may feel like a spiritual connection or could feel as though there is a significant purpose for the connection itself. Both can have dreams about each other that may reveal things about the relationship itself.

🥐Jupiter is in Conjunction to Saturn in a composite chart, it is normal to expect that you will never forget the connection whether it’s romantic or platonic. It could be an indication of staying together for a very long time or for even a short amount of time.

🐚Synastry chart🐚

💕Venus & mars are the most important indicators in relationship because Venus represents love and mars represent drive and passion and when the couple don't have aspects with the venus and mars. It's hard for relationship to survive.

🎡Moon square Mars -It can be challenging aspect because it suggests an emotionally intense nature. Two people can get along very well at one time, and hate each other intensely at other times. Sometimes they can't find a common point of emotions and energy.

🌁Asc square Venus- many times it indicates that when you see a person for the first time, you don't like them. Energy can be very strange and challenging. Later, emotions can develop and it becomes more calming.

🌆Pluto & mars in 4th house synastry -it shows the home you want to create with the person, how you want to live and how you see their family and they see you. Pluto can represent a great transformation that the person brings to your home, and you yourself can transform a lot through this relationship. You can also see how you really want to live with this. Many times, however, the pluto indicates that the mother of the 4th house person can be intense, mysterious and possibly treacherous. A lot of times she can do things in secret. Mars, on the other hand, can represent some internal conflict and more direct energy. That you may notice right away whether their family accepts you or not. Both planets together can represent a more combative side of the family and that many times you feel that things are going too far. Many times mom can be the reason for a fight between you.

🌱Moon in 10th house synastry- can be good or not. Depending on aspects. It can lead to responsible, serious emotions, but at the same time emotions can only come from success, career, practicality and you can feel that in this relationship and passion. You may have reservations before fully expressing yourself to the person and you may have the feeling that the person does not understand how you feel.

🛼Venus in 12th house- a spiritual connection, maybe a love meant to be found. You can meet a person in interesting circumstances. Many times, however, a person may be covering up their real relationships from before or certain secrets about money. A person may come forward in a completely different way than they really are. Love can be covered up, it can mean that no one really knows what is really going on. Sometimes it can lead to the person having you, delusions, or wanting to have you in any way.

✨Lilith in 12th house -lilith shows where the relationship can be the darkest and how the person wants to control you. This connection can bring about dramatic change and transformation. Lilith person may just seem to be out of control in their emotional expression. This can seem overwhelming and dramatic for House 12 person to deal with.

🪐North node conj saturn- karmic relationship means that you have a mission with this person in this life, which you have to complete.

🥨A lot of aspects with saturn means that this relationship is not necessarily something that you want, that will bring you something passionate or happy. It can mean a lot of responsibilities and lessons that can be very difficult. Maybe a relationship in which you can feel trapped.

🦋If relationship don’t have any 1st, 7th, 8th house it can mean that the relationship will not be so successful and you will always feel like you made the wrong decision.

🎸For personal readings u can sign up here: https://snipfeed.co/bekylibra 🎸

-Rebekah🧚🏼‍♀️🍬🐚

#astrology #energy #zodiac signs #planets #astrological houses #synastry chart #composite chart

[fefairys]

"The way Vriska introduces herself to John says everything about her, and about their relationship, and really, her relationship with everyone. She forcefully interrupts a moment that is deeply important and emotional to him, thereby probably denying that opportunity from ever happening again, just so she can insert herself into his life and force him to pay attention to her. Now here she is again, being kind of rude (e.g. calling him stupid), but more than that, being vaguely obsequious overall, which is something about her I was harping on in the last book. Vriska cozies up to certain kinds of people, namely those she wants something from or feels will elevate her status by association. John's the perfect mark for the manipulative, ass-kissing games she plays. Since we're in the Vriska Zone now and forever, I'll just keep talking about her. It bears more examination of how her manipulation strategy seems to deftly blend ass-kissing and aggression. Successfully manipulative, sociopathically charismatic people tend to have this balance down to a science. The strategy seems to involve controlling the interplay between flattery, appealing to common interests, charming or flirtatious rhetoric, and little jabs, negs, or outright insults to keep the target off-balance. The target gets sort of hooked by the fascinating spectacle, intrigued, and strangely disarmed. Too much flattery results in suspicion, too much negativity is a turn-off (or taken to an extreme like Karkat, results in not being taken seriously at all). The barbs mixed in with the flattery are effective because they lead the target to think, "If this person really wants something from me, why would they insult me?" Of course, this is how pick-up artists operate, which isn't far off from Vriska's mindset when pursuing her goals—which, although more broad than romantic goals, are still mixed in with them, with the end result being part of the overall power play. Over the course of her tactics focused on John to make herself more relevant, when actual romantic designs start seeping into the fabric of her manipulation campaign, that's when it all starts to get...A Little Bit Weird.

We've already seen a lot of Vriska's tactics on display in Hivebent, with mixed results. By now she's had a lot of practice, and she's bringing all her skills to bear on the perfect rube for her schemes, this nerdy, gullible Egbert kid. The romantic angle that surfaces from this effort, as I just implied, is vaguely troubling. How else to describe it... ? Icky, maybe? Something is off about it, and we feel that more than John does, obviously because we know a lot more about her than he does. For Vriska, are the romantic desires real? Is she such a mess inside that she wouldn't be able to tell whether the feelings are genuine or not? It's more likely that it's all about the ego boost, the power trip involved with grooming this hapless fool into the thing she wants him to be, and hoodwinking him into feeling something for her. But for him, it's probably more sincere. His first awkward experience with romance, albeit one contrived by a manipulator. Too bad he has no idea that none of this even has anything to do with him. It's still just about Vriska's gamesmanship with Terezi, who is another person exhibiting many of the aforementioned qualities of a manipulator. Terezi just uses hers to target a different boy. Both are highly successful with their boywork, but they take very different approaches." -Andrew Hussie

#see like these are not the words of a person who genuinely excuses vriskas actions. hussie is bullshitting when they imply that shit #its satire but [insert in order for satire to work meme] #(sometimes lacks clarity of purpose)(ends up contributing to that which it intends to criticize) #anyways love 'boywork' #sams reading homestuck again #homestuck #vriska

[otakween]

Digimon Frontier - Episode 8

Omg this episode was sooo cute!! The toddler digis were adorable and so expressive. Since they were the main focus for once I think they animated them with a little more detail than usual, especially Tsunomon.

Notes:

I loved the focus on Izumi and Junpei's relationship in this! I feel like episodes with a smaller cast are always stronger writing-wise. Their (platonic) chemistry was great as they saw new sides of each other.

Neemon and Bokomon are kind of starting to annoy me, they just don't really add anything to the story. Neemon especially is just silent most of the time? Like...why are they even there? Maybe if they contributed to fighting or something it would be more justified.

Loved teacher Tokomon and her little rural elementary school. It was like Non Non Biyori Digimon style haha

If I was put on the spot to tell tales of the human world to lil digimon I probably wouldn't know wtf to say either. Maybe I'd talk about human food?

Why'd Nyaromon beat up Junpei so hard lol. They censored it to a single hit in the dub but in the original it was a big smackdown.

Probably the most intriguing part of the episode to me was Izumi's backstory. She was ostracized at her school for being too western? Like she has the individualist instead of collectivist mindset. They demonstrated this will really subtle things like not wanting to go to the bathroom with a classmate and not wanting to buy the same trinket as everyone on an outing. Japanese people might see that as being cold. Prioritizing logic/individual feelings over the feelings of the group. I really liked that Izumi refuses to change due to peer pressure. I think some of the fakey "always get along with everyone" thing Japan has going on is BS too.

Apparently neither Junpei nor Izumi can swim? They acted so helpless when Tsunomon was in trouble. Also, it kinda seemed like you could just stand up in that water. IDK how common it is for Tokyo residents to not learn to swim but I always see water parks and beach trips in anime so I would think swim lessons are common? (I know anime isn't real life but it's based on something lol)

Getting bullied for digivolving early is kinda like getting bullied for hitting puberty first haha (like that one girl in Are You There God, It's Me Margaret)

Kinda strange that Izumi and Junpei's instinct would be to tell Gabumon to save the day, that's a lot of pressure to put on a kid! Also, a Gabumon seems like a weird choice for the situation (pulling someone out of a rushing river). Shoulda made it a Gomamon honestly.

We're just gonna ignore the fact that they're somehow sailing on grass as if it was water? They didn't even mention it!

#digimon frontier #digimon #anime

[ctheathy]

Any and all Julius the Dressmaker HCs please! Any genre, idc, anything about him!🖤 Please feed my hyperfixation, I'm starving😭🖤

Yandere Julius the Dressmaker Headcanons

Julius Doherty x Reader

Yandere Headcanons

Character + Artwork by Sanityshorror

Author’s Note : Been on quite the yandere streak with my asks lately, so obsessive hcs it is!! My sincere apologies due to it being rather short, it’s been a while since I’ve been genuinely close with the Creepypasta fandom, and my memory on the beautiful man is slightly blurred. Hope these are alright for now, sweetheart🌹

Julius the Dressmaker/Reader [Romantic]

[Gender-neutral Darling|Female Darling|Male Darling]

Potential ⚠️TWs⚠️ :

Superiority complex • Murder, a lot of murder • Stitches • It’s vague whenever his darling actually dies or not • Arrogance • Possessiveness • Corpses mention • Controlling behaviour • Gaslighting • Sadism • Degrading treatment • Abuse of high class position • Cheating • Assault • Blood mention • Julius is a hypocrite

˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙

Julius is a very conflicted person. On one hand he can and will come off as an incredibly arrogant, selfish and cruel individual when given a reason to, but on the other he is a very starved being for both praise and appreciation, often openly reaching out for it too. He wants eyes on himself and will get overbearing during conversations in order to get the topic swapped to his liking, his delusional mindset having convinced his own importance to be superior over that of anyone else’s. But it tends to bother him the trouble it has always given him during that time. Humans have always been hypocritical.

He himself has always gained stacks on stacks of attention due to his attractive appearance and charming demeanour alone. He’s alluring and mesmerizing in the eyes of those around him, and it has resulted in him getting what he continuously wants so badly; unnecessary validation and praise for simply existing. It not helping in the slightest that he has the direct knowledge on how to get what he wants. But there was something that had slowly started to tick him off as time went on.

Genuine and thoughtful compliments directed torwards other people.

The more attentiveness he gained over the years, the more it felt as if there was little to no thought behind it, much to the point these compliments had felt as if they were nothing but a must. He’s so needy for the observation, so desperate for the entire acknowledgement of other people ... but it has just become so common, it was becoming much more similar to simply telling a white lie. Some eerily directed commentary with no emotion connected to it, the type of wording that shouldn’t be affecting him this much in modern days. And yet, here he was. Being put in an irritable state and a sense incredulity by others achieving a certain type of attention that he just doesn’t get. Feeling any comments being send torwards those around him to be a lot more real rather than the ones he has always gotten.

It’s already hard enough to get this man’s attention on you as it is, much less keep it. But I believe a certain fixation with you could be produced by holding a specific kind of thought process as a person, a mindset whom he just cannot provide for himself. He had never been provided with or even offered much when considering positivity and such. So he tends to be caught strangely off guard when sweethearts such as yourself come around without any seeming hidden motives. Your appearance would be a strange turn for the male, and it had only resulted in the complexity of his emotions worsening.

Though you held a sense of pride and self confidence, you weren’t arrogant like he was. You took flaws and always tried turning them into something positive, letting there be a positive spin on it for both yourself and those surrounding your presence. This being a part of you he almost envies in a way, taking something imperfect and yet, still seeing it as something good? Despicable... The literal root of his obsession would merely be created alongside the start of his jealousy torwards you. You’re far from perfect, yet you were willing to be the perfect example of an endearing creature to look up to when it came to those around you. A role he wanted.

He’d definitely try to suppress these feelings, considering them to be a negative effect to his image and that it’s an unworthy distraction from his job. He would go out of his way to gaslight himself into believing himself to despise you with every cell of his body, even to the point of specifically targeting you for his ridicule and bottled up anger; which only leads to him growing more frustrated with himself for giving you that unworthy attention, but he just cannot seem to leave you be no matter how much he tries. He wants to believe himself to detest you with the entirety of his heart, but he keeps on crawling back in the end. It’s as if your positivity is taking a toll on him, like it’s some sickening spell he cannot free himself from.

He would end up so very embarrassed if he still managed to catch up with his unwanted feelings and his complex desire for you. It’s just so very unprofessional of him-! Much less having fallen for an average person such as yourself. He considers himself an complete embarrassment and is still yet one to deny these for a very long time. In his eyes, he could have had everything. He had a loving relationship, one whom had to be left behind for his own selfish desires. He had a major self image who was currently getting destroyed to bits due to your influence. And most importantly, his already poor self esteem is now going off the charts.

To many, it comes to no surprise that Julius is a perfectionistic individual, holding not only hard standards for himself, but forcing them upon those around him as well, including his darling no doubt. He’d go out of his way to put you in the spotlight and bring attention to the little flaws you may or may not have. Every little detail gets spotted and is easily turned against you, behaving as if you’re his little toy to continuously ‘improve’.

Little mr. Perfect over here also tends to be surprisingly possessive when it comes to you. He continuously assaults and degrades you like you’re some low class vermin, but he makes it very clear it’s only him who can behave this way torwards you. This shall be the only genuine care you’ll ever receive from the man too, something that’s not merely an act, that is. It’s for selfish reasonings and self-benefit only, but he’ll call out and concentrate on the said person who harassed you, making sure they’ll be missing by the next day by luring them in as his next victims. He is already naturally possessive of those he deems his property, but he truly takes it to a whole nother level when it comes to you. Any close connections you may hold with another shall be shut down real quick. His kill count is intensifying and fastening in action. It gets to a point where he doesn’t even try to hide his murders anymore, shamelessly leaving the bodies of those you love on your doorstep with the countless of physical deformities due to the torture they’ve faced in his hands.

If other people started the same treatment he had always given you, he fears for the worst to lose your attention on him. His intentions and final goal with you almost seem vague in a way, as if he’s in constant debate with himself aswell. He’s constantly suffering of behaviour moodswings and pushes it onto anybody unfortunate enough to be close at that moment. His mannerisms and behaviour may sometimes even make him seem loveable in a way. But do not be fooled, dear. All tends to be nothing but a mere facade, a simple mask he wears for a certain while in order to try and make you let your guard down. And he shall continue these unsavoury acts to the point where you're most likely nothing but a broken doll to him, the shell of a person you once were.

But do not despair now, dove, he’ll stitch you to perfection.

˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙ᵕ꒳ᵕ˙˚˙

#creepypasta x reader #creepypasta julius #yandere creepypasta #yandere julius the dressmaker #julius doherty #julius the dressmaker #julius the dressmaker x reader

[lettucedloophole]

hi, I'm a trans feminist and I've been saddened by the lack of feminism in many of my communities. I'm wanting to follow more feminists on here but honestly it's a bit terrifying because so many people claiming to be feminists or trans inclusive are not remotely so and will throw you under the bus in the blink of an eye, if not slowly spread insidious essentialist ideas about gender that hurt everyone but especially those like me.

as a former terf (from your bio) I was wondering if you have any signs, green or red flags, for people and bloggers in particular, regarding radical feminism that may indicate some form of more subtle terf-y beliefs so I can keep an eye out from them, as typically I stay far away from terf spaces for the obvious reason that they hate me, but I've noticed there's some mixing in more rad fem spaces that can be very hard to disentangle, but I don't want that to stop me from engaging with feminism for again, obvious reasons.

also if you have any trans feminist or trans friendly feminist bloggers you'd recommend, especially transfeminine ones, that would be really cool too.

ty for your time! have a great day

hi! not gonna lie its difficult out here 😭 you're dead on that most ppl claiming to be trans-inclusive or feminists are not remotely. i follow people and then have to unfollow when they post or like something strange still ...

i would say chiefly, follow your instincts. as a trans person, especially if you're tma, if you're getting bad vibes you are probably correct. if you're not in a space to deal with bigotry then don't worry about giving the benefit of the doubt, avoiding feminism online won't revoke your feminist card but i know looking at feminism online can also be very healing when dealing with misogyny uh Everywhere so i'll give some other tips.

- the classic "look up trans on their blog before you follow." depending on what type of blog they are, it can be kind of suspicious if they never mention trans people. and then you can very easily weed out the obvious transphobes with this too.

- i would say some red flags are using the adjective "natal" (as in natal women), referring to cis women's oppression as sex-based while trans women's as. Not sex-based, and buying into "trans women are male socialized" rhetoric. this may seem kind of obvious but even if a person doing this identifies as a tirf they're revealing a clear lack in understanding of what transmisogyny is and how trans women exist in the world. this is often how people think before fully deradicalizing, but a lot of people also just begin here or never leave this mindset.

- avoid guys who talk about transandrophobia 🥶🥶 this is a specific thing bc speaking about transmasc issues in itself is obvi good and not bad but sooo many transmascs will try to pose their issues in opposition to transfems and try to do a "well but does transmisogyny exist really because i am Also tma" thing. usually these guys are gonna come out with some real fucked up talking points about trans women because they think they're oppressed by them 🙃 the term "transandrophobia" has kinda been overrun with people like that from what ive seen but ppl can use "anti-transmasculinity" and still mean the same things yk. you have to use your judgement a bit but once you're familiar with them it's easy to spot them out

- this is less of a tip and just a heads up but even blogs who themselves r trans inclusive or profess to be, or are run by a trans person, can still rb terf blogs, i probably have sometime as well though i try to avoid it and i'm not saying you have to avoid that but it's just a common thing, so if that bothers you you should look for a page that's more in the trans community or another community

- honestly the radfem tag is a cesspool and even the tirf tag can be Questionable 😔 it's going to behoove you most probably to just look for transfeminist and other sorts of patriarchy-averse individuals lmao. i looked at the transfeminism tag for the first time today (don't know why I hadn't sooner actually) and it's good! there's some stray weird posts but definitely better than the rf tag on here 💀

i would rly just recommend you check out some blogs, follow them if you think they're neat, and unfollow if you want to later on. that's generally what i do and i've followed some cool people on here from it :]

i don't have as many recommendations as i would Like to give but that's not to say there isn't transfeminists out there. they're just in their own circles. don't feel like u need to settle for terfy tirfs or antifeminists because you can find ppl you feel kinship with!!!

- i really like @taliabhattwrites ! she has a substack where she gives good insight on feminist issues, not only transmisogyny but lesbian issues as well. she also writes EPIC fiction about lesbians and trans women 🙏🙏 has taught me a lot over the years

- shey're not active rn, but i've really liked looking through @transmisogyny-explained 's blog. very informative and good to either unpack transmisogyny in yourself or perhaps help others do so.

- @leftismsideblog mostly talks about youthlib, but when she does talk about gender, they r Correct lol

- if u have a twitter, this is a must-- FOLLOW BLOOMFILTERS. they are so incredibly kind and smart and the mixing of that compassion and intelligence in a person is just bound to make Good Takes. she is an icon

i hope this can kinda help you and stay strong out there :')) it's rough but im rooting for u 💪 my asks or messages r always open if you need some help or just someone to talk to. i hope u have an awesome day too!!!

#trans inclusive radical feminism #radical feminism #tirf #asks

[azulsluver]

May i request yan!Silver whos always finding ways to follow MC and has been getting more crafty with gathering intel? Yes he is still very loyal to Malleus and doesnt slack off but Silver also has been watching you from the sidelines and pops up just in time whenever there's trouble

tw. Yandere, stalking, mentions of marriage, unhealthy mindset. (Lilia’s fault)

Silver wouldn’t take much interest with you at first, not until he figures out why Malleus was so keen on walking out on late nights. As Malleus’s guard, it’s important to watch with a sharp eye whenever your name is even mentioned. Lilia would scold him playfully for overthinking, that he should be more laid back and respectful to the future King’s first friend. Taking his word, Silver will pay you a visit, a hand written apology laid neatly in your mailbox.

It may be the last you’ll hear from him, explaining how a responsible knight is always a busy one. With so little interaction, you’d bid him goodbye and leave words of longing as two friends. It was so sweet of you, the remembrance of your voice has his chest cheesing. Silver isn’t fond of the feeling, seeking you out more often just from a mutter of your name. Finding himself more interested with you, a kind soul in a world full of villains. You wouldn’t notice Silver from afar, seeing him meant Malleus was near, it wouldn’t hurt to indulge yourself for some small chit chat. Appreciating you for worrying about him, its a nice change of pace in his dull life.

Silver would be conflicted towards you, you’re no threat at all so why does he get mixed feelings with you? Sometimes, when you’re with Malleus, he’d accompany you both much to Malleus dismay. To voice his reasons, it was to make sure nothing went wrong, nothing else. But even he will question himself, finding things such as your favorite restaurant and snack, or the type of clothing brand you enjoy buying. That shouldn’t be normal. In fact, he thinks it’s borderline creepy. Silver would be disgusted with his own behavior, a friend shouldn’t be knowing these types of things with someone their not close to. With these unsure emotions, his last resort would to report with Lilia, only would he console his guilt.

Lilia would lounge in his room, upside down with a mischievous glint behind those eyes, he’s never seen this side of Silver. A dangerous confession it was, the poor soul of a crush gone terribly wrong.

“Ohoho? Little Silver looking so troubled, don’t fret now. It’s normal for kids your age to seek those you like. Special ones to be exact.” Poking fun of Silver’s expression, Lilia continues to rant on.

“You might find it strange but its common for one wanting to know more of the person they love.”

“Love?” Silver bashfully repeated the word, a look of doubt flashes his face.

Lilia smiles gleefully. “Why yes! Don’t you have a sudden urge to protect them? To know them better as a whole, It’ll help you during the long run and in no time, you’ll woo them into your arms!” Clasping his hands together, Lilia looked to be as one happily planning a future wedding and not one planting a seed of false morality. But Lilia’s his parent figure, wasn’t everything he said good advice, his gut feeling telling him otherwise. Taking in his words of encouragement, he continues his far observation. It’s not hurting anyone he says, as long as you didn’t know, Silver will continue to be your knight from the shadows.

He started to get more creative when it came to watching you from the distance, certain that what he was doing was for the best. Silver would blend with the crowd as you shop for groceries, walk down the unlighted streets at night as you enter your car, going as far to watch you sleep. Just with less guilt.

It was to protect you, the very sentence keeping him sane if he just sugar coats it enough. He’s not sure how long he can do this, balancing over watching you and Malleus at the same time pricks at his anxiety. His feelings are getting the better of him, there has to be a way to manage the burning desire to keep you safe.

Silver would protect you until he finally caved in his worries of harm being done to you. Certain that a future spouse should be well taken care of under his surveillance. And what’s no better way to tie you with him. He might have to make a proposal with Lilia about wedding receptions.

#yandere twst #yandere twisted wonderland x reader #twisted wonderland x reader #silver x reader #twst silver x reader

[asherlockstudy]

Hey folks so GMMore 2616 went to some interesting places, no?

I am talking about the how many years each of them would ideally live segment.

First, Rhett makes a joke about whether he should answer how much Link would want to live or he would want Link to live, implying that Rhett would want Link to live less so he can escape from his difficult character.

I don't know if it was payback or just because Link often makes this strange joke, but Link then comments that he took into account that Rhett will have an earlier death and his bad death is just sure thing due to his height leading to bad health.

How nice. This joke is just so common between them I find it weird because it is a little cruel. Link also never looks delighted when he makes this joke, so I wonder whether this is a coping mechanism, like exorcising this fear with humour.

Rhett continues with his own joke and says that Link would probably be able to get up to 98 without problem but all his loved ones would probably prefer him gone by 75. Link laughs along at first and acknowledges some truth to it but he gets a little pensive because of it. Then after all this, Link observes:

"So that means your answer for how long you want to live is 76"

Rhett does not refuse this (although he is still clearly in the mindset of his joke) and agrees. Link further explains why to the audience:

"Because he's a year older than me"

So, what Link reasoned is that if Rhett expects or wants Link to die at 75, then logically he also wants to die at 76, at the same year. LIKE. Maybe this is a joke of "you can't live without me"??? Or something that has been discussed between them???????????????????????

Then Link goes on about wanting to reach 91 and he estimates he may be in good physical health but he is going to have some kind of dementia, but he would just be happy to be around for Rhett just to "put him in places". By the way, I wasn't sure he said "him" about Rhett because it was muttered very quickly but according to the official subtitles apparently he did.

Then this little melody

which may or may not have had some small effect on Rhett:

#rhett and link #randl #rhink #r&l #gmmore 2616 #good mythical more #gmmore #mythical

[whumpshaped]

Hi! Feel free to ignore this if you don't want to answer (I promise I won't be offended if that's something that worries you), but you mentioned maybe writing cult whump and I was wondering if you had any resources for that that you could share? Like, cult mindset, leaving cults, anything really. No worries if you don't or just don't want to answer, you just seemed like someone to ask! I'm doing my own research as well but it's tricky.

- @pigeonwhumps

hi friend! i love that this is my legacy now but also i wanna clarify for everyone reading that i am not an authority on this at all, i have never been in a cult, etc etc. that being said, these are the kind of stuff i watched and read about:

literally any cult documentary i can find on youtube or anywhere. ex-member testimonies, documentaries on the people who are still living in it, etc. i watched several documentaries on the amish, i watched ex jehovah's witnesses testimonies, i watched one documentary about gwen shamblin, even the ones that are about mlm's because honestly? it illustrates stuff quite well sometimes. even people breaking down why and how the protag was indoctrinated in midsommar.

(some i have been recommended but haven't watched yet: shiny happy people, keep sweet: pray and obey

the ones i watched about the amish/mennonites: breaking the silence, meet the mennonites, why i left the amish, inside the community, the amish way of life

the one about gwen shamblin and the remnant fellowship: the millionaire preacher with a weight loss cult

i can't find that one jehovah's witness testimony i watched but here's the other video i watched about them so far: escaping jehovah's wittnesses

one i watched about nuns that illustrates leaving everything behind and uniformity and a huge emphasis on religion: what's life like as a nun?)

here's the bite model for assessing whether someone is or has been in a cult, basically gives you a checklist. i won't talk about how i would go about building a fantasy cult or anything because i think this draws attention to both the main and minor points of it. but do be cautious because some of the points get very intense.

the story i want to write is about being indoctrinated, so my main points will be an emotionally vulnerable protag and a cult that promises something good. something they want. conditional love, forgiveness they have to work hard for, community, rigid structure, self-sufficiency aka isolation, someone dubious to follow and listen to.

but if you were to write about someone born into a cult and wanting to escape or even just navigate it, common themes will be a relatively happy childhood when they don't know any better, The Realisation, and then the stage when they want to leave but don't know where to go because all their friends and family are in the cult. plus, do they want to leave? maybe they should just work harder, no? but then there's the possibility of being kicked out and shunned so the decision is made for them, which is even scarier and extremely painful.

for life outside the cult, there are organisations that try to help former cult members, a lot of times comprising of other former cult members who have escaped and understand the struggle. one thing the guy in breaking the silence highlights is not trying to tell fresh escapees what to do and how to do it. they just escaped a cult! they don't wanna be told what to do anymore!

also there will be the obvious struggles, like loss of community, feeling isolated again, trying to build relationships with people that just don't get it and that you don't get, having missed out on a traditional childhood and being unable to relate etc., but there will also be strange struggles like the amish guy mentions of like... going into a clothing store for the first time in his life after years and years and years of having all his clothes custom made by his mother. he didn't know his size, didn't know the types of jeans, but the most startling realisation was that there was a women's section. it didn't even cross his mind! girls and women never wore pants in his community! how can he even tell which ones are girl jeans? he didn't want to embarrass himself, so he just left.

sooooo...... i think that's it for my info and sources? oh, and clearly i like to immerse myself in the source material, like the bible. it's very interesting to see which sections have been taken out of context and amplified for different denominations/cults. i can see what parts the amish read aloud, i can see which parts they don't. i can see where they get some of the rules, but i can also see how they're disproved in the same book by the same god and why they don't really want their children and people to read the entirety of it. in one community, the rule was that everyone had to read the bible in german - while at the same time they stopped teaching german in their schools.

OKAY now i'm really done. again please take everything with a grain of salt :) the closest i've ever gotten to a real cult irl was through my classmate and ex-boyfriend who was a member of the faith church (which might be an exclusively hungarian thing? hitgyülekezet for any hungarians reading lol) and who just said the most bonkers shit and really messed me up. but that's it. everything else is through documentaries and stuff. but i hope this helps anyway :)

#asks #pigeonwhumps

[suturcd]

@bizzarrra said: "how did you get your stand?" trish asks, a glint of curiosity in her green eyes as she regards fran. "sorry if that's too personal – i'm just curious, since mine kind of showed up during a battle not that long ago."

It's a simple enough question, spoken with what seems to be a straightforward curiosity, which strangely enough makes it somewhat difficult for Fran to formulate the proper answer. She's cultivated a necessary habit of weighing her words carefully when responding to any sort of questioning, one born from her years within the grinding wheel of Passione, where information is power, and to give too much of it too freely is to seal your own fate at the hands of those who would misuse it against you. She does not quite know what to make of Trish Una within the framework of this mindset yet; a girl who seems to be simultaneously divorced and messily entwined with the circumstances of the gang (or, at the very least, Mr. Bucciarati's team in particular).

With this in mind, Fran wonders if there's some unspoken significance to her coming to Fran with this question--did Mr. Buccellati direct her to do so because they're both girls of a certain age, or is there something more, some unspoken expectation of her to assist Trish in some way? If so, Fran feels ill equipped for the task, but feels compelled to try.

"...I was young," she begins, the pad of a gloved thumb swiping idly over the back of her other hand. "It manifested seemingly of its own volition during a moment of grave personal danger." Her assessing gaze flickers away from Trish. Head tilting in thought, she adds: "...To obtain it as we have isn't as common, but it's not unheard of, either. The vast majority of members, from what I gather, obtained their Stand in a more deliberate process."

Polpo's lighter test. The arrow. Fran does not know what Trish is or is not meant to know, however, so she speaks around it for now.

"...It must have been difficult." There is an unexpected, subtle weight to the otherwise-neutral inflection of her words here, a halting half-second more between the words. Their similarities--however different their personal circumstances are--are not lost on her. A girl, unmoored from the life she once knew, struggling to adapt to her new circumstances, her newfound abilities, her new normal. Fran knows it's no easy thing--wonders if Trish feels rubbed-raw as Fran had when she'd lost her own--...when she'd lost. But perhaps she's just making assumptions, filling in the blanks with her own experiences. Regardless, when her gaze returns briefly to Trish's own she feels it soften just a touch. Fran doesn't exactly know what to do with that either, so she lets her eyes roam to a vague spot over the girl's shoulder instead. Lays out her next words in her head with care. Quietly clears her throat. "...You were fortunate to gain one while under Mr. Bucciarati's supervision, at least. He's... a clever and capable person. In my limited experience."

#ic. #ic asks. #rp. #bizzarrra #sorry this took so long dkghdskgh UMMM THEY #please lmk if anything needs to be reworked here wrt the extent fran would be aware of trish's circumstances!!

[hughjidiot]

Hey, I realize this may be a little strange but I just wanted to drop by your inbox and thank you.

I stumbled across your blog from reading your TDI fanfics over on AO3 and have been finding it both entertaining and honestly a comfort.

I’m new to TD but I’m an older fan (will be turning 30 in a few months) and the absolute state of fandom these days is almost anxiety inducing. It’s an absolute joy to see other people around my age and older still enjoying things like cartoons and comics and it’s such a relief to see that there are also still people with the mindset of “ship and let ship” and happily ignoring drama. I honestly worry about teens and young adults in fandoms these days who are policing each other over the most mundane things. I definitely remember taking certain fandom wank too seriously when I was a teen, but back then I could never imagine sending or receiving death threats over fanworks.

It’s a shame that these days your best hope at enjoying a series is to keep it amongst yourself or celebrate it with friends who you trust aren’t going to try and get you fired from your job over fictional characters.

Lately when I’ve found myself starting to get filled with dread by glancing at an active fandom I pop on over to your blog and read some of the posts you’ve reblogged about fandom which has led me to discover other blogs with similar mindsets to follow as well.

I just can’t express how much of a sigh of relief it is to see people like you out here still happily and proudly upholding common sense and courtesy.

As a happy aside, you’ve also got me convinced that it’s time for an Amphibia rewatch!

Anyways, I appreciate all the content you’re putting on my dash and I’m greatly enjoying your latest TD fic as well. Thanks!

Thank you so much for the kind words! I'm always happy to hear that people enjoy my stories, it's the whole reason I write in the first place.

And from one fandom old-timer to another I totally get what you mean about certain younger portions of fandoms being very puritanical when it comes to certain kinds of content. To me it's just the same "Pokemon/D&D is Satanic" and "video games make children violent" rhetoric that I heard growing up, just repackaged with a "progressive" filter.

I don't let those attitudes bother me; I just write the stories I wanna write knowing that there are people like you out there who enjoy my writing no matter what.

#hugh jidiot answers

[spiritelectric3]

My journey through Homestuck: Act 1

The gods have chosen me to experience the horrors of Homestuck. I have chosen to do so via comic dub (specifically the Void Over Nexus dub). Here are my takes:

-Okay, I'm still in the kid's bedroom and they are already introducing such complicated mechanics. -16 minutes in and he's finally left his room. I'm so glad I didn't read this or it would have taken forever -I'll admit, so far, this does make me feel kinda nostalgic for my childhood. It has an attitude that was common for comic books and cartoons of the 2000s, but has gone away. Reminds me a lot of picking up random comic books from the library as a kid and reading them over and over. -With some deeper thought, too, this is a pretty accurate description of what it's like to have free time as a kid, how you kind of just goof off doing whatever, but somehow it all feels important. Sort of like how the Lord of the Rings dedicates a lot of pages to walking so that the reader gets a similar feeling to the characters. -Plus, from what I know from the plot, this is kind of an actually good way to set up a story like this. John's home is important, so the work spends time on it. It's annoying that it takes awhile, but that's why we have comic book dubs. -okay, tbh, this is a pretty accurate depiction of what (neurodivergent?) childhood thinking is like, at least for my own childhood -okay, so more on the neurodivergent thinking thing: I love how well the comic integrates strange system but shifts the reader's mindset towards the world of the series well. It reminds me of how I end up seeing the world differently based on my current hyperfixation -also unrelated, but I thought Stacks were first in first out and Queues were first in last out -wait, how is this inventory system different!? -thought on the language: I think the descriptions thus far are kind of hit or miss. It's a hit when we get detailed poetic descriptions of childhood mentality. It's a miss when it becomes so long and pedantic that I can't make heads nor tails of it. -Is TT… psychic!?

-I love how no one in this series can handle simply having a human body so they need inventories and the ability to move things long distance. Honestly same (oh god I'm beginning to think like the writing style) -okay, this is just what it's like to play an overly complicated video game for the first time, just in semi-literary form -I'm kind of terrified of what's gonna happen to the second person narrator later on -Why are John's eyes shaped like glasses lenses if he doesn't wear them? -I love how ominous Sberb is quickly becoming -…OH. I think I'm beginning to realize how this became a massive influence on all media in the 2010s+ -This is the moment where I am wondering if I should turn back, already realizing that it is too late -Honestly, I can already see how someone could write a paper on how this series fundamentally redefines thought, in and of itself -why does this series make me want to play Run 2 on coolmathgames.com? -this is legitimately like non-cyperpunk cyberpunk -I'll admit that for all that's been happening the meteor is kind of a weird uptick in stakes -Ah, that's what happens to the second person voice -I love how the narrator's personality shifts to match Rose's -Seeing Rose get introduced this late feels like during a first dnd session when your the last character to be introduced at the end of the session -Rose's captchalogue is pretty based -okay, I'm gonna say it. Rose is a much more entertaining character than john. She's like if Susie Derkins had a wilder imagination -Wait… WHAT THE FUCK!?

Overrall I'd say, yeah this is pretty slow. In this format it's honestly worse when they're playing the game than when John is just doing stuff in his house. Those earlier sections almost made me tear up. They didn't, but they got close. I think there is a childlike joythat encapsulates this series thus far, and has been the majority of the charm

#homestuck

[blue-flare10]

Hey :)

i remember seeing your comment on one of Nick's livestream videos on yt where you emphasised the bond between Leon and Ashley, and ohh boy was i scared to look at the replies because my hunch proved to be riiight, mad and in denial people left and right

especially at the end when you got bombed with "romantic in nature/not platonic!!" person who desperately tried to disprove and straight up ignore and discredit producers word for these two. I cannot believe these people sometimes, oh and gotta love when they play "you probably aeon shipper because they say the same thing"

it's just funny to me how people can't make a difference between a true bond between characters, Luis and Leon formed a bond too but suddenly no one wants to say how that could have been romantic too? double standards are wild. but since it's a woman and man then yeah OFC it has to be romantic in nature amirite? it's no use in feeding the trolls like those

Oh man, I had completely forgotten about that whole mess. I suppose I should have expected it, but even so. Some of the replies were a bit much. Though looking back, it’s almost funny how that one person’s response was to assume that the reason I don’t like one ship is because I support another. What a strange assumption. As though everything must be a shipping war.

You hit the nail on the head with the double standard. When it’s two men or two women the relationship is assumed to be platonic, but the second it’s a man and a woman people want to see it as romantic. As though two people of the same sex can’t be romantically interested in each other, or that a man and a woman can’t have a close platonic bond. It’s kind of exhausting, especially when this same mindset is common in real life as well.

#ask #resident evil #resident evil 4 #resident evil 4 remake #re4 #re4 remake #re4r

[0perfectimperfections0]

What if Lou was really smart, manipulative, and every doll feared to even disobey and anger him.

In a way, I can't really write this one out and I'll explain why.

Essentially, the movie already sets Lou up to be this way.

I'm looking into doing a personality analysis' of the characters to fit one of the 16 archetypes. The first will be Lou before I move on to the other characters.

But back to your question; Lou is already set up as smart and manipulative. And, honestly, he doesn't even realize he's manipulating them.

There's a specific line in our lives where we dictate what others do. A prime example that can be used parallel with Lou's situation is that of a parent and child. Our parents usually set us up to do chores when we were younger. They teach us how to clean and take care of the household. As we get older, the term "chores" changes to "responsibilities" and the difference between those two is that one is rewarded and the other is expected.

Manipulation at its foundational definition is simply an act of control over a person to achieve a personal aim. Our parents are not teaching us the importance of chores to necessarily be their slaves, but it's to set us up with this mindset that it MUST be done in order to be a functional human being. At the point where we understand the importance of chores, that is where it converts to responsibilities and they are then expected of us. Because anything less would be considered counterproductive to being a functional person.

And that's exactly what Lou is doing with the dolls. The factory has sent him to instill this sense of responsibility into the dolls that they MUST follow certain rules in order to leave. Because anything less would be counterproductive to serving their purpose as a doll.

We can't neglect the fact that Lou was created and conditioned by the factory. He has no free will, expressed by his captivity in the Institute. The robots being there also proves his limited freedom. They don't seem to be helping the dolls, right? So, why would they be there? It seems like they only hover around Lou. Even in the small scene where Ox has a flashback to Lou reaching a hand out to him, the robots are clearly seen in the background watching Lou. It appears they are also meant to act as a reminder to Lou of who he belongs to and why he is there.

So, everything that Lou believes has to stem from the factory in some way. Whether the lack of the factory's involvement with his development played a part in his personality or the overbearing involvement of them basically using him as a lab rat for the other dolls. Either situation is not ideal.

To learn something like manipulation comes from witnessing it or enduring it firsthand. Because you can't curate personality. That kind of thing has to be developed. Even AI has a developed personality and is not curated. So, to say that part of Lou's personality is manipulative wouldn't be entirely accurate, but that's how the movie paints it. He is simply doing whatever he has learned works to get the dolls to take the training seriously and not jump head-first into the Big World.

And to be able to learn this amongst other things makes him incredibly smart. At the point of the movie, he's analyzed the artificial personalities of the other dolls. He's managed to take such varying degrees of differentiation from them and figure out the common trick that will get them to listen. The washer seems to be one of those things: fear. Fear is what he has found to be the way to make them listen.

This leads to that last description you gave of all the dolls being too afraid to anger or disobey him. They really have no reason to be afraid of him. It's really the factory that is instigating all these rules and punishments.

The strange thing I find in the movie, though, is that it seems like no other doll is aware that the factory exists other than Lou and Ox. And Ox obviously doesn't tell Moxy or any of the Uglies about the factory because that would lead to more questions he can't answer.

But even the Pretty Dolls make no mention of the factory. From the time of their existence, all they know is the Institute of Perfection. They know there is a Big World that they are transported to magically. But they don't seem to realize there is a world literally outside of that Institute they are in. But since they don't realize that, they think that all the power is in Lou's hands. They don't see the puppeteer behind the strings.

They are already afraid to disobey or make him upset because they have this warped idea that their ability to go to the Big World is dependent on their relationship with Lou. It's not. Regardless of how he feels toward them, he can't keep them from passing the Gauntlet and leaving. This is why the Uglies were able to go through the Gauntlet.

He HAS to resort to this form of manipulation in order to keep the Uglies from going through the Gauntlet. Because if there was no problem with the Uglies passing, then why would the factory not notice Ox had been missing? Why would they have recycling for dolls that didn't meet their standards? Lou didn't build that.

He has to convince them that its pointless or else they will go through (just as they did) and pass. But the factory didn't intend for Uglies to be sold. They didn't intend for them to even exist, such is the reason for the recycle.

The movie doesn't delve further into the story. So, that last point is the kickstarter for my book "Backstitch" which continues the storyline under this premise of the factory playing a bigger part in the Pretty Dolls existence and the lack thereof for the Uglies.

It essentially answers that question "what's the big deal if the Uglies leave?" Why did Lou care so much? Why did he feel the need to have that mental control over them and over the other dolls?

Anyway, instead of a story you get a half-baked analysis XD.

#lou #fanfiction #analysis #rant #movie #writing

[29pageshomestuckeveryday]

Homestuck, page 2,653

John: Answer troll.

Author commentary:

The way Vriska introduces herself to John says everything about her, and about their relationship, and really, her relationship with everyone. She forcefully interrupts a moment that is deeply important and emotional to him, thereby probably denying that opportunity from ever happening again, just so she can insert herself into his life and force him to pay attention to her. Now here she is again, being kind of rude (e.g. calling him stupid), but more than that, being vaguely obsequious overall, which is something about her I was harping on in the last book. Vriska cozies up to certain kinds of people, namely those she wants something from or feels will elevate her status by association. John's the perfect mark for the manipulative, ass-kissing games she plays.

Since we're in the Vriska Zone now and forever, I'll just keep talking about her. It bears more examination of how her manipulation strategy seems to deftly blend ass-kissing and aggression. Successfully manipulative, sociopathically charismatic people tend to have this balance down to a science. The strategy seems to involve controlling the interplay between flattery, appealing to common interests, charming or flirtatious rhetoric, and little jabs, negs, or outright insults to keep the target off-balance. The target gets sort of hooked by the fascinating spectacle, intrigued, and strangely disarmed. Too much flattery results in suspicion, too much negativity is a turn-off (or taken to an extreme like Karkat, results in not being taken seriously at all). The barbs mixed in with the flattery are effective because they lead the target to think, "If this person really wants something from me, why would they insult me?" Of course, this is how pick-up artists operate, which isn't far off from Vriska's mindset when pursuing her goals—which, although more broad than romantic goals, are still mixed in with them, with the end result being part of the overall power play. Over the course of her tactics focused on John to make herself more relevant, when actual romantic designs start seeping into the fabric of her manipulation campaign, that's when it all starts to get…A Little Bit Weird.

#gif #pesterlog

[wisteria-lodge]

unBurnt lion primary (badger model) + badger secondary

Hello! It’s nice to meet you (and I hope I’m in the right place for this)! I’ve followed you for quite a long time and I really enjoy your thoughts. I was wondering if you could help me out with my primary? I’m fairly certain I’ve figured out my secondary (badger), but I’m struggling with my primary–it could be either badger or lion (both answers I’ve gotten), or maybe even a twist from left field (bird?).

All right, let’s sort you out :D

The only primary I think I certainly don’t have is Snake, though I think I wanted to be a Snake. Growing up, I was obsessed with the idea of having a best friend. When I finally got a best friend, we grew incredibly codependent, so much so that it was devastating when she broke up with me 

Hmmm. All things being equal, this sounds like a Badger primary. They’re probably the most in danger of going co-dependent. But young Snake is also possible - young Snakes tend to put a LOT of importance on best friends and first romantic partners, and I do think it’s interesting that the way you phrased it, you and your friend “broke up.” But, a Burned Lion latching onto an external source is also possible. 

(I couldn’t choose between her and the potential blowback of my community, who I thought wouldn’t support me, leaving me friendless where I was living. I made no choice. She left).

Oooh, that sounds pretty darn Badger. At very least, an intense Badger model. 

The only person I really trust fully anymore is my mom, but I recognize that she’s not always right, and I’ll argue against her when she’s not. 

Probably not a burned Idealist (at least not right now.)  

I think sometimes love, to me, is permission to be a lot more honest with people. 

First, that is an absolutely beautiful way to think about love. A very relatable way to think about love. But that focus on honesty and authenticity... does tend to be a Lion thing. 

I think I’m a badger primary because of patterns. When I moved as an adolescent, I felt completely unmoored, and I immediately tried to find a community to attach myself onto. But I don’t necessarily think I took my morality from the group of people I was with; rather, I tried to do things I thought would be best for the group, after understanding how it worked. 

That is the description of a Badger secondary, which we know you are.

There was an element of the group that desperately lacked, so I created a one-woman-stop where I essentially did four tasks at once so that we would have this strong structure that would benefit everyone. 

Yeah, you’re a LOUD Badger secondary. Badger secondaries are all about that sort of “The DnD party needs a healer, I guess I’m playing a cleric,” kind of mentality. 

My friends called me out for not delegating well, 

A common Badger secondary problem. We do tend to think “but what if we worked harder” :/

so I tried to fix it by creating a team (which felt strange. I love to work, but I would hate to devalue anyone by not accepting their help when offered). When the team’s work wasn’t very strong, I asked them to make it stronger. I had very strong feelings about the “right” and “wrong” way to do things, and about the kind of quality of work we needed to put out (which: was I taking this too seriously and potentially being hard on people who were helping me? Probably. It would have been different if we had been just messing around, but people were counting on us to do good work, and we had to make it count. Plus, I like doing work I’m proud of.) 

ugh, the CURSE of the group project. This is one of the reasons that I *do* think Badger secondaries often struggle as team *leaders.* I mean you can train yourself out of this mindset of course. But still. Annoying. (and the temptation to just do everyone else’s work is still there.) 

Now, in a new location in a new community, after hearing what hurts the group and the common problems are (and getting extremely frustrated) I decided to try and organize us so we can fix it. I hate complaining about something that could be fixed without trying to fix it 

I think whatever community/communities you’ve been part of have been extremely Badger. I want to say that this is a very Badger way of thinking about things - it’s pointless to talk about the problem unless you also have the solution.

and I’m tired of watching my friends get hurt. I try to join communities that agree with and support my morals, 

See, I’m really leaning more Lion primary for you. You’re using a lot of Badger language, but it seems a little more external and conscious, while when you talk about Lion... that’s just the way things are. Morals first, communities second, that’s a Lion way of thinking about it. With Badgers, the community becomes the morality. They have this way of picking up and carrying the communities they’re a part of with them. 

but I also very deeply believe that we can make things better in communities that are worth it. 

I would hope that any primary could/should be able to believe this. 

I feel like that sounds fairly lion, but sometimes I can’t tell where my ideals end and my communities begin, because so much of what I believe is based around the way people deserve to be treated. 

You almost certainly have Badger-flavored morals, and ALSO you’ve got that Badger secondary which is extremely concerned with things being done *fairly* and *right.*

I know that I tend to have an idea of certain codes people should follow and beliefs people should have. A lot of it I get from my parents; they taught me a lot about everyone’s value as people, about being kind to others, and about hard work. A lot of it I learned from the leftist internet in my teenage years. I learned during that period the downsides of “outsourcing” my moral code. 

Hmm. “Outsourcing” your moral code is an interesting way to put it, and honestly sounds much more like Burned Lion than anything else. I don’t think any other primary would put it quite that way. I wonder if I was right with my first guess, and you *were* burned when you were younger. 

While the opinions I was expressing were ones the people around me shared, and I still believe in a lot of what was said, I don’t think the way in which I went about those movements was always empathetic. 

While this could be a few different things depending on the circumstances, I relate HARD to that Lion Badger combination of “I don’t regret what was said; I regret the specific way I said it.” 

I do believe that there is no hierarchy of humans and that we’re all in this together, but I also know that I’m inherently pretty judgemental (as much as I try to appear like I’m not). When someone does something I think is really rude, or expresses a belief I have problems with (nothing big, but maybe something small), I don’t share with them as much, and we become less close. They still deserve fundamental human respect, but I trust them less.

Yeah. You’re an idealist. You’re a Lion. No wonder this was so relatable, we house match. 

I know this got fairly long winded and I’m sorry; I tried to edit it down. I hope you’re having a lovely day! Thank you so much!

You are very welcome, and I thought this was quite short and to the point. 

#submission #sortme #wisteria sorts #shc #lion badger #lion primary #badger secondary #although there might be some burnt lion primary in there too #sortinghatchats