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raquellemonsta · 10 months

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kiss me more (bokuto x reader)

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chapter 7: gossip

Usually, when you woke up in the morning and checked your phone, you'd only have a few notifications from random apps and maybe a friend. You hadn't been expecting what you woke up to this morning, to say the least. Friends were sending you news sites and posts all about the same person: you. You read through some of the headlines:

"MSBY star Bokuto Koutaro seen leaving shop with mystery woman"

"Who is Bokuto's new girlfriend? (Pictures and more)"

There were even some of his fans on Twitter dragging you for basically no reason other than the fact you were seen with their sports crush. While some were nice (calling you cute or saying you looked good together), others were saying things like "the girl in those pictures with Bo is soo average" and "she's lowk ugly... he can do better".

Those pissed you off, but you knew better than to keep reading tweets. You could get lost in it for hours and that was when you weren't the one they were talking about. It probably wasn't good for your mental health (in fact, it definitely wasn't). Also, seeing the pictures kind of freaked you out. It was like having a stalker even though it was just paparazzi offshoots that were doing it for their job. It was still unsettling to see the two of you walking out of Onigiri Miya, and even entering your apartment building. What if people started showing up at your building in the hopes of meeting Bokuto? Or worse, what if they waited outside of your apartment for you to question you or more. You shut your phone off and went into your bathroom. You had to admit, it was kind of surreal seeing yourself on social media in the context of people who don't even know you. You pumped some moisturizer onto your hands and spread it across your face. You took longer than necessary in an effort to lower your heartrate and ease your mind. After you were calmed down, you went back out to your room and picked up your phone again. This time, you noticed a text from Yachi.

Yachi 💫

hey can you tell me why everytime i open social media i see you?

(y/n)

I DONT KNOW it's not my fault i swear idek what's happening

Yachi💫

well it looks to me like you've made a lot of bokuto stans really mad lol 😜

(y/n)

😔

You let out a sigh, tossing your phone on your bed and then falling back onto it yourself. It was just your luck to have something like this happen. You barely even had time to savor your date with Bokuto before the internet found out and made it their major topic of the day. The whole situation was honestly one big headache. You weren't even officially dating, yet here all of these people were commenting on your relationship that even you weren't entirely sure about.

You couldn't help but imagine how people would react if you two actually became official. Would he announce it? Would they just get used to seeing the two of you together? Or would they inevitably hate you for taking up their volleyball god's attention and ruining their chances of getting with him? You weren't sure and in the present you didn't care.

Instead of focusing on that, you decided to actually do your job and opened your laptop. The advertisements for the match had been up all around Tokyo, and the big posters that would go up on the side of the arena they would play at should be coming in soon. The company paid people to hang them up, since they were giant and it was far out of your skillset.

The process of making them had been really fun. The team got to have a photoshoot with plenty of action shots (you definitely didn't ask the photographer for a print of Bokutos). From there, you had just designed some fun slogans to slap onto them, along with labeling the players. While they were attracting a lot of attention to the match, you had been informed that they were still looking to get more sales for tickets and merchandise.

This whole social media thing this morning had effectively distracted you from being able to do your job or come up with strategies to get more attention on the match.

Then, you had a brilliant idea. What if you used this whole situation to your advantage? You could use the buzz around you and Bokuto as a way to get more spectators for the MSBY vs Adlers match, both in person and watching it on tv.

You shot a quick email to your company's social media marketing sector and asked them to put out posts wherever they could essentially saying the same things. It wasn't long before you got an email back, confirming that the posts would be out soon. Not long after, you got a twitter notification for your company's 'news' account:

"Will Bokuto's mystery woman be at the MSBY vs Schweiden match? Find out here", along with a link to both tickets to watch in-person as well as information for where to watch it.

You grinned widely and even laughed at describing yourself as a 'mystery woman', but you had an idea and went with it. Then, you thought for a moment and wondered if Bokuto had any idea about everything that had been going on. You weren't sure if he seemed like a big social media, though for all you knew he could be crazy for it.

There was a text from him you hadn't noticed before, from around 20 minutes ago. You had probably been too busy emailing your work.

Koutaro ⭐

Hey hey hey how has your morning been?

read 11:26am

It put a smile on your face to know that he was thinking of you, but you were also confused. Did he have no idea about what people were saying? Maybe he didn't have friends like yours that spammed you with posts about yourself.

(y/n)

i've been okay. it was kinda weird seeing people posting about me everywhere but other than that

You didn't expect him to respond so quickly, especially when it had taken you so long to text back, however the three dots popped up only seconds after your text. You waited somewhat intently to see what he had to say.

Koutaro ⭐

Are people posting about you? What did you do??😲

It took everything in you to not literally laugh out loud. Again, with the grown man using emojis (which was extremely unserious but in a cute way), but also because it seemed he really had no idea about any of it. You sent him a few of the links your friends had sent you and explained it to him, before your phone started ringing and you saw his contact again. You quickly picked it up, but had to pull it away from your ears due to how loud he was.

"I'M SO SORRY, THIS IS ALL MY FAULT!" he yelled, "I HAVE CRAZY FANS!" he yelled. When your ears stopped ringing, you responded back.

"I can tell" you encouraged him to lower his volume. You shook your head at his absurdity. Two months ago, you would've never been able to guess this would be your reality. You decided to tell him how you had used it to your advantage, and how more people would be attending the game to support MSBY.

"You're so smart (y/n), I don't get how you do it". You felt a fluttering feeling in your chest before you got a hold of yourself again. He didn't give himself enough credit. While Bokuto seemed airheaded at some points, he was actually very emotionally intelligent and made up for lack of book smarts with his people skills.

"It's my job" you said and smiled, even though he couldn't see it. It was nice to talk to him, even though it had only been half a day since you last heard his voice.

"Thank you for last night again" you spoke, much quieter before. On the other side of the line, Bokuto smiled at the thought.

"Anything for you" he responded. You two exchanged a few more words before deciding to hang up so you could finalize one of your projects. Your phone buzzed one more time, and you checked it before putting it on do not disturb. You ever-present smile became even wider when you read it.

Koutaro ⭐

Come see me after the game on Saturday 😊

You were definitely ready for the match this weekend.

#haikyuu #haikyuu x reader #bokuto x reader #bokuto #hq yachi #msby

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dumplingsjinson · 8 months

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I need everyone’s opinion. I want to start using dating apps but i have a very unique name that if you googled it you could probably find out stuff and i dont feel comfortable with strangers doing that bc i know there are psyco guys out there. Can i use a nickname instead or how can i navigate this

I've seen many people using nicknames on dating apps. Matched with a few, too. The mixed signals dude used a nickname because of some stuff he had going on relating to his job. So yes, you can definitely use a nickname if you feel unsafe with using your real name. You can always just explain why and good guys will understand. If they're an ass about it, you dodged a bullet.

Good luck with the dating apps! It can be quite rough out there, I'll tell you that much, but it's an experience to have. Just remember if you're going to meet people on these apps, meet in public first, with a lot of people. Never meet in private or whatever, but I'm sure you already know considering how you're being cautious at the very start (which is a very good thing).

#anon asks #not prompts

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cashmasternolm · 9 months

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As an older faggot most alphas want young guys. May I ask if you have any suggestions for me on how to find alphas in AZ? I don’t have a lot of money and hope my service talents count.

Try Recon, an online dating site for gay men into fetish. Be honest about your age and what you look like, and dont overstate your desires to try and make yourself more appealing. Also, be open-minded. People with too many limits right off the bat are a turn-off, and you are never going to find someone into all the same things as you. Recon is a great app for finding people of every ilk in the gay man community, and its free version has enough to keep you happy without paying. Findom is not even allowed to be mentioned on Recon, though you will still find it. Tumblr is not a good place to find lasting relationships because the vast majority of people are bots and catfish at this point. You know the ones ... "How long have you been in the lifestyle?" Does that ring a bell? If anyone says that, block them. They are not who they say they are.

Good luck, fag.

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wanderrlust0 · 9 months

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honestlyyy my bf is lucky to have me!! bc ive seen and heard things that i feel like another girl would probably not give him more chances or go off on him out of frustration. even his sister told me she’d do things differently. idk im not trying to shit on him at all bc hes a really good person and i love him very much and want to be with him for the rest of my life. i just know that if it was the other way around with all the things we both have done, he would notttt trust me and he already has trust issues. i mean im not perfect either..yes i have done some small things before, but it was without any personal feelings and any intimate physical touch. now, there is a lot of context and things for part of what he did and the situation we were stuck in so like its not as bad as it sounds.. but STILL lol im just thinking. like i know if one of us had to break up with each other it would def be him breaking up with me. i just know. theres already been times where he would sound like he would and he’d make all these confrontations feel so serious. also, hes still a man. yes hes he/they, masc presenting, but he still thinks like men. im not trying to offend anyone pls if literally anyone reads this far so ill explain what i mean. he did not have good luck with girls in hs and so he worked on himself to look better and then got the attention from girls he craved back then. got some experience, got a gf, got cheated on, got dating apps again but stayed fwb with his ex until calling it off when we started dating. i know he can move quickly with things and act on his high sexual drive. if anyone whos considered attractive gives him attention, he could entertain the idea or like he starts to compare me and itll make me feel like im not enough and dont match his lifestyle. i feel like its easier for him than me to start seeing people in a sexual way and want to get in their pants. idk if it could be like the female attention since he doesnt always feel good about himself and now that a pretty girl shows interest its like it gets to his ego. again, i sound like im shitting on him but im not, im just thinking i can type it all out and leave it here bc ive never talked about this or wrote about it. i found out today that he did stuff with his friend ~3 yrs ago while me & him were on a break and me and her are like friendly acquaintances and we went to her baby shower, gender reveal party, & he went to her wedding, all after they did it. he really only told me now bc her husband i guess just found out somehow and msgd my bf about it and said he’ll go msg me about it. he didnt want me to find out first thru someone else, which i appreciate that he was able to tell me first, but its also like okay damn they really did that. and yes it was years ago so i honestly didnt feel hurt about it i was just more shocked. like.. he was on a break with me and felt single and he says shes cheated before so it just happened with them and they didnt do it again. funny thing is that her husband was already suspicious of him years ago and thinking he was only friends with her to do stuff and now shit, he was partially right. honestly, thats a dumb mistake on her end, like she was engaged or almost engaged at the time. also, for the record, he hooked up with (for what i know now) 2 other people during that time period, so 3 within our 1 month break. one didnt involve any feelings i presume and the other one had a shit ton bc they went on actual dates and shit and she ended it bc they both or just she didnt wanna settle. she was 3 yrs younger than him and yes.. i did stalk her a bit bc i needed to know, why her, who she is, etc. and i could already tell she got around..but whatever, i already coped from that lol. back to his friend, he knows she was with someone & he knows her man already didnt like him. even tho she didnt care, he still went along with it bc hes been wanting to do that since the day they became friends. it all makes sense. he met her in school when he was still with his ex so i dont have anything to say about that part but like, again…

#journal #mypost #continued in the comments

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luciusspriggss · 1 year

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trauma dumping on main some more (this is purely to rant. that's it)

i get im hard to be with. but i am constantly trying to better myself. i am constantly trying to do good. and i always support whoever im with no matter what. because i love them and dont care if they need my help getting out of bed, taking their shoes and socks off for them, or consoling them while they are having a hard time. that doesnt make a difference for me.

it's just hard when nobody is willing to do the same for me. and i get it, im difficult. i have meltdowns, i have low self esteem, i have trouble socializing with people and understanding social cues, i sometimes struggle with severe executive dysfunction, but i always try to make up for it in other ways.

after six months with Jes, they told me, after seeing me at my worse, that if that is all there is then they would want to spend the rest of their life with me. even if i was always at my worst and never got better. regardless, i tried so hard to never get back to that point and really improve myself. eventually they gave me a promise ring and told me they wanted to spend the rest of their life with me and marry me someday. that they never believed in love, or even knew what love really was, until they met me.

which is why it hurt when they told me they dont think they can handle my problems forever. that they dont believe in marriage or deep love anymore (with anyone). despite having a new partner who they have admitted that they may be in love with already. i get it, i really get it. im "too much" or "a lot".

it's just...the only people who really get me and love all of me, are my dad and step-mom. im scared im going to be alone the rest of my life. i understand i need to know how to be on my own (which i feel like i already do, considering my past situations where I was living by myself). I just, want to meet someone who gets me, and i get them, and we love and support one another.

i dont want to be scared, that if i have a meltdown they will want to break up with me. i want someone who is cool with me trying to figure out what is going to happen in a show/movie/storyline. i'm tired of people telling me to stop because "what is the point in even watching with you, when you are going to figure everything out and tell us what is going to happen. why watch anything at that point if you just figure it out all the time". i dont always figure it out though, and im never confident, i just see that shit as like a puzzle and it excites me. i just want for someone to try with me as much as i try with them. i want someone i can have fun with. i want someone who sees me and loves me for me.

i feel like people get to know me and create this idealized version of me (a manic pixie dream girl. one of my nicknames from someone was Summer Finn, from 500 days of summer). they put me on this pedestal, and then see the rest of me. not the fun me. not the quirky me. the real me. and realize they dont want to deal with "all of that". im tired of every romantic interest ive ever had, telling me "im not good enough for you, you deserve better than me. you deserve someone who can take care of you just as much as you take care of me"

i just feel unlovable. it doesnt help that my first ex ingrained in me that "nobody is good enough for you. you will never be happy with anyone. you are probably best off on your own". 😞. i dunno. i also dont know how the hell im supposed to meet someone, if i am terrified of talking to people. i am on the dating apps, but have never had any luck with them (probably because someone i would really get along with isnt even on them).

i just feel so lonely. it hurts that i found someone who i loved deeply, that ultimately realized they dont even want to try supporting me. which isnt that hard!!! just do what my dad does, which is make spaghetti (or buy it), have me do some task while spaghetti is cooking (usually chopping wood or something), and then watch a show/movie while eating spaghetti!!! like thats it. he lets me cry and freak out, leaves me be, reassure me he loves me, and make spaghetti. im not saying im expecting someone to do exactly what my dad does, but i just mean, someone who is willing to figure out how they can show they care in their own way.

Jes didnt want to do that. when i had meltdowns or shutdowns or ocd episodes, they would just leave me alone and go off doing fuck off whatever they wanted, come back and be like, "are you okay now?". my first ex would leave me alone too, come back and be like "why are you still crying. get over it.". and ive become accustomed to having to deal with moments on my own. which is really fucking hard. but i can do it. i know i can. it would just be nice to have someone who would be willing to try at least some of the time.

i just want to feel wanted. i want someone who loves all of me. just like i want to give someone all of my love. im tired of always feeling like im going to be alone the rest of my life. that nobody will ever want me. that i am unlovable. that i am nobody.

-siiiigggghhhhh- im fine. i will be fine. there is nothing wrong with being alone. i just need to come to terms with that.

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diaryofabrokegirl · 2 years

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Dating at 31 in the 21st century.

Long has past the day I thought I was going to get married. Growing up, I always thought I was going to be married by the latest, 27. That is the age my mom had me, which for whatever reason was the last year my juvenile mind gave me to get married. While I crept up to 26, my life was nowhere near where I thought it would be. I was back living at my dad's house, back in university, casually dating guys I knew I wouldn't be spending forever with. Fast forward to 31, I am no longer living with my dad, I am in a new city ( well not really new, but new in the sense that I haven't lived here in over 6 years). I am running two businesses while completing a master’s degree.

Dating isn't my top priority, but I also know I am not getting younger and doing things with a significant other at times seems better than doing them alone. I have spent the majority of my first year in this city finding myself (for the 6 millionth time), casually dating (mostly dating app dates), and trying to make enough money to survive ( yay Victoria living). Since I dont have a lot of free time, I have pretty much scratched off the notion of running into the love of my life at a coffee shop. I am also not a huge fan of going to bars, add in the barely having any friends here situation and there really only leaves one place to find people; dating apps.

I am no stranger to these apps. I use 3 in particular. Each of these has its own reputation, after listening to what other women have said, Tinder is a great app to meet up quickly and get laid. Hinge an app to meet a potential significant other. Bumble is a mix between the two, I am still undecided on if I even like this app. I have met people from all 3 apps and feel like I am almost ready to give up on dating and really settle into my spinster cat lady status.

Up until the beginning of this month ( the month I turned 31), I was cooling down on dating apps. You might say the nerves of being 31 and alone crept up on me, but I logged on and tried my luck again. I updated my profiles and decided to start the swiping game. I matched quickly with people on each app and decided I would give 4 guys chances. Dwindling down my choices was strategic, I went with two guys that were not my usual type, one that I thought might be out of my league, and one guy that I was definitely my type. I did keep talking to some randoms, just in case.

Immediately, I found the two guys that were not my type. We matched and they were very active in talking to me. One I met up with and after our dinner, I unmatched and gave him an “I'm sorry, I'm not interested” text. The next guy was actually sweet. We went out a couple of times, but after a few hangouts, he started showing controlling vibes, which I’m not here for so I let him know my thought and have been slowly ceasing communications. I won't lie, because I myself am a bit strange and unusual, I thought maybe I would end up with someone super, not my type and maybe opposite than me. One was from Tinder and the other from Bumble.

The man that I thought was out of my league, was not, he was just pretty. This guy was actually a jerk. I knew from the moment I sat down for brunch, I was never going to be speaking to him again. This guy knew the right things to say via text, but his IRL personality sucked and he was rude to the waitresses so, hard pass. I met this guy off Hinge.

This brings us to the last guy, coincidentally the guy I decided to ask out on a last-minute date after I found out some good work news and wanted to go for a beer. This was the only guy I didn't do a hardcore CIA deep-dive into. I decided I would meet him at the brewery down the road, where I personally know a lot of the people who work there. So if anything weird happened I knew I’d be safe. This guy is a charmer. He is not only funny and good-looking but down to earth. Not sure why I didn't start with him- haha. BUT here is where the issues come, dating in the 21st century as someone with anxiety is BRUTAL. We had a great date, it went on past the brewery and into dinner and music bingo. Now two days later, I’m being that weirdo sitting by the phone wondering if our last communication ( this morning) would be our forever last messages.

Ghosting is single-handedly ( in my eyes) the most terrifying action that has happened in dating. If you’re new to dating right now, here is a quick update: Ghosting, also known as simmering or icing, is a colloquial term which describes the practice of ending all communication and contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said person. Or could it be that he is also just casually dating others? Or did it not go as well as I thought… see what I mean, dating sucks. Another part of this that is brutal is that I dont have many girlfriends, so I dont really have many people to talk to about this.

There seems to be a list of no-nos/advice when it comes to dating that I’ve come to learn from girl groups on Facebook.

If you message first in the morning, let the other person message you first after any type of break in communication.

Dont message first more than two times in a row.

Dont message too fast after a long break in communication ( 1+ hours).

If they respond with a singular emoji, it could be a sign that they aren't into you.

Going over this list, I am trying to follow it, since it's something I've never followed before. SO far it has me anxious and hoping he messages me back. So anxious, that I decided I’d start blogging again.

To anyone else sitting in the same boat as me right now, I wish you luck and hope it works out.

#dating #date #tinder #hinge #bumble #anxious #stream of consciousness #old age

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mister-dungus · 1 year

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Are you more of a met-while-out-somewhere person or a dating app person? I dont know what its like in denver but ive found alot more success there then trying to meet people in the wild

I don't usually have the confidence to meet someone "out in the wild", but in the past I've had decent luck with dating apps if I really put a lot of effort into them.

That said, I'm kinda sensitive and have been feeling burnt out the past month so I'm taking a break for bit from trying to date. If something happens then something happens, but I don't usually get opportunities that fall into my lap.

#hot take but dating sucks!#it's hard to find a connection that feels genuine #there are people I'm interested in but I haven't been feeling very confident in myself so...#not going to push myself

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ezradogteeth · 2 years

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if u dont mind me asking, any good apps for hookups then?

-person from dating app ask

i also do not have sex LOL 🙏 sorry🧍🏻 best of luck getting ass tho, godspeed my friend. i hate sex just kidding i dont thats just the name of a good skramz band i reference a lot

#they hate to see a sexy yet unfuckable girlboy winning #dating

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audible--silence · 8 months

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Heard abroad…

Whatever the question, the market is the answer

“Too many white people not enough markets”

“I mean i still didn’t understand any of it but i understood it was nice”

Pedophile and a dead aunt. You love to see it!

I exist to do the dumb thing and subsequently encourage everyone else to also do the dumb thing

“At least it isn’t Kevin”

“Home is the place where you keep ending up and you don’t really know why”

“Home is where you keep going back to your abuser”

Death is good business but without the repeat customers

As long as you have enough to buy linch on your first day, you have enough to figure it out

“Fucking cyrus man…” on cocktails and cacao ceremonies

It feels like im looking at the relic of a golden age that doesn’t know its past its best before date

Lots of people breeds competition in both capitalism and creativity. Capitalism also breeds racism.

Nobody gives one fuck about you here which is both amazing and kinda isolating

Its like if every city ive ever been to merged into one and did a bunch of drugs

I have fewer ideas but i have a lot of resolution so when i want one to work i just throw everything at it till it does

luck favors those who need it/rely on it in good faith

I was busy being sad and shit so I wasn’t in the mood for a heart attack

How lucky we are, to know that as long as we have charge on our phone or an internet connection, we’ll never go without

Going nowhere the long way

“Fuck you”

“What?”

“I was talking to the aircon”

Calories dont work on Mondays

Chicken is made by man, duck is made by god

Thats why i pay the rent

The only case there is is a quesadilla

It’s strangely captivating.

A city of nine million perfect strangers and nine million deranged fucking maniacs.

Everyone fits in. Because theres no such thing as “too different” out here.

Milk that mfer for every lil drop of lactation in it’s scary asymmetrical titty

Everybody be skipping to the calm down phase of life without ever experiencing the youthful fuckaround stage

The lifeline on my hand seems to doing fine.

The other two, I cant quite remember what they’re supposed to mean. Something about happiness or love.

They’re looking a little worse for wear lately.

“Look Ill extend him an olive branch but only so i can whack him over the head with it”

“After all, the universe continues to surprise, bewilder, and enchant, irrespective of our inquiries. As the tale concludes, may it inspire a subtle nod toward the dance of untamed contemplations—a dance best performed with an enigmatic grin.”

Thinking is for Jerry's (2023) - Professor Longwang

I feel glad to have an end date but miserable to end it

Scared of old reality but excited to confirm or deny it

Confused about my choices here and whether my feelings were made from genuine feelings

“How was the quality of your call?” Asks the messenger app.

To which I cannot reply.

Because to reply honestly would not do justice to the quality of the app, and instead be a comment on my experience of it.

The feeling in my gut when she said she met someone.

The thoughts back to all the times where I wanted to tell you i was yours.

All at once.

With a vengeance

Stabbing in the chest

What am i doing here

Accidentally drunk off a Manhattan i didnt want and a quarter pint of Guinness

In New York

In the rain

Trying desperately to find a job

In a field im hardly good at

It seems to me that it boils down.

When you look at the root of it all

What do you want

What do i want

How you utilize the two to make a life that brings you joy

Kill me, im french

Traveling is honestly comparable to hard drugs at this point: intense, euphoric, lands you in sketchy circumstances and often leads to living in very questionable scenarios. It also has a tendency to leave you broke as fuck and wondering where the last six months went

It do be a lil comedic,

A city of 12 million mother fuckers buzzing around packed in like a hive, and I’ve hardly made a friend.

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lg-secretsx · 2 years

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I'm new into this little world and trying to understand it better. Could you share how you got into this world? Best advise for newbies? Do's and don'ts. Anything you feel would be helpful. Thank you! 😁

Hiii, welcome!

I got into this world with a partner... I met him on a dating app and we just happened to line up dom/sub-wise. Neither of us had experience with DDLG, though, but we both happened to be curious about it, so we just got lucky & started experimenting.

For us, it started out sexual and then grew into our everyday lives. If you want, you can listen to our podcast episode where we talked about how it all started. We broke up since then but I just never deleted the podcast.

Once he and I started experimenting more and finding our identities as daddy dom & little girl, I started engaging more with the Tumblr community to connect with other littles, share my stories, and learn/get ideas from others. That's how I got more deeply into this world.

My advice would be to stay in touch with your intuition. Don't ever feel like you should like something. That goes for sexual things, but also nonsexual things. Maybe you're not into baby talk, maybe you don't want a dom to buckle your seatbelt, whatever it is, it's completely fine if you don't like everything "little." The identity is your own, and it means completely different things to different people.

Along similar lines, don't let a dom tell you how things are "supposed to" be. Doms don't know any more about kink than subs do. In fact, subs really should set a lot of the boundaries because we're the ones giving up our agency and can more easily be hurt. I've seen too many subs think they know less than experienced doms. There are certain dos and dont's, but overall kink is about freedom and doing what feels right. So don't let a dom try to limit your voice because you're "new" to it.

To make sure everything is safe and respectful, you and your dom both need to understand the basics of sexism/patriarchy. Make sure the dom is a feminist before you engage with him. The man-dom/woman-sub dynamic can easily turn into sexism, misogyny, & disrespect if both people don't know the difference between kink & sexism. Even if you don't know a lot about feminism, stay in touch with your intuition and notice if you ever feel disrespected or made to feel inferior in a way that doesn't feel good. If you do, voice it, and if they don't respond well, that's your cue to leave.

Another thing I would recommend is experimenting with kink IRL. Kink is based on a lot of trust and intimacy, and I think those things are much more powerful & fulfilling when experienced in person as opposed to through a screen.

Lastly, make friends with other subs and littles. If you have specific questions, I am always here & you can ask me! Same with most other experienced subs I'm sure. If you look at my pinned post, you can find posts tagged #kink ed and #tips which should also be informative. Good luck & I hope this helps 💌

#ask #tips

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eungii · 3 years

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• ¡ Cyber Love ! ft. Yelena

ᴛᴡ: fluff || female pronouns used || maybe a little ooc || text images

ɴᴏᴛᴇ: i try my best sorry. Also tho idea was originally from @yelenabrainrott

You two met in a dating app lmao

Her username was kind of … boring

"@yelena_031759" and yeah, she was mad because '@yelena' was already used

If we are talking in like tinder or something like that, she will reject EVERYONE, until you came with your particular username "@iamjustanormalpersonwhoneedslove"

She was like "¿?" And she got curious

"Oh, Yelena who is that girl, looks cute" "I dont know Zeke, should I accept her?" He said yes, so she decided to talk to you.

You are a match (you were curious about her bowl haircut) and started with a "hey"

After some months you two were friends, you knew her 'god' and everything about her, as same as she knew everything about you. So she decided to ask for your personal number

Idk why, but I see Yelena as a person who wake up like at 6:00 - 7:00 a.m, even if she sleeps at 3:00 a.m she always wake up so early

She usually send you message at 7:30 a.m or 8:00 a.m

After confessing her feelings, you two started to text more often

Sometimes her messages are short, but lovely.

The nicknames for you are: baby, beauty, princess (in some occasions) honey, darling and gorgeous.

If you are a person who sleeps in the morning, she will wait like after 01:p.m to see if you are awake

If you are, expect a lot of messages telling you to go to sleep early

If you are not, she will call you multiple times, so you can just wake up, and when you pick up she will hang out

If you have online classes there are two options

Option A: she will ask you what are you doing, what assignment it is, if you need help, etc.

Option B: (this is of you answer that you are in exam) her text will be a 'good luck' and then she is offline.

BUT if you need help in an exam she will help you (but ofc don't ask her chemistry, or something like that, I feel she is bad at that things)

You two face time everyday at 8:30 p.m.You two just talk abot how was your day, what did you eat and all of that things while she do paperwork and you homework or something like that.

She is manly in love with you, please don't break her heart (because she can kill you, ok no)

If you fell asleep while face timing, she will take pics of you drooling, she thinks you are so cute

And if you can't sleep, she will try to sing you a lullaby

She will tell you every night how proud she is of you and how much she loves you, she will never forget to said that

You should say it back, or she will be sad and we don't want a sad Yelena

When you too hang out and she missed you soo much, she will put a pillow behind her and think that pillow is you (sometimes she hugh it)

English is not my fist language so please, forgive me is there any misspelled or something wrong.

#yelena #idk #anime #aot #aot fanfiction #aot x reader #aot final season #yelena x reader #yelena x y/n #yelena snk #yelena supremacy #yelena aot #snk fanfiction

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anak-sapi · 2 years

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Haha happy Wednesday from the anak sapi family 😎😎🐄😎😎😎

And want to introduce my boys!!!! They could meet, talk, or maybe "take over someone else's body" with each other on their mind. Kinda like sense 8 if you have watched it!

Age dont really matter since they are born based on when I read/make their stories for the first time.

【Last Edit : 16 February 2022】

*leans to an expensive car* "hey lol"

Aries OG is the oldest! Started from only a one time character name around 2018, and then I was like "Aries is a pretty good name" and a unisex name too! Though I am a cancer but I just found out last year that aries is my moon sign so, I guess something just meant to be.

He is from my ✨original works✨, that only has so many snippets rather than the original works itself. He got cursed by the nature because of the stuff I havent come out with, and got a yearly accident that involves bones. The worst one is when he's 18: he got into a car crash that makes him wore prosthetic on his right leg. He is now fine tho! Maybe. Back in his college year he is known as the "Korban tabrak lari". Now he works at his family company.

Other Aries called him Abang since he is the oldest. Somehow he is like mama sapi's right-hand man. Other Aries likes to go to him for advice.

"Why would you go to me for advice? We are the same."

"Idk I just feel like going to you."

*sigh* "Well let's see whats the problem and resolve it together

"I hope I get a raise... I want a new car."

Next one is Detective Aries Raylight from cyoa games The Wayhaven Chronicles! It's the first time I put the name Aries in a cyoa game, and the start of my interactive fiction obsession 💀

Detective Raylight has a high people skill, but he get overwhelmed pretty easily by Felix's flirt and compliments. Sadly he got kidnapped by a pshyco scientist vampire and ever since that he got scared of needles and possibly have a traumatic experience that he would not ever forget. Recently there's a hole in his apartment ceiling and his car is dying.

In the fam he tends to become the neutral police when other Aries fight each other.

"If it isn't the consequences of my own action."

Next one is Aries from a cyoa games Breach: The Archangel Job. He got so many names like this Watt Zit Tooya and sometimes he goes with Aries like other Aries. Sometimes he refers as Criminal Aries.

He was an undercover cops, task to infiltrate a criminal group. In the middle of his mission, he realize being a criminal is way more fun and he can dismantle other criminal group faster with them rather than with the law. And he also happens to fell in love with on of the leader so... yeah. Really depends and believes in luck.

I really like the story! Very contrast to Detective Aries. Though they got along pretty well with each other. He likes to pick a fight with Aries TATW.

"3 am and I'm still awake."

The Tired College Student Aries! He is from, yes, another cyoa games Keeper of The Sun and Moon. He's been through a lot!

His 1st semester didn't go well... Turns out he is not a human, monsters keep attacking him, the class subject is hard, and so on. Lately he found out that his mom is an empath! As in, can control other people emotion. And why you'd look at that! Turns out his boyfriend is an empath too 🚶 Oh and his father? Currently date his professor back in university. His mom is a

Probably the quietest among the Aries. Other Aries likes to help him do his homework.

"Does this thing exist in the 1920's???"

The time traveler Aries! Or the out of pocket Aries. From the story Two Against the World at fictif app.

The point is, he got isekai to a gangster movie. He help this leader of the crime family to decide the fate of the movie. With the said leader, now they get out from the gangster world and live as a movie producer. Got tangled with too much headcannon, his story start to really stray away from the original. They both like it tho.

Sibling-hate Criminal Aries because coincidentally Criminal Aries's love interest is the one who killed 5 families of NY, and Aries TATW's love interest is one of the 5 families on NY. Mama sapi already told them they came from a different dimension, but they wont listen.

#anaksapi oc: aries #anaksapi oc #anaksapi art

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