#how do i look like a lesbian

[inkskinned]

the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.

sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.

you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.

it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.

but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.

they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.

they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.

barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.

and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.

but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.

they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!

this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.

#this shifts gender so much bc it actually affects everyone #yes it's a gendered phenomenon. i have written a LOT about how different genders experience it. that's for a different post. #writeblr #ps my comments about seeing someone cry -- this is not to shame any person #and on this blog we support workers. #at the same time it's a really hard experience to see someone that looks like you. clearly in agony. and have them forced to keep going. #when you're young it doesn't necessarily look like acting. it looks scary. and that's what this is about - the fact that teens #have likely already been exposed to that definition of things. because the internet exists #and without the context of healthy education. THAT is the image burned into their minds about what it looks like. #it's also just one of those personal nuanced biases - #at 19 i thought it was normal to be in pain. to cry. to not-like-it. that it should be perfunctory. #it was what i had seen. #and it didn't help that my religious upbringing was like . 'yeah that's what you get for premarital. but also for the reference #we do think you should never actually enjoy it lol' #so like the point im making is that ppl get exposed to that stuff without the context of something more tender #and assume .... 'oh. so it's fine i am not enjoying myself'. and i know they do because I DID. #he was my first boyfriend. how was i supposed to know any different #i didn't even have the mental wherewithal to realize im a lesbian . like THAT used to suffering.

[sobersaber]

I just got confessed to by my roommate. I appreciate it and I'm flattered, but you're barking up the wrong tree mate.

I hate rejecting people in general. Where are all the women

#lgbt #how do i look like a lesbian #only been confessed to 3 times in my life #all were men

[wistfulwatcher]

As for myself, I gave birth to a healthy baby girl. The creature spared our lives, and in return I honored her with my absolute silence. Some things, no matter how magnificent they are, are best left alone. And as to whether I'd ever see her again, the answer is yes. But that's another story.

LILY & THE MERMAID in SHE CREATURE (2001)

#she creature #shecreatureedit #filmedit #mine #edit #* #shipping was free #otp other #otp #THIS THANKSGIVING I'M THANKFUL FOR UNEXPECTED INTERSPECIES LESBIAN MOMS #this was truly SO GAY how is this the one sebastian project that didn't include girlkisser!carla??? but the subtext was still chef's kiss #so anyway i had to make this set before i could do the watching for carla or it would have just been lily/mermaid gifs 🤭 #and carla looks SO GOOD she needs a set to herself #also like i genuinely loved this as a movie! it was engaging and i actually jumped once which is rare

[ccassettetape]

i am writing an accidental haiku to attract haiku bot

#haiku bot #🦾 finn txt #normal post. average. average words in these tags. #need to catch it. with a net maybe. like those ones that they always show ppl catching butterflies and junk with on shows. pspsppspspspspsp #ooooooooooh u wanna look at this post so bad oooooooooh #<- attempting to attract haiku bot to this post #wowoowoooowowowowowoowowowowowowoowowowoowowowoowowiwoowiwiwoowowowowoowowwwww (<- normal noises) #I wonder if there’s a limit to how many tags you can add #time to begin the haiku bot summoning ritual um #oooowowowowoowowowwwwooooo haiku bot haiku bot haiku bot oooowoowowowowwwwwwwu you wanna look at this post haiku bot ooooouuuuuuuuuuuuuuuoo #throws flower. get over here please. #man. my arm hurts. #its weird bc one #why does my arm hurt thats really donking random but two im not?? why do i have an arm. i still get kinda surprised by it when i front lmao #why am i rambling so much in the tags #oh right trying to figure out if theres a limit to how many tags there can be dhdjdjndhdjsjmsjdjd #i think lesbians are cool. girls who like other girls are awesome. keep existing 👍 #uhhhhhhhh #never mind im done with that now i dont anything more to say :( #never mind again #tags tags tags tags tags #LISTEN IM BORED AS HECK AND WANT TO DO SOMETHING RANDOM AND SILLY SHUSH #journal

[ba1laur]

last saturday that will be spent staring 20 minutes at a screen watching this guy go thru incomprehensible horrors. cant wait to have normal weekends from now on

#im a trimax truther sorry brothers there will be little stampy art in here. #however i feel like its my duty to draw this guy chilling after watching him get shoved in a meat grinder for Iike 10 episodes. #may the finale be nice to him #also he is fun to draw.. i do prefer the original due to how many creative liberties i can take (with the coat lol) #however this vashie is also very good he looks like a butch lesbian which he also happens to be btw trust me i work on the show #i wish we got more episodes of him having a good time ): #but sadly hes stuck in an anime with 12 episodes with a pacing that could kill a victorian boy #trigun stampede #vash #vash the stampede #fanart tag #trigun #art tag

[kamvna]

✧ You left me waiting ...

#arlecchino #genshin arlecchino #fatui #harbinger #fatui harbingers #the knave #genshin impact #genshin fanart #my art #sports bra arlecchino #POV: you're late for training #what do you have to say for yourself? #anyways this is an offering to the lesbians for welcoming me back to tumblr #i've missed this place #everyone's so lovely about art #sorry about the anatomy it's really hard #but i like how it looks so i'm calling it done for my own sanity

[manchesterau]

random dnp gifs 11/?

#dan and phil #daniel howell #phil lester #dpgdaily #phan #how do we get him to do this again but seriously #can i even call myself a lesbian if i dont say im obsessed with dan as carly rae jepsen #'i look like a strangely beautiful woman''i bet i could hold a males attention for at least 5 seconds' ohhh i bet you can dan i bet you can #also idk why this is so pink idc #random dnp #dnp #.gifs #my edit #mine #dangender of course #dangender

[garfield-milk]

best sisters ever

#no one can stop me from doing transfem zuko propaganda #look at her! #not really sure if I like azulas design but I don’t hate it so it’s fine #she looks really gay so that’s great #atla #avatar the last airbender #zuko #atla azula #princess azula #lesbian azula #I love how is that a tag #transfem zuko #! #zukka #(not really) #(but in everything I do zukka is a thing so) #ALSO IDK WHAT TO NAME ZUKO #if anyone has any ideas I’m all ears #my art

[lesbianredhoodedmercenary]

happy father's day i'm thinking about this outis line again

I always thought it was a bit out of pocket considering this isn't too long after the events of Canto III, even with how Outis was being harsher this Canto.

But I then I remembered that Outis' son is the same age as Sinclair.

Her son, who thinks that she died in the Smoke War (the in universe equivalent to the Trojan War as depicted in the Iliad and the Odyssey) because she hasn't been home in years. Her son who cannot cry out to her. And her son, who is currently in much the same position as Sinclair regarding his self-perception and ability to fight, as Telemachus refers to himself as "a weakling knowing nothing of valor" (Book 2 of the Odyssey, line number and exact wording depend on translation).

I think this line reflects more on Outis and her anxieties about her family thinking that she's dead, as well as a reference to Telemachus experiencing his own journey to manhood, much like Sinclair.

I think there's also things to be said for the parallels between Sinclair and Telemachus, even just the ones imagined by Outis. Hell's Chicken had her showing a very paternal worry over his diet (raise your hand if your dad has ever said you'll be short forever if you don't eat right). Overall, even though Sinclair and Telemachus only share the bones of a coming of age narrative, Outis is seeing connections there because she misses her family.

As with this one. Again, she's showing her hand more than she means to. Though she's talking to Dongrang, I think she's also talking to herself. Trying to reassure herself that home will always be waiting. Dongrang, however, decides not to return, but to pursue glory no matter who he hurts in the process. The Odyssey also contrasts the pursuit of glory with the desire to return home. Odysseus has to choose humility in order to return.

Outis has been keeping up a careful persona around us, but it's slipping. Her desire to return home is seeping through even as she tries to assert herself by clinging to the glory from a war that's long since ended.

#limbus company #outis lcb #outis makes me insane i need to bite something #outis is canto 11 going by release order... that's so far away #penelope and telemachus i need to think about them and see them #rotating them in my mind every day #and. i can't unpack homeric ideals of masculinity with how the odyssey treats telemachus' coming of age and #how that's going to influence outis' writing and how she treats sinclair. because that would take way too long #but y'know #that's another post. and that's also a post about gender. like. i can see the title now #Homeric Masculinity. Butchness. and The Meaning of Manhood: a Closer Look at Outis' Gender in Limbus Company #i title my shit like academic articles do not @ me #like. i know gender isn't really a factor in the city. but from a meta-textual level i think it's interesting and i'm a butch lesbian so #also this is a scheduled post. i am scheduling it for fathers day because i would not remember otherwise. so hi from the past

[tongues--and--teeth]

Nightmare love triangle

#They kind of look like lesbians…? #oh well #Imagine pining after some lady for thousands of years and then she dies and comes back and you find out there’s another guy who’s also #supremely down bad for her and she’s also a war criminal and all three of you are transgender and her evil alter ego shadow self is bisexual #and trying to kill you but is also down bad just a little for you #crk #teethart #cookie run fanart #cookie run kingdom #fanart #pure vanilla cookie #pure vanilla crk #elder faerie crk #white lily cookie #white lily crk #white lily x pure vanilla #purelily #oh hell how do I tag elder faerie #elder faerie cookie #elder fairy cookie #elderlily #lilyfaerie #??? #white lily x elder faerie #elder faerie x white lily #augh. #artists on tumblr #digital art

[mintharasthrone]

more “gay” pages posting complete homophobic garbage claiming bisexual women are lesbians

#tra homophobia #drop the t & b #of course there’s a comment calling us actual lesbians trans/biphobic 🙄 #all lesbians are terfs bc homosexuality is only real if a woman is a feminist or political like what kind of homophobic logic #they think they’re so different than het men who argue all lesbians aren’t real and want a male and piv #the obsession with also equating toys to wanting a man is never ending #and i remember the poll here that showed most lesbians of course want to eat pussy most of all #and bi women wanted to use toys #like lesbians don’t want anything that looks like a dick when they have sex only bi women do and i know from experience #why the fuck would we #i wish people would stop fucking obsessing over and disecting how lesbians have sex and why #they always have to make it about males and dick #it’s socially acceptable to make creepy perverted comments always talking about or mocking lesbian sex #bi women are like why do lesbians hate us? you literally are with whole ass men calling yourselves lesbians and dykes and bonding over how #much you hate real lesbians and insinuating we aren’t real and can be fixed with conversion #therapy #people hate us so deeply for loving only women and only the female anatomy #they genuinely believe we can’t be happy being homosexuals and bring up toys as some kind of proof #the same people who can’t make women come unlike us

[coldgpa]

I'm saying Joseph quinn purposely made eddie gay on his own accord. Like I think he read the script and saw exactly what we saw

#i think he was knowingly trying to make eddie come off as a gay man #looking at how he chose to play out scenes with joe keery i feel like he was doing something #he has played multiple gay roles goddamnit! #he had to have known what he was doing... #and thats why it was unintentionally a bury your gays too doe 😀 #stranger things 4 #stranger things spoilers #steddie #eddie munson #stranger things #and i dont think its that far fetched bc literally maya hawke and joe keery and the reason why robin is a lesbian #joseph quinn #edit: i cant believe i was right #i knew... from just analyzing the body lanaguage he choose to use in scenes with joe keery 🤨 #but my suspicions were truly confirmed once i heard joe quinn improvised that big boy line #and now... real confirmation #i knew #that interview... he literally was trying to convey eddie as liking steve thru body language

[beanghostprincess]

once again asking how the hell they're gonna find an actor gorgeous enough to play ace for opla s2

#HE'S SO PRETTY!!! #how are they gonna do it #if he doesn't look like a lesbian supporter i don't want him #portgas d ace #opla #one piece #one piece live action

[wakeupthemembersofbylernation]

Based on the way the story has been written, especially following season 4, I do believe mike is likely gay atp. But “It’s not my fault you don’t like girls” still makes sense as projection if Mike is bi because lots of closeted bi teens are confused about their feelings, especially in the 80s where terms like “bisexual” wouldn’t have been as readily accessible to kids from Hawkins, Indiana.

Simply the fact that Mike likes boys/Will could make him worried that he’s gay and cause him to hyperfixate on the concept of not liking girls more often, especially if his feelings for El were waning, or if his feelings for Will were overwhelming, even if he did in fact have a crush on El at the start of the show. Nothing says being a closeted bi teen like bouncing back and forth between “I can’t be gay, I like girls” and “Oh no, I like boys, am I gay?”

I think there’s a common misconception that the bi Mike view necessitates oversimplifying the story as “Mike used to be into El, and now he’s into Will.” That isn’t necessarily the case. A bi Mike reading can still involve internalized homophobia, projection, the heteronormative pressure to conform and date girls, repression, and most of the things we talk about here.

(I didn’t really wanna get involved in this, but I feel like this is important to add).

#byler #gay mike wheeler #bi mike wheeler #even looking at the modern media example of heartstopper #nick nelson is bi #(but the am i gay quiz he took gave him a 62% which means he likely has a male lean) #he does like girls which means he technically has the ability to like Imogen who is pretty and kind and likable #but his feelings for charlie are overwhelming #and even in a modern context where microlabels are more well known #he still gets confused and struggles to understand how he’s feeling and what it all means #why do people expect a boy growing up in hawkins indiana with a conservative father #and no internet access while going through puberty #to have a perfect grasp on what he feels towards will and el? #the bi-cyle is real too #and there are even celebs who previously identified as bi who realize they’re gay/lesbian and vice versa #in 2024 #that’s why on some level the queer but unlabeled mike is the best #because it’s the best of both worlds and captures the complexity of being gay in the 80s #a definitively gay mike WOULD tie everything up in a nice cohesive unmessy neat clear narrative bow #but not everything is clear and unmessy

[bohemian-nights]

Unpopular Opinion: Every time a black female character (especially if this black female character is dark skinned) enters into a relationship with the popular fan-favorite white male character usually one of three things happen a. the black female character is now headcanoned as a lesbian (never bisexual or queer or anything that would leave the character with the possibility of still entering into a relationship with a man) b. white male character is now shipped with other popular fan-favorite white male character/other white female character (the popular fan-favorite white male character is usually headcanoned to be bisexual and when he is, shipped with a woman that woman is always white) or c. black female character (and sometimes their actresses) is now being talked about as if they are the devil himself.

Wanting characters to explore their sexuality is fine but I always find it odd how this always happens when one member of the relationship is a black/blackish woman. *forgot to mention the suddenly polyamorous relationship the three (black female, white male and white male/woman) characters are now without a doubt in*

Anon you spoke nothing, but facts right here 🙌🏽

(The only thing I’d add is that they don’t just do this when the woman in question is with a white man, see Namor and Shuri and the backlash some shippers got for shipping them).

You aren’t the only one who has been noticing this trend.

I say trend loosely because really just a new stereotype to add to the bunch😒

It would be one thing if it was a want for actual representation, but every time now like clockwork. as soon as they see a Black woman who looks like she’s going to have a romantic arc with said popular fandom man, boom she must be gay😑

Hell, it’s getting so bad that these shows/movies are automatically just writing their Black women characters in that way.

If people can’t see how this can be harmful/dangerous, that’s cool, but anytime you want to paint all of a group a certain way and won’t show them in any other setting, that’s how you end up birthing new stereotypes.

This isn’t creating diversity. It’s limiting it(once again).

It’s so all or nothing with our media representation. Black women don’t want to be shown as one thing(which seems to go right over most people’s heads).

We just want the same opportunities as everybody else and not to be put into one or two narrow boxes of acceptable characterization that doesn’t threaten the status quo(aka you can't have Black women looking desirable especially not when there is an available white woman right there next to her).

#bnask #bnasks #fandom misogynoir #misogynoir #I understand the need for representation but it can't just be all one thing #there is a really good thread I want to link on this #but I’d rather not have people flooding that website #lol this reminds me of the people obsessed with Laena velaryon and Rhaenyra Targaryen #Look at how they won't even draw laena with her husband 🙃 #yes I’m aware she’s a race bent character but in the show her and Rhaenyra hardly interact #she isn’t her lover(and she’s probably not in the books either) yet y’all just love to draw that version of them together #and refuse to draw that version of her with daemon 🙃 #let’s not get into how there were some trying to say nettles is a lesbian with no proof #or baela and putting her with nettles #again I understand representation but it’s all very suspicious considering this is the same fandom that likes calling black people dirty 🙃 #the bear fandom is another one that likes to do this #sydney adamu #nettles #laena velaryon #shuri udaku #baela targaryen #tagging all the ones from recent years #y’all rarely do this with white women #she breaths next to a male character and it’s ‘I ship it’🙄

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

something something a supernova of heartbreak in a cold unforgiving universe etc

#oh look! MORE JADE #she makes me eat drywall. im so normal about her i prommy #my favorite depressed lesbian.... #scribble garnish #dragons #my art #oc #original character #not-fish <3 #i should make a tag for my dragon ocs but i need to come up with a comprehensive one since theyre not all veran.... #im getting attached to this slapdash painting style over messy sketches #i like the look of it And it doesnt take too much effort! #the perfect Combo!!! #hm i think i broke off too little of her horns tho #but then again i do kinda like just the tips being off instead of snapped in half... #we'll see how i feel next time i scribble her at this point in her life