#holiday rant

[affectionatenouns]

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half now. He has some issues with some parts of his extended family (don't we all) and so he didn't invite them to, or tell them about, the wedding. His mom was meant to spread the news on our behalf so there wouldn't be any surprises when we came in for the holidays this year. Roundabout October or so, we're informed that not only has she not told anyone at all after a year and a half, she is going to drop the news on them with us there, their first time meeting me. So in the span of about 45 seconds, they'll go from "my grandson is single" to "my grandson is gay, married for over a year, didn't tell us, AND his wife's a tranny." Fucking radical decision on MiL's part.

So now, after a couple months of being psyched out about it, figuring out how I'll present to make things go as smoothly as possible, and working on introductions and shit, I find that I will not be going to meet them, entirely at my MiL's insistence. This whole time, it's been "And if Nouns isn't comfortable, [they don't] have to come." (you can guess why that's in brackets) But tonight, the night before we were all meant to go meet these people, her tune changed to "It's probably better if you don't come, because we don't want to put all of it on her (husband's grandma) at once, just ease her into it."

Now, if you're not accustomed to "southern hospitality", what that translates to is "I'm viscerally ashamed and embarrassed that my son chose to be with you and I don't want you anywhere near my family. I especially don't want you there when I talk shit about you, misgender you, and deadname you so that when I DO decide to grant you the privilege of meeting my family, they'll already hate you as much as I do and I can make sure you're miserable the entire time you go."

And for the rest of the week, I'm stuck in this woman's house. Knowing I'm not welcome. Knowing that, if she had her way, her son would be with anyone else. Knowing that the only reason there's any veneer of civility is because she can't stand the thought of us staying with my parents instead of with her.

Which is a fucking AWESOME feeling to have and doesn't fill me with any desires or urges whatsoever. I absolutely feel a sense of belonging everywhere I go. I definitely feel like someone cares.

#next year i'm getting us a hotel fuck this shit man #if we even come back #vent post #trans #transgender #holiday rant

[charliespringsleftconverse]

The Barbie movie resonates so deep. And I didn’t realize it until days later. When I saw the movie I was like, “That was nice. That message was too loud for my taste but nice.”

And then I went about my normal life, and life did her thing. Laughed in my face is what she did. She said “oh, you don’t see how the (America Ferreira’s) monologue relates to you? Hold on to your piña colada, bestie.”

I’ve always taken care of my family. I’m always making sure everyone feels heard and no one gets left behind. You’re not feeling well and need to stay back? I’ll stay with you. What do you need. Are people speaking over you? Let me capture their attention so you can express your opinion. Just so many things. Little things of course. But they accumulate.

I’ve always felt like a mother to my brother and I always kind of chucked it to being the oldest. You’re supposed to watch out for the little ones, no? He’s always been prone to tantrums so Ive always had to teach him that we don’t throw our shoes at people when playtime is over. But I’ve always been the only one doing the teaching. For my parents, I’ve always had to apologize for their behavior because my dad is oblivious to what he does and doesn’t do and my mom exhibits the same anger driven behaviors my younger sibling has learned.

This entire week that we were supposed to be on vacation everything felt multiplied. My brothers anger was over the roof when we didn’t see eye to eye. My dads obliviousness skyrocketed and he was always walking a million steps ahead of us in these sketchy places almost like he was racing an invisible force, leaving all of us to fend for ourselves. My mother‘s frustrations at everyday life was a constant from not just the heat but especially to things beyond her power because she couldn’t control unexpected events.

I’m always the one to apologize to my brother. I’m always the one calling out my dad. I’m always the one reassuring my mom that all will be well. I’m always the one. And I didn’t realize how exhausting and draining it was until I was the one who needed help.

Now that we’re on our way home from this “vacation,” my body became physically exhausted and started trembling from exhaustion the day before. I got a cold yesterday. And today, while brushing my teeth, I somehow managed to pull a back muscle and can’t bend and barely sit down. I was sharing a room with my brother when that last one happened and through all the deep lamas breathing and yelps, not once did my brother ask if I was okay. And when I told him, he didn’t ask how he could help. So I explained that I just needed him to massage a spot on my back. And when my dad called us asking where we were because the taxi arrived 30min early, I got nervous because I had spent all morning trying to get my back to work properly rather than getting ready. So I wasn’t ready yet. And I started crying. And my brother told my dad I was hysterical and stressed because the taxi was there…rather than explaining I needed help and was in pain. And within a minute, my brother was downstairs. Leaving me to fend for myself with an injured back. I was barely able to get ready. My mom kind of helped. She was the only one to come into the room and check on me. I don’t know how I made it downstairs. Probably out of spite. Idk.

By the time we got to airport, everyone knew that my back was in pain. I put my backpack on and grabbed our bag full of everyone’s snacks and food and carried on. I’m doing an awkward walk across the airport, mostly shuffling. How I got my bag off my back and back on when going through airport security, I have no idea. I blacked out. Couldn’t tell you. Blame my cold.

As we’re getting to our gate, my dad asks if he wants me to give him the huge bag of snacks and things I’ve been carrying. And I just…like I’m at the gate already. I’m not sure where you’re going to carry it to. And what comes out of his mouth is something along the lines of “don’t get mad that you’re carrying all these things when help was offered.”

It’s like I’m supposed to be grateful for the crumbs. Like sir, what you’re offering is the bare minimum. And I’m suppose to accept it like it’s cold water and I just hiked the longest trail of my life. OH YES. THANK YOU THANK YOU. YOURE SO KIND. Like sir, at best, this is a baton race that I ran and you’re just standing on the finish line waiting for me so you can claim the win.

All in all to say that I only just now realized that I’m always watching out for everyone else but I forget that even those closest to me don’t care for me the same way. I’ve always been taught to be caring, to be giving, to put others first. That’s what a daughter should do. What a sister should do. And now here I am sitting in an airport, in a foreign country, congested and in pain only just now realizing that I forgot to care for myself. Because I wanted everyone else to be happy. I wanted everyone else to have a good time. And now here I am physically and emotionally sick. And all it took for this self realization was a damn Barbie movie.

There’s something ironic about a plastic doll teaching you about the human experience.

#Barbie #Barbie movie #vacation #holiday rant #I fucking hate being a woman

[orphancookie69]

Holiday Rant: Mother’s Day

Mother’s day is coming up! Isn’t it funny that Mother’s day comes before Father’s day? Has anyone but me wondered about the history of the day? Wonder no more. 

Before looking into the history. Mother or motherhood. Such an unspoken important thing in the society we are in. It started with a mother, and continues on with every mother-for better or for worse. Here is the history of the day for you to read, it is a better read than I thought it would be: https://www.history.com/topics/holidays/mothers-day

I personally believe that everyday we should have the attitude of gratitude for our mother’s and father’s. Choosing to do so one day a year, feels strange and almost fake to me. But the sentiment is nice enough, and I support the mothers on all levels of my family as I can on this day each year. I also usually throw my dad a bone on this day, as when he needed to step up to be a “mister mom” he did. 

Motherhood is such a hard endeavor with no glamour and no pay, except for love that loves. Honor the mothers in your home, your neighborhood, and in the animal kingdom! Women and mothers take after Mother Nature in one of our highest ranks possible in this life! Furmommas too! 

#rant #pixabay #mother's day #holiday rant #holiday #history #mother nature #motherhood #women #mr mom #lonestar #youtube #country music

[princeyralsei]

UTDR Characters as Tumblr Posts Pt. 2: The Electric Boogaloo (Part 1)

#im back!!!! #undertale #deltarune #flowey #asriel #asriel dreemurr #noelle #noelle holiday #spamton #spamton g spamton #berdly #ralsei #chara #frisk #chara dreemurr #kris #kris dreemurr #susie #hermie's rants

[clopiya]

Overwhelming- in different ways?

#deltarune fanart #deltarune #noelle holiday #noelle #susie deltarune #susie #my doodles #i wrote a rant about these doodles but it felt embarrassing 🫠

[lee-minhoe]

tanktop lino for @skzfaker 💞🎁

#linosource #createskz #bystay #staycompany #dancerachasource #madebymel #jypartists #malegroupsnet #kpopco #lee know #skz #akire!!! some tanktop lino from rockstar era for you <3 #thank you for being a friend and listening to allllll my rants and sharing the lino brainrot HAHAHAHA #i appreciate you so much 🥺 #it's crazy how lino accelerated our friendship exponentially HAHAHAHAAH #ily and im wishing you a great holiday season + new year and that it is not too stressful <3 #and i hope you can get some rest and good food🥺 #💖💖💖

[anonymousdandelion]

Occurs to me that Christian cultural hegemony can be pretty well encapsulated by the fact that it is normal for people to say "Happy Chanukah to those who celebrate," and it is normal for many of those same people to say, "Merry Christmas, everyone!"

#jumblr #christmas #chanukah #christian hegemony #holiday greetings #jewish dandelion #dandelion says #just a thought #not even a rant really #I've gone on 'holiday season' rants before and I'm sure I'll go on them again #but it's interesting

[hitroow]

#deltarune #kris deltarune #noelle holiday #snowgrave #I've been having soo many thoughts about deltarune snowgrave route and the way it frames the relationship between Kris and Noelle #won't go on a tag rant but i really recommend checking out hellspawnmotels deltarune stuff the way they talk about this is reallyinterestin #g

[disappointingcabbage]

HAPPY EXTENDED SOUNDS OF BRUTAL PIPE MURDER DAY I SEE THE REMINDER ON MY PHONE AND THE TIME HAS COME TO DO ANYTHING BUT PAY RESPECTS TO THE MAN WHO HAD SO MANY FUCKED UP IF TRUE BOOKS

#extended sounds of brutal pipe murder #international holiday #tma #rusty quill tma #the magnus archives #jurgen leitner #stupid idiot motherfucking jurgen leitner #goddamn fool #book collecting dust eating rat old bastard #jurgen leitner rant #Elias made one good decision ever #and it was beating this clown to death #with a lead pipe

[sunandmoonseisai]

When it comes to broppy relationship in the movies, I think trolls world tour is the weakest in that department.

First movie broppy has this sort of implied history. Poppy has apparently tried to befriend branch for a long time, and even after everyone has given up on him, poppy still treat him warmly. And we know that despite his rude and cruel behavior, branch did apreciate it deep down. It's easy to imagine that they got to know each other a little bit and one of the reason why poppy is still trying to be his friend is because branch showed her a part of himself that he hide to everyone else. What poppy say in the last movie, "I've been by your side from the moment we meet. And you've been by mine! " seems to confirm this. Even if you ignore this headcanons, their contracting personalities and the way they bounce off each other, coupled with the progressing tenderness of their relationship make for a really cute and compelling dynamic.

Then the second movie roll around, branch's feelings are comfirmed but there's something wrong. Here's the thing. The progression of their relationship is entirely on branch's side. We never get a hint of what poppy think of branch. It's all about branch and her feelings for her. I know poppy is supposed to be very self-absorbed and it's something she has to learn from but her feelings for branch just seems kind of hollow when she only acknowledge him to dismiss his worries and criticize him. She just has this realization after their fight that doesn't feel earned at all. Poppy reciprocating branch's feelings *doesn't feel earned at all *.

But then, trolls holiday in harmony came out, and this year, trolls band together. We get to see how our trolls behave as a couple.

And it's so

Fucking

Cute

They bounce off each other like before but in a much more softer way. Branch gently calm down poppy when she's over ecstatic. Branch's realism balance out poppy's optimism. Even with poppy's mind going all over the place, she pay attention to branch and you have the feeling that she's helping him through trauma and gaining self esteem. Poppy prioritize branch feelings and branch adore poppy for her energy and infectious happiness. It feels like a natural progression of their first movie self, with a much softer branch.

Speaking of branch, I think that's the reason why their dynamic in the second movie was so off. Branch wasn't the sarcastic grump anymore and the writers struggled to find their dynamic. Well, I think they nailed it now. He isn't the grump to her sunshine anymore, he's the calm romantic to her hyperactive affection.

#trolls #trolls movie #trolls world tour #trolls band together #trolls holiday in harmony #broppy #branch x poppy #opinion #analysis #it's really just another disjointed rant #kinda rushed it #i need to sleep

[rockoutbreak]

here. christmas jermas

#idk why i stylized them totally differently #sorry #jerma #jerma985 #jerma fanart #tree art #i already ranted but asjghdjlsk i loved. this years christmas stream #2017 christmas is my alltime fav stream ever so to see it referenced again i lost my minddddddd #to have the plot referenced and continued... it was my fav stream of the year over baseball over wwrm #i have a full piece for 2022 christmas but i wanna take my time w it #so take these for now #cat said this looks like a youtube thumbnail of 2017 trashing 2022 and i love that so much #anywayssss bye i hope u all got thru the holidays unscathed

[comradekatara]

Here's a completely random ask for you: what holiday (halloween, valentine's day, national ice cream day, etc.) would each member of the Gaang feel unreasonably strongly about? Can be positive or negative feelings.

oh this is a good question! (i hate so many american commercial holidays so this is a great avenue for me to project my frustrations with us capitalism onto these little guys. and to be clear im just doing us holidays bc otherwise there would simply be too many options and i’d be stuck here forever)

aang: he’s not enough of a hater to dislike any holidays. he’s a big fan of april fool’s day, valentine’s day, and halloween, because he appreciates fun and joy and love and merriment duh

katara: every thanksgiving she goes on an impassioned rant about the historical revisionism of the us empire deployed as a propaganda tool as it continues its genocidal imperialist project and the absolutely sick and twisted audacity of americans to celebrate a known lie in a mockery of the atrocities committed from the past into the present (this one may or may not just have been me, yesterday). every november-december she goes on an impassioned rant about the commercialism of christmas, and how it’s largely a fake holiday devised by capitalists to glorify the sanctity of the nuclear family, and how the supposed “secularization” of christmas is in fact a product of christian hegemony, it’s propaganda and you’re all falling for it because you crave hollow comforts in your cold and dismal life, and instead of attempting to look beyond the scraps you are given under capitalism you all just force yourselves to enjoy a facade of happiness and nostalgia because you refuse to admit that you’re fundamentally uncomfortable in your society!!!!!!!! (this is what i think but wisely refrain from saying because it’s not worth it. katara, however...) also she likes valentine’s day sometimes (depending on whether or not she has a boyfriend). she also has a lot to say on columbus day and the fourth of july of course, but this bullet point is already far too long.

sokka: his favorite holiday is pi day. he does not care for any other us holiday (but he has been known to enjoy a halloween here and there), but he specifically hates april fools because aang insists on pranking him every time, for some godforsaken reason. (he’s just so prankable!)

toph: her least favorite holiday is valentine’s day because it promotes m*rriage, one of her most hated institutions (it’s a long list). her favorite day is taco tuesday

zuko: he insists on celebrating shakespeare’s birth/deathday as if it is a real holiday that anyone actually cares about. and he gets offended when no one else cares. his least favorite holiday is the fourth of july, but not for any political reasons, it just has really bad vibes.

suki: she loves halloween because it has everything you could ever ask for in a single day: dressing in elaborate costume, eating so much candy, and getting really drunk. she’s also one of those people who gets really obnoxious on 4/20, at which point mai is like “you know it’s hitler’s birthday, right?” and immediately kills the vibe. just because she can :)

mai: she has a love/hate relationship with halloween, because theoretically it’s a celebration of the gothic, the liminal, the macabre, the ghostly. but in practice it’s just an excuse for everyone around her to get wasted. she hates christmas more though. santa freaks her out and cloying, forced cheer and merriment is unnerving and infuriating, actually.

ty lee: she dreads valentine’s day every year because she simply has too many suitors and it is very stressful. she likes april fool’s day because it gives her the opportunity to exercise her more devious inclinations. she can prank people so well they don’t even know they’re being pranked; on april first the world is her playground.

azula: she has no real opinion on any specific holidays. they’re petty distractions for mindless drones who require a modicum of frivolity here and there to spice up their otherwise dull, worthless lives. however, she quite likes tax day.

#bonus: yue’s favorite holiday is mid autumn festival <3 #lawful-chaos #asks #the gaang and #modern au #sorry for the katara rant in the middle of this post. it was thanksgiving yesterday. im hearing xmas music in stores. i couldn’t help myself #i should make a holiday tag #since a lot of these points are references to other similar posts ive made #okay: #holidays #if u go thru this tag you can find prev posts #instead of having to add bulky links to the post itself lmfao

[orphancookie69]

Holiday Rant: International Womans Day 2023!

Apparently today is International Womens Day. Honestly, how can anyone keep up with all these days to celebrate all these things? Why am I doing so? From some weird social pressure to say something as a Woman on IWD23. 

As a woman, I almost feel compelled to say something, but am not totally sure what to say. There is much debate in today's society on what a "woman" is. I also tend to disagree with this idea we celebrate women one day, when really we should celebrate one another daily. I am also not that much of a feminist, I am down for equality not dominance-but that starts on a human to human level and extends to everything else that humans use to survive in society. Rant aside...

Why today? From Google: 

“ Against the backdrop of the war, women in Russia again chose to protest and strike for "Bread and Peace" on the last Sunday in February (which fell on 8 March on the Gregorian calendar). Four days later, the Czar abdicated and the provisional Government granted women the right to vote. “ More info here: https://www.un.org/en/observances/womens-day/background 

Do I think things are equal? No. But equal to me feels like “fair treatment” amongst siblings. Follow my analogy for a second, you are a parent with multiple children. Whether they are the same age, or different ages-they are each unique in their own needs. You can’t give little johnny a toy but also meany sarah-that would reward bad behavior with one but does the good one deserve to miss out on reward? Love should be equally felt, but how it is given to one and given back to another is a subjective thing. 

What does this have to do with equality? People doing the same jobs should make the same pay, regardless of gender. But some people do it better, or with more experience. We also live in a society where men want to be the “woman” and stay home and raise the kids and women want to be the “man” and work. Not to even mention bi and gay and what not. Honestly at the end of the day, whether one or both works-one or both is at home doing stuff-however it works for your family unit is all that matters. 

I saw a lot of posts of people using this day to mention how bad the world still is for women. It is a rough world for all, men too. Things are better than they were, and I am all for that being celebrated. Of course, never settle, things will be better and I look forward to seeing that too. On IWD23, I will talk a little bit about what it means to be a woman. It often times feels like trying to be Superwoman while only being human. To be fair, she was an Amazonian woman and I am pretty sure we had them at one point in history. It is not always possible, not always easy-but there is as much good as there is bad to being a woman. 

I am grateful for the women in my life that show me what it means to be a woman to be proud of, like my family and my friends. Also to the men in my life that, according to the lyrics of of Shania Twain-make me feel like a proud woman person! I will leave you with this song! 

#rant #holiday #holiday rant #international womens day #iwd23 #feminist #pixabay #shania twain #man i feel like a woman #google #youtube #equality #equality not dominance

[princeyralsei]

UTDR characters as tumblr posts Part 1

#i love my goobers #undertale #deltarune #papyrus #asriel #sans #flowey #kris #ralsei #susie #noelle #gaster #w.d. gaster #noelle holiday #kris dreemurr #asriel dreemurr #sans undertale #utdr characters as tumblr posts #hermie's rants

[lotus-lamps]

im not late YOU'RE late (man whats with me and niko related celebration art and being late with it)

this did not turn out the way i wanted to but. oh well.

HOWEVER. I GOT A NEW APPLE PEN FOR CHRISTMAS. SO. INCREASED ART MOTIVATION AND ART CAPABILITIES LETS GOOOOOOOOO

also yes i AM obnoxious enough to put my watermark in the middle of the drawing. yes new watermark. old one was boring lol. plus i rarely go by cozm now

okay bye bye enjoy your break!

#art #digital art #lotus drawdles #niko oneshot #oneshot #oneshot game #oneshot fanart #happy holidays #merry christmas #you know what i did. i accidentally put all my extra ramblings into the actual post and not the tags. #now i will have nothing to rant about here :( #OH YEAH do not question the background lmao my perspective capabilities are very great i know #the colors are a lot more diluted here (compared to ipad) but. i kinda like it better ngl #i wanted to experiment with shading more but i ended up with same old same old. this style is pretty fun tho #time to get back on the proseka grind. im so bad at it lol #no more sky for me only proseka #rip sky loved you sky was a chore though maybe i'll get back to it at one point lol #all my hyperfixations rotate though so nothing new ngl #bye byeeee #artblr #artists on tumblr

[bread-that-draws]

The Lovers: Being at crossroads. Choices. Commitment. Falling in love. Harmony. Warmth.

The Lovers Reversed: Misalignment. Imbalance. Disharmony. Coldness.

#want some dating shoes #OKAY DETAILS RANT #the wires along the border are the same that queen uses to control people and the thorns are. Thorns #the color gradient along the border are blue and purple. Kris and Susie #both scenes you can only see in one route or the other hence why I chose them #the imagery from the deltarune can be seen on Noelle’s front and lace along with Susie’s collar/belt and Kris’s armor #Kris and Ralsei are in the top border bc they’re watching the scene #kris is pointing to Noelle’s battle sprite because they have to call upon her to beat spamton and Noelle is fucking. freezing berdley #the Entire Background of the tip except also the windows are Morse code for kris get the banana and character names #Kris’s halo is devil horns because of that story from their childhood and Noelle’s is a thorn ring #SOUL IMAGERY EVERYWHERE but especially Kris’s armor and sword (plus Noelle’s lace lol) #the binary code on Spamton spells the lyrics to big shot #Noelle and Kris are popping out of the frame at the bottom because the player is enacting control over both of them and UTDR meta like that #Kris’s clothes are lined with the same red as the soul because puppet imagery #OKAY I THINK THATS ALL OF IT??? I’m insane #deltarune #deltarune chapter 2 #Noelle holiday #Susie #kris Dreemurr #spamton #suselle #kriselle #I guess????