#help me better myself

[theinkbunny]

PEOPLE OF TUMBLR, GIVE ME SOME TIPS ON HOW TO BE THE ONE PERSON WHO ALWAYS HAS EVERYTHING TOGETHER, FROM THEIR SCHOOL TO THEIR OWN HOBBIES AND CLEANING TO ACTIVITÉS

#Study #studying motivation #studying help #help with this #theinkbunny #ask #please help #education #answer me pls #Send me stuff #help me better myself #Betterment

[michealmx1]

Any difference?

HMU

#before and fatter #big fatty #cute fatty #fat belly #fat piggy #fatass #fatboy #fatty #fat #fatty belly #the fatter the better #im a fatty #get me fatter #gaining fat #fat to fatter #i want to be fatter #gay fatty #fatty piggy #fat tiddies #stuffed fatty #need to be fatter #help me get fatter #fatty getting fatter #fatter and fatter #feeding you fatter #fattening myself #chubboy #gaining weight on purpose #gainer boy #belly gainer

[thedisablednaturalist]

I think when people think of mental illness and what helps, especially with things like anxiety and depression, the treatment involves pushing yourself. Pushing yourself to get out of bed, to exercise, to take a shower, to go out in public, to order your own food from the cashier, etc.

And because the mental health movement has grown so much, people think that's the default of ALL illnesses. That the only way someone will get better is if they push themselves. That practice makes perfect. That you'll become more comfortable or strong over time the more you do something.

But what people need to realize is, with physical disabilities and chronic illnesses, pushing yourself in most cases is DETRIMENTAL. Pushing yourself past your limits can lead to flare ups or further injury. That's why it's important to know your limits, how certain activities may affect your condition, and learn how to either adapt or get help to complete the activity in question.

Also, most of us are already pushing ourselves. Most of us don't have access to the help or equipment we need. Most of us live in places where we frequently encounter inaccessible obstacles. Most of us NEED to rest.

So please don't try to be our physical therapists or doctors. There are people specifically trained to help us navigate our own conditions and limitations. There are people trained to help us strengthen our body's resilience without causing flare-ups or injury. Do not tell us "it'll be good for you" or "you need the exercise" when we say something is too heavy or too far or when we say we need our mobility aid(s). Your friend with depression may need to be encouraged to get out of bed, but your friend with chronic illness definitely doesn't.

Respect our rest.

#wrenfea.exe #DISCLAIMER: dont take this as me saying you should be pushing your mentally ill friends #this is more about how physical conditions often differ in how they are treated #also dont like. force your friends or anyone with anxiety to do things they dont want to #thats what therapists are for #also most mental illnesses require medication alongside therapy before they can get better #but even chronic illnesses and disabilities that benefit from exercise still require knowing your limits #and not being pressured to push past them #ive noticed some professionals who help both mentally and physically ill patients tend towards the push method #like my therapist and sometimes my counselors fall back on that method #and i have to remind them i am already pushing myself #and i need to adapt rather than push forward #chronic disability #chronic pain #spoonie #disability #chronic illness #cripple punk #cripplepunk #cpunk

[tam--lin]

The thing is, you don’t have to have a diagnoses to make simple “unmasking” changes that make your life easier. You don’t even have to self-diagnose! You are not appropriating anyone’s culture or struggles or hijacking anyone’s movement by allowing yourself to sway in line at the grocery store or buying a weighted blanket or using study or household hacks intended for people with ADHD. If you start favoring the needs that make your brain and body unique over the arbitrary norms of society, you’ll be better off, and you’ll be expanding the norms. It’s a win/win.

#sometimes I consider What I Have Going On Upstairs #and think 'should I try to get some sort of diagnosis?' #but it wouldn't help me right now! I don't need work accomodations - work IS the accomodation #but allowing myself to sit on the floor in the corner of the airport instead of on a chair #or fidget in lines #gives me one less thing to worry about AND makes my brain happy AND makes 'odd' but harmless behaviors #more normalized which ultimately helps people #who have needs that are several standard deviations away from ~~normal~~ #it's a win-win-win #tam.txt #related but on a different line of thinking: #somewhere along the line we majorly screwed up with how we talk about appropriation #I think we're getting better but whoa boy... #seen some baffling takes about pretty normal things like socializing color codes for get-togethers #or weighted blankets #being Only For Autistic People #nah bro that's the last thing on earth the vast majority of disability advocates are interested in

[jakesgain34]

Filling up this athletic shirt with fat, if you'd like to see more and help me get fatter check out my o.f. @jakethegainer

#fat guy #fat jock #exjock #fatso #fat gut #fatten himself #feedee belly #gained weight #big gut #fat belly #want to get fatter #the fatter the better #get me fatter #i want to be fatter #fatter and fatter #help me get fatter #need to be fatter #ball gut #bloated gut #beer gut #growing gut #hairy belly #belly expansion #full belly #swollen belly #belly gainer #fat man #fattening myself #forced fattening #fattenable

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Happy Valentine's Day! (and this blog's first post anniversary!)

#poorly drawn mdzs #better drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #lan wangji #Woah...it's been a whole *year* since I took the leap and uploaded my 'first attempt' art. #It's outdated now but it holds a special place in my heart for the fact it started all of this off. #Calling this 'poorly-drawn' was always about accepting that my art was going to be imperfect and messy - and doing it anyways! #There has been a staggering number of times I have drawn something I almost didn't upload because I didn't think it was 'good enough' #only for someone to say they liked it - or that it made them laugh. And it has helped me realize - #-The worst critic for my work has always been myself. If I listened to it all the time...well we would not be here now B'*) #And now that I have dabbled in other fandoms I can truly see how lucky was to start out with the MXTX fans. #The supportive messages and tags have truly been a guiding force toward my artistic and self improvement. #I really can't describe how grateful I am. #Thank you for seeing something worth rooting for when I was just figuring things out. #Thank you for being sweeter than the candy I have strategically hidden in the nooks and crannies of this house. #But watch out! If you forget to find them we will get ants. #I remembered to not hide chocolate in the bed this year. Yes I know it melted last time. Yes it did stain. I'm still sorry. #Thank you for loving me regardless <3 Even if it looked like I shit the bed real bad.

[hinamie]

spins him around trying to understand the pink mop he calls hair

#my art #jujutsu kaisen #itadori yuuji #yuuji #jjk #fanart #jjk fanart #yuuji itadori #sukuna #if u squint lmao #he is THE boy of all time i love him so very much #in my desperate attempts to make his hair look consistent i appear to have made it . wavy.. #its not my fault i couldnt help it i was desperate i needed something other than spIKES #so i made a main swoopy bit to centre myself #lisen ok liSTEN if it works it works and this is my ref sheet now @ future me ur welcome :3 #this was helpful but at the same time it certainly reinforced my hatred for Short Hair Back View #improvement hell . but it will get better . (coping) #every1 pick a favourite i lov the middle one . best front facing bust ive done in a minute <3

[inkskinned]

it mattered because when my brother asked me what if this is the happiest you'll ever be? the best you'll ever get? the thing i felt was fear, not peace. everybody thought you were so perfect for me. even i thought you were "helping me grow". i had to challenge every internal clock. make myself more thoughtful, more kind, more beautiful.

i told my therapist it was good because i like the changes i made and there's something so strong about saying i did that. the problem is that i can like the difference all i want, but i changed for you. something akin to getting your name tattooed, all my progress is stamped with fuck you.

it was the happiest i'd ever been and also the best i'd ever gotten. i would still get in the car and think what the fuck just happened.

#warm up #writeblr #i spent a lot of time picturing our future #how funny to think: in each version of our future #i was never myself #i was someone smarter kinder braver #better adept. #who could navigate the way you shouted and got angry at small things and never fucking believed the best of me #i would never be needy and you'd never get tired of me #people usually talk about how we picture people as being “fixable”. but i assumed i was the problem. my idyllic picture wasn't of you. #it was a version of me that wasn't ill. that needed no extra help. that could be your wife and happy #the fact i wasn't happy was because there is something so wrong inside me. it's always been that way. i convinced myself: #if i stay i can change. if i stay i can make it worth it. i can apologize and fix this. and make us both okay. #for the last year i've been thinking about how you blamed our whole breakup on me. how it was my fault for whatever thing. #and i agreed with you. because of course i did. you'd trained me to believe everything was my fault . that you wanted to love me and i made #it far too hard. that i was always finding ways to ''set you off'. #a few days ago while i was doing something else #i realized that while i was in crisis you told me to fuck off and find someone else to get help. and you never fucking apologized . #you said i made you do that because i wasn't being sensible. i had been crying too hard to speak clearly. #you said: you're doing this to manipulate me. #you forgave yourself for that. i had to forgive you without apology. you said you were right to react that way. and then you were SO #SO annoyed. any time i said: i feel like you aren't nice to me. it is hard to trust that you love me. #i don't think about you that much anymore. but these days when i do: all i can think is that im not sure u ever really understood kindness #you were the cruelest to the people closest to you. and most of the time. that meant it fell to me.

[ashmcgivern]

A Draconified King

#zelda #wind waker #tears of the kingdom #totk #legend of zelda #king of red lions #dragon #art #illustration #asharts #YEAAAA BAEBEE IVE BEEN SITTING ON THIS FOR A HOT MINUTE #This idea came to me in a flash of genius #im very proud of it #and I couldnt help myself I LOVE WIND WAKER #the background gave me trouble ugh #im not good at backgrounds really #maybe I used to be better but jeez #these days im rusty #and I wasnt planning on a BG but I liked it so much #and I was going to make it super simple but then I made the dragon TOO DETAILED #and so I had to circle back on the bg and do SOMETHING to it #maybe someday ill get better at this #but yeah!!!!

[sciderman]

How did your meeting go with the surgeons?

it was memorable

#sci speaks #the sci files #im glad i've done all the research. i feel okay. i feel safe and confident. and the doctors have all been really kind and helpful. #lots of good vibes. and they're moving me through the system so quickly. i'm glad it'll be dealt with so soon. #feels so crazy that this has been going on. right under my skin. and it's all explained now and i feel so much more in control. #i know whats going on!! with my funky body!! no more unanswered questions!! #i feel really good these days. optimistic. i feel like i understand myself a lot more and it means i'm better to myself. #but you'll all have to be patient with me. please be patient with me like i've learnt to be patient with myself.

[wriochilde]

a redraw of something from 2020

the original version + the 2022 version

#sigh. no i am not a dsmp fan anymore this is just a redraw #my art #dsmp #c!tommy #c!techno #bedrock bros #ANYWAYS. time to get sentimental #i almost didnt want to post this because of that weird shame i have from enjoying this...specific piece of media #but i cant help but be appreciative to the series that kept me from killing myself lol #it felt so weird drawing tommy without all my post revival headcanons and i had to stop myself from adding all the white streaks in his hai #i never draw techno so this was tough #CLICK FOR BETTER QUALITY AUUUGGGHHG

[michealmx1]

Can’t hide it anymore 🙂

#before and fatter #big fatty #cute fatty #fat belly #fat piggy #fatass #fat #fatboy #fatty #fatty belly #the fatter the better #fat to fatter #i want to be fatter #gay fatty #get me fatter #fatty piggy #im a fatty #stuffed fatty #fat tiddies #help me get fatter #need to be fatter #fatty getting fatter #boy moobs #feedee piggy #feedee belly #fatso #stuffed feedee #feedee encouragement #fattening myself #fatten himself

[funeralprocessor]

I really need to socialize with people more. Shame about the horrors though.

#not the horrors that I'm friends with obviously I love y'all #but like every time I manage to have a good time talking to people I inevitably find myself scared of talking more because #well what if I fuck it up *next time*? better to end on a high note #and despite people generally thinking I'm alright and other people straight up saying they also wanna socialize more and make friends #I cant help but feel that I would be overstepping my bounds and acting completely outrè by (checks notes) saying hi #and when people DM *me* I get spooked #this is not ideal lol

[lilyliveredlittlerichboy]

the Jewish attitude of surviving and celebrating life at any cost is finally putting my 10+ years of suicidal ideation to rest. no matter what, i have to live

#i need a tag for my own rambles #judaism #i am entering an era of living for myself and fulfilling my own needs and desires #if only so i can be stronger and more grounded and serve my community better #so i can be an asset and a help and a joy to the people around me

[teaboot]

(I'm a security guard.)

#There is an overwhelming number of traumatized people who work in security #So many of us have histories of abuse #Or other things #And I wonder so often #I'm good at my job #But am I attracted to power? #I like helping people #I don't like hurting people #Or picking on anyone #But it's hard to know what the right answers are sometimes #Part of my job is working with police #Even if I disagree with them #I tell myself it's better that I'm the guard here #And not someone malicious #Or cruel #But how much am I really changing? #And am I using my power correctly #Or will I become the unreasonable authority that made me the scared person I am #Is it already too late? #What if the calls I'm unsure of are the warning signs #Maybe I'm already too late #Maybe my sense of morality and justice is eroding #To fit the hole I've placed myself in #Maybe I'm not chipping at the walls fast enough #Maybe I'm being reshaped #Just being here #Maybe my conflict of conscience is the internal monologue of a sympathetic villain #Maybe I'm the bad guy

[jakesgain34]

Help me grow my belly on o.f. @jakethegainer and see more of this ballgut

#fat guy #fat jock #exjock #fatso #fat gut #fatten himself #feedee belly #gained weight #big gut #fat belly #want to get fatter #the fatter the better #get me fatter #i want to be fatter #fatter and fatter #help me get fatter #growing gut #ball gut #bloated gut #beer gut #hairy belly #belly expansion #swollen belly #fattening myself #forced fattening #fattenable #fat man #fat #full belly #need to be fatter