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JINJER's TATIANA SHMAILYUK Celebrates Seven Months Of Sobriety

Vocalist Tatiana Shmailyuk of Ukrainian modern metal frontrunners JINJER is celebrating seven months of sobriety.

On Saturday (July 15),the 36-year-old singer shared a new mirror selfie on Instagram and she captioned it: "#7monthssober today. Let's see how far I can get".

Last December, Tatiana spoke to Radioactive MikeZ, host of the 96.7 KCAL-FM program "Wired In The Empire", about how she met her husband, former SUICIDE SILENCE and current P.O.D. touring drummer Alex Lopez. She said: "I met him through Internet. Of course, he was a famous person in the heavy music industry. So I liked him. And then it kind of happened that they [SUICIDE SILENCE] invited us to be a support act for them in Bratislava, Slovakia back in 2017. So I was, like, 'Well, that's destiny.' We took a picture together after the show. And then we started chatting through Internet. It was not very consistent talk — once a month, once every three months, short [messages]. And then we were talking about us, JINJER, coming to the States, and at that time it seemed impossible to come here, because, oh my God. [Laughs] And a year after, in 2018 I think, we went to the United States supporting CRADLE OF FILTH. And he came to our show to say hi and stuff. And then here and there, that's how it happened. So I think I made it happen. [Laughs]"

When Radioactive MikeZ noted that she was the "aggressive one," Tatiana clarified: "Not aggressive, no. I just was more enthusiastic. You know what I mean. Sometimes women have to do the first step to get what we want. [Laughs]"

Tatiana also talked about what it was about Alex's appearance that first drew her to him. She said: "Yeah, I felt like he looks like me, but like a male version of me. We're both shorties, brown eyes, brown hairs. I love Mexican culture, and he's full-blown Mexican."

Asked how she likes living in Whittier, California, where she shares a home with Lopez, Tatiana said: "Well, I like it because it's in the middle of everything — 30 minutes to downtown L.A., 30 minutes to Laguna Beach, 30 minutes to another beach to another beach and another beach, and then an hour to Big Bear mountains. So it's the perfect location. But I don't go out much because, honestly, I didn't find anything to go out to. [Laughs] And I have a lot of work to do, so I'm just sitting there chilling in the house, enjoying the sun and hummingbirds flying here and there. So, [it's] pretty cool. I love California in general — it's a beautiful place. I don't think there's a big difference between [Whittier] and another small town somewhere in California."

JINJER will embark on its own headline tour following the band's support dates on DISTURBED's 2023 "Take Back Your Life" trek with fellow special guests BREAKING BENJAMIN. The headline trek kicks off on September 7 in Huntsville, Alabama, making stops across Canada and the U.S., including Quebec City, Montreal, Toronto and more before wrapping up in Vancouver on September 25. Several of the tour's stops are produced by Live Nation.

JINJER played its first live show since Russia's invasion of Ukraine on June 10, 2022 at last year's edition of the Greenfield Festival, which was held in Interlaken, Switzerland. The concert took place just days after it was announced that JINJER had been given permission from authorities to leave their war-torn nation and tour Europe as ambassadors of the country.

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I still hesitate to say that I "got 13th stepped" in the rooms because I truly was a willing and enthusiastic participant in that brief fucked up relationship and I technically instigated it. But I was 20! He was 45! (Or so he said! LOL!) I had 35 days of sobriety under my belt and he had 16 years. He had no business introducing himself to me and being all buddy-buddy with me and then he had the NERVE to act all morally conflicted when I put the moves on him. (His "principled" "resistance" lasted about five seconds.) Addicts that can't do drugs or drink anymore don't magically become paragons of impulse control once they're out of halfway houses and back in the real world. He absolutely knew what he was doing and what was at risk. That could have ended really badly. It still ended pretty badly, all things considered! And I hope to god things have changed in the 14 years since I was going to meetings but my guess is that 12-step programs are still active hunting grounds for predatory men.

#a couple of times a year I think about it and I'm like how many other young women has he pulled this shit on since #before and since. like how many casualties is that schmuck responsible for

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Fort Lauderdale, FL: Your Perfect Paradise for Making Roots

When it comes to finding the perfect place to settle down and call home, Fort Lauderdale, Florida, should be at the top of your list. This vibrant coastal town offers a unique blend of natural beauty, diverse culture, and a thriving community that makes it an ideal destination for individuals and families alike.

Beaches and Outdoor Paradise: Fort Lauderdale boasts some of the most stunning beaches in Florida, making it a haven for outdoor enthusiasts. The golden sands and crystal-clear waters of Fort Lauderdale Beach, Hollywood Beach, and Pompano Beach provide endless opportunities for sunbathing, swimming, water sports, and family picnics. The city’s year-round pleasant climate ensures you can enjoy the great outdoors anytime you please.

Cultural Hub: For culture aficionados, Fort Lauderdale offers a plethora of museums, theaters, and art galleries. The Broward Center for the Performing Arts hosts world-class performances, while the NSU Art Museum Fort Lauderdale showcases captivating exhibitions. The city’s rich cultural scene ensures you’ll always have something inspiring to explore.

Thriving Economy: Fort Lauderdale is more than just a beach town; it’s also a hub for business and commerce. With a booming job market and a diverse range of industries, the city provides ample opportunities for career growth and economic stability.

Substance abuse and mental health issues can have a devastating impact on individuals and their loved ones. At the Florida Addiction and Recovery Center, we are committed to providing comprehensive and compassionate care to help you or your loved ones overcome these challenges and embark on a journey to recovery.

Our center offers evidence-based substance abuse treatment programs tailored to meet the unique needs of each individual. Our experienced team of professionals utilizes a holistic approach that addresses the physical, emotional, and psychological aspects of addiction, helping individuals achieve lasting sobriety.

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It's been a whirlwind of attending 12 Step meetings these past weeks. Sometimes multiple meetings a day, of the Al- A- and N- varieties. I think I've met most of the community and it's going to be interesting this September 2nd. There's a "recovery rally" type thing where all the recovery orgs are going to be there. May it be, if not benign, a sitcom-esque comedy of errors.

Trying to detach from controlling my friends alcoholism has been a complete failure. While it says in the literature that detachment doesn't necessarily require physical separation, for us it did, but I'm not in any way detached. My mind is still right there in the room with him. I sometimes feel like I can't even stay in my apartment because I'm haunted by the violence I did. I want to drink.

Even then that statement is complicated. I don't want to drink because firstly, how could I? My friend and many others are dying, and people I've met in the meetings know how ugly it is. I would feel such guilt, even though I know it would numb me. I'm a raw live wire, detoxing from controlling his drinking. I'm an addict too, and you know what a great distraction from dealing with your own issues is? Living, not to drink, but to try to fix or cure someone else' s alcoholism.

It almost feels like a fresh sobriety did. All my issues are coming up and I can't stop crying. I haven't shared this in meeting yet, but I think I'm too highly tuned. I've hear it been called being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I'm filled with more guilt and remorse, mostly aimed at myself, than I am with resentment towards others at this point. I've worked through some of those in my own little way, but working these steps, the Fourth One with all the resentments, has shown me this.

But it's complicated. Each program has it's own little twist on the Steps. Alanon seems all about detaching and being selfish in a way where you tend to your own needs, perhaps after discovering what those even are, and what you may have contributed to making the situation worse. AA is about tearing down the "little god" of the drinker and introducing humility to battle the justifications to drink. NA I called "holistic" because it seems more broad, modern, and I was surprised to see that they mention creativity explicitly as a strategy to rediscover your self and thus, the reason to not use.

So each appeals to me, especially NA's 'rediscover the person' approach, but for the way my mind works, AA and Alanon seem to be pulling at me in two different directions. Just to say, I've been going to more AA meetings on my own, but have brought my qualifier several times, focusing on that I'm there for myself. His first few meetings he asks for a sponsor, and someone comes up to him and is enthusiastic about it, and offers to take me through the steps. Not to say that I wasn't ready for Stepwork, but I can say that without his offering in such a friendly way, and thus if my Q hadn't asked, I wouldn't have gone out of my way to do it myself. But I said yes, with openness and willingness.

It's been a little overwhelming and surprising. It's been such a long time since anyone has paid the kind of attention to me that people can offer at meetings, and my sponsor is incredibly knowledgeable about AA and his sobriety. With the way my brain works, I feel a sense of unworthiness, and as I've discussed with him, not only should I not let that disqualify me from the program, but it can be a common feeling. It's a recurring share that men especially feel alienated AF in my meetings. It's still a little hard to go to meetings, but fleeing the ghosts at home helps me. I feel shaky at meetings, and have even felt nauseous right outside the door. I follow the Just For Today thing where you do something you don't want to do, for practice, and that helps.

In another way, I've felt that meetings aren't good for my mental health. I feel, like I mentioned, that I'm some kind of HSP and the way it can feel is that the world's pain is moving through me, so hearing other people share their experiences, while I still feel I have nothing to offer but my experiences for right now, can sometimes tire me out emotionally. Not to say I haven't felt a little less lonely hearing people share but in a weird way, Alanon helps with the loneliness and AA increases it. I don't know if it is because it's easier to focus on someone else and what I'm doing to manage them, but that's how it can feel.

Is this because my Alanon meetings are mostly older women with a few soft spoken men, so I didn't feel as intimidated? Is it because in Alanon I don't have to confront my own personal behavior that had led me to fail at life? But Alanon is about personal flaws, and I know that, and I already can't stop blaming myself. The blame is squarely on me. Is that because I'm aching for some integrity and personal responsibility and I'm ready to change, or is this the way I whip myself, as I no longer cut, in an emotional way because I somehow like it, as the Big Book says? Do I feel most nervous at NA meetings, and in fact while I do have my white keychain expressing a new commitment to the program I haven't said the customary "Hi, I'm an addict," because there's more men and more intimidating men? I'm 6 foot 3 inches and probably around 350 right now.

Is it my "sexuality?" Honestly, I don't want to even have that be an issue. A non-hetero sexuality can be something that once people know of it, they define you by that and it affects all further interaction. Duh, right? I mean, if it's the way that I use my penis that's shifts definitions around, one: I haven't had partnered sexuality in years, two: I don't want any, three: I don't now and have never had sexual fantasies about people nor do I have a "sexual imagination" where I imagine myself in or around sexual situations. Is this a symptom of self loathing? Am I asexual? Has stress and despair warped my brain so much that now I'm like my mother who could never let us forget how awful the very idea of sex was while her dutifully codependent husband looked on? That one's half a joke, but that's how it was. I mean, trauma, you know? Or maybe she was also herself asexual in some way?

I know NA has the whole "sexual orientation" line in it's rules. I just don't know. I think I'm broken. I've gone cuckoo. I spent too many years of my life in isolation, and I can't live any other way. I'm just another North Pond Hermit with crying jags. You know, I know I'll drink first not because it's my drug of choice, but because I'm so nervous that I never got into anything else. Like, I couldn't speak up to ask, hey, where's the pills at? And I'm still like that, so I think I'll be able to not drug seek for a while. But I'm also worried about being open about that in meetings because I feel I'd just LOVE to feel better, much better than alcohol or weed ever could make me feel. I mean, seriously you know what my drug of choice was when I had my most uncontrolled using and was causing the most negative consequences? Carburetor cleaner! For the ether, I guess. I was driving on the fucking stuff. WTF

On the one hand, I'm like gross how awful that's what you got into with your stupid "friends" you codependent addict chameleon little bitch. On the other, I'm like, what an asocial autistic loser faggot like you couldn't even put in the effort to drugseek for real wanting it all easy settling for something you can buy at a store.

And detaching from your Qualifier also means, just maybe, you don't have to feel bad that your using and destroying yourself could or could have ever affected his trajectory in his disease. But you want to hopefully feel better, absolutely feel numb, and your not sure if you fear the peace of death or if you just desperately want the courage to go through with it. Again WTF. Somebody help me what a rant.

#addiction #queer #recovery #12 steps #alanon #alcoholism #alcoholic #alcoholics anonymous #asexual #narcotics anonymous #alienation #alienated #substance abuse #drugs #alcohol #alanon family groups

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Dr. John G Kuna is enthusiastic about helping clients effectively address depression, distress, and anxiousness. I even have expertise working with LGBTQIA+ figuring out people and aim to offer an affirming space for all. I am nationally certified in Trauma-Focused therapy and have extensive coaching in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. I imagine that every individual has the potential to live a happy, balanced, genuine life. Dr. John G Kuna offers conduct modification, couples/family therapy and integrated dual prognosis dysfunction therapist Bloomsburg pa treatment to children / adolescents, younger adults and seniors 65 or older. He additionally helps individuals with PTSD and folks with trauma.

The good Doctor has actually stepped up in the most challenging time most of us have seen in healthcare. When others are telling us what they don’t do, He is evolving and quickly creating new processes to satisfy the wants of the affected person. Treatment and diagnosis should therapist Bloomsburg pa be performed by an appropriate health care supplier. The services embody Individual Psychotherapy, Mood Management, Revitalization Therapy, Therapy for Somethings, Couples Counseling, Marriage & Family Therapy, Trauma, Grief, & Loss Counseling, Meditation & Relaxation Training, & Parenting Coaching.

Couples therapy and different couples-focused therapy therapist Bloomsburg pa programs are vital parts of exploring triggers of habit, in addition to studying the way to construct wholesome patterns to support ongoing sobriety.

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FAQ Originally posted on OnTheEmmis.com circa 2004

I know Meehan's approach to drug rehabilitation is controversial, but aren't his programs far more successful than traditional treatment programs? Meehan's claims, in regard to successfully treating drug abusers, are grossly overstated. He has never participated in any longitudinal outcome studies and has never kept sufficient records that would allow review of his work. Those that are active clients, as well as active staff members and Meehan himself regard him as a miracle worker. However, when one speaks to former clients and staff they are likely to get a different picture altogether. It seems that teens who enter his programs generally do well in the beginning. Often, they demonstrate a dramatic change for the better. In most cases their parents are elated, because their teens have stopped using and dropped their old friends. These parents of newly sober kids are Meehan's most valuable marketing tool. They are his primary referral source. Those who saw him as a miracle worker when they were in the program (or working for it), more often than not regard him as a con-artist after they have left. Most do not stay clean and sober on the long term. Many feel as though they were, manipulated and abused by the program. Almost all former staff members despise Meehan and regret ever having worked for him. Back to Top

Is Bob Meehan really a racist? Yes. Meehan openly an unashamedly bashes Africans, Hispanics, Jews, Christians, and Muslims in front of his staff. He bashes homosexuals as well. Although he never shows his racism in public forums, anyone who has worked closely with him has seen this side of him. Back to Top

The program staff seems so committed, if Meehan is such a bad guy why are all these bright, committed young people working for him? The program staff are victims of mind control. That is, they have been systematically manipulated, through a variety of classic mind control techniques, over an extended period of time. Most of them came in to the program at a young age and learned to interperet their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (as well as the world around them) on the basis of assumptions and premises contained in Meehan's dogma. In the beginnig they drop their old friends, as required by Meehan's Step 2 (of his revised version of AA's 12 steps). Later, this step is used to convince them to completely break ties with the world outside of the program. Most staff members eventually break ties with their families. They become wholly and entirely dependent upon the program in every aspect of their lives. Every friendship and romantic relationship they have, is with someone else in the program. The program becomes their source of spiritual guidance as well. Staff members also go through intense psychological abuse at the hands of senior staff. They live in constant fear; though they learn to hide it well. They know that at any time they could be thrown out with no education or resources; that their romantic relationships--even marriages could be torn apart by Meehan; they could be demoted or sent to another city; or all of these things could happen to them at the same time. In addition they have been programmed to believe that they could never suvive without the program. Back to Top

Are there any adolescent drug treatment programs out there that work? Yes. There are a number of programs that seem to be effective for teens. As a rule, we do not endorse drug treatment programs (though we are aware of several), but with a bit of research good programs can be found. Back to Top

When I was a member of the Parent Group, I noticed that none of the program alumni (neither parents nor young people) ever returned to visit the program or speak at any of the meetings, banquets, or Round Robins. How come? That is a good question. The reason program alumni don't return is because nearly everyone who "graduates" or leaves the program wants nothing to do with it once they get out. For the most part, clients of the program either become staff members (if they can afford the training) or leave the program (graduate, walk away, or get thrown out). When they leave, most return to drug use. Those who don't, almost always harbor feelings of bitterness and betrayal, because they begin to realize that they were used, abused, and lied to. Some just go on and on, continuing to feel as though they somehow failed to "get it." Most who leave are also seen by the program powers as being spiritually corrupt. This is especially true for staffers who leave. Though they (the program powers) may not show their real feelings about ex-members to the general population of the program, they don't want former members coming around and corrupting the "positive spiritual energy." It's interesting to note, however, that if someone leaves and becomes visibly successful, Meehan will talk them up and take credit for their success, especially if they are in show business. He often drops the names of famous people that used to be involved with him (such as, Carol Burnett, Tim Conway, and Frank Beard--of ZZ Top), yet these people no longer endorse Meehan; they want nothing to do with him. Back to Top

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i don’t usually cry anymore. the medication and the crushing numbness that comes with 31 years of hard living and dead ends has created in me a cold grey stone, typically invulnerable to all but tragic movies and commercials that were obviously designed with surgical precision to ensure that at least a small portion of viewers will immediately log onto the website and purchase, like, boat insurance while crying so hard they can’t do the capcha on the first try. i used to be a dramatic cryer, responding to almost any intense emotion with deep and gusty sobs. then 2016 happened. i lost my father. my spiral into alcoholism intensified my incredible appetite for self destruction. the shame that ensued formed that grey stone like a grit of sand forms in an oyster-- slowly, slowly-- until the day i told my sister that i wasn’t sure i would ever laugh again.

so i sought treatment. fresh from admitting to my husband that i had 1) secretly relapsed and 2) repeatedly been unfaithful with some of the worst people, i put my phone number into a “need rehab?” webform. i received a call about three minutes later. scared out of my mind, i would have agreed to do basically anything to clear the dark menacing cloud of divorce. they said they had a pool! i wanted to go swimming! i wanted to be instantly forgiven for my transgressions, and rehab seemed the best way to me to demonstrate that by god, i was SERIOUS about this recovery thing! he said the only rehab i qualified for was in south bend, indiana. they would buy the ticket. could i leave tomorrow? i guess i could.

i showed up to a building that looked like a 90s middle school with a smoking porch. terrified out of my mind and drunk on the four pints of heineken i’d slammed at chili’s with a sympathetic bartender at 7am across from my boarding gate, and disoriented from the klonopin that i took almost subconsciously at any sign of emotional turmoil, i was a rag doll with button eyes. i entered, stripped, spread, and coughed. i vomited in the toilet while a girl with perfect cat-eye liner did her best to discreetly look away. i was there-- it was happening-- but WHAT was happening? all i knew was that rehab was like a shiny gold star on my behavior chart. if i did it, nobody could say i hadn’t. 

rehab is the best place in the world for a vulnerable drunk. i mean it! you’ve never had more shoulders to cry on. i remember hysterically sobbing until my heaving shoulders locked up and the only sound i could make was tiny clicks from my frozen throat. i’ve never had my shoulders patted so authentically. it never occurred to me at the time that this display of raw, scream-it-to-the-heavens emotion was such a part of their daily lives as intake detox counselors that they probably could have done it in their sleep. but somehow they remained authentic.

the funniest part about the rehab was that it turned out to be run and staffed by die-hard scientologists! i guess we can get into that later. 

rehab also brought out my “daddy please be proud of me” personality in full force. i joined the “peer counsel” which was essentially just in charge of taking nightly attendance and clapping for sobriety milestones. i befriended everybody, impressing them with my uniquely pretentious affectation of sarcastic intellectualism that only fools people less smart than i am. i was the queen of rehab! life was good! everyone there had forgiven me. the next step was me forgiving myself. the final step was my husband forgiving me. at the time, i still thought that was a completely realistic goal. all i can say to that, ineloquently enough, is: HAHAHAHAHAHA.

my husband came to visit me, once, on the sunday after easter. having practiced healthy communication and effective use of boundaries six hours a day for the last three weeks, i promised him that we could talk about anything he wanted in the two hours he spent with me on the grounds. he got there and shrugged his shoulders over and over again. determined to make his long drive worth the time, i enthusiastically dragged him around to meet all of my rehab friends, proudly introducing him as my husband to anyone who would listen. that day, i believed we had a chance. that night, i found out he spent half the drive home texting my phone, which was locked in a drawer in the rehab office, accusing me of ignoring him in favor of my friends and strongly implying that i was sleeping with at least one of them. this delusion continued for months after and may still fester in his brain. i just wanted him to meet the people who were helping shape my recovery. he could never see the point of that. he didn’t understand that to me, connection is such a fundamental part of who i am that i HAD to make friends there. all he saw was the potential for pain.

i nakedly vied for the approval of everyone around me to the point that my rehab friends petitioned for me to win “patient of the week” at my graduation. when i realized what they had done i was simultaneously flattered to my core and mortified. how obvious it must have been that i set this artificial award ceremony in motion?

my husband was late. he missed the whole thing. in the car ride home, i chain smoked cigarettes and listened to his music. i talked about finding my rehab friend jacob on facebook so that we could attend meetings together since he was the only one who lived close by, and he accused me of having an extramarital relationship with him. his evidence was that “i brought him up all the time!” jacob came out as gay six months after we graduated from the program. we never got a chance to be friends.

my whole family was waiting at my sister’s house to welcome me home; they were babysitting my son while my husband drove to pick me up. they were so proud! again, i felt raw and abashed. just more confirmation that everyone knew--everyone knew--everyone knew everything. my husband had made my infidelity no secret with his family, and of course i had told my mother and my sister. 

being the family fuckup is like being naked under a microscope. like living your life in the invasive, creepy bodyscanner at the airport. well-wishes come with a tinge of pity; there is a frantic and all-too-apparent urge to avoid any conversation that might bring up my past transgressions. i’m used to it because i’ve been a drug addict since 2008. but coming back from rehab was the worst. there’s nothing like seeing what the future could be like-- bright, beautiful, beatific. the feeling of stepping out of a confessional booth and feeling the light on your face, reflected through the stained-glass window of the Virgin Mary and her son. but the comedown happens when you realize that the forgiveness you’ve given yourself stops with you. the crushing realization that your husband is either incapable of or unwilling to extend you the trust and forgiveness and freedom from shame that you’ve finally decided to give yourself makes you question everything. 

i just don’t understand why he can’t admit that he doesn’t love me anymore. i’m glad i went to rehab. but now i know it wasn’t for him. i could give him anything in the world and i’d still be the adultress, the sly sociopath, the woman that enjoys torturing him with emotion and conflict. our relationship can’t ever work again and he won’t admit it because he’s scared to be alone. honestly, i’m starting to feel sorry for him. i know i could find some normie guy, one with an unkempt beard who makes that face-- you know that face! the nintendo switch face!-- in his twitter avi. he can quote every line from the office and he loves bar trivia, but makes sure to go to the bar and grab me a sparkling water before the beers arrive. he’s a bit boring, maybe not as smart as i am (or pretend to be), but he’s authentic, and he laughs at my jokes, and he always wants to know how my day went. he makes sure to find something thoughtful for christmas, and he sometimes goes out and gets my car detailed on the weekend because he knows how messy i am and how frantic it makes me when i have to face those messes. he has a group of friends who all like the same things he does and they hang out after work most tuesdays, but not when we have something to do at home.

but i know who i am and i know i am not fundamentally healed and i know i’d get bored and break his heart. and my husband would still be alone.

who even knows anymore? the status quo definitely has something going for it. i don’t have to apply for WIC or share a one bedroom apartment with my son or drive for Grubhub on the weekend to make sure i can afford peanut butter because that shit is expensive. we can sit, and sit, and then drift off to sleep and wake up in the same place that we were the day before. maybe i’m adapting to my husband’s sense that it’s better to just endure and stay quiet. i know that pattern because it’s how my family handled every bit of turmoil since i was a child. it’s never worked, but i guess it might someday!

this is my first blog post in 15 years. hopefully it won’t be my last.

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Dual diagnosis drug rehabs give folks hope

Dual diagnosis drug rehabs give folks hope

Dual Diagnosis Drug rehab facilities have been full service drug rehabilitation centers developed to diagnose and care for the double causes of drug dependence, such as underlying mental disease. Drug dependence can be intertwined with a more profound psychological issue and Dual Diagnosis Drug Rehabs may help. The harsh fact of drug addiction together with mental disease is that healing becomes more difficult. Both issues have to be addressed with equal pieces of aggression and passion. With Dual Diagnosis, patients are offered the best possible prospect of recovery as they are treated for both the dependence and some other causal emotional disorders concurrently. This radical approach to dependence provides hope where none was observed previously. best drug rehab in nj

Regrettably, people face an example of relapse. Months of sobriety can be crushed in 1 day because of a causal illness. Drug dependence is frequently connected to self-medicate for depression, stress, and a lot of other psychological concerns. Once someone is confronted with the distress of a mental infirmity, it gets quite simple and very tempting to provide to the extreme urge to take part in drug use in an attempt to numb the pain. Proper drug rehab and mental treatment can provide a plan of attack to the enthusiast, and a strong shoulder to lean in moments of weakness. It is often hard for friends and family members to comprehend the power of dependence. Dual Diagnosis Drug Rehabs helps families develop a safe support system which enables the enthusiast to make healthful decisions both concerning drug dependence and psychological suffering.

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There is a frequent issue drug addicts confront denial. It typically requires a breakthrough of self-revelation to get an addict to acknowledge he or she has an issue. Regrettably, a psychological illness like depression, bipolar disease, will make it even more challenging for an individual to attain that important breakthrough. When an addict cannot envision their issues, recovery is not likely. If you or somebody you love is facing drug dependence, contemplate dual diagnosis treatment nj for therapy. Patients would not simply get depression therapy, but they will also learn cognitive reasoning abilities or attend a twelve step program of recovery and learn how to confront their problems head-on. Double Diagnosis Centers offer emotional therapy and drug rehab under a single roof, thus tackling the problem of dependence in it is core. With double diagnosis, patients have been offered the chance to break the chains of addiction once and for all. Any changes from the dopamine level because of incidence of one can activate the other. Proper identification is essential to the treatment and long-term healing in double diagnosis. Therefore, while it is a psychological condition or a substance misuse problem, seeking early treatment will surely prevent the conditions out of exacerbating.

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How Does Cocaine Addiction Recovery Work?

According to the survey carried out by the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, there were 1.5 million people who used cocaine monthly in the 12 months 2015. Based on that statistical information, we can infer that as time passes by, the amount of folks who makes use of cocaine is rapidly rising. The thought might sound surprising but if we’re heading to inquire folks who analyzed addiction, this isn’t a astonishing one because after cocaine compulsively used, this stimulant drug is badly addictive and can devise wonderful adjustments in the cells of the mind. Men and women can get addicted faster just like a blink of an eye till they will discover on their own that halting is this kind of an not possible process. Nonetheless, if a target is prepared to get back his sobriety, cocaine addiction recovery is attainable as long as they adhere to stage-by-step activity. The initial indicator that an individual is turning out to be addicted to cocaine is he receives sloppy. This indicates that the far more they employed cocaine more than time, the tougher for them to disguise the cocaine paraphernalia which are reliable items of evidence of cocaine utilised. When someone identified out these apparatus which incorporate spoon, mirrors, razor blades, lighters, powdered residue, straws, and tinfoil, it will serve as a gasoline to suspicions. Subsequently, Quit Alcohol Program Austin of habit is developing ill. As cocaine concentrates on damaging the brain, it can also affect the whole physique by permitting it to encounter these frequent well being troubles: Nosebleeds, Hoarse voice, Runny nose, Fat loss and Bowel gangrene. When a single of these health issues gets critical, he will be confined to a clinic until 1 of his household users discovers that he is getting an addiction problem. That family member will turn out to be enthusiastic to deal with the loved a single about a cocaine-relevant concern and will ultimately transportation the sufferer to a rehab the place a cocaine habit restoration is supplied. The adhering to will be the phase-by-phase task to obtain sobriety once again. Action one: Likely by way of a medical detox software. Cocaine caused an tremendous affect on your brain and body which is why recovery is such a laborious task in the course of the early times. But, with the aid of this plan, it will permit a sufferer to truly feel calmer and far more comfortable as his entire body adjusts to typical operating with the absence of cocaine. With that, they will be sober which implies that they will be prepared for the following recovery process. Step two: Moving into a cocaine rehab. If a health-related detox software helps a sufferer gain sobriety, a cocaine rehab system can support them keep sober. However, there are two formats of help. It’s both the sufferer will be on household or inpatient, or the rehab selection will be outpatient. Either one particular of the two, the sufferer will acquire the greatest specialist assist and guidance. Phase three: Establishing a cocaine relapse prevention capabilities. Relapse avoidance treatment has these adhering to inclusions: Pinpointing relapse triggers Staying away from these triggers Coping with triggers if they simply cannot be avoided Consistently reforming methods based mostly on successes and failures. Heroin Hotline Austin : Developing a sober neighborhood. This sober local community will come by means of participation in Cocaine Nameless. They maintain meetings that will educate men and women to learn more about how cocaine works and how other folks have conquer an dependancy. In this way, they can locate someone they can be closed to and fill the position of being a single of their support techniques. Phase five: Transitioning into the neighborhood. Dwelling in a medical facility or cocaine rehab for the restoration could make socialization from the outside not achievable. They are involved virtually completely with the recovery local community. But this time, they need to have to return to their communities and reconnect to the folks they’ve been with. Sober House In Austin might be difficult at initial for they are not able to basically start off more than once again, nicely, a sober house could help them with that. Phase six: Working on Sobriety. The danger of relapse is supremely sturdy that’s why they must keep healthier behavior to avoid heading back again to that poor habit. Restoration is a victory but sustaining it is another hard function. As prolonged as you have the will to generate modifications in your lifestyle then you will usually overcome what ever the hurdle will be.

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How Does Cocaine Addiction Recovery Work?

According to the study executed by the Countrywide Study on Drug Use and Wellness, there were 1.5 million individuals who used cocaine regular monthly in the yr 2015. Primarily based on that statistical info, we can infer that as time passes by, the amount of people who uses cocaine is speedily escalating. The imagined might sound stunning but if we’re heading to ask people who examined addiction, this isn’t a astonishing one particular simply because after cocaine compulsively employed, this stimulant drug is badly addictive and can devise great alterations in the cells of the brain. Men and women can get addicted quicker just like a blink of an eye right up until they will learn by themselves that halting is these kinds of an impossible process. Nevertheless, if a victim is ready to get back his sobriety, cocaine dependancy recovery is attainable as long as they follow action-by-phase activity. Alcoholism Rehab Dallas that an personal is becoming addicted to cocaine is he will get sloppy. This implies that the much more they used cocaine in excess of time, the harder for them to cover the cocaine paraphernalia which are reliable pieces of evidence of cocaine utilized. Once Alcoholism Rehab Dallas found out these apparatus which include spoon, mirrors, razor blades, lighters, powdered residue, straws, and tinfoil, it will provide as a gas to suspicions. Subsequently, the clearest sign of habit is expanding unwell. As cocaine concentrates on harmful the brain, it can also have an effect on the total human body by permitting it to expertise these typical health difficulties: Nosebleeds, Hoarse voice, Runny nose, Bodyweight loss and Bowel gangrene. When one particular of these wellness problems gets to be critical, he will be confined to a healthcare facility until 1 of his family members customers discovers that he is getting an dependancy problem. That family members member will become enthusiastic to tackle the loved one particular about a cocaine-connected situation and will ultimately transport the sufferer to a rehab the place a cocaine habit recovery is supplied. The following will be the stage-by-action process to achieve sobriety once more. Stage one: Going by way of a health care detox plan. Cocaine caused an enormous influence on your brain and human body which is why recovery is these kinds of a laborious job for the duration of the early days. But, with the aid of this program, it will allow a sufferer to feel calmer and far more relaxed as his human body adjusts to normal functioning with the absence of cocaine. With that, they will be sober which signifies that they will be all set for the up coming recovery process. Step 2: Coming into a cocaine rehab. If a health-related detox program helps a sufferer gain sobriety, a cocaine rehab software can assist them keep sober. However, there are two formats of aid. It is either the sufferer will be on residential or inpatient, or the rehab choice will be outpatient. Either a single of the two, the sufferer will receive the ideal specialist assist and suggestions. Step three: Creating a cocaine relapse prevention skills. Relapse avoidance treatment has these adhering to inclusions: Determining relapse triggers Keeping away from people triggers Coping with triggers if they cannot be prevented Continuously reforming methods primarily based on successes and failures. Action 4: Building a sober neighborhood. This sober neighborhood arrives by means of participation in Cocaine Anonymous. They maintain conferences that will educate individuals to discover far more about how cocaine operates and how other people have conquer an addiction. In this way, they can locate a person they can be shut to and fill the function of currently being one particular of their help systems. Action five: Transitioning into the neighborhood. Living in a healthcare facility or cocaine rehab for the restoration could make socialization from the outside not attainable. They are associated nearly completely with the restoration group. But this time, they need to return to their communities and reconnect to the individuals they’ve been with. This may be challenging at 1st for they can't just begin in excess of again, effectively, a sober home could support them with that. Alcoholism Rehab Dallas : Working on Sobriety. The threat of relapse is supremely powerful that’s why they have to sustain healthier habits to avoid likely again to that negative habit. Restoration is a victory but keeping it is another difficult work. As long as you have the will to generate modifications in your lifestyle then you will often defeat no matter what the hurdle will be.

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How Does Cocaine Addiction Recovery Work?

According to Substance Abuse Doctor New York City carried out by the Countrywide Study on Drug Use and Health, there ended up one.five million folks who employed cocaine monthly in the year 2015. Dependent on that statistical data, we can infer that as time passes by, the quantity of men and women who utilizes cocaine is swiftly rising. The considered may possibly seem surprising but if we’re heading to request people who researched dependancy, this is not a surprising one due to the fact after cocaine compulsively used, this stimulant drug is terribly addictive and can devise wonderful modifications in the cells of the brain. Individuals can get addicted more quickly just like a blink of an eye right up until they will discover them selves that halting is this sort of an unattainable task. Even so, if a target is ready to regain his sobriety, cocaine addiction recovery is attainable as long as they follow step-by-phase job. The initial signal that an personal is turning out to be addicted to cocaine is he gets sloppy. This implies that the a lot more they employed cocaine in excess of time, the more difficult for them to disguise the cocaine paraphernalia which are reliable items of proof of cocaine utilized. When any person discovered out these equipment which include spoon, mirrors, razor blades, lighters, powdered residue, straws, and tinfoil, it will provide as a gas to suspicions. Subsequently, the clearest signal of dependancy is developing sick. As cocaine concentrates on harmful the brain, it can also impact the total entire body by allowing it to experience these frequent wellness issues: Nosebleeds, Hoarse voice, Runny nose, Excess weight reduction and Bowel gangrene. When a single of these wellness troubles turns into severe, he will be confined to a healthcare facility until one particular of his family associates discovers that he is possessing an dependancy issue. That family members member will turn into enthusiastic to handle the beloved one particular about a cocaine-associated issue and will ultimately transportation the sufferer to a rehab where a cocaine habit restoration is offered. The subsequent will be the stage-by-action process to obtain sobriety once again. Phase 1: Heading through a health care detox program. Cocaine triggered an huge influence on your mind and human body which is why recovery is this sort of a laborious task in the course of the early times. But, with the help of this software, it will permit a sufferer to truly feel calmer and far more peaceful as his human body adjusts to regular operating with the absence of cocaine. With that, they will be sober which signifies that they will be ready for the subsequent recovery procedure. Stage 2: Entering a cocaine rehab. If a medical detox system will help a sufferer obtain sobriety, a cocaine rehab system can assist them remain sober. However, there are Alcohol Intervention New York City of help. It is both the sufferer will be on residential or inpatient, or the rehab alternative will be outpatient. Both one of the two, the sufferer will receive the ideal professional support and tips. Stage three: Developing a cocaine relapse prevention abilities. Relapse prevention treatment has these adhering to inclusions: Figuring out relapse triggers Avoiding these triggers Coping with triggers if they simply cannot be avoided Continuously reforming tactics based mostly on successes and failures. Step four: Developing a sober group. This sober neighborhood arrives through participation in Cocaine Nameless. Substance Misuse Rehab New York City hold meetings that will educate people to discover more about how cocaine operates and how other individuals have get over an addiction. In this way, they can locate a person they can be closed to and fill the position of becoming one particular of their assist techniques. Step 5: Transitioning into the local community. Residing in a health care facility or cocaine rehab for the recovery could make socialization from the outside not achievable. They are involved almost solely with the recovery local community. But this time, they need to have to return to their communities and reconnect to the individuals they’ve been with. This may possibly be challenging at 1st for they can not simply begin more than once more, effectively, a sober residence could assist them with that. Stage 6: Doing work on Sobriety. The threat of relapse is supremely sturdy which is why they should preserve wholesome routines to steer clear of going again to that negative practice. Recovery is a victory but maintaining it is one more difficult function. As lengthy as you have the will to generate modifications in your life then you will often get over whatever the hurdle will be.

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August 1st, 1981

Two really wonderful days. We are beginning our biggest season at work, and I am handling my part of the stress with great calm and competence. I am proud of being able to maintain my professional composure. It is a characteristic I have most admired in other people I have worked with. It is a gift of the program.

Last night I went on a cruise around Manhattan with Jim and Dick, Andre a former boyfriend of Jim's who is interested in the program, and another AA member whose name I forget-- Bill, I think. We had a wonderful cold dinner that Jim had made. I brought a banana cake from Balducci's. We ate on the top deck. I enjoyed them all. Dick is bright and funny. Andre, Jim's friend, is my age-- serious, intelligent and unnerved by his drinking. He asked me a lot of questions about the program. I told him that, simply, my life has been changed by sobriety and the program.

Today was a quiet day at home. I cleaned house for awhile, and spent most of the afternoon napping, tired from a busy week. Tonight I met Diane and Nan and Yvonne in Central Park for a picnic and then Shakespeare in the Park, Henry IV. A beautiful evening. I enjoyed the play. Yvonne is an aspiring actress and was enthusiastic about two television commercials she's just done.

When I was walking through the park to meet them, a beautiful man on a bicycle smiled at me as he passed. I smiled and he slowed down. I slowed down. He circled back and came up to me. Extremely handsome, dark brown hair, thick mustache. "You're heading toward Shakespeare, whoever-you-are," he said, "Yes, I am-- and my name's Larry" I said. He said he lived nearby. I told him I lived in the Village. He said he'd like to see me-- "meet for drinks." I told him I'd like that. I gave him my business card-- and told him he could get my number from information. I really hope he calls.

After the play we all hugged and said goodbye. They were taking a taxi home and I walked over to catch the subway on Broadway. Uptown traffic roaring, Broadway bright, sidewalks full of late night strolling people. I bought a Sunday Times and descended into the subway for an express train home. I love his city desperately.

Now home, I have walked Sadie. Allan is sleeping and I am settling down to the newspaper, Haagen Dazs ice cream and Portnoy's Complaint on television. I could not possibly be any happier.

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Living in a Supportive Setting Will help Me Remain Thoroughly clean and sober

If you reside in an region exactly where you see or know of an individual who is homeless, you may be intrigued in understanding far more about dwelling "sober" in close proximity to me. The essential below is to recognize that there are a lot of other homeless men and women in the location way too. This is not some isolated situation that only affects the homeless. There are almost certainly at minimum a handful of individuals in your neighborhood that have struggled with drug and alcohol habit. Perhaps, you have even known or have loved ones associates who are homeless. Regardless, it is still best for you and every person else to discover approaches to arrive up with answers to the difficulties experiencing our homeless veterans. Selecting a sober living region ought to depend upon some diverse concerns. 1st, it is essential to pick an region that is the appropriate in shape for the specific requirements of your liked one. If you have just not too long ago finished a rehab or drug remedy software, you may possibly previously know a number of people who reside there. Even if you never, you will nearly constantly uncover a handful of men and women who are prepared to open their doorways and support an additional man or woman to conquer their addiction. As soon as you do, possibly they will also permit you use their residence or apartment as a brief-phrase home whilst they go via treatment. Hold in head that no matter how clear you make your home look, there is no ensure that you will not have any speak to with the folks that regular your road. As a result, this is why living in a peaceful community is not advised. As an alternative, look for communities that are cleanse, have lower criminal offense charges, and offer obtain to therapy programs. Yet another alternative is to uncover someplace that makes it possible for you to stay with a good friend or a relative who can aid you when you require a buddy to support you. In addition, keep in brain that you will nevertheless have to attend to your possess personal cleanliness difficulties and any addictions that could be establishing due to stress or despair. One particular of the most difficult areas of being sober living near me is determining triggers. Folks respond very otherwise to specific triggers. For some individuals, possessing the capability to management themselves can be a cause other individuals, a odor, a colour, a texture, or a taste can be triggers. Irrespective of the result in, these triggers often direct to relapse and abuse. When living on your personal, these triggers grow to be more true and challenging to handle. Consider visiting your nearby hospitals, drug therapy facilities, and halfway houses. These are locations the place men and women have possibly been residing for many a long time or have just lately began. Several of these services are fantastic at supporting those having difficulties with substance abuse troubles. They can also immediate you to neighborhood support teams. Most halfway houses provide group residences for individuals battling with habit. Another factor in my selection to live around facilities for alcoholics is that they can supply methods that assist me in my energy to continue to be sober. I am an active member of several assistance teams like Alcoholics Anonymous and the Assist for Detoxification and Schooling (SADD) team. I also volunteer at the regional meals financial institution. The regional hospitals and remedy centers offer details about how to stay absent from alcoholic beverages after you go away the premises. I highly advocate that anyone considering living in close proximity to me check out these sources out. My close family and pals also perform an critical position in my sobriety. They hold me influenced and enthusiastic. I'm extremely privileged to have this sort of caring and loving people in my lifestyle. Dwelling in a tiny space like I do can make it challenging to be inspired by other folks when I am down and need to have a raise. Living in a sober, secure atmosphere with adequate assets helps make it significantly less difficult to continue to be sober and clear. My restoration has been amazing because of the assist I got from so a lot of distinct people. A supportive surroundings is a single of the important elements in lengthy-expression sobriety. Dwelling around facilities for alcoholics keeps me in a acquainted environment where I truly feel relaxed. This retains me centered on my targets and retains me from succumbing to temptation.

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“Enthusiastic Sobriety programs tearing families apart and convincing parents to kick their kids out onto the streets.” Originally posted on OnTheEmmis.com in 2004. ICECAP is the former incorporation and has since dissolved due to the efforts of OnTheEmmis.com

There is a thread on the other message board that I think the parents need to be informed about. This is about the harm that is caused to the children from parents that are still in an ICECAP program. These are true stories (not edited) just copied and pasted for you to read.

What Bob AND Joy teach parents about "tough" love and their version of "unconditional" love are just that "their version".

Does this seem as though families are being brought together and healing to you?

This is a great example of the pain that is caused when one person in the family (the child) wants to leave ICECAP and another person (the parent) believes the lies that they have been taught (that they are or will get high, can't live without being in the program, etc.) They, ICECAP, breed the fear that you as a parent have when you see them making choices that YOU don't like. What is the true meaning of letting go? Or the true meaning of unconditional love?

This is not to make any parent feel guilty for their time in an ICECAP program. I truly believe you thought you were doing the best thing. You were also a victim of the cult and it's way of thinking. That is the very reason I am posting this thread. To show the harm and hopefully save some pain for others.

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Getting kicked out of your house by your once all loving supporting do anything for you family

As most of you know my family is ALL involved in Crossroads and sense I've left its been hell, Thursday night my dad and step mom freaked out on me and my dad started pushing me and threatening to "lay me the fuck out" My dad has never so much as spanked me before we used to get along great until x-roads we got high together went to concerts movies dinner and what not, But now its as tho i don’t exist to them they call me ungrateful bitch and many other names after all that happened he told me to pack a bag and he didn't want to see me anymore, Luckily i see a therapist and he talked to my dad and calmed them down they still want me out of the house tho. I cant leave now because i belong to the state until me 18th birthday which thank god isn't far off but if they kick me out or i move out i have to spend the next month and half in juvenile again, this has happened to many of my friends who have left too they end up homeless because if there not in the group they cant be at there house, i was just wondering if anyone else's parents went crazy after they left and if it does get better?

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I lived threw this every time I left the group, but especially the last time.

The last time I left I bailed the group with a guy, I knew from prior experiences that my parents would not tolerate me living in their house and not be in Pathway. So I did what I knew how to do, and hopped on a bus to California. When we got there we had no money or anything. At that point and many points throughout my time in Pathway I was willing to be a street person rather than be involved in the group. To say it didn't last long was an understatement; he was scared and refused to talk to anyone. His parents agreed to fly us back to AZ. I almost did not go because I knew that upon arriving I would have no place to go. Mind you at this point I had over a year sober. I did not bail because I wanted to get high.

When the plane touched down in PHX he had people from the group waiting to take him back. They shunned me. I had been in the group for about 5 years at that point and they could care less if I had a place to go. I now know it was because my parents would not shell out even more money for me to go into IOP (that would have been the third time).

I truly did not know who to call; I had been in the group since I was 14 years old. Not many people I knew had left and were around or willing to talk to a program drop out.

I finally gathered enough courage to call a friend of mine that had left the group, I knew she was getting high but at that point I didn't care. The streets of Phoenix were a lot more cruel than the streets of Hollywood. Her mother answered the phone, she did not sound very happy to hear my voice, on a previous runaway trip I bailed the group with her daughter and a few other people and we stole her credit cards and over $1000 dollars cash if my memory serves correctly. So this was a lady that I had fucked over to say the least. This kind woman opened her home to me. More than what my own family was capable of at that point. She allowed me to stay at their house and helped me try and find a job. At the same time unknown to me she was in contact with my parents trying to convince them to take me home, that I was actually doing fine and wasn't what the group was telling them about me.

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For some reason on Christmas Eve my parents called and told me I could move back in, but I had to live in the garage. They would set up a cot in there. I would not be allowed to use anything in the house, except the bathroom but my parents had to escort me to and from it. I agreed I didn't care; I just wanted to see my father.

When we were driving to my parents house the kind mom who allowed me to stay at her house explained to me that this was all my mothers doing, my father wanted nothing to do with my and had informed her that I was dead to him. It was because of him I would be sleeping in the garage until I could find my own home (mind you I was 18 and had never held down a job, paid bills, etc.) I lost it, this man, my father, my hero wanted nothing to do with me. This was a turning point for me. This is when I decided in my crazy still experiencing the effects of Kool-Aid that I needed to get high in order to get in the house. Because, try and follow this it is way crazy thinking looking back, if I just got high I would have something to cop to, the group would take me back, I could make amends and therefore my father would allow me in his life again. Crazy I know.

Well living in the garage lasted about 2 hours before my parents (read mother) got sick of it. My father sulked in his room and wanted nothing to do with me. Christmas Eve with all the family and Christmas day were rather awkward, to say the least. My father still did not speak to me. I believe that year they even attended the round robin. I sat at home. I soon got a job and almost immediately began getting high, smoking speed, snorting coke, and shooting heroin. This went on for about 2 years. I worked therefore my parents didn't care. They had both left the program (details of that have never been disclosed to me, I do not know why or how). And my father and my relationship finally started to re solidify.

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Except by this time I was strung out on heroin. Believe it or not I did go back to the group. After my parents discovered my horrible habit and asked me to check myself in to a detox center, I made an appointment with the then OG counselor. He told me to that I was going to die, that I needed to go into some Step something or other. I told him I had no money. He told me to sell my cars, I told him he was on crack my parents would never let me do that. At the same moment I was absolutely terrified they would. I told him to call them and if he could convince them I was willing. From what I understand that counselor did call my father and my father told him he was full of shit. That was the day my father became my hero again and not some brain washed ego maniac. I wound up getting off heroin a few months later. My father and my relationship has been wonderful ever since, for Christ sake we even work together. My mother is still struggling with the fact that I drink . But her and my relationship is better than it ever has been my entire life.

Sorry this was so long and detailed I never knew I would share all of this. I hope this helps you to realize to hear that some else has been threw a similar nightmare.

Good luck and if you ever need anything or need to talk about the ‘rents and the evil things they can do when they are still slugging down the Kool-Aid but you are not, email me. I am more then willing to listen.

Also if a parent reads this who is considering throwing their child out on to the streets because they are no longer in the group, let me tell them from being that child: They have no place to go! The situation that they are in worsens, they feel abandoned, and the people that they turn to are usually using drugs much heavier than they are or ever have!

PLEASE DO NOT BUY INTO ICECAPS TOUGH LOVE- this is what killed Bob’s son, this is what almost killed me, and what almost killed or even did kill many people I knew.

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ok bailey, i know you've already heard this but there are some who haven't... the first time i left stl i was 16. i lived on the streets and 20 dollar hotels and at my old sponsee's house. it was bad but didn't compare to when i left atl. that time i was 18. my dad had driven a car down for me. i eventually got myself kicked out. i knew it was coming. i packed up my car with at much crap as i could and then i left. i went to stl then kc. stealing gas the entire way, oh yeah and wrote a bunch of bad checks. i had to go back down to atl to pick up more of my stuff. so i took a friend with me. i got there and packed up more crap. i made it all the way back up to nashville, then my car broke down. to anyone who lives in there car it's the most important thing to you. it's your bed, your transportation, your only way to and from work. it makes your whole life work. my friend's parents wired her money and left me 60 miles south of nashville, in manchester. i took what i could from my car and started walking. i hitch hiked from there to kc. it took me 3 days almost. i looked like complete shit when i got home. think the garage is bad? my mom made me sleep on the back deck for 3 weeks. like a dog. i woke up went to work (walked my happy ass) came home and then when my mom got home from work she would let me in to go to the bathroom and shower, then i got kicked back out. when i finally proved my self she let me in the house. well that's the most important parts i guess. there's more but i wanna go to sleep. point is that things did get better. i just had to fight so hard for it. i've never had to fight for anything harder then to survive. but i'm still here. and to everyone who will ask, i never touched a truck driver, and they never asked. actually the fed me and let me sleep.

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It's stuff like this that really gets me riled! It bothers me that the "Family" (talk about dysfunctional families!) pushes parents to treat their own flesh and blood like animals! I'm sorry - but tough love is bullshit! As parents, we are to care for our kids - whether we love them or not - they are a gift from God and these parents ought to be damn grateful that they have children! Do these parents not realize that there are LAWS about this?! As long as their kid is under 18 they are required BY LAW to give their kids food, clothing and shelter. Parents, if you are kicking your kids out of your house - YOU DON'T DESERVE TO HAVE THEM!

I will NEVER turn my back on my child! I don't understand how any parent can do that! How can a parent look Their child in the eye - no matter how old they are - and turn their back on them? How can they sleep at night not knowing if their child is dead or alive? How can Bob and "friends" push this kind of treatment?! This is just totally beyond my comprehension! My blood is boiling right now!

I would give ANYTHING to have more kids at home! I cry almost every night because I want a houseful of children! Yes, I love my son with all my heart - but yes! I also want a houseful of laughing - hell, even screaming - children running around! And quite frankly it fucking pisses me off that parents treat their children like this! Sleeping in the fucking garage? On the damn patio!? Wake up you parents who are in ICECAP! I don't care if you believe the Bible or not - I do and I believe it with all my heart and it says in there that "whatever you do to the least of these, you have done to me". Guess what parents! When you treat your kids like this, you are treating God like that! I pity you! I pity the fact that one day you will have to answer for the way you have treated your kids! And I pray that you get the justice you deserve!

Sorry webmasters for going off and for using the language I used. I haven't talked like this in years, but this is a hot button for me. I get into a lot of trouble when I'm out and about in stores and see a parent yelling and/or cursing at their child. One of these days I'm probably going to get punched - but I will not keep silent! The treatment that ICECrAP pushes parents to do to their kids is abuse - pure and simple! And I refuse to hold my tongue when I see it going on!

To those of you who are experiencing this treatment or have in the past - please know that I am thinking of you and praying for things to change. Especially that your parents wake up and seek your forgiveness for the treatment they have given you! NOTHING a child does - NOTHING - warrants throwing your kids out on the streets! The atrocities that are out there... it just makes me shudder! And want to scream and rip out Bob's eyes with my bare hands. Not much gets me this worked up.

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Answers Property - Lowering the blight of material abuse in alcoholic beverages/drug therapy

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