screaming, crying, throwing up...
saw some article about "eggshell parenting" which apparently is a term this psychologist termed herself. i went to her tiktok and searched the tag #eggshellparent and there are so many videos, omfg... they all just feel like bomb drops. (this is Dr. Kim Sage btw)
"the sound of tires in the driveway, slamming cabinets, sudden loud sounds" aahhhhhhhh.....
i wanted to also include a video that isn't just text on the screen, but can't figure out how to embed it so here's a link. more stuff about how hypervigilance presents in adults after childhood trauma. but honestly i can just get lost on her page or just anything under #eggshellparent. just going down the rabbit hole right now...
my post the other day was about my dad and my ex, but my mom has BPD and messed me up with this kind of stuff too but in a completely different way. that was more overt though; only in recent years have i been coming to terms with how bad things were with my dad too.
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Oh of course my exs i watched midsommar with entire analysis of dani as a character was that she was 'annoying'. Uh I mean did I feel held by him
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More things that resonate with me today. Yes to all of the below, which is why I have a therapist.
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…my dream is still to have 2+ cats, let Merlin finally be nearly cage-free when I’m around and fully embrace being a funky lil guy, a rabbit, large cage/aviary of finches, and a pair of budgies.
All in my own place made cozy with curtains and blankets and cushions and suncatchers scattering prismatic rainbows and smelling like a well-used spice rack and hot drinks and cozy foods. Please come visit me. Coo at my pets. Drink hot cocoa and tea and virgin mulled cider while playing games or watching movies while snuggled under a pile of softness and no less than one critter with me.
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What is Eggshell parenting | by Dr Kim Sage, licensed psychologist
These parents are the source of safety but also the source of fear for the child(ren). They can be fun and protective but also frightening, yelling, have unpredictable mood swings, make you feel guilty, gaslight you, destroy or take away your posessions, parentify you/their child (= child had to play the adult role and listen to the parents problems). This often causes disorganized or anxious attachment style in the child.
Dr Sage also give tips for healing and to go from a disorganized attachment or more secure attachment.
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What was knifekid’s MOTHER like?
Think of her like this: She’s Mother Gothel with a medical degree.
She has a rather large boisterous persona, however it’s simply used to cover up her rather manipulative behavior.
Unlike her husband who relies mainly on intimidation and scare tactics, Mrs. Scal relies mainly on mental and emotional abuse and is a big time gaslighter.
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well, they had roses and thorns,
and hey, the good times were good;
the bad ones were worse, weren’t they?
they had the fragrance, didn’t it smell so nice?
but god, it hurt bad,
head in the sand
there is blood on my hands
and even a thorn without rose would sting just as much
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If you know someone autistic who has difficulty telling the difference between rhetorical and literal questions, do me and them a favor and don't fucking keep asking if I tell you "that's all the context I have. I don't know anything else." And don't then get pissy when I keep telling you "I don't know" when you KEEP ASKING ME QUESTIONS. IF YOU ASK ME A FUCKING QUESTION THEN I AM GOING TO ANSWER IT. I AM FUCKING DISABLED. I CANNOT TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN RHETORICAL AND LITERAL QUESTIONS ALL THE TIME. IF YOU DON'T CHANGE YOUR TONE OR PHRASING AT ALL BETWEEN A RHETORICAL OR A LITERAL QUESTION THEN YOU ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY DO. NOT. GET TO BE FUCKING PISSY WITH ME WHEN I ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS. LEAVE ME ALONE OR I WILL FUCKING LEAVE. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF THIS SHIT. I AM DISABLED. I AM UNABLE TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE IF YOU DON'T USE VERBAL OR TONAL INDICATORS. IMPLICATIONS FREQUENTLY GO OVER MY HEAD. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT. I AM TRYING MY BEST DURING EVERY SINGLE SOCIAL SITUATION IN EVERY SINGLE PART OF MY LIFE. DO YOU KNOW HOW EXHAUSTING IT IS TO HAVE TO ANALYZE EVERY SINGLE SOCIAL SITUATION YOU ARE EVER IN AT ALL FUCKING TIMES???? LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE.
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Just messaged 2 girls who are looking for a third roommate at my uni bc i just can’t live with my parents anymore. Like i can’t do it.
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