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CW: brief discussion of ABA & conversion therapy
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As founders of a religious cult, David Berg and Karen Zerby knew too well the terror they could elicit in members by associating homosexuality with demons and demonic possession. They used this tactic to the fullest extent, going so far as to “exorcise” people’s genitalia and publicize the name of the demon they alleged incites homosexuality.
The spiritual and religious abuse that Berg and Zerby inflicted on members was not only deeply damaging and traumatic due to the distress experienced in believing one has angered an all-powerful God; it also inoculated Berg and Zerby against being criticized or challenged for their words and actions, since speaking against them would be speaking against God. An example of this is the quotation where Berg, instead of owning his hateful views, claims that “the Spirit in me was repulsed & revulsed by that horrible thing,” thus invoking the fear and veneration members felt for the Spirit of God.
Again and again, over decades, Berg and Zerby weaponized religion and spirituality to facilitate their corrupt agendas, lend authority to their vitriol, and sanction their oppression and abuse.
Reposted from @Brandan Robertson Reading quotes from the foundational conversion therapy text book,“Shame and Attachment Loss” by Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. This stuff is insane. We must stand against it. #exgay #conversiontherapy #lgbt #pride #progressivechristian #queer #gaychristian #lgbtchristian https://www.instagram.com/p/CguL5BDLrbd/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
I want to share my thoughts on conversion therapy. In 1969 after 5 years of riotous living as a gay man in the closet, I decided I wanted a more normal sounding life of marriage to a woman and to have children. At that time, the only conversion I knew about ( aversion and shock therapy etc.) was unacceptable to me. I went into psychoanalysis but my doctor told me that while converting could be my goal, it was not his goal for me . I did learn a lot about myself and actually became more comfortable with my gay sex self. I also started dating women. With nothing to go by from my therapist or in books, I believed that if I could marry a woman, my gay self would go away. In 1973 I got married to a woman who knew I had been gay. We both believed that period of my life was over. Probably no surprise to queer people that it was not. After I joined the church, so the last 30 years of my marriage, and now 40 years later, I was and am celibate. I have gay desires , fantasies but do not act on them. I have always had a temple recommend and worked in a temple for 20 years. After joining the church, I felt I had to come out to church leaders and to my wife. I sought help. I was comfortable with the title of having unwanted same sex attraction. I got involved in a church sponsored group that later became Evergreen. They believed in the works of Mobley, Nicholosi and others who believed being gay was a choice that you could change. I bought into that especially due to my childhood trauma, abuse from my father and the lack of a good male relationship growing up and into adulthood. While I did not go through conversion therapy, I bought into Exodus and both my wife and I attended Exodus groups for over a year. I did learn about addiction and dysfunctional families and other good stuff that helped us in our marriage. I was loyal to my wife and for last 30 years of our marriage, I was having relations with only her. But she never really trusted me again and was possessive and jealous of my relationships with women and men. She decided to divorce me without discussing it with me. I never was told exactly why. I was able to change or add to my sexual identity. I wanted married life so much, I just did it. We raised two wonderful children and have 4 grand kids. There are still groups and therapist that treat people with the idea of converting their sexual identity. I believe that is OK. If someone, as an adult decides they want to go that route, I support them. It is just another option out there and I do not see them as an enemy. I am not in favor of those who preach the change is required by God . I was involved in a virtual group with a lot of men who see their sexual identity (SSA) as unwanted. I understand that and was that way in my life for years. The LDS church does more harm than good to queer people. That saddens and frustrates me. I had to work through a lot of things including SSA identity before I was ready to find my queer self and live with it and love myself with it. If my wife had been willing, I would still be married to her. I am happier at this point in my life than any other time. It was such confusion and pain when I could not accept my true self. I understand if someone wants to try adding to or changing which lifestyle or gender they identify with. People who want to love and support them come in a lot of varieties. My story is unique to me and it took tremendous desire and will power for me to change and I NEVER got rid of my gay desires. I would repeat those decisions that got me to accept and find my hetero side and to have the opportunity I had to have children. I realize that marriage and child rearing are available to queer people now but that was not the case when I wanted to change. If you have questions or thoughts, please share them.
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Book Title: Sins of our Sons
Author: Kristian Daniels
Publisher: Extasy Books
Release Date: May 28, 2022
Genre: Contemporary M/M Romance
Tropes: Forbidden love, murder, conversion therapy
Themes: Coming out, forgiveness, hate crime, love
Heat Rating: 3 flames
Length: 94 000 words/ 333 pages
It is a standalone book and does not end on a cliffhanger.
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For the record I love canon trans Gwen with all my heart but it does remind me of the Jenny Nicholson vampire diaries "literally gay metaphorically homophobic dad metaphorically conversiontherapies his metaphorically gay but literally straight daughter" bit. Like Gwen has that banner in her room openly with no suggestion that her dad has anything negative to say about it so he's like. Literally supportive but metaphorically queerphobic. Rip
Believe them when they tell you what they’re up to.
This are from a series of - now deleted - YouTube videos produced by Boston Children’s Hospital where they say outright that a child can be suspected to be trans if they “[refuse] to get a haircut, or standing to urinate, trying to stand to urinate, refusing to stand to urinate, trying on sibling’s clothing, playing with the ‘opposite gender’ toys, things like that.”
Note that sex stereotype non-conformance is most prevalent among gay kids. #ConversionTherapy
To solve this “problem” of a child who plays with “opposite gender” toys and doesn’t like getting a haircut, the Boston Children’s Hospital offers services such as a “gender affirming hysterectomy.”
They wouldn’t offer it if they either weren’t doing it, or weren’t at least willing to.
And they are.
Or, until a couple of days ago, were.
"nO oNe Is gIvInG cHiLdReN sUrGeRy!!”
They keep telling us what they’re doing, and fanatics keep trying to gaslight us.
When the Boston Children’s Hospital’s own videos were reposted to Twitter, people naturally reacted strongly. The hospital then deleted them all and summoned media outlets like NBC News to lie to everyone that legitimate criticism of BCH’s own promotion of dated stereotypes and mutilation of children to enforce them was an unwarranted “transphobic” attack by the “far right.”
Good, because I have questions.
Starting with why playing with the “wrong” toys is a medical issue worthy of surgeries, drugs and life-long medicalization. Or needs to be “fixed” at all.
COG/TFI on its website: “We seek to bring hope and spiritual renewal through the unconditional love of Jesus Christ.”
COG/TFI’s leaders in internal teachings: “There's nothing more disgusting to God or us [than gays].”
David Berg, the cult founder, and Karen Zerby, the co-founder, subjected gay or perceived-gay members to grueling conversions, character attacks, and forced confessions, and made “examples” of them by publicizing these humiliating ordeals in “Mo Letters” that the cult circulated worldwide. Such members were threatened with homelessness and expulsion from the cult (which in many cases meant losing their families and children) unless they submitted to the abuse.
Berg’s self-righteous proclamation of, “We’re a very sexy outfit but we’re not that sexy, we’re not perverted” is ironic considering the fact that as part of his “sexy outfit,” he condoned and encouraged incest, rape, sexual assault, sex trafficking, paedophilia, child sexual abuse, child pornography, and religious prostitution. Yet he condemned consensual same-sex relationships as “perverted.”
spoiler! im going to laugh so hard when gerri fixes all of roman problems and they live happily forever in an island away from it all
gerri as conversiontherapy... ok actuually in some ways, you could say that's kind of what she was but, like... that is stretching it a bit. like, the argument would be that any loganification disciplinary measure is analogous or similar to conversiontherapy for roman.