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niiwa-angel · 4 months

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Guys... Guess who is OFFICIALLY approved for a tubal ligation?

This girl!!!

#pro choice #sterilization #child free #anti natalism #child free feminism #radical feminists please interact #radical feminism #my body my choice #womens rights

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intersectionalpraxis · 4 months

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My kid Kinan trying to stop me from going out because there’s bombing | Gaza [@/ MuhammadSmiry on X. 01/08/24.]

This baby is still learning to talk but he says "قصف"= "bombing" loud and clear. He lost his childhood before it even started. [@/ RudaynaIbrahim on X.]

The IOF continues to steal the childhoods of countless Palestinian children. I've seen so many videos of very blatant symptoms of PTSD -seeing emotional and psychological responses to triggers from sudden sounds and movements. You can see stress and anxiousness and fear in their eyes -even when we see videos of them smiling/being hugged and comforted by journalists, doctors, and neighbors/relatives in their communities -they have been robbed -so many of them for decades now and continuously of just being able to be children -to be free from violence and oppression.

I have also seen videos of their entire lives being changed instantaneously with a debilitating injury or amputation due to their communities/hospitals/homes being air-striked, to losing their entire families and being orphaned. I've seen videos of them lifeless in their parents arms -something no parent SHOULD EVER have to record and share to get the world to fucking pay attention.

These are 'experiences,' and circumstances NO child should EVER have to face in their life. I'd say where the hell has UNICEF been -because aren't you supposed to be protecting children's rights ALL around the world? Are Palestinian children not worthy of protection? Over 10,000 of them have been MURDERED by the IOF.

Children shouldn't have to be worried about hearing BOMBS -they should be talking about their school lives, their friends, how excited they are to go to the beach, to try new foods at a restaurant they want to go to, to travel -to do so many wonderful things but THIS is what they have to live with right now even with glimpses of light and hope...

I will say this time and again -the United Nations is disgraceful.

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cimerran-714 · 3 days

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A single question to drill holes into the pro-choice movement.

Not clickbait.

If you think women (or "pregnant people", for the ones who also support the trans cult) should have the "right" because of bodily autonomy, do you think it should be legal to not breastfeed your child? Is it acceptable to starve your infant to death as he/she would be depending on you (on your body, specifically) for survival? Let's say that there's no formula available in this case & breastfeeding is the only option.

Now, most of them would avoid answering the direct question & come up with excuses.

She's legally obligated to take care of the child after it's born, so yes.

Legality doesn't always dictate morality, so this argument is bullshit. Slavery was legal once.

2. But we are talking about an infant, not a fetus.

This is specifically only addressing the bodily autonomy argument & not about personhood or whatever. If you have bodily autonomy, it should apply even if it's an infant. If it doesn't, then you are actually agreeing that bodily autonomy can be limited under some circumstances.

3. Pregnancy is more burdensome:

So it's about burden? You can kill someone if they are "more" of a burden to you, is that it? If pregnancy were painless, would you be against abortion in that case? And again, you are agreeing that bodily autonomy can be limited by saying it doesn't apply when it's less of a burden.

4. Try to deflect the topic and talk about something else.

Get back on track & answer the direct question.

Or they can bite the bullet and say "Yes, it should be legal for women to starve their infants to death." At this point you can just walk away from the person because they are clearly a psychopath.

But, yes, please answer this question. I look forward to all the logical pro-choice answers.

Spoiler: you won't have one.

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justsomeunsurefancat · 3 months

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Rape, murder, and disappearance! This is the reality women and girl are facing in Gaza in the hands of the Israeli occupation!

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samwisethewitch · 25 days

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Something I've been thinking about lately: In conversations about being intentionally child-free, I see a lot of people talk about how much they resent constantly being told that they'll change their minds someday. And yeah, that sucks. When you tell someone that they'll regret their choices or go back on them someday, you're telling them you don't trust them to make their own decisions. And that's a dick move.

But what I see left out of a lot of these conversations is the fact that some people do change their minds about kids, and that is also okay.

People change. Our priorities and our values change. Someone identifying as child-free at 20 and then realizing at 30 that they actually do want to be a parent doesn't invalidate other people's decision not to have kids. It doesn't even invalidate that person's previous decision. They're growing. They're changing, and that's okay. Healthy even.

When I was 18, I felt very strongly that I would never marry and never have children. For me, this was a reaction to growing up in a religious environment where women were second-class citizens, and what little autonomy/independence single women had immediately went away when they got married. And once you had kids? Well, once you had kids, your personal life was officially over and your identity now started and ended with being so-and-so's mother.

If your only model of marriage and parenthood is a nuclear family where the husband is in charge and makes all of the decisions while his wife does all of the housework and childcare and not much else, OF COURSE you wouldn't want to get married or have kids! My thought process at 18 was basically, "Well, I want to have my own money and make my own choices and have an identity outside of being a mom, so clearly the family life isn't for me."

I'm 25 now. I'm married. My husband and I both kept our own last names, and we maintain separate bank accounts. I have a job that I'm good at, and a lot of people know me from my work. I still have my own money, make my own choices, and have my own identity. None of that went away when I got married. All that's changed is that I have a partner and best friend that I decided to do life with, and we had a ceremony and signed a piece of paper to make it official. We're not quite at the having kids stage yet, but it is something we both want someday.

Me wanting marriage and kids now doesn't invalidate my decision at 18. When I was 18, focusing on my education and career was absolutely the right choice for me. I needed to be able to focus on myself without considering how it would affect a spouse or kids. Eventually, I realized marriage and parenthood can look a lot of different ways. I realized I can decide what they look like for me. I don't have to follow the model I grew up with. And I realized I do want raising kids to be part of my life, just in a way that looks different from what others might expect.

This is a process a lot of people go through, especially women and femmes. If you're in the middle of it right now, just know that you're allowed to change.

And of course, a lot of people don't change their minds. A lot of people who identify as child-free at 20 still don't want kids at 30, 40, or 50. I've met people in their 80s and 90s who never had kids and don't regret that decision. My point here is that some people changing their minds about something doesn't mean it's not a good option for other people.

(And, let's be real, unfortunately a lot of people go the other way: they think they want kids until they have them. That's way more complicated because now there's a whole human person involved who is dependent on them for care and this definitely deserves its own post, but the best advice I can give is if you're young, you need to give yourself time to figure out what you want before committing to anything.)

#rambles #child free #childless by choice #married life #feminism #feminist #trans inclusive radical feminism #trans inclusive feminism #terfs fuck off #terfs dni #religious trauma #ex christian #exmormon #exmo #exmo stuff #ex catholic #mine #parenting

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ititledit · 15 days

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Terrible headline choice, but overall I'm glad child free women are getting some mainstream coverage

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The number of women choosing not to have children is growing and the global birth rate is plunging.

While their reasons vary from climate worries to financial concerns and health complications, those making the decision to be "child-free by choice" say societal acceptance is yet to come, often leaving them feeling ostracised.

The BBC spoke to members of Bristol Childfree Women, a social group with more than 500 members, set up by women and for women who have decided not to have children.

While Caroline Mitchell always knew she never wanted children, she wasn't prepared for how hard reaching "child-bearing age" would be.

The 46-year-old, who lives with her husband in Brislington, Bristol, said while it never bothered her when she was younger, she had not anticipated the barrage of personal questions she would face as friends and acquaintances started to have children.

"I have felt like a freak because of it," she said.

"I feel like my perspective and my experience is just not acceptable."

In Caroline's eyes, society is set up for motherhood.

"You realise how you're quite excluded from a lot of life," she said.

"It's really hard for me to meet people, because it's all about the women you meet at the school gates or the writing clubs for mums."

Caroline said she thinks that sometimes women with children believe the "whole world" is set up for child-free women.

"Actually, it's really exclusionary," she said.

Many in her circle of friends have children and while they have never knowingly done anything to make her feel different, she says, the fact they are "all doing one thing" and she is doing another has been "quite hard".

While Caroline is "100% certain" and "very comfortable" in her identity, she admits she has, on occasion, “agonised" about her decision.

She said that was down to the "cultural expectation" of what was normal and the concept that if you were a woman, having a child was "the natural thing to do".

Official figures released in 2022, external show record numbers of women are reaching the age of 30 child-free.

More than half (50.1%) of women in England and Wales born in 1990 were without a child when they turned 30 in 2020, the first generation to do so, according to the Office for National Statistics.

Megan Stanley, who is originally from Oxfordshire and lives in Bristol, was so certain about her decision to not have children, she has been trying to get sterilised since the age of 19.

When it comes to her painful periods, Megan said it feels "cruel" to go through the "suffering every single month for a body function" she feels she does not need.

"I know that sterilisation doesn't solve periods but it does alleviate a lot of those major symptoms," she said.

But the 31-year-old said she has come up against hurdle after hurdle.

“The doctors would say ‘you're still a bit young’ or ‘you might change your mind’,” she said.

The furthest Megan got was when she was 29 and had an appointment with a surgeon.

"I'd prepared everything - my medical history, prepared all my line of reasoning. I'd even gone as far as to get a testimony from the therapist I was seeing. I'd gone the full mile," she said.

However, permission was not granted once the gynaecologist asked about her relationship status.

"At the time I'd been dating my now long-term partner for maybe three months," Megan said.

She told the doctor that her partner also definitely did not want children and he had already had a vasectomy.

Megan said the doctor then told her that if her partner had a vasectomy, “then you don't need to have this done, do you?"

It was then that Megan said she realised it was "inescapable" and they were "just not going to do it".

"Why should what happens to my body be beholden to what he's done to his?" she said.

"It's got to the point now where I long for the menopause. That's what I'm looking forward to."

Caroline believes women without children may be “complicit” in keeping cultural expectations as they are.

"We don't talk about it - so there's still this thought that it's what everyone does," she said.

"Motherhood is just everywhere all the time, in your face."

She said it was hard not fitting in with the "norm of society" and at times, she had wished she was "different".

"My life would have been easier in some ways," she said.

Yet for many women, whatever choices they make, they seem to beat themselves up about it and "seem to be not very accepting of everyone's choice", Caroline added.

Fiona Powley said she knew she did not want to be a mother from the age of 12 after seeing her own mum struggle with motherhood.

“I just thought motherhood didn't look like lot of fun," she said.

Now 49, Fiona runs the Bristol Childfree Women group, external and while she is currently experiencing menopausal symptoms, she has "no panicking feeling" that she did not use her ability to reproduce.

"It feels very comfortable," she said.

Ironically Fiona now looks at herself and thinks she could have actually done “quite a good job of parenting" but she "never really wanted it enough".

However, like Caroline and Megan she said new people she meets can react negatively when she tells them she chose not to have children.

“There's being told you'll regret it. What's your point of existing? If you don't have children you're not valid as a woman," Fiona said.

Fiona has even been called "selfish" and some have questioned who will look after her when she is old.

“It's almost like people feel uncomfortable," she said.

“It's probably because it never occurred to them that they also had a choice.”

Megan can sympathise.

In the past, the reaction to her not wanting children has been quite "visceral", she said.

She claims some people have painted her as "a child-hater, or a mean person” because of it.

"I think my not wanting kids is just an innate thing to who I am," she said.

Fiona said there were so many reasons why people decide not to have children.

Looking back, she thinks her own reasons were "probably quite unhealthy", but she knows that she is not going to "suddenly wake up as an old lady and feel bitter and regret".

Caroline said she would be a "resentful mother", adding there were a "huge amount of upsides" to not having children, like focusing her time on her relationship with her husband and her hobbies.

Megan agrees.

“There’s a lot of joy to be had in not having kids," she said.

“It isn't all about freedom and money. It's about choice."

#feminism #radical feminism #child free #bbc news

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oatsandeggs · 4 months

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androgynouscollectivekingdom · 2 years

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blueboldandbright · 5 months

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My battle jacket is getting to be more badge n patch than jacket, (which is great, I’m just never getting through airport security in it 😆)

Anyway, I hyperfocused on this this morning and I can’t wait to stick them on

#punk #battle jacket #lgbtqia #immigration #addiction #actually autistic #biphobia #chronic pain #transgender #feminism #polyamory #child free

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unhingedfemmecontent · 4 months

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I saw a tweet from a girl that said "i'm not a feminist so i don't hate kids"

i hate more than anything the misconception that all people who don't want kids hate them. like i love kids, i love babies. but the difference is i don't want to be responsible for one 24/7 for the rest of my life.

you are either intentionally making a bad faith argument or just genuinely stupid. (definitely at least the first one but probably both)

#feminist #intersectional feminism #intersectionality #womens rights #reproductive rights #reproductive freedom #child free

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xxfrizzyxx · 8 months

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Older women will call themselves a feminist and then try to convince their daughters that they WILL have kids... because apparently a woman's only worth is baby making

#feminist #feminism #childfree #child free #generations

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intersectionalpraxis · 4 months

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I documented multiple cases with @EuroMedHR of Israeli soldiers abducting blonde children from #Gaza claiming they might be abductee Israelis.

As Israeli forces are nearing my area of refuge, I just actually told my brother’s wife to dye her blonde daughter’s hair black! [@/MahaGaza on X.]

response to Maha Hussaini's report: "our families used ash to protect light-skinned children from being stolen by white settlers. In Palestine, they're dying children's hair to stop their children from being stolen. Removing children from an ethnic group to be raised by oppressors is one of the markers of genocide" [@/ 1KarenWyld on X.]

Journalist Maha Hussaini says that she has documented cases of Israeli soldiers kidnapping blonde children from Gaza claiming they might be abductee Israelis. (Illustrative photo) [@/ QudsNews on X. 01/07/24.]

I recently posted about this on my page. Thankfully a mutual of mine sent this to me. I addressed some of my perspectives about this horrifying and ongoing/developing story -which I will update here once I see Maha Hussaini or her fellow journalists sharing their documentations.

I just want to make sure that this is continues to be addressed/spoken about. This is beyond horrifying, and I hope those children are safely brought back to their families and loved ones -free from the IOF -because this is just insidious.

#feminist #feminism #social justice #free palestine #palestine #freepalastine🇵🇸#free gaza #settler violence #settler colonialism #colonial violence #tw child abuse #current events #current news #children of gaza #israel is a terrorist state #end the occupation #war crimes #human rights

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cimerran-714 · 4 months

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Heard a leftist arguing that when pro-lifers march with pictures of born children (infants) on placards or whatever, they're attempting to confuse/lie to people as the fetus doesn't look like a born child.

That's a severe misunderstanding. We are not arguing that the born child is similar in appearance to a fetus; the point being conveyed is that both of them are just as valuable.

#pro life #pro choice #anti abortion #bodily autonomy #abortion #reproductive rights #abortion rights #kate cox #reproductive justice #child free #women's rights #feminism #anti choice

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2000spopcultureobsesed · 8 months

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Children in the media spotlight: early 2000s Disney and the pressures of child stardom.

Miley Cyrus has released her new single 'Used To Be Young'. Miley reflects on her career from the best moments to the worst controversies, from her beginnings as Hannah Montanna to the present. Through a series of short TikTok promoting her new single, Miley provides her fans with an intimate look into the singer's true feelings regarding each period of stardom. Miley was only 12 when the singer and actress rose to fame with the Disney sitcom Hannah Montana. Miley played a normal girl (Miley Stuart) who lived a double life as the ultra-famous pop star Hannah Montana in the four-season show, which eventually became a reality for Miley off-screen. However, Miley's transition from Disney star to professional singer came with intense scrutiny.

In the TikTok series, Miley reflects on her intense schedule as a Disney star: a thirteen-hour day of interviews, hair and makeup, and photoshoots. She also reflects on her controversial vanity fair photoshoot, which was shot when Miley was 15. The public interpreted Miley's efforts to distance herself from Hannah Montanna during the photo shoot as an inappropriate hypersexualisation of America's most beloved and recognisable child star. Fifteen-year-old Miley was forced to apologise for the photoshoot and had to face the media. This begs the question, why did we interpret the image in a sexualised frame, even though it was innocent? Why did the media view a 15-year-old in a sexual frame? Why was so much responsibility held upon a 15-year-old? This backlash would be enough to send a grown adult into hiding, let alone a child!

Disney's obsession with public perception

Disney's practice of attempting to maintain the public perception of its stars' innocence long after they have reached adulthood is troubling. Perhaps because it is aware that the media and the general public dislike seeing these actors and their onscreen representations of childhood innocence mature. On the other hand, the media tends to sexualise young girls while condemning those who express their sexuality on their own terms. Britney Spears' video for "... Baby One More Time," which showed the 16-year-old in a schoolgirl skirt and shirt knotted around her midriff, sparked a moral panic in 1999. Having to follow a heavily curated image is highly damaging to young stars. You either have to be one or the other, but never in between. Many of these ex-Disney stars may have felt compelled to act boldly on their image because they were taught to think in extremes. Disney is built on archetypes - the hero, the villain, the damsel in distress, the bully - and the media, too, perpetuates constrictive "womanhood" tropes: virgin/whore, good girl/bad girl.

Purity culture and the obsession with the private lives of child stars

Many child stars of the early 2000s rose to prominence when the United States was experiencing a "purity panic," and evangelical groups such as the Moral Majority were urging schools to teach abstinence rather than sex education. However, just as messages of sexual abstinence were shown to be ineffective in reducing unplanned pregnancies or sexual activity among teenagers, the "purity ring" craze at the beginning of the 2000s decade only served to keep everyone guessing about which Disney stars were having sex. One of the most notable examples is when the Jonas Brothers donned purity rings at the 2008 MTV Awards. Women have expressed feelings of being trapped in their skin. Purity culture lives on in the memories, bodies, relationships, and trauma of those raised there and is especially damaging for child stars who had to live through it and represent it.

#early 2000s #pop culture #feminism #women in media #hannah montana #miley cyrus #selena gomez #disney #demi lovato #child star #media #tmz.com #free britney #britney spears #christina aguilera #jonas brothers #nick jonas #joe jonas

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shirzan140102 · 1 year

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More than 20,000 Iranian Girls under 15 Got Married over Nine-Months

Statistics from Iran show that over 20,000 girls under the age of 15 were married off from the period of (about?) April/May-ish 2022 to January 2023. Aside from the obviously disturbing fact that this is in effect legalized rape of children, I have to wonder how many of these poor young girls will be subjected to a suffocating environment where they will suffer from all kinds of abuse.

In this post, I discussed the tragic story of Mona Heydari, who is an example of a child bride being married off to an abusive husband. Mona was married at 12 and became a mother at 14. She ran away from her abusive husband a few years later and ultimately was brought back to Iran... only to be beheaded at the age of 17 by her husband (presumably as punishment?). The kicker is that the perpetrators of these "honor killings" often do not receive the severe sentence they deserve (i.e., sentences that are typically handed down to murderers). In fact, in Mona's case, her parents, who had signed HER death sentence at age 12, apparently pardoned her husband and, thus, the already short sentence was further reduced to a mere 8 year prison term.

And you know, I cannot help but worry about how many of these 20,000+ new child brides will meet Mona's tragic fate several years down the line. (I obviously hope this isn't the case.) But then again, this is to be expected of a regime that sexualizes girls before they even reach puberty and clearly regards them as objects.

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#free iran #freedom for iran #woman life freedom #women life freedom #women's rights #feminism #end child marriages #child marriage #iran protests #iran revolution #and please pray for these poor girls

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oatsandeggs · 19 days

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