Things Mormons at BYU did after I came out as nonbinary
(Multiple people) asked me my pronouns, and consistently used them.
Roommate made me a tie to wear to church
When I auditioned for a play, I was cast in a male role (as requested)
Student director offered to change the pronouns in the script to make them match my own if I got cast as a certain character (I didn't get into this play but the offer was nice)
Ward Choir director happily let me sing with the tenors, and the rest of the tenors encouraged me even when some of the deeper notes were hard for me to hit.
(multiple people) complimented me on the androgynous outfits I wore to church (including my former mission president)
Asked me genuine questions about my gender, or my faith, and really listened when I shared.
Along with lots of other kind gestures that helped me feel safe and at home. I told many people that my boyfriend was a transman (which in the eyes of BYU would make us a same-sex couple) and the responses I got were:
People were happy for me
my roommates let my boyfriend stay over at our apartment for a couple weeks
Lots of people want to come to our wedding
Absolutely nobody got anywhere close to outing me or reporting me to the Honor Code office.
Obviously, I was not ideal, I had some negative experiences too, and some people who would consistently misgender me who I just didn't feel comfortable correcting. And I don't want to ignore the difficult experiences many queer people have a BYU. I know that it can be dangerous and terrifying.
But I wanted to share my experience to say that there is hope for change. There are people who are happy to support you. There are people who will fight alongside you for the inclusivity BYU and the LDS faith in general so desperately need. When I first realized I was queer at BYU I immediately distrusted everyone, and I missed out on a lot of friendship and joy because I was so afraid people would discriminate against me that I never gave them a chance.
Irony is: the woman isn’t even supportive of her child: She told the story in the context of trying to talk the kid out of transitioning and come back to the church.
But just being related to a trans person is enough to set these people off. Regardless of your views on the topic.