#and secondly.

[inkskinned]

the problem is that being single is seen as the consolidation prize, and not the natural neutral state of being-a-person. at the end of the movie or the book or the poetry, there is a person waiting for you at the altar, and they love you. if the play is a comedy, everyone gets married. the metaphor is about how you are not-whole. the metaphor is about how everyone is going to be happily-ever-after. the metaphor is that romantic love is the most important resource on the planet, not just all-love. all-love is not a thing, that is a disappointment. the treasure is not the friends we made along the way. the treasure is the girl you landed.

the metaphor is that you cannot be alone, that means you are broken. are you getting over someone? that is acceptable, you can be getting over someone, but not for long. you must be single because you would rather not be single. you must be single and looking to not-be-single. you must want to date, eventually.

friendship and community are never seen as being equal-to or even-better than romantic connection. that person is your one! you need to find them. you need to hunt through the sand particles until you can shift out some kind of gem. this is regardless to your own experience of the beach and the sun. you need to be somewhere with someone.

if you are taking this time alone to heal, that is so sad. everyone gives you this little pitying look. the understanding is that you are not actually happier than you were before you were single. it is seen as a sort of pity - oh, you are choosing yourself, making yourself the priority? - that isn't quite right. you must mean that you are making yourself ready for the right person. you are just laying the bed better this time. open up your heart. you'll find them, we promise!

what do you mean you're really-truly genuinely-very happy? you are probably misremembering what it was like to be in a relationship. and besides, once you meet your person, that time will look grey and bland and wasted. your person is the only way for you to see in color. so what if you have taken this time - for the first time in your entire life - to actually-for-real do the fucking work. you can be proud of yourself, sure. but the way we need to know that you got better is that you get a partner. you're healed enough for the next bad part!

people don't choose to be single, they just say they're choosing to be single - they actually mean "nobody wants to date me." it doesn't matter how many people you have gently rejected or how many times you've talked it over carefully in therapy. what matters is that you are single, and by all accounts - that means you are something worth our pity. your successes and life all seem pale in the sunlight. sure, you have done amazing things and finally found your way in life. what matters is that there wasn't a person in the room with you while you did it.

you want to tell them - that's the whole thing. i didn't know how to be alone in the room. i didn't know how to handle the silence. every moment was so sharp, and i kept choosing the wrong way to close the door. i have spent my entire life in the empty well, living in the ricochet of someone else's cruelty. for once i have built myself a ladder. for once everything i taste is all mine, every bite of sunshine and laughter. i have learned how to sleep out in the open with my memories. recently, they have started to purr.

your father rolls his eyes. listen. this isn't about you. i just want a grandchild in my future.

#writeblr #i actually didn't want a girlfriend before nat #and my dad recently said to me - raquel. i don't approve of the promiscuity #1. i am 30. #2. i had casually dated about 4 people over 18 months. #3. i do believe he was just mad that i get more girls than he ever did #i had to look this 60 yr old deacon in the eye and say. okay so i have a girlfriend first of all im just not tellin yall about her #and secondly. #OKAY???? OLD MAN I DONT EVEN LIVE HERE WHAT ARE U GONNA DO ABOUT IT #briefly considered asking nat if i could pretend we were a one night stand kind of a thing

[justsomeguycore]

boyfriend socks

#first of all. #and secondly.

[gibbearish]

love when ppl defend the aggressive monetization of the internet with "what, do you just expect it to be free and them not make a profit???" like. yeah that would be really nice actually i would love that:)! thanks for asking

#yes i want things to be free like ??? that is not a weird desire #'but but it costs money to keep up' ok and? how is that my problem #the government has plenty of murder dollars they could reallocate a few to make internet services universal if they wanted #also these companies were perfectly capable of supporting themselves before the internet got drowned with ads so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #edit: muting notifs on this post bc new additions have kind of petered out #so no one feel bad about adding something someone else has said‚ it is not bothering me im just trying to keep my #notifs page cleanish lol #also since i saw some people are being redirected to read my tags: firstly hiiiiii this is a special secret message for you:3 #secondly i have learned since making this that the reason they were able to support themselves previously was because #of investors bankrolling everything #and theyre now finally realizing that theyre never going to actually make a profit and arent as willing to invest #however thats just a minor correction and doesnt change my overall point #once again. so many murder dollars #so thats why im just adding it here in the tags rather than making an actual correction #anyways . love yall 💕 #origibberish #bigger gibbers

[nezhanetwork]

distant memory

#hermitcraft #hermitcraft s10 #smallishbeans #ldshadowlady #joel smallishbeans #lizzie ldshadowlady #jizzie #my art #firstly yes i do watch hc10 im just fighting my uni and losing hopelessly atm #secondly did you ever think that secret life was the last time c!joel saw c!lizzie

[savagegood]

"No matter what we do, we can't change the way people see us." "You changed the way you see me... didn't you?"

found family and some of the allegory in NIMONA (2023)

#firstly #long post #secondly... 'you're safe. we're home' ;___; my heart. that's her dad!!!! found family is my weakness #nimona #nimona movie #nd stevenson #nimonaedit #ballister blackheart #riz ahmed #chloe grace moretz #lgbt #lgbtq #transgender #nonbinary #genderfluid #nimona spoilers #*op

[tapakah0]

Song

#I... I'm tired of words and can't physically reblog anything??? #There are plenty of things I want to reblog and I saw some fanarts I go crazy about #and even ANIMATIC #I SAW TMS ANIMATIC #Set me free my brain #Also #Cass #Moon #Universe #Firstly my lungs left my body when I saw your reactions #Secondly you know you can just put a needed tag below without any reactions yes? I don't want you to force yourself or anything XDD #I'm just doodling when have time and powers pffht #wip #<- I think it will be a wip..... #animation tag #marble sky fanart

[elvyn]

Arle

#arlecchino #the knave #father save me #genshin #genshin impact #my art #I spent too much time on it #I started rendering too much and then I realized that I overdid it and went back to the pre-render version lmao #I need to learn to stop overrendering art #First #it doesn't look good #and secondly #it's too frustrating how much time it takes #But it's hard when you're a perfectionist yh

[sukifoof-art]

art block will not defeat me so now u guys get 13 kings miku

#i decided on her being the queen of megalomania firstly cuz its funny secondly cuz sekaaaiiiii deee #miku #hatsune miku #miku hatsune #vocaloid #miku fanart #kekkai sensen #kinda!!! imagine shes running down the streets of hsl singing

[kate-bot]

REQUIRED READING for any noisecouple enjoyers: @manicplank 's "the colour pink" fic ITS SOOOO GOOD and i just had to do a little animation of their date.... so so so so cute i love them forever

gif version under the cut:

idk why it loses so much quality . kind of annoying but oh well

#pizza tower #my art #animation #noisecouple #noise x noisette #the noise pizza tower #noisette pizza tower #theodore noise #noisette #ok a couple of rambly things #number one i prommy their hair started off as black but i kept adding layers and it kinda turned brown and now its too late. #just pretend their hair is darker lol #secondly im genuinely so bad at understanding . words #so i may have interpreted the scene / outfits wrong but i tried my darndest #third of all i love them so much #and i loved every second of drawing this #FOURTH OF ALL sorry i have lots to say #i tried out the watercolour feature for the background of this one #so if it looks a little weeiiird thats cuz idk what im doing :) #ok thats all enjoy mwah

[hychlorions]

happy klapollo day to the freaks and the weirdos out there!!!!!!!!!!

#klapollo #klavier gavin #apollo justice #ace attorney #ace attorney fanart #.png #i've had that fake tweet ready since february LMAO #andddd this is an old concept for a mini zine i ended up not making #primarily because i got busy #and secondly because i couldn't figure out more stuff to put without being too self-indulgent with my hcs

[dogmandotcom]

The system feeling when a voice in your head gives input on something you’re doing and it definitely wasn’t your own internal voice but you have no idea who just said that 😶

#I was making a coffee and it’s cheap coffee so it smells like cheap coffee right? And someone goes ‘ew do we really normally drink this?’ #like?? First of all rude! Secondly we always drink this coffee at work who said that?? Where did u go come back #systemposting #osddid #plural system #plural community #pluralgang #sysblr

[smile-files]

some object characters in the shopkins style :)

#dandy's doodles #battle for dream island #bfdi #bfdi pin #the 5 secondly object show #5sos #the 5 secondly object show: bean's show #5sos:bs #5sos:bs tape measure #inanimate insanity #ii #ii paintbrush #burner object show #burner record #shopkins #cuties.... :D

[chronicowboy]

eddie saying buck's name but it gets progressively worse and worse

#sami rambles #firstly sorry about the quality and all the different volume levels i am WHACKED #secondly sorry about the ending #i just had a lot of feelings #911 show #eddie diaz #evan buckley #buck x eddie #buddie

[collophora]

My biggest regret is that we never got a shoot where their helmets take damage, they just fly away conveniently v_v

#star wars #star wars the bad batch #star wars fanart #the bad batch fanart #tbb fanart #tbb crosshair #okay maybe once on background characters #like probably an impact just as a 2d texture not animated #which is fine #like first probably not rated for the show's public #secondly if I was a 3D artist and got handed a storyboard with this in it I would say hell no #anticipating tbb ending by traumatizing myself uuuh

[leclercstarrs]

the slytherin boys confessing to you on new year’s eve

➤ blaise zabini

he waits for the right moment during the party in the slytherin common room. when the clock strikes midnight and the two of you are facing each other, not even taking notice of everyone around you celebrating a new year, he looks down at you and cups your face, pausing for a moment to admire you before kissing you.

➤ draco malfoy

he carries you to your dorm room when the party’s over and you’re barely able to walk straight after all the drinking, helping you get into bed and covering you with the blanket, brushing your hair out of your face and placing a trash can next to your bed. draco sits on the side of your bed, placing a comforting hand on your leg. when he thinks you’re asleep, he confesses to you, unaware that you’re awake and can hear him.

➤ lorenzo berkshire

when the crowd in the common room gets overwhelming and the loud music seems to be getting louder every second, lorenzo sneaks you away to his favourite spot in hogwarts, the astronomy tower. the weasley twins have fireworks going off to celebrate and the two of you just sit there and watch as the night sky lights up with different colours. he turns to look at you and you can feel him staring, so you do the same and shift your body so you’re looking at each other. “i’ve liked you since first year. i understand if you don’t feel the same way, but considering it’s a new year, i just needed to tell you. you mean so much to me.” he whispers.

➤ mattheo riddle

he can feel the jealousy radiating off of him as he’s sitting on one of the leather couches in the common room, watching you and harry potter join the rest of the crowd in dancing. your eyes shift to glance at mattheo behind harry’s shoulder, raising an eyebrow in confusion as he basically death stares at the brunette you’re swaying your hips against. when mattheo looks away, you do the same and bring your attention back to him, not expecting it when the angry slytherin walks up to you and harry. “matty? what—” before you can even finish your sentence, he punches harry right in the jaw and starts a fight with the gryffindor boy. later on, the two of you are in mattheo’s dorm as you clean his hands and the mark on his face from the one hit the other boy was actually able to get in. the party is still going on and although you’re pissed at him for ruining your night, he can’t help but tell you exactly why he started the fight and how much he wants you as you wipe some blood off of his bleeding knuckles.

➤ theo nott

theo takes a, slightly, calmer approach to his confession. when he sees you, his best friend, dancing with fred weasley, his immediate response is to shut down and distance himself from you for the rest of the night. he drowns his sorrows in cheap alcohol the twins managed to score for the party. eventually, when you realize you haven’t seen him in a bit, you part ways with fred to go find him. when you find him, he’s drinking alone on one of the leather couches in the middle of the room. confronting him, determined to figure out why he’s acting so weird, he drunkenly confesses.

#two things. #first this took effort to write and i still don’t know abt it #because i suck at writing confessions #and secondly #it’s super late ik it’s not new years but shhh #x reader #fanfic #fanfiction #harry potter x reader #harry potter x slytherin!reader #hp x reader #hp fanfiction #harry potter fanfiction #theodore nott x y/n #theodore nott x you #theodore nott x reader #theo nott x reader #lorenzo berkshire imagine #lorenzo berkshire x reader #mattheo riddle x reader #mattheo riddle fanfic #draco malfoy x reader #draco malfoy fanfiction #blaise zabini x reader #blaise zabini fanfiction

[frog-thief]

"once a ordinary monk picked up a lonely and lost sparrow"

#overwatch #zenyatta #genji #genyatta #I have an explanation “why Zenyatta is standing on the ground and not hovering over it” #I can explain this by the fact that it is very cold in the mountains and a lot of energy is spent on heating the internal engines -> #and the normal functioning of the mechanisms #so Zenyatta is on the “energy saving” mode and does not hovering ;D #also I can explain “why Genji is wrapped in a raincoat because he does not get cold and why he is wearing a hat” #firstly Genji needs a raincoat to keep internal heat because again it is very cold in the mountains of Nepal #secondly he looks very cool in a hat he is all so mysterious and old-fashioned like samurai from Akira Kurosawa's films😎