#and respectful of your boundaries

[fictiography]

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#personal #I love you dude #and I don’t need to share an exclusive romantic relationship with you to express that #I value your friendship and your presence in my life #and holding those feelings and growing resentful or pained isn’t healthy #or helpful #so I’m going to put them aside #and move on from them #a tight platonic relationship isn’t any less valuable than a romantic one #I’m truly grateful that you came back into my life #and I’m going to remind myself of that every time I start to falter #I have a responsibility to myself to be the best version of myself #and that means doing right by you #being considerate of your needs #and respectful of your boundaries #a lot of friends have told me to stay away from you or cut you off #but I tried that already #and it didn’t work #so I’m going to do my best to be the best friend for you that I can be #and find satisfaction in that.

[thepeacefulgarden]

#apologies #boundaries #you are not too much #you are not a burden #your feelings are valid #your pain is valid #your trauma is valid #you matter #you are enough #self respect #you are worthy

[free-my-mindd]

Not everything is worth fixing. The only reason people take you for granted is because they assume you’ll always be there for them. Prove them wrong, never give to many chances to those who had all access and abused it. There are better people out there who will cherish you.

#text post #my thoughts #know your worth #boundaries #self respect #self love #choose wisely

[astrabear]

The tough thing about boundaries is that it’s not enough to state them, you have to enforce them.

I think some folks see “setting boundaries” as a kind of magic talisman to influence other people’s behavior. “I’ll tell you what I need or can’t accept, and you will act accordingly.” And sometimes that’s what happens, and that’s great! But if the other person disregards your stated boundaries, it doesn’t mean setting boundaries didn’t work.

Because boundaries aren’t about others’ behavior, they’re about your own. If the other person’s behavior doesn’t change, then yours has to. “Please don’t discuss [x topic] with me” is a request. “If you continue to talk about [x topic] then I will end this conversation/hang up/leave” is a boundary, which you must then enact. The point is less about stopping the other person (although that’s ideal) and more about protecting yourself. And you have to be committed to protecting yourself, because no one else will be.

You have to be so committed that you’re willing to tolerate other people being hurt or angry or uncomfortable. You have to accept that some relationships might change. You have to hold onto the idea that it’s all right for them to change, because the way they were before was hurting you, and you deserve to not be hurt. You gave them a choice: maintain a relationship or keep doing the thing that hurts you, and they chose to keep hurting you, so if the situation is now awkward or unpleasant that was because of their choice. Enforcing boundaries means deciding that if someone is going to feel bad here, it need not be always and only you.

There is no magic formula that will make other people treat you kindly and respectfully. But you can learn to treat yourself with kindness and respect. That’s what enforcing a boundary is.

#boundaries #assertiveness #the real self care was the friends we dropped along the way #life is too short to spend with people who make you feel bad #you won't find the people who respect your boundaries #until you stop wasting energy on the people who don't #you can survive people being mad at you #i promise

[enii]

It's not okay if you are not okay with it💕

#illustration #artists on tumblr #cute #artoftheday #digital illustration #wholesome #a little reminder #a little reminder for today #a gentle reminder #boundaries #set boundaries #it's not okay if you are not okay with it #cute art #reminder #procreate art #procreate #procreate artist #artist #artist on tumblr #art #positive thoughts #positive illustration #prioritize your peace #prioritize yourself #prioritize your mental health #self respect #self love #make yourself a priority #please be kind to yourself #artist of tumblr

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Fellas, is it gay to keep your homoerotic reading material right next to the things that remind you of another man?

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #lan wangji #‘Wow what a call back’ there are many more coming B*) #If LWJ had more close friendships as a teen and young adult he would know the protocol #if you aren't showing each other the wildest kink content you stumbled upon in a group chat…are you really friends? #Lwj absolutely knows wwx went snooping and found the liquor. He set a little trap to seeing wwx would put two and two together #wwx just wants to respect lwj’s boundaries! He’d probably be *so* flustered to talk about that kind of stuff so lets not say anything #they both really suck at communication. Sending your crush the most unreadable signals should be a crime.

[manglam-marfach]

I have a CRYSTAL CLEAR vision of postcanon chillaios political marriage fic where dozens of suitors are vying for Laios's slightly sticky hand & he is. oblivious. Which almost causes a major diplomatic incident. Someone (Kabru) tries to delicately explain that he should probably take a spouse already and Laios is like. Oh cool. Chilchuck? Wanna get married? And Chilchuck who had resigned to let the weird Thing he had for his old coworker die quietly has to fucking deal with THIS now.

#Chilchuck is also kind of fucking shocked and Laios is like. Oh I thought u knew? #I was respecting your professional boundaries. But I thought u knew I was obsessed with u for years? ? ? ? Sorry. Am I making it weird. #Anyway kabru says I need a spouse with good diplomatic skills who can guide and instruct me :) #You've been guiding and instructing me for ever! :) #I know you don't feel the same way as me but maybe it could be good for the halfling community? :) #chilaios #Chilchuck the most private man in the worLD dealing with his new relationship being subject to international scrutiny. Do u see my vision. #dungeon meshi manga spoilers #Not an arranged marriage but very much a political marriage ugm? #HOW WILL THIS IMPACT THE BURGEONING HALFLING RIGHTS MOVEMENT

[roronoagem]

something about luffy being hungry all the time makes me think that he gets pussy drunk and you have to physically fight him to make him stop because he loves you too much he can’t get enough of your pretty pussy.

#꒰ 🖋️ ꒱ writing #꒰ ꩜ ꒱ n.sfw #꒰ 🌐 ꒱ one piece #꒰ 💭 ꒱ monkey d. luffy #everything is consensual of course. he respects your boundaries. #monkey d luffy x reader #luffy x reader #op luffy x reader #monkey d luffy imagine #monkey d luffy drabble #monkey d luffy blurb #monkey d luffy smut #op x reader #one piece x reader

[yearning-gay]

more doms who need to get their subs preggers. more doms asking for permission to cum inside unprotected so they can knock you up and change your body. more doms with breeding delirium who'd be so happy if you just let them impregnate you this once please?

#jack.txt #tw pregnancy #yes doms who ask if it's okay because they respect your boundaries #but it would be really really nice if they could nut inside you with real intention

[sexygaywizard]

Another reason I get so pissy about people being like "well actually wizards are x y and z" on my shit is because you don't see me fucking going on to other people's posts and telling them their shit is wrong or that they need to follow my rules for shit. Because I respect that people can have their own interpretations of shit and express that within their own space. But people give me these dumbass lectures on my posts all the damn time! Make your own fucking post I don't want to see it

#if you want to have your autistic ramble moment about whatever the fuck you think wizards are. #Do it on your own fucking post because I don't want to see it in my notes #I'm going to start blocking people about it #curate a space where only people who respect other people's opinions and boundaries can follow me #i talk

[sad-leon]

I think some people need the reminder that you can just not like things. For whatever reason. You don't need to justify things you don't like to anyone, as long as you're not making people feel bad for liking it.

You're able to not like something, but that doesn't make it weird.

You're able to not like that people like something, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're bad people (within reason of course)

And it's also important to remember that you may like something that other people don't like. That doesn't mean they have a personal vendatta against you for liking it.

That doesn't mean you're wrong, nor are they wrong.

People have preferences for everything. Just because you prefer something, that doesn't mean you're "right". This is fandom, there are very few things that even have a "right" and "wrong" side.

#rambles #okay getting off my soap box now #i was just reminded of a debate earlier that rubs me the wrong way #its fandom #have fun #but dont let your fun ruin other peoples #you can have boundaries without attacking people #you can have defenses and opinions without putting people down #you dont have to justify your existance in fandom and neither does anyone else #live and let live #all of these guys that we're obsessing over (in the rottmnt fandom atleast) are fictional #if you dont like something dont read it #but that doesnt mean others cant enjoy it #tag your shit and respect people's boundaries

[thepeacefulgarden]

#kindness #compassion #your compassion is incomplete if it doesn't include yourself #self care #self compassion #self respect #mental health #self love #self care is not selfish #boundaries #codependency #martyr is not in your job description #you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm #people pleasing #fawning #there's only so much “you” to go around #put your own mask on before helping others with theirs #you matter #you cannot serve from an empty bowl

[soulrph]

what is force-shipping? (a PSA!)

what force-shipping IS:

guilting a partner into agreeing to a ship after initially declining the offer.

sending romantic or otherwise inappropriate (inappropriate because THEY SAID NO TO THE SHIP) memes despite them saying no.

writing a romantic or shippy starter/reply to a thread after they said no to the ship.

(listen this list will not end, let me finish this up with a very firm final remark:)

NOT RESPECTING YOUR PARTNER SAYING NO TO YOUR SHIP REQUEST.

what force-shipping is NOT:

asking your writing partners if they'd like to plot a romantic ship with you.

listen. forcing a ship is a conscious effort. if you're not able to respect your writing partners' decisions and choices when it comes to literal role play, then you need to step back and re-evaluate until you're able to do so.

BUT. you are NEVER forcing a ship simply by asking someone if they'd be interesting in shipping with you. it might be scary to ask. but once you respect their rules and boundaries, you're fine! there's never any harm in asking! just make sure you respect and honour their response, regardless of whether they say "yes", "no", or "maybe once we test their chemistry".

#psa. #ooc. #( naturally if your muse is gay or ace/aro or demi ) #( there will be limitations ) #( same applies for exclusively shipped blogs ) #( but once you respect the rules and boundaries they display ) #( you're FINE! )

[safe-haven-safe-place]

#mental health #self care #time management #productivity #healthy boundaries #limits #respect your limits #rest is productive

[yesmissnyx]

For the love of fuck and all things horny, PLEASE just put SOMETHING resembling your age in your bio if you're going to DM people's porn accounts.

It doesn't have to be your actual age. It can be a ballpark. You can even be like "21+" or whatever.

I get that it's not foolproof and people can and will lie, but it's common courtesy. If you're going to be horny at someone in their DMs, at LEAST make it obvious that you're an adult.

#That being said I'm probably just gonna ignore DMs from people who don't list their age 9 times out of 10. #Usually I fire back with “Put your age in your bio and then we'll talk” but at this point I have many more people #who are DMing me who actually respect my boundaries 😜 #nyxrambles #(Oh my god someone help; I am only back in OCTOBER with replying to DMs.)

[prettyiwa]

Every so often I see anons in mutuals’ inboxes not understanding the deal against empty blogs even if there’s an age, or about blogs that don’t reblog and it just reminds me of how quickly we forget and how quickly we cycle through toxic phases in this community. It's partially because it’s ever-growing with people from Reddit and Twitter and Wattpad writers and everyone else not listed.

It comes and goes in fucking waves so it’s easy to miss if you aren’t here for it, but every handful of months there’s some mass post going around where a writer has been informed of or found their writing (and others') stolen and reposted on another site (9 times out of 10 it’s Wattpad) with the poster taking credit. So often that account and plagiarizer is traced back to an empty blog that’s following all the blogs it stole from. Sometimes they’ll even leave a like that serves as a bookmark so they can come back and steal those words for fake internet points.

Like. For people who have been subjected to that kind of theft, there’s anxiety and distrust that remains. For people who watched it happen (especially time and again because it’s multiple times a year), there’s that voice in the back of their mind when they see someone with a blog that has a header of “Kayleigh (19) Just Reading!!” and nothing else.

And so either these anons who don’t understand why they can’t “lurk in peace” genuinely do not know about the cycle that happens here or they do not care for the people writing the stories and HCs and drabbles they passively enjoy.

Regardless, it only contributes to that growing feeling of being yet another source of quick and convenient consumption and not an actual person sharing their passion with people who might like it.

#sorry I’m salty #idek if this is halfway coherent but yeah #It’s very frustrating watching history repeat itself especially on a site like this when history is easily forgotten and the cycle is much #much shorter #almost like it’s also tied to fiscal quarters #“it's my choice to have my name/age/reblogs on my account!” that is very much true. it is your choice. i respect your choice. #now it's your turn to respect the choice of the writer for which that is a boundary. #you expect us to respect your choices that are indicative of your humanity but you won't offer the same? get the fuck out of here