#and how like. if there was a trans woman who didn't want hormone therapy like. Were they tested to see if their natural testosterone levels

[scramratz]

Hey! I'm in a very peculiar situation and would love some advice. Basically I always been naturally androgynous and never thought much about it. Partially is bc I have a hormone deficiency problem, the part of my body who supposed to send the signals to the rest of the body to produce hormone basically doesn't work. I was born like that and when I was a tiny kid I started taking growing hormones. Time pass and bc my family is v disfuncional and I was living in a abusive environment my mother decided I didn't need to go to the doctor anymore. I was 12 at the time. So basically I never got my period, and my body as a whole never fully "developed". When I was younger I thought I should be ashamed of that bc people would point out I didn't have boobs. I shaved my head when I was 16 and everybody would misgender me. At the time that made self conscious and ashamed bc even though I was happy the way I looked I felt like people were point it out my health problem yk? Like I wasn't a real woman. I'm 25 now and this year I finally had the financial security to go back to the doctor and started hormone therapy. The doc only prescribed me hrt tho and to my surprise I started to feel very bad about myself. I already had body dysmorphia and now I just don't feel like myself anymore. I feel like I'm losing me. My boobs are getting bigger and my body fat as a whole seems to be changing it's distribution, I also got my period. It's been four months and I really really want to take testosterone to see if I can go back again to be more androgynous. I want to get more body hair, gain muscle mass etc Idk if I'm nb or something, I just know I was happy presenting my whole life as that and I'm scare of losing it. But I also don't know how to tell this to my doctor, I'm so afraid she will not take me seriously (or worse). Anyway I don't know what to do, Idk if I can even take testosterone whiteout having sure I'm trans.

This is a very peculiar situation! I’m not a doctor and this is way above my pay grade but wouldn’t stopping estrogen help? You naturally don’t produce enough hormones so stopping estrogen would theoretically stop you from feminizing further right? Though, it’s unhealthy to not have any hormones in your body isn’t it? In that case, you could try going to a different doctor, like a planned parenthood, that’s informed consent and just tell them you want to start masculinizing hormones. Also it’s worth a shot just talking to your doctor about how you’re feeling! Wosrt case scenario, you gotta get a new doctor.

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

Gay teens who couldn't come to terms with their sexuality share how they removed their breasts and genitals in false hope that becoming transgender would 'cure' them, as concerns mount that 'gender-affirming care' for children is homophobic

By: Harriet Alexander

Published; Feb 3, 2024

Several young people who transitioned as teenagers, in a bid to cope with their sexuality, have spoken to The New York Times

They all said they wished their surgeons or those prescribing hormone therapy had asked more questions about their mental health and motivations

A study cited by the paper showed that 80 percent of those with childhood gender dysphoria resolve themselves by puberty

Gay teenagers disturbed by their own sexuality have described deciding life would be better as a transgender person and undergoing surgery - only to regret it several years later.

The young people said that, in hindsight, drastic surgical operations were offered with insufficient discussion or thought. Their stories emerged as concern grows that so-called gender-affirming care for children is homophobic, as it permanently changes the bodies of children and young adults who are not transgender, but merely trying to come to terms with their sexuality.

One told of being abused online by trans rights activists when, after five years living as a trans man, they realized they wanted to revert to being a lesbian woman.

Another, who began transitioning from male to female at the age of 15, now campaigns against surgical intervention under 25 for anyone who has not had psychotherapy first. 

Yet another, growing up as a lesbian in a conservative community, convinced herself life would be easier as a trans man and had a double mastectomy - only to revert to living as a woman six years later.

Studies cited by The New York Times showed that many teenagers wrestling with their identity and sexuality ultimately found peace: 80 percent of childhood gender dysphoria resolve themselves by puberty, and 30 percent of people on hormone therapy discontinue its use within four years, the paper said.

[ Kasey Emerick, a 23-year-old woman and detransitioner from Pennsylvania, had a double mastectomy at 17 and lived as a trans man for five years ]

The effects of the hormone therapy, including infertility, are, however, often irreversible.

Kasey Emerick, a 23-year-old woman and detransitioner from Pennsylvania, told The New York Times she saw living as a trans man as a better alternative to being a gay woman.

'I transitioned because I didn't want to be gay,' she said. 'I believed homosexuality was a sin.'

Emerick, who grew up in a conservative Christian church, told her mother at 15 that she was gay.

Her mother told her it was likely a response to her father, who was convicted of raping and assaulting her repeatedly from the ages of four to seven.

At 16, Emerick was caught texting a girl, and her mother took her phone away: Emerick was then admitted to a psychiatric hospital.

Emerick convinced herself inside the hospital: 'If I was a boy, none of this would have happened.'

She said she found trans advocacy websites online, and felt she could 'pick the other side.'

At 17, after two 90 minute consultations, she was cleared for a double mastectomy - despite the anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies, panic attacks and ADHD she was also suffering.

'I'm thinking, 'Oh my God, I'm having my breasts removed. I'm 17. I'm too young for this,' she recalled, but said she went ahead with the operation.

'Transition felt like a way to control something when I couldn't control anything in my life,' she told the paper.

Emerick lived as a trans man for five years, but then realized she was no happier, and began detransitioning - despite online threats from trans activists.

'I thought my life was over,' she said. 'I realized that I had lived a lie for over five years.'

One man, Paul Garcia-Ryan, lived as a woman from the age of 15 to 30, undergoing bottom surgery in college.

[ Paul Garcia-Ryan, now 32, founded an organization to help other young people considering surgery to transition - which he had, and regrets ]

He has detransitioned and is now, aged 32, a psychotherapist in New York, treating young people who suffer from gender dysphoria.

Garcia-Ryan told The New York Times he believes no one under the age of 25 should be allowed surgical procedures unless they have seen a psychotherapist.

He said he was driven to identify as a trans woman because he could not countenance being a gay man.

'It was much less threatening to my psyche to think that I was a straight girl born into the wrong body — that I had a medical condition that could be tended to,' he said.

He said that, when he sought medical help aged 15, the clinic immediately confirmed his own thoughts, rather than challenging them.

He said he had surgery in college, but suffered severe complications from the surgery and hormones, which made him reconsider his decisions.

'You're made to believe these slogans,' he said. 'Evidence-based, lifesaving care, safe and effective, medically necessary, the science is settled — and none of that is evidence based.

'When a professional affirms a gender identity for a younger person, what they are doing is implementing a psychological intervention that narrows a person's sense of self and closes off their options for considering what's possible for them.'

[ Aaron Kimberly, a 50-year-old trans man living in British Columbia, transitioned at the age of 33, but argues that too many young people are not sufficiently questioned before undergoing the procedures ]

Grace Powell, who grew up in a conservative community in Grand Rapids, Michigan, said that she became convinced that her sexuality would be 'solved' by living as a trans man.

She had a double mastectomy the summer before college, then went off as a transgender man named Grayson to Sarah Lawrence College.

Powell, now 23 and detransitioned, told The New York Times she wished more questions were asked before she opted for the life-altering procedures.

'I wish there had been more open conversations,' she said.

'But I was told there is one cure and one thing to do if this is your problem, and this will help you.'

Aaron Kimberly, a 50-year-old trans man living in British Columbia, transitioned at the age of 33, and lives happily as a man.

But he said he left his job at a clinic treating gender-dysphoric young people because he felt there was not enough emphasis on mental health treatment, before surgical options or hormones.

He then founded the Gender Dysphoria Alliance and the L.G.B.T. Courage Coalition, to advocate better gender care.

'I realized something had gone totally off the rails,' he said.

#Harriet Alexander #detrans #detransition #medical corruption #medical scandal #medical malpractice #Kasey Emerick #Paul Garcia-Ryan #Paul Garcia Ryan #Grace Powell #Aaron Kimberly #gender affirming healthcare #gender affirming care #gender affirmation #affirmation model #gay conversion therapy #gay conversion #conversion therapy #woke homophobia #homophobia 2.0 #religion is a mental illness

[genderisareligion]

They are now trans-ing black Civil Rights Activist Pauli Murray

https://blog.n3vlynnn.com/p/how-the-trans-movement-is-erasing#%C2%A7who-is-pauli-murray

I had already reblogged this but you just reminded me to go back and read it.

What's bothering me is the fact that a lot of this "decision" to "trans" Pauli is apparently being done using her own words, from autobiographies and such, unlike the likes of Marsha Johnson who didn't write as a career and thus has less lived proof available for us to post humorously analyze.

Like this in her own words really stands out to me:

In Murray’s “summary of symptoms of upset” she included lists of questions she had been seeking answers for, and was hoping to find relief within the medical sphere: “Do I have a ‘male’ attitude towards life, or is there such a thing?” “Why the very nervous excitable condition all my life and the very natural falling in love with the female sex? Terrific breakdowns after each love affair that has become unsuccessful?” “Why do my emotional attractions flow consistently toward members of my own sex, without excluding friendliness on my part of members of the male sex?” “Why cannot I accept the homosexual method of sex expression, but insist on the normal first?” “Why are normal women whose experiences have been satisfactory with the male sex, find themselves emotionally attracted to me, and often admit that they wish they could find my qualities in the male.” “What is the physical basis for my tendency toward ‘boyishness’ in structure and appearance?" “Do I have tumors which are causing my emotional disturbances? Would the removal of these tumors return me to normal female reactions.” “By what means, other than an exploratory operation, can it be determined whether or not I have hidden testicles? ….[Could] it be possible that I have one normally functioning ovary, and one male organ, producing a physical and therefore emotional conflict?”

TRAs could never ask so many hard hitting questions and actually want the answers.

The end of the first question alone - "or is there such a thing?”- tells me that this woman was more akin to the modern equivalent of Gender Critical than she was "transgender." She went into questioning her sexuality with an open mind and already willing to accept that she could be wrong, which TRAs who shut down any criticism as "fascism" are currently incapable of.

Also notice that she refers to women as members of her own sex.

Anyway I'm so sick of nonblack liberals Noble Savaging us in particular to self flagellate about how "diverse" their praxis is. They're so clumsy with it they just end up doing more damage

Also also:

I find it interesting that the testosterone pills which Pauli was so fervently pursuing, were openly and unapologetically intended to be used as conversion therapy on gay, effeminate males. I also do not think it’s a coincidence that Pauli struggled with her own homosexuality, and saw this pill as an antidote to her same-sex attractions. What’s more, modern-day hormone therapy has been shown to have the same effect on its users, as far as changing their sexual orientation. It continues to baffle me that cross-sex hormones for ‘gender-affirmation’ are still viewed as progressive. I think we can all glimpse into the history of experimental hormone usage as a means to change one’s “gender expression” and examine the roots of where it comes from.  Given what we know about the factors that prompted Murray to seek testosterone, is this really something that we should celebrate and glorify? 

#ask.txt #WOCTBI

[punkboyjack]

The shit lie of SRS in Iran

So it's a something stuck in my brain ( and my life ) that I think people need to know about it is the thing about LGBTQ+ people in Iran especially T because I'm trans and it's little too much complicated in iran

Bing trans in Iran has some benefits in look but it's a lie

We are known as mentally ill people

We have the same problems as any other LGBTQ+ person in the world but with a higher rate

Most of the time, they give strong psychedelic drugs and hormones to trans children ( or just LGBT childrens )

And I was so paranoid about it that I wouldn't take any of the psychiatrists' pills when I was depressed (my parents don't know that I just got better somehow and no one doubt about it)

The Iranian government also monitors online transgender communities, often subjecting them to censorship, and police routinely arrest trans people

Unfortunately most Iranian parents like boys so trans woman's are badly treated almost 92% of trans women in Iran faced verbal or emotional violence and over 70% had faced physical violence

And the rate of murder and attempted suicide among trans people in Iran is high (mostly trans women).

and that really sad bcz one of the trans woman's that a used to know have Ben send to who knows where for the military training by her dad because ( HE was not man enough)

1_pre surgery is hell : we go on a all girl / all boy schools and I think it's like Catholic schools over there

And people don't respect us we mostly have problem finding friends we don't have the From the social point of view, it is almost impossible to identify ourselves as transgender because the government has strictly separated men and women. I didn't really know what my problem was until I was 13 years old

Worst and most important part is telling our parents that we are trans and they should support us because all the work of the license is done with the consent of the family ( I'm so lucky about my parents by the way so good for me but holy fuck who made that rule in the first place)

2_ the surgery is chipper here (it's a lie ) -> we spent Soo much money and time ( and mental health) on permission to do surgery and people who do this surgeries are not even have expertise in this work And they have long-term side effects that are not good at all

first submitted to a long and invasive process

including virginity tests ( idk whyyy)

formal parental approval ( I told you)

, psychological ( it's just the worst part you can't imagine how terrible this psychologists are ),

inspection by the Family Court ( like a god damn criminal )

If we don do the SRS we are basically nothing to them and Thay don't give a fuck about us unless we did something wrong or something and then we are basically dead as hell

Like let's say you are a heterosexual trans men who don't want to do a surgery and you have girlfriend who loves you and respect's you

Will no you don't you are just a lesbian to them and will if they found out what's between your legs you and your gf are going to be executed I'm not joking

3_After surgery, is hard as hell : discrimination, from the law, the state, and from the people around us

Given the lowest quality of hormone therapy, we usually do not have reliable sources for it . Surgery under the hands of non-specialists causes dangerous side effects, and if we are imprisoned, we will no longer get hormones

And not so fun fact : Most of the gay people in Iran are recognized as transgender and they have to tell us about the process because otherwise they will be executed. For the government, changing their gender of poor gay people shows a better face than killing them

And yeah rest of your gay life you are just unfortunate person stuck in a person of your own body

Bruh I read it all over and I'm not even close to the realty it's too much

#free iran #iran #trans #trans boy #transgender #trans girl #transmasc #trans man #LGBT #LGBTQ #queer #trans woman #trans pride #gay

[woman-for-women]

So usually I wouldn’t ask for advice of this genre, but I’m genuinely worried. I think my already abusive parents are catching on that I’m a trans guy. I seriously want to detransition but it almost feels physically painful. What do I do? For context, I’m pre-op, pre basically everything. I still look like a girl and stuff.

Hi! I'm sorry you're going through this. I would consider myself dysphoric/desisted, but not truly detrans because I didn't truly socially (de)transition or medically (de)transition. I have some suggestions (adapted from one of my earlier asks on this topic), but it might be useful to talk to detransitioned women to get another perspective.

Talk to a trusted adult in your life. It could be a parent, an aunt/uncle, a teacher, or an older sibling. The adults in your life generally want the best for your health and happiness. If your parents are abusive or you are afraid to tell an adult you are trans, you can just tell them you are distressed with you body/gender roles and want help.

Contact your doctor or a local gender clinic and ask if they can point you towards detransitioning resources (if you have medically transitioned)

Search online and see if there are any detransition support groups near you (unlikely this will pan out, but it's worth a try). If you happen to know anyone who has detransitioned, you can also reach out to them.

If you are able to, please look into counseling. If you are dysphoric, you can ask for a counselor that will help you explore your discomfort with your body/gender roles and reconcile your relationship with your body. I’d avoid any therapists who advertise themselves as LGBTQIA2S+ friendly: they may be well meaning, but their primary method of treatment for dysphoria will likely be transition. Therapists and other mental health professionals tend to have bios where they list their background and what they specialize in: I'd suggest looking for a therapist who is female, and possibly someone who is comfortable gender non-conforming (someone who doesn't see being unhappy with gender roles or gender non-conforming as being the same as being trans). I went to a counselor who was an older lesbian. You can also send an email to Gender Exploratory Therapy Association (GETA) to see if they can match you with a therapist.

If you can't go to counseling, I strongly recommend this DBT Workbook (the link is to a free PDF version). Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is a way to cope with distress and improve your distress tolerance through different techniques.

You can journal how you feel. It doesn't need to be fancy (it can be a notes page on your phone or some binder paper, but if journaling with markers and stickers and washi tape helps, you can do that too). Ask yourself what made you feel like you weren't or couldn't be a woman/girl? What does the thought of detransitioning make you feel? It can just be how you feel in general. If you're comfortable, you can also share your journal with a trusted adult or counselor. Or, it can just be for your eyes only.

Work on improving your integrity and comfort with your body. It helps you feel wonderful feelings, taste your favorite foods, see beautiful things... your body is not trying to hurt you or work against you. For example, your body is not menstruating because it is "punishing" you for not being pregnant (this is something I heard a lot growing up). Menstruation is just something female bodies do. It's vital to regulating your hormonal health, bone density, and weight. While yes, you can get pregnant and be a parent if you choose to as an adult, your body is not telling you to do anything. Your bodily functions are not a mandate. You exist for you!

Try to avoid seeing your body as a problem, or as fractured parts you want to fix: your body is just your body. Don't think of your body as a decorative object you need to change to please anyone. Your body exists for you and (most importantly) your body is you. Treating your body well is part of treating yourself well.

To improve your relationship with your body, I would recommend picking a sport or physical activity. Do something you like that makes you comfortable! If wearing a swimsuit fills you with dread, wear a more modest one or don't pick swimming. It can be as simple as walking, stretching, or yoga in your room. The point of a physical activity is not just to keep in shape, but to feel how your body is capable of doing whatever you want it to. Your body doesn't have to look a certain way for that.

Your image of your body and your comfort with being female might also improve if you take a social media break. I know it can be hard, but try to commit to a short break (a week, a month). Use this time to read, listen to music, draw, relax, exercise... whatever will keep you happy and healthy. Social media is saturated with images of sexualized, objectified, and impossibly thin women. It can be stressful to feel like you don't "measure up" to what the Internet tells you a woman is supposed to be. Take this time to remind yourself that you don't need to imitate these people to be happy.

I would also recommend you unfollow any social media accounts that make you feel bad about your body or talk about transitioning and gender all the time (you can always refollow later). Focus on how you feel about your body and yourself, not what other people promote.

What or how you decide to change socially, who you tell, or how you say it is up to you. You don't need to disclose why you're detransitioning either. You can just tell people you've decided it wasn't for you or that you'd like to go by your old name/pronouns. Don't let anyone, especially other transitioned peers, pressure you into doing or revealing anything you don't want to. If you have a friend group of trans peers your age, don't let them make you feel bad! You have the right to do what's best for you. If you have friends that aren't supportive of you doing what's best for you, it might be best to look for a new friend group.

If you've been happiest dressing in "boy" clothes or doing certain "boy" activities, none of that has to change when you detransition! Detransitioning should be about accepting that your natal biological sex is female. Being female is a neutral fact, like being brunette or being 167 cm. Being female has no bearing on what you can do, who you can love, what professions, hobbies, or interests you have... that's all gender. You don't have to change how you dress, think, feel, act, talk, etc. None of these things can disqualify you from being a woman or girl. Just be yourself and know there's no wrong way to be female.

Being a woman or girl can be scary. Menstruation sucks, sexual harassment sucks, sexism sucks. But there's light at the end of the tunnel, and that's other women and girls! Reach out to them. They are your lifeline. Build friendships. There are other women and girls just like you. You are never alone.

On that note, having positive female role models and consuming books/TV shows/movies/music by and about women can help you feel better about detransitioning and reconciling with being female.

Don't discount the wisdom of older women! They're not nags, shrews, or "Karens". They're female, too. Many of them have likely felt what you feel.

Detransitioning doesn't mean you need to feel a certain type of way on gender or trans issues. Don't let radical feminists, conservatives, or trans-rights activists bully you into saying or doing what suits their narrative. It's your life, so do what's right for you!

Lastly, here are some resources I would recommend, both about transition and detransition:

A Booklet on Gender Detransition

The risks of binding

Testosterone use and pelvic health

The LGB Alliance USA also runs a virtual group for adult dysphoric women every other Wednesday

Detransition may feel painful now, but I truly think accepting my body and working hard to deal with distressing thoughts like dysphoria has improved my quality of life a lot. It will take work, but freeing yourself from the expectations of gender and treating dysphoria like any other body dysmorphia (as that can be improved over time) is a lot better in the long run than trying to obsessively tailor every aspect of your life to be gender affirming to lessen your feelings of dysphoria.

The prevailing narrative told to dysphoric and trans-identifying teens is that you need to transition, you need to go on hormones, you need to do xyz or you will die. This is not true. Most dysphoric youth who do not medically transition end up as happy, alive adults. (If you are having suicidal thoughts, please tell a trusted adult or call a hotline). So I’m going to tell you instead what I was told, and what other lesbian, gay, and bisexual kids were told growing up: it gets better, and you are going to be okay <3

#transition #detrans #detransition #trans #w4w speaks #w4w asks #transgender #ftm

[ricihh]

Ayano Aishi Headcanons!! (Not Yandere Au)

The eldest daughter of Ryoba and Togo.

She has a younger brother. They both get along considerably well, despite their different tastes.

Good bonds with her mother and father, just a little afraid to share things that happen in her life with them (and when she does tell, it is to Togo, who is a terrible adviser by nature).

Ace Lesbian.

She has social phobia and autism.

This means that in this Au she feels emotions, but has trouble recognizing other people's and her own.

Very similar to her father (both in manner and taste).

Practically canon (see her room), but a big fan of otaku culture and anime games.

She has a fixation with magical girls and saves money to buy figures and other otaku stuff.

Heavy user of Discord—oops, Yancord. She has several online friends there and loves to play with them.

Very jealous and does NOT know how to hide it.

She can play guitar (Togo taught her).

She has dark circles under her eyes from sleeping late.

She would like to join the gaming club, but lacks a little courage (she joins eventually with Taeko's help).

She likes occult, but doesn't know if she would join the club or something.

She has difficulty making friends. Often starts conversations by asking for people's Yancord users.

Ayano: Uh... S-so, what is your Yancord user?

Taeko: Wut–

She fell in love at first sight with her senpai and thought she would never be able to talk to her. She tried very hard to befriend Osana and make her understand her feelings.

She confessed to Senpai after that.

She is terrible at showing feelings (just like her father, but nicer about it).

She was the first person to know that Senpai is a trans woman.

Ayano: I have something serious to talk to you about, senpai. I-I think I like girls.

Taeko, in a female wig: And I think I am a girl.

Ayano: Oh. I-I didn't see that coming.

Taeko: Me neither.

Extremely supportive.

She likes cats and gets one eventually.

She loved listening to horror stories told by her parents (mostly Ryoba) before bedtime. This made her a big horror fan.

Ryoba tries to get her as far away from her uncle in the Yakuza as possible at his own request. However, the delinquents and Osoro know about this (and that she has an ex-delinquent father) and are good friends with her.

But she always refuses to join their group, because Ayano wants to look presentable for her senpai and is not good at physical fighting.

Even if she is very fond of martial arts.

Budo is a close friend and thinks she shouldn't hang out with the delinquents so much.

Ayano has contacted her Yakuza uncle a few times. The first time she was just a child, and to fulfill a challenge that some naughty children gave her, she contacted her uncle by seeing his number in a little notebook in her parents' bedroom.

Young Ayano: I need some bang snaps.

Yakuza: sigh. Look, Ayano. We don't work with that kind of thing around here.

Young Ayano: But mom said that uncle works with dangerous things!

The second time, she asked her uncle for illegal things to complete the delinquents tasks. He refused, so she tried to get it at school.

The third time, Ayano contacted him again and begged him to help Taeko get illegal feminizing hormone therapy. She said she would pay him as much as he wanted, but Yakuza just gave in to the request and, saying it was the only deal he would do for her, provided illegal hormones totally for free.

Ryoba finds out about this and starts a way to get HRT legally for Taeko with correct prescription and everything. Ayano is relieved.

Ayano uses the delinquents to protect Taeko from the bullies.

But she keeps running away from them every time they even remotely touch the subject of her joining them.

Taeko: You know, I don't mind if you go blond.

Ayano: but I do......

She has difficulty with some school subjects, and Taeko always helps her study.

Amai, Osana and Osoro are quite friendly to her. She has had some conversations with Oka (mostly because they both like occult) and they feel related to each other from afar. She feels intimidated by Kizana (for her air of superiority) and Hanako (she dislikes Ayano). Ayano is indifferent about the remains of those who would be her rivals, minus Mida Rana, engaging in a plan to denounce her for her criminal acts around the school.

Ayano finds Info-chan and the proposal they made to her quite strange, especially since Info-chan never revealed their intentions and how they knew about Ayano's crush on Taeko. This instigated Ayano, who tried to get more information about Info-chan by contacting them to befriend Osana (the first “rival” as Info-chan likes to call her), asked her own colleagues and visited the clubs near Info Club, but got no results. Ayano still thinks this is an interesting mystery and knows she is being watched from afar for having managed to date Taeko so easily—even though Info-chan has tried to appear harmless to her, Ayano suspects something more involved in this after Info-chan indirectly encourages her to use aggressive methods in their first conversation. However, Info-chan still remains a complete mystery and deleted their contact from Ayano's cell phone after Ayano started dating Taeko.

#yandere simulator #yandere simulator headcanon #headcanons #alternate universe #not yandere au #ayano aishi #taeko yamada #ayano x taeko #taeko x ayano #sapphic #transfem headcanon #ryoba aishi #togo atatsuma #the yakuza #info chan #yandere simulator rivals

[myyouthtragedy]

so I have a theory on dylan manvainy or whatshischops. he fully admitted gay guys didn't want him anymore after 'transitioning' (obvsly, they have high standards) and ofc straight men don't want a man in a dress either so the only option was to claim he's into 'women' now, which I'm almost certain means other male tr@nnies - the only guys who could date him. because according to homophobic gendie brainrot rhetoric that would make him not gay nor 'straight' and therefore bi or even a lesbian 💀.. he's always been a femme gay man and unless the cancerous hormone cocktails have done some homophobic conversion 'therapy' on him (which they often do to gay people if you read the harrowing statistics) I don't think he likes actual female people, previously known as women. he's not giving AGP as much as a mentally deranged attention wh*re HT with autop3dophilic tendencies. he seems genuinely troubled as much as he is larping as a 'little girl' for easy undeserved money & fame. tbh it's even more likely that he's faked this 'revelation' about his sexuality for clout and outrage to flog his upcoming book. I would be sorry for him cause clearly he's totally off his head but then I remember he's already earned more than I ever will as an actual feminist lesbian woman who's a university lecturer while all he's done is prance around in expensive pink dresses, claim he's a 'little girl', act like that's 'womanhood' and I'm like, nah

dylan seems like a little kid in middle/high school exploring his sexuality and gender stereotypes that he's put onto, i can excuse teenagers identifying as nonbinary but that's a grown man. first gay then queer then nonbinary then trans woman then lesbian?? is he trying to be the lady gaga of lgbtq? i hate to say this but is he just confused??😭😭

i think those are just coping mechanisms. being a gay guy was because he liked the way femme gay guys act not just males and certainly a femme male won't attract women. being a trans woman is coping for being just feminine but he's just a pedophilic misogynist I can't stand him i mean look at this

ahh yes,, classic old womanhood.

being a lesbian is coping for the fact that no one actually wants him except femme trans lesbian women. everything is anything nowdays :) how is someone whole personality being gay just changes their sexuality to be "loving non men" as in tra logic? dude i only liked a girl once 5 years ago and i still identify as bisexual it's not like that attraction was fake or smth.

sooner or later women will wake up and realize gender ideology is just BS,,

#radfem #radblr #terf safe #terf #terfblr #dylan mulvaney

[aikoiya]

You know what’d be interesting? If when Vlad came back to Earth, the Danny he met was different from the one before.

Like, I see a lot of stuff going around about trans Danny. Now, I don't really believe it, but let's just say, hypothetically, that it was true? Well, what if while Vlad was stuck in space, Danny realized that she didn’t wanna transition anymore. That it shouldn’t matter if she was a little more masculine than other girls. She was just a tomboy & shouldn’t have to go through hormone therapy or a life-altering surgery or literally castrate herself just to appease other people's twisted ideas of what a boy or girl should be. She’s never cared about being a girl before, so why should she now?

Really? She’d only pretended she was one because she remembered her mom saying that she’d always wanted a son. It'd delighted the woman when she started asking to be treated as a boy. She had encouraged it, not even really questioning her about it, but now Danny knew just how toxic that was.

When she takes off her binder & starts using her old name again, it’s like a huge weight off her chest. (She never went on puberty blockers or hormone therapy because it sounded too experimental to her.) She doesn’t have to be something she doesn’t actually think she is anymore!

Not to say that gender dysphoria doesn’t exist, so much as Danny, herself, isn’t a subject to it. She has no problems with the transgender community. She's just not one herself & she doesn't appreciate others trying to force their views onto her just because she isn't the perfect image of femininity.

She is bi though.

Because of this, she doesn’t think other kids should be allowed to make that transition until they reach between 18-25 because what if they changed their minds like she did? What if they wanted children of their own? The brain doesn't stop developing until the age of 25. There’d be no going back after surgery. Like, sure, once they do reach that age, then fine. Go ahead, it's their body & they are mature enough to make that decision for themselves. But otherwise, don't do it.

Danny just jumps with both feet back into being a regular tomboy & loves every moment of it. Unfortunately, she & Sam break up as Sam prefers guys, but they stay bffs.

Then Vlad comes back & he’s stunned by the sudden appearance of this beautiful half-ghost woman. When he learns that she was his little badger & that she was a biological female, he’s shocked into silence. He tries to take out his revenge but keeps getting sidetracked by certain new, rather obvious, features of his enemy.

She inherited her mother's body type is all I'm gonna say. Besides, Vlad's always liked a woman who could kick his butt & look fantastic doing so.

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Personally, I am of the opinion that Vlad didn't have access to the Ghost Zone until after Danny became a halfa. The reason being that most of his tools are Fenton knock-offs, so I don't see him managing to build a working full-sized portal when even they hadn't yet. Even if Vlad managed to get the proto-portal to actually work, it was too small to be able to fit him & the only things able to pass through would've been blob ghosts & Skulker without his suit, maybe some of the smaller animal ghosts. As such, the only ghosts he would've made physical contact with would've been those just listed. Vlad wouldn't have had anything especially strong to fight like Danny does nearly every day. Not only that, but most of the business he'd conducted in the GZ would've been done through a middleman, i.e. Skulker.

I firmly believe that, as a businessman, Vlad would eventually have found himself weaker than Danny. Primarily because of his style of fighting, which is to never fight anyone that he isn't 100% sure that he can beat & to then overwhelm them with pure power. Did you see how he ran from Pariah Dark & Vortex? Not only that, his personality is that he never cleans up his own messes & avoids the consequences of his actions whenever possible.

As such, I think most of his power is due to being a fully mature adult & even if Vlad has trained his abilities, the fact of the matter is that that sort of thing has nothing on real life experience in battle. Not to mention, I highly doubt he even knows how to utilize his core element & just tries to suppress it whenever the heat gets to be too much. The reason being that Danny needed Frostbites help.

Vlad never had that.

So, I feel like even a female Danny would end up being much stronger than Vlad upon reaching maturity. Like, sure being female affects physical attributes, but not her actual energy-based powers & not her flight. Anything envolving using her body (minus flexibity) would be less than if she was male, but not by much, however everything else would be the same.

So, it'd be like comparing a male nerd to a female veteran. Vet trumps nerd.

At the same time, I do think Vlad has a talent for escapes.

So, it'd be a lot like seeing their first fight in Bitter Reunions reversed.

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Edit: There have been comments recently calling me a TERF, but that term is incorrect.

TERF isn't simply being anti-trans which is the way that the word's been thrown around. It is defined as someone who excludes trans rights from the advocacy of women's rights.

Thing is, neither women's nor trans' rights are even brought up here. If you're going to antagonize me by calling me something, please use the correct termonology for whatever it is you're accusing me of.

If you wish to debate with me civilly, that's fine. I like a good debate, but please respect me & my opinions & I will respect you & yours. I admit that it's possible that I could be wrong about some things & feel free to try & correct or convince me. I like to think that I'm a mature enough person to be able to admit when I'm wrong, but only if there's enough evidence to do so.

I just don't understand how simply having different opinions from someone elses & merely stating them could infringe on anyone's rights. That sort of logic would mean that no one could ever voice their own opinions for fear of infringing on anyone's rights & that just leads to stagnation. Or, is it that only your opinion matters? If so, that's highly arrogant & I can't help but wonder where such an idea came from. It's a sentiment that lacks empathy.

Maybe I'm just trying to increase visibility on detrans rights? They're a minority too, even more so than transpeople in fact, so why is it that so few people talk about it?

I hope you all have a good day, take care of yourselves, & learn tolerance for other people's opinions.

#dp #danny phantom #danny fenton #tomboy #endangered species #pompous pep #fem!danny phantom #fem!danny fenton #detransition #detrans rights

[trans-axolotl]

Hey so I've had a question for a while and your recent post reminded me of it and I was hoping to get your perspective as somebody who is both trans and intersex

I am a cis woman, and I'm intersex. I have been trying to find a hormone therapy that doesn't give me weird reactions, and over the last year or two I have started to make a little bit of progress. However, it is still not uncommon that I am misgendered.

I am also part of a gaming community that is extremely welcoming, provides pronoun roles in discord, etc. But I have noticed that some of the people in this community, presumably in an effort to ensure that they don't misgender anybody, have taken to ignoring what someone's pronouns are listed as in order to use "they" pretty much universally. (I get it; it can be difficult to remember who uses which pronouns in such a large setting) But I have spent much of my life being misgendered or degendered, and it feels like this is still misgendering me when I have (she/her) in my name. I told my best friend (cis perisex gay man) that it bothered me but I didn't want to say anything because I don't want to make anyone feel bad, and his opinion is that I should try to not let it bother me because it kind of sounds the same way as straight dudes who are afraid someone will think they're gay.

Another friend (nonbinary, perisex) has told me that seeking out hormone therapy and having dysphoria around the masculine features of my body is transmisogynistic because I am limiting what womanhood looks like. I feel like I am doing something wrong when all I am trying to do is pass as my gender.

And I really don't want for my own gender dysphoria to mean that I am trans antagonistic. And the problem is that on one side is me, and I'm cis but intersex, and on the other side is me friend, who is trans but perisex, and anyway. I'm really sorry if this is rambling but I was really hoping I could get your perspective on this. Sorry it's a ramble

hey anon!

I think that your feelings are incredibly valid, and that your perisex friends sound like they don't really understand what being intersex means and how that can affect our experiences with gender. You have the right to be called the correct pronouns and you have the right to speak up and be supported when you're misgendered. The fact that you are cis doesn't change the fact that you are getting misgendered, and I know how painful that can be when you are used to getting degendered all the time and you've grown up being told that you're not "enough" of a woman or a man. You are allowed to be bothered by it and i don't think it would make it sound like you don't want to seem gay or don't want to be associated with trans people. You're just asking for your own gender and pronouns to be respected.

Your other friend who is trying to act like HRT is offensive somehow is just completely wrong. They have no right to tell you shit about what you should do with your own body. You are allowed to take steps to feel comfortable in your body and deal with your own gender dysphoria. It would be one thing if you went around saying that "certain features are always masculine" or that like anyone with certain features isn't a woman, but to me it just sounds like you want HRT because it would be gender affirming for you. It doesn't seem transphobic to me at all, as long as you aren't going up to other trans or intersex people and making comments or generalizations about their bodies. You are allowed to make whatever choices about your own body that feel right, and it is completely understandable that as an intersex person you want HRT to make yourself feel more comfortable.

I'm only one trans and intersex person but I think that you have not done anything wrong by wanting to be called your correct pronouns and wanting gender affirming hormone therapy.

#asks #actuallyintersex

[baresteeth]

ACT IV : THE END. I AM BLEEDING UNDER THE SUNSET. EVERYTHING FEELS BEAUTIFUL. ( colette, tr. by m.w., on tour )

selective and mutuals - only original character, created early 2023 and revamped jan. 2024. VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED. NO MINORS (-18). [ ... ] content includes violence, death and murder (and serial killing), mentioned past abuse, alcohol use and smoking, and strong language. WRITTEN BY JOEL, he/it + 22. GEN. RULES.

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INFORMATION UNDER THE CUT. MORE INFO WILL POP UP IN RAMBLES / META POSTS, BUT IF YOU'D LIKE TO KNOW SOMETHING OR HAVE QUESTIONS, FEEL FREE TO ASK !

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NAME: jude mortimer. previously zeke callahan. referred to as smiley by his dad and aunt. AGE: verse dependent; usually portrayed in his early thirties (main arc). born august 11th. IDENTITY: bisexual trans man (he/him). biromantic. began hormone therapy at 16, and got top surgery at 17. RESIDENCE: he has his own loft in seattle, washington, neighboring the woman he considers his aunt. however, he travels a lot for his job (tends to pick nicer hotels). LANGUAGES: thanks to his dad and aunt, he knows a lot of languages, but is fluent in english, asl, mandarin chinese, spanish, and russian. he can understand most of japanese, german, and italian, but can't speak or write them as well. OCCUPATION: he takes up odd jobs here and there, but his main sources of income derive from bounty hunting and being a hitman. he very much enjoys his jobs.

BACKSTORY ...

he grew up in a volatile house with two angry parents, often dreaming of running away or them dying in many ways so he wouldn't have to be with them anymore. in school, he was known as the violent clown, getting into plenty of fights and threatening classmates and teachers, all that would lead him to being expelled. his parents took it as an opportunity to move, though the real reason was jude's father owed people money they didn't have.

jude is 10 when the hit on his parents comes to fruition. he's suspended, so he's home from school, something the hitman missed. he comes down for a snack and ends up seeing the man looming over his parents, both sprawled on the ground. jude and the man have an oddly calm conversation, though the man is obviously tense. jude follows him, and long story short, the man takes him in, seeing no other option (the kid saw his face, could fuck everything up, and he doesn't want to kill the kid). they make it look like jude (not his name at the time) was kidnapped, change his name to zeke, and forge all the necessary documents.

the man refuses to let him even see so much as a knife, at first, but eventually caves and teaches jude everything he knows, seeing as how jude's now going to be in danger every day just because he knows the man. he leaves him with his sister after jude kills one of the teachers of the school he's going to when he's 13, and this is when his name is changed to jude mortimer (the man changing his own to kit mortimer). jude is pissed at being left behind, but becomes close with kit's sister, mina, and takes joy in creating art with her (though is always asking to go along with kit).

when jude turns 18, kit finally teaches him more about his occupation, and much to kit's and mina's dismay, jude quickly gains his own notoriety after taking on jobs on his own.

on jude's 22nd birthday, he and kit are out taking a walk when they're taken by enough surprise that it ends in kit's demise. jude learns there was a hit out on himself, but kit got in the way. (kit's last words to him are my son, something he never called jude [despite jude always calling him dad].) jude vows to find every last person who was involved in kit's murder, and he does just that. it takes a couple years of isolation, becoming colder, cutting off contact to mina, but he does it. after, he goes back to mina, falls to his knees and apologizes, crying for the first time since kit's death. this is also what pushes him into serial killing, taking out the worst of the worst of humanity for nothing other than the joy of it. (kit used to do that, on occassion, and mina never knew -- doesn't know about jude, either.)

his main arc follows him several years after he finishes the job of killing everyone involved in kit's murder. he has a canonical death that happens when he's forty-eight (48). he goes out with a bloody smile and a promise to meet up with kit.

SPARKNOTES ...

i can throw him and WILL throw him in just about any universe, including bg3, powered verse (marvel/dc adjacent), apocalyptic verses, etc.

KIT MORTIMER is the hitman that killed jude's parents and took him in. he will always be referred to as jude's dad. MINA WEI is kit's sister, and will always be referred to as jude's aunt.

he has Many scars, but the most noteable are the scar that runs diagonal across to each side of his left palm, and the stab wound scar on his abdomen to the left (courtesy of the night of his 22nd birthday; it's the only scar that still leaves him shaking, sometimes).

he's 6'1" and has a very athletic, fit build, often naturally lightly tan thanks to being outside so much + enjoying being outside as much as he can be. has eyebags that Never go away.

his accent often switches, sometimes mid sentence, and most of the time he doesn't realize it's happening.

he used to have his ears pierced several times, but the only piercing he still wears is his left double helix. he has a medium-sized tattoo, in white and red ink, of a lily flower, placed in the center of his back between his shoulder blades (his dad's favorite flower). he also has a snake in white ink wrapped around from just below his right elbow, up to his shoulder (his aunt's favorite animal and motif).

#updated jan. 8 '24 #dances around the house #aka perseus / roach / five

[shuttershocky]

Is it OK if I say I have mixed feelings on Shiki Aoki voicing Jacques? On the one hand, letting queer people be involved in big projects is great, but on the other hand, Shiki's a trans man playing a cis woman and that feels sorta shitty.

I understand your concern, but Aoki Shiki has said himself in 2020 that he plans to not undergo hormone therapy and keep his feminine voice as long as he remains a voice actor because he's attached to his roles and doesn't want to alter his voice, though he does hope to play more male roles in the future. If Aoki is playing the role of a cis girl, we can probably assume he chose this himself.

It also bears noting that some servant voicelines are recorded way in advance (King Hassan was one of the earliest servants recorded despite only appearing a whole year and a half into FGO, while Jinako's lines were recorded at the same time as Okita's and they were a whole 4 years apart). We have no idea when he recorded his lines for Jacques. Maybe if he was asked now in 2021 he would have said no, we don't know. Given how closely Type-Moon works with the VAs for their characters though, I doubt Jacques would have been released if Aoki didn't want to do the role.

Personally I think a real life trans person finding work in a major project is something to be celebrated. I feel like I see much more hype around major projects featuring fictional trans characters rather than trans creators and actors being featured. I think this is pretty cool, and I hope he gets the male roles he wants to play soon.

Also, he revealed he named himself after Ryougi Shiki all the way back in 2013. 8 years ago. Getting to play a role in a Type-Moon production after being a TM fanboy for years is the DREAM baby! Considering he has fellow TM fanboys and fangirls among the FGO VAs, maybe he'll get more TM roles soon (like Tanaka Minami, who went from being a TM fangirl to playing Nitocris to being the new voice of Sacchin in the Tsukihime Remake)

[a-womans-rhetoric]

Natalie Wynn's "J.K. Rowling" and Disruptive use of Women's Rhetorical Tropes: A Defiant Reply to Transmisogyny

ContraPoints, surrounded by an opulent, candle-lit set and adorned in witch's garb, leisurely pours champagne into her glass — she's ready to breach the internet's hottest topic of January, 2021: her childhood idol being outed as a transphobe (link here). The video itself being over an hour and a half long, I would be hard-pressed to claim that I could ever hope to cover its entirety, comprehensively, in a single post. So to save-face, I'll be dedicating this space only to breaking down her most frequently used rhetorical tropes, one by one.

Irreverence

"Joanne, I wanna talk to you, Joanne! [Fans herself with a rainbow paper fan with the word "BIOLOGICAL" written across it] What is it about Joannes? I can't catch a break from these people" (00:23-00:29, emphasis added).

Wynn's introductory lines immediately open a dialogue with J.K. Rowling — however, this invitation of discourse is defiantly "irreverent" (reminiscent of Nomy Lamm's punk-feminist style in "It’s a Big Fat Revolution” (1995)). Contrapoints, herself a transgender woman, is aware that her very existence is considered in opposition to the TERF-ideology that Rowling subscribes to. Thus, she's rather playful — even openly disrespectful — with her diction: calling the British author by her first name in a mocking-tone and flaunting her own trans identity to the camera (in a way that would likely offend the fragile sensibilities of a transphobe). Her personal tone (with ample use of the pronoun "I") servers a duplicitous purpose: a simultaneous message of "sit down and listen" and a fair degree of "I don't care if you can't accept me."

"So, now that 2020 is finally over, I think we can let the record conclusively show that it was a year whomst is bad. And on top of everything else going on, truly the last thing we needed was the author of Harry Potter coming forward to announce there's two things she can't stand: bigotry, and the transgenders. (00:31 - 00:50, emphasis added).

Finally broaching the subject at hand directly, Wynn employs kairos alongside her irreverence. Kairos, or the rhetorical use of an "opportune moment," holds incredible weight in the first month after 2020: the year in which the whole world fell into a stasis. Characterizing Rowling's transphobia as a collective "the last thing we needed," is also rather dismissive — she unites herself with her audience with the pronoun "we" and invites us all to groan at the exasperating nature of Rowling's bigotry.

Claiming the Right to Speak / Personal Experience

"This is a painful topic for me all around because, as a transgender woman, I am honestly really hurt by a lot of the things Joanne has said in the last year. But I also know what it's like to be the target of a Twitter mob" (01:36-01:47).

As she begins to touch on the topic, Natalie Wynn claims the right to speak on the issue of Rowling's transphobia — a type of bigotry that directly effects her. However, Wynn also situates herself partially with Rowling in her acknowledgement that receiving Twitter backlash is a terrifying experience (an experience, she argues, that the human brain is not prepared to handle the scale of, 01:49-02:39). In treating her subject with such dignity — and adding her own deeply personal account— ContraPoints creates a credible ethos in the beginning of her video essay. The audience is inclined to listen to someone who has been directly effected by the subject of Rowling's controversy (transphobia) and someone who is, rather compassionately, willing to empathize with those who would wish her harm. Although the generally sassy, glamorous, and irreverent tone of the video still appears soon after (see: the above image), her opening up for this somber moment garners a fair degree pathos in the viewer — we, as human beings, are inclined to sympathize with people who are open about being hurt.

Metis (Embodied Rhetoric)

[The following ContraPoints quote is addressing the above J.K. Rowling tweet, content warning for transmisogyny] "Transphobes love to play this game where they pretend that trans people just don't understand basic biology, that's our problem! As if I didn't start taking female hormones because I'm acutely aware that my body is not the same as a cis woman's body, that sex is real. "[Fictional TERF character] You will never be a woman, Nathan. Every cell in your body is male and has a Y chromosome." Really? That's crazy. How you'd you learn so much about science? You know I don't really feel the need to have a second X chromosome, I get by with only one, I make it work. I actually like the Y chromosome, I think it's a little more dainty, you know, it's little softer, a little more petite. The X chromosome has a lot of extra appendages, and don't you think? I don't need anymore of those, thanks. No trans person thinks it's possible to change chromosomal sex and to pretend otherwise is to argue in bad faith" (08:47-09:34).

If you can excuse my gargantuan quote, I hope you'll agree that the dialogue ContraPoints builds here was just too good to cut short. Within this excerpt, we see Wynn's use of irreverance and personal experience blended seamlessly together. For this YouTuber, the personal is perpetually political — especially when her own identity is constantly taken as an ideological stance. She uses her own expertise in trans issues to pick apart just how disingenuous Rowling's assertions are — even accusing her of "argue[ing] in bad faith" with her reductive claims (later, taking specific issue with how Rowling treats trans-ness as a costume). But, here, she also directly invokes another rhetorical trope: that of metis, or embodied rhetoric. Natalie Wynn specifically references her transgender body as a sort of counterpoint to the condescending "sex is real" claims by TERFs. She cites her intrinsic desire to pursue hormonal therapy as evidence that she — and other trans people like her — are all "acutely aware" that there are chromosomal differences between themselves and cis women. With this salient statement, she then follows with some humor: which, again, utilizes her trans body in her rhetoric. Her characterization of the Y chromosome as "more petite" and playful declaration of not needing "extra appendages" lightens up the often dark tone that arguing for trans rights and liberation can take. The clever points she makes are by no means weakened by her humor — if anything, the audience is more willing to listen to someone who can "joke about themselves" (so to speak) while still arguing an incredibly important message.

Naming and Defining Issues

"When I see Joanne tweeting about how trans people think sex isn't real and they're erasing same-sex attraction and they're silencing women, alarm bells are ringing because I recognize these as familiar transphobic talking points, specifically TERF talking points. "TERF" means trans exclusionary radical feminism. God are we still talking about this? I promise this is the last time. So TERFism is a hate movement that disguises transphobia as feminism. ... The fundamental problem with TERFs is not that they're mean. It's that they're politically reactionary, they want to reverse the progress of trans liberation." (14:05-16:02)

In her definition of TERF rhetoric, Natalie Wynn outlines some dog-whistles that are obvious to her, as a trans woman. She calmly explains to the viewer that, oftentimes in the present-day, rhetorics of exclusion are thoroughly disguised; TERFs, specifically, hide their rampant transphobia as a form of feminism. However, she further clarifies that the specific "danger" that TERFs pose is not from their cruelty — it's from their fervent dedication to strip away trans rights through political means. By specifying this danger, Natalie Wynn shifts the conversation away from empty discussion of offensiveness/terminology, to issues which directly affect the lives of trans people every day.

[This portion addresses the picture above] Also an act of naming and defining, ContraPoints makes a distinction between "Direct" and "Indirect Bigotry." She argues that many people envision bigotry as a festering, public, frothing-at-the-mouth hatred — a phenomenon she dubs "the Westboro Baptist Church theory of bigotry" (20:06). In bringing attention to the human tendency to think of people as exclusively practicing "direct bigotry" — envisioning them as a sort of delusional "other" — she then forces the audience to contemplate the relative omni-presence of the more covert (and possibly alluring) "indirect bigotry." This definition, crucially, requires introspection. By allowing ourselves to think of bigots not exclusively as "Westboros," we're made to adopt a much more nuanced view of subjects (most) generally prefer to keep black-and-white. Natalie Wynn uses her J.K. Rowling case study to complicate this 2D view of "The Bigot," inviting others to more carefully examine how politically reactionary views develop.

Phew, this was probably the longest post I've ever typed up on tumblr! Hopefully, I succeeded in demystifying (or at least adding clarity to) some of the specific tropes ContraPoints uses (that are common to women's rhetorics as a whole). Thanks for reading if you stuck around this long, and my ask box is always open!

#contrapoints #tw transphobia #tw transmysoginy

[senseofmonachopsis]

Quillette Article: How feminism Paved The Way For Transgenderism found this article and thought of you and this blog. Read it and tell me what you think if you want, it has critizisms of how both liberal and radical feminism caused this and how both deny science for their own agenda

I appreciate you sending this to get my thoughts, but a couple paragraphs in and my mind started saying:

Link to the article: https://quillette.com/2019/08/01/how-feminism-paved-the-way-for-transgenderism/

Anyways, let me start with my intial reaction to the the title "How Feminism Paved the Way for Transgenderism".

Feminism paved the way for postmodernism, queer theory, and the associated views on sex/gender as an identity and social construct. These views justify the large growth in adults and children being encouraged to transition, a (in my opinion) not insignificant number of whom are not being led down the right path (as in, hormones and surgeries did not/will not alleviate whatever troubles they have), evidenced in part by the increasing number of detransitioned people. Feminism is responsible for the theories and corresponding social changes descended from it.

I do not think feminism is responsible for people transitioning. Feminism didn't invent dysphoric people. It also didn't invent HRT and surgeries that alter one's appearance in relation to the sex they present as.

Feminism did, however, lay the blueprint for the way minority/special interest groups receive a protected status in society. They (among others like gay rights activists and civil rights activists, namely the critical race theorists) paved the way for the negative aspects of this protection such as diversity quotas, censorship, overlooking any information or data that does not the group in a favorable or even superior light, villifying indivuduals of whichever group is deemed oppressive, and mass hysteria.

Also, about the term "transgenderism". I'm about to make a comparison between the terms transgenderism and lesbianism. I don't typically like to compare being trans to being homosexual as I think they are often wrongfully conflated, but I will in this regard. To be a homosexual female is not to partake in "lesbian-ism". That implies that it is a practice or philosophy to be followed, but it's simply female same sex attraction. Same with "transgender-ism". It's not a practice or philosophy, it's the result of undergoing the accepted* medical treatment for dysphoria [*gonna make a note to post about how I think the term conversion therapy has been co-opted].

The only people who partake in lesbianism are political "lesbian" radical feminists. The only people who I'd say partake in transgenderism are the types who made it something political. For the most part.

________

Okay, now on to the article itself.

This guy, "Michael Biggs [,] an associate professor of sociology at the University of Oxford", clearly has a bias towards radical/gender critical feminism. He blames liberal feminists for the increased support for laws that, biologically speaking, do away with sex-segragated spaces; and the view that humans are blank slates and there are no biologically pre-determined differences between men and women until they are socialized to be different.

But, he clearly hasn't interacted with enough radfems because he ends the article urging them to "provide an alternative explanation for why the feminist establishment was so vulnerable to the seductions of transgenderism" if he's wrong. Radical feminists have already blamed liberal feminists for this. They wouldn't bother to come up with an alternative. They call them handmaidens to the patriarchy and trans women. For years, radfems have denigrated libfems along with transgender activists for relying too much on the social or socialized components of what it means to be a man or a woman as justification for the mantras "trans women are women" and "trans men are men".

He sees radical/gender critical feminists describing trans activism as a "men's rights movement" as proof that they have not come to the same conclusion he has, which is that non-radical feminist women have too been propenents for laws that serve the best interests of trans people. Blaming other women for supporting men always been a facet of radical feminist ideology, so I don't know where this guy has been for the last forty years.

What he doesn't realize is that radical feminists served as the precursor to both liberal feminism and postmodernism and queer theory. Their talks of socialization and biological essentialism arguably contributed to grounding explanations for subjective gender identity on both a social and biological foundation (using some of his verbage). Their theories of male and female socialization led to statements like what the author quotes: "To quote transfeminine activist Florence Ashley, 'We can’t be socialized into a gender we don’t have'." Their theories on males being biologically predisposed to be more violent and females more caring and docile reside within the realm of justifications for brain sex.

So... overall I think the author isn't pointing enough fingers at all of the ideological factions that have contributed to the sociopolitical landscape we have today. Even some things he says that I admittedly agree with (the sort of positions that don't require any knowledge of or affinity for a specific ideology/political group, btw) are undermined by his position that radical/gender critical feminists are on the right side of things. They are very much wrong too in their own special way.

There's a lot more of this I could get into. Maybe later.

#ask #anon

[radicaldrifting]

Because of transphobia and medical gatekeeping, I have destroyed my body beyond what a person my age should feel like. If I had been given the opportunity to transition or even just explore my gender when I first started hating my body, I wouldn't be severely sick and permanently disabled today. But sure, trans activism is dangerous and causes harm. Not the transphobes who surrounded me when I was a teen who was struggling and didn't do a thing to help when I started destroying myself.

That you are sick and disabled now doesn't change that trans activists cause a huge amount of harm. The positive things they may have brought about for people who transition and want to just live and let live (not the trenders or fetishists and incels and such) does not change that they also do a huge amount of harm to many groups, including those more rational trans people I just mentioned simply by association. And the harm they do in fact greatly cancels out the good.

Also, no matter how miserable and dysphoric you were it doesn't make transition a human right for you. Jobs, healthcare, food, medical care, etc; are human rights for trans people as they are for everyone. But cosmetic surgeries and hormone treatments aren't. If you are suffering so much because you can't alter your body that you damage yourself and/or are suicidal, that is an issue to receive therapy for - when someone is at such odds with their body they feel they need to severely hurt it, that is something that needs intense therapy. We don't help anorexics starve themselves, or people who use standard self harm as a coping mechanism to cut their skin deeper.

Also, your ask doesn't really tell me anything. It doesn't say what you mean by medical gatekeeping. It doesn't say how you harmed yourself. I don't know whether you were denied transition procedures because of the medical professionals refusing for personal beliefs, because there were laws against it, because you were severely mentally unstable, because a psychiatrist saw you had dysphoria from trauma alone and that therefore transition would not help you; but make you feel much worse later on (as has happened to many in recent years). It doesn't tell me any of this, you just make broad all or nothing statements and basically say "they made me hurt myself", which in the way you state it comes across as a personal deflection. The reasons for your pain may indeed have come from other people. Abuse, misogyny, religious cruelty, misery at being forced into societal gender roles, etc; that all is completely understandable. Extremely so if you're female, gender roles alone can make you significantly dysphoric, but you can't identify out of womanhood. What you CAN do is redefine womanhood from what society says it is, and you can refuse all those boxes, and you can fight tooth and nail against patriarchy and objectification and all the sex based oppression that makes woman want to throw off their womanhood, that is making so many women want to distance themselves from their bodies.

But if you're permanently disabled now, and I'm assuming from your ask that it is by your own hand - that comes from more than one issue. Not everything can be blamed on "transohobes", and you can't say that there was no other option for you than transition, because that is never true. Transition should be a choice only when all other options are exhausted. And there are indeed other options. If dysphoria is something that you want to kill yourself over if you don't receive transition right this instant; then something is very wrong and it comes from something deep, most likely trauma, that physical dysphoria is only a manifesting symptom of.

"Exploring your gender" especially tells me that you never really were presented with the fact that you can be your birth sex and be who you are, that you can be your birth sex and not be defined by how people have treated you and see you: rather than thinking the only option is to fabricate an identity to explain yourself to others.

I am sorry you are sick and disabled now, that isn't okay and can't be made right. But you can't look at your personal experience and because of it disregard harm done to other people.

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[breadclubrising]

Ronda isn't transphobic. She made a point on something about MMA fighting with someone who is transgender. She didn't say anything horrible about them. She said what someone in MMA said about Fallon Fox was wrong. (Fallon Fox is the transgender woman) She did nothing wrong. She said that they could have the same bone structure and that would be an unfair advantage. That's not transphobic. My cousin is transgender, a teen and has to put up with much worse. What she said was nothing.

(re: this, cw transphobia and transmisogyny for that post and this one)

Anon, it sounds like you’re cis, and I am too. We don’t get to decide what’s “nothing.” Even if we know and love trans people, even if we see that trans people have to suffer much worse abuses than a famous person perpetuating the false and violent narrative that a trans woman is just a scary overpowering man who’s taken some pills and maybe had his dick removed (Ronda said that in her comments, which I posted below). That’s still harmful even if it’s not, like, intentional misgendering or physical violence.

She perhaps did not mean that; I understand that she meant to be sorta-kinda-qualified-ly supportive, but it doesn’t matter what people meant when their words harm people and they don’t do anything about it. And reading an singular Wikipedia page would show you (and Ronda) that hrt doesn’t give athletes an advantage. Validating the idea that it does harms trans people directly by strengthening that false narrative, which is used every goddamn day to justify political, economic, social, and physical violence against trans people, especially trans women of color (which I believe Fallon Fox is).

It’s perhaps petty to laugh at Ronda’s pain, I admit that. And I would like to sound much more patient than I’m coming across, because I know that sounding bitchy is not the way to change minds. I apologize for my tone but I would very much appreciate any further discussion on this to be either private or in the spirit of trying to understand why what Ronda did (and what she represents) is harmful. I won’t respond to anything else arguing that it’s not transphobic.

Also, I don’t want to speak for or over trans people, so if anyone who is trans wants to say anything, or if you’ve seen good commentary by trans folks about this, please send it my way so I can post that instead of my words.

I could address Ronda’s actual comments, but I’m just going to copy-paste stuff from this Mary Sue article (which is three years old, so please feel free to correct me if any of this is out of date). This article, by the way, is among the first results when you Google “Ronda Rousey transphobia” (cw transphobia/transmisogyny)

“In an interview with the New York Post two years ago, Rousey commented on a transphobic rant made by UFC fighter Matt Mitrione about fellow female MMA fighter, Fallon Fox, who is a trans woman. Mitrione was suspended for it. Meanwhile Rousey, while admitting that Mitrione deserved the suspension and that he worded his thoughts “poorly,” then went on to defend those views, saying about Fox:

She can try hormones, chop her pecker off, but it’s still the same bone structure a man has. It’s an advantage. I don’t think it’s fair.

I understand the UFC doesn’t want to be associated with views like (Mitrione’s). I’m also glad they didn’t straight cut him.

I guess it’s good she’s using correct pronouns? *sigh* Rousey has competed against intersex athletes in Judo before, but didn’t take issue with that because “that was something they didn’t choose,” showing a fundamental ignorance about what being trans even means. Rousey continued:

It’s not something that happened to [Fox]. It was a decision she made. She should be aware in her career after that, it’s going to be an arduous path. I don’t know why she’s surprised by that. It’s going to draw a lot of emotions.

What if she became UFC champion and we had a transgender women’s champion?. It’s a very socially difficult situation.

What’s worse is that Rousey claims she came to these conclusions after “doing research.” If she’d actually done more than a cursory Google search as a part of this research, she might have come to learn that trans women undergoing hormone replacement therapy actually lose muscle mass and bone density, which means that they wouldn’t have any advantage over a cis woman in a fighting sport like MMA. Most major sports authorities, including the International Olympic Committee, the NCAA, and the Association of Boxing Commissions acknowledge this, and allow trans athletes to compete according to how they identify, so long as they are legally that gender.

If trans female athletes had so much of an advantage over cis women in competition, wouldn’t they be winning every sport in which they compete all the time? Wouldn’t cis female athletes be getting disproportionately injured all the time? That just doesn’t happen, and it’s disheartening to know that someone like Rousey, who had the potential to be a role model for all women via her sport of choice is not only operating from a place of willful ignorance, but from a place of fear – a land of scary, transmisogynist “what ifs” that have absolutely zero basis in fact.

Though her original comments were made two years ago, she has yet to clarify or amend them...” 

#ronda rousey #cw transphobia #cw transmisogyny #sorry if you are a ronda fan and this is in her tag #it's more important to me to tag it for people who filter it out than it is to uphold tumblr etiquette #Anonymous

[magspag]

Just discovered a thing called "gender exploration therapy" that sounds really positive but is actually just conversion therapy

It sounds perfectly gentle and life affirming but it's very much not that. I wasn't in anything with that name specifically but I have had experiences with that sort of approach and it's bad times. I'm putting it under a cut because it's nasty and the whole thing is probably not best to read unless you're safe. Look at the tags before you decide to click to read more. Take care of yourselves, friends.

The name makes it sound like it's similar to the therapists who use low dose hrt for a couple month to see if dysphoria is affected by altering body chemistry. This is a good thing that I fully endorse. I've known a few people who had some unsure feelings about if they wanted to transition and they way they knew it wasn't for them was because of how they reacted to the hormones. And the people who've decided it was for them were glad to have gone through something less horrible than the Benjamin Standards.

Gender Exploration Therapy is not that. It's about exploring the "roots" of feelings about gender, which in practice is about digging for trauma as fast as possible without regard for safety and demanding that all of it be resolved to the therapist's satisfaction before addressing transition.

It established an adversarial relationship that makes therapy difficult. It works from a starting belief that being trans is only a result of trauma and that trans people cannot be traumatized without it reinforcing their identities and that healing will mean becoming cis.

I haven't gone through "gender exploration therapy" that explicitly went by that name but I did end up going to a therapist who subscribed to that particular ideology, and it was horrifying. I'd never considered that sexual play between young boys was abnormal or was probably because the other kid had experienced BAD THINGS of his own. But instead of dealing with what I'd experienced, I got hit with the accusation that I was so misogynist that I believed that women are "supposed to be" the ones who are made to go down on someone while you're watching cartoons. That an utter lack of respect for all women and the notion that they are all deserving of being degraded, used and discarded form the core basis of my self image. Like life was Little League and I let myself get picked to play right field for Team Bitch on that couch in the basement.

I had to be a woman so that I could hate myself because I hated women so that I could hate myself for being a woman because I had to be a woman to hate myself. The whole situation emotionally fucked me up a lot more than I already was, and I was already pretty fucked up. I welcomed bulimia back into my life. I wore socks with grippy rubber on the soles for a couple weeks.

I spent several years not really engaging during therapy because I was already hyper-vigilant, and I saw my therapists as being dangerous for having power over me. It wasn't until I went back to school and could talk with the counselor there who I was sure did not have the professional authority to wreck my life based on her suspicions that I felt able to open up. With her help I was able to accept that I had a dissociative disorder, something I couldn't before because it felt like addressing my trauma meant that I had to invalidate my gender, that instead of viewing trauma responses as how I deal with things I got taught that trauma response meant NOT dealing with things. A condescending notion that my fucked up brain "made up a lady" because I didn't have coping skills that actually work. And hey, once I graduated and didn't have access to my counselor I went BACK into denial of most of my issues for a few more years, with an extra glaze of depersonalization for good luck. I pretty much shut down all internal communication and struggled to be able to hear my own thoughts. Reset button on recovery.

So, I definitely oppose "gender exploration therapy" and encourage all of you to oppose it too. It fucking robbed me of years of my life, made me fucking shutdown and did terrible things to me. It is pure evil, and I don't want any more traumatized trans kids get their wounds reopened and salt caked into them or new wounds or any of this.

#transphobia #conversion therapy #sa mention #cocsa mention #please do not reblog