#also I don't think this is gaslighting

[fromtheseventhhell]

I'm not sure how to get it into people's heads that Arya is a female character. She's not a boy, not nonbinary, trans, agender, or genderless. I don't intend this in a way to be negative or wanky, but her girlhood is imbedded within her character. The problem isn't that Arya stans are missing the point by overemphasizing her femininity and wanting her to be a barefoot tradwife baby making machine, but that we're stating it exists when the majority of fandom and the show itself have gone out of the way to minimize the relevancy of her gender. I'm fully convinced there are a lot of people who think Arya would be the exact same character had GRRM created her as a male character named Arry instead, perhaps they'd do a better job at acknowledging her importance.

What's most ironic to me is how these same fans will gush and coo over the sisters being more alike than we think, but only if it involves giving Arya's characteristics to Sansa. Well acktually, Sansa likes to ride horses just as much as Arya does! They're so alike uwu! But dare acknowledge that Arya has traits and aspects commonly associated to Sansa then not only does that get accusations of wanting Arya to become Sansa, but that it's solely about showing Sansa up and wanting her to grovel in Arya's shadow and superiority 🙄 Hypocrisy and projection showing itself.

Somewhat of an aside, but I recently saw a post on reddit complaining about the fact that all four of Daemon's children survived the Dance specifically focused on the fact that both Rhaena and Baela lived. According to the OP, one of them should've died and their post-war roles in the story should've been given to only one of them. Which at its core is really the main conflict between Sansa and Arya stans, no matter how much the Stansas want to cover their ears and play dumb. It's not about Arya stans projecting their sibling squabbles onto the two of them but simply the fact that it's not possible for two characters to fulfill the same role in the story, specifically when it involves two female characters. The existence of two Stark sisters is an inconvenience for the people who want the story to revolve around Sansa.

I have to believe there's some bubbles that they don't want to admit will burst if TWOW will ever be released and that's why they cling to the idea that Arya stans are the delusional ones. They have to believe that the parts of Sansa's seasons 5-8 storyline they like came from GRRM instead of D&D or else their Jonsa and QITN fantasies will fall apart. I have no idea how someone can watch the scene where Sansa tells Arya she couldn't survive what she had while Arya can only sputter out that she was training and believe 1) it makes sense for their book characters and 2) D&D didn't blatantly favor Sansa and Sophie over Arya and Maisie.

This ask came literally seconds after I drafted a post talking about this exact topic and it's so wild to me that we were both up thinking about Arya + her girlhood and wanting to discuss it 🥹

As for this ask, you really hit the nail on the head. Arya's gender is an essential aspect of her journey but fandom ignores that because they've decided that there's only one "right" way to exist as a female character. Arya's self-esteem issues stem from her being a non-conforming Lady in a misogynistic society, she has to disguise herself as a boy in part because of the threat of sexual violence, in Harrenhal she is assigned gender-specific tasks/labor, political matches are made without her knowledge/consent, she is threatened with sexual violence multiple times, and even her role within the FM is influenced by her gender. Her being non-conforming doesn't mean she's the complete antithesis of everything feminine. The obsession with propping up Sansa has ruined people's ability to perceive complex female characters, ironically including Sansa herself. They genuinely would've respected Arya more if she had died passively rather than fight for her life and you can't tell me that isn't misogyny.

That Reddit post is a great example of how people genuinely can't (or refuse to) comprehend the idea of two female characters occupying the same space. Cause you're right, that is the root of the issue. I think the only reason they bother with the fake "Stark sisters uwu" crap is because they've backed themselves into a faux-feminist corner and they don't want to look hypocritical for disliking Arya. So instead, they pretend to care all while rewriting her to serve as Sansa's prop. This is also why so many Queen!Sansa truthers are also anti-Dany + think that Sansa becoming Queen depends on Dany's downfall. They desperately cling to the show as canon, when D&D have openly admitted they changed the story because they favored Sansa/Sophie. They're fine with how show!Arya is written because to them, that's exactly how she should be; a subservient lapdog for Sansa. TWOW is definitely going to ruin that illusion, and one of the reasons I'm optimistic about it being released is getting to see fandom's reaction.

#ask #anon #arya stark #anti sansa stans #anti d&d #anti got #this fandom is bullshit but getting asks like this is why I'm never going to leave #cause I enjoy discussing Arya's character with people who just /get it/ more then I hate seeing delusional takes about her #I will continue to celebrate her character and call out nonsense for as long as I can #also the timing of this particular ask was just perfect *chef's kiss* #honestly I'd prefer that stansas just admit they don't like Arya instead of constantly downplaying her intelligence and trying to #gaslight Arya stans every time we make book accurate posts/theories #no we aren't delusional for thinking that Arya will be a leader lol and they don't really believe it either which is why so much #of their time is spent pilfering skills and plot relevance from Arya to boost their fanon Sansa theories

[pain-is-too-tired]

Jonathan 'Jarchivist' Sims and Annabeth Chase would be best friends.

I stand by that.

#mine #pain rambles #pjo annabeth #annabeth chase #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson and the olympians #percy jackson headcanon #annabeth chase hc #pjo hcs #pjo hc #hc #pjo fandom #pjo #tma #the magnus pod #the magnus archives #jonathan sims #jarchivist #tma jon #both have spider trauma #and workaholics #both are both absolute sweethearts but don't always appear like it #both could kill you and is a cinnamon roll #Jon's lacks just a bit more common sense #but also he gets blamed for everything and i don't think thats fair #Annabeth also gets gaslighted #but mainly by her family and Luke #which Frederick and her stepmother would totally be the type to fuss at her after she just been kidnapped #'You missed so much school-' that's not fair sometimes i was kidnapped! #not same ring as Jon's but you get it

[mountinez]

charles is actually so iconic because, the level of insults he is receiving on every platform - including his own instagram, -, the family of his teammate throwing shade at him and he is like 💅

could never be me, but he is so much bigger than all this, than anyone that he is just enjoying his life. unlike others, charles drives for the team, for us, and for his loved ones. not for fame and money - those he already has. and that's what makes these people so annoyed. what motivates him comes from something they don't understand and will never get. that's why we love him so much.

#i'm so annoyed but what comforts me is that i'm sure he is laughing at this #they are mad because he will never be charles #he can score 2378349834 podiums but he will never be charles #also i just think it's so funny trying to gaslight us as if we don't see what is happening #charles leclerc #under his tag because i saw people posting hate to him on his own tag i can post my texts too

[stygianoaths]

i personally believe hermes cheered in the distance when piper used her charmspeak to steal that car!

however, with that being said, i realize now that the looming threat of children of aphrodite and children of hermes working together to shoplift literally whatever hangs over the entirety of new york.

#like we do realize cosmetics and clothes don't come cheap nowadays right? i know the aphrodite kids are getting some charmspeak practice in #and hermes kids don't even need a reason; they probably steal each other's shit until it gets lost LMFAO #also don't forget the fact that some demigods know how to use the mist to gaslight humanity making it easier for them to get away with shit #and finally you know their antics would play on the hephaestus tv LMAO #hermes thinks it's SOOOOO funny that is until he's ordered to tell the kids to pack it up #in a better world head counselors luke and silena are blatantly ignoring the mess their cabin has put new york in #pjo #hoo #percy jackson and the olympians #heroes of olympus #piper mclean #hermes #aphrodite #cabin 10 #aphrodite cabin #cabin 11 #hermes cabin

[anglerflsh]

I like talking to my parents it's a fun game of "which one of us is gaslighting the other This Time?"

#[.art] #self #i don't even think this is gaslighting i think she genuinely thinks it never happened #extremely ironic considering you were there ma'am. And I know this because she grounded me for crying. lol #but also I was more dramatic than average about failing at things I was told to do so idk how she forgot about that genuinely #of course I'd hide it until I did something good to balance it out and only told her then so I would get the less harsh punishment but #'less harsh punishment' it's good old social isolation with no internet access and being screamed at so. 'punishment' in air quotes #coming from a family of ''i'll get the wicker staff'' being a regular-ish threat that was very light

[ramiplss]

it's 3am so good morning I have wine and a fucking sore shoulder bc I can't sit like a human while I work on Him

#blood has zero shading rn don't look at it #but OMG not one of my fave blogs ever finding my blogs and following them T-T <333 #astarion posting has only brought me joy #I've also learned that red wine and painting astarion goes beautifully well together #it's nearly 3am and I'm happy a clam with my drink and my art rn #but the cloth is done #he's almost done #working on hands rn so you already know i'm praying for death instead #the stone shouldn't take me all that long? #idk #I think I'm literally gaslighting myself into thinking this doesn't have another 10 hours of work in it when I KNOW it does #I just wanna be done T-T #bg3 #astarion #bg3 fanart #astarion fanart #WIP #work in progress #my art

[dustofthedailylife]

I was randomly reminded how a guy in high school kept calling me "dumb hoe" because he thought it was quirky and hilarious and thought I found it funny, too.

Years later I found out he had a crush on me and he didn't get why I didn't have one back...

#🍁 dust rambles #he then tried to drive a wedge between me and my (still) bf #yeeted his ass and the attached friend group #haven't heard from him in years #but I heard he changed for the worse (however that is possible #he has also manipulated said friend group into disliking us and distancing from us #what a time... #to think that was almost 10 years ago already wow... #oh also he did the backstabbing thing to another guy in the group who got together with a trans man #claiming they 'dont like it when he is there as well' #transphobia wooo... #he said the same thing they said to me 'we want you to still be a part of our group but not him and please don't tell him about it' #'otherwise we know we cant trust you' #peak gaslighting and manipulation

[bombusbombus]

recoloured this old warmup to repost cause I had it on my mind.

If Clark is going to be in earth 19 (gotham by gaslight universe) (they're publishing more gbg and clark is going to be there), then listen to me listen to me, he needs to be a cowboy. Superman needs to be a cowboy in the big city. I am SOO serious about this. I am on my knees, DC, let me write for you, I would add so many themes about modern technology versus traditional knowledge and sprinkle in some anticolonialism PLEASE.

You could have a cute little Daily Planet that has to struggle against yellow journalism in a smoky little backroom & setting their own type, a la The Truth. You could have gentlemen's clubs. You could have a brutal war against unions in the streets and one lone titan of industry giving into their demands. You could have the exact same 3 batkids from the movie, there's literally nothing to improve on there. You could have Clark tear down a barbed wire fence with his bare hands, in a futile attempt to unravel colonialist ideas of private land ownership. Imagine the alien knows more about the earth, the real earth, than the knight in his city does. Imagine the American dream failing Clark, who has to go back east to the big city, failing Bruce, who lost his parents, failing everyone over and over until they decide to build something without it. In an era of rampant exploitation, what do real heroes look like?

Or you can make the justice league fight big steampunk robots ig I'm excited either way.

#all that to say ask me about the gotham by gaslight superbat friendship I've been thinking about for a LITERAL YEAR... #the original colouring on this was only the sort of ass you can achieve with a blue light filter at 2am #also I can hear you saying “why do your warmups usually look better than your final drawings Moose?” #(shh let me imagine I have a huge rapt audience) #well. I have aphantasia which makes it much harder to make things up than to draw from life #however my passion is cartooning. so I'm a little fucked #I also have a disability that sometimes makes me run a temperature when I overexert myself mentally #so drawing cartoons can make me run a literal fever #whereas drawing from life is more abt hand skill than brain skill so it doesn't fuck me up #but that's why I don't draw much anymore lol. Arranging people and items and background on a canvas is excruciating trial and error #but when you already have a pic the photographer has done some of that for you and you just need to collage preexisting images together #and once you have the elements of the picture then it's easy to retroactively construct a balanced tableau #tl:dr creativity is hard and makes CPU explode but editing is easy #that being said if a mutual wants me to draw an animal or something for them & gives me a reference I will drop everything to do it. dm me. #seriously I'm good w anything organic like plants or animals or horrible growths #hell if u do thumbnails I'll draw the full thing. I'll write w you. I fuckin love collaboration. #might be a bad writing partner though cause I'm neurotic as hell #. #I just remembered that Dan Garret was in earth 19 last time it was shown in a comic #no offense to all you dan-heads out there. but I think he should die. #cause I would be. obsessed. With 1890s Chicago cryptid Ted Kord #I think he should be 23 and terrible #the most steampunk guy around. Probably takes cocaine. Still a college student (gettin his fourth degree). Hasn't left his house in a month #not to mention futureboy Booster in his kevlar vest with his iphone named skeets

[coockie8]

I didn't realise who this was until I went to block them, but bogleech found me on DA

Yeah, not shocked in the slightest they don't remember me, that's the privilege these guys have; they get to throw heinous paedophilia accusations at survivors, tell them they deserve to die over fiction and then just move on with their life like nothing happened.

TW: CSA mention, Incest mention

In case you can't tell; with everything else going on my life right now, I have no patience for this left. Don't want a survivor to dump their trauma on you? Don't claim drawings of an imaginary friend are equivalent.

#proship #anti bs #just anti things #pedophillia mention #incest mention #also love the implication that drawings of a cartoon are ''nastier'' than even jokingly claiming a real person deserves to be stabbed #I'm not unblocking them to get screenshots of them claiming I deserve to be stabbed on one of my proship posts #because that would require unblocking someone who claimed I deserve to be murdered and no #but I can promise you it was *not* said in a ''joking'' way #don't try to fucking gaslight me #and regardless even a ''joke'' is still a death threat in the eyes of the law #how quick we forget about the FBI showing up at an antis house for just *implying* they *might* have sent someone a bomb #you know for a group of people that like to throw legalities around so much they sure don't understand how the law works #on the plus side though they do blatantly admit to having said proshippers deserve to be stabbed #they just think that's fine because they ''didn't *really* mean it'' or whatever #I don't really want this having reblog privileges 'cause this is mostly just venting

[the-hadal-zone-sys]

Did we get another new headmate?

...

Am I the new headmate???

#endo safe #pro endo #plural #sysmeds dni #system #no I'm freaking out rn... I don't feel blurry but I also don't think I'm anyone in the system??? #We do NOT need more people... I should just gaslight myself into thinking I'm the host. yeah. that's a good plan.

[dana-chan-the-control-brain]

I'm feeling that inadequate imposter syndrome again.

#sometimes i wonder if what i do matters #or like if what i do is actually things i like to do #or am just writing drawing and streaming in a gaslighting effect on myself to be liked by others #fell into the trap of comparing myself to other artists #especially those who are younger and talk about their aus constantly with a million asks a day #but i also don't want that for myself either. #i dont think #things are good where they stand now #i guess #people asking about lofi would be nice but i feel im not distinguished enough because i always lean on canon divergent sides of fic #rather than trying to build a world up from scratch #idk feel free to ignore my deep thoughts #just trying to find myself #and wish i didnt feel inadequate about so much and every aspect of my life #personal #vent

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

me: hermes is a painfully accurate example of how some ways of defending yourself against certain kinds of insidious emotional abuse, gaslighting, ableism, and therapy speak can warp you into a person whose learned helplessness and lack of perspective can result in doing really shitty things, and who passes that abuse along in different forms (hi meteion) + lashes out in disproportionate ways + can be deeply hypocritical.

me: as a disabled person in a society where our systemic mass murder via pressure into government-sanctioned suicide is on the rise, the ancients' society is beyond fucking upsetting to me. i have zero sympathy for anything to do with them pre-apocalypse except for the effects of living in that system.

me: that said, they are a good opportunity to remind oneself that there are children in that burning building; that a society being fucked does not mean they deserve to be wiped out; and that that does not mitigate the harm they do, nor mean that its victims are not allowed to be angry or resist it, including the victims inside it.

me, booboo the fool: oh, this youtube essay about hermes looks interesting--

#final fantasy xiv #ffxiv hermes #heeeellllllppppppppp #i haven't even been looking for discourse in fact i have been trying to avoid it #i just wanted hermes meta and every other site i've so much as glanced at for it so far has been This #hermes is so so fucked up and so interesting #and Relatable in so many ways which simultaneously are incredibly validating; and can make for an uncomfortable look in the mirror #and people trying to like. diagnose him with NPD and say he's The Worst Ever Actually and is basically 'they all hated me' goob #while saying things like 'i can't be ableist i have depression' #and while accusing anyone who says the ancients did anything actually wrong at all of being anti-indigenous genocide apologists #is so much. it's So Much. oh my god #anyway i have been greatly enjoying this game and it is incredibly refreshing to see this kind of thing represented and called out lmao #FFtag #ffxivtag #genocide cw #abuse cw #abuse denial cw #abuse apologia cw #gaslighting cw #ableism cw #the salt files #(also god don't get me started on hyth/lodaeus people who do this Love Him and Think He's Super Sweet and Gay) #(when he is a horrible person in specific ways that make my skin crawl right off my body. the way he talks about meteion jesus christ) #(if your blorbo is fucked up that's fine but GOOOOOOD GOD) #warning: worm grass #endwalker spoilers

[aethernightmare]

#i'll be real i've been feeling some kind of way this week and needed this reminder. #the refusal by him to go to therapy is also a conscious choice. #the refusal to at least attempt to get sober is a conscious choice. #the refusal to still pin blame on you when you're not the addict and you didn't lie or cheat in the relationship is a choice. #the refusal to improve any area of their life (job - therapy - medication - better friends - an apology to those they hurt) is a choice. #so much of what i mourn is that my partner was genuinely a different person before the substance abuse. #i don't know who this current man is but it feels like a stranger who murdered my husband and stole his body. #because the man i loved might as well be dead. i don't even see glimmers of him anymore. not towards me or other people. #there's no comparison anywhere. not even in appearance. #i can't even know if he'd go back to the way he was if he got sober - because it was impossible to get him to quit more than 3 days. #if it wasn't alcohol it was weed. if it wasn't weed it was alcohol. often blended with days of not logging off mmos. #like none of these things in a vacuum are bad but his relationship to them at the expense of everyone and everything else was. #to this day he thinks i 'left him' when -in an inebriated rage - he told me to never talk to him again. so i haven't. #when he was the one who burned our bridges - so it's also his responsibility to improve and reach back out. even just as friends. #which he said he'd do - but never has. #he may not even remember some of the awful things he said and did to me at the end because he was always getting blackout intoxicated. #but as a result he thinks i was the one gaslighting Him when his memory was full of holes. because he thinks he's above being that affected #he probably thinks i'm manipulative for wanting him to get help and do these things. #but if he actually went to therapy (and was honest) or attend AA he'd see these are the professional steps - not ones i 'randomly made up'. #idk. some days are harder than others to deal with the absence and the silence and the trauma he left behind. today is one of the hard ones #a letter to my ex

[evilwickedme]

I assume that Jason misconception poll was talking about how the New 52 obliterated Roy's characterization, but even still. Like yeah, that's not MY Roy, but it is a Roy and it's not a lie or misconception to say that one is friends with Jason. And even if it were, it'd be a Roy misconception, not a Jason one

No fr like that's not Jason's fault?? Like that's not on Jason at all, he genuinely is friends with Roy. Also I'm so sick of people saying that Lobdell ruined Roy and Kori "for Jason's sake" as if Jason's characterization isn't entirely fucked in that comic as well. All of them were badly written and guess fucking what they came out the other end and they're friends now it's not a misconception and it's certainly not fucking gaslighting??? It didn't belong on that poll and it definitely didn't need to use that kind of wording

#it's fucking infuriating is what it is #roy harper #like I felt like I was going insane bc the only person who said anything was a jayroy shipper #but you don't have to be a jayroy shipper to have read rhato or rh/a or even just the one scene in hic #where Bruce goes to tell Jason that Roy died and he's so clearly immediately affected #just like bsfbsgjdgkdy people started shipping it FOR A REASON and it's because they ARE genuinely friends #it's like pretending that spideypool didn't have their team up comic for years cause you don't ship it #those two things are entirely separate. you can't pretend they didn't become friends at some point cause you don't think it's well written #(and personally I don't even like the spideypool team up comic!! so it's a perfect analogue imo) #also don't use gaslighting to talk about dc insisting a friendship that is real does exists that's not fucking gaslighting holy shit #rhato #dc #gail speaks #ask #anonymous #jason todd my beloved #jt

[mashkaroom]

My dad is convinced that I'm masterminding my transition in order to get cool and quirky points with ? big transgender? and honestly at this point it's like. do you not believe that i could find a less effortful way to manufacture quirkiness points than physically transitioning?

#pap i am a connoisseur of transgender swag. i have a short haircut i play accordion and im obsessed with Yentl #Big Transgender sees me and immediately they/thems me. i literally do not have to do more #I'm honestly transitioning to a less sexy gender than I'm at right now #but you don't have the pyramid of gender sexiness in your mind so you wouldn't know this #also what do i gain by coming out to you?? do you think i like being annoyed? #well actually it's materials for my upcoming best seller ''fathers and sons: insane emails from my father'' #but also it's funny bc he'll be like 'masha please pleeeease can i try to gaslight you about your gender' and I'll be like 'no' #and he'll be like 😟☹️😥 'ok...' #world's biggest poor little meow meow is My Father

[what-shitfuckery-is-this-ew]

I want people to read their scientific articles before sending them to me. Like actually read the entire thing or at least read the conclusion. Reading the first line and thinking that that means you understand the entire topic is very inaccurate, and it makes you look like a joke when i actually read it and find that it contradicts your point.

#my post #vent #i got blocked by a very popular anti-swiftie blog who i used to follow because i told then to not use the ableist term “narcissistic abuse” #and of course before they blocked me they fired back with you're woke who thinks everything is offensive here's a link from doctors #which 1. Not all doctors are moral - my peers actually make me sick and i have info from dental students that dentists are also horrible #the literal reason i wanna go into psychiatry is because the field needs reform and i want to help reform it #and 2. the article literally said that the term is incorrect cause not all people with narcissism are abusive and it creates a stigma #against people who literally have childhood trauma #and some of whom (not all) are actually trying to be better despite the constant dehumanisation #also even the medical term can't be applied to here? cause calling someone who's not diagnosed with NPD a narcissist because they're toxic #is not medically accurate #it's literally “delulu” and “gaslight” all over again #like stop taking psychology words if you don't want to search up the actual definitions #which ironically enough was in the article i was sent #ngl i'm confused as to why i didn't block them before #i love being a hater (seen from this entire post made for one person) but come on #some of the stuff was out of no-where (mainly the hating on her appearance - like the rest was genuine criticism but this?) #and then on top of that using Palestine as a way to get people to hate on her but then go be besties with a raging zionist? #seems like using Palestine for the clicks there #speaking of Zionists: that one zionist who sent me a shit ton of articles which disapproved their points #like i cannot make this up they sent me 2 articles on how Ashkenazi Jews didn't genetically originate from the Levant #(that isn't to say they aren't Middle Easterners - just genetically they don't show a strong connection to that specific region in the ME #and obviously genetics is weird so there's that) #and apparently culturally grew came from Iran + Siberia + Turkey + Germany (i.e. their cultures are a mix of those) #and of course the Arab conquests to represent colonisation (as if i was denying that happened) but the article wasn't about the Levant #literally i can't with people #if you think you can science your way out of this you better listen to my spiel about Validity #can't give the science and health kid science stuff and expect them to not actually read it #vent post #tw vent