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An explanation:
In 2022, Common Crawl scrapped Ao3 to train AI. In December of the same year, Ao3 added code to stop it from happening again. However, as they explain, "Putting systems in place that attempt to block all scraping would be difficult or impossible without also blocking legitimate uses of the site." This means that individual scrapers can still collect data, even on a large scale, although they're working to find a solution to this. They're also, at the moment, not banning AI-generated works.
In the meantime, they recommend restricting works to registered users only. However, and as they know, this isn't an ideal or ultimate solution.
First, because it would add a barrier to legitimate users who want to access the site without an account for different reasons.
Second, because real registered users who think they're entitled to your work can still steal it and feed it to AI for personal use, which is something people are already bragging about.
And third, because bots can still create accounts for mass scraping--in fact, there's a concerning wave of obvious bot comments happening right now, and speculation is that it's related to making AI tools come off as legitimate traffic.
Personally, I'm very concerned and considering restricting my works. But I also hate that we're being put in this position, I don't think it's fair to me or my readers, and I'm reluctant of gatekeeping my fic from legitimate readers.
So I wanted to see where other writers stand right now, and I also wanted to show readers who might be considering stealing fic with AI "because it was abandoned" or whatever your shitty excuse is the damage that you're contributing to. Fandom is not a market. You're not entitled to our work, even if it's abandoned.
I might hate myself for this later, but please reblog for a larger sample size!! You're welcome to add alternative solutions, thoughts, etc., but if you add any obnoxious comments about how stealing people's art with AI is good, actually, and fandom creators are meanies, I will break into your house and bite you.
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Please reblog for a bigger sample size!
If you have any fun fact about Crete, please tell us and I'll reblog it!
Be respectful in your comments. You can criticize a government without offending its people.
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Reblog for sample size please!
1st wave - mid 80s-early 90s - the initial emergence from the hardcore scene, still keeping a fairly hardcore sound but now with more sad and personal lyrics and occasionally a more melodic sound. (rites of springs, jawbreaker, embrace, etc)
2nd wave - early 90s-early 00s - the start of midwest emo, with strong melody and a post-hardcore or sometimes even not hardcore in the slightest sound. This is also where emo gained its pop-punk sub genre and screamo sub genre. (cap’n jazz, jimmy eat world, pg. 99)
3rd wave - early 00s-early 10s - needs little explanation. It’s the extremely pop-punk era where emo was heavily in the mainstream often thought of as the only emo music. (paramore, the red jumpsuit apparatus, the used)
4th wave - early 10s-now - known as the emo revival. Initially this wave had a very strong Midwest comeback, and while that’s definitely still a large part, there’s definitely a good variety of subgenres. Some also include emo rap and emo pop as part of 4th wave.
Yes I know some people include 5th wave but I personally find the distinction unnecessary since there really isn’t much of a change in sound. If your favorite is 5th wave vote 4th wave
#emo#emo music#emotional hardcore#emocore#80s emo#1st wave emo#midwest emo#skramz#pop punk#90s emo#2nd wave emo#2000s emo#3rd wave emo#emo revival#2010s emo#4th wave emo
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Okay it’s time now that the bad batch is over…
Please reblog this all around I know my followers will sway this toward the bad batch, but I would love a large sample size. So share this far and wide
#star wars#starwars#the bad batch#tbb#TCW#the clone wars#Star Wars rebels#Star Wars resistance#star wars andor#Andor#andor series#Kenobi series#Kenobi#the mandalorian#ahsoka tv#ahsoka series#ahsoka show#book of boba Fett#bobf#tales of the jedi#totj#forces of Destiny#star wars visions#the freemaker adventures#yoda chronicles#starwars polls#Star Wars Polls#cbr posts#cbr polls
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hello and welcome to do-you-speak-this-language!
REQUESTS ARE CLOSED ❌ they will open back up again soon i promise!!
if you haven't seen the description already, i started this project to examine this userbase's linguistic diversity, generally speaking. as of now i am the sole moderator of this blog. :-)
you can call me c! my pronouns are she/her and i am under 18. i have a strong interest in linguistics and language learning and have made varying amounts of progress on more than 40+ languages, but am currently focusing on esperanto, spanish, japanese, and russian.
this blog was inspired by blogs such as @haveyouheardthisband , @haveyouseenthismovie-poll , @haveyoureadthisbook-poll , @haveyoueatenthis , and more!
click "keep reading" for more information about language requests and the general rules of this blog.
REGARDING REQUESTS AND ORGANIZATION:
when indicated so, you are very very welcome to submit your own requests for languages you'd like to be seen in a poll. i will accept requests for any widely-recognized language, including conlangs (constructed languages) and other minority and endangered languages. i do my best to research every language i make a poll on, but if somehow i cannot find any written information on a language i have received, i will NOT make a post for it and will do my best to inform you of this.
once i have received enough languages to make polls for, i will create an online spreadsheet that you can access to see what languages have already been done and submitted. right now it doesn't exist. however, when it does, please read and check the spreadsheet for the language you wish to request before actually sending me an ask about it!
languages will be tagged by the most commonly written English version of their name (ex: Spanish will be primarily referred to as Spanish, Japanese as Japanese), but i will also mention names of languages as expressed in their native languages, both in the body of the post and in the tags (ex. Spanish will also be referred to as español, Japanese as 日本語).
REGARDING BLOG RULES & BOUNDARIES:
for the sake of maintaining a large sample size for each poll i post, anyone who encounters this blog is allowed to participate and reblog my posts if they so wish.
if you make the decision to comment on a certain language on any post, PLEASE be respectful of the language and culture you are talking about, as well as any other people that may have contributed their own view/experience with the language. nothing like "[x language] is so ugly-looking/sounding" or "[x language] sucks because etc etc etc" or "people from [x country] are so rude/weird/annoying/etc" or anything similar. such comments will be immediately removed and, in more severe cases, the user will be blocked from interacting with further posts.
also, do not start arguments or discourse about any language. this could also have you end up blocked.
lastly, please be patient with me and my posting schedule. i am currently preparing for community college and i usually have a lot on my plate offline. i promise i will get to your request or respond to any questions you may have eventually!
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a couple things rq!!!
im so sorry for leaving other diagnoses out of my original post!!! i was going largely off of my friends/moots/my experiences to see how common they were, however, i've since realized that i unintentionally left a lot of people out. thank you guys so much for bringing that to my attention!!!
similarly, i got a lot of people saying i was leaving out young-dx'ed autistic folks. again, i failed to make a fully accurate poll in my attempt to see how common my friends/moots/my experiences were. i should have qualified not only the intents of the poll, but also that the "none" option was for both early AND late dxed autistic folks.
lastly, i saw a comment saying that i was turning this into a game. i completely understand that in my attempts to make my posts/polls funny and relatable, i sometimes come across as trivializing mental illness, neurodivergence, etc.- i take my, and others, issues very seriously. yes, it's debilitating, yes, it's traumatic, yes, other people can make us feel dehumanized and alienated, and(in my opinion) none of that carries the implication that we can't/shouldn't talk about these things candidly and casually.
ok that's it!! have a great day n thx for reading/voting!!! 🩷🩷🩷
#catboyspeaks#catboycassie#idk man#actually autistic#autism poll#autism#poll#tumblr polls#autistic things#autistic community#tags for reach
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This is a objectively dumb question but:
Personally mine are called Robin Hood and Little John (right and left, small and large, respectively [and yes i do think of the song from the disney movie they are running through the forest odeladdy odeladdy ooda what a day]), and are collectively known to me as "the boys/my boys/the guys" or some other alteration
Putting it out for a week, reblog for sample size, etc etc, also please elaborate if you said yes I want to know
#i was talking to my sister about this and she gave me the most baffled look so now this happned#do you think if i tagged this “boobs” i would get more results#ehhh too risky#tumblr polls#my polls#polls#silly poll
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Saturday Status Update
REQUESTS: CLOSED
The wait time for a request is: 47 working days
Upcoming charts (if the sample size is large enough):
Animal Crossing New Horizons - 10 most popular ships, Crossovers
Andi Mack - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Fire Emblem - Leonie, Soleil
Star Wars: The Clone Wars - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Kakegurui - Yumeko
SpongeBob SquarePants - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Deltarune - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Monk - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Psych - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Metal Gear Solid - Ocelot
A3 - Citron
Hetalia - France
Digimon - Crossovers
Garfield - Most popular ships (FF)
My Hero Academia - Midnight
Jujutsu Kaisen - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
RuPaul's Drag Race - 10 most popular ships (AO3), 10 most popular characters (AO3)
Ned’s Declassified School Survival Guide - 10 most popular ships (AO3), 10 most popular characters (AO3)
The Good Place - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Final Fantasy 7 - Tseng
Persona 5 - Sumire
Glee - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
ABO tag - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
The Mandalorian - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Harry Potter - Voldemort
The Magnus Archives - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Silent Hill - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
The Old Guard - 10 most popular characters (AO3)
Toradora - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Hollow Knight - 10 most popular ships (AO3)
Persona 3 - Aigis
Legend of Korra - Mako
Digimon Frontier - 10 most popular characters (AO3)
Diary of a Wimpy Kid - 10 most popular characters (AO3), 10 most popular ships (AO3)
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(This is a copy of a post made on the original mascbi tumblr, now deactivated, on June 29th 2020)
Nonbinary survey results
My nonbinary survey has garnered 2940 responses, which I would consider to be enough responses to post results. The survey is open again and can be taken here.
As with my last survey, some disclaimers:
One online survey is not an academic source or a proof of truth – but it can be an indication of a trend. Specifically, this survey was only published by this blog on Tumblr and on a few Discord servers; as such, it cannot be considered to be representative of the entire nonbinary community, but only of a portion of the nonbinary community that had access to this survey. It may be considered to be an indication of opinions and experiences within the nonbinary community on Tumblr, but certainly not worldwide. To reflect this, this survey will not make claims such as “40% of nonbinary people think that…” but will instead use the word “respondent”, such as: “40% of respondents think that…”.
This blog is not targeted towards nonbinary people, but primarily towards bisexual people. It’s likely that there is some degree of overrepresentation of bisexual nonbinary people in the sample of the survey. I personally wouldn’t consider this to be very relevant to the results since the survey spread mostly by reblogging and a large majority of people reblogging the survey are not people who follow me, which will even out the results with a large sample size, but I felt it important to still disclaim it.
Please pay close attention to the “demographics” portion of this survey: it is very relevant to inform just what parts of the community are represented. It is very important to note that there is a vast underrepresentation of people affected by transmisogyny within the sample, and it therefore cannot be truly representative of the experiences of transmisogyny-affected nonbinary people. The majority of respondents are white, therefore the survey cannot be fully representative of the experiences of nonbinary people of color, etc. Another note here: I dumbly forgot to add an “are you intersex” question. This was a silly mistake since I added this question in my previous survey. I realized fairly early on that it was missing, but by the time I did, adding the question would falsify its results due to it being absent from a number of responses already given. I apologize for this oversight.
The percentages in this survey are rounded up to the nearest whole number. For example, “19.3%” will be indicated as “19%”, or “21.8%” will be indicated as “22%”. The reason for this is mainly that I re-open surveys after counting their results, so the results will change somewhat over time (with a large enough sample size, they don’t change past 1 or 2%). If the survey gains enough new answers, I’ll make a new post reporting changes in results – otherwise, the results are approximate due to their potential of change. I do not claim that the numbers presented here are exact numbers to the decimal.
Linked at the bottom of this post will be a spreadsheet of all answers to the survey - you can use it to run your own data analysis if you want, or to read personal answers given by participants.
With that all being said, here are the current results to the survey. Should it get significantly more results, I’ll update it with a new report.
PART 1: DEMOGRAPHICS.
AGE
Most of the survey’s respondents are older teens and young adults: 42% are 20 to 25 years old; 40% are 16 to 19 years old; 10% are 13 to 15; 8% are 26 to 35; Less than 1% are under 13; less than 1% are 36 to 45; less than 1% are over 45.
ETHNICITY
The majority of the survey’s respondents are white (72%). Other ethnic groups include people mixed with white (17%), Asian people (all regions confounded: 8%, by region: 3% East Asian, 2% South-East Asian, 2% South Asian, less than 1% West Asian, less than 1% Central Asian, less than 1% unsure of region) ethnically Jewish people (6%), Black people (5%), Mestizo/a people (5%), Native Americans (3%), Middle Eastern people (2%), African people (all regions confounded: 3%. By region: region uncertain 1%, Sub-Saharan African less than 1%, North African less than 1%). Pacific Islanders, Romani people, Maori people, Aboriginal Australians, Fijian people, and Papua New Guinean people were all represented by percentages under 1% of the survey.
6% of respondents indicated being unsure of their ethnicity or belonging to another ethnic group.
DISABILITY
55% of respondents are not disabled. 23% of respondents are disabled. 22% of respondents do not know whether or not they are disabled.
MENTAL ILLNESS
79% of respondents are mentally ill. 16% percent aren’t sure whether they’re mentally ill. 5% are not mentally ill.
REGION OF RESIDENCE
75% of respondents reside in North America, 18% in Europe, 3% in Oceania, 2% in South America, and 1% in Asia. Less than 1% of respondents reside in Africa or in the Caribbean.
ECONOMIC BACKGROUND
34% of respondents are lower middle class. 28% are low income/working class. 27% are upper middle class. 4% of respondents live in poverty. 1% are upper class. 7% indicate being unsure of their economic background.
TRANSMISOGYNY
A bit of a parenthesis. This was a really hard question to count up. I defined transmisogyny in the beginning of the “demographics” section with this: “"Transmisogyny" is the prejudice against or oppression of trans women and transfeminine people. Transmisogyny does not affect people who are not trans women or transfeminine but may be mistaken as such (eg. feminine men, trans men who are mistaken for trans women), nor does it affect AFAB nonbinary people who identify partially as women (they may be affected both by transphobia and by misogyny, but not by transmisogyny).” This was my best attempt to have a question asking whether someone is transmisogyny-affected or transmisogyny-exempt, which I think is a very important one to ask in a survey about gender and nonbinary experiences, without asking “are you a trans woman or transfeminine”, which I think many nonbinary people would have trouble defining very clearly, and without using the terms “transmisogyny affected” and “transmisogyny exempt”, which I think many people do not know.
I left “other” answers open for this question because I expected that some people may not be sure of whether or not they experience transmisogyny – notably because nonbinary gender is not clear cut.
A large part of “other” answers were, however, disappointing. 2% of respondents indicate that they are transmasculine, AFAB, or generally transmisogyny-exempt, yet felt the need to still use the “other” answer, either simply to state this (not sure why they didn’t simply answer “no”), or to say that they are affected by transmisogyny because they are sometimes mistaken for trans women or because they are affected by both transphobia and misogyny, which are both answers I specifically requested NOT be given, as can be seen above. Some people also said they didn’t know what transmisogyny was, again despite it being defined above. This question also got an openly transmisogynistic answer. I considered going through individual responses and deleting this person’s response but decided against it, because while the response of this person being in the survey was very uncomfortable, it would be intellectually dishonest to delete answers given to the survey. I think the response that this question got ironically outlines how present transmisogyny is in the nonbinary community, yet how ignorant we are of it.
Of the “other” answers that actually answered the question, most either indicated not facing transmisogyny due to not being out, or being uncertain of whether they face transmisogyny, notably due to intersex conditions blurring the notion of AGAB.
As for yes or no answers – 81% of respondents said they were not affected by transmisogyny. 15% said they were.
PERSONAL COMMENTS
459 respondents left other personal comments regarding the demographics they belong to. These will be available in the file linked at the bottom of this post. Many of these comments are specifics about ethnicity or sexuality.
PART 2: GENDER IDENTITY AND IDENTITY JOURNEY
Upon being asked what genders or gender labels they identify as:
88% of respondents identify as nonbinary.
27% identify as agender.
24% identify as genderqueer.
23% identify as transmasculine.
21% identify as genderfluid.
20% identify as gender neutral.
17% identify as women.
15% identify as men.
11% identify as butch.
10% identify as androgyne.
7% identify as femme.
6% identify as demigirls.
6% identify as demiboys.
5% identify as bigender.
4% identify as multigender.
3% identify as neutrois.
2% identify as transfeminine.
2% identify as neurogender.
1% identify as polygender.
1% identify as genderflux.
1% identify as two-spirit.
Other labels provided by the survey were represented by less than 1% of respondents.
7% of respondents gave other answers, often either indicating a label not provided by the survey, or that they were still questioning.
Regarding whether or not they identify as transgender:
69% of respondents identify as transgender.
25% identify as neither transgender nor cisgender.
6% identify as cisgender and nonbinary.
Regarding how long they have identified as nonbinary for:
49% of respondents have identified as nonbinary for 2 to 5 years;
22% for 7 months to a year;
14% for 6 to 10 years;
12% for 1 to 6 months;
2% for less than a month;
1% for 10 to 20 years;
Less than 1% for more than 20 years.
When asked whether they had identified as genders other than cisgender before identifying as their current gender (“check all that apply” question):
21% have identified as their current gender for as long as they’ve known they weren’t cisgender.
34% of respondents identified as questioning, or didn’t use a specific gender label.
25% identified as a binary trans man or a binary trans woman.
24% identified as multiple other nonbinary genders.
19% identified as one other nonbinary gender.
18% have gone back and forth identifying as cisgender and as nonbinary.
When asked how they came to identify as nonbinary:
64% of respondents learned about nonbinary identity from social media;
22% from nonbinary people they knew;
4% from people they knew who were not nonbinary;
3% from contemporary media (eg. TV shows, movies, novels, non-fiction books and essays)
2% from real-life activist spaces;
Less than 1% from older media;
Less than 1% were taught about nonbinary genders growing up (from parents, siblings, or authority figures);
Less than 1% have a culturally-specific gender that they learned about while researching their culture;
Less than 1% have a culturally-specific gender that they knew about from their upraising in that culture.
4% of respondents gave other answers, with the leading answer indicating they learned about nonbinary genders from multiple sources.
When asked whether they feel they are aligned with a binary gender:
21% are unaligned or “in the middle” of alignments;
20% see no relation between binary gender and their identity and don’t use alignment terminology;
19% of respondents say they are aligned with womanhood;
14% are sometimes aligned with womanhood and sometimes with manhood;
12% are aligned with manhood;
3% are aligned with womanhood and manhood at the same time.
11% gave other answers, with a tendency for indicating uncertainty or fluctuation in relationship to alignment.
When asked if they have one singular gender:
22% of respondents have one specific gender (that they may or may not label) and are that gender all the time.
20% don’t have a gender at all.
12% sometimes have a gender and sometimes don’t – but when they do it’s always the same one.
12% have more than one gender and fluctuate between different combinations of genders.
11% sometimes have a gender and sometimes don’t – but when they do it’s one of multiple genders.
10% don’t know what their gender is, or don’t feel that there are different nonbinary genders.
4% have more than one gender and are always all of these genders.
4% have more than one gender but are only one of these genders at any given time.
5% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked how they feel about having a gender:
23% of respondents feel they have a gender, but it’s not as clear-cut as “man” or “woman”.
16% use a term to describe their gender, but just because it feels good to them or they like it – it doesn’t describe a specific group.
14% don’t know what their gender(s) is but aren’t questioning it – the uncertainty is their identity.
11% are very sure of what their gender(s) is/are. They have strong feelings of what their gender(s) is/are and may use specific labels to describe it/them. Their gender(s) feel/s as tangible of a concept as “man” or “woman”..
9% feel their lack of gender is their gender (eg., agender, genderless…)
8% aren’t sure of what their gender(s) is because they’re still questioning
8% don’t have a gender at all.
7% use a term like “agender” or “genderless” but it simply describes their experience – it isn’t their gender.
Less than 1% have a gender that, in their culture, is an established gender category in the same way “man” or “woman” is.
4% of respondents gave other answers, with the leading answer being not having strong feelings about or caring about gender.
On the topic of self-doubt, internalized binarism, questioning and struggling with gender (“check all that apply” question):
75% of respondents often feel or have felt that they are not “nonbinary enough”, and that there are real nonbinary people but they’re not one of them.
74% often feel or felt that they are faking their gender and are really a binary gender (cis or trans).
64% feel or used to feel silly or ridiculous for identifying as nonbinary.
55% put off coming out as nonbinary because they felt it wasn’t important enough to warrant coming out.
33% used to not understand why people identified as nonbinary and why that identity was relevant.
31% used to think that nonbinary genders were fake, made up, attention-seeking, or biologically impossible.
27% feel or felt that identifying as nonbinary isn’t as important or relevant as other LGBT identities.
22% go back and forth identifying as a binary gender (cis or trans) and nonbinary and are not sure which one they are.
19% fear or used to fear that there are actually no nonbinary people and that all nonbinary people are wrong or confused.
17% previously identified as a binary trans person because they didn’t know that they could be nonbinary.
4% previously identified as a binary trans person because they didn’t believe in nonbinary genders.
580 respondents gave personal answers about their gender identity.
PART 3: PRONOUN USE
When asked what pronouns they use (“check all that apply” question):
83% of respondents use they pronouns.
45% use he.
40% use she.
7% use it.
6% use xe.
3% use ze.
3% use ey.
1% use hir.
Less than 1% use thon.
Less than 1% use sie.
Less than 1% use co.
17% don’t have a pronoun preference and can be referred to as any set of pronouns, or any pronouns with some exceptions (EG. : “all pronouns but he”, etc)
7% use another/multiple sets of neopronouns.
4% use another set of pronouns specific to their language.
2% don’t use pronouns at all.
When asked how many sets of pronouns they use:
25% use only one set of pronouns.
25% use at least two sets of pronouns and don’t care how people use them so long as they use the pronouns they’ve chosen.
24% have one main set of pronouns, and also have one or more auxiliary sets.
10% use at least two sets of pronouns and prefer people alternate between them.
4% use at least two sets of pronouns and prefer for people to pick one set and use it to refer to them.
4% use at least two sets of pronouns and change them at different times, such as on a daily basis.
6% of respondents gave other answers, such as using different pronouns with different people or in different circumstances (for example based on being out or not).
When asked whether nonbinary people can use he/him or she/her pronouns:
More than 99% of respondents said yes. Less than 1% said no.
When asked whether nonbinary people can use they/them pronouns:
More than 99% of respondents said yes. Less than 1% said no.
When asked whether nonbinary people can use neopronouns:
97% of respondents said yes. 3% said no.
When asked whether binary people (cis or trans) can use pronouns other than he or she:
72% of respondents answered that anyone can use any pronouns for any reason.
9% don’t believe that any binary person would use pronouns other than he or she, and that if they do, they’re nonbinary and won’t admit it.
9% said yes – but they shouldn’t use it/its pronouns.
5% said yes – but only trans people. Cis people should only use he or she.
Less than 1% say that pronouns other than he or she should be reserve to nonbinary people.
Less than 1% said yes – but only cis people. Binary trans people should only use he or she.
4% of respondents gave other answers, many expressing confusion as to why a binary person or a cis person would use pronouns other than he or she, but most noting that they support anyone using the pronouns they choose. Several people noted that pronoun use is often linked to non-heterosexuality.
When asked whether people (of any gender) can use it/its pronouns (“check all you agree with) question):
57% said anyone can use any pronoun for any reason.
16% said yes, but only trans and nonbinary people – cis people can’t use them.
14% said no - it/its is used disparagingly against trans and nonbinary people and using it is encouraging it or making light of it.
14% said yes, but only if they’ve been called “it”, as a form of reclamation.
14% said no, it/its is dehumanizing and people using them are hurting themselves.
5% said no, it/its is for inanimate objects and is grammatically incorrect.
2% said yes, but only nonbinary people – binary people can’t use it/its.
14% gave other answers.
When asked whether they use the same pronouns in real life as they do online (“check all that apply” question):
37% say they use they/them in real life as well as online.
33% say they use they/them online but other pronouns in real life.
30% say they use he or she online as well as in real life.
23% use several sets of pronouns online, but only one or a few in real life.
7% use he or she online but other pronouns in real life.
5% use neopronouns online but something else in real life.
3% use it/its online but something else in real life.
2% use neopronouns in real life as well as online.
1% use it/its in real life as well as online.
14% gave other answers.
For respondents who use different pronouns in real life as they do online, when asked why (“check all that apply” question):
74% are not out as nonbinary in real life.
64% think people wouldn’t agree to use their pronouns.
63% are afraid of facing prejudice if they use their pronouns.
13% say the pronouns they use online are in a different language to the one they speak in real life and may not have a direct translation.
8% are out in real life as a binary trans person and use he or she for that reason.
4% say their pronouns can’t be or would be very hard to use in real life (such as emoji pronouns or not using pronouns at all).
9% of respondents gave other answers.
401 respondents gave personal answers regarding pronouns.
PART 4: GENDER PRESENTATION AND ITS PERCEPTION.
When asked how they would describe their gender presentation (“check all that apply” question):
48% of respondents have an androgynous presentation.
42% can’t present the way they want due to circumstances outside of their control (not out, can’t afford clothes, hair cuts, body modifications…).
36% say their presentation fluctuates from day to day.
31% have a feminine presentation.
30% have a masculine presentation.
26% don’t think their presentation is gendered or refuse to gender it.
14% say their presentation can be described by a specific term (eg. butch or femme).
4% gave other answers.
When asked whether they are usually satisfied with the ways people perceive their gender:
53% say that no – they want people to be unable to gender them as a binary gender, but they are usually gendered one way or another.
30% can’t ever be satisfied with being perceived within the framework of gender - people gendering them or being unable to gender them both make them uncomfortable.
20% don’t care what people see them as and whatever gender they’re perceived as doesn’t bother them.
13% prefer to be perceived as a binary gender, but are not usually perceived as that gender.
12% say no – they have a specific nonbinary gender and would like people to be able to identify it based on their presentation, but they can’t.
7% say yes – they prefer to be perceived as a binary gender and usually are.
6% say yes – they want people to be unable to gender them and they usually are.
1% says yes – they have a specific nonbinary gender and people are able to identify it based on their presentation.
Less than 1% say no - they have a culturally-specific gender but the people around them can’t identify it based on their presentation.
Less than 1% say yes - they have a culturally-specific gender and the people around them can identify it based on their presentation.
7% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked how, in an ideal world, they’d want their gender to be perceived and read:
48% say gender would still exist, but they’d be able to opt out of it – they would never be gendered against their consent and people would only need to have a gender if they wanted to.
15% say gender would not exist at all – there would be no question of gendering someone whatsoever.
14% say they would be able to get across their nonbinary gender through their presentation and people would be able to infer what their gender is based on presentation, as is most often the case for cis men and women.
11% say people would be unable to gender them regardless of how masculine or feminine their presentation may be.
7% say people would be unable to gender them because their presentation would be completely androgynous.
1% say nothing would change about the world’s perception of gender, but they would always be perceived as one binary gender that they are not usually perceived as.
Less than 1% say nothing would change about the world’s perception of gender, but they would alternately be perceived as a man or a woman.
Less than 1% say they don’t wish for anything to change about the ways people read gender currently.
3% of respondents gave other answers.
For respondents who are consistently read as one binary gender, when asked what their experience of it was (“check all that apply” question):
91% say they are usually read as their assigned gender at birth.
57% say being read as the gender they are read as makes them uncomfortable.
43% say being read as this gender makes them dysphoric.
33% say they’re fine being read as this gender, but they’d prefer to not be gendered at all.
29% say they’re read as this gender despite their best efforts to be read as another gender or no gender at all.
19% say they’re fine being read as this gender, but they’d rather be read as their specific nonbinary gender.
8% say they enjoy or prefer being read as this gender.
7% are usually read as the opposite binary gender as their assigned gender at birth.
7% are fine being read as this gender, but would rather be read as the opposite binary gender.
5% are read as the gender they’re read as because they make specific efforts to pass as that gender.
339 respondents left personal responses about gender presentation and perception.
PART 5: GENDER DYSPHORIA AND TRANSITION
As was stated in this section, this survey used the medical definition of gender dysphoria whenever dysphoria was mentioned, which is “the distress that may accompany the incongruence between one’s experienced or expressed gender and one’s assigned gender. Although not all individuals will experience distress as a result of such incongruence, many are distressed if the desired physical interventions by means of hormones and/or surgery are not available.”
When asked whether they’ve taken steps to transition (“check all that apply” question):
71% of respondents say they’ve undertaken social transition online.
57% use hair cuts and hair styling to express their gender.
57% use clothes and accessories to express their gender.
40% have undertaken social transition in real life.
15% use makeup to express their gender.
13% use body modifications (such as piercings, tattoos, or dermal implants) to express their gender.
9% take hormones to express their gender.
8% have legally changed their name.
3% have legally changed their gender marker.
3% have had one or more surgeries to change primary sex characteristics (chest or genitals)
Less than 1% have used cosmetic treatments such as permanent hair removal or permanent makeup to express their gender.
Less than 1% have had one or more surgeries to change secondary sex characteristics (such as facial feminization/masculinization or body shaping).
30% aren’t sure what kind of transition they want yet.
25% can’t transition because they aren’t out.
21% can’t transition because they can’t access tools to transition.
17% don’t want to transition.
3% of respondents gave other answers, such as using a binder.
For respondents who want to transition, to the question “If you want to, have, or are transitioning, what best describes the transition you want/have had? Please describe your ideal transition, if there were no limits or struggles in achieving it.”:
53% say they would medically transition and their transition would be close to that of a binary trans person, but not quite the same – they want to do some things but don’t want to do others, or want some parts of transition to be different (such as wanting surgeries but no hormones or the other way around, or seeking atypical surgeries).
12% would medically transition and their transition would be exactly that of a binary trans person – they would take hormones and undergo surgeries as typically expected of a binary trans man or woman.
10% would medically transition and their transition would look nothing like that of a binary trans person: the results they’re looking for are very different (such as seeking complete removal of all sex characteristics).
47% would socially transition and their transition would not at all be like that of a binary trans person. They want to be known only as a nonbinary person and will not use typically gendered names or pronouns.
29% would socially transition and their transition would be close to that of a binary trans person, but not quite the same, for example using he or she pronouns but a gender neutral name.
11% would socially transition and their transition would be exactly that of a binary trans person: they would change their name and pronouns to typically male or female name and pronouns and would want to be seen as the opposite binary gender to their AGAB.
When asked whether they experience gender dysphoria:
47% of respondents say yes, but their dysphoria fluctuates in intensity or isn’t very strong.
33% say yes, but minimally: they sometimes feel dysphoric in specific situations, but usually don’t.
8% say they have strong gender dysphoria at all times.
6% say they do not and never have experienced gender dysphoria.
5% say they used to experience gender dysphoria but no longer do after learning coping mechanisms or changing their view of themselves.
Less than 1% say they no longer experience dysphoria after transitioning.
For respondents who have experienced gender dysphoria, when asked whether they have experienced bodily dysphoria or social dysphoria:
81% of respondents have experienced both social and bodily gender dysphoria.
12% have only experienced social gender dysphoria.
8% have only experienced bodily gender dysphoria.
For respondents who have experienced gender dysphoria, when asked how they experienced it (“check all that apply” question):
56% experienced dysphoria without being able to tell what would make it better: they feel or felt dysphoric about parts of themselves but didn’t know what they wanted those things to be instead (such as being dysphoric about a flat chest but not necessarily wanting breasts either) or about specific situations without knowing how they’d want the situation to go instead (such as dysphoria about being gendered, but not sure how they’d want to be gendered instead).
53% experienced gender dysphoria only about one or a few specific things or situations (such as only have dysphoria about their height or voice, or only getting dysphoric when being gendered).
43% experienced gender dysphoria not commonly associated with a binary trans person: they want or wanted to have a body, voice, appearance or experiences not associated with either men or women.
41% experienced gender dysphoria commonly associated with a binary trans person: they want or wanted to have the body, voice, appearance, or experiences of the opposite binary gender to their AGAB.
For respondents who have experienced gender dysphoria, when asked about the relationship between their dysphoria and their nonbinary identity (“check all that applies” question):
65% have dysphoria because of social standards. They’ve been taught that they way someone looks equals their gender, and because they aren’t their AGAB, they feel uncomfortable with their body.
44% have dysphoria because they get misgendered.
27% have dysphoria because they’re nonbinary: they want to look like their gender.
18% are nonbinary because they have dysphoria. The dysphoria is what makes them understand that they are not their assigned gender at birth.
12% say there’s no relationship between their dysphoria and their nonbinary identity. Gender dysphoria is an unrelated condition that they don’t link to their nonbinary identity.
5% of respondents gave other answers.
306 respondents gave personal answers regarding gender dysphoria.
PART 6: SEXUALITY
When asked what their sexual orientation is (“check all that apply” question):
37% of respondents are bisexual.
36% are queer.
26% are asexual.
24% are lesbians.
15% are gay.
15% are pansexual/polysexual/omnisexual/other m-spec labels.
6% are bisexual men.
5% are gay men.
4% are bisexual women.
1% are aromantic.
Less than 1% are gai.
Less than 1% are strait.
Less than 1% are demisexual.
5% can’t define their sexuality with any established term.
4% use no label.
Less than 1% are questioning.
8% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked whether they identify as a man-loving man (MLM) or a woman-loving woman (WLW):
46% of respondents identify as neither.
32% identify as WLW.
13% identify as MLM.
8% identify as both.
When asked whether they use another “x-loving x” label to describe their sexuality:
64% of respondents don’t.
25% identify as nonbinary-loving nonbinary (NBLNB).
22% identify as nonbinary-loving women (NBLW).
15% identify as nonbinary-loving men (NBLM).
10% identify as woman-loving nonbinary (WLNB).
9% identify as man-loving nonbinary (MLNB).
3% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked how they navigate sexual orientation labels as a nonbinary person (“check all that apply” question):
60% of respondents identify as bisexual, pansexual/omnisexual/polysexual, asexual, queer, or another identity term that isn’t associated with a binary gender.
30% identify as a gay man, a lesbian, or straight, and say these orientations are inclusive of nonbinary people.
18% say their orientation is their gender (such as: “my gender is lesbian”, “my gender is bisexual”); they are linked together and can’t be separated.
12% say they can’t find a label that would describe their sexuality without taking their gender into account.
9% say they would like to identify as a gay man, a lesbian, or straight, but they feel like these labels are too tied to binary gender and using them would be misgendering themselves.
2% use a nonbinary-specific orientation label.
5% gave other answers (with the leading answer being saying that they’re asexual so it doesn’t matter, though this was already included in the first answer).
261 respondents gave personal answers regarding sexual orientation.
PART 7: RELATIONSHIP TO THE LGBT COMMUNITY
When asked whether they consider themselves part of the LGBT+ community:
99% of respondents say yes. 1% say no.
(All following questions about participation in the LGBT+ community ask that respondents who do not identify as LGBT+ skip them.)
When asked what real-life LGBT+ spaces they are present in (“check all that apply” question):
43% are unable to frequent real-life LGBT+ spaces: it’s not safe, they’re not out, they aren’t accessible, or there are none nearby.
29% have frequented real-life LGBT+ spaces on a couple occasions, but it’s never been a regular thing for them.
23% are somewhat involved in real-life LGBT+ spaces: they occasionally attend meetings, events, or visit organizations, but it isn’t a big part their my life.
8% choose not to frequent real-life LGBT+ spaces.
6% heavily participate in real-life LGBT+ spaces: they’re a part of organizations or activist groups, they attend LGBT+ meetings, events, and protests frequently…
58% have many real-life LGBT+ friends: most or all of their friend group is LGBT+.
17% have a few real-life LGBT+ friends: their friend group has an even amount of LGBT+ people and people who aren’t LGBT+.
13% have one or two real-life LGBT+ friends, but the majority of their real-life friends aren’t LGBT+.
8% are unable to have real-life LGBT+ friends: it wouldn’t be safe to be around other LGBT+ people, they don’t know any LGBT+ people around them…
Less than 1% choose not to be friends with LGBT+ people.
When asked what online LGBT+ spaces they’re present in (“check all that apply” question):
61% are somewhat involved in online LGBT+ spaces: they may follow a few pages or content creators, and they talk about LGBT+ topics on their personal social media, but their online presence doesn’t revolve around it.
22% heavily participate in online LGBT+ spaces: they run a website or social media page dedicated to LGBT+ topics, they follow and engage with similar content, they create LGBT+ content and/or consume that content.
16% frequented online LGBT+ spaces on a couple occasions, but it’s never been a regular thing for them.
4% choose not to frequent online LGBT+ spaces.
1% are unable to frequent online LGBT+ spaces: it would be unsafe for them, their Internet access is limited or supervised…
70% have many online LGBT+ friends: most or all of their online friend group is LGBT+.
7% have a few online LGBT+ friends: their online friend group has an even amount of LGBT+ people and people who aren’t LGBT+.
2% are unable to have online LGBT+ friends: it wouldn’t be safe for them, or they can’t come in contact with people online for one reason or another.
2% have one or two online LGBT+ friends, but the majority of their online friends aren’t LGBT+.
Less than 1% choose not to be friends with LGBT+ people online.
For respondents who have contact with real-life LGBT+ spaces, when asked how their nonbinary identity has been received there (“check all that apply” question):
36% are not out as nonbinary in real-life LGBT+ spaces.
31% feel their nonbinary identity has been very well received: other LGBT+ people give them great support and they don’t feel disrespected.
25% feel their nonbinary identity has been fairly well received: they’re overall supported, but some people are dismissive or disrespectful of their identity.
14% feel their nonbinary identity has been neutrally received: they don’t get particular support for it, but they don’t feel specifically targeted or disrespected.
10% have experienced very different reception of their gender in different real-life LGBT+ spaces.
8% have only experienced support from transgender and nonbinary people.
6% have specifically experienced rejection from binary trans people.
4% feel their nonbinary identity has been poorly received: they get some support, but a lot of people are disrespectful or dismissive of their gender.
3% have only experienced support from other nonbinary people.
1% feel their nonbinary identity has been very poorly received: they get little to no support, but are frequently faced with dismissal or disrespect.
1% have specifically experienced rejection from transgender and nonbinary people.
1% have specifically experienced rejection from other nonbinary people.
Less than 1% have only experienced support from binary trans people.
For respondents who have had contact with online LGBT+ spaces, when asked how their nonbinary identity has been received there (“check all that apply” question):
9% are not out as nonbinary in online LGBT+ spaces.
52% feel their nonbinary identity has been very well received: other LGBT+ people give them great support and they don’t feel disrespected.
28% feel their nonbinary identity has been fairly well received: they’re overall supported, but some people are dismissive or disrespectful of their identity.
15% feel their nonbinary identity has been neutrally received: they don’t get particular support for it, but they don’t feel specifically targeted or disrespected.
10% have experienced very different reception of their gender in different online LGBT+ spaces.
7% have specifically experienced rejection from binary trans people.
5% have only experienced support from transgender and nonbinary people.
3% feel their nonbinary identity has been poorly received: they get some support, but a lot of people are disrespectful or dismissive of their gender.
2% have only experienced support from other nonbinary people.
2% have specifically experienced rejection from transgender and nonbinary people.
1% have specifically experienced rejection from other nonbinary people.
Less than 1% have only experienced support from binary trans people.
Less than 1% feel their nonbinary identity has been very poorly received: they get little to no support, but are frequently faced with dismissal or disrespect.
When asked whether there are other LGBT+ groups they feel particular solidarity with (“check all that apply” question):
30% of respondents feel the same solidarity with all LGBT+ groups.
44% feel particular solidarity with binary trans people.
44% feel particular solidarity with bisexual people.
39% feel particular solidarity with queer people.
37% feel particular solidarity with lesbians.
31% feel particular solidarity with asexual people.
20% feel particular solidarity with pansexual/polysexual/omnisexual people.
16% feel particular solidarity with gay men.
10% feel particular solidarity with intersex people.
3% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked whether there are other LGBT+ groups they feel less or no solidarity with (“check all that apply” question):
35% of respondents feel the same solidarity with all LGBT+ groups.
32% feel little or no solidarity with asexual people.
28% feel little or no solidarity with pansexual people.
22% feel little or no solidarity with gay men.
14% feel little or no solidarity with intersex people.
12% feel little or no solidarity with lesbians.
11% feel little or no solidarity with queer people.
4% feel little or no solidarity with binary trans people.
2% feel little or no solidarity with bisexual people.
4% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked how they feel other LGBT+ groups receive nonbinary people (“check all you agree with” question):
51% say bisexual people are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
50% say queer people are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
42% say lesbians are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
40% say binary transgender people are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
40% say asexual/aromantic people are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
35% say pansexual/polysexual/omnisexual people are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
34% say pansexual/polysexual/omnisexual people particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
33% say intersex people are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
16% say gay men are particularly supportive of nonbinary people.
16% say binary transgender people are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
14% say gay men are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
9% say lesbians are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
8% say asexual/aromantic people particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
8% say queer people particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
6% say gay men particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
4% say lesbians particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
3% say bisexual people particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
3% say binary transgender people particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
2% say pansexual/polysexual/omnisexual people are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
2% say asexual/aromantic people are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
1% say bisexual people are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
1% say queer people are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
1% say intersex people are particularly hostile to nonbinary people.
Less than 1% say intersex people particularly tokenize or fetishize nonbinary people.
8% of respondents gave other answers.
282 people gave personal answers about their relationship to the LGBT+ community.
PART 8: NONBINARY ISSUES AND TOPICS
When asked whether nonbinary people have always existed:
96% of respondents say yes – there have historically always been nonbinary people, just as long as there have been men and women.
Less than 1% say no – nonbinary genders are a recent creation. It wasn’t always possible to be nonbinary, or nonbinary people are a recent reaction to discussions of gender.
4% of respondents gave other answers, such as questioning the historical relevancy of the gender binary, or indicating that they simply don’t know.
When asked whether you need gender dysphoria to be nonbinary:
94% of respondents say no – gender dysphoria isn’t the only indication of being nonbinary.
3% say yes – the only way you’d know you’re nonbinary is if you have nonbinary gender dysphoria.
3% of respondents gave other answers, many saying they don’t know or don’t care.
When asked whether you can be both nonbinary and a man, a woman, or both:
89% of respondents say yes: you can be a nonbinary man or a nonbinary woman.
5% say yes, but you can only be both at once. Being a mix of a man and a woman is nonbinary, but if you’re only one of the two then you aren’t nonbinary.
1% say no – you can only be nonbinary if you’re neither a man nor a woman in any way.
5% of respondents gave other answers, many giving their personal experience of being nonbinary and a man/a woman/both, or saying they don’t know.
When asked whether you can be nonbinary and a gay man or a lesbian:
62% say yes – you can be a nonbinary man or a nonbinary woman, so you can be a nonbinary gay man or a nonbinary lesbian.
34% say yes – those orientations don’t necessarily describe gender exactly, so if you’re close enough to a gay man or a lesbian you can call yourself one even if you’re nonbinary.
2% say no – those orientations are for men and women, nonbinary people should use other terms or create their own terms.
Less than 1% say you can be a nonbinary lesbian, but you can’t be a nonbinary gay man because it contains the word “man” and you can’t be a man and nonbinary.
2% of respondents gave other answers, many giving a “yes” answer but providing another reason.
When asked whether you can be nonbinary and bisexual:
More than 99% of respondents say yes – anyone can be bisexual since the word “bisexual” doesn’t indicate gender at all.
Less than 1% say no – bisexual only includes binary people.
Less than 1% of respondents gave other answers, most agreeing with the first answer and indicating their belief that you can be nonbinary and bisexual. (This happens with basically every question that has an “other” option. Not sure why everyone keeps adding “other” answers to repeat what I already provided as an answer. Please just pick the answer that I already put in the survey. It’s past midnight it is very tedious counting these.)
When asked whether all nonbinary people are transgender:
82% say all nonbinary people can call themselves transgender, but they may choose not to use the term transgender.
11% say all nonbinary people are transgender whether or not they use the label. Nonbinary people who won’t call themselves transgender are dealing with internalized transphobia.
1% say no – nonbinary people who aren’t aligned with their AGAB are transgender, but those who are aligned with their AGAB aren’t.
1% say no – nonbinary people who are aligned with the opposite binary gender to their AGAB are transgender, nonbinary people who aren’t are not transgender.
Less than 1% say no – nonbinary people who transition are transgender, nonbinary people who don’t transition aren’t.
Less than 1% say no – nonbinary people with dysphoria are transgender, nonbinary people without dysphoria aren’t transgender.
Less than 1% say no – no nonbinary people are transgender. Transgender only describes binary people and nonbinary is a separate category.
4% of respondents gave other answers.
When asked whether gay men and lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary people (“check all you agree with” question):
91% say yes – gay men and lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary people.
15% say yes – but only to nonbinary people who consider themselves aligned with men or women.
1% say no – gay men are only attracted to binary men and lesbians to binary women.
Less than 1% say gay men and lesbians are only attracted to cis people.
1 person said gay men can be attracted to nonbinary people, but lesbians can’t. 1 person said lesbians can be attracted to nonbinary people, but gay men can’t. I thought it was funny that it was just 1 person for each so I included it.
When asked whether bisexual people can be attracted to nonbinary people:
68% said yes – bisexuality includes attraction to all genders.
32% said yes – bisexuality includes attraction to at least two genders, which can include nonbinary people.
Less than 1% say no - bisexuality only includes attraction to binary men and women.
1 person said bisexuality only includes attraction to cis people.
When asked whether straight people can be attracted to nonbinary people:
82% said yes – straight people can be attracted to nonbinary people.
11% said yes – but they can only be attracted to nonbinary people aligned with men or women.
7% said no – straight people are only attracted to binary people.
Less than 1% said straight people are only attracted to cis people.
When asked whether anyone can be attracted to and be in relationships with nonbinary people:
92% say yes – anyone of any orientation can be attracted to nonbinary people.
6% say no – straight people can’t be attracted to nonbinary people but anyone else can.
1% say no – gay men and lesbians can’t be attracted to nonbinary people, but bisexual people and pansexual/omnisexual/polysexual/queer people can.
Less than 1% say no – only pansexual/polysexual/omnisexual/queer people are attracted to or are in relationships with nonbinary people.
297 people gave personal answers about nonbinary topics and issues.
261 people gave personal answers about topics brought up in the survey in the “last thoughts” section.
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The Blacklist, Lizzington & The Weirdest Survey Ever
So... to support an upcoming “meta” (I use that term loosely) about Red’s romantic love for Liz, I sent what I dubbed “The Weirdest Survey Ever” to a male friend of mine. I wanted to get his perspective on how weird/inappropriate some of the things Red does to/for Liz if he ISN’T in love with her.
I wrote out several of the scenarios of things Red does on the show, and asked my friend how likely he would be to do those things to/for/with/about:
A good female friend
A daughter figure/mentee**
A woman you’re in love with but are not in a relationship with
A woman you’re in a relationship with (WHEN APPLICABLE)
(**-my friend initially envisioned his actual daughters during these scenarios, which I felt like skewed the results. I asked him to re-evaluate the questions under the consideration that the woman was not his biological daughter, adoptive daughter, daughter-in-law, stepdaughter, etc., but was simply the daughter of a friend or a student-type figure in his life. I have included his answers under these considerations.)
As you will see, my friend’s responses were that he would be more willing to do those things for a woman he was in a relationship with.
Now, a few clarifications: my friend is happily married to his wife of almost 20 years and they have four kids together (ages 16-4). He has never seen the show, really, but he’s heard me talk about it plenty. I told him exactly what the survey was for, but I asked him to push TBL out of his mind and be as objective as possible.
I will list the questions and his responses below. Feel free to share the survey with your friends, significant others, etc. I don’t have a significant other, or otherwise, I would’ve asked him these questions instead of my poor friend.
Again, keep in mind that this is by no means scientific, as the sample size is one person, and further respondents would help. So, please share the survey and post your friends’ or SO’s responses in a reblog!
P.S. I don’t agree with all of my friend’s answers, but I still think they’re interesting.
QUESTION ONE
Let's say a loved one is going through a personal crisis and you want to comfort and reassure her. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely is it that you would hold your loved one's hand if she was:
A good female friend: 3
A daughter figure/mentee: 3
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 0
A woman you're in a relationship with: 7
QUESTION TWO
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely would you be to spend hundreds of hours helping, protecting, looking after, and if necessary, raising, a child of the following women:
A good female friend: 8
A daughter figure/mentee: 5
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 9
A woman you're in a relationship with (BUT it's not your child): 10
QUESTION THREE
On a scale of 1 to 10, rate how likely it would be for you to describe the following women as "My life, my heart":
A good female friend: 0
A daughter figure/mentee: 0
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 8
A woman you're in a relationship with: 9
QUESTION FOUR
Let's say you have a secret that you're keeping from a loved one that she has a legal right to know, but you don't want to tell her that secret because you're afraid that once she knows the truth, she will hate you and want you out of her life forever. On a scale of 1 to 10, rate how likely it is that you will eventually give in and tell her the secret if she is:
A good female friend: 7
A daughter figure/mentee: 7
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 9
A woman you're in a relationship with: 10
QUESTION FIVE
Let's say you find out that the Significant Other (SO) of a loved one is a complete piece of shit, and you have the resources to extract that SO from your loved one's life (either by killing them, bribing them to leave, etc.). On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to allow that SO to remain in your loved one's life if your loved one is:
A good female friend: 8
A daughter figure/mentee: 3
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 5
QUESTION SIX
Let's say a female loved one is pregnant and has been in an accident. She's in the hospital, and you're waiting to find out how she and the baby are. Your best friend tries to reassure you by conjecturing that everything will be okay, and you flip your shit and yell at him/her that it won't be. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to do so if your loved one who's been in the accident is:
A good female friend: 3
A daughter figure/mentee: 5
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 5
A woman you're now in a relationship with: 10
QUESTION SEVEN
Let's say a loved one has died. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to go into a depression spiral that may include going on a drug bender, giving up most of your career pursuits/hobbies, and/or cutting yourself off from your friends/the world at large, if your loved one is:
A good female friend: 1
A daughter figure/mentee: 1
A woman you were in love with but not in a relationship with: 1
A woman you were in a relationship with: 4
QUESTION EIGHT
Let's say you are having a really nice, personal chat with a loved one and you are describing what she means to you. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely is it for you to compare your loved one to the North Star because she's your "way home" or to a ray of light in a dark cave, if your loved one is:
A good female friend: 2
A daughter figure/mentee: 1
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 8
A woman you're in a relationship with: 9
QUESTION NINE
Let's say a loved one is getting married and you have serious doubts about it because you believe her SO is keeping major secrets from her. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to ask her, to implore her not to marry her SO, if your loved one is:
A good female friend: 6
A daughter figure/mentee: 3
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 8
QUESTION TEN
Let's say you are reflecting on the fact that you almost watched another loved one die recently. You are standing at an open grave in a cemetery and talking about "foundational elements in our lives ... people who form the brick and mortar of who we are ... people who are so deeply embedded that we take their existence for granted until suddenly they're not there and we collapse into rubble." You also mention you have lost several loved ones, including a parent. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely would you be to do such a thing if the loved one who almost died was:
A good female friend: 5
A daughter figure/mentee: 3
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 6
A woman you're in a relationship with: 10
QUESTION ELEVEN
Let's say you're about to die. Your killer/executioner allows you just enough time to say some last words, so you say the name of a loved one. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to say the name of the following women:
A good female friend: 0
A daughter figure/mentee: 0
A woman you're in love with but not in a relationship with: 10
A woman you're in a relationship with: 10
QUESTION TWELVE
Let's say you have just watched your loved one die in an ambulance while en-route to the hospital. You must leave the ambulance and your loved one's body behind. On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to kiss her forehead and eye socket (but not her lips!!!) as you depart, if she is:
A good female friend: 3.5
A daughter figure/mentee: 2
A woman you were in love with but not in a relationship with: 9
A woman you were in a relationship with: 10
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Tumblr as a liminal Third Place
If I were still in Academics, I'd love to research the idea that Tumblr succeeds where other social media sites have failed in being at least liminally a Third Place, in reference to Oldenburg's sociological theories (see Oldenburg & Brissett's "The Third Place", 1982). Oldenburg suggests that humans cannot thrive without a public gathering place outside of the home (the First Place) and work (the Second Place), historically taking the form of local taverns, barber shops, cafes, etc.
The idea of a digital Third Place is not new, with clear parallels declared in guilds and communities formed in MMORPGs (see Wimmer's "There Is No Place Like Home", 2014). However, previous attempts to apply the model to social media have failed (see Hay's "'Social Media' Does Not Meet Our Social Needs", 2020), probably because the websites sampled are always Twitter and Facebook, notable hell-sites. But where did they go wrong?
"Oldenburg's characteristics" were enumerated to assess what makes a functional Third Place (See Sleeman's "There's No Home Like Place?", 2012):
neutral ground: there is no obligation to attend, and individuals are free to come and go as they please;
leveller: an individual's status in society is separate from their status here, and everyone is much closer to equals;
accessible and accommodating: "it keeps long hours, is largely unplanned, and is accommodating and meeting of occupant's needs";
regulars: "keep the place alive, who help set the place's tone, its mood and characteristics";
non-pretentious, plain, homely;
conversation: as the main activity, lively and light-hearted;
playful mood: "the place exists because of the 'let's do this again' urge that it engenders";
home away from home: "feelings of warmth, intimacy, possession, and belonging".
Twitter and Facebook users reported 20% experienced a playful mood, and 25% felt it was like a home away from home. Not great! The idea that conversation was the main activity also fell short, at just 35%, and only 38% found the experience non-pretentious. (everything else scored above 40%, which forms or at least approaches consensus.)
And here's where a properly conducted study of Tumblr users would be interesting. This website is not a unified cultural monolith, but temporarily ignoring the sex-bots is likely a largely contiguous web of users and content creators sharing and filtering content based on overlapping spheres of interest. The big questions are: (i) Does Tumblr present a home away from home? (ii) Does Tumblr present a more playful mood than Twitter and Facebook? (iii) Is conversation the main activity? (iv) Is Tumblr an unpretentious site?
We're throwing away point (iv), because I think everyone is surprised every day that this site is still running; intentionally or not, they've cultivated an air of a duct-taped smoke-chugging science experiment threatening to explode without notice. And that's charming.
Anecdotally I think we've passed (i) and (ii), but with a very context-laden asterisk: It's playful and a home away from home as long as you aren't swinging at bee hives. The common lament of "what's going on in the notes" shows that some people are here for the digital country bar experience of getting in a fight with a stranger, and every so often someone doxxes a bone thief. I won't argue the merits of this, but it's distinctly against the spirit of the Third Place. For those who are just here to reblog some things they like from people who share an interest or two, though? Sure! I'd give it a pass; I think most people log on to Tumblr to while away some time semi-socially skimming bite-size bits of media they like.
The word "semi-social" is crucial here, because it goes against the idea that (iii) conversation is the main activity. There is a chat feature, but I mean. Come on. Interaction is a little looser than forums and message boards; most interaction is a like or reblog, often with nothing added except for a tag or two, which is only marginally interactive.
But there's something striking about the pseudo-social dynamic of asynchronously sharing art, jokes, music, recommendations, and news without needing to explain why. This is a thing you like, and that's enough; maybe your acquaintances will like it too.
So I don't think we've hit (iii), and I don't think social media will ever manage to; that just isn't the format. And so, the clarifying "liminal", to show that we aren't quite in a Third Place together, but all next to it, at the border, all happily lounging at the threshold sharing a space without actually occupying it, like a herd of geographically strewn-about cats.
#n#this was supposed to be a little blurb#whoops!#anyways tl;dr: tumblr is neat i like it#and the loss of less commercialized Third Places in N. America is very upsetting
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Review for: @yaltonrp
Under the read more is a review for Yalton RP. Reviews are my opinion and I will do my best to be constructive. If you have any questions or want to follow up with a message, feel free. Please like or reblog so I know you’ve seen this.
First Impressions: Your URL doesn’t give me much indication about what the group is, but it has the right kind of sound. It sounds like a mixture of Yale and Dalton, which are both prestigious sounding words. It makes me think it’s either some kind of academy or possibly a town RP. Your icon is nice and simple, but the purple is very eye-catching.
Theme: I love this theme. It looks like a University homepage and its bright, clear, well laid out. You have good contrast levels, a nice color scheme with enough bold color without over-doing it, and everything seems to have enough space without being cramped together. The only thing I would possibly change is to have your body font be a sans serif font. Typically speaking, those are clearer and easier to read on web pages, with serif fonts being easier to read in print. That being said, it’s not a huge deal if you keep the font you have because the font is big and clear enough. I just think it would look more professional. Real life websites that use Times New Roman generally look cheap. Here's an example of a local college website in my area with a sans serif font: (x)
Graphics: I already said how much I like the colors. The purples and whites look really good together, and the large image of the front of the school on the header looks like somewhere I would like to go to college, as well as looking like something I’d see on a real college site rather than on a roleplay. Your character graphics have the same feel going for them, not too flashy, not too overcrowded, but with a nice balance of colors and a nice layout.
Plot: There isn’t much to say here. It tells me a little bit about the history of the school which would give me some nice in-universe knowledge and context for my characters, but it’s just a basic school setting, which is fine. It seems like a laid back environment to write original characters. For roleplayers that want that kind of group, your plot is perfect. For people who like more plot driven and genre based groups, your roleplay probably isn’t for them, but I have a feeling that’s not what you’re going for anyway.
Rules: Your rules are fine. They lay out clearly what’s expected in terms of your behavior and activity. I do think asking for activity every 4 days on a plotless group with no character limit may be a bit much, because without an ongoing plot, it can be difficult to find plots and threads for all your characters, but I understand you want activity to be regular. I tend to view 5-7 days as a good activity limit as it allows people more time to not have muse or prioritise other life events, but 4 days is the minimum I’d expect as reasonable. It’s also great that you discuss triggers and smut. I would also suggest a rule about having an accessible blog (clear, easy to navigate, decent font size, etc) for the inclusion of visually impaired people and people with disabilities.
I like your rule about diverse face claims and what that entails, although I think you could be a bit clearer about trans and non binary characters. It can be difficult to find transgender face claims due to a lack of resources, and while as a trans person I can definitely say a trans face is preferable, sometimes I find myself using a cis faceclaim for a trans role simply because I can’t find anyone else that fits. So in that case, would you be judging by the face claim, or the character?
Bios: I’m of the opinion that tagging triggers in a bio is best practice as it gives people an overview of what to expect before they read any further, meaning they don’t have to read any content they aren’t comfortable with, so kudos on that. You have a good range of face claims already, especially considering so few characters have been posted. Your bios are a good length and tell you what you need to know about the character. I’m unsure of using the term cis to describe an intersex character as many intersex people aren’t comfortable with this assessment (you can read more here). It might simply be better to describe Young Jin as an ‘intersex male’, though considering I’m not intersex, I’m not an authority on this. I’d just suggest researching how intersex people typically feel about being labelled either cis or trans.
App: You ask for pronouns and triggers, which is basically the minimum I expect from a roleplay these days, but it’s surprising how many don’t do it. You ask for everything you need to know about the player and character, and I appreciate the fact you don’t ask for an IC sample because when you’re trying out new OCs it can be difficult to write new samples for each of them when you’re just learning about them.
Admins: No mascot posts, you have a great tone and seem really nice and professional as well as being informed about the importance of diversity. You have a page about yourselves that makes you sound nice and friendly, and I feel like I know a little about you so that I can message you with things.
Anything else: Not that I can think of.
Would I join/rec: I would do both, which is strange considering I’m usually one of the people who wants a more plot/genre driven RP. It seems like a nice, relaxed place to play your original characters.
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Beginning a Bullet Journal: The Idiots Guide
While I hate the term ‘idiot’ in any relation, if you need help with starting a bullet journal for the first time, this post is for you.
But before I truly begin, I just have two things to shout at all of you, first. The main thing I want to shout at you about is this: DO NOT FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO MATCH ALL OF THE SPREADS YOU SEE ONLINE or BE SUPER DUPER CREATIVE. Bullet journaling is something meant for you. I always see people, in the various Facebook Bullet Journal groups I am a member of, say they’re intimidated because of the creativity they see throughout the online world, or that they don’t want to begin bullet journaling because they don’t think they’ll “live up” to the spreads they see when they’re online. Let me just tell you something right now – you do not need to be creative to have a bullet journal and you most definitely do not need to live up to the spreads of anyone else.
You’ll read me saying this a lot, so I might as well get this first time out of the way - BULLET JOURNALS ARE MEANT FOR YOU. They’re meant to help you become more organized, they’re meant to help guide you in whatever step is next in life and most importantly, they’re your bullet journals. If you find yourself being one of the few people who say ‘but all of these people have creative spread and I just jot down things,’ take a breather. This is your journal, not theirs.
Make your journal to suit you.
That being said, let’s truly begin this post. Now, I know there are a bunch of other blogs and youtube videos and tumblr sites out there that explain bullet journaling and all of that fun stuff but I’m here to try and simplify this to the best of my ability.
From this point on, I’m assuming you already know what a Bullet Journal is. If not — oops? (If not, there are a variety of other places you could go to, but I would highly recommend the original website)
So - where do you begin?
Step 0 - The Lingo
Spread = a type of page in your journal. It can be one page, two pages, or more.
Daily/Dailies - A spread that focuses on one day of the week.
Weekly/Weeklies - A spread that focuses on the week you’re in.
Monthly/Monthlies - A spread that focuses on the entire month.
Dailies/Weeklies and Monthlies can be as many pages as you like.
Signifier - A little symbol that marks something in your book. A ♥ could be for date night or • could be for a note.
Step 1 - Finding the perfect Book
The answer to this is simple - by finding a book to use. It can be a Moleskine book, a Leuchtturm1917, or a simple book from your local dollar store, wal-mart, target or even grocery store. Trust me when I tell you that any book will do, as long as it’s something that suits you. Also, the book can be any size. It can be small, it can be super large. It doesn’t matter.
Another fun fact - the books can be blank, lined, dotted, grid, canvas, actual planner, whatever. As long as it suits you, it doesn’t matter what type of notebook and/or planner you use.
So essentially, any book, any size, planner or not, if you want to use it, use it.
The next step, of course, is as follows:
Step 2 - Finding the perfect Tools
Most websites, instagram accounts, tumblr accounts, youtube videos and Facebook groups will tell you otherwise, or make you feel otherwise, but the only real tools you’ll need for a bullet journal is a pen – or even a pencil, yes. What you add after that, is completely up to you. The color doesn’t matter. The type of pen doesn’t matter. You can use whatever you want, because remember, the bullet journal is suited to you, for you. If you plan on using markers or anything heavier than a pen, you may want to do a pen test in the back to check for bleeding or ghosting, but it is all up to you.
You can, of course, go gung ho with your tools - you can buy mildliners (also referred to as 'midliners’), staedtlers, stabilos, washi tape, stencils, stickers, etc. You can buy whatever you want, if you want, just please note – these aren’t necessary to complete a bullet journal. You can also buy them whenever you want - the beginning of your journey, the middle, the end, whenever. It’s always going to be up to you.
Even small tools, like pencil cases or add-ons, are not necessary. The only thing necessary for bullet journaling is a book, a pen, and yourself.
So, now you know that the only thing important in beginning a bullet journal is three things: The notebook (any kind, from any where, with any type of paper); a writing utensil (pen, marker, pencil, etc) and yourself.
Step 3 - Beginning your Bullet Journal
So, now you know the type of book you use only matters to yourself. Same with the type of utensils. Are you still a little nervous to begin your bullet journal? If so, then try practicing on sample sheets of paper, or using post it notes to sort out layouts of different spreads.
Even then, if you’re still a little nervous, most notebooks come with a beginning page, where, if anything, you should at least put your contact info in, in case you lose your journal.
After all of that, are you still nervous? First, that’s completely okay. Everyone was nervous. Second, a lot of people on Facebook tell me to just go for it. And personally, I kind of agree. Everyone makes mistakes, or ends up not liking a spread. When this happens you can either move on or cover it up. Point is, don’t let the idea of making mistakes or not liking something you end up doing hindering you. There are a lot of spreads I do not like, but grew from.
Are you not nervous, ready to jump in to making your bullet journal? Awesome :D First things first - CONTACT INFORMATION. You want that in your book on the off chance you lose it or misplace it somewhere. Trust me.
Second things second - The 'key’. The key is generally a list of what you use as 'signifiers’ for a task you want to do or something. A lot of people use the general check mark and 'x’ symbol but some people have more. Some keys have a list of colors used throughout the journal. Your key can be as simple as you want it. You don’t even have to have a key. It’s all up to you!
Thirdly, an Index Page. The index page is essentially a table of contents. It usually lists all of the spreads you have and what pages they’re on. It’s usually at the beginning of the book. Some people use it as a table of contents in put it in the back of the book. Some people use it as an actual index, where the subject is listed and what pages they’re on, and put it in the back of the book. Some people don’t even have an index. It’s completely up to you.
Then, a 'future log’. The future log lists all twelve months in a year, or six months, or three months. Once again, your journal, your decision, it truly does not matter. It lists the important dates to you and that way you can look and see what’s coming up if you’re making weeklies or monthlies later on. The dates can be anything from holidays and birthdays, to school related events and doctors appointments. Hell, it could even list social media dates or important television shows coming back, it does not matter.
Step 4 - What Comes Next?
What comes next is completely up to you. Hopefully, you have some idea, maybe by looking online, through youtube videos, other blog posts, etc. Just remember:
mistakes can be made
you don’t need washi tape or stickers
it doesn’t need to have a lot of color if you don’t want it to.
it doesn’t need to be as 'creative’ or 'pretty’ as everyone else’s.
you can begin a new journal whenever you want.
the journal is meant to help you.
If you have any questions, please don’t be afraid to ask. This is also posted on my wordpress, if you find it there.
tagging some blogs who may wanna reblog: @obsidianstudy @studyign @haleystudies @emmastudies
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