It’s a luxury to be the owner of one’s time. I think it’s one of the greatest luxuries human beings can afford themselves.
Valérie Perrin, Fresh Water for Flowers
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I think this book deserves special praise. If you know me well enough you know I have my own relationship with cemeteries and death. It probably stems from my dad dying when I was 7, and the habit of visiting his grave quite frequently. Cemeteries have always brought me peace. They've brought me sadness too, on occasion, but mainly peace. I wish more people would feel the same.
And believe me, I tried! Since I was 19 I've been cunningly bringing cemeteries into my films - and forcing crew members to involuntarily look at them as commonplace. I've even had beloved friends meet in a cemetery in one of the shoots and fall in love. This book was recommended to me by a dear friend who knew I would like it without even reading it first. The main character works in a cemetery as a groundskeeper. We get to know her own story as she shares the story of the people connected to the cemetery - dead and living.
We are never ready for tragedies because they are always so sad. But there can be peace in sadness, we just have to find it, to feel it. And once we do, it doesn't go away. Like the people we love never really go away, they simply become memory. What is a cemetery but a library of memories?
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Book rec list for Autumn vibes
It is officially Autumn, which means time to say goodbye to bright shiny days and welcome the dark, colorful melancholy of upcoming winter.
For those of you who, as am I, wish to be curled up with a book while rainy showers storm the outside world, here is the list of books which gave me perfect vibe for that.
Let me know your own recommendation in the comments! Always looking forward to expanding my TBR list.
The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield
Beautiful gothic story, sprinkled with mystery and suspense.
Fresh Water for Flowers by Valérie Perrin
The story follows a young woman, working as cemetery caretaker. It’s a journey of grief and love, beautifully tragic as life itself.
A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman
If the second book is too hard for you, here comes Ove for the rescue! Not without touchy moments, this book shows a light in the dark tunnel we sometimes find ourselves in.
The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
Now if I could shout from rooftops about this book, I’d absolutely do so. Written so beautifully and honestly, it’s impossible to put it down once you started reading it.
Now that list is definitely a sentimental read. What do you think of it? Have you read any of these books? I would love to hear your opinions and more recommendations.
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For a long time, I wondered whether I was disguised, or whether it was myself that I had found, discovered for the first time.
Fresh Water for Flowers by Valérie Perrin
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Ginger and Hibiscus Jelly
The most surprising use of this versatile and fragrant Ginger and Hibiscus Jelly might be as a condiment for oysters; but it works! The sharp tang of the jelly beautifully balances the salty creaminess of the shell! But if you prefer it on its own, as a condiment for venison, with which it also pairs gorgeously, for dessert or at breakfast, this lovely, wobbly thing will suits your fancies nicely!
Ingredients (makes about a cup):
1 thumb-sized piece fresh ginger
1/4 cup dried hibiscus flowers
1 1/2 cup water
1 gelatin leaf
2 tablespoons caster sugar9
Peel ginger and cut into thin strips.
Combine ginger strips and dried hibiscus flowers into a small saucepan. Pour in the water. Heat over a low flame. Once boiling, remove from the heat and allow to infuse, 15 minutes.
Soak gelatin leaf in a bowl of cold water.
Strain mixture thoroughly and return collected ginger and hibiscus water to the saucepan. Bring to a slow boil over medium heat. Stir in caster sugar until dissolved. Simmer, a few minutes.
Squeeze water out of the gelatin leaf and stir it into the hot ginger and hibiscus mixture until completely melted. Remove from the heat, and pour ginger and hibiscus jelly into a shallow plate or small silicon molds. Allow to set overnight, in the refrigerator.
Serve Ginger and Hibiscus Jelly as a condiment for oysters, on its own or onto yoghurt or toasts...
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You must learn to be generous with your absence to those
who haven’t understood the importance of your presence.
Valérie Perrin, Fresh Water for Flowers
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a year and one day ago, one of my favourite people in the world, my kindred spirit, my uncle chris, died of a heart attack. he was a kind sensitive gay man who loved to read and travel and make people laugh and wake you up in the middle of the night to go out for ice cream if he was lonely. he had a peculiar interest in clowns and circuses and trains. he loved dogs more than people and people more than anything else in the world. i never got the chance to talk to him about being autistic but i’m almost 99% sure he was.
i couldn’t say anything about him on the day because i was absolutely inconsolable. i sat on the shower floor until it went cold and sobbed for hours so hard i threw up and then didn’t speak the rest of the day. and then, late at night, i went out for ice cream and was served by an old queen covered in pride pins who was around his age, and he reminded me of him, and it helped a microscopic amount. my mom told him we lost our uncle and he looked at me and i wanted to tell him “you remind me of him” because i know he would’ve understood, but i couldn’t make any words come out, so we just looked at each other a moment. i don’t remember anything else about that night. except that it rained really hard for a long time. i still go there for ice cream occasionally and he serves us every single time and he talks as if we’re good friends, even though i never do much of the talking.
anyway. i went back to look at his obituary today and it feels like it just happened. or like it didn’t happen at all. idk. but the thing that’s getting me the most is i’m looking through his photo gallery and there’s pictures of him in his teens and 20s and like….. we would’ve been friends. i just know we would have. despite how quiet i was in school, despite how quiet HE was in school, he would’ve seen me one day and said smth to make me smile like he always did and we would’ve been best friends from then on. but i was born 30 years too late and instead of befriending me first he befriended my grandmother and mother, and instead of going to school with him every day he called me nearly every day to do animal impressions. mr. cow says hello. mr. sheep says good morning. mr. horse is passing the phone to silly chris now. we grew up calling him silly chris. that was just his name. one word. sillychris.
idk where i’m going with this post but i just wanted the world to know that i miss him, and that when my nephew is finally big enough to use the phone he’ll have to speak to my secretary mrs. horse
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