#'forget about sex'

[scorpiusmalfoylovesoscarwilde]

you know, as an asexual who still enjoys viewing sexual content in like books fanfiction and films and things, it's all fun and games until I remember that people actually DO THOSE THINGS?? LIKE IN REAL LIFE?? REGULARLY??🧍🏻‍♂️like WHAT DO YOU MEAN SEX ISNT A FANFICTION TROPE??? 😭 crazy out here man

#i genuienly forget sex is like #a super duper important part of life to majority of the population #like what are you talking about #what do you mean #stahp #what do you mean people look at me weirdly when i say me and my fiance do not in fact have sex?!?!? #what do you mean that would be a deal breaker for you!??!?!?!! #what do you mean you actually go out and DO THESE THINGS IN REAL LIFE?!??!?!?!? #anywayz hope yall allosexuals are having fun i forget youre real <3 #this is a light hearted post woo sex liberation woo yall are allowed to enjoy sex 🥳 #and im allowed to enjoy sex by convincing myself its only inaginary <3 #lmao #asexual #fanfiction #asexuality

[bixels]

Your au takes place in the 1920’s. I know your au has rarijack, are there any issues because of them being lesbians or is that not really a problem (the general existence of cadence may have caused people to be more accepting sooner idk)

Not really a problem. This AU's supposed to be fun, it wouldn't be fun having to write 90% of characters and settings as vehemently and violently anti-gay. At the very least, bigotry still exists, but social progress is more similar to the 2010s, where queerness is more normalized.

#but also don't forget that the 1920s was extremely queer #especially in europe and france #so if you're gonna @ me about historical revisionism remember this era was very gay #there were same-sex kisses in movies in 1922 then 1925 then 1927 #one of the most popular songs in the 1920s was called “masculine women! feminine men!” #chalk it up to magic existing ig everyone's just more chill #ask me #tana-draws #but yeah it wouldn't be fun to have to navigate rarity and aj's relationship and also have everyone in the town hating them and #trying to keep them seperate under god's watchful eye lest they're condemned to burn in hell forever as sinners

[vigilskeep]

can you talk about misinterpretations of wynne and zevran's dynamic??? i'm chewing on your analysis

i think it’s a very basic case of people simply taking what is said at face value, in a way that comes up a lot with your classic zevran misinterpretations and uhhh oversimplifications. zevran and wynne’s banters are full of his classic exaggerated flirtations. all of their banters hinge on this joke and they’re very funny. but i’m always mildly stunned when i see people taking that as... zevran actually literally just being horny AGSHSKKSKS

i don’t think people give zevran enough credit for how clever he is at dancing around the other companions. nobody ever really gets one up on him. i can think of one specific instance in banter where i do think something gets under his skin, which i think oghren of all people manages essentially by accident the one time he’s actually not really trying

anyway: wynne opens their first banter with “you must know that murder is wrong, i assume.” it’s very wynne; she makes a judgement and announces it as fact. zevran is slightly stunned by this and also how funny it is: “i’m sorry... are you speaking to me?” with this incredible disbelieving pause because, like, he’s the party assassin. but he’s also playing for time quickly on how to react to this out of nowhere. wynne then explains the simple narrative she’s constructed that joining the party is due to a crisis of conscience on zevran’s part about being an assassin. and zevran immediately jumps into exaggerated agreement, and once he gets a better idea, the first of his flirtations with her, until she gives up in exasperation. it’s an evasion tactic zevran is very, very good at and has been doing to you, the player, since his first appearance on screen. he wants to play on the characters he performs when they’re useful shields, whether it’s the victim or the flirt or what have you. but also always with that ironic air that he’s clearly doing a bit; there’s the charm of letting you in on a private joke, but also he needs everything to be a faintly ridiculous game to him, so he doesn’t have to be affected

zevran keeps this joke up for the full extent of his banters with wynne through the whole game, because he finds it wildly entertaining, of course, and because he has no interest in ever inviting the conversation she wants. he so badly doesn’t want to deal with her asking this that he decides to run this bit into the GROUND, and starts doing it pre-emptively to ward her off even after she stops trying to instigate the conversation. bc wynne may be a good way off the mark, and, ironically for someone wanting zevran to take this seriously, not able to imagine that his life and feelings may be more complex than assumed (absolutely classic spirit behaviour once again), but she is needling at his reasons for leaving the crows, which is the last thing wants to be honest with anyone about

making the assumption that zevran is flirting with wynne out of genuine interest is, to me, the same mistake as thinking zevran when you first meet the warden is flirting out of genuine interest. this is how he knows to stay alive. if he let his guard down, he’d be dead; if he wasn’t charming, he’d be dead; and if he ever stopped to dwell instead of being the “eternal optimist”, always instinctually grasping at one more chance to live another day, he’d be very, very dead. he’s not going to casually discuss vulnerabilities for someone else’s peace of mind and he definitely doesn’t have the kind of insecurity to need to explain himself to people who don’t know him or what they’re talking about. so, rogue evasion abilities activate! it’s time for him to dodge! which is what he spends the entire series of banters doing. but also he’s just still finding it funny throughout. she just gives him so much ammunition. it’s like taking candy from a baby. zevran loves an old and terrible joke repeated for several months solid, they age like wine to him

i also think wynne’s comments are a light jab at how zevran does get read by players. he’s not ashamed of being an assassin. there’s this great line in one of his dialogues with the warden that asks why he shouldn’t continue to do what he’s good at when so few have come by his skills “honestly”, as he believes he has. there’s a tendency to characterise him and characters like him as, ah, the guilt-ridden victim in need of a pure-hearted saviour to show him the light, etc etc, but that’s never been who he is. there’s no ending where he suddenly quits being an assassin lmao

#zevran arainai #wynne #hope this makes sense aha i just remembered i got this ask and had to scribble smth before i forget again #wynnes banters are so elite ive said this before but everyone else gets levelled up a notch with her #anyway its just the usual point about zevran: sex is the distraction. the character who is about sex is literally alistair

[dyke-pollinator]

Come sit in my lap babe I'll teach you how to untap, upkeep, draw.

#maintaining board state is important #dont forget your upkeep triggers #thats right you can stack them however you want #this is about magical the gathering #the magic is the gay sex we had along the way

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

intensely funny to see people freaking out at tommy mentioning the dsmp like I don’t even watch him much lately but he takes any opportunity to bring it up he fucking loves that server and c!tommy y'all literally haven’t watched a single one of his videos ever in your life.

#like TommyInnit is legit probably the biggest dsmp fan #I mean green asshole clearly didn’t give a shit about it except to continue his favourite hobby of intense misogyny #and making sex jokes about children can’t forget that

[scrivler]

I’m tired of seeing one of few canonically aroace characters in media be unyieldingly sexualized and shipped by the fans

“Aro/ace people can still be in relationships/have sex though!!”

Okay cool. Not what I was talking about.

#I am aroace I KNOW #I just want to be able to have an aroace character that isn’t represented by the fandom almost entirely through being sexualized and shipped #OKAY sure he’s hot thirst after him then I don’t care #but I’ve seen so many fan portrayals that just completely disregard him being aroace #and yes we can be in relationships yes we can have sex #but let them still be ace #yes this is about alastor #alastor #put that man in a QPR with the cannibal woman I forget the name of #THATS good shit #aromantic #asexual #aroace

[scholar-of-yemdresh]

Hot take but the aggressive hardline separation of asexual and aromantic is actually EXTREMELY harmful to a lot of ace/aro people.

Angry rant under the cut

It's one to thing to go: "okay yes sometimes they go together but it's important to remember that for some people they can be different things and you can be one and not the other"

And go: "These are TOTALLY DIFFERENT 100 always separate there is no intersection EVER and if you DARE to be both then you have to piecemeal your identity to not uwu invalidate others(we do not care that we are invalidating you though lol) Don't you DARE ever experience them together you are CONFLATING"

It's like yall just want asexual to = alloromantic only and aromantic to = allosexual only.

You don't give a shit about aroaces, aces who aren't alloromantic but don't ID as aromantic or aros who aren't allosexual but don't ID as asexual.

The aspec community despises us. We get talked down to demanded to split our identities apart for your comfort. We can't exist in certain spaces because our presence there is a personal affront to allo-aspecs. Shout out to the alloaros that bitch about those disgusting aroaces just clogging up the aromantic tag ☺. Shout out to the alloaces who can still love and aren't totally heartless monsters 🥺.

Don't talk about ace shit in the aro tags, Don't talk about aro shit in the ace tags...what's that you're both? And can't neatly separate them and it brings you comfort to be able to discuss your whole orientation? SHUT THE FVCK UP YOU CONFLATING IGNORANT SHIT HEAD.

If you want to be in the aromantic community you have to leave your ace-ness at the door same for asexual community and disregarding your aromantism.

A personal example was an Aspec discord server I was in that had two media recs channels one for sex repulsed people and the other for romance repulsed. Now the issue came is that they didn't acknowledge someone could be both i.e both sex & romance repulsed/just looking for media that had neither sexual nor romantic content, what this lead too is that the romance free media channel was filled with graphic hookup erotica or sexually explicit songs and the sex free channel was just fade to black romance books 🙃...wonderful.

Or when polls/forms will ask you to pick your orientation but only things listed are het,gay,bi/pan yes even the ones made by aspecs, and what they actually mean is use the one that correlates to your romantic/sexual attraction...so fvck aroaces and non sam aces & aros?

And don't get me started on how you treat non sam aces & aros. You at least tolerate the self IDing aroaces, because they have the "curtesy" of separating themselves from the real proper aces & aros.(let's not question how many aroaces would prefer to just ID as just asexual or just aromantic but are forced into aroace identity because that would be "conflating" and they don't want to deal with the harassment).

"UwU don't say asexual when you actually mean aromantic" Some bitches don't use to SAM fvck off with allo-splaining my own sexuality to me.

It would be so much easier and save a lot of pain if yall just went : "asexual for some means no sexual attraction and it says nothing of your romantic attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally". And "aromantic for some means no romantic attraction and it says nothing of your sexual attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally" and "for some they are separated but others not so much as there isn't always a strict separation. Just be chill about it don't accuse people of being ignorant or conflating they know their identities better than you". But no ya chose violent aphobia instead.

But ultimately nobody cares because this shit is only harming the undesirable aces/aros the ones who are harmful stereotypes the ones that make you "look bad".

I know deep in my heart there are a lot of alloaces & alloaros that who would be happy if aroaces & non sam aces/aros didn't exist, there I said it. How can I not come to that conclusion when at every turn they shit on us. They talk about how the worst thing in the world is to be mistaken for one of us. That our representation is actively harmful.

A last parting spicy take it's either "asexulity and aromantism are full identities on their own and aren't modifiers" OR "actually neither asexual nor aromantic can stand on their own they need to be paired with another orientation and they actually are just modifiers" you can't have it both ways. 🤭

#asexual #aromanticism #aro #ace #non sam aro #aphobia #acephobia in the aro community #arophobia in the ace community #vent #i love how no matter what alloaces & alloaros can take a break from being aphobic to eachother and join forces where it really matters #being aphobic and hateful towards aroaces! I LOVE that aspec solidarity #the community also despises sex & romance repulsed aspecs but that's a rant for another day #also can we talk about how this has embolden full on allos to talk shit on aroaces??? excuse me??? #when an allo bitch is talking down to you about how you're using asexual or aromantic wrong #bitch who the fvk are you? gtfo outta aspec spaces now interloper #aroace #non sam ace #I'm pissed so i might delete later lol #never forget the time on reddit i made a long post pleading with the community not to force the sam on all aces #and that non sam aces aren't ignorant or invalidating anyone and we should be shown grace and acceptance in the community #...only for an (allo?)ace to basically say it's my fault if people assume I'm alloace or accuse me of conflating if i ID as just ace #lol get bent #i just might start saying aces & alloaces/aros & alloaros #bc yall allo aspecs aren't the default ace/aro and it's time you learned that :) #you do not get to stomp over the “undesirables” and call it advocacy

[fromperdition4]

You Never Cared (Enough)

This. This is the moment, I think, where Porsche finally admits to himself he wants Kinn.

Because Porsche isn’t really arguing against Kinn’s point here.

Kinn does care about his people - we’ll see very clear examples of that later in the series (when he’s grieving for Big and Erica, when he saves Pol and Pete during the shootout, etc.), and Porsche has concrete proof that Kinn cares just as much about him -

But Porsche doesn’t want Kinn to see him as an employee - a responsibility. He doesn’t even want to be seen as a friend.

He wants Kinn to admit that being with Porsche meant something… different. That he didn’t just use Porsche, to get it out of his system, when he was an easy target.

Because it was different for Porsche.

As far as we know, the end of episode 4 was the first time Porsche had sex with a man, the first time he’d had sex after being drugged, and… the first time he’d had sex with someone he really liked. Someone he’d been starting to get to know, who irritated and intrigued him all at once, instead of just a one-time fling.

And he barely got any time to process all of that - his sexuality, his autonomy, his feelings - before Kinn shut down, put more distance between them than ever before, and became cruel -

So it’s only now, after getting time away to get back to who he was - in his own house, spending time with his brother and friends - that Porsche has finally worked out just why he’s so hurt by Kinn.

That, despite everything, he doesn't want to be just one of Kinn's people.

He wants Kinn to care more about him.

#kinnporsche #kpanniversary2024 #kinn #porsche #ep 4 #ep 2 #ep 3 #ep 8 #ep 10 #ep 14 #(small references for those last ones haha) #porsche's line here always stuck in my craw #because it seemed like he was just forgetting ep 2 and 3 #and what he already thanked kinn for #but they're really having two separate conversations here #kinn wants to get things back to normal #after messing it up more and more with every new decision #and porsche can't go back #not any more #(disclaimer that I’m not focusing much on the sex itself) #(and the dubiously consensual nature of it) #(because I think this particular moment is about porsche struggling with his feelings for kinn) #(but coming to terms with that was a major part of his struggle earlier in the ep) #(and I think that’s why he was able to forgive him fairly easily in ep 6) #(because he’d done a lot to process it prior)

[wikiangela]

gonna finally make a tag list

so, if you wanna be tagged whenever I post new fics, please interact with this post

#this is about oneshots tbh #if I post a multichapter (which will be the alive shannon but it's a while till then) I'll make a separate tag list #tag list #wikiangela writes #my fics #random time to make this post but I always forget until I post another fic lol #phone sex buddie is coming soon so figured it's the perfect time for a tag list now haha

[sunmisbf]

i just saw a post about lucas getting a documentary n how he said he wanted to die i’m cryinggggg why is he telling us about it instead of doing it @ lucas

#i’m sorry but he got accused of pressuring a girl into sex n lying about being monogamous so he wouldn’t have to wear a condom hello #did everyone just forget. i feel like ppl didn’t see past the dozen jokes #n it doesn’t seem like he’s defending himself at all this just confirms to me that he did do those things n now he’s trying to victimize #himself? i don’t feel bad for u n if u feel that bad kys about it #.txt

[soapbubbles511]

There will only rarely be actual guests at that inn. They're just going to take turns roleplaying as an inn guest. And it will genuinely be 50/50 whether it turns into a sex thing each time.

Half the time one of them will just roleplay as a guest and tell the other what a lovely inn they have. Compliment them on the lovely fish they caught for dinner. The sheets are made from such fine fabric. The towels are folded very nicely. And then check out and leave a nice review on Ye Olde Yelp.

The other half will end in "oh Mr. Innkeeper, I have no money. How can I pay you for my room?" 😏

#ofmd #ofmd s2 spoilers #our flag means death #edward teach #stede bonnet #ed/stede #not that the first scenario won't often lead to the second #but half the time they get so wrapped up in their elaborate guest story that they forget about the sex part

[spookygibberish]

Also if anyone is curious here's my big dumb very very roughly ranked list of shit I've listened to over the last yearish

#types a disclaimer for myself in my personal spreadsheet for personal use in case i forget my own opinions about ranked lists #also the little m/f column is bc i was curious if i had any preferences or biases regarding author sex and wanted to visualize it #off topic #books #this is a few months shy of a year of Listening to Books #i was feeling really unsatisfied and restless with all my podcasts and switched to audiobooks instead and it was a great choice #laughs at heinlien down on the bottom. im gonna listen to starship troopers eventually and im gonna take poison damage im sure

[tsams-confessions]

im not hiding myself, I send an ask a long time ago saying how, as someone who liked to ship, I was doing my best to keep Moon as Ace representation as best as I could (Im demi- who loves silly lovers) I speak to some Ace artist and they had guide me, I been follwing a nice blog too! that often responds to my ask, but I leave this ask now to say.. what Im doing wrong? I keep reading these ask saying "how aphobic people are when removing the sex repulsed out of NewMoon!" when.. all I do is going by how he is acting in canon and what he said- the "I dont swin any way" was to a literal monster showing his ass.. but but , im not here to get yelled at. im here to know, to ask those anons who say me and others artist are being aphobic, to please guide me, what Im doing wrong? maybe is my like to proyect into characters I like? is it because I view im as Ace-Sex favorable? is it because I just like him to be with Solar? I ask those who leave those type of ask, to please tell me, and by extent. others that will read, what is it aphobic to view NewMoon as another "type" (hope is ok to say it like that) if Ace, please because I care to know..

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#sun and moon show #the sun and moon show #tsams #sams #tsams confession #< block this if you dont want to see these #mod 1blood #im trusting people to be nice about this #i cant personally comment because i havent seen your work but #in my experience a lot of artists/writers forget the ace and/or aro part of the character's identity when making them sex/romance favorable #i dont think this is intentional and again i have no basis on your work in specific #but i would stop and think in depth about how his ace identity affects his relationship with sex #you say he's favorable! what drives him to it? enjoying the feeling? high libido in general? maybe he just finds it entertaining? #because him being ace *will* affect the motivation to do it. it doesnt necessarily mean it'll make him want it less/not at all #but id definitely put some thought into *why* he wants to. since from my understanding attraction is most often what makes allos want it #<- take that last bit with a grain of salt. im ace so thats mostly and educated guess on why allos do it #if anyone wants to add on feel free. if this is worded badly its because its late as fuck as of queuing lmao

[marc--chilton]

another way house and wilson compliment each other is through their individual dynamic that is never acted out on each other (convinced that is fully wilson's fault he's sooo repressed) because house is Horny and wilson is A Whore

#house md #hilson #they're rotting my fucking brain guys. i need a lobotomy #queerbait so good i forget it's queerbait. gaslight myself into thinking it's not actually #like wilson is pretty easy then there's house who can apparently marathon sex like it's going out of style #(wilson staying outside while house was supposedly having a worker over and only being surprised house was home alone) #like man you were out there until dark is that really the only question you have #like what about how this middle aged opiod addict can keep it up for that long? nothing? this is a normal thing for him? ok

[schadenfreudich]

I don't trust people who say things like "afab experience" because in most cases they actually mean "white, perfectly perisex afab experience" and even then, it's too specific.

Because I'm not white, so I never got the "weak little girl" thing. I wasn't white feminine enough, even though I was quite feminine as a child.

And while I don't consider myself intersex, my body has produced more testosterone than would be the normal range for someone going through a "female" puberty ever since I was going through puberty. Definitely not enough for it to have strong masculinizing effects, it's just also quite androgynous in an additive way.

I do not feel represented by most things that people are talking about like it's "universal" for "afab" individuals, while both being "afab" and having gone through "female" puberty.

#i rarely use 'afab'. most of the time there is a more specific and more correct term for it #because the only thing 'afab' says is that a doctor looked at a baby's genitals and said it's a girl #nothing about their internal sex organs or how their body changes especially during puberty and after that #and especially not if the person had any surgeries or took hormones #if i hear 'afab chests' one more time. how do you just forget people who are 'amab' but went on estrogen? who can have breats? #absolutely ridiculous. do not refer to me as my 'agab' or i will assume you just think about people's supposed genitals and base their #entire person on that assumption. which is incredibly weird. don't do that. even if you're correct #-franz

[sea-me-now]

taking this international asexual day to say that crowley and aziraphale from good omens are asexual and would never have sex thank you and goodnight

#yes i know it’s never said in exact words that they are asexual but don’t make me tap the sign #the angels (fallen ones as well) have no biological sex unless they make and effort to #they have no need nor means to reproduce therefore they likely would have no desire to have sex #people can think whatever they want about characters wah wah wah but i desperately just want my one asexual couple who are still romantic #they are the only asexual couple in media i’ve seen that i actually relate to please they are all i have #there are so many other actual mlm pairings you can make have sex with each other please leave them alone #they aren’t even men! many of you forget that and just see them as men and it’s disappointing #anyway sorry but i’ve been saying this for years and i will type it today and never talk about it ever again #asexual #asexuality #international asexuality day