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dromaeo-sauridae · 2 months
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THE WORST IS YET TO COME!
i think i spent 3 days on this?? every day i'd get tired at like 11 pm, think "i'll post it tmr" and then find something wrong with it the next day. BUT IT'S FINALLY DONE! click for better quality or i'll cry :) AND i made it a speedpaint
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scp230kinnie · 1 year
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do you mind if i ask for some general hcs for your characterization of draven kondraki
maybe even some boyfriend hcs perchance... :]
ABSOLUTELY YES HELLO
IVE LIKE NEVER ACTUALLY SEEN ANYONE TALK ABOUT HIM BUT YES
Also once again for all the asks and submissions I am getting to all of them don’t worry 😻
Now I introduce to you
Draven Kondraki Headcanons
(General and relationship)
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Characters: Draven Kondraki, mentions of foundation personnel
Warnings: cringe, gender neutral, blood & death & SCPs
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ART NOT MINE !! ALL CREDITS TO ORIGINAL OWNER
General Headcanons
Being the son of one of the best, he is therefore very respected over at the foundation
He looks like he listend to slipknot tbh
His favorite band is Pierce the veil but he’s never gone to a concert, his dad won’t let him
Same
I’m gonna hc that he’s around 16-19 lol
He def smokes and he gets it from his father
AN AMAZING COOK AND BAKER FR
Looks like he would dye like bits of his hair bright colours
He tries to act chill and nonchalant but he’s not
If someone were to let him talk about something, he would for hours
He tries to convince clef to get Spotify premium because it’s the “best thing he’s ever done”
Nope
He drinks BLACK COFFEE
no sugar or creamer or anything
Also gets it from his dad
He drinks Mountain Dew for sure
He probably smells like a mix of cigarette smoke mixed with the smell of the morning after it rains
He paints his nails
Bro probably claims to be famous on tiktok but he probably has a private account with 31 followers
He’s got good style
He is also really good at interior design and knows where things should go
He KNOWS his way around the foundation
You will never get lost there with him he’s like a living map
He loves his dad no matter what like even if they fight and stuff he’s not generally one of those rebellious kids
Also not an angel child but still
My guy does not know how to dance
Relationship Headcanons
Let’s pretend he’s not dating Talloran okay
Okay
He’s canonically bi so HE WOULD LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT GENDER YOU ARE
Wear his clothes and he folds IMMEDIATELY
Loves that fr
Fav place to kiss is ur lips and forehead 💍
He likes to hold ur hands even tho his are always cold
Not the biggest fan of PDA but still probably will if you want
So much cuddles in private tho 🫶
He doesn’t like getting into fights with you but he would probably be really petty if you guys were in one
Sleeping on the couch and stuff 😭
Talks his dads ear off about you
Paint his nails and he’ll paint yours duh
If you also smoke he would be hypocritical and tell you to stop over him
If you were to write him letters, he would save every single one no joke
His love language is words of affirmation
He just loves to hear you say he’s doing a good job
He is almost never jealous but when he is he’s also really petty
He’ll go up to you while ur talking with another person and kiss you in front of them and hold ur waist n stuff
Then he’d like complain
He’ll forget about it dw
If you ever get hurt he will PANIC
Like examines your injuries makes sure nothings broken or cut too deep and helps fix you up
If someone he’s close to recently passed away I feel like he would get kinda distant for a bit
Just help him thru it 💪
He straight up MAKES YOU like his TikTok’s
LMFAO
His doesn’t really have any couple nicknames for you, just some variation of your name will do
His singing voice is so sweet. He doesn’t like to sing, but if you’re having a nightmare or something he will sing you back to sleep so gently I can’t even
He’s not usually around a lot so he likes to call you and just hear your voice
He also loves to see you smile
He memorized all of your orders in different restaurants and coffee shops so he can get you things
His dad knows ur dating and likes to tease him lol
Shows you his baby pictures LMAO
His dad does care about you tho, cuz he knows if anything happened to you, Draven would be devastated
You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to him
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Sorry this was kinda rushed it’s 3 in the morning
Idk why I always choose to write late at night
I also don’t know too much about this character I read a bit of the stories and got a general idea, but otherwise this is what I came up with
Hope you enjoyed
Everyone leave more requests pls
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sisterssafespace · 3 years
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Salaam ukhti, I do not know what to do. I’ve been talking to a guy for a while now. My mother knows about him she’s happy for us to be wed. Alhamdulilah
So, this guy & I are from different cultures. I’m african he’s indian & I have no problem with that. In terms of his deen he’s perfect for me. The last step was for him to meet my father; I spoke to my father before they met told him he’s asian not african. He seemed completely okay with it at the time. Anyway, on the day he rang him and he hung up to call me. He said a lot of negative things I won’t repeat.
But, my issue is that he didn’t even try to meet him because of his ethnicity? The worse part is I have a strained relationship with him already (we don’t live together). So, the fact he couldn’t even meet a prospective guy for me his daughter his youngest child makes it worse.
Ever since then, we haven’t been speaking and he’s being really rude to me. Constantly making sly remarks about me because he asked what I did. I was angry because he knows he put me in a horrible situation. Since I had to go back to the guy to tell him my father couldn’t come because of an ‘emergency’.
My mother came up with the solution of her older brother going to meet the guy instead. To be honest, I understand why because my uncle speaks better english so they can communicate which I’m grateful for. But, it’s upsetting knowing my dad didn’t even try and I do not know if my uncle can even mehr me if my dad doesn’t say yes.
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Assalamualaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu dear sister, I hope you are feeling better by the time you are reading this.
Let me start by saying that your ask hit a not close to home for I can relate on some points. Allahu al'mustaān.
Now, before getting into the story, let me just answer your last question about whether your uncle (brother to your mom) could marry you, if your father doesn't cooperate. Well, I know I clarified in the bio and the opening post that this page doesn't give fatwahs but this is not a fatwah as the fatwah is already there and all over the internet , and it's ' common knowledge ' unfortunately no, the brother of the mother doesn't have the authority to marry the girl off in Islam. In fact, there is a sequence or list of ' wali-s ' who can marry her and in case the father wasn't capable of doing that, then it is the paternal grandfather, then the brother, then the half brother (from her father's side), then her father's brother, then her father's half-brother, then her paternal cousin (son of her father's brother), then son of her father's half-brother, then in case all of them are not available or they don't agree, then it's taken up to the Judge. See, there is no family member from the mother's side in that lineage. Just to be clear.
However, we should consider alllllll the other options that you have before thinking of the worst case scenario, sis. Because even if your father wasn't the greatest man and you don't have the strongest relationship with him, you don't want to start this important chapter of your life on the wrong foot, by upsetting him more, or ruining your chances to fix things with him. It will only complicate the situation more. And keep in mind: it is not permissible to get married without a wali, as prophet Muhammad ﷺ said : There is no marriage without the permission of a guardian.
Now let's see what we are dealing with, I don't know the reasons why your father is having this position - but one can only imagine.. However, Islam is innocent from all these ideologies, interracial and mixed marriage were never a problem in Islam and Allah swt and his Prophet ﷺ never forbid nor advised against marrying someone from a different ethnicity. In fact, the Prophet ﷺ said : "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad)."
So, if the only reason why your father is not approving of this marriage is that the potential partner is from a different ethnicity, then your father is in the wrong and he will be accountable on his part. But there isn't much you can do without his approval. So what can you do instead? Is there any uncles from your father's side? A grandfather? An authoritarian family member? Or your local Imam or someone that your father actually values and listens to that you can actually talk to? To convince him to at least give the man a chance? And yes your uncle from your mother's side could talk to the guy and get to know him and maybe then he could tell your father about his qualities and how he is in shaa Allah a perfect fit for you, but again, he can't marry you off.
Now, I am sharing with you the feedback of a sister who is Alhamdulillah in a mixed marriage, she has been thru your experience and is now Alhamdulillah happily married, may Allah bless her and her family : "I understand her pain. They're judging him before even meeting him.. I don't know if there's much she can do tho. I think it's most likely that her father needs time to get used to the idea. He didn't expect her to marry out of the culture, that's a hard pill to slick for a lot of elder people. The advice I can give is to give it time and pray for it. Intercultural relationships is almost normal for our generation but it isn't for the generations before us. We have to keep that in consideration.
Also, if her uncle gets to meet the guy, maybe he can tell her father how great he is especially when it comes to deen. And her mother knows her father the best, she can eventually also speak in on his mindset and make him see that he's wrong to judge someone he hasn't even met.
I pray that her father 'wakes up' and realizes that culture doesn't matter. The only thing that will bring them to jannah, is their deen, and alhamdulillah he's perfect for her deen-wise. May Allah ease their affairs and bring them together in marriage. ❤️"
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I will finish with this meaningful insight from islamqa.org "While family members may think they are acting in the best interest of their children, there are many cases in which the refusal of parents is based on incorrect presumptions and understandings that stem from their own, distinct experiences and contexts that their children may not necessarily share.
In such cases, if someone does believe they have genuinely found someone suitable for marriage, whether from a different race/culture or not, and their parents still prove to be difficult, they should try to convince them with wisdom and tact, and take all appropriate means to make them see the merits of the decision.
Parents certainly have a right to be concerned about the future of their children, but since it is not the parents entering into the marriage, children also need to make sure they are not being forced into decisions that will adversely effect them in the future."
And most importantly (from the same source) "You should know that marriages are destined by Allah, All-Wise. So if this marriage is facilitated for you, then it will happen, and if not, then it won’t. And in either case, there is wisdom behind this that you are not aware of, so you should pray salat al-istikharah for ease in this matter if it should be good for you. It is best that you take the path of benevolence and kindness in these kinds of issues and don’t rush things lest you aggravate the problems."
To conclude, my dear sister, I KNOW that when we are inn love/ or when we start getting attached to someone, we let our imagination run wild, we build hopes and dreams involving them, we want to be with them asap and we let ourselves get carried away, I know for a fact that you'd want to rush things and just get married to this guy and get it over with, I feel you, I relate to you, I understand you perfectly. But sometimes that's not how life works for a) there's Allah's timing for everything and b) there's Allah's plan for us. We think we are choosing and we think we are planning but it's just an illusion, at the end of the day it's only Allah's plan that works. That's why I pray that your choice matches what Allah swt has already chosen for you, and your plan confirms with Allah's plan for you. Please please please pray Istikhara times and times and times again, tell your guy to pray Istikhara as well, and sis, duāa is your only way out of this. Try to pray Tahajjud (night prayer) if you can, I heard a saying a while ago that anyone who has any need from Allah swt should never miss a Tahajjud prayer. In the quiet of the last third of the night, when everyone else is sleeping, just you and your broken words and you crying heart sincerely and humbling asking for Allah's help and guidance. It works miracles ✨
In shaa Allah kheir my dear, may Allah swt guide you, and bring what's kheir for you closer, and grant you what your heart is wishing for. May Allah swt have mercy on your heart and not allow it to be broken over this matter. Ameen. 🤍
- A. Z. 🍃
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cattles-bians · 3 years
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Damie Vibecca exes AU part 4
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[em note: this one is LONG i had to split it!!!]
obsetress: deflecting to viola protecting becs
obsetress: once they are dating
obsetress: and thinkin thoughts
em: viola asks rebecca if she wants to put a hit out on peter and rebestiecca is like????
em: that’s hot but
em: u can do that? also maybe don’t. but mostly that’s hot
obsetress: i was literally gonna say peter is still her ex and he's a persistent fucker even though it's been a year at least and viola's response is... not far off from canon!
obsetress: becca just stares at her for a minute and then she's cupping viola's cheek and murmuring "come here" and pulling her down
obsetress: they're like kissing or whatever and rebecca's murmuring "that was hot, you know" between kisses and viola's like "oh?" and becca's like "don't be cheeky, you know it was" and vi just grins against her mouth
em: I’m Really Invested In This Crack Ship
obsetress: ok but rebecca tells jamie and dani about vi offering to put a hit on peter and they're both understandably and reasonably aghast and rebecca's just like (takes a sip of wine, ducks head, smiles to self) i think it's sweet
obsetress: dani and jamie look at each other out of the corners of their eyes
obsetress: (later, dani agrees how absolutely out of line it is but also admits that it sure does feel nice to be so taken care of sometimes)
obsetress: (jamie throws a pillow at her)
obsetress: also thinking about secret soft vibecca are sometimes and how horrified dani and jamie are the first time they see it with their own eyes
em: jamie and dani excessive PDA queens get a taste of their own medicine
em: it’s so funny that i’m like. always on the verge of viola horny posting but as soon as it’s vibecca i’m like look at these babies. these beautiful babies
obsetress: viola and rebecca kissing one (1) time at brunch and jamie, arm slung around dani’s shoulders, is like “oi, no one wants to see that” and dani, leaning into jamie, one hand in her lap, crinkles her nose and rebecca’s like “y— you’re kidding, right?”
obsetress: also like. we talk a lot about what vi does for rebecca but also like
obsetress: vi massive abandonment issues and rebecca just
obsetress: she just stays
em: ur gonna Kill me here lies em
obsetress: i know i didn’t mean to and then i just
obsetress: i can’t think too hard abt them or i will Melt Down but just like
em: look if rebecca can see the best in someone as awful as peter
em: viola isnt nearly as terrible
obsetress: esp vi post dani like
obsetress: she’s obnoxious and haughty and neoliberal but
obsetress: radical love goes a long way!
obsetress: rebecca grounding her thru touch and rebecca slipping her hands around vi’s and easing them loose when vi’s hands start to clench and rebecca just pressing a kiss to viola’s temple and murmuring “i’m here, yeah? with you. not going anywhere”
em: like i just think after eddie dani wouldnt like, just go w the flw any more. like i think abt her challenging viola occasionally
em: lovingly! gently
but like, holding her accountable
em: also violas absolutely little spoon
em: like i know blah blah viola top rebecca top leaning switch but viola little spoon
obsetress: “actually viola” (vi always knows she’s in trouble when dani calls her viola) “that was really hurtful” “i’m sorry you feel that way, dani, but—“ “i don’t need you to be sorry for how i feel. i need you to show me you’re sorry for what you did”
em: dani calls vi the Full Name and viola knows shes in trouble bc thats at least 4 extra vowels w danis midwest accent
em: it is always v surprising how much like, working w kids equips you to work w adults. b/c at least w kids you dont have layers and layers of social nuance to work through. u can just say 'hey. that was hurtful and your apology sucks'
obsetress: meanwhile dani’s over here trying to explain to vi intent vs impact and how no, it’s not semantics or nuance, it’s actually kind of a chasm
em: i kind of love like um. look viola is terrible but she wasnt born terrible
obsetress: she just has a lot to unlearn
em: and id belive that even if i wasnt a ghostfucker thats just rogers theory of self actualisation babyeee
obsetress: dani viola big fight n dani's like
obsetress: "i'm sorry and i love you but it's not my job to fix you, vi" and she just breaks down and she's like "it's not"
obsetress: jesus why did my brain take THAT turn
em: wrow
em: its ok i was gonna be like 'so they obvs break up at some point....'
obsetress: anyway viola just stares at her for a second and then she's like "you put the 'i'm sorry' before the 'i love you'"
obsetress: and dani just stares at her for a long time and she's like "yeah. i guess i did"
em: HANNAH
em: BESTIE
obsetress: i KNOW what the FUCK
obsetress: anyway dani's like "i guess i did" and vi's like "is that it then?" and dani just looks at her with her puffy eyes and is like "i think so"
obsetress: dani clayton queen of saying "i love you" over and over in the midst of breaking up w someone
em: well! she has a lot of love to give but, she also has to love herself sometimes!
em: i was thinking abt scenarios n i just remembered that. whole video rental shop thing so i think that slots in nicely
[em edit: u can read here]
obsetress: god i love that lil scene
em: dani sends viola a tentative little meme peace offering and they get back to talking and its nice but maybe a bit awkward and viola mentions like, going to therapy and seeing someone for help n its
obsetress: vi's stewing on "i can't fix you" for weeks and then she's begrudgingly. BEGRUDGINGLY calling a therapist
em: like its still awkward and dani is still nursing some wounds but she can ALSO be happy for someone she used to care about
em: still cares about!
obsetress: she's always gonna love her in some way or another
obsetress: but yeah also like. smth to viola being too stubborn to do anything she doesn't wanna do except suddenly when dani clayton gets involved and that feels p canon in its own way too
em: 'i cant fix u' weird bc every time i see viola im like 'i can fix her'
obsetress: it's like ur in my head bestie
em: how do u think viola and rebestiecca met
em: not that u think abt it or anything
obsetress: MAN i was just thnking
obsetress: in this universe how did dani and jamie meet but i guess it can still just be bly tbh
obsetress: as for vi and bestiecca hmmm
em: am so caught up in the joy of fucked up interpersnal dynamics i forgot a meet cute
obsetress: honestly part of me wants to be like
obsetress: on some dating app but a dating app for posh people yk
obsetress: but then i'm like
obsetress: that takes all the meet cute fun out of it
obsetress: oh GOD
obsetress: i got it
obsetress: ready
obsetress: so like viola landlord we know this
obsetress: and then i was watching whatever ep three the other day and bex mentions wanting to do public law right
em: oooooh
obsetress: bex public housing attorney
em: OOH
obsetress: they meet at some conference
obsetress: hit it off prob fuck lbr
obsetress: and then
obsetress: comedy of errors
obsetress: whoever stays the night, they sleep together again in the morning, breakfast in bed, bex is like "so what do you do, anyway"
em: hjgbjshmdnfbmngbmhnbgs,hndg m,shndgds
em: YES
obsetress: and then they just
em: WHEEZES
obsetress: also i like to think rebecca invites vi back to her hotel room and vi is so charmed by her taking charge ("""taking charge""") that she lets her
obsetress: and then like
obsetress: god for a while what if they just like
obsetress: they're so mortified and morally and fundamentally at odds but like
obsetress: the sex is so good???????
obsetress: that they keep just meeting up and then
em: romeo and juliet situation
obsetress: yk how it goes
obsetress: the sex is good and they see each other as like
em: thats so fucking good thank u hannah
obsetress: super rare intellectual equals whatever
obsetress: thank u i am exceedingly proud rn
obsetress: honestly at this point i'm
obsetress: rebecca and vi uhaul change my mind
obsetress: like not too quick because isabel but, quick enough to be considered
em: so the joke is like. obviously 'extremely pda damie' but when rebecca and vi are alone they Also cannot get their hands off each other
obsetress: they both just. worry about appearances too much meanwhile
obsetress: tweedle dee and tweedle dum in the overalls and mom jeans dgaf
em: accidentally seeing ur friends compromised is just part of the package of being friends w damie. however jamie accidentally catches vibecca in the act and shes Horrified
em: hypocrits
em: danis like yeah what do u. think theyre doing
em: dani is nonchallant bc shes dated viola of all people
obsetress: i mean could you imagine
obsetress: between vi and dani's just
obsetress: insatiable libido
em: HADNT IMAGINED UNTIL NOW BUT YEAH
obsetress: dani, very seriously: jamie, when two women love each other––
em: dani likes dating jamie bc it means she can top occasionally :) maybe even more than occasionally
em: jamies like ooh my god i knw i know how are u so casual about... rebecca... and ... viola... (dani just pulls her in fr a smooch)
obsetress: they have each other's clothes half off and dani's like "i'm so casual because i dated her too, babe" and jamie's like "can we not have this conversation right n"
obsetress: also i still have this on my clipboard from earlier we bopped around so fast but
obsetress: vi and bex hooking up early on:
obsetress: rebecca knocks on vi's door at, like, 6:00 pm after work, vi opens it, rebecca just grabs her and kisses her, vi pulls her in, becca kicks it closed behind her, vi shoves her against the door and they're kissing against it, then vi's ducking her head to kiss along rebecca's neck and rebecca's like "how many people did you evict today" as she angles her head and then viola's finding her lips again and tugging at her lower lip with her teeth "probably not as many landlords as you shortchanged today" and rebecca's laughing and pushing her backwards down the hall as viola tugs at her blouse
em: GOD. viola is probably like
em: ok, disclaimer: fuck all landlords
em: but at least in this fantasy world perhaps viola is 'fairly' 'reasonable' n shes absolutely playing it up for the hate sex angle n rebecca Maybe Assumes shes lying but
em: stupid morons in love
obsetress: yeah
obsetress: i think i've mentioned this before but like
obsetress: now that it's more fleshed out
obsetress: then they're at drinks one night (and when did it go from just sex to drinks? neither of them could tell you) and viola's kinda quiet n moody (n rebecca already knows she Gets Like This sometimes and that she'll usually say whatever she's thinking eventually) and finally she's like
obsetress: "i have... a daughter" and rebecca's just like "tell me about her" like it's the easiest thing in the world
obsetress: and viola's head snaps over and she stares because she was.... not expecting that
obsetress: and so viola does
obsetress: and rebecca's just like "i'd love to meet her one day"
em: soft.....
obsetress: they always turn back to soft
obsetress: like they have a fuckin mind of their own
em: rapidly oscillate between horny and soft
obsetress: that's the mood
em: violas probably like. yknow, rebecca's young and up and cming n she probably assumes rebesticca isnt interested as something as full on as a kid but shes like 'do you have any photos'
obsetress: fuck!!!!!!!!!
em: rebeccas like do u think i didnt. see the photos at ur apartment lmao
em: theres a childs drawing on the fridge
obsetress: rebecca has known almost from the jump but was
obsetress: giving viola her time
obsetress: also smth smth giving her time instead of time wearing her away etc etc we're all in hell
em: cracks knuckles
em: bestie....
obsetress: pls
obsetress: it's what i deserve
obsetress: first tho
obsetress: consider
obsetress: the way viola's face lights up when she's talking about isabel and showing rebecca all the pictures
obsetress: hold pls
em: soft......
obsetress: this one chief
obsetress: right here
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thisisabouta · 4 years
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This is About a... -lot of Baggage.
I am fucking literally over EVERYTHING right now. Everything and everyone and that’s not being dramatic. I literally don’t want a fucking thing to do with anyone I know, don’t know, I don’t fucking care. My life is a jagged, fucking mess. It has been for a long time but it’s definitely gotten worse overtime. During a time that I had just been diagnosed Bipolar and just started realizing I was an alcohol abuser but during that time in my life, no one could say that I wasn’t a good friend. I let people use me, take advantage of me, disregard my feelings, talk shit about me (not to say that I didn’t engage in that too) and whatever else.. i’ve routinely treated people better than they treat me. I would say to ask any one of my friends (who knew me then) but I don’t know if all of them would agree.... things changed and when people look back on memories,, sometimes they only focus only on all of the bad shit that happened between the two of you. And that’s fine. I’ve done bad shit to people, they’ve done bad shit to me. But I keep tabs on things... I take note of how many times I ask “How are you?” and how many times I get asked back. I take mental note of how many times i’ve driven to see you and how many times you’ve driven to see me, how many times I stay up past midnight when someone needs to talk but no one texts me back when I say something first. The shit is nowhere near balanced. The most hypocritical people in my life are the worst. I own my shit, everyone else’s accountability is still on me. Not texting me because you read my mind and just assumed I didn’t want to talk... that’s not on me.
I can’t think of one friendship I have right now that isn’t stressing me out. People could say the same thing about me and again, that’s fine. I am not forcing anyone to be apart of my life but yet people are acting they can’t just leave... My life has been at a stand still for quite some time now.
I partied a lot, drank a lot, got in a lot of trouble and that’s been a contributing factor to almost everything I do. I moved to Seattle because I wanted to live in Seattle but also to try and fix some of the damage I had done. I made some changes but they were minor and short lived. Which is how I ended up on house arrest.
So far, three people have focalized to me that i’m selfish. One of them being my mother. The same woman who would drop me off with my Grandma because she wanted to go out to the club and look for her next husband, the same woman who started using my social security number when I was 7 years old to; open bank accounts and charge them off, to take out payday loans and not pay them back and to take out a home loan, without telling me about any of it. She’s also ridiculed me anytime I cried about a boy or gained weight... the woman who moved me back and forth across the United States every two to three years. The woman who told my two foster sisters that she was going to send them back where they came from everytime they pissed her off. The woman who agreed with my Aunt when she laughed and said in front me “Who’s gonna want to marry you?”. The woman who told me to my face that she wishes she never had kids. That woman. That’s the woman who’s calling me selfish. Anyone else who has said it or thought it think they’re putting in as much effort as I am and they’re not.
Am I denying that i’m being selfish? Absolutely not. People just need to make sure that their shit is on the same level that they’re trying to put me on before they judge me. This happens every, single, fucking time. I’ll take a moment and decide that i’m going to try to take care of myself, a fucking tornado comes thru and just fucks up everything. I’m fucking tired of constantly being ridiculed for who and what I am.
There was a person in my life who hurt me. This person really fucking hurt me and wants to apologize. But the thing they want to apologize for is something that they do over and over and over again. They do it, apologize, do it all over again, fucking repeat. This person does this to everyone. People put up with this persons toxic behavior for years. One person especially. This person vents me to constantly about how this situation is giving her anxiety, stressing her out and hurting her physically and emotionally. Making her think that she can’t leave this person because they’d kill themselves if she did....
As of right now, the current idea is that i’ll forgive this person because “I should understand”. I fucking understand. I understand that she had me laying up the entire night,, more than once wondering if she was dead and then her hitting me up acting like absolutely nothing had happened. I understand completely. Do I need to have that negativity in my life? Let me think about that... I’m being told I should be friends with her again because she needs me. Yes, i’m going to be fucking selfish. That’s like telling someone who’s being abused that they should stay with the person because they need to understand that that person is going thru a tough time. What about the fucking person being abused. Friends are supposed to be there for EACH OTHER. I’m not a place people can go to unload their baggage and then just walk off and come back when they need to unload again.
I do give... I’ve given... I’ve given my everything to more than one person in my life and every, single, last one of them is gone. People have dropped me for minor things, people have dropped because in their mind our friendship had run past it’s expiration date, there’s a couple that were not so minor... Now I lay it out. What you get is what you get. If that’s hurting other people, I am sorry but I’m hurting too. I have NEVER been accepted. I’ve had to hear my parents arguing in the kitchen about whose fault it was that i’m so screwed up, relatives telling me “we’re glad you turned out well because we were worried for awhile”, my mother being upset that i’m not going to give her grandchildren when I can’t even keep a man long enough to do so, complete strangers coming up to me and asking me what’s wrong with me or asking if I’m a man.. or if my hair is real. How do I not sound dramatic saying that nothing I do is accepted by anyone.... it’s not that black and white but that is what my life is.
I have such paralyzing anxiety that I’ve had to go to work, walk up to the door and turn around and leave because I couldn’t go inside. My mother always thought my clinging to her in public places when I was younger was a funny story to tell her friends when it was actually me being terrified and not knowing what to do about it. I’ve adapted over time but it’s still hard for me to be around people. Sometimes it’s so bad that I can’t breath. Sometimes I look at people and want to to speak but nothing comes out. Sometimes I sit in my car and cry about it because I can’t get far enough away from all of my external triggers. My mind is always telling me that someone is talking about me, or looking at me, or is too close to me and I should feel threatened. Am I the only person who feels this way? I know I’m not. Does every person who goes thru this react the same way. No, they don’t. I react the only way I know how. Bearing thru it. People who think i’m not making an effort have no fucking idea that any effort I have made is the best that I can do.
If my best isn’t good enough, then I have no problem removing myself. I don’t have to forgive anyone if they treat me poorly, I don’t have to go out of my way to talk to someone when I’m not properly functioning and when i’m in my own fucking house, minding my business. I push myself past my limit every fucking day to please someone else. The only people who should have expectations on me are the people signing my checks. If i’ve been overly stimulated and need to go home to fucking decompress, I shouldn’t have to fucking talk to anyone. Living by myself was one of the best things i’ve ever done because now i’m sure that’s what I need. I literally have nowhere to feel safe. I am fucking judged all day, every single fucking day. God forbid i’m having an episode and I don’t leave my room because i’m going to offend someone who isn’t my fucking concern. I’m past the point of even caring if it’s common fucking decency. My moms husband would talk shit about me because I wasn’t getting up to answer the front door and having my Grandmother do it while I was upstairs passed out because I had just taken a horse tranquilizer and wouldn’t hear a fucking bomb go off. No one gives a shit that I took it to sedate myself.. so that I wouldn’t kill myself. It’s easy to blame other people. That’s what i’m doing right now. But i’m also blaming myself. I do distance myself from people, I do go days without talking to anyone. Right now, i’m doing that because that’s the only way I can keep it together. I let people in and it’s fucking floodgates. And every conversation ends with that person telling me what i’m doing wrong to them. I am working full time, have a second part time job and i’m in school and I have FEMALES going off on me because I’m not texting them back. Why can’t I just get my shit done! I help someone out, they fucking get what they need out of me and then i’m fucked cause I put all my shit aside and I have to process their shit along with my own. My mind is SO fucking loud. Someone can say something to me and there’s screaming in my head that they don’t even know is happening. I’m not someone to lean on now. I may never be that person again. And maybe I don’t want to be...
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This is combining Coffee House AU and Detective AU - It has minimal editing so, please forgive me.
“He’s cute, right? Like, he’s cute cute, don’t you think?” Tyler asked Brayden.
“Yes, he’s cute. Why don’t you either go bother him or help me? We’re getting busy,” Brayden grumbled has he gently nudged Tyler out of his way.
Tyler was completely oblivious, he was busy staring dreamily at their newest hire at the counter. Alex was teaching Ondrej how to run the register and he seemed to be picking it up quickly.
Brayden kicked Tyler in the ankle.
“Ow!” Tyler said loudly, causing everyone in the coffee shop to turn and look at him. “Sorry, just a, little burn. Better go take care of it.”
Tyler’s eyes promised retribution but Brayden couldn’t bring himself to care because it got Tyler out of his way.
“Just invite him to hang out,” Alex sighed, walking around Tyler to get to the cappuccino machine.
“But I’m his boss, I don’t want him to feel obligated or like it’s a condition of his job,” Tyler said, following Alex.
“You guys are my bosses I don’t feel obligated to hang out with you,” Brayden interjected from right behind them where he was working the drive thru.
“We’re roommates Bray, you kind of have to hang out with me,” Tyler snorted.
“Fine,” Brayden said. “I will invite him to hang out with us.”
“Please,” Alex muttered. “Maybe he will finally shut up about Ondrej. It’s been weeks.”
“It’s been two weeks, don’t be dramatic,” Tyler countered.
“Two weeks is still weeks,” Alex said.
Behind Tyler someone cleared their throat. He turned around to see Ondrej.
“The guy at the counter wants to know if we take travelers checks,” Ondrej said.
Tyler shook his head and went to the counter to explain to the customers.
“Ondrej with an O has come over three weekends in a row to hang out with us,” Brayden said to Alex. “When is Tyler going to stop acting like a high school girl?”
“I don’t think he is, we’re just going to have to pray Ondrej with an O steps up and does something about it. He seems to like Tyler too,” Alex said.
They were laying on floats in their backyard pool one morning before their shift at the coffee house.
“Andrej with an A says there’s something weird about Ondrej with an O,” Alex said, pushing himself away from the edge of the pool with his foot.
“Oh yeah?” Brayden asked, sitting up and pushing his sunglasses up to look at Alex. “What?”
“Just little stuff, but a lot of it. He told Andrej with an A that he’s from a big city in the west of the Czech Republic but his accent doesn’t fit. He doesn’t seem to know his way around the city he says he’s from. Just stuff like that.”
“Well maybe he’s from a small town and that’s the closest big town, so it’s easier to say that,” Brayden said.
“That’s what I thought too but now he’s avoiding Andrej with an A.”
“Oh.”
“Yeah,” Alex said as Brayden settled back onto his float.
“Drej, Bray is sick do you think you’ll be able to pull a double with me?” Tyler asked Ondrej. “I’m only asking because it’s Alex and Andrej’s anniversary so I don’t wanted to mess up their plans.”
Ondrej was glad they’d finally settled on calling him Drej instead of Ondrej with an O. “Sure, it’s no problem. I don’t have any plans tonight.”
And it wasn’t really a double, it was only about three hours until the shop closed.
Ondrej was also glad that Tyler was now able to work through his crush on him. It was unnerving to try and learn a new job, in your second language, and keep your wits about you, with your boss staring at you. No matter how cute he was.
The cafe was empty, it was about five thirty on a Tuesday, Tyler was standing at the counter talking, exuberantly, to Ondrej. About what, Ondrej didn’t have a clue, he’d lost the thread of the conversation when he noticed the way Tyler’s eyelashes fluttered when he laughed.
“You know what I mean?” Tyler asked.
Ondrej vaguely nodded before leaning in an pressing a kiss to Tyler’s smiling lips.
Tyler gasped against his mouth and Ondrej started to pull away but Tyler reached up and wound his arms around his neck and pulled him back in, deepening the kiss.
After a moment Ondrej pulled away, stepping back from Tyler.
“I’m sorry, Tyler, I can’t do this.”
The look on Tyler’s face hurt Ondrej. “You kissed me!”
“I know, I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have but I couldn’t help myself,” Ondrej said, looking down and fiddling with a flyer that was on the counter.
“You’re sorry? You couldn’t help-,” Tyler stopped talking suddenly. “I’ll be in the office working on the closing paperwork, just yell if you need help.”
Ondrej felt horrible. He was shocked he hadn’t been fired. Tyler could probably do that, saying that Ondrej had sexually harassed him. Instead Tyler changed their schedules, making sure they were never working at the same time. On top of that no one else was speaking to him.
Not to mention he’d nearly blown a two year investigation because he couldn’t control himself around Tyler.
In a way, it made Ondrej’s job easier, his real job. Tyler wasn’t there to distract him.
Tyler had successfully avoided Ondrej for three weeks, until Alex needed an emergency appendectomy. The surgery had gone well and Andrej was at the hospital with him so Tyler went in to cover the shift Alex was supposed to work.
Brayden had offered to stay but Tyler knew he had a test the next day and needed to go home and study.
Tyler was tired, he’d been at the hospital all night so he couldn’t bring himself to care that he would be working with Ondrej.
The cafe was quiet when Tyler walked in.
“How is he?” Brayden asked, again, anxiously, pressing a coffee into Tyler’s hand.
“How is he?” Brayden asked, again, anxiously, pressing a coffee into Tyler’s hand.
Ondrej came over to hear the update on Alex. “He’s ok, they got his appendix out before it burst. That was the most important thing. They said he should recover quickly with just a few small scars.”
With that he sent Brayden home and sat down one of the stools behind the counter. “I’m going to work the counter tonight,” Tyler told Ondrej.
“Ok, you don’t even have to stay out here with me. You can go sleep in the office if you want to,” Ondrej told him. “I can run the front by myself.”
Ondrej was nervous. Alex always left him alone in the front of the store on slow nights so he could work on the accounting stuff for the store, but Tyler didn’t handle that part of the business. He would stay in the front of the cafe with him.
“No, it’s ok. If I go to sleep now I won’t wake up to go home,” Tyler explained.
Ondrej just nodded.
Their very carefully laid plans to take down one of Prague’s most notorious criminals could potentially be ruined by an emergency appendectomy.
Ondrej sat down on the stool next to Tyler. “I owe you an apology,” Ondrej said, quiet enough that agents sitting in the cafe couldn’t hear. “I’m sorry I kissed you when I shouldn’t have. It was inappropriate and then on top of that I was rude.”
Tyler just nodded. “This might be the sleep deprivation talking but Alex needing surgery has really made me realize what’s important in life, and it’s not being mad at you for kissing me and then taking it back. If you just want to be friends I fine with that.”
They sat in companionable silence for a while, until one of the agents gave Ondrej a slight nod.
“Do you want to go get started on the end of night paperwork?” Ondrej asked. “I don’t think we’re really going to do too much more in sales tonight.”
Tyler looked at his coffee and thought about it for a moment. “Nah, I’ll just do it in the morning. In the state I’m in, I’d probably mess it up.”
Tyler was completely oblivious to the palpable tension in his cafe.
Two black Range Rovers parked in front of the cafe, just like they did every Tuesday and Thursday.
Tyler perked up and stood up to greet his customers. Ondrej stood up, preparing himself to protect Tyler.
“Good evening mister-“ Tyler started, Ondrej cut him off by shoving him under the counter. At the same time Ondrej drew his weapon.
“Ondrej what the fuuuu-“
Tyler was drown out by shouts of, “FBI, get down on the ground!”
After everything died down Tyler was standing in the cafe, looking at his shattered glass door. Given the situation Ondrej thought that the door being the only casualty was pretty good.
Ondrej finished giving his report to his FBI supervisor he walked over to Tyler who turned to face him.
“My name really is Ondrej, but my real last name is Palat. I’m an investigator with the Police of the Czech Republic, I’m here working with the FBI to arrest, that guy we just arrested. I’m sorry I lied to you but we needed someone undercover here,” Ondrej paused and took a deep breath. “I really do have feelings for you and I want to take you to dinner tomorrow night.”
Tyler launched himself at Ondrej, kissing him and laughing at the same time.
Ondrej pulled away when the agents in the cafe started clapping
“Ok, who’s paying to fix my door?” Tyler asked.
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Property Taxes (the elephant in the room)   Upcoming Free (& non-promotional) Home Buyer Classes:   ...we also have home seller classes available.  Link on left on website page Saturday, March 16th, from 11am-2pm (ish) ​       Vancouver YMCA, conference room        11324 NE 51st Circle, Vancouver WA (corner of SR500 & Gher Road/112th Ave). Monday, February 18th, from 5pm-8pm (ish)        Marshall Community Center, conference room        1009 E. McLoughlin Blvd, Vancouver WA (kitty corner from Clark College) Saturday, March 30th, from 10am-1pm (ish) ​       Marshall Community Center, conference room        1009 E. McLoughlin Blvd, Vancouver WA (kitty corner from Clark College) If these class dates and/or times don't work for you, please let us know.  We understand that you have lives, and families, and work.  We will work something out that works better with your schedule.  Just let us know.... ....we also have home seller classes available too...link on left on website                                                               Remember...with reservation...we will throw in lunch, or dinner!  :-D ~~~~~~~~~ Happy Daylight Savings time aka National Napping Day~   After the nastiest of the last couple of weeks... what a gorgeous day!!!  ...and did you hear?  It's supposed to hit 60 degrees this week?  It's like a heat wave!  WooHoo!  Is it?  Could it be?  Spring may finally be coming...and I know we are all excited, right?  Spring also means that we have a Client Appreciation event coming up.  We will be hosting Avengers:  Endgame the first Saturday of May...yes, a week after it opens, but we are still excited, right?  If there is a different movie that you think we should host....we still have time to change it!  :-D  Let me, or Chris Berg ([email protected]) know.  We are always open to suggestions.   Ok, now to be honest with you, this is NOT the email I was going to send out this week.  There was some craziness that has been going on with social media the last week or so, and I wanted to talk about it...and I might send it out next week, but I am not sure that right now is the best time for it.  I mean...it is always a good time to talk about protecting yourself and to talk about agency, but I think I need to have that blog read by an outside source to make certain it is clear and not just venting.  You know what I mean... You spend time typing something up, and then read what you typed, and think, "oh crap...do I sound crazier than what I am talking about?"  Yeah... I better make sure first.   So, instead  we are going to talk about something else that has been all over facebook recently.... surprise... we are going off topic *gasp*.  Let's talk about the elephant in the room...Property Taxes (insert scare music here).   As you know from previous posts, a mortgage payment is one payment for you, but then it is broke down into payments within that payment. There's your actual loan amount (principal) with interest.  Your interest doesn't change (unless you refinance), so this amount is always the same, but over the course of your home ownership you pay less on interest and more towards principal. Then there is the amount that goes into your 'escrow' account.  From your escrow account is paid a couple of things... Insurances (mortgage, hazard, flood) and property taxes.  Most folks have some mortgage insurance and this is the cost to secure the loan....it protects the lender.  Your hazard insurance is another term for homeowners insurance.  This is the insurance you carry to protect the property if something outside of your care, custody, and control were to happen to the home.  It's a lot like car insurance in that it is there to protect the asset from damage and to correct, or fix, that damage, and to bring the asset (in this case, the home) back to original (before the damage) condition.  For example, if your home catches fire, you wouldn't have the money to fix that damage, but with hazard/home insurance, you would be able to correct the fire damage with only the insurance deduction out of pocket.  Flood insurance is only required if you are in a designated flood plain, and if you have it will be paid from the escrow account as well.  Then there is the amount that goes toward paying your property taxes.  The amount needed in your escrow account to pay these items can change, and as it does, your monthly mortgage payment will change too. Every year you will get a statement from your escrow account letting you know if you are paying enough into that escrow account.  In a market upswing, where your home is increasing in value, is going to usually mean you will have a deficit in that account and you will either A) have to send an additional check for $XX amount to deposit into your escrow account and your mortgage payment will now be $XXXX.xx, or B) you can spread that amount over the next 12 months of mortgage payments and your mortgage payment will now be $XXXX.xx.  I receive calls on this every year, and that is ok.  I am always here to help!    Property tax payment dates are weird.... they're due on April 1 (pay period from January 1 thru June 30), and again on October 1 (pay period from July 1 thru December 31).  They can be paid in full on April 1, or split with 1/2 due on April 1, and half due on October 1.  I've seen escrow statements with either option paid by the bank.    Remember that every year your escrow company will assess your escrow account to make sure you have enough in there, or if you have enough projected to come in via your monthly payments, to pay your insurances and taxes.  If you have too much (in a declining market), you will receive a check with the option to mail it back and your payments become XX amount, or to keep the check and your payments will be XX amount....or... (and this is the case for the past couple of years now), it is projected by your escrow company that you will NOT have enough and you have one of two options ... you can send a check to the escrow company and your payment will be XX, or you can increase your monthly payments to XXX to cover the difference.  Yes, I know that I just repeated myself, but it bears repeating.  Yes, your mortgage payment amount WILL change every year.     Every year the Clark County Assessors assess the value of the home for taxes.  As your home value increases, so do your property taxes.  One thing to note is that they will use information that is available based on sales average from a year or so ago for that area.  This is not current information.  Tax assessed value is not market value... I will repeat... TAX ASSESSED VALUE IS NOT MARKET VALUE.  We are in an escalating market... (aka sellers market), and home values are still going up.  This is why tax assessed value is not market value because the market is always moving and changing...ebbing and flowing... and your taxes are the same for that period.   "For every pro...there is a con, and for every con...there is a pro" (I will give a gift card to the person who can tell me what song that line is from) ....while this is a fun song from one of my favorite Disney movies (hint, hint) it is true nonetheless.  As your market value increases, so do your property taxes, and as the market declines and values go down, so will your taxes.  As your market value increases, so does the amount you need to insure your home against catastrophe and calamity, you might want to be prepared for that.  This can also increase (or decrease) your monthly payment amount.   It really is a case of, 'you can't have your cake and eat it too'....  everyone loves it when their home values go up, but no one likes it when their property taxes do.  I get that.  My property taxes went up a lot last year, and they will this year again as I added on to my home so now there is more to tax.  It sucks...  I get it.  However, everyone hates it when they see their home values go down...but they like it when their taxes do.  Taxes go down when home values go down, but we wouldn't see that right away.  Sigh.... can't win for losing, right?   Be prepared though... as home values increased significantly again last year (2018), taxes will go up again next year.  The higher values jump in a year... so do your property taxes.  2016 & 2017, we saw a sharp increase in home values.  Home values did increase again in 2018, but not as much in percentage as they did the two previous years.  As an industry we still expect to see an increase in home values this year, but again, not as much as a percentage as 2016/2017, and maybe not as much as last years either.  As an industry, the thought is that the rising interest rates will help the market to 'balance out'.  Of course, as I've often said...  my crystal ball is broken and the Magic 8 Ball often lies to me.        I'm always available to answer your questions, so feel free to reach out to me anytime.  :-)       Remember that this is just a quick overview.... again...and I can't say this enough...please remember that your agent is NOT a salesperson, and should not be acting like one.  Real Estate is not really about houses, it is more about relationships.  Your agent, and your lender work for YOU.  You drive the bus...we are merely GPS to help you get to your goals.   Like the classes, this weekly blog email is to help you with your home adventure.  The goal is to be informative and non-promotional.  :-)  All home buying adventures should START with the Home Buyer Education Classes. Don't talk to lenders/agents until after the classes so you know the questions to ask, what all the paperwork means, and fully understand the process.   As always...the classes are Free and Non-Promotional.  After teaching these classes for 14 years, we are not there to promote ourselves, or any 'special' agenda like some classes, and while we certainly hope you will call Chris or I, or both of us, to help with your home adventure, that certainly isn't the main focus of the classes.  If you have any questions about this, or something you have heard... or if you would like me to assist you with your home adventure... please call, email, or text.  We are here to help.    Thank you again for your business and your referrals!!  ...and thank you for referring these classes to your friends, family, and co-workers.   .   ..disclaimer...if you have already purchased a home, or would no longer like to receive these emails, please let me know and I will be happy to remove you from any further mailings...  Upcoming Topics: Delayed Possession... What is this & what does it mean to you Interest Rates (information from Chris Berg,Cardinal Financial) What do I need to buy a home, Hiring a Realtor...questions to ask, What if I don't have a Down Payment? .....  &.... Debt to Income Ratios....What is this? Last Week: Is Big Brother Watching?  Well...maybe...  Have a great day, and I will talk to you soon,    ;-D    Tracie DeMars    Real Estate broker     Re/Max - Van Mall    360/ 903-3504 cell    360/ 882-3600 fax    www.traciedemars.com    [email protected]         “Interested in free and non promotional home education classes?  Go to www.freehomebuyerclasses.com for local upcoming home buyer and home SELLER classes, or facebook: Tracie DeMars Real Estate for my home buyer education blog.” "Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be."        - Shel Silverstein, American poet, cartoonist and composer, (1930 - 1999).
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Need to Get Away? 6 Tips to Help Break the Cycle of Poverty
I'm poor. I grew up poorer. Not dirt poor, but poor enough to have couch-surfed for a couple years of my high school education. I was lucky to have couches. Not everyone has luck. Not everyone gets a steady job. Not everyone has a good yellow car like I do.
Some people get lower than I ever have. Escaping the shadow of your parents' bad decisions can be difficult, but it's not impossible. For many teenagers fresh out of high school, no one is out there to say "Hey! Get a job! Open a bank account! Don't get a credit card just yet!"
Yes, it's sad to say, but many of our generation don't really have someone setting them down the good path. I've been there. I'd like to help if I can.
Disclaimer: I am only 20 years old myself, so my own self-improvement is a work in progress, but I consider myself a better authority than many older people out there because I've actually gone through it. I went from homeless high school grad to self-supporting college student in a matter of years. Here are some of the steps I took (simplified) to get where I am now:
1. Get a job. Any job.
No one wants to flip burgers and work the drive-thru, but I tell you what: McDonald's is hiring.
My first job started me near minimum wage, but it was something. No matter what, you cannot save a dime if no one is giving you dimes to begin with. Can you have reservations about working for a dubious corporation with a mixed and even scandalous history of representing the rights of its workers? Absolutely. Can you afford to do anything about it yet? Probably not. If so, good for you.
Listen, I'm all for overthrowing the bourgeoisie, but for now you need to focus on putting food on the table.
And yeah, it sucks letting people yell at you in the lobby of Joe's French Fry Hut or whatever it may be, but if you hold out long enough these places will actually reward you for your patience. Like I said, my first wage was $7.50 and I make almost twice as much hourly now.
Working hard at a place like that might feel counterproductive, but if they offer you a shiny new title with a couple extra dollars to multiply your paycheck for little to no extra effort on your part, you might as well take it while you can.
2. Set up that direct deposit.
Banks will mostly be interested in helping you. Local banks or regional banks tend to be a bit brighter on the customer service side, and some banks have better reputations for being especially user-friendly. Your banker wants you to know about savings accounts and the like because that means you are using another one of their services.
While some banks are bad and nasty, websites like ConsumerReports and NerdWallet can help you root through the garbage, so to speak. 
You need a checkings AND a savings account. This is important. Ask your banker if you can set up automatic transfer of funds into your savings account. For example, if you make $200 every week, try having the machine automatically put $25-$50 of that into savings. Make sure you can turn it off or change the amount at any time, just in case you need to make your available money stretch a little bit.
Sooner or later, that weekly transfer adds up into something substantial. The next time your car breaks down or you get sick and can't work you'll be able to last a little longer before going into disaster-mode.
3. Focus on one big goal at a time.
Big goals have this peculiar way of creating smaller in-between goals. For example: want to go to college? Where will you live during the semester? Will you still work? If not, will you have enough money to eat until winter break?
By selecting a single task to work towards, you are able to dedicate yourself fully to that goal. If it's monetary, like saving up for an education or an apartment, you already have a number to shoot for.
Some goals are a little more ambiguous: want to start a crafting business?
Asking the right questions is a little more complicated, but as long as you're prioritizing your big goal over miscellaneous activities you will inevitably make progress.
4. Learn how to say no.
When you're in high school, most of us have little choice but to stick with our parents. As you age, sometimes your parents start sticking to you.
It's hard if you love your parents, but you can't let them rely on you if you can't rely on yourself.
When your parents start asking you for money, think about it: is this to pay rent? Is this for food? Are they buying weed for themselves? Are they asking you to pay for something you'll never benefit from?
For example, my mom took a thousand dollars from my bank account without saying a word to me, hoping that I'd never find out. I'm still not sure what she spent it on specifically, but that's a thousand dollars I needed to get to college.
If you're doing well for yourself and everyone else in your family is struggling, it'd be great to be able to help them. But when helping them out jeopardizes your own success, you need to start putting your foot down and helping them in ways other than opening up your pocketbook.
5. Distance yourself from what's dragging you down.
Parents. Abusers. Bad memories. High cost of living. Moving away is the only way to escape the negativity sometimes.
Getting out on your own is a complex process, but it can help your mental state. It's not impossible, so don't rule it out. It's a lot harder for people to track you down and ask you for money when you no longer live in a small town where everyone knows one another.
In desperate times, ask yourself if you know anyone in the next county over, or maybe someone who's going to school out-of-state. Can they help you get settled? Can you rent with them? Are they responsible enough to be trusted?
Moving can't solve everything, but it can put a lot of problems on the periphery.
6. Don't burn your bridges.
Remember that one high school teacher who always had your back? They'd listen to you when you needed someone. They'd give you responsible adult advice in ways your family couldn't. Maybe they'd give you cards during the holidays.
They probably remember you, too. Reaching out to positive authority figures might sound easier said than done, but worst-case scenario they shrug off your email and you never have to see them again. Right?
Remember and appreciate the people who have helped you in the past. Not only might they offer you more valuable advice in the future, but they probably would like to hear from you again.
Although it's easy to let your heart grow bitter when people refuse to extend a helping hand, remember a "no" today might mean a "yes" tomorrow. Try your best not to lash out at those who can't help you out—they might be living check-to-check as well.
Recent studies (links to study/links to summary of study) have shown poorer people tend to have more empathy than their richer counterparts. They theorize this is because poor people have a greater need to be likable than someone who can just fix problems with dollar bills.
Once you get out of the mess, you can remember who didn’t treat you so kindly.
When you're poor, you see the worst in people, mostly because a lot of people act nicer when they think they have something to gain from you. You see the way people regard you like you don't matter. It’s discouraging. It’s overwhelming. Try breaking it up into smaller pieces, week by week, day by day, and you’ll find yourself making progress all the time.
So what, it might have be easier for you to get to law school if you’d come from a family of wealth. Fuck it, to be quite honest. Despite the seemingly insurmountable odds, the one sure way to bust your dreams wide open is to stop trying.
Being poor is about playing life on hard mode, so to speak, and you have to min-max to make things work. It’s good for all of us that there’s a figurative strategy guide out there for some of the steps to breaking generations of poverty.
I’m planning on outlining some other aspects of growin’ up the old-fashioned way in later posts, so be sure to stop by or drop into my inbox if you’ve got specific questions or requests. Good luck out there!
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//tornadoes thru ur window, completely shattering the glass: for the writer meme, 5 - 6 - 8 - 10 - 15 - 21 - 25 - 27 - 28 - 29 - 30 - 34 - 36 - 39 - 45 - 47 - 48 - 49 - aaaand 50: how long do you usually let an idea fester in your mind before you're like, "okay, i'll write you down u little fucker"? ALSO IM AWARE THIS IS A LOT, LMAOOO
LDJF;KFGSKGF ADRI MY LOVE, MY WIFE, MY KNIGHT, MY SUN AND MOON, THANK YOU OMG, I HOPE YOU’RE READY FOR A NOVEL OF AN ANSWER LMAO
5.     How much writing do you get done on an average day?
LMAO I ACTUALLY HAVE THIS CALCULATED PER HOUR just bc that’s how long my train ride is. So I can do about 400-500 words in 50~ minutes.anyway tbh, I write almost never, but when I do, I try to get around 1000 words done??? that’s usually when i lose steam too. (though i guess if i did 500 word spurts instead throughout the day, i’d get more done) (TO CLARIFY, the only reason it’s so much is bc i only write when I know /exactly/ what the scene is gonna be and im motivated. if u sat my ass down in front of a computer each day and told me to write, I’d probably only get 100 in two hours, less even.)
6.     Single or multiple POV?
I’m a multiple pov hoe. I’ve thought before of writing something in entirely one pov, but tbh i dont think i could do it if the thing is longer that a 2000 word one shot.
8.     Oldest WIP
I HAD TO PULL OUT MY USB FOR THIS GODDAMN
Okay so, my oldest wip ever, is an original story I started in, I think, 2011 and wrote throughout the year. It’s got about 22k words down, but tbh i dont think im ever gonna touch it again.fanfic-wise, my oldest wip is a harvest moon fanfic, that’s around 6k words i think? and i was planning on re-writing it bc i didnt like the characterization of one of the characters and i wanted to fix that, but it’s been like five years now, i dont think it’s ever gonna be done. (I still want to though). (and u can find said wip on my fanfiction.net account)
10.  Do you set yourself deadlines?
My guy, i’ve never set a deadline for myself in my entire life. I think I tried to do it once, and i completely let it pass by. (Though the fanfic i mentioned previously, im pretty sure i updated once a week before i fucked up)
15.  How do you deal with writer’s block?
I either set it aside (and never pick it up again lmao) and let it stew in the back of my mind until I get something else, oR I POWER THROUGH THIS MOTHERFUCKER, and I’ll probably only write 50 words and hate every single last one of them, but I got it done and it’s better than nothing and hopefully tomorrow i’ll actually have something. (also, sometimes when powering through, what i write ends up inspiring me and im like “oh of course!” and i blaze through it)
21.  Who is/are your favourite character(s) to write?in case u havent noticed yet, about 99% of all my characters are snarky to some degree. I need a character with a wry sense of humour, and I’ll usually stay in their pov a lot. The only other character “type” I have are the sunshine pure cinnamon rolls who care and love everyone. Oh, and I guess also the ones who are pissed and bitter at the world at large. (I should.... probably... try to get out of this comfort zone...)
25.  Favourite part of writing
okay tbh, my favourite part is when I’m winding down from a good writing session, and I just feel so proud and alive, because I was productive and I created something with my own two hands and mind, and there are very few things that are as incredible as that imo
27.  Favourite line/scene
okay so this was hard to pick??? not to mention it’s all crap you’ve seen before but whatever.
There’s this one:
“McCreewas abruptly reminded of when he was nothing more than a teen, snarling andfurious at everyone around him, not willing to trust anyone. And he wasreminded of Gabriel Reyes who stayed calm and collected in front of his fury,gently rebuking him when he crossed a line; who praised him when he did welland willingly trusted him to have his back even though McCree didn’t trust him;who seemed to quietly understand why McCree acted in certain ways, accepted it,but encouraged him to choose better. Gabriel Reyes, who had faith in him whenhe wasn’t even sure he liked himself.“
And this one:
“IfWash’s head was a ghost town, then the Meta’s was a fucking wasteland.
Butthe worst part wasn’t the scorched earth and completely lifeless landscape, norwas it the stormy brown clouds above. No, the worst part was the lava that wasslowly inching its way up the mountain. It bubbled and simmered an awful sicklyorange as it creeped up bit by bit, not fast at all, but inexorably to the topof the mountain, going against all laws of physics. It was so awfully wrongthat he honestly felt sick witnessing it. Not helping was the sizzles it madeas it burned through whatever little vegetation there was and (he had no ideawhy he knew this, maybe it was because he was connected to the Meta’s brain?),it felt like the lava was actually gouging the earth, opening cracks andseeping inside, corrupting and destroying what lay within.
Wasthe Meta even a person anymore?”
(I proooobably would’ve picked something from the tuckington au but.... a lot of my favourite stuff is dialogue, or snarky narration, and idk it’s hard to choose and there aint a lot of depth to it)
28.  Favourite side character
OKAY THERE’S THIS ONE SIDE CHARACTER IN ONE MY ORIGINAL STORY IDEAS WHOM I ADORE (even though he has no name yet lmao) BUT HE’S BASICALLY REALLY SWEET AND CARING AND HE’S TRYING HIS BEST TO BE HAPPY AND SUPPORTIVE FOR ALL HIS COMPANIONS BC THEY’RE ALL GOING THROUGH HARD TIMES, BUT IT’S REALLY HARD FOR HIM AND HE’S INWARDLY SUFFERING SO MUCH BUT HE KEEPS SMILING FOR PEOPLE ANYWAY AND FLDG;DKHGFKG I LOVE HIM
29.  Favourite villain
I’m... cheating for this, I’ve never written a villain ever actually (and tbh what the fuck??? how??? i have so many original story ideas and none of them are villains??? what the fuck (maybe the true villains were the friends we made along the way))
okay so, originally, this character was gonna be the villain alright. She was mean, cruel, snarky, cunning, and manipulative. But as time went on, and I started exploring her character, wondering why she was like this, what her goal is, and I changed and shifted the plot of the story around she... sort of... became the main character. woops.
30.  Favourite idea you haven’t started on yet
IM ONLY GONNA USE ORIGINAL STORIES FOR THIS BC HOLY SHIT
Honestly, I’d probably have to go with this idea I had of a living person picking up the scythe of a Grim Reaper and becoming one and having to learn the ropes of the job.
Okay, I lied, it might actually be this detective series idea I had, wherein the main character, a police officer, has to investigate cases that, for the most part, are reminiscent, or re-imagined versions, of Quebec folk tales, and she has to figure out why the fuck this is happening.
34.  What was the hardest scene you ever had to write?
FIGHTING AND ACTION SCENES I HATE THEM SO MUCH OH MY GOD THEY TAKE FOREVER AND I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE IM FUCKING THEM UP HORRIBLY I HATE THEM (I could give u a specific example, but i dont want to)
36.  Last sentence you wrote
“Shut up.”
(this is actually how chapter 2 of my tuckington high school au ends lmao and there’s nothing to gain from it have fun adri)
39.  Weirdest character concept you’ve ever had
OH SHIT I ACTUALLY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION, okay so the i have no clue where the idea came from, but for some reason i had this idea of a character who’s mental stability or whatever was linked to these bracelets she wore??? but it was more like she became more primal and animalistic the more bracelets were taken off until she lost all sense of identity, and i think it’s because she was being controlled or used by an organization or whatever. This was just a random idea that I had and okay i know it’s dark af, but it’s honestly the weirdest one. (tbh…. im not sure i have one that could be considered weird…)
45.  How much world building do you do?
all of it. just. all of it. I need to know clothes, food, architecture, cultural norms, the history of the world, how the fuck people can communicate when there are multiple countries and multiple languages, and this is why absolutely none of my original stuff has ever been written
47.  Best way to procrastinate
Day-dreaming scenes and ideas instead of writing them
48.  What’s the most self-insert character/scene you’ve ever written?
W O W ADRI U WANNA CALL ME OUT THAT BADLY HUH?
honestly it’s probably that main character/villain i mentioned previously, bc i just gave her all of my self-loathing and she was supposed to sacrifice herself heroically in the end and there was gonna be an entire speech about why she was the right person to do this. (if it makes u feel any better, I’ve modified it so she doesn’t actually die and everyone is like “wtf? NO!”)
also the protagonist in story, i just gave her my depression and general lostness in life. (most... of my characters... start off with a part of me I want to explore, but over time, as I flesh them out, they become their own people, and actually have nothing to do with me anymore tbh)
49.  Which character would you most want to be friends with, if they were real?
THAT SWEET CINNAMON ROLL I MENTIONED BEFORE OMG YES, I WOULD PROTECT HIM WITH MY LIFE
50: how long do you usually let an idea fester in your mind before you’re like, “okay, i’ll write you down u little fucker”?
*LAUGHS HYSTERICALLY* OH MAN ADRI U HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU’VE JUST ASKED DO U OMG WAIT UNTIL U HEAR THIS
okay so u know that story with the cinnamon roll and main character/villain? The basic plot of that story has been in my brain since around 2011. I still haven’t started to write it. (though, to be fair, that story has changed so goddamn much since 2012 holy shit, and for the better tbh)
tbh adri, ur like 80% of my impulse control, and by that I mean you make me impulsive enough to actually write things instead of letting them ruminate in my brain forevermore. Hell, I’ve only started to get back into writing fanfiction because of you, okay, if u weren’t around I’d probably just give up on writing ever, and let the idea of being a novelist be nothing more but a fantasy i daydream about.
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50 Cent
Last album: Animal Ambition (2014)
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Ab-Soul
Last album: Do What Thou Wilt (2016)
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Busta Rhymes
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Busta Rhymes has nine albums below his belt however hasn’t placed out a solo LP in view that 2012. That’s double the amount of time in view that his previous longest album drought— from 2002 to 2006. Bussa Bus has not been stagnant, however, freeing three mixtapes and assisting launch the career of O.T. Genasis, all even as teasing his legit return. Last February, he introduced he was putting the completing touches at the album with the assist of Dr. Dre. We are still ready at the aftermath.
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Last album: Professional Rapper (2015)
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Lauryn Hill
Last album: The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill (1998)
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Jadakiss
Last album: Top five Dead or Alive (2015)
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Fetty Wap
Last album: Fetty Wap (2015)
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Pharrell
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DMX
Last album: Redemption of the Beast (2015)
For years, DMX has been dealing with troubles that are deeper than rap. He went from dropping 5 albums in 5 years to a few inside the remaining 17. It’s difficult to don't forget his final album, Redemption of the Beast, official because it became reportedly released without his consent. Last fall, he reunited with Def Jam, inking a brand new cope with the report business enterprise that was his first label domestic. It’d be dope to peer X upward thrust like a grand champion yet again following a stint in rehab.
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Waka Flocka Flame
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Redman
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LL Cool J
Last album: Authentic (2013)
Todd Smith is one of the great to ever do it. Period. At 13 albums in, seven years have passed seeing that LL Cool J's last imparting, Authentic. He announced G.O.A.T. 2 in 2014 earlier than putting it on hold pronouncing, "It changed into right but I didn’t sense love it changed into equipped but." He dabbled with retirement a couple years later, however Uncle L can’t leave rap on my own, the sport needs him. Recently, there have been talks that a new album is coming together with Fat Joe serving as govt manufacturer.
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Q-Tip
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