#women CAN be toxic too

[aleksanderscult]

Bagrah could be a great, fascinating character if Leigh Bardugo didn't try so hard to victimize her and portray her as some sort of hero... Seriously wtf ? The narration in relation to Bagrah always made me cringe. In another version of events, I would have liked a less ignorant Alina to tell her the truth about being a bad teacher, a bad mother (now I want a fanfiction where Alina defends Aleksander of Bagrah) and just a bad person.

⚠️TW: Suicide mention at some point⚠️

Bestie, you just decided to touch one of the most problematic things in that universe. The matter of "We consider toxic, problematic women innocent and heroic".

Just like Baghra, just like Ana Kuya. A world where if you're a woman and you're toxic, then you're okay!

My own feelings of Baghra is that I just can't help but find her interesting. I can't help but wanna re-read her scenes sometimes. I don't like her but she's intriguing. There are times when I remember how fucked up her life was. Her father neglected her and her mother despised her. And then they abandoned her. Which makes me feel sorry for her. But then I remember how she had numerous kids from loveless matches and abandoned them all except one. Because this boy was special like her: immortal and powerful. She willingly condemned another human being to the pain and loneliness of immortality (and it's very possible that she condemned her other children to immortality as well, just like Ulla). She raised Aleksander with no displays of love, didn't allow him to form bonds with others and used emotional, verbal (and, very possibly, physical) abuse on him. Taught him how to be prideful, to abandon love, to value power. But when Aleksander became prideful and valued power, she turned her back on him. When he found a potential match on Alina, she took her away from him. Because Baghra always wanted him to depend on her for company and love. All these make me feel disgust for her.

But still Baghra was a product of the fucked up life Grisha had that made her value self-preservation, just like Aleksander was. The only difference is that Aleksander cared about the fate of their people.

And when Aleksander entrusted her with the training of his Grisha, she used violent means to teach them how to develop and control their powers. Even used their own phobias against them ffs.

And despite all this, we have the good guys not only remembering her fondly but also defend her:

This whole paragraph makes me sick.

Look, I naturally didn't expect the good gang remember the Darkling with love. No way that. But why on God's green earth do they make him seem like a lunatic with no feelings that was at fault for literally EVERYTHING?

“Did he love the girl he forced to commit those murders?”

Ah, yes, of course. Because if a person is a murderer then he's also incapable of feeling love. When you're a villain, you can't love. You can't have both. It's impossible, Aleksander! 😠🫵

“What about the girl he tossed into the old king's bed for his own purposes?”

Oh right. Because Aleksander gave Genya to the King not to the Queen's care. Jesus, I forgot that.

Oh yes! I also forgot how Genya decided to stay because she wanted to take revenge.

“then mutilated when she dared to challenge him”

Me if I was the editor of the book, saw that line and correcting it: "then punished when she dared to commit treason against him?"

Because isn't that what she did? She was his soldier and let the Sun Summoner escape. What do you think he would do to her? Give her a sympathetic pat on the shoulder and say: "I understand. She's your friend. Fuck Ravka."

“Or the woman he blinded for failing to offer him unswerving devotion?”

Didn't Baghra commit treason as well? Didn't she let the Sun Summoner go? Does Zoya realize that if the King had found out, he would behead Baghra on the spot?

Also why is she talking about him like he didn't regret what he did to his mother?

And am I the only one in this goddamn fandom that thinks that Baghra got away with it lightly?

So Zoya in a few words:

‘Who would speak for Liliyana, for Genya and Alina and Baghra if she did not?’

In other words Zoya: "I'm the LAWYER IN HERE!!"

Instead of wanting to feel love for the good characters and side with them, I want to slap them across the face. The amount of stupidity and arrogance they have is truly admirable. Congratulations for being douchebags, my friends!!👌👌

This duology has me like:

Instead of admitting that Baghra was problematic and made many serious mistakes (which I would much prefer to see from them) they're glorifying her. They're painting her as a frail, weak and innocent woman that did nothing wrong in her life. And being abusive is not against her! Of course not. Because she's a woman so we have to let her go of any charges and forgive her. ❤️

She was neither frail nor weak. She could easily use her powers if she could but Baghra loooved to play the victim. And she was definitely not innocent. She was one of the reasons Aleksander came out this way and contributed to his eventual downfall in R&R. Since her suicide made him lose his mind and become even more unhinged.

And, finally, yes I would have liked someone to tell her how shit of a mother she was to her son and how she sucks in general. But I don't think it would mind her much. She would be apathetic and sarcastic.

#if I see ONE person being a pro Baghra in this fandom I'll lose my faith in humanity #women CAN be toxic too #all people of any gender. race and sex can be toxic #the darkling #pro darkling #aleksander morozova #pro aleksander morozova #baghra morozova #anti nikolai duology #anti zoya nazyalensky #king of scars #shadow and bone #grishaverse #grishaverse trilogy

[eerna]

in a world filled with books written by male authors that make me go "uhhhhh this writer does Not have a good outlook on masculinity and women, this was definitely written by a man", the Chaos Walking trilogy stands as a complete opposite where I spent the entire series being like "WOW I never really thought about masculinity in this way, WOW this is painting a really interesting picture of gender dynamics and generational relationships, this was definitely written by a man"

#whenever discussion on manly male book things like rape and toxic masculinity pops up i am like. cw did it and did it well. #you CAN write a lead who makes up excuses for why he participates in a system that oppresses women!!! you CAN write about a dude falling #into the spiral of toxic masculine approval!!! you CAN give him horrible role models!! i am not opposed to that!!! #but you can't do it if part of you worships those ideals and doesn't really like women all that much. patrick ness on the other hand gets i #chaos walking liveblog #every spring i think of my kids idek why. i am still too traumatized to reread. or am i <3

[gayvampyr]

“queer spaces should be inclusive of people who don’t enjoy sex and who have “strange”, negative or repulsed relationships with sex” and “sex is an important aspect of lgbt community, history, and activism and queer people should be allowed and able to talk freely about sex without stigma or shame” are ideas that can and should coexist.

#‘queer people were banned from and shamed for having sex and that’s where a lot of our activism stemmed from’ and #‘not liking or having sex is considered abnormal and a mental illness and also needs to be destigmatized’ are concepts that not only can but #often do coalign #it’s esp important to consider that a lot of lgbt ppl who have a tricky and strained relationship with sex are like that because of trauma #which is very common for queer folks #it’s really not an ace-only thing #like i am sex repulsed but it’s very hard to discern if it’s because i’m asexual or if it’s the trauma. either way i deserve to have those #feelings and be included in lgbt spaces and discussions about sex and treated as just another queer person with a different experience #instead of being alienated because my feelings about sex don’t directly line up with yours #im so sick of people in this community trying to pit us against each other. as an ace lesbian that shit is so toxic and harmful #my relationship with sex is fluid. im sex-positive always‚ but i often find myself sex repulsed. im otherwise neutral about it but im sick #of people acting like it’s either you enjoy sex and have it frequently or you hate it and you shame everyone who has it like youre a puritan #and it’s often aphobes who bought into that ‘aces are puritanical celibate straights who want ppl who have gay sex to die or think they’re #‘dirty’ or some shit. and it was literally 90% crypto-aphobes pretending to be aces to get people to adopt that into their belief system #the same way crypto-t/rfs pretend to be trans women who want to prey on the ‘innocent women’ #and y’all will use those posts/screenshots as ‘evidence’ that whatever scapegoat you’ve selected is actually inherently bad/homophobic/ #misogynistic/etc and not even #acknowledge the giant hole in your logic cuz you’re too busy trying to find a scapegoat #it’s the same tactics and y’all fall for it every time #text post #like. lesbians are CONSTANTLY getting hounded and told that we’re broken or mentally i’ll for not showing interest in (having sex with) men #for the same reason asexuality is considered bad or wrong or weird #not showing interest in heterosexual relationships or sex is why this is so important #anyone that falls outside the scope of heterosexuality is part of this community whether you like it or not

[aq2003]

there comes a beautiful time in life where i have to ask myselg th question, "did i accidentally project too hard onto the character that i only relate to a little bit and in doing so hugely missed this one entire aspect/interpretation of the characters . am i stupid"

#ARE THEY STUPID! #dr who #this is about ten specifically his relationship w martha lmao #m being so serious i genuinely did not. see the 'ten was on purpose leading martha on to make her think her feelings were requited' angle #until going out into the wild and reading the tumblr posts. like i genuinely did not. at ALLLLLL. its like a brick hitting my head #bc the ENTIRE time s3 ten came off to me as 'doing stuff w no romantic intent behind it but would consistently get misinterpreted as such' #cuz IIIIIIIII have done this. IIIIIIII have run into this problem before. and it sucks so incredibly bad. #i actually do want to think my og interpretation still holds water cuz like. well i could gather all the evidence but #first one that comes 2 mind would be him going 'it's like when you fancy someone + they dont know you exist' to martha. in episode TWELVE #two routes; either ten is needlessly cruel and callous even after a season's worth of building up trust and friendship w her #or he is on super 'i dont think she has feelings for me and this is a very unhappy coincidence of a line' cocaine #Or the 'she fancied me' line in s4 to donna. either he is disregarding all the good and positive impact she did him. or the fact that this #went over his head the whole time made him look back on that time w discomfort <- I DID THIS. I MIGHT HAVE BEEN PROJECTING #THIS ONTO HIM. AM I STUPID.?.????? #you know how mikage rgu can either be read as an incel or a gay man lost so completely in the sauce #ten is like in this same ballpark. i think. of 'emotionally manipulative and disrespects women' or 'aroacespec and missed the cues' #funniest possible options to pick from. ten my brother how did you set yourself up like this #absolutely not denying that he was toxic and unhealthy during s3 in like 500 ways btw. but well. ths is the one concwpt that #flew over my head. so completely. and i can kind of see it now but i also still find it hard to incorporate into my belief system #bc its like. brother I'M aroace and missed the cues too lol #tangential note we can trace many problems down to a writer's room filled w white people not giving #martha's character the respect/agency she deserves for the existing narrative she has. bc they pulled this w mickey too both in series 1+2 #if they wanted to portray ten as manipulative then him and martha should've been given more screentime #together where martha (or anyone else) calls him the FUCK out on this. and ten would need to suffer narrative consequences of doing smth #as fucked up as that rather than his happy stable dynamic he has w donna. if they wanted to portray him as oblivious then marthas character #shouldn't have constantly been boiled down to an unrequited crush (particularly her dialogue in the s3 finale - there's a LOT more reasons #why she would choose to leave/why their dynamic was unhealthy besides ten not returning her feelings) #if you read all these tags you may be entitled 2 financial compensation #ten and martha #aspec doc tag

[ctrl-lupin]

Yes, I would be very interested hearing your head canon (@tim-ribbert-56) (in response to this post)

I have decided for my personal entertainment that Clarisse de Cagliostro is related to Lupin III, and here's why.

-pulls out Arsène Lupin's Wikipedia page-

In the novel La Comtesse de Cagliostro, a young Arsène Lupin (at the time going by the name Raoul d'Andrésy) was courting Clarisse d'Etigues, a young lady of a well-to-do family, and trying to win her hand, despite her father's disapproval.

Throughout the course of the novel, Lupin meets and falls in love with Joséphine Balsamo, aka the Countess of Cagliostro, and abandons Clarisse in favour of her. To clarify, Joséphine is not actually countess of anything, she is (or claims to be) a descendant of Giuseppe Balsamo aka the Count of Cagliostro (who was also count of jack shit), a famous conman from the 18th century.

Shenanigans ensue, which I will not go into in details on, but oh my god I am insane about Raoul and Joséphine, I want to dissect them and study them under a microscope. It turns out Joséphine aka Cagliostro is evil as fuck, Raoul/Lupin realizes that and goes back to Clarisse (whom he had previously abandoned like an old sock, I fucking hate this guy), marries her, and a few years later has her kid.

Unfortunately Clarisse dies in childbirth, and Joséphine, who was still around and very very pissed at Lupin (and jealous as hell of Clarisse whom, may I mention, had never personally antagonized her in any way whatsoever, Joséphine is just fucking bonkers). Joséphine also kidnaps Lupin and Clarisse's son, Jean, and raises him as her own son. (I have not yet read the following novel The revenge of Cagliostro so I don't really know what Jean's deal is, I just know he's an antagonist).

The following is my headcanon, based on these events. In the universe of Lupin III, Joséphine Balsamo was actually countess of the small kingdom of Cagliostro (maybe Giuseppe was count, maybe he conned his way into becoming count, maybe he bought the land and built a fake kingdom with a fake history, who knows).

After the events of The revenge of Cagliostro, Jean settles down in the country of Cagliostro, gets married, has a child, and that child will later have a daughter of their own, who they name Clarisse, after their late grandmother. Clarisse de Cagliostro, of Lupin III: The Castle of Cagliostro fame, would thus be the great-grand-daughter of Arsène Lupin, making her Lupin III's cousin/niece/whatever you call this specific degree of separation.

I am choosing to make Clarisse de Cagliostro a great-granddaughter of Arsène Lupin, rather than a granddaughter, because Arsène Lupin was very young when the events I described unfolded: he is 20 years old when he meets Clarisse d'Etigues and the whole Cagliostro debacle happens, and 25 by the time Jean is born. I'm assuming he had Lupin II much later in his life. So Jean and Lupin II (half-brothers) would have a significant difference in age, and so Jean's hypothetical child (grandchild of Arsène Lupin, so of the same generation of Lupin III) would be much older than Lupin III. Clarisse de Cagliostro is younger than him, maybe around the same age if you stretch it, so she's have to be a great-grandchild.

Now I need to read The revenge of Cagliostro and study Arsène Lupin's wikipedia page in more detail to determine when exactly Lupin II was born and who his mother was. And also where Albert's family branched out, because the fact that he's called D'Andrésy should theoretically place him as a descendant of Arsène Lupin's mother but not of Arsène Lupin himself; but Jean was also going by that last name, so who fucking knows.

No I am not insane I promise, I am just a gigantic nerd.

#i have very mixed feelings about Papy Lupin Original Flavour #cuz you see in the first books he was pretty much like his grandson #a charming little bastard; smug as hell but also charming enough to make up for it #like. an ego the size of the eiffel tower but it's highly deserved #if he robbed me i would just thank him #you wanna punch him in the face but like. lovingly #then around The Hollow Needle he started acting weird #and after that his ego grew into a god complex the size of the eiffel tower and he just lost all the charm #like. just a huge dick honestly. #i thought that was a logical evolution after (SPOILER FOR THE HOLLOW NEEDLE) his wife got brutally murdered in front of his eyes #mere HOURS after they got married and he gave up his whole career as a thief for her #which would be an understandable evolution #but no he's also retroactively an asshole in The Countess of Cagliostro which is a prequel #i guess leblanc just decided 'lupin's a dick now' #which sucks #but on the other hand it's very funny to kinda hate-read The Countess of Cagliostro #i was honestly rooting for Joséphine for most of the book #she is fucking insane which is exactly what raoul/lupin deserve #you know that Mountain Goats song 'no children' ? #'hand in unloveable hand; i hope you die i hope with both die' #or that post that says 'i don't ship them they're too toxic / well i hope they kill each other mid-fuck' #well that's me with them #just reading on to see how many more life-ruining decisions raoul can bodily throw himself at #also leblanc did joséphine dirty!!!!!!!! #LET MY GIRL BE EVIL FOR GOD'S SAKE #none of that 'her fragile feminine nature' and fainting after murdering someone because deep down she can't bear her own cruelty #what the fuck #let her be genuinely unhinged!! let her bash raoul's head in with a meat hammer!!!! #(yes that is something that she tried to do) #anyway. justice for Joséphine Balsamo. god forbid women do anything

[hysteriamodes]

TERFs in my notifs arguing that men don't suffer any type of disparity while society as a whole still disparages men from:

- custody cases favoring women more than men and there are some instances the mother is actually an awful parent

- men being conditioned not to express themselves to the point that they don't seek help for depression and mental illness.

- on the same topic, men as a whole are more likely to commit suicide

- men who survive rape, CSA, or sexual assault are less likely to report it than women because of stigma.

- men are shamed if they take jobs that are traditionally held by women, like teachers and nurses.

And, of course, the disproportionate amount of black men in prison.

But yes, please do continue to tell everyone how men can't experience any type of disparity and how it's only cis white women.

Protip: feminism also includes freeing men from toxic masculinity and racism, not just women. If your "feminism" only extends to only women and doesn't acknowledge these situations, then you're not much of a feminist.

But what can you expect from TERFs? They're so self-obsessed and self-centered.

Also.

#racism #feminism #misandry #toxic masculinity #LGBTQIA #TERFs #trans exclusionists #trans exclusionary radical feminist #trans #trans rights are human rights #trans women are trans women #trans men are men #real mens rights is not treating them like shit #and acknowledging men can suffer too #TERFs are not feminists #TERFs hate women #terfblr #anti TERF #queer community #queer

[r-biter]

az for the character bingo. your relationship w him fascinates me

Put gently, i need him dead, but he IS like the most interestingly weird person in the IC likely.

#like him and rhys are neck and neck #i can graph his parental issues directly onto his issues with illyrians #smth smth its Really Weird that when describing his childhood they bring up his step mother specifically #when everything points to her likely not making any of the actual major decisions about his childhood #like resenting her makes sense dont get me wrong but azriels father not beinf their first thought in that scenario says smth #smth smth azriel projects his stepmother onto all illyrian women barring like a couple #and it has led to him resenting them and doing nothing to stop the system that hurt his mother #while also reviling the men for that exact system #and he cant really stop doing this without ultimately engaging with the fact that hes a bystander to their struggles despite his power #and therefore not much better then the men if at all #also his mommy issues manifest as him being really weird about the women hes attracted to #he projects the same vulnerability of his mother onto every women weve seen him be attracted to #and it results in him trying to stop them from doing reckless shit he doesnt stop others from doing #like ppl reduce his weirdness around elain as him being weird about her specifically but hes like that in acomaf towards mor too #which makes absolutely no sense because Mor has been Actively A Warrior the same amount of time #basically what im saying is this man needs therapy and also to be as far from every woman and illyrian possible #i do like cazriel but its specifically because its like. toxic x toxic #like okay cw for stealthing in the tags (insane sentence ik) #and the general lack of consent implied #there is a reason ive written like cazriel mpreg where they both keep poking condoms but dont tell each other #(i am aware that sentence is insane) #and its because i dont think either of these men are as they are currently capable of being normal #and are both specifically the way they are because they fear being abandoned in some way #cassian acts the way he does towards rhys because he fears some level of abandonment #azriel refuses to properly express his feelings in any romantic context because he fears abandonment #like im not gonna rawdog ppl who interpret him pleasantly cause like i see where theyre coming from #the bad just reallly outways the good #also im still mad he called elaine the third #i need him dead for that specifically

[armoralor]

my favourite irony of the current shipping discussion is the folks who allege WolfWren enjoyers sent “threats” to people who enjoy cishet ships (I have asked for ANY examples or usernames of anyone doing this multiple times), have also been calling for Filoni to suffer & die if he doesn’t make their ship canon. but don’t forget, it’s definitely the sapphics and queers who like WolfWren that are the problem

#queer nbs & women get harassed for MONTHS by sabezra stans: [complete silence & all the major sabezra blogs still interact with those folks] #wolfwren gets a little love from the cast: “UMMM ACTUALLY THIS SHIP WAR IS SO TOXIC NOW AND THE WOLFWRENS ARE THE PEOPLE THREATENING OTHERS #are there wolfwren fans that suck? probably. & if you would like us to do something about it please give us examples and show us who #so we can make sure we aren’t supporting ANYONE sending threats and hate. #I’ve even seen wolfwren shippers giving sabezra shippers advice on blocking IPs + turning on stronger privacy settings #but where the fuck were Sabezra shippers when other Sabezra stans were talking about rape + murder + abuse in queer peoples posts? #I have about more than 20 examples of disgusting vile HATE (actual hate & not “haha RIP this ship) that I’ve been directly sent #multiple wolfwren fic writers have had to turn off their comments on fics because of homophobic hate #artists have been getting dumb shitty homophobic comments on their wolfwren art with “gay garbage!!! Sabezra of life!!!” #and I’m not seeing anyone calling out sabezras as a whole for being bad toxic people (which no one should because they aren’t) #do you understand & feel the hypocrisy now? #I have no doubt there are “mean” WolfWren fans that are saying silly shit like “hahah we won” and “our ship is better” #and yeah! That’s mean. HOWEVER it is not fucking harassment or the same as “fuck this LGBT shit” #and it’s wrong that queer sabezra stans are being harassed too- there is way too much biphobia & homophobia in this whole fucking fandom #but let’s not act like being called homophobic is the same as suffering under homophobia #and let’s not forget that queer people are capable of being homophobic themselves by perpetuating harm #thank you for coming to my TEDtalk #text

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

People have argued about league vs dota way too much when they’re honestly both fun mobas in their own right. But I heavily favor league of legends for one reason: the ratio of female characters to male characters in league of legends is roughly 2:3 which isn’t good, but in dota it’s an abysmal 1:5. If you want to play a female character in league you have at least one option for every role and most character archetypes, if you want to play a female character in dota your options are limited to scantily clad mages, scantily clad marksmen, scantily clad supports or one of two woman in armor who fight melee (1 of which was released only like 1 year ago). Not to say that league of legends is respectful to women, hell some of its designs are arguably far worse in terms of over sexualization than dota, but the key factor here is that THERE ARE ACTUALLY PLAYABLE WOMEN IN LEAGUE

#posts that are only for me #it’s funny bc riots data shows that women prefer to play female characters and that it’s a factor men often don’t care about #which makes it pretty obvious to me why dota’s community is even more densely full of toxic gamer dudes. and dota has voice chat lmao #I have literally nothing against people who say they enjoy dota gameplay more. I think dota is fun too #but for the love of god I cannot enjoy a game where the pool of women I can play as is so tiny #if I had started by playing dota I would probably like it’s slower paced gameplay more tbh #but I instead started with league and also now find myself only wanting to play female characters or huge tanky guys/monsters #and to be fair dota has a lot of big monster dudes. but I don’t really like any of them like I like Sion and Gragas

[khalesci]

I will never forgive the gross mischaracterization of Daenerys as a heartless girlboss when all Dany has ever really wanted for herself is a home and a family of her own. She is driven by love, not power, and she wants to be queen because she wants to be able to protect people the way she herself was never protected.

And she wants to be queen of the seven kingdoms *specifically* because she has been told all her life that the smallfolk were waiting for the Targaryens to return and "save" them, and even if she doesn't wholly believe the grandiosity of those claims, all she's heard of Westeros in the past few years is how it's been riddled with war and famine and other horrible things, and it's her duty as someone with the power to potentially put a stop to all of that to do so.

She doesn't care about power, but she recognizes the power she does have, and she thinks it's wrong for people with that power to sit by and do nothing while there are innocents dying. Her "entitlement" to the throne does not come from any sort of Targaryen pride, it stems from her belief that she MUST take the throne in order to do more good, that if she does, she can fix her "home".

#♛ ooc. ⊱ ❝ 𝘖𝘩 𝘯𝘰 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘔𝘢𝘳𝘪. ❞ #dany is not an ice queen!! she is not a 'girlboss' !! #hate that d&d made that idea prevelant #they had a horrible habit over the course of the show of stripping the women of 'femininity' and portraying that as weakness #they made arya think other girls were all stupid simply for being girly but book arya was a fierce protector of other girls #and demanded that other people treat them like they mattered too #show brienne completely shunned any idea of domesticity and saw traditional femininity as a weakness #but book brienne found it admirable in others. she deeply admired catelyn and remarked that women have a different kind of strength #book brienne wanted that for herself too but felt she could never have it bc she did not conform wholly to societal expectations #I can go on and on about this stupid trend of the erasure of anything traditionally associated with 'femininity' #because these traits are deemed as 'weak' #but the idea that women cannot want to be in love or to have families or else they are 'weak' and 'powerless' is SO FUCKING DUMB #so is the idea that masc-leaning & gnc women aren't allowed to want these things either bc it somehow 'invalidates' them????? #tying all of these *extremely human* wants desires and emotions to gender at all #is just another form of toxic masculinity and misogyny wrapped up in a bundle that gets marketed as empowering #everyone should be allowed to want what they want and *not* want what they don't and it doesn't make anyone more or less of ANYTHING for it

[mxllitiam]

a comprehensive chronological list of every heart effie trinket has broken. and the respective song lyrics that could have been written about her, because effie trinket is someone you write breakup songs about.

do me a favor and ask if you need some help / she said, "do me a favor, and stop flattering yourself" / and to tear apart the ties that bind / perhaps "fuck off" might be too kind /

she's nineteen when she leaves marlin lowrock. he tries to change the way she dresses and the way she speaks. he doesn't like how loud her laughter booms across the room. he doesn't like that she walks with a pep in her step. he doesn't like her. she throws a punch on her way out of his life and holds her face immaculately still even as pain shoots up her knuckles (she broke one, her finger is still crooked). his nose bleeds. this is the one where she learns not to settle. 

but i'm a creep / i'm a weirdo / what the hell am i doing here? / i don't belong here / she's running out the door /

she's twenty when she leaves caesar flickerman. it's not so much as a leaving, really, as it is never walking into anything. she goes on precisely two dates with him. it's only to please her parents, he's from an influential family and it'd be nice, they say, if the kids dated. she holds back her grimaces whenever he laughs over the dinner table and she only agrees to a second one because she enjoys torturing herself, it seems. she leaves after thirty minutes of the second date, excuses herself and never answers his attempts to contact her again. this is the one she's most embarrassed by. 

i won't cover my scars, i'll let them bleed / so my silence, so my silence / won't be mistaken for peace / am i wrong for wanting us to make it? / tell me your lies because i just can't face it /

she's twenty-five when she leaves cypress lockhart. he is the perfect man and she is the imperfect bride-to-not-be. her grin is wide and filled with panic any time someone makes a funny little remark about the lack of a shiny ring on her finger. he kneels to the ground on a hot summer night and dread fills up her throat until all that comes out is a choked sound. he knows the answer as soon as he asks it. she has known it from the moment they started dating. she is not a bride, she is something else, something in-between, something that aches and longs for things she has never known. this is the problem, she has dreamed of a luxurious wedding, she has yearned for the sound pattern of little feet running all over her house, she has wanted a marriage and a family, but not with him. effie trinket seems to be searching for an impossible thing. everyone says she must be mad to turn him down. his mother's ring is pocketed again and she pretends to feel guilty. he runs a quiet smear campaign on her for years. this is the one that people still whisper about.

got a girl with california eyes / and i thought that she could really be the one this time / but i never got the chance to make her mine / 

she's twenty-seven when she leaves osage blossom. a young stylist born on district four that made it to the capitol to work, not a dime to her name and a bag heavy on her shoulders. effie adores her. her parents don't approve of their daughter dating a nobody. months later, after some suspicious rebellious acitivity, osage is found dead at her apartment. this is the one where effie's heart breaks too.

god dammit amy, we're not kids anymore / you can't just keep waltzing out of my life, leaving clothes on my bedroom floor, / [...] / you should mean more to me by now than just heartbreak and a short skirt /

she's twenty-eight when she leaves glinte wellbrand. the end of her twenties have come on too fast and too slow all the same. effie finds herself a wild animal, an awful thing; she clings to her tall stone walls and shoots daggers at anyone close enough to see. for once she doesn't want to be seen, heard, understood. for once, the ground could swallow her up. glinte is a welcome distraction, a thoughtless call in the middle of every lonely night. they don't want anything more than casual, either, but they're also fed up with her antics after months of it. she's too much, they say. they exist under each other's skins like poison. their argument ends with a broken bottle and a hole on the wall. this is the one she doesn't talk about much.

you got big plans and you gotta move / and i don't feel nothing at all / and you can't feel nothing small / honey, i love you, that's all she wrote / oh, ophelia / you've been on my mind, girl, like a drug /

she's thirty-one when she leaves saffran farshire. they don't see eye to eye anymore, and she's learned to jump back in the water before it all sinks. there isn't much to write home about. he wants to keep trying, but she insists against it. the cold night mocks her emptiness when she walks out of their place, bound to let her own loneliness hold her to sleep for the next however many years. although admittedly such a crier, she doesn't shed any tears. there's a hollow in her chest that fills up eventually with her career, her friends, her team. this is just the one that happened last.

#effie : musings #abusive relationship tw #toxic relationship tw #death tw #jic #there's only one woman bc effie doesn't break women's hearts they don't belong in this list #also cypress can get champagne problems by tswift but that's effie's pov #special thanks to the thg name generator #this started as a joke bc i hc'd that effie dated caesar once #anyone is welcome to this information ic now too <33

[the-queer-demon]

you guys know that like. branding certain ideas as "terf rhetoric" and viewing even the discussion of said ideas as immoral is. not good. you know that right

#I've seen too many posts demonising some random person who's actually discussing real world issues and calling them radfems #like #the reason that radfems are so toxic is that #they believe that sex is a binary characteristic that fundamentally defines who you are as a person #and that idea not only harms trans people but lots of other feminists as well #if you're talking about kam or actual issues in the patriarchy #or just criticizing trans people #that's not being a radfem #and the label 'radfem' shouldn't be used as a debate putdown anyways #we need to actually be critical of the beliefs we see so we can determine what is actually harmful or not #this is about that painting women post btw

[1eos]

very odd to see a bunch of ppl defend the known, and proud zionist's take on feminism. which is... you know bad 🤔 you think WOMEN are upholding toxic masculinity???? not the men performing it? ok.........

#again ppl with agendas purposefully skew the discourse to absolve oppressors from personal responsibility #yes some women LOVE men who perform toxic masculinity but babe they're victims of the system too #and if the puffed up aggressive immature reactive MEN can get an uwu im baby pass despite ruining the world #those girls should get some empathy too but ofc they won't when you hate women LMAO #all these weird men rights activists should all die im bored of this

[philsmeatylegss]

I saw a tiktok talking about the massive shortage of feminine hygiene products in Gaza.

The only charity right now that seems to be helping with this shortage is called Motherbeing

Motherbeing is an organization based on education and providing assistance in healthcare for Arab women.

They recently donated 200,000 sanitary pads as women have been taking dangerous measures to delay their periods out of fear of toxic shock syndrome.

In case you are unaware, toxic shock syndrome is a possibly life threatening infection that develops from wearing a feminine hygiene product, usually tampons or cups, for too long.

They currently don’t have donations open, but people are trying to get them to. There’s products you can buy from their website, however.

This will get like three notes, but I just came across it and I wanted to post something. When something as serious as genocide happens, people forget little things like pads and tampons, which actually can be life threatening.

If you want to donate to charities similar to this one, here’s a few I found:

-Helping Women Period: provides pads and tampons to women (and people with uteruses) who are low income or homeless.

-The Pad Project: supplies low income women with pads all over the world.

-She Supply: provides pads and tampons for homeless women in Texas

-Free the Tampon: organization working towards making sanitary products free

-The Period Panty Project: takes physical donations of sanitary products as well as just donations for women in Ohio.

-Days for Girls: donated reusable pads to women all over the world.

There’s a lot more. Feel free to research

#idk I just saw this on tiktok and wanted to talk about it #rae’s rambles #Palestine #free palestine

[starlooove]

Dickbea JayDana timtam I will always love u

#ppl saying the girls deserve better to ignore black women again el oh el #y’all will say Babs deserves better but still acknowledge that they dated so what now. #also timtam specifically irks me #bc it’s fandom thinking tim is reliable actually who am I kidding we know damn well they didn’t read that shit #anyways tim infantlizes tam and thinks he has to protect her #which he does physically #only for her to pull out and socially save his ass while LOVING the thrill of it all #well not the almost dying but she’s having FUN! #and fandom went ‘he’s so right she can’t handle it’ #Like hello did we read the same oh no we didn’t NEVERMIIIIND #also it runs in the foxfam #pretending ur so normal and then being an adrenaline junkie #they’re who y’all think Duke is #Duke fully accepts who he is and so does everyone around him y’all are just too racist and scared of acknowledging the racism that goes into #the normal hcs to acknowledge it #anyways #yeah Jace I’m so sorry baby you realized who u were before everyone else and ur family shit on u for it #JUST TO TURN AROUND AND COPY YOUUUUUU #oh he Steph and Helena need to TALK lmao #CAUSE PLEEEASE #anyways my point is black girls can be just as unhinged lmao #not everyone is Amber #and no hate to Amber I don’t watch that show #just noticed the stuff people shit on her for is how y’all act all these black love interests are like #sidenote #damidjinn i like aesthetically #but i hate that TT run #but also i could create an environment so toxic #it’s not toxic just stupid kids being stupid #not even stupid they’re both coming from sheltered backgrounds exploring being people for the first time

[selamat-linting]

i should start watching soap operas again. unfortunately my house dont have tv. literally thats the reason why im not liveblogging on tumblr about how the mother in law and the gullible husband should fucking die and the female antagonist should get together with the girl protag, even if theyre adopted sisters. my family always talk about buying an antenna and one of those digital to analog signal converters but it never happened!

#my favorite type of soap operas will always be the outrageous ones around mid 2000s to early 2010 #its my childhood and its peak insanity #too bad the hate train for soap operas got too much and now the current style for dramas are... to sanitized. too safe. #oh yes they have better character work and they follow along moral standards and talks up the blandest #take on feminism and mental health but. the constant religious pandering oh my god #i miss the trainwreck style of soap operas. i really do. i miss when the premise was what if there's a guy and he's painted as clueless but #ultimately a well meaning guy who bought a 16 yo girl as his fourth wife because said girls' parents cant pay their debts #and also the main antagonist is a women who dabbles in black magic and ends up horribly disfigured because she falsely swore an oath #by the name of god? its insanely horrible but i like it #yall can tell i'd be one of those toxic attitude era fan if i was cis and usamerican lmao #textposts