#to be different and punished for it

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

#i used to think it was romantic too and then i was like. now i see it as a HUGE red flag #writeblr #it is also almost EXCLUSIVELY said by immature ppl who think this is normal #fyi even if u think it's funny and ur like 'im an introvert it's just TRUE' like. you need therapy (ily tho) #healed introversion is just ''i would prefer to be by myself'' not ''i hate every person'' ... hate is not normal. that is not healthy #im sorry. i know it feels accurate. but if you're walking around with that kind of rage.... #1. you're making a LOT of assumptions about every single person u have ever met. which is often unfair and unkind #and also usually involves judging people based on their worst moments or little mistakes #2. you are being unfair to the person who is ur ''exception'' #3. there is a VAST difference between ''ur my favorite person'' and ''the ONLY person i like.'' #idk i think this is just a personal bias thing tbh #im sure there are people who have this experience normally #but i have YET to find a man who thinks like this and ISNT absolute DOGSHIT. although tbh.... like. im sure he exists #when u hit like 30 some of the things that were once kind of hot now just sound fucking exhausting. like ''im in a band'' #edit in the tags: i used to kind of be like this too. but the thing is that like. my life became so much more peaceful #once i started believing that people are generally good. like yes i am mad at the world at large #but it's just.... a very hard way to live. you're not a bad person or wrong for the ways other people hurt you and taught you to be angry. #but that anger will continue to hurt YOU. it will punish YOU. it will prevent YOU from making new deep connections. it will protect you yes #but it will also cause MASSIVE blowback. bc if you lose the One Person... your life will fall apart. i know this personally. #i really recommend just trying to be... cautiously optimistic instead. like. yes #people can be horrible and cruel and there are some communities (incels for example) that aren't worth that optimism #but i think like... most people will hold a door for you . most people want to help you find your wallet . #i hope one day you are able to find peace. i hope that rage eventually smooths over. i know how hard it is PERSONALLY #and i know what must have happened to you. and im deeply deeply sorry we share the same wound. #but i promise - sometimes we all need someone else to help us carry the weight. eventually the rage has to die so that we can let help in #i had to spend years biting at outstretched hands. i still often do. im still very wary . and my heart breaks that you flinch too. #here's the thing: i don't blame you. but we were both acting out of fear and pain. .... not out of healthy behavior. and ... change #was needed. i needed change too. rage was useful for a while. then it just left me isolated and bitter. i had to (with effort) #choose to let that rage go. and let people in . VERY SLOWLY THO LOL

[leupagus]

On Voting in America

So one of the most profound comments on routine chores that I've ever encountered was, hilariously, the Pickle Rick episode of "Rick & Morty," where (after a lot of shenanigans have already ensued) this therapist absolutely lays Rick out:

"I have no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy, the same way I'm bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about repairing, maintaining, and cleaning is: it's not an adventure. There's no way to do it so wrong you might die. It's just work. And the bottom line is some people are okay going to work and some people, well, some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose."

I think about this at least once a week — usually while I'm doing my laundry or sweeping or some other task that needs doing and won't get me anything more than clean clothing or a dog-hair-free floor. There's no Pulitzer for wiping down your microwave or scrubbing your toilet; no one's awarding you for getting all the dishes out of the sink. At best you have the satisfaction of crossing it off your list.

Voting is very much the same (and I'm talking about the US here, as an American). Sure, you sometimes get a sticker; but nobody's going to cheer for you. There's no adventure here, no potential for anything more than crossing something off of a list. It's a chore, something that needs doing in order to repair, maintain, and yes even clean. So I get why people don't like doing it.

And I've decided I don't give a shit.

Do it anyway. Your country takes astonishingly little from you — taxes, the once-in-a-blue-moon jury duty, and a theoretical draft that hasn't been used in over half a century and likely will never be again — but it asks you (asks! not requires! not demands!) to vote once a year. It's not always easy; especially in conservative states, the impediments to vote can be ridiculous. But it is once a year and unlike in our nation's all-too-recent past, you will not die if you do it.

In fact, the worst outcome from voting these days is that the person or issue that you vote for loses — but you won't know if they lose until after the election. Polls are less accurate now, for a whole host of reasons; you cannot know until after the election who or what will win. This makes your vote more valuable than possibly ever before.

Use that power. Not because it's exciting or even rewarding, but because your vote is what keeps our country's metaphorical teeth from falling out and our metaphorical ass from stinking.

Brush, wipe, vote.

#ok the metaphor may've gotten a little gross but rick & morty chose it not me #anyway if voting didn't matter then rich people wouldn't do it #and I can assure you: they do #also: please don't think of voting like a reward for the person you're voting for #or as a punishment for the person you're not voting for #my mom's advice was: #think about the most vulnerable people you care about and vote for the person or issue that will make their lives better #and you'll rarely go wrong #yes there are often two bad options but if you're old enough to vote you're old enough to understand the difference between bad and less ba #anyway that's all the political lecturing I'll do this year #except maybe to complain about the 18-hour day I'll be having on Tuesday #oh also SIGN UP TO WORK ELECTIONS WE NEED MORE HELP #thank you #politics!

[purpleelephantsocks]

Oh god, oh fuck, oh no; the parallels between Jean at the beginning of tsc panicking and telling Wymack "I want to go home" and Jean at the end of tsc falling apart after finding out his baby sister has died, telling Neil the same thing.

"I want to go home."

He is only nineteen

#i have so many thoughts about this #but unfortunately the brain fog is BAD #I want to write a whole essay on this and how 'home' meant different things #like how home with the ravens was a nightmare but it was familiar and he knew he would be punished for leaving #but home with the trojans meant somewhere he can rest. somewhere he was starting to feel safe. people that care about him #maybe I'm wrong #maybe he meant home as in marsaille with his little sister #where yes his parents were awful but he could still hold Elodie's hand in his own and read her stories and protect her the best he could #I don't know if I'm making any sense but w/e #aftg #tsc #tsc spoilers #jean moreau #in conclusion: I am crying

[tittysuckersworld]

hey genuine question screaming out in this void. is there any character from like a TV show with sensory ishues that are brought up as an actual thing? not like a one episode side character but mabey just that also idk. I just want to know if it's ever been said oh stuff like that.

#have to specify but not specificly talking about autism or adhd here. #just sensory ishues #can be with those things i just dont think having them alone said is enough #cause sometimes adhd and autism are only crafted into funny or pitiful steryotypes and i dont think those even think about sensory ishues #idk idk i am just so tired #also sorta related but not also gonna ask this question for sped kids? #but like all the different kinds #i want specificly the shit head anger ishues kinds caude i am and was one of thise #cause like #fucking saw one viseo thing talking abiut how they love the owl house exept for the first episode and first one shouldnt eeally count #hevily hevilt paraphrazing here sk bare with me #but it was talking about how her behavior in first five minutes was absoluteky not ok tm and needed to be more properly punished #or not there #i mean they specificky were saying abiut hiw luzes mom wasnt bad which is so true #bur its still #yes she should have gone to that camp her actions could hurt someone bad #but it also didnt touch how it can feal to be there #to be different and punished for it #to feal like a monster among humans #to feal like you just hurt everyone you love #i know it didnt get into it #but i love that episode #i love it so so so so so much #becaudr for a second #it showed that kids like me could exist #and i just wish i had that before #vent stuff sorta with tags #but yee i just wish there was more for specificly nerodivergents like me #who srnt so sped that they cant go to normal class #and cant really be seen in actions

[radioducky]

Lucifer, kissing Alastor a little aggressively: Hey, Bambi.

Alastor, returning it with the same aggressiveness: Good Morning, little King.

Husk: …What the actual FUCK!?

Angel: Did we, uh… miss somethin‘?

Vaggie, exasperated: Ugh, they’re playing some stupid game… ‚gay chicken‘ or whatever the hell that was.

Husk, confused: They play what now??

Charlie, squealing of joy: Gay Chicken!! It’s like a bonding game where they have to pretend to be gay together for as long as they can, and whoever chickens out first loses! Look how wonderful it works already!!

Vaggie: Calm down, Sweetie.

Angel: How in the ever lovin‘ fuck did these two convince themselves to go through with it?

Vaggie: Lucifer accused Alastor of being too scared to play it anyways, but you know how Alastor can be…

Charlie, ecstatic: He didn’t back down and accepted the challenge!

Angel: Well… I’m not gonna lie, it’s hot as fuck though. Husk, how about-

Husk, storming out: NOPE!

#I did the same for Steddie on my other blog and it was well received #thought it might be appreciated here as well #a little different version of it at least #extra point for whoever comes up with some nice punishment ideas if one of these two loses #but y’all already know that won’t happen #cuz they never stop #and never talk about it #lmao oh geez I need some help #alastor x lucifer #radioapple #incorrect quotes #appleradio #alastor and lucifer #deerduck #deerduckie #huskerdust

[chelseasdagger]

frank and his hairstyles over the years

reblog and write in the tags your favorite style + why!!

#frank castle #jon bernthal #the punisher #frankcastleedit #thepunisheredit #marveledit #dilfsource #nmcu #blood tw #guns tw #okay y'all i'm making gifs again be prepared to be annoyed :D #also these look actually good on desktop i'm praying they look decent on mobile PFFF #if anyone points out the fact that the coloring sucks i will cry. the scenes are all SO differently lit it was hard to color 😭 #i have more to say but idk want this to not show up in tags so i'll reblog my thots #*mygifs

[isawjamfirst]

did u think i was done with uncanny vash

#well think again #who needs AA batteries when u have a walking torchlight beside u #is it a torchlight or flashlight #whats the fkim difference #english isnt my first language #ok im gonna start properly tagging now #trigun stampede #trigun #vash the stampede #humanoid typhoon #wolfwood the punisher #nicholas d. wolfwood #vashwood #gunsmoke #tristamp #tristamp wolfwood #tristamp vash #tristamp vashwood

[casuallydyinginthecorner]

Just because your body isn't where you want it to be doesn't mean you shouldn't take care of it

#treat your body decently #eat some fruits and vegetables #don't punish yourself b/c you're not where you want to be #little by little #one day at a time #progress looks different for everyone and if that means going backwards by accident that's okay it happens #if you're aware of it that's one step closer to where you want to be #body positivity #body liberation #glitter speaks

[visenyaism]

"Criston Cole beat a gay dude to death" ok and? He didn't kill him cause he's gay, he killed him because he was yapping. I dunno man, do some reconnaissance before you lowkey blackmail someone, is all im saying.

#if yapping was punishable by death I’d be split between 18 different graves by now #I feel like Criston hates Larys while Larys is entertained by Criston but does not respect him at all #hotd #asoiaf

[entomolog-t]

G/t July : Thief 

Mark is not a fan of dirty lil feral tromping around in his food. Its unhygienic. 

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I love the idea of a human who can’t stand borrowing. Not because they care about stolen crumbs, or the invasion of their privacy, but just because the idea of someone handling their food is gross.

Do you let your human friends grab food off your plate with their bare hands? Would you eat food that they stepped on? 

No. Of course not. Because its UNHYGENIC. 

Also bonus points if anyone spies the lil reference. 

#Might make this one into a tiktok #THIS TOOK SO LONG #IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE JUST A SKETCH #BUT I AM A SUCKER FOR PUNISHMENT #Sal is a dirty feral little man and is most definitely a food safety violation #SalOC #MarkOc #Entodraws #G/t art #g/t fluff #g/t fearplay #g/t #sfw g/t #Giant/tiny #borrower au #Macro/micro #size difference #g/t july #g/t july 2023

[stinkythehutt]

also. something about palpatine being so adept at seeing into the future that all of his successes feel completely joyless by the time he achieves them because he’s just going through the motions… how fucked up and nihilistic and brutal that would make you…

#teddy talks #anakin is like the opposite of this bc he’s tortured by his future failures #so he lives in constant terror and denial #whereas palpatine is lowkey tortured in a different way though he’d never ever label it as such #but the boredom of it all. the inescapability… #in a sense of course you would long for ultimate power over the force. because you would feel so much just like a meaningless vehicle #of its will otherwise #and anakin would be a PERFECT toy for someone like that. because he is so bewildered. he’s easy to tangle up in knots #i’m just doing some character Thinking #but yeah. of course one in palpatines position might hate the force and feel a need to lash out and dominate it #and he manages his own repressed bewilderment by manufacturing it in anakin to an extreme degree #but. importantly. while also having complete control over the machinations of anakin’s experience #and by crushing the force and all knowledge of it #CHRIST i’m back sorry but all the stuff he does to extend his life. he obviously is terrified of death #and rather than face it he just creates My Apprentice: The Guy Super Fucked Up About People Dying #to punish somebody else for his own horror…. it’s giving projective identification. not to bring freud into this

[spicylove4ever]

Just Lucifer Morningstar being like Lucifer Morningstar (Netflix).

#hazbin hotel edit #lucifer morningstar #hazbin hotel lucifer #hazbin hotel #hazbinhoteledit #hazbin lucifer #my edit #netflix lucifer #lucifer vs lucifer #i thought those two would be different #i mean to the point of hate each other if they met #but no these two would be drink buddies #the netflix one would say that he has it worse since his hell is an actual place of punishment

[uncanny-tranny]

Death to the trope of rewarding disabled characters with an abled body. Death to the trope that a disabled body is a punishment, a sight, something to shame and be ashamed of.

#disability #ableism #ableism tw #i can appreciate different themes with regards to how we relate to/with disablity and disabling events... #...but i cannot get behind the idea that a disabled body is a punishment or a horrific thing y'know... #...my life is worth living as a disabled person. people with even more disabling things/more disabled experiences have lives worth living.. #...and it's so hard to stomach sometimes knowing that there's a non-insignificant number of people who disagree #i'm just so frustrated with this 'trope' and i've been ranting at my dad for two days now about how much i hate it #thank you to my dad for letting me rant and rave at him :) (lighthearted and genuine)

[floramau]

how do you serve cu- how about you try serving the lord???????

#trigun #nicholas d wolfwood #trigun maximum #while looking for refs i found so many different designs for the punisher so i just mashed all of them together and called it a day #i love woofwoof so much i wanna throw a rock at him #is the shading fucked up yes dont look at it for too long HDJAWDHAD #i was possessed i blacked out and suddenly i woke up with this finished

[lesbianchemicalplant]

starting to see posts about misogyny coercing women to engage in makeup/shaving/etc. and punishing us if we don't—which is true and horrific—but I'm starting to see posts about it referring to women's “natural state”, “default state”, “unaltered bodies”, “mutilating our bodies”, etc.

for the love of god please think for five seconds about why appealing to a presocial, transhistorical, Unaltered Natural Body is not good ground to stand on 💀

(hint: “trans people are mutilating the Natural Default State of their bodies beyond recognition” is a staple of transphobia)

#I am vividly aware of when I am being punished and treated differently for having body hair and not wearing makeup #but this shit is why I'm wary of talking about it with a lot of cis people #(there's no such thing as a default “natural” human body outside of history btw. please start learning materialism) #transmisogyny #transphobia #my posts

[outer-edges]

#i was fucking around with different ways of making gifs if you can't tell #that's why all of these look slightly different #also testing lighting shit #because punisher has no lights #anyways #karen page how i love you #karen page kinnies rise up #yall ever want a good cry go to thetaserpentis13 on tiktok she makes THE karen page edits #i think thats what im gonna do with my night #just watch karen page and kastle edits and sob in my own loneliness #ideal relationship is whatever the fuck kastle had going on #mattie edits #kastle #the punisher gifs