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aliteraryprincess · 2 years

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June Wrap Up

I’ve been waiting for June 2022 for over a year now, and it’s weird now that it’s ended. I got married on the 25th (pics to come!), and while it was perfect and beautiful, I am so freaking glad it’s over. 😆 The whole process and lead up was just exhausting. But now I can chill a little before I need to start freaking out about my exams.

Books Read: 10

This has been my best reading month of the year! My favorite was probably Juniper & Thorn even though it’s not actually the highest rated. And my least favorite was Rank and Beauty, which I only read one volume of. I couldn’t do the other two. I was so bored! Luckily Goodreads has the first volume as it’s own book, so I still got to count it.

In Search of Our Mother’s Gardens by Alice Walker - 4 stars

Daniel Deronda by George Eliot - 4 stars

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman - 4 stars

Blood Orange Night: My Journey to the Edge of Madness by Melissa Bond - 5 stars

A Literature of Their Own: British Women Novelists from Brontë to Lessing by Elaine Showalter - 4 stars

Juniper & Thorn by Ava Reid - 4.5 stars

Rank and Beauty; or the Young Baroness Vol. 1 by Anonymous - 2 stars

Sexual/Textual Politics by Toril Moi - 2.5 stars

Misrule by Heather Walter - 3.5 stars

The Mill on the Floss by George Eliot - 4.5 stars ®

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There’s actually some stuff here! I participated in the Summer Readathon, though I only posted a few times, and there are some other odds and ends.

Summer Readathon 2022

May Wrap Up

Tagged: Spring Scavenger Hunt

Tagged: 9 People I Want to Know Better

Tagged: Mid Year Book Freak Out Tag

Reblogged: Fae Book Recommendations

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There’s stuff here too! A miracle! Not nearly as much as there should be considering all the books that came out in May I never reviewed...but hey, I’m trying!

Review: Blood Orange Night by Melissa Bond

Review: Juniper & Thorn by Ava Reid

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And a good assortment here.

May Wrap Up - 7 books!

Six Tudor Queens Book Tag

Currently Reading 6/13/22

Top 5 (Non-Victorian) English Novels Tag

New England Summer Reading Recommendations

Last Book Haul?

Reorganize My Bookshelf With Me!

July TBR - Jane Austen July, Exam Reading, and ARCs!

#june wrap up #wrap up #monthly wrap up #book photography #booklr #books #a literature of their own #elaine showalter #the five love languages #gary chapman #the mill on the floss #daniel deronda #george eliot #sexual/textual politics #toril moi

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masterkitchenwizard · 9 months

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Buying your significant other their favourite food or drink is an act of true love

#Love #the five love languages #My wife's favourite is all kinds of chocolate #Mine is cider #I love my wifey

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thatwritererinoriordan · 1 year

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The book: https://amzn.to/444C03x

#if books could kill #the 5 love languages #the five love languages #peter shamshiri #michael hobbes #Spotify

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howwelldoyouknowyourmoon · 1 year

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The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

Would you like to become a better communicator of love to your spouse? Would you like to reap the rewards of having a spouse whose “love tank” is full, and keeps yours full as well?

Love can be a choice, not just an emotion. Chapman introduces us to the five love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Each of us express our love using these different languages – and their dialects. If our language is different from that of our spouse, our expressions of love may not be understood or appreciated. We often love in the way we’d like to be loved, and our spouse might do the same. We may be a polar opposite to our spouse in our love languages. This book can help us to identify and use the love languages that are the most meaningful to our spouse. And as well as their needs, we can come to understand, and be able to better articulate, our own needs. This can rekindle our relationship with our spouse.

The love languages are simple, and they work – not only between husband and wife, but with children as well.

Some romantic relationship books take the angle that men are different to women – and that’s true, but this is a book about communications styles. Chapman asserts that men and women might prefer any of the five ‘languages’.

The book is easy to read, and the benefits of discussing our love languages together, and coming to understanding them better, can be profound. Success comes from learning the styles – and in their active use in our relationships.

Words of Affirmation Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.” Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality Time Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared. Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener. An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.

Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

Receiving Gifts Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn. If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate. The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love. These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

Acts of Service Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even things like doing the laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both in the couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because they are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is essential to do these acts of service out of love, and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart. Demonstrating acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

Physical Touch Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches. It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice. It is important to remember than this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

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The Five Love Languages of Children (One minute video) Book by Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell

Primary love languages begin to take shape at an early age in children – but the need to feel loved begins and grows right away. With Dr. Ross Campbell’s expertise in child development, Dr. Gary Chapman applies his love languages concept to children. Learn to strengthen the bond you and your children share by speaking their language.

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When Sorry Isn’t Enough (Previously titled The Five Languages of Apology) Book by Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Jennifer Thomas

1. Expressing Regret “I am sorry”

2. Accepting Responsibility “I was wrong”

3. Making Restitution “What can I do to make it right?”

4. Genuinely Repenting “I’ll try not to do that again”

5. Requesting Forgiveness “Will you please forgive me?”

This book explains how to recognize your own primary apology ‘language’, and explains the five fundamental aspects or ‘languages’ of an apology.

When you’ve hurt someone all you want to do is make things right. Same thing if you’ve been wronged. But sometimes just saying or hearing, “Sorry,” isn’t enough. Relationships are fragile. And whether fractured by a major incident or a minor irritation, the ensuing emotions can often feel insurmountable, preventing the relationship from moving forward or the offended from moving on. Something more than “sorry” is needed.

It’s not just a matter of will, but it’s a matter of how you say, “I’m sorry” that ultimately makes things right with those you love. This book will help you discover why certain apologies clear the path for emotional healing, reconciliation, and freedom, while others fall desperately short.

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#Dr. Gary Chapman #The Five Love Languages

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scootkiddo · 1 year

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what was more culturally significant. the renaissance. or seatbelt.

#this was such a paradigm shift #I will look at a seatbelt in the car and weep as I think about Them #seatbelt is platonic love language 😤🖐️#‘no matter you you keep finding something to fight for’ well I fight for seatbelt til my last breath #if seatbelt has a million fans I’m one of them #if seatbelt has five fans I’m one of them #if seatbelt has one fan that one is me #if seatbelt has no fans I am no longer of this earth #til my last breath I’ll support seatbelt #the last of us hbo #joel miller #the last of us #ellie williams #pedro pascal #tlou #bella ramsey #tlou hbo

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bigbeanbear · 3 months

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I don’t really understand how some people can interpret Charlie and Vaggie’s relationship as “sisters” or “uninteresting” if they have finished Hazbin Hotel Season 1 completely, because Chaggie’s love languages (both mutual and unique ones) are so obvious.

Their mutual love language is obviously “Physical Touch”. From the start, their hands are on each other constantly. Sure, they are not a PDA couple like Moxxie and Millie, who like to passionately tongue kiss in public, but they LOVE holding hands to support each other. Plus a lot of small gestures like touches on face, shoulder and thigh, just come very naturally to them like an old married couple. I think they enjoy their more intimate moments in private, as Charlie kisses Vaggie on the lost eye in their bedroom, or they deep kiss in an empty hallway.

When it comes to the unique ones, Charlie’s giving love language to Vaggie is “Gifts”. Even when she rants about Vaggie hiding big secret from her to Alastor all the way to Cannibal Town, as soon as they are in Rosie’s emporium, Charlie lands her eyes on the souvenir section and immediately picks up that keychain doll that somehow resembles a chaggie love child for Vaggie. Also, I think it’s possible that the red bow and eye patch that Vaggie wears all the time were gifted by Charlie too, considering how the red theme symbolizes Charlie, especially in the pilot, these things are the only red parts on Vaggie contrasting her own grey/white color theme. Giving gifts showing how much Charlie loves Vaggie makes sense, she’s super rich as the Princess, and Vaggie owned nothing when she was left in Hell. So I definitely think Vaggie appreciates and cherishes all the small gifts from Charlie.

On Vaggie’s side, her unique giving love language to Charlie is “Act of Service”. She manages the hotel for Charlie, supports Charlie’s dream no matter what, and swears to protect Charlie with her life. It also makes sense, considering Vaggie had been a faithful soldier for years, being in service for the person she loves most just comes naturally from her. Again, Vaggie had nothing when she was left to die, so she devotes her whole body to Charlie. I can see that it’s kind of unhealthy to Vaggie’s own psyche, since she sees no value in her own being and feels worthless if she cannot be useful to Charlie, but I think it is something the show might explore in the future. Charlie seems to enjoy receiving service from Vaggie too, she appreciates how much Vaggie’s done for her, and considers them as a team with herself leading and Vaggie executing. Vaggie is very good at materializing Charlie’s plans too. I don’t see anyone analyzing this, but Vaggie’s persuasion of Carmilla is pretty well done that efficiently gets to the weakest spot of Carmilla. Vaggie is the one that acts.

Chaggie is not the perfect sapphic couple, but what makes them kind of outstanding is them being a deeply-in-love stable couple beyond the initial crush and honeymoon phase. I like having such representation like them.

Btw, the script writer of episode 3 and 7 highlighting Chaggie’s relationship is Ariel Ladensohn, who is a lesbian in a stable relationship irl, so I have some faith that the show can do Chaggie justice in the future seasons.

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thywheelof-fate · 5 months

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okay but how many times do you think the Dark Urge tried to not-so-subtly feed Enver totally-not-people à la Hannibal and Will Graham

Durge, holding a container with bloody hands: I cooked a delicious meal for you, my friend and ally :) Well, Scelaritas cooked it but I hunted it :)

Enver, running on two hours of sleep: is this people

Durge: Yes :)

#durge just wants to make sure you're not hungry !!#a growing Chosen needs at least five human sacrifices a week #okay but fr durge having acts of service as their love language and these acts are just #brutally murdering people enver doesn't like and feeding them to him #peak of romance #the dark urge #enver gortash #the dark urge x enver gortash #hannigram #cannibalposting #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #durgetash

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seraphic-saturn · 6 months

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Venus Placements + Love Languages

Aries Venus: Acts of Service - They express love through dynamic and spontaneous actions that demonstrate their devotion and dedication to their partners. Taurus Venus: Physical Touch - Their affectionate nature finds expression through physical closeness, hugs, kisses, and other tangible displays of love and care. Gemini Venus: Words of Affirmation - They express love through verbal communication, compliments, and expressing affection through thoughtful and engaging conversations. Cancer Venus: Quality Time - They value spending meaningful moments together, creating lasting memories and fostering deep emotional connections. Leo Venus: Receiving Gifts - Their expression of love often involves giving and receiving thoughtful and symbolic gifts, which serve as tokens of affection and appreciation. Virgo Venus: Acts of Service - They demonstrate their love through practical acts of assistance, helping their partners in tangible ways to make their lives easier. Libra Venus: Quality Time - They value shared experiences, meaningful conversations, and creating a harmonious and balanced environment for their relationships to thrive. Scorpio Venus: Physical Touch - Their deep emotional intensity finds expression through intimate physical contact, reflecting their passionate and profound connections. Sagittarius Venus: Words of Affirmation - They express love through encouraging words, expressing admiration, and offering intellectual stimulation and inspiration. Capricorn Venus: Acts of Service - Their love language involves demonstrating commitment and reliability through practical actions that strengthen the foundation of their relationships. Aquarius Venus: Quality Time - They express love through engaging in intellectually stimulating activities together, fostering a strong sense of companionship and mutual understanding. Pisces Venus: Words of Affirmation - They express love through poetic and empathetic communication, offering emotional support and understanding through their words and gestures.

#astrology #five love languages #venus placements #astrology venus #venus in #love astrology #synastry

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