#shame programming

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

Abusive parents fail to nurture a child then blame the child when they show signs of not being nurtured.

Abusive parents fail to build up a child then blame the child when they show signs of not being “capable”.

Abusive parents fail to give a child support or resources to help them with their emotions then shame the child when they need help with their emotions.

Abusive parents break down a child’s confidence, strength, spark then shame them when they struggle to face life’s challenges. They would rather have a scared, wounded child to control and use than see their own child happy and successful. To face life’s challenges a child must have a foundation of unconditional love and acceptance, they must know not only their value but their strength. A child needs support. Healing from abuse involves not only processing the horrific things that were said and done to me, but recognizing all the things I needed that I didn’t get. Realizing that it really wasn’t my fault. That I wasn’t somehow flawed as I was made to believe. That I don’t deserve abuse. That I deserved support then and I deserve support now. That I deserved understanding then and I deserve understanding now.

I was not unconditionally loved and accepted. I was not safe. My energy was more focused on safety than anything else. I do not blame myself for struggling now to face life’s challenges, let alone have dreams and aspirations for a bright future. I give myself the grace, patience, acceptance, compassion and nurturing I should’ve gotten as a child. I do not shame myself for where I’m at. I do not shame myself for struggling to connect with other people when I never had a healthy/safe/secure attachment as a child, instead getting close to people only led to terror. I honor my pace and don’t rush my heart or my body. I do not shame myself for needing more help than others who had a head start I didn’t have. I do not blame my body for struggling with basic things others are able to do who have not endured all I have endured. My body, my mind, my heart, my spirit have done all they were able to do to carry me to this point. I am grateful to them for all they have done to carry me to this point. I honor and respect them. I honor and respect all parts of me.

I refuse to perpetuate the generational cycle of shaming myself. I know that the horrific ways my parents treated me is how they treat their inner child, and why they still live shameful, miserable lives to this day. The cycle stops with me.

#inner child healing #reparenting #narcissistic abuse #shame programming #undoing dysfunctional family programming #child abuse #childhood trauma #developmental trauma

[healingchildhoodtrauma]

#inner child healing #reparenting #childhood trauma #healing from abuse #narcissistic abuse #dysfunctional family #childhood emotional neglect #remothering #emotional intelligence #narcissistic family #toxic shame #shame programming

[newhologram]

One thing I should’ve foreseen with healing/self-love is that when it becomes apparent to others, it triggers the fuck out of them. They’ll call you vain, conceited, and inaccurately label you narcissistic (not what that means, babes, like at ALL). Ignore it. It’s just their own shame programming telling them “it’s wrong to love yourself, if you were like this person, people would judge you” and so they judge YOU the way they’re afraid of being judged. It’s not your job to tiptoe around their fragile sense of self. They can do the work or not be your friend if it’s that upsetting to them. I’ve worked too hard to survive lifelong shame and suicidality to tone my pussy down just because it trips up other people’s insecurities.

#shame programming #trauma survivor #suicidality #depression #cptsd #teku

[cursed-40k-thoughts]

I think all of those posts, comics and "quotes with 40k characters" stuff portraying Malcador as the voice of reason amongst the cast are funny, but I mean, is he really?

the guy was the enabler to end all enablers

He was absolutely an enabler and an apologist, but he had more of a grasp of common sense than the Emperor, and knew how to (at least a little) argue with him when something needed doing. Granted, “more common sense than Nasty Neoth” is a low bar, but Malcador cleared it. Sometimes. Now and then. As a treat.

#honestly probably just sucked him silly in the back of a Space Wendy’s when he wanted a cut of the Imperial budget #but there’s no shame in that #those 40 trillion dollar assassin programs won’t fund themselves #ask #warhammer 40k #warhammer 40000

[rad-roche]

crowdsourcing this because i'm completely bewildered and have tried everything. i'm drawing in realistic paint studio and every line leaves a 'trail', like it's drawing twice. here's an example

neither of those lines reflect what i'm actually drawing. something about my tablet isn't playing nice with rps, and i'm not sure what to do because it's come on all of a sudden. any ideas?

#text post #it's not the pen because that works fine in every other program #rps itself doesn't really have any settings #it'd be a shame to have to stop doing the watercolours

[demi-pixellated]

work cooldowns

Qwydion... love 💞

#Dragon Age #Dragon Age: Absolution #Qwyriam #Qwydion #Miriam #Fanart #MSPaint Draw #once again upholding the tradition of not doodling in the program im contracted to work in #only a shame i'm in a remote position so i can't dumbfound my coworkers all over again #i was on the fence about Qwydion but actually no I Love her she's a DeLight!!

[xenocorner]

"Please return my cap?"

"Mmno-"

I have committed the sin of self indulgence forgive me.

#Strong uptight guy needs a break + cuddles and I will happily provide #I am partially dying of embarrassment but also this was fun to draw so SHAME GTFO- #anyway sorry we will be back the our usual Stephen and Ironstrange regular programming #doctor strange #stephen strange #self ship #I will now proceed to disappear #I may or may have not fallen asleep in the process of inking this thing

[tutuandscoot]

A ‘how had this not been gifed already’ kinda moment

#VT is a GOD TIER program omg I’m not kidding when I say it probably could’ve won in YVR #just put some better lifts in and I swear it is worthy of that kind of celebration #it’s such a shame it was skated in the year/season it was- they were starting again in seniors #it was not given the appreciation it deserves #so from now on let’s make sure it does #my beautiful dancing bbys #fd: valse Triste #TEB 2006

[harbingersecho]

some short felix stuff. also price is there for a second

#red vs blue #rvb #aiden price #price #felix #*24 #mine #video #i dont think these are as good as the other one but i REALLY like the felix's eye shift thing i did so. im posting it #i dont get to draw price like ever. which is a shame cuz i love that guy. even if he was a manipulative pos ''counsellor'' who ruined live #so was hannibal!! at least price doesnt eat ppl you know. he just lets them be taken over by an ai and abuses his position to test his #''patients''. free my mans! also im putting quotes on all that bc (i think ive said this before) its a genuine fucking miracle if he has a #license. like post-pfl it def got revoked but UNSC's vetting process or the state of the intragalactic psych licensing sucks ass. idk which #it is! or if its a third options where price just didnt have a license/it got revoked way before pfl and there's just a small disclaimer of #''this is not medical advice im not a licensed professional'' hidden in his resume that no one ever read theyre just. yeah hes got a phd! #idk enough abt halo lore to know which one it is but considering the spartan program i wouldnt be surprised if their ethics board is just a #money-laundering front or smth. if they even HAVE one. ok im rambling i'll stop

[joelsgreys]

In response to your rant - I’m sorry that people are being so cruel. I am currently underground on this app, both for asks and for writing, because of the taboo nature of my writing. I have had mutuals reported, censored and banned from the app because people feel that what we write should be silenced.

Writers aren’t hurting anyone - it’s very easy to curate your experience on this app. But, some people don’t agree with that sentiment and then we writers are left frustrated and sometimes feeling isolated or shunned.

People need to adopt the “don’t like, don’t read” philosophy instead of telling other how or what they should be allowed to write.

/rant. (Sorry you’re having a frustrating day/evening)

hi non

first off i’m sorry to hear about your mutuals. i’m also sorry i don’t have a lot to say, i’m just exhausted. it’s like we can’t have one week of peace and harmony, one day where people keep mean thoughts to themselves.

not liking something is valid. there are options. unfollow, block, filter, scroll. barring very extreme circumstances like an author INTENTIONALLY not tagging their work for example, writers aren’t hurting anyone.

they’re not hurting anyone if they make a character too ooc

they’re not hurting anyone if they write something really soft or really dark

they’re not hurting anyone if they write nothing but au’s

thanks for coming to my ted talk

#vee answers #tw discourse #that’s it on this topic #just be nice and stop shaming people that’s it #back to regularly scheduled programming

[healingchildhoodtrauma]

#reparenting #inner child healing #healing dysfunctional family programming #fear programming #shame programming

[newhologram]

When my health gets in the way, shame-programs spring up like weeds. Taking care of my body while fighting off mean thoughts is rough. It’s easier to challenge with different methods, like Inner Roomie. Mine’s Vanessa. She’s mean but ultimately just born from surviving abuse.

So even though I’m able to laugh at the mean things she says about me, it’s also very sad when you get that outside perspective. She’s just acting out the kind of shame and negative perception that was constantly put on her. 

Have boundaries with these programs, but also, give them the love and reassurance that you never got.

#shame programming #abuse survivor #ptsd #cptsd #mental health #teku

[heynhay]

heynhay klance animatic when?? 🤨🤨🤨🤨🤨 with all that free time of yours

#I NEVER SHOULD HAVE BEEN NICE TO YOU FUCKERS #NEVER SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU SHIT. #the answer to your question is. never. because for some reason i have no problem cranking out 50 separate concept drawings #but having to do 50 sequential drawings within the same concept seriously drains me #like even those mini comics when i finish (and they only have 3-6 drawings) im like WHEW that has a kick to it #im gasping panting on the verge of throwing up from exhuastion #which is all a shame becuase when driving to work i visualize some absolutely bangin ones #too bad you will never see it #ok ok maybe someday id do like. a short one. a sampler. like 30s. #but its also a matter of i dont know how to use/access any of the programs used for boarding on timelines #so it would just be a mess of folders on one psd or a mess of 50 dif psds #its exhausting me to even think upon rn #ask

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

#inner child healing #reparenting #healing from abuse #self love #love yourself #love your inner child #🫶🫶🫶🫶 #healing from people pleasing #healing from narcissistic abuse #healing from codependency #healing fawn trauma response #take your energy back #take your power back #freedom #protect your peace #healing shame #healing from dysfunctional family programming

[loveletterworm]

Things i made while trying to test an animation app which clearly each took an exactly equal amount of time and effort to make I promise

#my art #oc #i say ‘’app’’ and not program because this wasn’t on my computer hence why I wasn’t just using csp like a normal person… #my mom gave me an ipad for my birthday but I didn’t mention it at the time because I felt shame for owning an apple product. #but the new sonic game is on it. i still haven’t played it yet for some reason but the option now exists. #pbm

[solradguy]

I bet HRT in the Guilty Gear universe is fuckin wild like you can essentially beatbox a portal to the math of reality itself, there was a war against half-magic half-technological bioweapon dragons that the dragons lost, Sol has/had the contained essence of one of the driving forces behind every mass extinction event on Earth in him, there's a fox man that was spawned by the reality math that inherited the remnants of the concept of this woman who drowned/was crushed by the math that then became a core part of his very being, a young Japanese woman can summon and unsummon dolphins and whales at-will and no one really knows how she's doing it, Faust is there

Like, you could probably roll up to any doctor in GG and say "I'd like one gender change, please" and they'd do some hocus pocus and tadaa you've been transed

#textpost #I love the magic in GG so much #Daisuke basically took computer programming and slapped a music notation theme over it and made it verbal instead of textual #It's a shame most of the exploration of the concepts of GG's magic system is stuck in Overture because no one friggin plays Overture #ARUGHRAGH OVERTURE IS SUCH A BLESSING AND SUCH A CURSE