#sex cw

[dhaaruni]

Okay we've completely lost the plot, haven't we?

#twitter #sex cw

[armoricaroyalty]

beautiful and horny

I recently reread one of my favorite essays, Everyone is Beautiful and No One is Horny, and posted a bit about it here. The difference between "beautiful" and "horny" (between "hot" and "sexy," as my bestie @nexility-sims puts it) is kind of difficult to explain in the abstract. So instead of just complaining, I thought it might be useful for me to try to explain how I've tried to depict sex and desire in my story.

Suggestion One: use close-ups to demonstrate desire

First off: I think the key to making something sexy isn't to show someone or something that is visually beautiful. Sexiness isn't about aesthetics, it's about desire. It's very easy to show the audience a beautiful person, harder to make clear that they are desirable. Desire isn't about seeing a beautiful person, it's about looking at them and noticing things about them, specific things. Desire often carries a little bit of objectification with it, and that's okay -- the problem is when someone is wholly objectified, made into a passive thing, a receptacle for desire rather than a person who is themselves desirable.

In this scene, I have two close-ups that emphasize Vivi's backless dress (and Julián's touch). She's wearing that backless dress the whole time, but we don't really notice it until the camera calls specific attention to it by moving in close. The zoom-in on the second shot intensifies what is already present in the first shot, creating a sense of escalation -- it's the same thing, twice in a row, but there is a sense that tension is building. Please also note that Julián is bare-handed, but all the Armoricans are all wearing gloves.

So, to show that someone is desirable, you need to show what the other character is noticing about them. This is happily pretty easy in a visual medium! The entire point of a close-up is to show the audience what they're meant to be noticing: the listening device hidden in the potted plant, the smudged handwriting in a suspect's passport, the curve of the love interest's spine in her backless dress. An effective close-up helps the reader see the character as their love interest does, helps them understand why that character is sexy.

(This doesn't need to be entirely physical! Skill and expertise are desireable traits...a close-up of a chef's hands as they lovingly prepare a meal for their beloved can express desire, as could a shot of an athlete clearing the bar in the high jump.)

Suggestion Two: sex is a thing you do with your mouth and hands

As a wise man once said in an interview about one of my favorite video games, "the thing about desire is that it’s stronger when it’s not totally satisfied."

A wide shot where you can see someone's entire naked body is like 50% sexy. A close-up where you can see part of their naked body is like 75% sexy. A close-up of someone's hands as they tug at the plunging neckline of their evening dress is all the way sexy.

Anything that makes your imagination go into overdrive to fill in the details is automatically going to be sexier than something where you see everything.

(see also: William Ware Theiss, one of the costume designers for Star Trek, who said, "the sexiness of an outfit is directly proportional to the perceived possibility that a vital piece of it might fall off.")

I make use of this a lot.

In this scene, there's a lot of chest on display, but when Vivi makes a pass at Julián, we're looking at their hands and not their bodies. This is another escalation, her touching him instead of the other way around. We're seeing her take the lead, which is sexy!!!

In this scene, we get mouths and hands in a single shot. In a wide shot, this moment of him feeding her ice cream might read as cute, but removed from context and zoomed in to just the mouth and hands, it becomes sensual.

Suggestion Three: Linger in the moment, let us see the reaction

A lot of the idioms related to sex and desire suggest a loss of control. Arousal is "getting hot and bothered," having sex is "giving in" to desire. It's not enough just to show something sexy, we also need to see the effect it's having on our characters. Don't be afraid to show your characters getting flustered, stammering, getting caught up in the moment. I think that people are sometimes a little embarrassed about including sex and want to show only the bare minimum. They want it to be sexy, but they also want it to be over and done with. These two desires are almost always at odds with one another -- if you want something to be sexy, don't be afraid to linger in the moment. Show the action, but more importantly, show the reaction.

In this scene, we don't need to see any naked bodies (or where exactly Emily's put her hands). It's enough to see Freddy getting progressively more worked up as they make out.

It's especially sexy to show a person who is ordinarily very controlled coming undone.

It's not hard to understand why this was my best-performing post of 2023. Leonor and Andre, both very buttoned-up and in-control people, can't keep their hands off of one another. The facade slips for both of them, they need one another more than they need to discuss whatever important thing they were supposed to be discussing.

Suggestion Four: If you aren't fully comfortable showing sex, you don't have to

Not a ton to say here, but I think it's an important point to end on. If you feel weird and awkward writing sex, downloading sexy poses, and taking sexy screenshots, you don't have to include those things in your story!

Sex positivity doesn't mean everyone's fucking all of the time, it means everyone is expressing the amount of sexuality they are comfortable with. I exclusively wrote erotica/smut for nearly a decade, I am very comfortable including sex in my story. But if that's not you, that's okay! You don't need to include anything you don't want to.

A Random Observation That Didn't Fit Anywhere Else

If you have a scene that features naked or nearly-naked characters that aren't meant to be sexy, you can do the opposite of these things to avoid sexualizing them. Show them in wide shots, don't zoom in close to emphasize any one part of their body, focus on things other than physical reaction -- I've got this whole scene with Leonor in a swimsuit but it's not really sexy in the context. We're not leering at her body, she just happens to be wearing a swimsuit because they're at the beach. Even the physical touch and intimacy in that scene isn't particularly sexy, the emphasis there is on the emotions.

#armorica tips #sex cw

[midnights-dragon]

this is probably not a hot take whatsoever but I love imagining that Aziraphale, from centuries of research and observation and books, knows literally everything there is to know about sex, but Crowley is utterly clueless besides knowing, like, the basics from an orgy or two he had to fuck with temptation-wise over the years, but he never paid attention to those anyway

so when/if they finally do have sex, Aziraphale is like ‘so do you want to be the top?’ assuming so and Crowley is like ‘uhhh what’s that’

and Aziraphale is surprised (like with the thing with the gun in 1941) but doesn’t show it and ofc does not make fun of him or anything, and just is so gentle and kind, and guides him through everything no matter what position they end up in, helping him and speaking to him soothingly and reassuring him that he’s doing a great job (which is also how they discover Crowley’s praise kink)

and afterwards Crowley is bewildered like ‘angel why do you know what bdsm is. also what is that’ and Aziraphale is just like ‘dear I have a whole section of books in the back of the shop detailing all of the positions tried and tested by the Romans and the Greeks would you like to see them there are very detailed drawings they loved fellatio’

Crowley then asks about fifty shades of grey and if Aziraphale’s talking about stuff like that because he’s heard about that before in hell and Aziraphale nearly has an aneurysm (and THAT is when they discover Crowley’s degradation kink)

#i just think that they’re both virgins but aziraphale knows everything #out of the two of them crowley is the most curious but aziraphale is the one who #actually looks for answers because he’s more aware that he’s ABLE to get those answers #anyways bottom crowley and top azi real #or service top Crowley #this post was inspired by a crowley edit to all about that bass #crowley #cw not sfw #not sfw #sex cw #aziraphale #aziraphale x crowley #ineffable husbands #good omens #crowley x aziraphale #bottom crowley

[curiositypolling]

#nsft #sex tw #sex cw

[theforgottendaydreamer]

Re-reading RHATO as an adult is wild because I used to be like "okay, yeah, Roy and Kori often have sex, no biggie." But what did I know about sex when I was 16? Nothing. Reading it now and seeing that Kori is sometimes the big spoon, or that Roy has burns on his knees as if scorching hands pried 'em open, or even that he has the same burns on his shoulders but in a way that indicates he's been grabbed from behind*... freaky freaky. Love me a submissive king. Love me a dom queen. Yes!!

*RHATO #10 vol. 1

#rhato #dc #roy harper #koriand'r #kori #arsenal #starfire #sex cw #roykori #koriroy

[ilovemesomevincentprice]

Okay, I found this article a while back. According to Tallulah Bankhead, one day while Vincent was up to her apartment having breakfast with her, and her new husband, John Emery (the mustached guy in the gif with Vincent above) was asleep in their bedroom, she sneaked Vincent into the room to gaze upon Emery's gigantic "member".

So, they sneak into the bedroom and Bankhead lifts the blanket and Emery is lying there completely naked. She offered Vincent the opportunity to "sample the wares" of her new husband and Vincent obliged....

Now, the article states "gay". I know he was "bisexual" because he did genuinely care and he loved his wives and girlfriends throughout his life, but no one truly knows, except Vincent. But this article made me giddy. And I just love it.

Carry on.

#vincent price #john Emery #tallulah bankhead #article #sex cw #triggering content #bisexual icon #bicon #the mad magician #random #is it me or is it hot in here #can you imagine watching him....? #id love to watch #just sayin #horror #old horror movies #vintage #movie #actor #handsome #gif #my gif #old hollywood #vintage hollywood

[ladylaguna]

I read a smut fic in a video game fandom I don’t go to (someone drew hot fanart, don’t judge me), it was pretty conventional P in V sex and this girl was crying and drooling. I’ve been seeing more and more of this lately. I can only assume (edit: conventional straight internet video!) porn is to blame.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve been fucked so well I got a little weepy, but that’s an extreme circumstance. I have never gotten complaints for my ability to suck a dick and I have never drooled in my life. I know everyone’s experiences are different and I just. Don’t like spit that much, personally.

But I feel like you better write your character with very good stroke game if the receiver is going to start leaking fluids all over the damn place?!

#idk what to even tag this #sex cw #anyway back to doing dishes

[dhaaruni]

This is so irresponsible and exactly why there are giant billboards in LA with graphic depictions of STDs on them

The comments otoh are correct

#personal #sex cw #people are such psychos

[runawaymun]

✿ for all the feanorians? (Including nerdanel and other wives if you want)

ooo okay. I'll keep these relatively brief but here's a few:

✿ sex headcannon

Fëanor - messy and complicated but VERY good at sex. Likes to do it literally anywhere but the bed (forge forge forge forge). Incredibly jealous & possessive.

Nerdanel - I originally headcannoned her as very het but honestly messy disaster bi fits her too and I kind of like it for her.

Maedhros - deeply connected with his partner. Sex is very emotional for him tbh and he picks one partner (Fingon) and sticks with it.

Maglor - Aroace. Not sex repulsed but he just doesn't care about it.

Celegorm - per the recent Celegorm "he doesn't even know where the clitoris is" debacle on my blog I think I've made my stance on him pretty clear alkdhg. He really strikes me as a dudebro who's never had a partner that hasn't faked an orgasm, sorry.

Caranthir - enjoys the physicality of sex but doesn't really go seeking it out. He has better things to do with his time, usually, but again he's not opposed.

Curufin - daddy issues daddy issues daddy issues. My boy is all the way messed up. Cries a lot if he's called a good boy.

Amrod - poly & enjoys having a lot of partners.

Amras - feral. very very feral. Bites.

Celebrimbor - also sees sex as being a very emotional thing, and sees it as a way to deeply connect with his partner. He also doesn't really get jealous most of the time and tends to have more than one partner at once. Enjoys having both romantic and platonic sexual partners.

Headcannon meme

#feanorians #feanor #nerdanel #maedhros #maglor #celegorm #curufin #caranthir #amrod #amras #celebrimbor #sex cw

[helaelaemond]

To the Edge

Aegon makes his way from his chair across the table to her, and as he passes Aemond, the younger brother grabs his forearm and stops him dead in his tracks. “You’ve had enough wine,” he murmurs quietly. 

“Let me go,” Aegon protests, and he tries to shake his brother’s grip off. It looks as strong as steel. 

Without loosening his fingers, Aemond stands slowly and deliberately and towers over him, his one good eye piercing him. “If you promise to go to your chambers and leave our sister in peace, I will.”

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Aemond whips his head on the pillow from side to side and lets out a loud moan. Her finger and thumb tease his nipple in a way that makes his stomach tense and spine arch. He wants more, he wants less, he wants her- “Please!” 

“This is what you wanted,” she soothes, flattening her hand on his chest and sliding it down his stomach. His muscles protrude under his skin, hot and hard, and she traces the ridges between them. “Does it feel good?” 

Tears are streaming down his face in frustration, in gratitude, in overwhelming- overwhelming everything. She is everywhere and she is nowhere and her hands are on him and then they are gone. 

“You’re so good, Aemond, you’re so good.”

#helaemond #helaemond fic #mine #sex cw #hotd fic #aemond targaryen #aemond targaryen fic #helaena targaryen #helaena targaryen fic

[ilovemesomevincentprice]

Vincent Price and Hilary Dwyer - Witchfinder General/The Conqueror Worm (1968)

#vincent price #hilary dwyer #witchfinder general #the conqueror worm #edgar allan poe #sex cw #god his methodical movements are so sexy #i mean...look at how he unbuttons her blouse so slowly... #personally #if i were to undress him...id be ripping fabric left and right #but god hes so sexy #fuck #that last gif..*bites fist* #i wish i were she #hell i wish i were he #i wanna be in the middle #bicon #bisexual #God #horror #old horror movies #vintage #movie #actor #handsome #gif #gifs made by me #gif set #satan #witch

[small-strong-bookish-butch]

W + I (still) have dysphoria but it's less now that I'm transitioning + I'm a stone top and butch + I do care how I'm seen and referred to + I'm a very good sexual partner (to the person who wants to have sex with me forever)

#personal #tmi #thinking about #stone #cw sex #sex cw #gender shit #iykyk #okay to reblog if you relate i guess? idk