#polyamory positivity

[polyamorouspunk]

Reminder if you haven’t heard it in a while, or maybe not at all:

You’re not a bad person for being in love with more than one person at once.

This is not a moral issue.

You are okay. You are valid. You are loved.

You do not need to be ashamed.

#polyamory #polyam #polyamorous #polyamory positivity #polyam positivity #polyamory colors #polyam colors

[joejoeba]

Happy Pride Month! 💙❤🖤💫🖤❤💙 from a polyamorous person

If I may get personal;

I made this comic because I often feel like polyamory is, at best, an afterthought; at worst, openly hated and ridiculed.

I've been insecure about other identities in the past, but I've never had to get defensive about anything like with polyamory; you wouldn't even guess the kind of things people, even other queer identities, feel comfortable saying about polyamory. All I want to say is, the next time you see a post about polyamory at all, see how many people mock or dismiss it, and don't do the same? Its a lovely thing ❤ and love is made to be shared.

#joseq #Jocae #Caejose #Cjc #Caejoseq #Battle Tendency #Jojo's bizarre adventure #Jjba bt #jjba battle tendency #Caesar zeppeli #Joseph joestar #Polyam #Polyamory #Polyam pride #polyamory positivity #polyamory pride

[polyamorousmood]

#polyamory #polyamory memes #poly memes #polyamory positivity #relationships #polyamorousmood original post

[cineju]

So like I never talk about my personal life on here but I NEED to be gay about this because I'm soft and I wanna gush about my partners so 

I never thought I'd have a tight knit friend group when I was a teen and now I HAVE that group and I'm dating -all- almost all of them and it's so fucking amazing I love my partners so much 

There's something so cozy about feeling kinda sad and texting "hey are any of you free I'm feeling kinda shitty" and just. ending up in a cuddle pile of reassurance hugs and comfort

Or trying on a risky new outfit and walking into the room and all of a sudden there's four people saying "damn you look so hot" and I'm blushing like a dumbass and giving them all a little kiss 

Or just hanging out until it's late and I'm too tired to drive home and someone saying "hey wanna sleep over" and being the middle spoon so I'm warm and cozy even if they want the fucking ac to freeze over the room 

I love hanging out with my boyfriend and asking "how was your date with [our girlfriend]" and being excited for them, I love going on a little date with my partner and seeing something that reminds us of someone else in the polycule and telling them all about it later, I love cooking dates where we all help make dinner and then take turns washing the dishes, I love laughing at the absolute worst puns and making up the most insane inside jokes that end up needing five minutes of exposition to try to explain them to someone else, I love playing TTRPGs with the craziest characters we end up loving way too much

Just. I'm so happy I met them I love them all so much and I love having them in my life

#ju rambles #idk if im gonna use that tag a lot i dont post often but i guess having it might be useful so here #polyamory positivity #polyamory #ethical non monogamy

[queerplatonicpositivity]

Polyamorous people shouldn't have to start using the term "ethical non-monogamy" just because shitty people cheat and call it polyamory.

Polyamory has always been about everyone involved consenting to the particular constellation of partnerships they choose.

#polyamory #polyamory positivity #polyam #polyam positivity

[thegirlmirage]

One of the most amazing things about polyamory is, in monogamy, a relationship difficulty with one person could end up escalating due to status pressure and expectation whereas now I find that it's a lot easier to go "this is what you need? Okay" and just change status with a partner to a friend. We don't have to be girlfriends to kiss each other and we don't have to be everything for each other. We can just focus on what works.

You want to keep this part and this part? Okay! You want to stop doing this part? That's fine!

A relationship of any kind can go through all sorts of different stages, it doesn't even have to be linear. And I feel secure about this also because I know having that patience and flexibility with the relationship is what makes it possible. If I went into it with the assumption that it must go a specific direction, or that I was owed some kind of interaction because of status, difficulties like this would be hard to deal with. But because of the fluid nature of what we are doing, we simply adjust it to suit the needs and wants of each other. We communicate them with (almost) no fear of upsetting an expectation.

I'm feeling very free :)

#polyamory #polyamory positivity #polyamory pride #polyam

[kiruliom]

I love polyamory I love open relationships I love loving multiple people and those people loving other people alongside me we all have so much love to share with everyone.

#not flagpost #polyamory positivity

[literaryspinster]

Every couple, throuple and beyond on this show positively rocks.

#sense8 #polyamory positivity

[pika-bitch-iii]

Just posted my last chapter with anime content in it—updates might get wonky now that I have to pull everything from the manga.

..

It’s time to finally execute the raids and put a stop to the Liberation Army, the League, and All for One once and for all.

… Hitoshi should’ve known it would all go horribly wrong.

Alternately titled: Hellish Hell.

#snowfall verse #kaachako #shindeku #tododeku #bnha fanfiction #ao3 shinsou #hitoshi shinsou #dadzawa #dad mic #erasermic #mha fanfiction #support course hero au #polyamory #polyamory positivity

[shrimpmandan]

We need to kill the idea that polyamory is always a choice and never something that can be hardwired. Strictly monogamous relationships make me EXCEEDINGLY anxious and uncomfortable, and I know it’s not issues with commitment because I want to commit to multiple people! Multiple things! Multiple crimes! There’s so many things I want to commit! And I’ve just always been like this. Monogamous relationships felt *weird* to me in a way I couldn’t describe but I didn’t realize polyamory was a thing you could do or be until a little after my first relationship.

For some people, whether they’re in a mono or poly relationship doesn’t matter. But for others, they are literally hardwired to be poly or hardwired to be mono. Polyamory for me is as immutable as me being bisexual.

#personal #ok to reblog #polyamory #polyamory positivity #polyam #bisexual #bisexuality #lgbt #nonmongamy #non monogamy #non monogamous

[polyamorouspunk]

One of the great things about polyamory is that it’s inherently a queer identity but it doesn’t have to be. You can define yourself as polyamorous because you’re in more than one relationship or you can define yourself as polyamorous because you just have the ability to love more than one person at once. And there’s nothing wrong with being single and polyamorous or monogamous and polyamorous. There are lots of reasons why people who are polyamorous might only be in one or not relationships, including mental/emotional burnout, physical reasons, aromantic, demiromantic, otherwise on some sort of aro/ace spectrum, time and money constraints, mental illness, solo polyamory, and so many more reasons.

#polyamory #polyam #polyamorous #polyamory positivity #polyam positivity #polyamorous positivity

[kamari3]

Diversity Win! This [cheap tumblr advertisement] includes representation for Polyamory \o/

#kamari3thoughts #polyamory positivity #polyamory representation

[livingfictionsystem]

Queen of Air and Darkness Review (SPOILERS)

It was good timing that I read this when I did because I was beginning to get self-conscious over the fact that a novel I was about to publish was nearly 600 pages. I am, by no means, a slow reader but this 900-page monster took A While.

So, the bad first. Cassandra Clare, please, I beg of you, stop with the 'We're so in love but we have something stopping us being together for three novels in a row.' With Cordelia and James, that was fraught and interesting---loads of twists and turns with the false marriage and Grace and all. It was also time-period relevant. With Tessa and Will and Jem, you came up with one of the more brilliant conclusions to a love triangle I've ever seen. The circumstances to Will's curse was darkly laughable and tongue-in-cheek creative. Clary and Jace---hated it. Categorically hated the incest bait and I knew they weren't actually related a long while before you probably wanted your audience to. Emma and Julian's star-crossed thing was almost as bad as Jace and Clary's deal.

The 'parabatai curse' felt forced and contrived. I don't recall any mention of this all-important plot device in previous novels and the explanation seemed vague and weak. The way it was resolved was an afterthought.

Also wasn't that big of a fan of Julian. He was neurotic and moody to the point where he made Jace Herondale look stable. Emma was wonderful, though.

There really is more to build a relationship other than to make it impossibly star-crossed, I promise. You seemed to realise that with Alec and Magnus and many of the other 'non-main' couples.

Speaking of which, I love, love, love that you Cristina, Kieran, and Mark to be your polyamory triad. It was a brilliant representation, but it took a frustratingly long time to get there. Even in the end, you teased us with, 'Oh but they were torn apart, never to be together aga-- JUST KIDDING.' CASSANDRA, PLEASE, I HAVE ANXIETY. But I loved their dynamics and Cristina is a *great* character. Perhaps it was my fault, being as I had such a big time gap in between reading Lord of Shadows and Queen of Air and Darkness, but I'd completely forgotten her plot with her family heirloom/Diego/Jaime. It wouldn't have hurt restating it to remind the audience, but that's also probably on me.

I wasn't quite sure how I felt about the journey to Thule at first. It was risky. On top of 'Make Idris Great Again', Star-Crossed Part 4, and Necromancy Gone Awry, I was sceptical as to whether you'd pull off a multiverse plot in the middle of the last book, but it actually worked surprisingly well.

One of the better aspects about this book is that it takes place a few years after Mortal Instruments and the Cold Peace. It shows how everyone, particularly the Blackthorns, were affected by post-war bigotry. The fact that this was written in 2018 was no surprise, as Horace Dearborn, Zara Dearborn, and Manuel Villalobos were absolute MAGA stand-ins, but I love how it translated into the magical world. And of course, seeing where Clary/Jace/Alec/Simon/Isabelle/everyone ended up was satisfying for any fan of the original series.

Wonderful with the queer representation. I believe this is the first series where you've done a transgender individual and I liked how Shadowhunter culture played into it. There were at least three queer couples on centre-stage in the entire book without it feeling exploitative, so bravo there.

I will say, the autistic representation with Ty seemed sort of heavy-handed. Just about every mention of him mentioned stimming or aversions to change and such. But as an autistic individual, I have no actual *problem* with it, as there are people like that and I've known many.

The introduction of Ash was mind-blowing and welcomed, I'd say. I can't wait to see how that character plays out. It feels sacrilegious but I almost sort of missed Sebastian.

I will say, throughout the series, Annabel Blackthorn starts out as an extremely intriguing story but it ends up nearly... written out? Like geez, have one bad breakdown and murder a couple people and suddenly, your character depth goes away. It started out strong with Malcolm's grief twisting his ambition and Annabel having understandable PTSD, but something was lost, there.

So, quite long and not without its issues, but absolutely worth the read. Especially if you're wanting some warm fuzzies about your favourite Shadowhunterverse couples.

-Xanthe

#xanthe #book reviews #queen of air and darkness #shadowhunters #queer representation #polyamory representation #polyamory positivity #spoilers #shadowhunterverse #shadowhunterverse spoilers #book review #star-crossed #autistic representation #transgender representation #cassandra clare #dark artifices #fiction

[polyamorousmood]

#love #care bears #happy thoughts #polyamory positivity #polyam

[king-killaway]

Having both of my major romantic & domestic partners in the same apartment, at the same time is honestly surreal to me. In an EXTREMELY good way. Just looking over and seeing them in the kitchen together, getting along, just casually doing domestic tasks together, even if they're both singularly dating me... Well, it's just a very nice sight that genuinely makes me feel taken care of and loved.

#personal rant #polyamorous pride #polyamorous #polyamory positivity #polyamory #polyam relationship

[queerplatonicpositivity]

Hello,

Can I just say your account had helped me so much in discovering my aroaceness like massive massive help.

Is it possible to be a polyamorus lesbian who has no sexual or romantic attraction?? I thing like that’s what I am but I have no clue whether there is a name for it or not???

Thank you so much for this account it helps me so much.

Sorry for Any inconvenience

Take care❤️

Hi, Anon! Thank you so much for your kind words! That really means a lot to me. <3

It's definitely possible to be a polyamorous lesbian who has no sexual or romantic attraction!

We often think of polyamory as being exclusive romantic/sexual, but really, at its core, it's about how to have the kinds of relationships you want with the people you want, without limiting it to just one person. Polyamory can totally involve queerplatonic relationships, alterous attraction, and other kinds of connections that fall outside of sexual/romantic attraction.

I definitely encourage you to explore "aspec polyamory" and see if any of that resonates with you!

#asks #Anon #aspec polyamory #polyamory #polyam #aspec #aspec positivity #polyam positivity #polyamorous positivity #polyamory positivity #lesbian positivity