#not accusing anyone or being hateful

[bearsinpotatosacks]

Anyone else find it kind of funny/annoying that everyone's kicking off about TWP being released in 2025/2026? CC has been writing TSC since 2007, that's 17 years with barely a break to write something else. I know if I do the same thing for a while it gets boring and I've seen some people's opinions of CoT and how her being burnt out doesn't help.

I guess I'm just saying to remember she's human? She has a whole life we're not subject to and a publishing company who have certain dates that she probably can't move.

Also, the sooner TWP comes, the sooner TSC is over, so there's that too

#not accusing anyone or being hateful #just venting about how many people are getting proper annoyed at her and this about the dates #at the end of the day it’s a book series? #i got into star trek (new ones especially) after the last film was released #it's been 8 years since star trek beyond and they keep saying they'll make another one #but no news #and it annoys me but also there's bigger things you know? #twp #the wicked powers #tsc #the shadowhunter chronicles

[scholar-of-yemdresh]

Hot take but the aggressive hardline separation of asexual and aromantic is actually EXTREMELY harmful to a lot of ace/aro people.

Angry rant under the cut

It's one to thing to go: "okay yes sometimes they go together but it's important to remember that for some people they can be different things and you can be one and not the other"

And go: "These are TOTALLY DIFFERENT 100 always separate there is no intersection EVER and if you DARE to be both then you have to piecemeal your identity to not uwu invalidate others(we do not care that we are invalidating you though lol) Don't you DARE ever experience them together you are CONFLATING"

It's like yall just want asexual to = alloromantic only and aromantic to = allosexual only.

You don't give a shit about aroaces, aces who aren't alloromantic but don't ID as aromantic or aros who aren't allosexual but don't ID as asexual.

The aspec community despises us. We get talked down to demanded to split our identities apart for your comfort. We can't exist in certain spaces because our presence there is a personal affront to allo-aspecs. Shout out to the alloaros that bitch about those disgusting aroaces just clogging up the aromantic tag ☺. Shout out to the alloaces who can still love and aren't totally heartless monsters 🥺.

Don't talk about ace shit in the aro tags, Don't talk about aro shit in the ace tags...what's that you're both? And can't neatly separate them and it brings you comfort to be able to discuss your whole orientation? SHUT THE FVCK UP YOU CONFLATING IGNORANT SHIT HEAD.

If you want to be in the aromantic community you have to leave your ace-ness at the door same for asexual community and disregarding your aromantism.

A personal example was an Aspec discord server I was in that had two media recs channels one for sex repulsed people and the other for romance repulsed. Now the issue came is that they didn't acknowledge someone could be both i.e both sex & romance repulsed/just looking for media that had neither sexual nor romantic content, what this lead too is that the romance free media channel was filled with graphic hookup erotica or sexually explicit songs and the sex free channel was just fade to black romance books 🙃...wonderful.

Or when polls/forms will ask you to pick your orientation but only things listed are het,gay,bi/pan yes even the ones made by aspecs, and what they actually mean is use the one that correlates to your romantic/sexual attraction...so fvck aroaces and non sam aces & aros?

And don't get me started on how you treat non sam aces & aros. You at least tolerate the self IDing aroaces, because they have the "curtesy" of separating themselves from the real proper aces & aros.(let's not question how many aroaces would prefer to just ID as just asexual or just aromantic but are forced into aroace identity because that would be "conflating" and they don't want to deal with the harassment).

"UwU don't say asexual when you actually mean aromantic" Some bitches don't use to SAM fvck off with allo-splaining my own sexuality to me.

It would be so much easier and save a lot of pain if yall just went : "asexual for some means no sexual attraction and it says nothing of your romantic attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally". And "aromantic for some means no romantic attraction and it says nothing of your sexual attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally" and "for some they are separated but others not so much as there isn't always a strict separation. Just be chill about it don't accuse people of being ignorant or conflating they know their identities better than you". But no ya chose violent aphobia instead.

But ultimately nobody cares because this shit is only harming the undesirable aces/aros the ones who are harmful stereotypes the ones that make you "look bad".

I know deep in my heart there are a lot of alloaces & alloaros that who would be happy if aroaces & non sam aces/aros didn't exist, there I said it. How can I not come to that conclusion when at every turn they shit on us. They talk about how the worst thing in the world is to be mistaken for one of us. That our representation is actively harmful.

A last parting spicy take it's either "asexulity and aromantism are full identities on their own and aren't modifiers" OR "actually neither asexual nor aromantic can stand on their own they need to be paired with another orientation and they actually are just modifiers" you can't have it both ways. 🤭

#asexual #aromanticism #aro #ace #non sam aro #aphobia #acephobia in the aro community #arophobia in the ace community #vent #i love how no matter what alloaces & alloaros can take a break from being aphobic to eachother and join forces where it really matters #being aphobic and hateful towards aroaces! I LOVE that aspec solidarity #the community also despises sex & romance repulsed aspecs but that's a rant for another day #also can we talk about how this has embolden full on allos to talk shit on aroaces??? excuse me??? #when an allo bitch is talking down to you about how you're using asexual or aromantic wrong #bitch who the fvk are you? gtfo outta aspec spaces now interloper #aroace #non sam ace #I'm pissed so i might delete later lol #never forget the time on reddit i made a long post pleading with the community not to force the sam on all aces #and that non sam aces aren't ignorant or invalidating anyone and we should be shown grace and acceptance in the community #...only for an (allo?)ace to basically say it's my fault if people assume I'm alloace or accuse me of conflating if i ID as just ace #lol get bent #i just might start saying aces & alloaces/aros & alloaros #bc yall allo aspecs aren't the default ace/aro and it's time you learned that :) #you do not get to stomp over the “undesirables” and call it advocacy

[keepingmyoptionsfluid]

The idea that Tommy, a closeted gay man who was desperately trying to fit in in a hyper macho and discriminatory environment, isn't allowed to have any growth from when he was over compensating and was a dick to Chim really pisses me off. He literally had canonical growth to the point he was going for drinks with Chim and Hen in Bobby Begins Again and they got him a fancy leaving cake.

Why isn't he allowed to grow and be better? Because he's white? Because he "gets in the way of buddie"? Because no one is allowed to say and change at all over a decade?

Like this is a queer fandom and I'd bet a lot of money that a ton of people in this fandom said and did things they weren't proud of when they were younger, especially before they came out so they could try and hide it.

I know this is quite a young fandom too but like, it was literally only a decade ago when "gay" was an insult at school and doing anything that could be get you accused of being gay was fucking social suicide. You guys have no idea how lucky you are that people at least get called out for that shit now cause they didn't when I was a kid. I would have done almost anything to just be ignored, let alone accepted, rather than being openly bisexual.

So yeah, I think Tommy is allowed to fucking change as a person because Bobby, Chim and Hen came into his life and allowed him to stop repressing. Stop being such fucking assholes. You aren't any better than him, and frankly the way some of you behave makes the way Tommy acted when he was first in the show look like a fucking saint. Touch some grass.

#911 abc #people are so so so so happy to ignore canon if it allows them to shit on a character they dont like #remarkable how the same people who say tommy isnt allowed to change and be better #are the same ones who accuse anyone who says literally anything negative about hen or chim of being racist #while openly justifying any abuse of athena because shes a cop #at least have consistency if youre going to refuse to respect all the characters #it just makesnyou look stupid otherwise #tommy kinard #am i a buddie shipper? yes #but i grew up in the era of fucking teen wolf #i can love with my faves not getting together #but the most important thing is a story that feels real #i cant see a way that buddie wouldnt happen somehow for the realest story #however if the writers do a good job #then i will still enjoy the ride #i do not want buck or eddie cheating on their oartner with the other #thats just not fun and i would HATE that to be the way bucktommy ended

[anophelei]

at best there genuinely isn't a meaningful function that this "pedohunter" callout shit serves. you know full fucking well that all forms of abuse are ignored and brushed aside, child abuse being worse, and csa being the most severely unaddressed of all. even if you think such crimes are the exception to prison abolition or death sentences, you know that law enforcement is criminally negligent in handling them, if they even fucking bother. and if they do bother in cases of csem/csam and online exploitation, they explicitly DO NOT make it a public as any form of public acknowledgement is detrimental to collecting evidence and establishing a case; if you sound the alarm you're simply giving an opportunity for people to cut and run while burning as much evidence as possible on the way out. THIS is WHY the fbi doesn't acknowledge anonymous tips, it would only end up being an easy way to confirm if you're being investigated.

at most all you can hope for in making a callout post is some small amount of community awareness, maybe helping keep people away from abusers, but there are a lot of fucking consequences in doing so holy shit. first, it signals that it's time to ditch and set back up elsewhere; if someone online is looking into it then you can be sure as shit law enforcement is at least aware of the situation, ESPECIALLY when you explicitly make note of NOTIFYING THE FBI AND LOCAL LAW ENFORCEMENT ??? I'm sorry you didn't get a fucking medal for recording and cataloguing shit, but you most likely didn't even have to do that and doing so hinders investigations given how long that takes, you don't have the resources or jurisdiction so you've just delayed any investigation from people who do.

second, even IF you handle everything perfectly and with the delicacy something like this requires, you are further traumatising the victims and retraumatising survivors by blasting the very real abuse and exploitation they've suffered through into the public sphere, quite literally showcasing it with the goal of as many people as possible seeing it. you are not going to do that though, you're going to fuck it up in some way, and this whole situation is clear proof of that. the ways in which toonimal has been handled irresponsibly are too many to fucking count, and the sheer negligence and lack of care has resulted in victims' information being readily available. Even if no direct harm comes as a result of the spotlight you've placed on the victims and where and how to find them, being exposed as a victim before you've even come to terms with it yourself, not to mention the painful processes necessary to fully acknowledge what was done to you, and then to be ready to talk about it after, IS REALLY GOD DAMN FUCKING TRAUMATISING. you are forcing victims through years of pain and confusion and grief and loss without even the slightest consideration of what that might be like, and this isn't the type of thing where biting the bullet is necessary or at all helpful. in reality, pushing victims to reconcile with realisations that will haunt them for the rest of their lives is only likely to result in denial, you are directly hindering victims from recovery and pushing them CLOSER to their abusers, who WILL capitalise on their conflicted emotional state to isolate them further and draw them closer.

If it doesn't stop the abuse and it doesn't help victims, the only thing it could be doing is making you feel good about yourself for your catastrophically misguided attempt at sticking it to LITERAL CHILD ABUSERS, which is the most patently fucking pathetic shit you could ever hope to accomplish. what you care about is your own deluded notion of getting the bad guy, and this is only further evidenced in every single person who responds to and shares your pitiful self aggrandizement frothing at the mouth and chomping at the bit over how badly they want to kill these sick freaks, how righteous they are for that, and how far beneath them the degenerate monsters are.

yeah, child abusers are fucking bad people, you're not special for thinking so, and you're not accomplishing ANYTHING when you dehumanise them purely for the sake of posturing. you only manage to make it patently fucking obvious that you hold both yourself and the people who sexually abuse children to be more important than the victims could ever be.

you truly cannot comprehend the idea of even considering us, of acknowledging us as anything more than an abstract concept only significant in the fact that we have determined someone to be guilty. I'm an adult, I've been in mental health care for quite literally half my life, I can handle your callous disregard for what was done to me and the countless, immeasurable ways in which it affected me.

A child can't.

Maybe you should ask yourself why you've never once reacted with grief for the victims, have only ever considered crucifying sinners. Why you've never cared to – or even considered the possibility of – learning the ways to recognise when a child is being abused, the potential to help them recognise if something is being done to them, to realise it if so. It might actually help someone, and it's not like calling for heads on the fucking internet could ever hope to accomplish anything. Give up the pretentions of giving a single shit about us and maybe actually do it for once in your life.

#toonimal #csa tw #somebody has to say it or youre never gonna get it through your miserable fucking heads #sorry for not being niceys about it but you aren't above anyone. you're going to rot in the same hell as they are no matter how much you #profess to hating them #im not sorry at all actually you deserve it you petulant fucks. you may not be as bad but you are no fucking better thats for sure #you literally enable their ability to abuse children. it's honestly even more pathetic #watch as people accuse me of shit for saying you should listen to csa victims and not directly contribute to harming us ^_^ awesome world #uwu

[soullessjack]

trying to explain that there has never been a single instance in the show to indicate that jack is intended to be a child/toddler/baby in any way and that all canon actually makes it pretty clear he’s supposed to be a teenager/young adult is like trying to explain that the cheese is under the sauce in a Chicago style pizza

#good night #cal.txt #spn #supernatural #Jack kline #jack spn #toddler!jack #baby jack #baby jack au #fandom crit #spn fandom #spn family #spn famdom #like I don’t know how to tell you this but he is literally just autistic and born-sexy-yesterday #I don’t mind babyjack as a headcanon (I mean I do bc it’s still ableist infantilization & also ruins character discussion around him) #but when ppl try and act like it’s canon fact and throw out That accusation .. hoo boy #I’d stick my foot up y’all’s asses if your heads weren’t already blocking the entrance #I try not to wish too many harsh things on other ppl in the fandom bc I’d hate for anyone to be where I’m in as a fan #but genuinely. babyjack is like if deans comment ab Cas being a baby in a trench coat was taken as solid proof that Cas is actually a baby #maybe I should start drawing baby!cas just to see how you fuckers like it #do you like seeing your fav be reduced to a fucking shell of what they really are? robbed of their personality & established traits? #I sure fucking don’t! #sam winchester #dean winchester #castiel #cas #team free will #tfw2.0 #dadstiel

[jinxed-ninjago]

I love it when I say "Harumi was never evil but her actions were" then get people accusing me of saying Harumi's actions are excusable because it reminds me of this twitter meme

"I don't think Harumi is evil but I'm also not gonna defend her actions because her actions are absolutely evil" "So you think Harumi's actions are excusable?" no i think she's a deeply traumatized person who lashed out violently because her adopted parents neglected her and she basically blamed lloyd for having ever been neglected in the first place which made her lash out violently even more

#lego ninjago #ninjago #ninjago harumi #harumi jade #tw child neglect #i say she blamed lloyd for the emperor and empress neglecting her because she blamed lloyd for her bio parents' deaths #which comes off to me like shes also indirectly blaming him for the neglect she suffered #anyway good vs evil is a nuanced topic and harumi is a fascinating character in that regard #youd think ninjago fans would know that good vs evil is a nuanced topic considering its 90% of what ninjago is lmfao #like yall theres a difference between 'excusing someones actions' and 'i used this scene to explain why harumi turned out how she did' #WAIT do i get accused of excusing harumis actions because people hate crystalized??? is that whats going on???? #because the scene i use to explain myself is from the second to last episode of crystalized??????? DID I JUST CRACK THE CODE????? #anyway. evil actions dont make an evil person. thank you for coming to my ted talk #and yes this is a hill i am willing to die on before anyone asks #ALSO ALSO something being justified doesnt inherently make it excusable. even then im just covering my ass. i dont think she was justified

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

me: hermes is a painfully accurate example of how some ways of defending yourself against certain kinds of insidious emotional abuse, gaslighting, ableism, and therapy speak can warp you into a person whose learned helplessness and lack of perspective can result in doing really shitty things, and who passes that abuse along in different forms (hi meteion) + lashes out in disproportionate ways + can be deeply hypocritical.

me: as a disabled person in a society where our systemic mass murder via pressure into government-sanctioned suicide is on the rise, the ancients' society is beyond fucking upsetting to me. i have zero sympathy for anything to do with them pre-apocalypse except for the effects of living in that system.

me: that said, they are a good opportunity to remind oneself that there are children in that burning building; that a society being fucked does not mean they deserve to be wiped out; and that that does not mitigate the harm they do, nor mean that its victims are not allowed to be angry or resist it, including the victims inside it.

me, booboo the fool: oh, this youtube essay about hermes looks interesting--

#final fantasy xiv #ffxiv hermes #heeeellllllppppppppp #i haven't even been looking for discourse in fact i have been trying to avoid it #i just wanted hermes meta and every other site i've so much as glanced at for it so far has been This #hermes is so so fucked up and so interesting #and Relatable in so many ways which simultaneously are incredibly validating; and can make for an uncomfortable look in the mirror #and people trying to like. diagnose him with NPD and say he's The Worst Ever Actually and is basically 'they all hated me' goob #while saying things like 'i can't be ableist i have depression' #and while accusing anyone who says the ancients did anything actually wrong at all of being anti-indigenous genocide apologists #is so much. it's So Much. oh my god #anyway i have been greatly enjoying this game and it is incredibly refreshing to see this kind of thing represented and called out lmao #FFtag #ffxivtag #genocide cw #abuse cw #abuse denial cw #abuse apologia cw #gaslighting cw #ableism cw #the salt files #(also god don't get me started on hyth/lodaeus people who do this Love Him and Think He's Super Sweet and Gay) #(when he is a horrible person in specific ways that make my skin crawl right off my body. the way he talks about meteion jesus christ) #(if your blorbo is fucked up that's fine but GOOOOOOD GOD) #warning: worm grass #endwalker spoilers

[sonknuxadow]

its honestly really weird to me that theres people who hate sally or amy because they prefer one character and think the other one only exists to replace them or take screentime away from them or whatever. because neither exists to replace the other they were both created around the same time for completely different areas of the franchise. it wasnt a case of sally being around for a while and sega suddenly going Hmm ..... well i dont like her actually . replace her with this new character . the american and japanese sides of things just both happened to create a girl character around the same time . and they dont even have much in common so idk why people insist one must be ripping off the other

#its especially annoying when people bring shipping into it #because despite amys crush on sonic always being there from the start she wasnt actually intended to be a love interest character #so she definitely didnt exist to replace sally in that department #i think some of the sally fans who act like this just cant see a girl character without accusing them of being a sally ripoff actually #because ive seen them call amy a sally ripoff evne though they dont really have all that much in common #ive seen them say that characters like tangle and lanolin are sally ripoffs too #i have to wonder if anyone called blaze a sally ripoff back in the day. like theyre both princesses who are friends with sonic . soo #im not specifically targeting sally fans who hate amy though amy fans who hate sally are annoying as hell too #but with them its never out of their feelings for the actual characters #its because theyre so/namy obsessed and seeing sonic be shipped with anyone but amy makes them mad

[angels-heap]

This is obviously a personal gripe and not a suggestion to harass anybody, but god, I hate* people who write spam fics that have just enough "plot" to them that they don't technically violate TOS.

It's one thing to earnestly write a fic that happens to be bad. We've all done it, including me! It's another thing entirely to write deliberately shitty spam fics to entertain 3.5 of your middle school friends and then subject us all to them by posting them on an archive with legitimate-looking tags. Really wish people would stop fucking doing that.

#K talks #*'hate' as in 'I find them incredibly annoying but do not devote more than a few seconds at a time to being angry at them' #but this is my blog and I can bitch if I want #we had a brief moment of joy in the hl tag on ao3 and now we're back to garbage #and before anyone comes for me #I remember being an annoying teenager on the internet and trying to subject entire communities to my bullshit #I was quickly informed that that wasn't appropriate and to move it to a private chat #but if I gave some of these kids the same gentle wake-up call I received I'd be accused of harassment

[ourflagmeansgayrights]

i truly hope the whole “negative metas about X character gives antis the rhetoric they need to justify harassment and therefore the people who make those posts are responsible for that harassment” take (aka the Stochastic Terrorism argument) lives and dies within the confines of the ofmd fandom bc if that escapes to the general fandom ecosystem there will be no end to people sending themselves anons or making throwaway accounts specifically to be like “i got hate bc you made a post about how my favorite character is sexist!” or whatever. like we’re about to take twelve steps back on the conversation about how fandom continually fixates on white male side characters to a very disproportionate degree if we don’t get this one under control.

#if this post is in the izcourse tag no it isnt u just dont know how to use tumblr #txt #og #mine #ofmd fandom crit #anyway since i know this is gonna be read in bad faith: #nobody in this fandom or any fandom deserves to get hate. nobody deserves to get harassed. #yes izzy’s popularity is part of a very familiar pattern if you have been in at least a handful of fandoms in your life #no i am not accusing everyone who likes izzy of being racist. i am not accusing ANYONE who likes izzy of being racist #on an individual scale i do not care why people like izzy. but on a macro scale there is a pattern that is impossible to ignore #and when ppl (esp fans of color—shoutout to chu’s izzy is kylo ren meta) point this out they should not be silenced. #and the last thing: #no i am not accusing izzy fans of sending themselves hate #what i am saying is that this Stochastic Terrorism argument WILL be misused if it influences fandom culture as a whole #that is all

[btvs]

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#m #i hate how the term antisemitism is being thrown around to describe situations that arent antisemitic recently #like being antizionist for example. bc the result of this is just ppl dismissing actual antisemitism entirely #anyone who is calling being antizionist antisemitic you are part of the reason there are antisemites who dont care about antisemitism #ive seen quite a few people recently use the genocide of palestinians to be antisemitic & this does nothing to help any issue #like posts with accusations of blood libel and running the world etc & then valid criticism is met with 'thats irrelevant right now' #as if pointing out antisemitism means you are automatically ignoring the genocide #its very frustrating because its understandable to be annoyed when anything is brought up to detract from the genocide of palestinians #i just dont think that this is one of the things that should be shamed for being brought up - its not detracting from the issue #saying that its a form of looking away from the issue is simply not true and ignoring antisemitism doesnt make you a better antizionist #it doesnt make you a better supporter of palestine #if theres a genocide going on and you use that to get your antisemitic conspiracies out you are part of the problem #im putting this all in the tags cuz its just a personal rant and i dont want anyone to take anything i said out of context #this is the illiterate website after all #i am fighting for a free palestine and a free jewish people separate from israel and zionism

[selznick]

So i've been to twitter(mistake on my part) and theres people genuinely claiming that Shiver players are racists/trump supporters/maps and wearing a shiver shirt to idenitfy each other?? What the fuck is that about

idk im not on twitter? the most ive seen on tumblr is ppl claiming that ppl who call fyre ugly are racist (bcuz shes brown) and that people are trying to hide it behind saying they dont like her big forehead

just massive generalising and ppl getting too heated i think?

not on twitter so idk tho

#idk if anyone who plays splatoon 3 and is also on twitter will have seen anything more to back those accusations #but i personally haven't seen anything directly talking abt fyres race? #mainly just seen fyre hate being shes ugly bcuz she has a bif forehead #which im p sure the same thing was said abt pearl in splat2n #that she has a big forehead and all that shit #idk tho cuz i only started playing at the tail end of splatoon 2

[floralovebot]

i think a lot about helia being saladin's grandson and how it's heavily implied that he's close with codatorta too and him being codatorta's best student at some point. and how most of the characters either immediately assumed nepotism or weren't exactly disagreeing with it. and how saladin and codatorta go out of their way to Not treat helia better and how all of that combined can really fuck with a young teen's mind and perception of themselves.

he never thinks he's good enough or the right person for the job. he always wants to prove himself. he's really sensitive to making mistakes and immediately assumes everyone hates him when he makes one. always tries to prove his worth in physical and mission related ways. feels responsible for red fountain and guilty for having other interests. manages a stable art career but ultimately goes back because he's too emotionally attached to everyone and especially rf. it's just... dude...

#he's the perfect little blorbo #helia is what the creators wanted sky to be i think #whenever i think about How sky couldve been a more likeable character or more interesting character #i end up thinking about a lot of the issues that helia deals with #this is also what i mean when i say helia and sky are perfect foils <3 #but anyway i just think that he #he's such a good character!! AUGH #like... helia's emotional attachment to rf is something that should really be examined and explored by the fandom! #his chronic perfectionism... his feeling like he needs to prove himself to his loved ones... his need to be Told he's good #and all of this is interesting alone but when looked at with the knowledge of how saladin and codatorta have to treat him #so that they dont get accused of nepotism and the school doesnt have a bad image... #dude... like yeah no shit he thinks he's the worst person in the world </3 #dude makes One mistake and fucks off forever like guess everyone hates me now im clearly not good enough to be a specialist #those high expectations because he's related to saladin while also Constantly being undermined because of that too #Constantly having to prove himself and eventually just giving up and letting people think whatever they want (ie pacifist comment) #but still caring inside and feeling like he'll never be good enough for anyone and especially not the school #my blorbo <3 and his mental health issues <3 please go to therapy <3 #winx helia

[dandeyrain]

we GOTTA stop repackaging outright gender essentialism and misogyny as cute '''''''''feminist'''''''''' jokes!

#i eat my girl dinner of a few crackers and a diet soda i give in to the feminine urge to text my ex and spend frivolously #then i justify it with teehee girl math cos everybody knows girls cant do math or be smart #i listen to the divine feminine reminding me that girls love pseudoscience and real knowledge is for men while girls get to Feel #and any girl who actually cares abt science is probably just faking for men and being a pickme! #btw women dont exist were all Girls forever #like we CANNOT keep advancing this idea that a.) there are magical differences between men and women #and b.) THOSE DIFFERENCES INCLUDE HOW WOMEN CANT DO MATH OR EVER BECOME ACTUAL ADULTS #be a good girl! dont think girl! be financially illiterate girl! eat badly girl! you need to be taken care of girl! #someone else needs to make your decisions for you girl! #terfs done touch this i hate u for real #rain speaking! #sorry i know i harp abt this a lot #but it is for real so distressing to see this shit getting so mainstream #ANYBODY REMEMBER THE 2010S! HOW DID WE GET HERE FROM THAT #like women who love femininity have always been around! im sorta one of them! #but this framing of it as being Innate To Girls is so fucking bad #and it used to be the sort of shit you just saw outright trad freaks parroting #and anyone who critiques the ubiquity of these 'jokes' is accused of being unable to take a joke

[faultsofyouth]

People will come online fuming with hate and anger about Anything and expect everybody to instantly understand and validate them instead of being concerned about.... the genuine hate and anger. You know that behavior wouldn't fly in front of IRL strangers

#my posts #i think its ok to make posts on your personal blog about how angry you are about an issue and how you hate the people #who contribute to that issue. but when you start taking your 'righteous fury' onto other peoples posts and into public disagreements #you gotta remember people dont Know You. people dont know your life story and why you are so upset #and people arent going to want to Learn from you if you come up to them being rude and angry #because why would anyone trust you to inform them about a societal issue if you treat Anybody who asks questions or disagrees #like they are right wing terrorists. sometimes people are going to disagree with you and it doesnt mean they are not on your side #but if you never make an honest appeal to people to try and make them see things the way You see them.. nobody will ever change their minds #& agree with you. #and i know some people dont want to hear this and if they did they would say 'i dont exist to educate people im allowed to feel my feelings' #which is so true. but then dont bring your feelings onto political posts with no intent to have a conversation or share your perspective #because then you look like youre throwing a tantrum to all the people involved who decided to be open minded and share their perspectives #and have a hard but important conversation. like your name calling and accusations and calls for people to die are really not appropriate #for a serious discussion about human rights and discrimination of any kind. #i know i must be sooo annoying with this 'dont spread hate 🥺 spread knowledge' ass post but literally the older i get the more i believe #anger is not constructive. you will touch far more people and change their minds thru empathy and dedication to telling the truth

[meowonhao]

soo crazy to me how in the last year with minghao, dokyeom, hoshi, joshua, junhui, and now woozi (idk if i'm missing someone) y'all are way too ready and eager to automatically throw them under the bus over something some random person (usually antis) said online and then like a day or two later when everyone comes to the consensus that it wasn't actually that big of a deal or even wrong/bad in the first place (which you could've figured out yourself from the beginning by just doing like. 30 seconds of research and exercising your critical thinking skills) everyone just moves on like nothing happened and goes back to being a fan/stanning them or whatever like you weren't just going with the crowd and shit-talking them 12 hours ago

#not even going to get into how so many problems arise from no understanding of korean/asian culture #and relying on half-assed and sometimes just straight up wrong translations #like cool you don't have to know everything about a culture or be fluent in a language but #that also means you probably shouldn't be speaking on certain things at all much less without even trying to look into it a bit more #anyways..yeah i'm sorry maybe i'm delusional but i definitely am going to default to trusting my idols #and then figuring out for myself if i really think they did something that bad or “cancel” worthy #before i'm about to believe some random twitter/tumblr/tiktok user and just go with whatever they tell me to think about something #and most of y'all don't apologize or clarify anything. just move on right after hurling the most abhorrent accusations against these people #who are people too in case anyone forgot #but then an idol kills themselves and everybody boohoo's and cries and acts like they just can't believe how this happened again #like it's you. you're why #and i can only speak on the last year of course bc that's how long i've been an actual carat and kept up with them to this extent #i'm sure other stupid stuff has happened before that too with other members #i just think if you're so ready to toss away your idols without giving them like any benefit of the doubt whatsoever you just need to go #i hate when i see this stuff too bc i'm usually only seeing the korean side of stuff and most of these things are such a non-issue here #bc people know better (not saying there aren't some crazy fans everywhere but) #then i see some dumb shit on tumblr dot com that either only has links to some dumb twitter thread #or i have to search for on twitter because again. i do not see stuff from int'l fans unless i am forced to or look it up intentionally #and just saying the timing of these things is always so calculated by antis and y'all fall for it every single time #this is all i have to say bc i just remembered the whole thing abt ppl trying to say hao was being fatphobic or something dumb #and then i remembered everything else and it just made me mad all over again lol #if anyone disagrees with any of this feel free to block me🥰