#my mom has cancer

[hafwen]

My mom's first chemo appointment is going to be close to 8 hours so they gave her a bed for the day

#im so impressed with all her medical team #they are wonderful #everyone is helping her and making sure she knows about resources and understands what's happening #i wish all medical care was like this #but im very happy my mom is getting such good care #personal #my mom has cancer

[mynameischristiney]

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#my mom has cancer #and I have to keep reminding myself it’s just that #not dying of cancer #she just HAS cancer #i’m not ok rn

[mistress-light]

I am so bloody uncomfortable and upset atm. My mom just came to my house, and she was so upset and burst out in tears. I can't go into details too much but I just need to vent a lil? Let's just say that after my grandfather's funeral, the contact between my step grandmother is over. I hate her so freaking much.

#she's a bloody narcissist #i felt so sorry for my mom who has been putting up with her for half of her life after her own mother passed away due to cancer. #i just wanna slap that woman #mistress blabbling #negative #i i need to indulge myself in gaming now #i hope thursday passes quickly so i can close this book with my mom #i knew something was bound to happen

[thestarkster1465]

Haven't been following the James Somerton drama closely but it's become so ridiculous that it's funny

Is no one going to talk about the fact that he said that he thought it was okay for him to mention Vito Russo in the opening credits and then never mention him again because his book was out of print and Russo was dead....

And then in the same breath say that he was 'extending Russo's legacy' like my brother in Christ do you even hear yourself-

#hbomberguy #james somerton #vito russo #the celluloid closet #like lmao wtf #also the reason he plagiarized was because uh *clears throat* #he is ADHD and his mom had cancer and then she died and his father was grieving and he has epilepsy and memory issues and ajdjkdkskakskhdh #sorry my brain fizzled out #not saying thag life isn't harder because of all these things #BUT NONE OF THEM MADE YOU A SHITTY PERSON JAMES #THAT WAS ALL YOU. YOUR FAULT. #also apparently the other reason he took words from smaller queer creators was because people would listen to him as a cis white man #and not to them #fuck you james #hes so pathetic its funny #but then i remember how many people he has hurt #oh by the way edited versions of his videos are back up because nick should have his own portfolio #sure james sure #its all for nick

[plantanarchy]

I survived Christmas somehow yeehaw

#it wasn't bad at all tbh but it was with my sister's bfs family i walked myself into several convos i had to tiptoe out of lmao #ended up talking about eating apricot pits to cure cancer with his mom who has likely terminal cancer and i was like uh oh uh no um i mean #my other sister's new bf is a cop #who complained about having to wear a body camera now because his job is hard #anyway uhhhh taco wore a little outfit and there was a baby

[genderhexed]

how the fuck do you convince your boomer mother who has desperately needed therapy her entire life that perhaps now when she has cancer and is facing the prospect of chemo that now is the time right now please god stop fucking around and stop alternating burying your head in the sand and fully panicking and go the fuck to therapy

#i would have just. so much less trauma if she'd done so 30 years ago but like #if not NOW then when #it's so fucking frustrating especially AS A THERAPIST #Also my mom has cancer and it fucking sucks #the warrior sef

[tiredtwstoutt]

#the woman who started this lawsuit has the same cancer my mom has #chemical relaxers connected to fibroids breast uterine & endometrial cancers #L’Oréal #dark n lovely #just 4 me #olive oil relaxer #wine n chill YouTube #cnn #natural hair #black hair #not just hair #video

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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#man ive never seen an eating disorder kill someone else besides a parent infecting a child but my nana is really trying #shes like 1000% orthotexic. will not eat anything not filled with vegetables or fat. and my grandpa is 87yo with a heart condition currentl #in the hospital for covid bc thry went to Christmas church and dont believe in being vaccinated and my dad is so frustrated #bc he knows his mom is not gonna give his dad hearty foods. he needs to eat like protein shakes and meat and ice cream. anything thats not #her cooking which sucks on top of being extremely healthy. except its not healthy bc they dont eat a balanced diet #so its my nanas eating disorder killing her husband and shes so fucking frustrating. im like 99% sure she has obsessive compulsive #personally disorder bc she fits to a T and has zero insight. she may have full on 0cd bc talking to my dad he has more obvious 0cd #compulsions than i do. he used to say phrases before going to bed and would take 2 steps across the floor to prevent bad things from #happening. so like im pretty sure my nana is where i get my perfectionism and 0cd. god. i wish i could express how fucked up she is #like my dad said at least he had a stable home to grow up in but like she has zero sympathy for other people. cannot look past herself. wil #not wear a mask bc she doesnt care enough abt other ppl. my dad was like: u would not have survived in that house. which is fair bc i am #barely keeping it together coming from a stable home with two sympathetic parents who i know love me #and like its sad that they're suffering the effects of buying into the fox news bullshit and its killing them #but also. genuinely. i think theyre not very good ppl. theyre the type of people who think they're better bc they're religious. white. and #thin. and theyre not better thsn anyone. their grandchildren cant stand them. well cant stand her at least. papa is just quite so its hard #to say what hes thinking. apparently he was confused last night and saying something about eating dinner on the golf course. which sounds #nicer thsn being in the hospital lol. ugh. he seems not long for this world tbh. may he pass peacefully to b with his 1st wife who died of #brain cancer at age like 20 or something. so it goes. bleh. how many funerals are intended for me in the next 5 years? hopefully none but #that seems improbable with the unspoken drain circling that seems to b going on in this family. old age and like almost 10 years of cancer #defying the stats but for how much longer? #i dunno. its just so weird to watch these things happen and not talk about it directly to the other ppl who see it #i worry that ill come off as too callose or inappropriate bc i have that tendency when something bad is happening but thats everyone else #excuse? idk i just feel like its better to talk abt things #unrelated #ed mention #i tell u this so i can say these things to someone and also bc if i were u. i would like to hear the drama #bc im nosey and i assume other r too ;-]

[eazy-peazy54]

The songs that Iare the most relatable to me from In Case I Make It are Euthanasia and Against The Kitchen Floor

I MIGHT be cooked 🙏🗣🔥💯‼️ (I'm definitely cooked)

#also becoming the lastnames #starts sobbing #will wood #in case i make it #will wood and the tapeworms #EUTHANASIA MAKES ME THINK ABOUT MY MOM WHO HAS CANCER #STARTS SCREAMING AND THROWING UP /POS #i love that song but DAMN #WHYYYYY #will wood when i catch you #AGAINST THE KITCHEN FLOOR REMINDS ME OF HOW I CANT KEEP A STABLE FRIENDSHIP FOR THE LIFE OF ME GOOD GOD #AGAAGSHFADGJSKFLAKDFSDJHB #AND HOW I CANT BE VULNERABLE #BRO #STARTS DYING #okay rant over baiii :3

[sewercentipede]

#iasip #this was so beautiful #he told a story w just his face #turning from polite to uncomfortable to like… whatever the end face was #his little uncomfortable-polite-white-man-nod #and accompanying smile #beautiful process #dennis reynolds #glenn howerton #always sunny #p diddy #sean combs #dr. jinx #it’s always sunny in philadelphia #screencaps #automatically hearing the bass playing whenever I look at this #Charlie’s mom has cancer #my edit #up #upload

[hafwen]

My mom is having a PET scan in 8 days and all I can think is that I hope they don't find worse news

#we went from precancerous to you need surgery and chemo in a month #its been a ride #i would like to get off now #personal #my mom has cancer

[snobgoblin]

I'm just a LITTLE GUY what the HELL did I do to deserve all this bullshit

#vent #see. i think we found the breaking point #it just took >my dog getting cancer >my parents making my dog being put down about their marriage??? >finals week #>parents saying transphobic shit >people on the INTERNET saying transphobic shit >unsure scheduling for my dog being put down #because my mom insists on coming but doesnt want to take off work so he has to suffer until Friday #the DAY before my birthday #>being breifly convinced the internet is going out for decades and ill never see my dear friends again #wwHHagaAYAAAAAAAUYGHHGHHHHHHHHFFF AARGRGRGRGGGGGRG AAAAAAAAA punches the wall punches the wqll #WHEN DOES IT GET BETTER. IM TIRED #oh not to mention >Tux attacking my dog for no damn reason when he LITERALLY CANT WALK

[semercury]

I wanted to make a "I love life April fools I wish I was dead" post, and it probably doesn't count bc I said it here, but I can't bring myself to do a full one bc the boops are very heartwarming. Thank you for the serotonin and love 💕

#stuff sarah says #today was not great #i had 2 hrs of sleep and took my mom to the cancer center for her chemo #my dad came abt halfway through so i could go home and sleep #woke up to a text that shed had a reaction and they had to stop one of the chemos and give her benadryl and steroids #so that on top of The Everything i have going on in my brain has been... #yeah... #april fools to me. thought i might be feeling better #but the boops are cute and nice

[flashhwing]

if i were still entrenched in tma fandom i could write a meta about how i don't think it was mundane brain cancer that took gerry out. i think it was definitely Eye (and possibly End) related, and if they'd bothered to cut open his head and look at the tumor itself they would've found a deformed jumbled growth of eyes where they should not be

#they told my mom she had a brain tumor #but when they went in to remove it they found that it was actually a cavernova #a small mass of twisting and clumped together capillaries #but indistinguishable on an mri from cancer #so yeah i think that's what killed gerry. an eldritch cavernova #tma #gerry #this has been a post

[widevibratobitch]

????? ok fuck me ig this year is crazy

#so first my moms husband dies. then turns out my grandpa has cancer too and wont see the end of this year. my grandma's also dying. #NOW MY MOST BELOVED PIANIST LEAVES TILL THE END OF THE YEAR???????????? health issues. bruh. ill get health issues if you leave me. #im obsessed with him he restored my love for singing i would have quit if not for him </3 #my voice teacher is leaving for the rest of the month cause she's singing in latvia. good for her i love her so much it hurts so its ok #but still :(( #and like. god. im fucking up left and right and it feels like everything is literally crumbling to dust around me #cant catch a break can i #ughhhhhhhhhh #also i literally took the 'ah non lasciarmi no' concert aria to her last time we saw each other asking if i can do it #and now what? both her AND MISTAH [redacted] ARE LEAVING ME. #di vita mancherei nel dirti addio fr ah no non lasciarmi ah no </3

[astriiformes]

Sending love. Hope you’re okay.

Oh! If this is because of the MRI I mentioned, fear not -- it was a totally precautionary procedure, and I already got the results and they're in the clear. It's actually another box checked on my journey to top surgery next month (!!). I'm genetically high-cancer risk and have been talking to my surgeons about an approach that will be both gender-affirming and minimize my risk of problems later on.

That said, I will take this chance to say to my followers!! If you, too, are someone with a scary family history of breast cancer and are contemplating top surgery, there are options open to you! I knew it was a real risk for me and was able to get genetic testing covered by my insurance before talking to my surgeons, and my top surgeon then talked with me about the various options I had at my initial consult. I'm specifically opting for a procedure that's a little more intense than a standard gender-affirming surgery but not quite a full double masectomy, and it will be done jointly by two surgeons, one who specializes in gender-affirming procedures and one who usually works with cancer patients and/or patients looking to have preventative surgeries.

Anyways not to throw my medical history at the internet, I just feel really strongly about this, in part because I've had multiple people I've talked to about my own top surgery process tell me they had similar worries and didn't know there were options for people looking to combine gender affirmation with preventative care. I want to watch out for my fellow trans and gender non-conforming folks, especially considering how much the healthcare system can suck for us, and there really are health professionals who take this sort of thing into account with their patients!

#i will say one reason i've had luck with getting stuff covered by insurance is that my mom had cancer at a worryingly young age #so it being such a direct connection has probably helped with insurance covering some of these things #(she's alright now! and actually pursuing cancer registry/medical coding as a new career because of her experience so go her!) #but my surgeons have definitely talked like it's not uncommon for them to have patients like me #so definitely explore your options if this is a concern for you! #i know it's going to be a real relief for me to get to have a flat chest AND a major health concern removed in one go #trans life hacks i guess #love that for me/us #transblogging