#my experience

[sirgogington]

This might be a little unorganized and is definitely an unpopular opinion in this community, but I'm going to say it anyway. Feel free to unfollow. I wasn't going to post about it, but honestly I am so upset for George in this situation. I want to preface that I am a 28 year old female so maybe my thinking is a little different due to that.

The more I read about people's reactions to the George situation the more angry I feel. George was being accused of sexual assault, and the consensus is "he fucked up and should have asked for consent."

My bold take is that I have little sympathy for Caiti. She is a woman who regrets flirting with George, which she has the right to. But her story really made it seem like George randomly started touching her inappropriately, forced her to drink more when she was already drunk, purposely preyed on her because she was 18, and followed her out of the room to the elevator.

None of these things happened. She was drunk beforehand and her friends that she went to Dreams room with wanted to play drinking games. George didn't randomly start touching her. They were sitting together on the couch playing a game with the rest of the group and mutually decided to start cuddling. Caiti got up multiple times and would always come back and cuddle with George. Over the hour of cuddling they were flirting with each other, playfighting etc. When cuddling George started with his hands on her hips above her clothes, and then after he assumed she was comfortable with what he was doing, given the previous signals of her laughing, smiling, and coming back to cuddle with him then he placed his hands on her waist under her clothes. He said he would slowly move them up after awhile. She didn't show any signs of being uncomfortable. She could have pushed his hand away or told him she was uncomfortable with that, but she didn't. She could of left if she felt uncomfortable or sat somewhere else, but she didn't. She also didn't have to walk with George to the elevator, but she did. She didn't have to keep in contact with him afterwards but again she did. It's no wonder why George was understandably confused, and assumed everyone had had a fun night that night, and was blindsided by these accusations. George said that he made a joke about the elevator being broken, but saw when she wasn't open to getting in the elevator with her then he backed off.

Her friends also knowingly put her this situation. They left her unattended while she was drunk in the hotel room with Dream and George and whoever else was left. Going to a drinking social at 18 is a risky situation in the first place, this is why in college I avoided frat parties because I knew what could potentially happen if I went.

George literally did not do anything wrong, and people are painting him as a monster. Now that Caiti did this stream he has lost a lot of his fanbase and friends for no reason, because God forbid you support George. If you support George you must hate woman, because he's evil. Like people have said this could have all been handled privately. Just simple communication like "hey I actually regret what happened at Vidcon, and I didn't actually like that you were cuddling me looking back" or something along those lines. If George is a decent person which it seems like he is he would say okay and apologize most likely, and they could have not had this nasty drama for no reason.

I believe there is non-verbal consent, and most people in that type of situation would rely on that more than verbal consent. They test things like George was doing and slowly progress things. He could have asked if she was okay with it, but she was showing all the signs over the 3 hours that she was. He's not making you stay if you get uncomfortable. Where non-verbal consent doesn't work is if George would have groped her after a half our of flirting. That would absolutely be wrong, and need to be apologized for.

George was defensive in his video because he needed to be. After being accused of all these things you didn't do, and Caiti leaving out details you would be defensive to. She made him out to look really bad. She blew the situation way out of proportion and George has to suffer due to this. I really think that George didn't need to post the extra apology tweet, that the livestream would of been enough to show that he had no malicious intentions and was sorry that Caiti felt strongly about what had happened.

The whole support victims things in this situation makes me upset as well. There were no victims because there was no sexual assault. Yet if you don't say I 100% support the victim then suddenly your evil and hate woman. Without there being a victim it seems dumb to put that but if you don't then you're follower count also takes a hit as a content creator. George didn't fuck up, he acted in a way most men would, and probably even in a more gentleman like way to be honest.

It also upset me as someone who has experienced very real sexual assault. The guy was 25 and I was 18. I didn't want anything sexual/romantic with him because I could see the age gap, and told him that. He invited me to his apartment which I thought would be innocent because I presented my boundaries, but then he started taking off my clothes and telling me I was okay with it over and over until I believed him and let it happen, while feeling really uncomfortable. My body language did not show any interest, just confusion. I remember answering "I don't know" when he asked for consent to touch me, but he would just keep asking until I said okay. He purposely preyed on the younger women because he knew they were easier to coerce and more vulnerable. Looking back I didn't really knew where I stood on hook up culture. He convinced me he could teach me a few things that I could use with my sexual partners in the future. Luckily it never progressed to him taking my virginity. He bragged about how many girls he had slept with, and how many he had took their virginity. I would have been just a number to him. I am so much more than just a number. (he did a lot of other sexual things with me after coercing me into saying okay. Stuff I can detail if you care to know. I remember saying out loud that I was glad that I still had my virginity and I'm glad he didn't take it afterall. Not purposely leaving out, but it was way more than Caiti had experienced with George. For my situation there was a high likelihood it would happen again to another girl like me, and I remember wanting to warn them. It's different because my attacker did have malicious intents even though he disguised it as me consenting.) Being in the mindset I am now I would have never let any of it happen, but I am much more in tune with my thoughts and opinions on things. I would have noticed all the red flags and I would have never put myself in a 1 on 1 situation with an older guy like that or any guy unless I were dating them.

Outside the fandom I've noticed that a lot of people agree with me in this. It's just within the fandom that people are of this support the victim mindset, even when said victim turns out to not have been a victim of anything. I don't know if it's different with younger people that you have to ask for verbal consent for everything, but it just seems dumb. Everyone was also drunk and not thinking straight so sober minded Georgenotfound would have probably asked for consent before he moved his hands up. It's hard to know. I think other content creators probably do agree with me, but they aren't able to have their own opinions, which to me seems gross and fake. We can't genuinely know how content creators feel on certain issues because if were to tell what they truly thought and it wasn't the majority consensus then they risk their viewership which is also twisted.

#georgenotfound #gnf #rambling #SA #my thoughts #I feel like I'm insane for thinking this due to this fandoms standards #my experience

[harvest-of-the-present]

wow, Zeus really feels like a proud father encouraging you to continue walking down the path you've decided to choose

#zeus #my experience #paganism #paganblr #deity worship #hellenic polytheism #helpol #zeus deity #hellenic polythiest #hellenic pagan #hellenism

[sydsixxftm]

#trans manhood #trans masculinity #ftm #ftm manhood #trans guy #transmasc #trans artist #trans artwork #vent art #ftm dyke #dyke to man #my experience #my transition #my art #digital art #trans man positivity #trans men are real men

[hdrygdhbuu]

Hello, I’ve read a few small stories from Dir en grey’s meet&greet and experience from the concerts in general aaannddd I also decided to share mine from m&g 19.03 in Warsaw… Maybe just mainly for archival purposes, but anyway… it was quite interesting.

Since It was my very first concert in my whole life (but what is most important Dir en grey concert😭) and I was sosososo hella nervous – on top of all I came completely alone into the dark unknown! The first show of my favourite band. The first meet&greet with precious and talented band members on their first tour destination. I thought I could have died before start of the show.

Beforehand I’ve read some different experiences from m&g – there were really a few, really – it was said that people with VIP queued in front of the venue doors and were entering one by another to meet the members(¿). (Actually I have no clue, because I didn’t happen to enter among all the people… You’re allowed to read to know then lol) When I had come on the floor I saw two queues actually. One to the m&g and another to the merch booth. But as I said, It was my first life experience so I immediately got super confused and didn’t know where to go… Two long queues, a lot of people, I couldn’t understand which one is which… Anyway I stayed at the end of the merch queue (😭) and managed to buy some things almost THE LAST ONE. I mean, there still was a couple of girls near the stand, but… the cashier was very nice, (he let me pull out of the bag some secret postcard&stickers on my own lol) when he said «there is a meeting with a band, so you should hurry» and pointed at the entrance doors. I looked and realised there was no one around, like, really, empty corridor… Obviously I got scared (even more scared than I’ve been all this day) and rushed there immediately, almost running – actually it was just “fast-walking”. I didn’t know the place, what is where, and at that moment I didn’t even know where is the venue and where I entered… I jumped up to the venue with dizzy head, completely at a loss, greatly confused (I’m sorry, but that cashier really made me worry and hurry with those words😭) and first I couldn’t even recognize the place. All happened so suddenly: I saw them. But the first gaze was so quick, really, I only managed to catch the smiley glance from Toshiya first! Probably all of them were so confused of the chaotic way I entered 😭 (I even thought Toshiya was internally laughing at me, but i guess I was simply delusional.) The staff stopped me with "wait" or something, and – oh what a shame… – at that exact moment I suddenly/quickly turned around at my speed (but it wasn’t so fast fr) and stepped back as almost i was about to leave at every moment 😰 There were no fans nearby… before or after me… and we just stayed like that, so so embarrassing… Me, being afraid even just of looking at them, because I knew, I felt they were staring at me… Maybe i got affected by this “wait” from the staff and actually lost all remains of courage, waiting, waiting for the right signal😭 I met eyes with that woman from the staff, she was staring at me and i was looking at her like “what should i do, when am i allowed to step forward😰” Jeez i really felt so many eyes on me, as it was a long moment and i got lost…

But when i raised my sight, i couldn’t bear but just notice Toshiya’s smile 😭 (him being that tall after all) You know, it was just impossible not to catch it. He was staring so brightly, with the kindest and the most loving smile on his face😭 This smile could physically warm a body and hearts, full of gratefulness, love and respect. Since I’m quite young (i’m 20 actually… but the fact that I admit that I look much younger) for a moment i realised – i’m sure – it was a smile of a loving parent/senpai looking at the child/kohai 😭 Just… can’t describe this wholesome feeling, that he created inside of me with this looking&smile. He didn’t cut off his glance even when we actually met our eyes… i mean, i immediately got shyshyshyshy, i couldn’t withstand it and looked away😭 it was just too much😭🤚🏻

Then i noticed Kaoru looking straight and handing his postcard to me, encouraging me to come closer, and so that was the sign when i managed to finally move my trembling body. (The possibility that they might have been waiting for me just flutters all my insides and kills me!) So, then.. everything happened quite quickly, i was collapsed by shock, embarrassment and happiness at the same time, to the point I almost teared up. I bowed at each of them, saying quietly arigatogozaimassss as they were handing me signed postcards. I couldn’t even make myself to raise my head and look at them… Toshiya was the last one in a row, and when i stood in front of him the actual height difference hit me and got me on knees (and that’s the second reason i couldn’t get myself to look up – it would be physically uncomfortable lol i guess) I mean… this man is really tall, I faced his chest at the level of my nose for real, so yeah (I’m 160cm). He was the one who thanked me in response – well, maybe i was just too dumb and rushed too much idk – and that was so cute of him! Really, he seemed to be the nicest at the m&g, he really does care about fans, he really is glad and happy to meet fans😭 and he obviously showed his appreciation of all its power/extent. The one meeting broke my heart.

Of course after this i rushed to the rest of people near the stage (luckily i was in a second row right before Toshiya!) And then they left the place almost right away… I mean, after all maybe i really was the last one??? And what if they were waiting for me?? (It kills me ugh) Idk… I was sure there were some more girls at the merch booth before….

Anyway, talking about my very first show impression, i was sincerely amazed by this little pleasing discovery of my own – all of them actually were looking at fans during the show! Like straight in the eyes. Catching our glances. Sustaining this eye contact again and again. It felt like a dream, it felt like we and them actually connected on some kind of inner basis/level… I’m sure I even crossed some glances with Toshiya and Kaoru 😭 I didn’t expect it so, again, i felt kinda embarrassed, but super crazy! That was so much fun! Really, I will never forget those nights… And now, every time reminding it – all of them, the performance, their movements and emotions, that charming smile of Toshiya – I can’t help but melt into a divine smile…

Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart💔 And thank you too who has read this unexpectedly long message 😭🤲🏻 And sorry for any mistakes..

P.S. I also wouldn’t mind if anyone who has read it, would like to share their experience too🤲🏻 Really, just kinda curious… and after all i don’t have friends who i can talk about diru with sooooooo feel free to share🙌🏻🌷

#dir en grey #meet & greet #warsaw #19.03.24 #europe tour #europe tour24 #europe #toshiya #kaoru #my experience #for archive

[palacholic]

one thing i really love about prague (or actually every bigger city) is the amount of alternative dressed people you encounter almost everywhere. going grocery shopping? say hi to the emo/scene kids with their monster energy drinks. visiting a graveyard? maybe you can spot the occasional goth or emo wandering among the graves. on public transport? i get so happy each time i see someone who looks cool. walking around the city? beautiful alt people everywhere. in every bigger university lecture there's some of them and sometimes we sit next to each other and chat. i've got and given so many compliments over hair styles, outfits, band merch, diy stuff...it's so nice to meet people who like the same things as you, who dress the way they want and feel confident doing so. to you all, alt people of prague and the world: you are so beautiful and i love you all so much

#česky #czech #čumblr #alt #emo #goth #scene #punk #alternative #my experience

[marblecakemix]

How can some women look at a 6-foot-tall man in a miniskirt in public and say he's a woman without missing a bit? There's nothing women about that pervert.

#talk tag #terf friendly #terfsafe #tim #transgender #transsexual #trans women #there are a couple of men like that on the campus and i feel sick every time I see any of them. #radical feminist #radical lesbian #radical feminists do touch #my experience #my post #my stuff #radfem #radblr #feminism #gender critical

[sinkableruby]

#my experience #rgu #revolutionary girl utena

[fish-ofishial123]

If you live in a strict Desi household, you...

Can identify who is coming up the stairs based on how they creak.

Know how to lie smoothly, even about really small things.

Have an insanely clean room, since even one sock on the floor is known as a mess.

Know and can properly name all the relatives that exist in your huge family tree.

Study harder, even when your grades are perfect, since nothing is ever enough.

Take part in poojas and religious ceremonies.

Know not to talk back to your parents, especially in front of other judge-y Desi people.

Have been taught how to (at least) understand your mother tongue.

Can make at least one Indian dish.

Are used to putting up with cranky grandparents who judge your perfect grades and insist on teaching your parents "how things worked in our time".

Get scolded for not getting into that one competition club but receive no appreciation for all the other competitions you have won.

#my experience #idk what you guys are going through #desi parents #ugh #theyre so strict #indian parents #strict parents

[nandsmi]

I do think about Stobin having a convo about Steve's recently discovered bisexuality and his taste in men (Eddie) that goes like this:

Steve, crying and drive in despair: ... and he didn't brush his hair for 3 days Robin! Three days! He calls it french!

Robin, bored and a little worried about how Steve has been crying for the last two hours: I see.

Steve: And other day, I thought that he was at the store and I come in to greet him you know, and *sobing screaming* IT WAS MIKE!

#steve harrington #robin buckley #platonic stobin #stranger things #platonic soulmates stobin #steddie #I was thinkin' about Nancy #Trying her products and techniques on Mike #Experience tells me that Eddie would go a few days without combing his hair #My experience

[cussima]

౨ৎ is the law ever hard? ౨ৎ

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i feel like the hardest thing about applying the law, can sometimes be the first step: deciding what you want. and even then, it is me who's making it hard, cuz i could just manifest i already know what i want to do with my life and that's it. clarity on the choices you make is just as easy to manifest as anything else, it'll come to you naturally like everything else. clarity isn't a foreign concept and if you just decide you want it then you are going to get it, same way you'll get all of your desires just because you decided you had them.

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#loa #loa blog #manifesting #loassumption #sp #specific person #master manifestor #clarity #loa success #successful #cussima #my experience #3d #4d #4d reality #loa tumblr #loassblog #affirm and persist #affirmdaily #law of assumption

[nicolascageisagoth]

I have been thinking how to explain what i want to explain but time goes, memories fade, and I got the flu, so there is no chance that I will write a good story in a pleasant narrative style in the near future. Just let me leave a few facts and thoughts here.

It was my first DM concert, my first stadium show and it happend to be diametrically opposed to my expectations. First of all, if you stand under the stage it is the same as small club performances for me. I didn't feel the scale of the stadium and that there were about 60-70 000 people around me (The capacity of the stadium is 58 580 seats and together with the field it is 72 900 people. It wasn’t sold out but ~90-95% of seats were taken plus almost the whole field). I didn't feel how big the show was. Just DM, me and some dudes around.

About people around. I understand how difficult and scared for some it can be to stay alone on the show BUT I saw the pain of fans who brought their partners or friends who didn’t care at first, they were annoyed being here for hours (understandable) and the second: fans couldn’t relax with them, couldn’t enjoy the show. Their bodies couldn’t allow their owners to dance, to jump or scream like they are ashamed by their own wishes. I danced alone in that area. People around me supportably smiled, but one guy was almost in tears bc of his partner. He glanced at me from time to time, I waved and sang to him like hey let’s do it together, we all! At least he smiled in the end. My advice to think twice when you do any activities and be honest with yourself, your friends, families and partners. It’s not worthy «to share» your patient with someone who doesn’t care. It can end painfully.

Audience. You can read everywhere it was before, it is now that the Polish audience is one of the best. Well. People were nice around, kind and helpful. That’s not typical, yes. I was surprised by the reaction for some tracks. Like for Stripped I expected at least their souls would go out from their chests or smth 🌚 but no, the audience was quit calm. Meanwhile It’s no good ripped off everyone's pants. In general it looked like people are calm to 2/3 of the set list.

Martin. Today several posts on different platforms popped up that we should appreciate Martin more. One girl even described her feelings similarly to mine after the show. Yes, we should! He is the author, he has a uniq style from writing to dressing, and damn! He sings so emotionally! His voice is alive. It was breathtaking. He really enjoyed the music and gave himself to us, not just worked off the money. I don’t care about his old voice, I don’t care about his low notes which are not his register, it doesn’t matter in his case! If he started a solo project I would visit every show

About the venue. PGE Narodowy is a stadium in Warsaw. It is a famous place for its awful sound. Actually it was good from the field. The same like in Atłas Arena in Łódź. PGE NARODOWY DOESNT HAVE A ROOF. It is the same like in Bucharest. The stadium sold beer straight on the field from the beginning to the end and during the show 🗿 19 zł (€4.26) for 500 ml

If someone needs this information.

I was in a hospital that morning. In a really bad condition driving to the show that evening I thought I was going to get the worst spot with a terrible sound plus rain as the cherry on the top. Instead of this I freely walked around the whole place till DM talking with people sharing some drinks and snacks. I got the best spot I could get in the golden circle under the stage and stars were shining in the sky – no one cloud that night.

We got Strangelove 🤍👠⚫️�� Frankfurt got Shake the Disease 🦩🕴🏻📹 I’m so happy for us.

Memento Mori Tour 2023

#that’s all what I have bc I started to sing like a crazy ill nightingale #depeche mode #martin gore #dave gahan #memento mori tour 2023 #memento mori dm #memento mori 2023 #my experience

[harvest-of-the-present]

there's... something in praying and slowly starting to feel like one of your hands is being held as you whisper sincere words to the world, to yourself, to the gods

#helpol #pagan #paganblr #paganism #my experience #hellenic polythiest #hellenic polytheism #polythiest #deity worship

[infernales-magi]

Now the closer I get to Lucifer and Satan, the more I literally want to laugh out loud when I see things that concern them as being absolutely horrid and "evil". Lucifer literally meditates with me astrally in peace and just has such loving energy and he's never said a mean word and jokes sometimes but all in all... COMPLETE opposite of evil in my experience. Hence, I just picture him in a flower crown throwing flowers and lover energy at me and that makes me wanna laugh. Sorry not sorry. And Satan as well. Never once done a negative thing to me. Always respectful. Never pressures. Doesn't scare me. Literally just... Don't come at me with the evil bullshit because they're literally so peaceful and wanna help us be better people. 🤣✌️💕

#satan #satanic #satanic witch #lucifer #lucifer upg #luciferian #luciferian witch #theistic satanism #theistic luciferianism #pagan #paganblr #witch #witchblr #magic #magick #my experience #upg #magic upg #satan upg #literally wanna laugh #i just #hahahahaha

[kuzushiii]

ok ya'll i know this is kind of a hot take but like I work in retail right, and every time someone complains about the plexiglass screen that stores started putting up cause of covid I get a little kick out of it like yea, covid is basically over, but that doesnt mean having the screen there doesn't have its benefits it actually makes me feel safer, because I know that it would be really awkward to preform any direct acts of aggression with this very inconvinient plexiglass! it also continues to serve its original purpose by blocking off direct line of sight so like if people are sick then usually any moisture based transfer methods like coughing / sneezing get blocked cause theyre not like coughing into the open air between you and them right so you know what? I like the plexiglass. dont care what anyone else says. makes me feel safe. does it's job. the only thing that it does is make big loads a little harder to pass over the counter, and that's barely an issue! thanks for coming to my ted talk :)

#randomly inspired to make a tumblr post #my txt #txt #retail #my experience #havent been working for long but hey it helps me with my anxiety

[thewomanwithamessedupmind]

I've been playing a game called Ooblets. It's really cute and super relaxing. It's kind of like Pokémon but nothing like it at the same time. You collect ooblets which are like little pets. You have common ones, uncommon, and gleamy. Instead of fighting, you have dance battles. Also, you can dress them up with accessories and even rename them. Another thing is that there are events that happen at different times of the year. Right now, it's a winter event. I just love this game. I've already beat the main story. But there's still so much left to do.

Sorry. I just wanted to share my experience about the game I'm currently playing. This is not to promote it. I just think it's super fucking adorable and very relaxing. Hell, u don't even get angry when I lose a dance battle. And I'm a rager (sometimes) when it comes to winning and losing things.

Hope you all are having a swell day. 😊🫂😘❤️🌈

#ooblets #my experience #i love this game #super cute #game #just my opinion #stress free gaming #i love cute things

[marblecakemix]

I remember the times when the people who faked being a victim of "acephobia" were actively shamed for that here on Tumblr and everyone was on board with that, even aro/ace community!

I, myself, laughed at those stories, because of how absurd they were and I was asexual myself at the time. From my experience as an ace for over 4 years, I've never experienced hate, only curiosity. Asexuals and aromatics were never victims of hate crimes, but that was okay by the ace community! Sure, being aro/ace isn't the most comfortable in the world full of sex/demanding romantic relationships, but oh well, it is what it is. Asexuals and aromatics didn't reserve threats, violence and unlike gays, lesbians and bisexuals, had all the rights they needed to function in society. We were not oppressed and everyone knew that and vibed with it.

What the fuck happened???

#talk tag #asexual #aromantic #my two cents #lgbt #lgb community #my experience #my story #the aro discourse