#maybe it's just that i'm a responsible mature and sensitive kind of person. and they just Aren't. but idk man

[astrxealis]

i love my friends ofc but damn,,

ANYWAYS. good morning hehehe <33

#⋯ ꒰ა starry thoughts ໒꒱ *·˚ #they're more immature and less responsible/sensitive and it just really sucks #i feel like i need better friends and ppl i relate and connect to more but we've been friends for so long alrdy ^^;;; #man. i'm not even annoyed. just extremely disappointed. #it's the little things really :') and the way the reacted to the situation lost my faith in them ;;;;;; #maybe it's just that i'm a responsible mature and sensitive kind of person. and they just Aren't. but idk man #i wish i had objectively better friends ?? :') #tw vent #UHH THERE'S AN INTERVIEW FOR AN ORG TODAY. i'm nervoud but i'll be fine hopefully TwT #also i mean my irls btw !!! yeah. yeah

[teekays]

if you were in charge of hammering out the league's designated nonthreatening popstar boys, who's making the cut? did any of the guys people tagged pass your j-14 peer review?

anon i need you to know that receiving this ask made me sit back in my chair with my hands clasped nodding like a CEO who just made an important acquisition.... teddy nation we won. finally i get to extrapolate on this. so let's discuss.....

most of the responses i think had a fundamental misunderstanding of what i was going for.... i am talking straight up traditional prettyboy young guy. teen heartthrob. we are looking for each team's early days justin bieber, their jonathan taylor thomas (not a popstar but you know what i mean). andrei svechnikov is hot but he looks like a MAN... we're looking for BOYS only. jack hughes could still pass for 17 and THAT is the thesis here. this is maybe not the hottest person on each team (nico is OBVIOUSLY the far hotter devil but he's a little more mature and refined than the teen popstar type. he IS however the choice if we're talking about "budding lesbian's 'i'm smarter than other girls'" choice of crush) but it's their guy with boyish looks and an easily marketable personality-- sweet and sensitive, a little cocky and sassy but Raised Right, etc. a Bad Boy (tyler seguin) doesn't work here as he skews more milf bait/20something. yknow?

some correct answers/guys i think could do this: mitch marner, jack hughes (obv), trevor zegras (i don't like either of these answers either but they're literally already this. the amount of both young teenage girls and older women in jack hughes jerseys i saw at the devils game i went to was astronomical.) jack quinn from the sabres, henry thrun from the sharks/barracuda (less a popstar and more an actor but still would do numbers in j14)... i think there are a lot of guys who are Pretty but don't have that kind of like, star power that would make them fit the Vision.

everyone who said owen power needs to rethink. that man looks like he works at best buy and plays covers of ben folds songs at bars on the weekend because he's convinced he's on the edge of being "discovered." don't fall for his tricks.

basically my opinion boils down to: most teams don't have one!! that's why we need them!! there are lots of other guys we could be Marketing but the Teen Heartthrob is a rare breed.....

#asks

[poorks]

Hot take that I'm gonna make not rebloggable because I don't want to make it a discussion but like. I think people on tumblr especially are too sensitive about other people looking at their content.

I get it. The Internet, especially so now, is a space where you have zero control over who's looking at you and reacting to you and it feels nice to have some sort of control over that. But the answer is not policing strangers.

Personally, I find DNI lists to be incredibly silly. You are not interacting with me personally. I don't give a shit about who you are or what you do, and I mean that in the kindest way. You can leave whatever comments you want if you enjoy my work. I remember once, years ago, someone trying to get me to push "no straight/cis people allowed" and like. It means absolutely nothing to me what the orientation of someone interacting with my work is. And it shouldn't matter.

Yes, I do look at tags. I adore looking at tags when people leave them. It makes me feel like a person when people have a real reaction and, silent likes and reblogs make me feel like I'm churning out art for the machine. Sometimes I see tags with a cold take and I have my feelings, maybe send it to a friend in a private chat to poke and prod at, then I move on.

And if I DO decide to take any action, that's my decision and not something a viewer should worry about dancing around. Sometimes you might ruffle a feather or two. Its okay, you'll live.

These visceral reactions to strangers leaving some sort of comment also is what's riling people up to be so afraid to leave comments. Relax. It will be okay.

Especially so with kink/fetish content, you need to have the thick skin to be able to roll your eyes or take action quietly, on top of simply being able to put up with someone having an intense sexual reaction to the content you put out. Its the mature thing to do, at least, in an adult space like this. If you cannot handle the response to mature content, do not post mature content. (Also some of yall vet every single one of your followers it seems like??? What kind of energy do you have to put towards that)

It is every much your right to act like a feral hog in the tags of a reblog just as much as it is the right of the original poster to hit the block button if that makes them uncomfortable. Nobody is inherently wrong on either side. Do not live in fear of those around or or those you admire, just Be.

[ifidiedinadream]

What are your favourite things about Aleksi? 👀

uuuuhh dear get ready for an essay

it's most definitely a product of idealization but in my head it makes sense. it's gonna be kinda deep and personal and not just a list of features i deem attractive, more why he's attractive to me specifically. it's gonna be super cringe and maybe i'm simply too desperate and lonely and should download tinder again idk

to me aleksi seems sweet, kind and patient. i'm a pain in the ass to deal with when you get close but i think he'd be able to. i think he's self aware and sensitive, at least to some degree, or else he wouldn't be able to calm people down from anxiety/panic attacks. its extremely attractive to me because emotionally speaking i'm all over the place, whereas aleksi appears to be somewhat stable and emotionally mature. i like that he seems a pretty balanced person in a way, reserved just how i like, but not boring at all - in fact i like that despite all of this, even in his (at least apparent) calmness, he still takes risks (joins a band and we all know the circumstances, isn't afraid to play with his appearance and not fit in a box). i love how passionate ("nerdy") he is, he's witty and smart, yet he doesn't try to be the center of attention. i feel like his charm is very subtle, i didn't even notice him for the first two weeks i was into bc, too blinded by joel's inhumane beauty, but once i noticed him there was never a turning back. he's simply magnetic. ive never seen eyes like his before. his lips look incredible. his jawline is very sexy.

basically i think we'd be a good match. we're both on the introverted, private side - our character somehow matches, i think we're both the responsible, reliable ones, but also i think he'd be that "rock" (stability) i so desperately need in my life (listen, i'm 27, i've done many things in my life, most of them stupid, i have bpd and i'm tired. i really need calmness and serenity and that quiet happiness that only a healthy relationship could offer?? not that i've ever had anything like a healthy relationship idk). and the fact that i see an unknown intensity under that seraphic facade?? it keeps me obsessed because i feel that there's something underneath, yet aleksi never shows that side of himself to us (rightfully so, i appreciate it), so we can only imagine what it's like. i think it's what makes him so alluring to me. i wonder how intense he can be. how deep he can love. he never truly shows himself to us fully and what's more intriguing than that??

so i think it's a matter of contrasts. calm yet intense, self aware yet self conscious (HIS FUCKING POSTURE), handsome yet not loudly so (unlike, say, joel), passionate yet quiet, funny yet introverted, a rockstar yet very low-profile. soft and gentle but who knows what lies beneath??

i like joeleksi so much because i'm totally joel, literally like him only quieter on the outside, and i love writing aleksi being the only one able to make the sky in joel's mind clear up, halt the storm. i feel like he'd do that to me.

aleksi and joel are both my favorite but aleksi is a full blown crush and joel isn't, not really anymore at least. i'm attracted to joel for projection reasons mostly, im very interested in him from a psychological point of view, in him as a person and human being. i would never date him. i think we'd hurt each other a lot and as i said i crave serenity. aleksi on the other hand... in my head he's a perfect match for me. exactly what i want and need in a man and more

#answered

[unluckyhoneybee]

Tbh….let’s all be real, Dan’s mental age is probably the exact same age as hers 💀 Honestly, he doesn’t exactly have a lot of maturity for his 33 years, so him going for a girl 10 years his jr is on brand for him. Do I like it? No. Am I going to get invested? No. Do I want to see her all over his IG? NO. Personally, I believe he should have went for someone who he could think about settling down with and having babies with, not an impressionable easy lay. But whatever, at least she’s probably getting some good dick.

Probably gonna get hate for age gap shaming or whatever but I’m throwing all caution to the damn wind over this one

Oh wow.

Tha thing about insta and showing her and all of that, that's none of our business.

If he should have gone for someone to settle? That's also none of our business because basically we don't know what he wants.

Nothing of other's relationships are our business, even if they are public figures.

Maybe he should have not gone for someone that young, yes. Obviously yes. I don't think it must be the first option for anyone. But the thing is that we don't know how the relationship is or how it started.

Also, mental age??? What??? I'm not defending him or anything. What the fuck is mental age? I just hate it so much how we are told that at this age you should have you first kiss, then when you are this other age you must already have x thing, then when you are a bit older, better settle.

We really don't know this people, we don't know anything but what they whow to us. And for me, the Daniel we see it's now 100% of how he is. It's the vibes it gives me. That's what he shows to the public. Because it's what people like about him. Obviously he won't show his most serious side or the "responsible" one because that's not what people like about him. The having babies thing???? Babies topic is sensitive for me. Anyone can have babies whenever the fuck they want.

Also, calling Heidi an impressionable easy lay??? What the fuck??? If you are going to come with misogynist shit, better leave.

I hate all this talking about the driver's partners because it always ends with this kind of stuff. All of this said: yes, I don't think he should have gone to someone that young but I don't know nothing about them so I won't opine on that. She was an adult and we don't know how it happened.

#Rant

[witchthewriter]

helloo! i hope that you’re having an amazing day!! i saw your blog through one of my mutuals and let me tell you, im amazed! you are so talented. do you have a watt pad? or will you publish books in the future? id love to support you. 🤍

okay im sorry if that’s too personal I just got carried away 😄. i wanted to join your ship game if its still possible. fandoms i choose are peaky blinders, harry potter and stranger things.

about me: she/her, heterosexual, infp

little bit more:

i love reading and annotating books.

i love baking especially things that have chocolate in.

i love Winter and snowy days .( im happy that they’re close now anyways)

i am afraid of bugs (sadly) but i hate it when someone kills them.

i like drawing and sketching.

i am fascinated by different cultures but always keep a safe line between so I don’t come off as disrespectful.

i love it when people are thoughtful and understanding towards each other.

i hate conflicts and people misunderstanding me.

fun fact; i love ballet and bella hadid (but I have many more loved celebrities like lily rose 😌) 🫶🏼

i like vintage and retro stuff

my personality: quiet and cold from outside but if you’d get to know me i am not cold 🤧. would say emphatic and sensitive but I don’t know how others see me 😄.

okay that’s it! Thank you so much for your time energy and patience. Have a great day, waiting more posts from you 🫶🏼🥰

Want one? Here be the rules 🦋

I am LITERALLY DOING PUPPY DOG EYES RIGHT NOW, why would you say such a nice thing! I'm actually going to cry. Your support means so much to be. I actually am writing a book! I started it for my uni assignment and I decided I want to publish it someday (although there's a long way to go before THAT ever happens <3)

What each ship has in common:

⋆ They’re usually the leader/in charge ⋆ Responsible  ⋆ The person who people look to for advice ⋆ Get shiz done ⋆ Get along well with kids (I mean Tommy might not fit in this but he does love his children very much)

𝐏𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐲 𝐁𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I ship you with Thomas Shelby! I can see your relationship firstly being a fake one. Where you have something he wants and vice versa; you get married to so his business can progress even further, and you do it so your family is protected/safe/well-looked after. While spending more time with each other, you fall in love. 

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・Very sarcastic and witty with each other

・Relationship tropes; ‘partners in crime,’ ‘fake relatiopnship > falling in love > actually happy you married each other.’ 

・He buys you anything and everything. I mean it gets excessive. You probably donate a lot of stuff to charity/neighbours/family/friends. He doesn’t mind. He just wants you to have everything you ever dreamed of

・Isn’t big on pet names, probably calls you a variation of your first name. Maybe even your last name

・Rocky relationship until you understand Tommy’s motives; not just about the business, but himself, his backstory, the war etc

・You’re always protected  - you’re literally apart of the Shelby family. No one tells you what todo, actually no one even denies you anything. I feel like you could do WHATEVER you wanted and no one would bat an eye

𝐇𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐏𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I ship you with Remus Lupin! (Whatever age you wish) the only difference would be that Older Remus is a bit more mature and ... has suffered more ... I’m so sorry I could have worded that better but my brain is having a hissy fit <3

AND! I actually want Joseph Quinn to play young Remus Lupin? Tell me he wouldn’t fit the role so fricken well?? 

Okay so I think you two would be such a good match! I get the sense that you’re very kind, moreso then you realise. Compassionate and caring also, which would catch Remus’ eye. 

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・Being so so soft with each other - like holding hands, stroking each other’s hair, swift kisses, rubbing the palm of his hand. 

・He likes to rest his head in your lap. It’s where he feels safest, and the most calm. 

・On full moon nights, (when he isn’t able to take his potion) he will lock himself in a room, chain himself up and you have to listen to his cries/whines/howls all night...

・Being a really really strong couple - your relationship is founded on honesty, real love and understanding. People look up to you guys. 

・He likes it when you hum, or sing. It makes him feel all fuzzy inside - he hadn’t ever dreamed of someone falling in love with him. 

𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I ship you with Steve Harrington! I get ‘it’ girl vibes from you to be honest, like you would totally be queen bee - but not in a mean way - not at all negative. I just think you would do really well in a leading role! 

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・Making fun of his hair, trying to mess it up and Steve is like “Hey! Woah woah woah what are you doing little missy!” And he’s swatting your hand away

・THE KIDS LOVE YOU. If Steve is the Mum then you would take a more relaxed approach. Because I love it the thought of him being absolutely worried about these kids and so overprotective. “Dustin put that down,” “Lucas do not make me come over there,” “Max I WILL pull this car over!”

And you’re like, “honey it’s okay. Really it’s alright.” Trying to soothe your flustered boyfriend who is taking this babysitting thing so goddamn seriously

・Making a playlist for him, and it’s about how you feel. He gets giddy dude.  “For me? Babe! I love it!!!” And he scoops you up and spins you around. He plays it all the time. Everywhere. In his room. In his car. In other people’s car. He takes it everywhere with him. 

・Is so much more responsible then people give him credit for - like your parents (or single parent/guardian up to you) thought Steve was a playboy who was  up to no good. But he was literally the one making sure everyone else was safe

・Getting drunk with Steve, can you imagine? He comes up with the most randomest stuff. But I also feel like he would be worried what you’d say (because of what happened with Nancy) but you just gush about how much you love him and never want to be without him. He is literally a blushing mess and won’t stop repeating ‘I love you y/n’

#ship #get shipped #let me ship you #ship game #love you guys

[so-are-you]

"So what do you think I should do about it?" I asked, scratching my beard.

She smiled gently and tilted her head to the side. "Do? I don't think you need to do anything."

"I guess I knew that, but I just mean... well... I want it to stop." I pursed my lips. "I mean... I guess it can't stop exactly."

"You're just hurting," she reached over and patted my arm. "Nothing unusual about that. Nothing you can do about it either. Not actively."

"I guess I know that. I just wish I knew why I felt the sting of rejection so much. Why are my receptors so painfully sensitive when it comes to relationships with people?" I folded my arms and leaned on the table on my elbows.

"I don't know the answer to that part, but I don't think it's all bad. Every kind of person has their place and things they're good at. Every characteristic of a personality has its advantages and disadvantages. You've already experienced the disadvantages of being closed off to any feelings at all. Isn't that why you're here?"

She leaned forwards on her elbows too and looked at me. I looked at her too, sitting there on a summer day looking sunny herself as always. It was rare to see a concerned look on her face, but she had a hint of one now. Or, maybe it wasn't concern, but was instead just sympathy.

I coughed. "Well, whatever the case, I sure wish I could experience attraction to someone and not have it turn into a federal case. Not get destroyed by the mildest of rejection."

She giggled. "Sorry, destroyed? You look pretty okay to me."

"So I'm being dramatic," I lowered my head onto my arms.

"Well, I'd be remiss if I didn't say that your penchant for being dramatic probably has a little to do with why you get destroyed by minor things. Maybe." She lowered her head onto her arms too, still looking at me. "I mean, come on, what have you lost, here? You're in the exact same position as you were like two days ago. That's assuming that you're even correctly interpreting someone ignoring you a little bit as flat out rejection, which you frankly probably aren't. People get busy, you know."

I pinched her cheek and pursed my lips in frustration again. "When did you get so mature? You're becoming more mature than me and that's just offensive."

"I was always more mature than you," she happily replied while letting me pinch her cheek, "wasn't I?"

I let go and tousled her hair. "Maybe."

I lowered my hand back to the table and she put hers over mine in an attempt at a comforting gesture. I let her, and sat up a bit to rest my cheek on my free hand while looking at our hands stacked on the table.

"Well, anyway, the way I see it I guess it all basically comes down to the same thing: I fall too deeply into feelings for people at the slightest provocation. If I didn't do that I wouldn't get hurt so badly by minor things." I tapped my fingers underneath her hand.

She tapped her fingers on-top of my hand in response. "You've tried not feeling anything for anyone, and that works, but it isn't satisfying, right? And you've tried, I think more than you'll admit, to contain your feelings for other people and keep them from blowing up, but that doesn't seem to work for you. I know maybe you think that you need to scold yourself for moving so fast, but I'm not sure you can even fully blame yourself. Based on my experience with you, you don't even seem to know what you're doing when you're doing it, when it comes to that.

"So maybe you just need to work on controlling your response to these hurtful situations that will surely happen. I think that whatever you think about yourself, you're unfortunately, for this problem anyway, a very sensitive person. You already know this too, but even though you can't stop yourself from being hurt, I think you can probably stop yourself from making it worse."

She patted my hand. "You made it so much worse this time."

I grimaced and slowly lowered my face towards the table again on my arm.

"I think maybe you should talk to W. about meditation again sometime. Your friend is getting into it afresh, why not you? It might help you to focus on trying to employ the skills it gives you when these hurtful things happen. It MIGHT help you with not having such powerful positive feelings too, but is that really a bad thing if you can control the negative response more?" She cocked her head to the side again.

"I guess we're really in your wheelhouse with this one," I replied without looking up.

She giggled again. "True! I actually didn't really consider that. Well, take whatever I say with the same grain of salt you would from any guru." She turned my hand over and put hers into it. "But I do think loving people and enjoying their company is good, and I maybe just think in general it doesn't have to be so serious. So I guess I sort of am just trying to turn you into me. Go figure." She gave another short little giggle.

She let go of my hand, and quickly came around the table and hugged me around the shoulders. "Come on, let's go inside. I'll feed you some leftover cake, and that'll heal everything. It does that." She tightened her hug a little bit. "Then later you can think about what I said and if you agree with me. You'll probably choose to do the opposite or something crazy like that, but that's okay. You're the way you are, which is good."

I cleared my throat and sat up. She was still hugging me around the shoulders. I rested my head against the side of hers. "I'm going to see S. next time, at least she knows how to let a guy be properly miserable."

She abruptly let go of me and walked around the table to grab the things she had carried with her. "Yeah, but she's not a primary source of cake. I'm telling you, that's legitimately the solution to so many problems."

I blew a little air out of my nose in a tiny laugh. "You know I don't even really like cake, right?"

She had gathered all her things at this point and was waiting for me to stand.

"It's funny, I've never heard you say that even a single time after eating cake I served you."

#writing #conversation #rejection #coping #cake

[abyssalcreator21]

Pandemic Thoughts # 157

Today has been the start of wellness week. It means academic break for students and the time for relaxation. Yet, for myself, I'd still think of our thesis from time to time but then, we are just encouraged to rest for this week. Well, yesterday also, I was reprimanded again by our thesis adviser about my shared posts and she was very angry. Pissed to be exact. I know in myself I tend to juggle my life now with social media, studies, and my social life. Compared to my dilemmas right now, Ma'am Anj also have her own share of hustles. I really do hate also being reprimanded to be honest, it is like one of my toxic traits. Somehow I know that what I post on my social media bears responsibility and also because I set it to public. I haven't been mindful that much of the impact I have with other people because I am just secluded that, well, it is my account, I can post whatever I want. Yet, because of the constant reprimanding, maybe I haven't valued the aspect of being a communicator. Base on my posts lately and for the whole duration of my social media life, I have been in a constant state of just letting myself get haha reacts or any reacts just to make my day enjoyable. And somehow I get disappointed also when I don't have a strong engagement with my posts. Ma'am Anj is right when it comes to me not thinking before I click, I just share random memes, thoughts, and any kind of shit. And I don't think maybe others would be annoyed about it or not. I just tend to recluse myself in the idea that this is my social media accounts, so I can do whatever I want. But yet, base on the several reprimands I got from this year, I have been irresponsible enough of how I acted in social media. Well, I have really gone overboard most of the time the way I chat or my postings. Somehow, the image I portray as a TCM student wasn't really abided with the contents I have with my news feed. It seems I have been toxic and addicted to my social media self being just the person who doesn't give a fuck of the repercussions of my actions. I really do think a lot of people do talk shit about me. And there are also people who like my contents especially when I am writing my pandemic thoughts. But yes, social media really transformed me into this douche who just share anything after a couple of minutes and there are online friends of mine that really calls out of the actions I made. It really bothers me though. These little things about being called out of my actions. The way I handle criticisms and reprimands is not yet mature. Truly, I am 23 years old right now but then, I felt like I am still a kid who act as if I know how the world works. With the habits I have, how easily I can be distracted, I'm still a working on progress with myself. But then, this is life either way. It depends if I take in a professional way or I just take it personally. It has always been my call and anyone's call to be responsible with the emotions, decisions, and actions I/they make in their lives. At least, Ma'am Anj just really wants for me to be better that's why she is angry and pissed. Suddenly remembered also how stubborn I am with my mom when I was a child in how Ma'am Anj is also calling out of my actions.

I really did realize right now that I am jeopardizing the relationship we have with our adviser. Giving her this kind of stress is not good for her health since she also deals with her stress not to be overboard because of her heart condition. Given the fact that I am a communication student. It was just stupid and imbecile for my part to not always think first before I share something. Maybe the best way for me right now to practice being responsible to my social media accounts is to share less and just have other things to focus on. Just like what Ma'am Anj reminds me and all of us, be sensitive and learn to respect. Yet fucktard me didn't adhere to the statement. What a piece of shit am I.

#creativewriting #blogs

[polyamorouscultureis]

How can I overcome the guilt of being a bad communicator when im angry? I’ve been told I come off passive aggressive. im just in my head a lot and thinking of a respectful way to react. Other people view it as childish for not communicating my feelings instantly. Its hard for me to know what im feeling and why and i just feel like thats for me to figure out BEFORE I bring an issue to someone. For context i met this guy and I feel like we both moved too fast out of lust. He was going through alot (idk why i always attract ppl at this stage in their life) He lost a family member, and just got out of a relationship. He said the relationship was dead long before it was over but he was still working through things within himself because of it. He said he still felt emotionally available, but i’m realizing now when he still had a lot to work on he was removing the romance aspect of that.. which i didnt understand at the time and asked twice because I felt confused. So I let him know I dont want anything casual/FWB, and he said he didnt either. We’d hang out and he’d be like “we’re on a date” and it felt manipulative once I really started to think about it. Why use that language if we arent actually building on something? After we were intimate with eachother he said “i wouldnt fall in love with me right now. I just dont have the capacity to receive/give love romantically how i normally would” i didnt say anything then because he was being honest and vulnerable but it hurt. I felt manipulated. Probably manipulated myself into thinking something good could come from this. I dont have many experiences with good/honest men. Even though that is the bare minimum.. I wanted to hold on because i felt like i deserved to be loved, but also recognized he cant.. and i just feel like he had just as much responsibility to leave me alone knowing that. I’m also holding myself accountable because so did I. I left something at his house and went to go get it. I was so passive aggressive, told him nothing was wrong, tried to walk away from him after getting my stuff. I thought it would be best to just ghost him. I already caught feelings and it’d hurt too much if he chose to gaslight me to my face. I didnt want to break down in front of him. He called me once i got to my car and cursed at me.. i was so triggered i brought everything i was feeling to his attention in an accusatory way and i feel so much guilt because i feel like maybe if i wasnt so emotional about the situation he would’ve heard me out. I just felt like he could’ve been more sensitive and understanding to how i reacted especially because I previously explained i’ve been through emotionally/sexual abuse. He called me selfish, told me we’re done and its all my fault, and didn’t even acknowledge my explanation for reacting that way. I apologized a few days later once I cooled off but he ignored it, told me if i had more grace he’d have more empathy..and blocked me. Then he went on twitter ranting about “weird women” and it hurt. He knew i would see it. I dont think i’d ever rekindle anything with him. Im not sure if i dodged a bullet or let my anxiety get the best of me. I’m dealing with a lot of guilt for how it ended even though i tried to rectify things, and I think we both could’ve handled eachother better or maybe i am selfish..? Regardless how can I move on from the guilt of how it ended and him in general? Should I block him back?

Wow, this is a lot. I'm sorry you've been through this.

From your original question, being a "bad communicator" when you're angry suggested to me that you're the kind of person who needs space to collect their thoughts before being able to have a mature conversation, which is perfectly fine - I'm like that too!

But given this story you followed up with, sounds like the instance you are talking about where you didnt tell him what was wrong was long after these mismatched expectations had been established. You told him you wanted more than FWB, and he didnt want to move beyond something casual. You both were going through really hard periods of your life. It's possible that subconsciously, you didnt feel safe speaking candidly to him yet, considering your past with abusive men.

However, considering the aftermath of all that, I do think you dodged a bullet with him. You said you told him everything you were having issues with (even if emotional, you still told him, which is good!) and his response was to turn to name calling and vagueposting on Twitter? That does not point to a communication problem on your end.

At the end of the day, I do think it's best to block him and move on. What do you get out of that relationship? I know it's hard to know people are upset with you, but given what you told me I think you both need space from each other.

Best of luck to you anon ❤

#long post #advice #communication #manipulation tw

[kendrixtermina]

Hi can you please do the same thing you did for 614/613 but for one with a 9 fix instead. Not the separate descriptions of what each heart fix is like (because i already have a general idea) but more how they work together. I don't know if i'm a 692, 693 or 694

In a sense you're in luck because in this case the last number can still make a huge difference to overall holistic 'vibe'

692 -

A fairly distinctive one. So at its best this has been called "The Good samaritan" and at its worst "The Stockholm Syndrome", but I personally like to think of it as "The Cinnamon Roll" cause this succintly describes the average joe individual that is neither a saint nor in dire need of therapy.

That said it is absolutely true that these ppl will be very helpful & can sometimes have difficulty standing up for themselves or struggle with shyness.

It combines all the "nice", other-directed fixes and has 2 positive fixes "shy walflower" or "sweet summer child"... I don't want to exxagerate this too much either but basically, a gentle, attentive good listener person. This trifix is in my observation a bit overrepresented among ISFx or to a lesser extent just IF in general

If you're a core 6 you might still have some token caution/shrewdness somewhere but this is probably going to be a phobic six of the "warm, friendly" sort.

Even in last place you may notice generaral 2-fix traits like being affectionate, cuddly & complimenting ppl.

694 -

Two things to observe here are an overabundance of negative from the 6 and 4, but 9 is prolly the least positive of the positives especially if w8 & can feel a sense of inner hopeleness when not so well adjusted.

The second thing is an overabundance of introversion & sensitivity (9+ 4) but also 2 creative types. Now one should note that 6 by itself already often has a large but repressed imagination - its used to picture worst case scenarios & fears, but not sometimes not engaged beyond that for fear of thinking wrong, crazy thoughts or discomfort with ambiguity. Generally the more self-awareness & maturity a 6 has the more creative they'll be.

Which is a lot of words to say that 6 often has at least latent creativity, and if you add the 9 and 4 that is going to be enhanced.

We also have the 2 "most emotional" types 6 and 4, but the motor behind it in the action center is the diffuse, lighty threading 9 - the impules are more likely to be held inside, pent-up or diffused than pumped outwards into direct action.

So if you put all this together you get what has been referred to as the "singer songwriter" trifix. This can sometimes be a kind of passive, sensitive, rather self-deprecating person (3 "Self lowering" fixes) who might sometimes get called whiny, complainy or passive-agressive, but they profound, philosophic & artsy, with the 6 giving that philosophy a 'universal humanity' & 'real life grounding'

693

- Sometimes considered the "everyman" of the trifixes because its pretty common and consists of the 3 most "adaptable" fixes, though I'd say that it has more specificity than this.

Because of the tripple outward orietation this is someone who is reluctant about making big waves, doesn't like dissapointing people & likes getting along with others (less so without social, but even a social last core 9 could be everyone's favorite cousin even if they're super shy/uncommunicative around strangers.)

Tends to be likeable, responsible & often have a really good sense of humor. (though with 6 and 9 first you might be too humble to think of yourself this way. Or maybe you did get praised for being funny in your family & so tried to keep it up to make them happy)

Since there's an even balance between positive, negative and neutral this person's attitude will be down to what their core type is will but not strongly skew in either direction. (unlike the other two who will have a clear positive/wholesome or negative/woeful skew)

that said 3 is kind of hard to detect if its in last place, it just adds a situation-dependent adaptability where the 2 and 4 would always going for their specific image so if the other 2 don't ring true, you may assume this one by principle of inclusion

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On a more general note, since this gets asked alot I think a good general formula for "what would X trifix be like" is to consider what the types have in common or what overlaps are - this would then be reinforced in a person of that trifix.

Look at the broader range of what exists within the core type & then think of which parts would be strenghtened by the fixes. (especially for types with a naturally big range of possible manifestations like 6 or 9)

It's really more helpful to think of it as a venn diagram with the traits in the middle of it being reinforced than to think of it in terms of inner conflict, cause that's often a trap - for exampleppl thinking they have 8 and 4 because they feel that they 'feel weak but sometimes act strong' when thats kind of the textbook definition of 6. Assume that your biggest inner conflicts are probably due to your core type.

A person who actually has both 4 and 8 in their tritype is gonna show not so much conflict but the 'overlaps' - "bad" self image, doing whatever you want, strong reactions, hate of euphemistic bullshit, being anti-repression, in some cases maybe entitlement to break the rules or self-destructiveness... Needless to say, someone who just goes & unapologetically does what they want & does not have too many brakes on either impulse or emotion probably doesn't feel so much conflict as the 6 who wants to kick ass (& prolly more capacity for it than they think) but is still mindful of the consequences.

of course, if you're a 6 and have 8-4 fixes then thats a whole human with zero brakes. The lead singer of KoRN is one, I think, to give you an idea. much of his (exquisite!) creative output requires a looong list of trigger warnings

#enneagram

[cancerfairy]

Hi, I would like to participate in your ask game. The vibe your vlog gives off is really fairy-like, like it’s dreamy and enchanting. Thank you. – BJ 🤍

hi and thank you c:

☁︎︎ your best qualities:

okay so one of your best qualities could be that you're a giving person. but i'm also getting that you know your limits. you won't overextend for others but you're still generous. you might have good boundaries with others tbh. if you give to others you might want others to give back to you in return sometimes. you might believe in that kind of balance. people might view you as reliable and someone who cares a lot for others. butt you might be someone who guards their heart behind cold words. maybe you enjoy spending time alone or you like stability so you might want to let in others who can disturb that stability you've created. you could be well off or just financially comfortable right now which probably allows you to be so generous. you exude confidence and independence and you might also be self reliant. i also see that you're someone who can be pretty energetic and always wanting to make others smile. you're full of joy and you don't really like heavy responsibilities like that maybe you just wanna vibe. but you do work hard tho. you know when it's time to play and when it's time to grind. you can sometimes be friendly and helpful. you also might have a good relationship with your family? people might view you as kind and sweet. you intuition may be quite strong and you could be very sensitive.

☁︎︎ your worst qualities:

you're someone who hides a lot.. maybe out of fear. you don't reveal much about yourself and you can be labeled as a daydreamer or a schemer at times. maybe you hide things from your friends. maybe you don't really enjoy parties that much. i feel like you may overdo things in certain situations and you can also be quite moody. you might lack emotional maturity and become manipulative and controlling. yeah you can be very toxic when your emotions are running high and then when people call you out you could have a victim mentality and feel like everyone is out to get you. at times you can deal with a lot of gossip from your friends or gossip about yourself from your friends. you might also become a very demanding and almost tyrant like person. maybe you act like others' boss at times or maybe like the queen b. you could make others feel inferior so you might wanna check your own feelings of anxiety and depression. maybe you look down on others because you feel like you have bad luck or you just struggle a lot and feel like no one understands your struggles so you possibly take it out on others. maybe you get rejected by friends which can make you very moody. i also feel like you forget to enjoy the good times. your advice would be to tell others when you're struggling so you don't have to deal with it alone. treat others the way you'd want to be treated and also try to change your perspective. there's no need to boss others around or bring others down to lift yourself up. try to feel your emotions and calm yourself down before you let your emotions get the best of you. work on grounding yourself and your thoughts. it'll get easier as time goes by <3

#tarot game #my little pixies ʚĭɞ #thank you for joining ♡︎

[sophfandoms53]

Hi sorry if this is a sensitive quesiton, but if its okay to ask who's Cameron Boyce? I'm a little confused

Cameron Boyce was an actor, dancer and philanthropist. He was best known for his role on the Disney Channel sitcom, JESSIE, where he played Luke Ross, which is where a majority of people were introduced to him. He also did inch his way into the network with cameo roles on Good Luck Charlie and Shake It Up prior to his JESSIE role. He later went on to portray Carlos De Vil in the Descendants franchise.

He also had his fair share of the big screen when starring in Grown Ups and Grown Ups 2 as one of Adam Sandler’s sons, Keith. He also had a minor film roles in movies such as Eagle Eye and Mirrors.

But the most notable thing about Cameron was his dedication, commitment and understanding of his role as a figure in the public eye. I don’t think there has ever been a celebrity who was so aware of the impact of their words and influence they had before or after Cameron. He truly, truly understood the business he was in, knowing of the constant eyes and PR people watching his every action.

These people wait for celebrities to slip up, make a controversy so their articles can get clicks and reads. But Cameron always used this usually negative public attention and turned it into something positive. Every chance he got, Cameron would be vocal about his love for helping others and the joy he got from seeing them be happy. He mainly was involved with The Thirst Project, a group dedicated to ending the worldwide water crisis, and in 2018 he was honored with the Pioneering Spirit Award from this same organization.

Cameron subverted everybody’s low expectations of Disney child actors. Infamously, a lot of Disney child actors fall into a crossfire of wanting to erase their “kiddy image” but still having a child audience behind them but also want to be seen as mature now. This includes falling into drugs, outrageous performances and feuds with other actors.

Cameron, flat out, just did not do this. He never did anything to erase his Disney image, he never did any drugs (except for one but that’s for later) and he never made a fool out of himself to be seen as mature. Cameron had a pretty smooth transition from Disney to his roles on Mrs. Fletcher and upcoming Paradise City. He was so self-aware of this industry and what it could do to him, that he never strayed from being himself. No matter what happened, he was always Cameron. He was a true inspiration and a role model that deserves the praise and love he gets.

But with every good, comes the bad.

On July 6th, 2019, a day that haunts so many of us, Cameron unfortunately passed away in his sleep due to a seizure of an ongoing medical condition, which was revealed to be epilepsy. This was something Cameron very much dealt with behind the scenes, only his family was aware of it, and many of his friends learned about his condition after he had passed.

Usually with epilepsy, something has gone wrong in the brain, leading to the seizures and body’s lack of a response for a few moments. But with Cameron, and this will forever boggle my mind, the doctors never found anything wrong with his brain. They did multiple scans of his brain, a most notable one in retrospect was from late 2017, seen in an Xmob video (a dance crew Cam had been apart of since he was a kid) where we see the right side of Cameron’s head is bandaged and wired, connected to a scanner on his hip. Cameron even posted of photo on Instagram back in January of 2018 with this same contraption on him. At the end of the day everything came back normal. They even tried the usual tests of flashing lights at different speeds to change his brain activity and get him to seize. But everything was fine. There was nothing wrong with him.

Cameron’s seizures were a few months, maybe even a year, apart from the last. He suffered his first one in 2015 not too long after Descendants premiered and didn’t have another one until around the same time in 2016, where he was diagnosed with epilepsy. This was the continued cycle for the next 4 years. Cam only had 5 seizures before he passed, the 5th being the last. He was taking his medication regularly, and when his autopsy came back, that was the only drug found in his body. Other than struggling with his condition behind closed doors, Cameron was happy and healthy.

Watching him dance, act or publicly speak, everyone can confidently say Cameron loved what he was doing and he wanted to share more of his talent and kindness to the world. His passing is tragic, but the legacy and family he left behind are keeping him alive each and every day with The Cameron Boyce Foundation and TheArchivesFrom.

It hurts to see his freckled face sometimes, watching JESSIE and Descendants haven’t been the easiest. I miss that famous smile and contagious laugh of his more and more everyday. When Cameron is smiling, you can’t help but smile too. And that’s what I do every time I see him. There may be tears, but there is always a smile.

He was kind, giving, hopeful and human. He was a silly kid with a passion for dancing and acting and succeeded in many ways. Cameron was so much more than a Disney actor, and people are learning the amazing person this 20 year old truly was. He will be remembered for all the right reasons.

#cameron boyce #this got long #lol sorry #i just #i love cam and everything he did #may his memory be a blessing #we love you cameron #forever and always #❤️❤️❤️

[ferie-anon]

hello, cutie !! is it alright if i request another ship please ?? for bts and nct (if not the entirety of nct, maybe just wayv?) i'm a capricorn sun, taurus moon, sagittarius venus, sagittarius mercury, scorpio mars, and a cancer rising !! ILY bubs take care and no rush !! (っ˘з(˘⌣˘ )

Oh hi again fwend, ahh looking at ur placements again I messed up one of ur placements 😱🥺 u actually have sag mercury and ofc that changes some things, in your chart placements: you are dilligent, gets work done on time, mature, free, optimistic, open minded, positive speech from sag mercury, determined and intense passion of ur hobbies/interests, scary when angry, and generally seen as a nurturer/kind with a sensitive motherly heart from ur cancer rising :3

In Wayv.... I ship you with Kun!

Well.... Can I just say you two together are honestly the mature cute romantic couple 🥺✨ Kun is the leader of wayv, he’s mature, cares for the members and he’s a capricorn sun too! Both of you guys aren’t too lazy as you both work for wut u want, Kun also is consistent in his routines such as daily exercise running (he stated somewhere?) and so you both could go for a run or walk together~ 💖✨

Alrighty, Kun has his moon in taurus~ I notice moon in tauruses usually gain weight a little easier than others hence why Kun always puts himself on a strict regimen and dilligently keeps his weight even, so this shows part of his moon taurus trait. They are stubborn/if they put their mind to something or an opinion they stick to it, they are easy to get along with, their presence radiates earthy and comfort~ (tidbit: Joy has taurus moon :3) So back to the topic, you also have taurus moon~ So both of you guys would understand each other’s reasoning for their thinking cuz you probs be like ‘yea I would think like that’ and you both are patient with each other and understanding!

Kun’s mercury is in capricorn~ So he has a very organized and thought out logical speech, hence also where his leader qualities come from. He is able to discern through social ability and minds of others, has strong morales/values and responsible, and he’s not afraid to say something if his values are crossed. Your mercury is in sagittarius is kinda the opposite, more optimistic and very happy, but this can bring some fun and relaxing energy into Kun’s life. He would enjoy your soft and encouraging words, while you appreciate his thoughtful chocie of words and as a capricorn yourself you understand his communication too.

Kun’s venus is in aquarius, and right off the bat they have a unique way of showing their affection. Unique as in open to new ideas and similar to sagittarius venus in a way, both signs are openminded in this aspect. Like a sag venus won’t judge their partner, and an aquarius venus generally welcome any possibilities so they too won’t be too judgy. Btw your venus is sextile to kun’s venus, which shows how positive your chemistry together is. Creating an easy mindset to open up, you guys won’t have any hard feelings or worries sharing with each other due to your natures.

Now kun’s mars is in.... tadaa capricorn! So he has a stellium (three placements with a recurring sign) so thats why Kun is super super dilligent responsible and practical. Your mars is sextile to his capricorn mars, so yes another positive encounter with each other’s approach to things. There is a natural attraction to each other physically and mentally, both signs are persistent and are no pushover to anger. I think this similarity make you two quite strong in the emotion aspect, you two 🌿🔥💫

Overall, I think you guys are the mature couple who generally are naturally adorable together :3 Like a mix of 💛🍫🌹🖤☕️🍹✨nothing to say bout the conclusion cuz u two are 🥰🥺 🧸💖

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In bts... I ship you with Jungkook~

This competitive talented maknae may be well matched with you~ His virgo sun shows his skill and intellect which will appeal to you, he is the golden maknae for a reason! Your taurus moon is trine to his virgo sun, so he finds your presence and calmness very soothing and understanding for him. This baby just needs someone to be there for him :3 and his moon is in leo which can humor you in his comical overexaggerated reactions, they’re endearing and lovable becuz of how they wear their playful childish emotions out on their sleeves, cuz they’re a child at heart~

(ROFL this gif)

Reason i think this would work well, its well balanced, Jungkook is versatile or flexible which can let you expand your knowledge and perception, while Jungkook’s optimistic playful self will find stability and moral support from your mature resolute demeanor and inner thinking. Also his leo moon is trine to your sagittarius mercury and venus~ so your optimistic and fun speech and actions appeal to him :3 See? You both have a fun playful side 🍡🍧🍦

His mercury is in virgo which is trine to your capricorn sun and your taurus moon is trine to his mercury~ You find his hardworking meticulous and analytical side impressive, how he’s able to grasp concepts easily and learn new skills. His mercury virgo appreciates your similar traits of personality and morals. He values the working hard side of u and the attentive to knowledge and details side~

His venus is in libra, and these natives show their understanding of their willingness to put effort or compromise with their partner. Like they’re willing to be thoughtful etc becuz of their love for their s/o, and libra venuses dislike being alone so they rather be in the presence of their partners. So they’re always kinda clingy in a good way, not necessarily hugging all the time but just accompany you. His venus is trine to your venus sagittarius, and he enjoys how you love to enjoy new things with him and your radiant actions make him smile. :3 kinda like going to a movie, and u just make comments on the scenes, and he’s just wrapping his arm round your shoulder from your cheerful reaction, looking at ya 🥰

Lastly, his mars is in scorpio... baby has a scary side~ It shows he is determined and thats how he honed his skills and interests, to better himself. Conjunct to your mars scorpio, you both are not tolerant to others criticisms or words at your loved ones and each other~ You guys have similar working values and its easy to understand how you each act on this~

Overall, the duality couple- thats the only thing I can think :3 💖✨🍦🌹 and 🖤⚡️✨☕️🌿🍄 and the open minded ones cuz Jungkook has tattoos watch yall get matching tattoos 👀🥺

#ask #astrology ships #kpop ships #wayv #nct #kun #bts #jungkook

[roleplayfinder]

I'm unsure if my first submission of this was eaten or not, so I'm just sending this again in case.

I'm 18.

Hello everyone! I have a plot idea, and I'm looking for a long-term partner who can rp it with me.

It's going be a Darkstache rp, with me as Wilford. So I'm looking for someone that can rp as Darkiplier, and can write 4-7 sentences, or more. The more, the merrier! Preferably lit. to advance lit. As I can write a lot, especially if I'm on a roll. Like, I can do a paragraph and more. I can give responses in minutes, or less than a hour. Though, I'll try my best to inform you if I'm too busy to rp at the moment or so. I'll understand if you become busy as well. Also, I don't use asterisks for actions or anything, I use "" for dialogue, and I write in "book style" third person. I like rping like we're writing a story, since in a way we are.

Now, onto the idea!

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Wilford is an angel and Dark is a demon. They been lovers/boyfriends for almost a year, or more than that. Though, when Wilford's kind found out about his relationship with a demon, they take matters into their own hands. They forcefully take him back to heaven, to help him and cleanse him of the demon's taint. When in reality, it's really torture. The memory of what Dark was to Wil is wiped from his memory. Eventually, after a long time (a few years), Wilford is allowed back on Earth. Though, he's different. That becomes obvious when he runs into Dark. (There can obviously be Dark angst too if you wish it. (: )

OR

They are an angel and demon that meet for the first time, and we'll see where things take off from there. (:

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We can discuss which we'll do, and other things, further in DMs/PMs. We can talk and rp either on here (I'm @lovable-but-psychotic ), Instagram ( @lovable-but-psychotic ), Discord (shared through PMs/DMs), or something else.

Be Aware: This rp will have triggering/dark/sensitive/mature topics. I usually lead up to serious scenes/give explanations for them. Meaning I don't make someone depressed/depressing, or something like that, at the drop of a hat without good reason. If something is a big no-no for you though, I'll avoid it/never being it up in the rp. So please think about these things if you consider DMing/PMing me to rp.

Though, that doesn't mean it won't have cute, fluffy, lighthearted, nice and lovey dovey moments. I'm a sucker for those as much as I am for angst. (: Maybe even some NSFW moments/smut as well, if you want that. If we do smut, just know I usually make Wilford a switch or submissive/bottom. I can't play him as top/dominant very well. So I prefer Dark to be dominant/top, or a switch, please. Though, while smut/nsfw is welcomed, it isn't a necessity.

You must DM/PM me if you want to rp, because liking this RP request post doesn't tell me much besides you liking it. Plus, it happened a couple times to me where the like button was pressed by accident. So yeah... DM/PM me to rp this.

Anyways- That's all for now. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope you have a fantastic day/night! 💖🖤

@lovable-but-psychotic

#eighteen and over #darkstache #darkstache roleplay #darkstache rp

[bokutosbiceps]

That's awesome, I'm so glad to hear that. I wanted to request what type of s/o you thought that Edogawa Ranpo, Poe, Chuya & Oda would like/be a good match with. These are my favorite guys so I'm interested to see what you think.

anon 2: Hopefully Ii got this in b4 you closed the ask box, I wanted to ask if you could give your opinions on what kind of person that Dazai, Chuuya, Gin, and Akutagawa, please & ty.

rughweifufh yes i love this. i’m cracking my knuckles right now, i’m so hyped for thissss. these are gonna be bullet pointed and kinda short but they gonna be accurate as helllll- Pocky

Ranpo

ranpo wants someone who is down to laze around with him but also someone who is adventurous and curious and will have a day of exploration with him

no in between

he likes those who are like him but also not

he doesn’t mind if his partner will take the lead in their relationship or wear the pants, so to speak. in fact, he prefers it–it means he doesn’t have to take responsibility for anything that goes sour

someone who appreciates his lewd sense of humor is always a plus–hearing people laugh at his jokes is like music to his ears

he would die if his partner admired/looked up to him

especially if they want to learn stuff that he knows how to do

“Edo-kun, how did you…?” that’s it he’s dead but also talking a mile a minute on how he perfected whatever they asked to learn

he prefers gentle people (like gentle movements and gentle voice) because rough/aggressive people really put him off–plus gentle people are the best snugglers

MUST have an appreciation for sweets/food like him since most night will be spent splurging on junk foods

Poe

it could either go two ways for poe

1. someone like him

someone who is sensitive and quite withdrawn

someone who enjoys literature and reading and soft things

a closet compassionate; may have a semi-tough exterior but once gotten to know better, they are compassionate and caring and the best person one could ever get to know

very loyal

a hUGE cuddler

someone who will spend an entire day on the couch or in bed with Poe, just sifting their hands through his hair and maybe reading a book to him while he dozes

2. someone completely different from him

very outspoken and tough

will not stand for anyone’s bullshit and will beat the shit out of anyone who criticizes them or Poe

basically Poe’s bodyguard 

though they do have a soft side that Poe just loves because the juxtaposition of their tough side and gentle side creates this spark in their heart that Poe cannot leave unnoticed

honestly is Poe’s muse; whenever Poe is writing something, they’re who he bases his strong main character off of

he truly thinks they could defeat all of his enemies with their bare hands yet there’s a certain elegance that he absolutely adores

someone who will make Poe get out there and do things and enjoy life; someone who picks Poe’s brain and makes him critically think about life and its meaning

either way, they must love and appreciate (and occasionally give treats to) Karl

Oda

oda would fall head over heels for someone mature and loving/caring

Oda deserves a sweetheart

whenever he is on the lookout for a potential partner (which is very rare) he looks for someone who would be a good role model to the kids he’s mentoring/taking care of

if the dates had been going well, Oda would eventually take his potential partner to meet the kids

it’s like how after the 3rd date you have sex, but instead, with Oda, you meet his “kids”

he’d like someone who knows how to have a good time but also knows when it’s time to relax

some of Oda’s favorite pastimes include reading, writing, and doing crosswords

he’d like to be able to do all three of those things, sitting across from/cuddling with/holding hands with his lover and have them be perfectly content

Chuuya

Chuuya would be absolutely infatuated with someone who is as elegant as they are badass 

honestly I feel like his type is someone like Kouyou, since he looks up to her so much since she basically raised him, he sees her personality as that of a strong soul 

Chuuya needs a strong partner because a weak/simple-minded partner would not mesh well with him; it’d be a pretty one-sided relationship since Chuuya is so dominant

Chuuya appreciates someone who can be honest and speak their mind

he’s respectful of other people’s thoughts and opinions and he will definitely respect his partner’s

Chuuya might get into arguments over little things such as you say he left the toilet seat up when he says he didn’t, who will take out the trash, etc.

he always ends up pouty and sarcastic but in theme, if he knows he’s in the wrong, he will apologize (and reward his partner with makeup send)

Chuuya would appreciate someone who likes to have fun in ways that he can enjoy, like hanging out at a jazz bar/club, strolling around the city at night, WINTE TASTINGS, and splurge days (where him and his partner will do, buy, eat, or drink the most expensive things they can find)

Chuuya isn’t particularly fond of cuddling, but he does have a weakness for massages. to him, it’s the most intimate kind of physical contact two people can have (second only to sex), so someone with magic hands is a bonus to him

Dazai

Dazai is most likely to fall for someone who is super laid-back and chilled but also intelligent and talented, like the silent but deadly type (nO, not the farts)

Dazai would appreciate someone who can hold a conversation and add insightful things to it

he thinks the human mind can be the most beautiful thing when it belongs to the right person, and if his partner can keep a steady conversation and think critically, he’s very impressed

Dazai needs someone who will keep him on a tight rein and keep him in check because he knows he gets himself into a lot of tight squeezes and does a lot of stupid things

Dazai is a BIG cuddler. he wants someone who is gentle and soft and doesn’t mind being wrapped up in his arms and letting his body heat warm them up

though Dazai ould like someone who is calm and collected, he’d adore them if they had a wild side

like a maniacal side, almost like they become a warped version of themselves

they can be geeking out over one of their obsessions, having an insane idea, or just being plan crazy

Gin

Gin would fall head over heels for someone who lets her be herself

in the mafia she has to act tough and stay silent, or else her reputation is ruined and people won’t fear/respect her

but she wants to be able to get home and let her hair down (quite literally) and be the bubbly, talkative, and kind girl that she is (no one can convince me otherwise, Gin is a sweetheart)

someone who is mature would catch her eye, mature in a way that they understand the give and take of a relationship and wouldn’t shy away from Gin because of her job

she has to make money and that’s just her way of doing it

she’d adore someone who can cook well. since her and her brother are average cooks at best, they either eat the same thing over and over again, order out, or don’t eat at all. coming home to a nice meal would be a bonus in her book

Akutagawa

hands down this man needs someone who is independent and self-sufficient

since he’s barely ever home, they wouldn’t be spending a whole bunch of time together and they’d need to be able to understand that he’s dedicated to his job

that’s not to say he won’t love and cherish them, though. when he gets home and when he has free days, they are his focus and object of his (rare) affection

that being said, he’d need someone who isn’t very much into physical affection

he’s not a very touchy feely person, in fact, physical interactions make him nervous 

so someone who understands that he may not want to be touched 24/7 would be perfect for him

though he does love his cuddles once in a while

he’d want someone straight-forward and honest, he doesn’t have time nor does he care to play games or try to decipher the underlying meanings of words/actions

he hears from others that “women say one thing but mean another” but he wants to be able to say “no, actually, they don’t” when talking about his girlfriend

someone who doesn’t really care what they do together, like someone laid-back, would be perfect for Akutagawa

he’s not a huge planner since he doesn’t necessarily care what he’s doing on his days off, as long as he’s relaxing 

so someone who’s just fine with days in and nights in and basically a life in would be perfect for him

but also someone who does like to go out on occasion, because Akutagawa is secretly weak for strolls in the city or in the park or by the river

#bsd #bungou stray dogs #bsd x reader #headcanons #edogawa ranpo #ranpo #rampo #edgar allen poe #poe #chuuya #chuuya nakahara #akutagawa gin #akutagawa ryuunosuke #akutagawa #dazai #dazai osamu #oda #oda sakunosuke

[ninawritesastory]

So, I started following you because your posts on Creek are fantastic and have fueled headcanons for days but I've recently stumbled into enjoying Style (I'm new to this fandom) and a tag on one of your recent reblogs leads me to ask: what do you think needs to happen in order for Style to work? What growing up and experience do you think they need? And, in the end, how do you ultimately see them once they've achieved that?

Holy crow, thank you so much! I’m glad you’re enjoying all of the Creek, and I’m glad you’re getting plenty of headcanons out of it. Half the time I feel like I’m just rambling nonsensically into the void and none of what I’m saying makes any sense, so it’s always nice to hear that it’s making sense to someone! xD

And welcome to the South Park fandom, by the way! I think this is one of the chillest, least toxic fandoms I’m part of (so long as you stay away from. like, the Kyman vs. Style ship wars; maybe it’s calmed down a bunch, but it used to be fairly…interesting) and there are TONS of awesome artists and writers, as I’m sure you’re discovering. I hope you have lots of fun and find some good stuff.

Now, thing about Style is that, after the events of You’re Getting Old/Assburgers in particular, there’s a clear shift in the maturity levels between Kyle and Stan. The main problem here is that, for all intents and purposes, Kyle is a lot like Cartman. The key difference is that Kyle is always convinced he’s morally superior while Cartman doesn’t really give a shit about moral superiority.

There have been multiple instances throughout the show where Kyle has demonstrated a definite lack of emotional sensitivity to the point where I’d consider it largely canon that he has trouble empathizing with others. His treatment of Stan in You’re Getting Old and Assburgers is pretty much what had me pushing back my realm of feasibility for the Style relationship. Kyle can’t empathize with Stan’s developing depression; he outright says that Stan’s worsening mental health is toxic to him. And while I can understand that, to some degree, the fact that Kyle was willing to abandon Stan once his depression was starting to worsen really turned me off from canonical Style.

I have depression myself, and I know from experience how shitty it is to have the people you care about turn their backs on you because you’re no longer smiling and laughing at the same stuff you used to. Depression fucks with you in ways that drastically alter who you are. And if you decide to seek out treatment and keep up with it, who you become as you recover is fairly rarely who you were before you spiraled. If you’ve ever seen Inside Out (which has a FANTASTIC way of showing what depression feels like), think of the Personality Islands going dark and crumbling away. It’s a lot like that: what interested you, what you valued, what you loved, you’re likely to lose your connections to those things and even once you begin recovery there’s a chance that you won’t be able to reestablish those interests, or at least to the same strength that you had them before. Depression more or less chews you up and spits you out, and when you start recovering, you’re essentially a blank slate in terms of your interests.

And Stan…never actually gets any real treatment. Personally, I was really confused when Stan’s obvious descriptions of depression were immediately linked by Mr. Mackey to Asperger’s Syndrome. (Which made it really difficult for me to keep up with the rest of the episode, because it kind of felt like they just wanted to make the Ass Burgers joke and went from a depression-focused storyline to an autism-focused one.) But, the only “treatment” Stan gets at all is alcohol. It’s literally poured down his throat without his consent. Even once the episode comes to a close, Stan never receives any actual treatment and so has to rely on the only “solution” he was exposed to.

But, anyway, from those episodes onwards, there’s been a distinct imbalance in Stan and Kyle’s relationship. Their “Super Best Friends” status is starting to feel more and more superficial. Because Stan is fairly emotionally intelligent. He’s highly empathetic, even if he can be self-centered on a semi-regular basis. And Stan is definitely in the processing of growing up just a little too fast due to his issues with depression, addiction, and substance abuse. He’s taking responsibility for himself at an age when he really shouldn’t have to—at least, not in those areas.

Meanwhile, Kyle doesn’t really have anything pushing him to grow. (Prior to last season, at any rate.) He’s ten and there’s nothing in his immediate experience that is forcing him to think more maturely. The closest he ever comes is with Ike, but since Ike is not someone he has to take care of on a regular basis, any maturity he shows in those moments is fleeting and kind of superficial. Kyle doesn’t have any reason to reevaluate how he relates to people, his empathy is severely underdeveloped, and he has a hard time understanding anyone else’s point of view.

In other words, Stan’s in the process of maturing. Kyle (prior to last season) is nowhere close. It’s possible that Kyle’s experiences with Heiman and the nuking of Canada may help push him into that phase of his development, but I don’t think I can really say that definitively until the next season comes out.

So, for what I feel needs to happen for Style to work. On Stan’s end, he needs to get some actual treatment for his depression. He seems to have gotten the whole addiction and substance abuse thing more or less under control thanks to his chat with Satan, but I’m not sure if his depression has been managed as effectively. I also think he needs to have a Come to Jesus moment in terms of his relationship with his dad. Honestly, I heavily empathized with Stan in Ass Burgers when he was finally making progress in dealing with his mental health only for Randy to yank the rug out from under him at the last minute. I just get the sense that Randy’s presence in Stan’s life is essentially what keeps Stan from progressing in terms of his mental health and development. That whole, “Stick to what you know” thing isn’t going to help Stan because sticking to what he knows involves a flash of booze stashed in his underwear drawer and no actual attempts to seek either medication or psychiatric help. So Stan needs to develop enough to pull himself out from under Randy’s influence.

For Kyle…Kyle needs to mature emotionally. He needs to learn how to empathize with other people and get out of his self-centered focus. I think he may be on the way to that, if he learned his lesson from the M.A.C./Canada nuking situation. I also think that what would help Kyle most is just getting out of South Park and away from Cartman. Everyone says college is pretty much a different world from grade school, and in a lot of ways they’re right. Depending on what college you go to, your likelihood of being in classes with people you know from grade school is slim to none. The structure in college is also different; a lot of it relies on you being accountable to yourself and your coursework. The mix of people you interact with is almost never the exact same sort of mix you grew up with. Which would go a long way to helping Kyle develop the necessary self-awareness needed to make the Style relationship work.

The way I see it, Kyle and Stan having some sort of a falling out in middle school or high school. They don’t hang out that much anymore, their friend groups shift enough that their daily interactions are minimal, and they develop apart from each other for the first time in their lives. They go their separate ways after graduation—Kyle to college and Stan to the military—and don’t really call or talk or anything after leaving South Park. Give it at least a semester, better a year or so, and they reunite during break. Kyle’s done a shit ton of growing up, Randy’s shadow over Stan’s life is drastically reduced, and they’ve have a chance to grown into themselves. Kyle’s got a better understanding of mental health, Stan’s got a firmer grip on his depression, and they’re finally back on even ground. That’s when a romantic relationship between the could work out.  

#nina answers asks #sharrakor #sp style #sp stan #sp kyle #stan marsh #kyle broflovski #hope that made sense! #if not we can try again |D #cw depression #cw alcohol