#marriage is gross

[skullmoss]

ANY TIME I SEE PEOPLE HATING ON SHANE AS A MARRIAGE CANDIDATE i know they are not True Fans of Stardew Valley who have been there since launch

i was playing the game since it dropped. i remember how thirsty everyone was for shane, lamenting how he wasn't a marriage candidate. i was there when concernedape put out a poll to decide who the two new marriage candidates would be. i voted on that poll.

i am a true fan who's been there since the very beginning and i think shane is neat and good.

#like penny is My Wife she is My Favourite i love her So Much. #but i also love my sopping wet sad stinky chicken husband shane. #you can speed run and min/max your farm all u want but if u hate shane as a marriage option u are not a true sdv fan. #im sorry his room is messy and gross and doesn't fit your 'aesthetic' it just means ur a boring control freak.

[mad-scientist-clown]

the muse was like,, a weird episode of ds9. the lwaxana plot was actually really good (ODO WOULD INVITE QUARK TO HIS WEDDING????) but the energy thought vampire that was weird with jake was fucked up. isnt he like?? 17 or smth??? it was just. i didnt like it. it was no good.

#had litterally the worst vibes #like it felt gross to watch #i mean the odo marriage arc was like pretty decent i think that any time lwaxana is on screen my day is brightened immensely but. i wish #that was the entire episode. and it didnt have the energy thought psycic vampire shit. #star trek #ds9 #odo ds9 #lwaxana troi #star trek ds9

[13eyond13]

would love more manga to have less family members flirting with each other hahaha

#it seems QUITE prevalent #in many of the series im trying to start reading #i'm starting fruits basket now and its ok but im also like #arent you all cousins or something? gross dont try to get engaged to each other etc #i can handle cousin marriages in olden day stories but thats about it #p #13readsmanga

[sportsandlaughs]

#hemorrhoids #preparation h #gross #marriage #relationship #twitter #love #sexy

[box-dwelling]

I don't normally like posting MCYT stuff because the fandom both scares me and also tend to engage with it in a way I don't. Not hate or to yuck anyone's yum if that's your thing, it's just not normally how I engage with SMPs at least not the stuff from the dream influenced side.

But I will say as someone who's been watching Lizzie and Joel for basically as long as I've had a YouTube account, (they were both some of the first channels I ever subbed to and the original Shadowcraft was like the first every long form YouTube content I ever watched) and who has Joel screaming Lizzies name in terror shock and awe at the insanity of her antics as a deeper core memory than my mother's voice, the exchange with Grian in the the most recent episodes of secret life of:

"I thought you two were married"

"that doesn't mean we have to be nice to each other"

did make me cackle. They're dynamic is iconic and I love them both dearly

#secret life smp #grian #ldshadowlady #smallishbeans #i will say i love that some of the old trollcraft gang are on smps with the hermitcraft squad now #i got into hermitcraft way later when i wanted to see more high level mc play as i was older but it warms my heart #those are my old faves with my new faves #every time scar grian or mumbo talk with lizzie joel or scar my 13 year old heart swells a little #for the record the thing i domt like os shipping #those are real people with real friendships and im sorry it grosses me out #like its fine with shit like saying an actual irl marriage couple are cute or that a pair of irl friends have good chemistry #but like beyond that i get really grossed out #i was a dan and phil fan i know how this shit ends even if you're right about the signals your picking up

[criticalrolo]

i could focus on writing / doing actual things OR i could draw some nie parents designs. so guess which one i'm doing

#headcanon that nhs' mom carries around an umbrella like he has his fans #their dad was a BIG dude but not as tall as nmj's mom #nmj's mom lost an eye on a night hunt and lets the kids play with her prosthetic eye which is gross but they love it etc #what if the two coolest wlw in the jianghu thought it would be fun to ally with the nie sect through marriage etc #ANYWAY

[tothesolarium]

On a different note I need to figure out what my beloved deranged man looks like… and is named

#take very proud lion who’s been popping off of gross systems with his beautiful wife #dunk him in the water realization that everything is fucked and an obsession with the strange maybe divinity that they’ve been fucking with #still loves wife but also has lost ability to talk to her like a normal person #she is now the head of the part of the company that actively controls the Host Program #happy marriage! #I love them #three chapters written and still have no idea what to name the man #his wife is named Grey! #she’s very cool and smart #and has designed a train! #don’t worry about how it’s powered #or how the light posts are either #she’s just a good designer

[filthyfundie]

Moriah and Micah shit talking Olivia into the ground while living lifestyles Olivia is directly responsible for them achieving is still grinding my gears

#I have so much more to say honestly #but that opening of the two of them #living alone in gorgeous spaces #Micah parading around in a towel and then just in underwear #doing freelance modeling gigs #Moriah as a bartender - in those clothes in Miami in all that makeup #none of it happens without Olivia #by no means has Olivia been perfect #I’m grossed out by a few of her behaviors #but holy shit the fear she has for her marriage and her hurt #you can feel it from the screen #breaks my heart

[minecraftbookshelf]

I am a very serious writer who thinks about very serious things

#rain rambles #mouths are gross I stand by this #marriage of state au #mos: seablings

[trkstrnd]

in my humble opinion there is no reason to continue to complain about a plot that has been resolved poorly. it takes so much energy to sit there and be negative and talk about why it bothers you about the thing you’re supposed to enjoy. that’s the thing with this show. as a fandom, we collectively understand that the writers aren’t always going to write what we like, and we can give or take anything to or from the show that we like or dislike, so why are we spending so much time on the dislike? it’s fiction, at the end of the day, no matter how much the actors or writers are adamant that it’s real to them. they’re taking what they get and playing it in stride, and we are watching it. we have the power, as a human being, to take what we need and leave the rest, and yet every time i log in i see people continuing to complain about things that we should simply move past, because no matter how much we hate it, it will not change. canon is canon.

i recently did a project for my film and television analysis class about audience reception, and we talked a bit about how, many times, fandoms can see or create things that aren’t there, or latch onto things that they think they can do better (which, let’s be honest, we can, but we don’t have a job in the writers room and even if we did we would be getting abused by higher ups (im so proud of the writers guild okay)). We talked about how it can almost become an obsession within and obsession. we watched a documentary in fandom and how some people incorporate it into their lives in a healthy way, and some people, not so much, and i think, especially in this fandom (which i am keeping vague so other fandoms can use this post to convey their feelings if they like), the line is incredibly blurred.

in this class, we also watched Paris Is Burning, which is representative of queer movements in the twentieth century, and we talked about backlash the film got, because the representation wasn’t quite positive with everyone exhibited in the doc. We had a lengthy discussion about how oftentimes, queer theory in media isn’t necessarily pretty, and when queer filmmakers came out of the gate, they showed these ugly, messy, real stories so they could exhibit the humanity and progress that these stories made.

Sometimes people make mistakes; a lot of times, things and conversations happen offscreen, and if you’re going to latch on to one storyline and let it ruin your overall view of the season or piece of media as a whole (when you previously lived it), im not going to tell you what to do, but i will say to try looking at it through a less critical eye.

throughout the season, progress was made. it’s exhibited later in the season, which means there is still a lot we don’t see, to have such a shift like that.

that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. it means there’s a set amount of time in each episode and there are other storylines going on. we are privileged enough to get the ones we do get (even if they’re not great), so use your imagination! bridge the gap! understand that not everything is sunshine and roses all the time and when it is, it doesn’t necessarily make good prime time tv.

tl; dr: please stop using canon as ur only source of material because there is so much more that we didn’t see!!! tv embraces fandom creativity! and shitting on it all the time isn’t healthy! plus, it makes those of us who moved on and feel okay about it feel really fucking shitty <3

#carlos marriage plot was not resolved onscreen #they got fucking annulled and we didn’t see it #so if we rub our braincells together for a couple seconds doesn’t that allude to the idea that there were likely some conversations+ #that we didn’t see??? #i have a mutual that i love who is exhausted from all of this discourse #and it breaks my heart #it also feels really gross for me as someone who moved on #and who loves these characters #to see people continuously shutting on the thing that i love so much #feel how you feel #but isn’t it exhausting hating the things you claim to love? #911 lone star #trick talks lone star #carlos reyes #tk strand #tarlos #911ls #911ls spoilers #discourse #fandom discourse

[baconcolacan]

Tords response to

Tom: does this ____ make me look fat?

(Both aus)

Regimen: "Thomas you literally never eat anything, it does not."

Stay: "Yeah, so?? If you think you're getting out of this marriage with that you've got another thing coming, kjaere."

#asks #anonymous #regimen ao3 #ew Stay AU #I like to think when the Stay versions retire they can get chubbier #No need for excess military training now just sleep and cuddle #Running RA is AK's problem now #snrk mimimimimimi #zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz #heard my dad say smth like this to my mom once actually lmao #she made an offended gasp and slapped him ofc but he just picked her up and tickled her #my parents are gross skdjgfdsjhf get your loving marriage away from me

[idiosyncraticrednebula]

Bitter chicks really think you aren't supposed to prioritize your husband once you get married. "YoU CEnTEr YouR LiFE ArOund A MaN™ WhAt a PicK mE 😂" I'm (not) sorry, but once you get married, you are no longer on your own. Both become ONE in flesh. You are part of him and he is part of you. If you despise the idea, then don't get married. Y'all are really out here tryna corrupt marriage because certain things make you uncomfortable. A lot of you have never had a good relationship in your lives and it shows, man. Instead of looking inside yourself snd figure out what'a wrong and raise your standards, you'd just rather SHAME other women. Typical behavior, unfortunately.

#relationship #txt #they assume: prioritizing husband /=/ giving a damn about yourself #i think god makes it pretty clear to embrace Him withing ourselves first so we can embrace someone else to be part of our lives #we show how much we love god by loving our spouse. being devoted to them #again if you don't like the idea then stay single then #no one is forcing you to get married #and for the 175273627262716th time this isn't saying that you stay with an abusive husband #because jesua christ y'all using abuse to discredit marriage. it's pretty damn gross actually #y'all should be able to read between the lines but they do it because they HATE marriage and look for excuses #this is what they do #just like the fellas using divorce to discredit marriage

[simplyghosting]

...

#imma be real watching someone get into a marriage that you KNOW already has a massively problematic element is...frustrating #friend of sister is engaged to be married #but found out that she potentially couldn't have kids #and her fiance said 'if you can't have kids i'm breaking off the marriage' #which is just GROSS #HELLO IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH?! #and then the doc said she was fine and so fiance was like 'oh okay then :) ' #just UGH #like clearly the dude's love is conditional #if he's going to treat his wife like that what about his kids??? #i mean he has other super problematic characteristics but that is the one that directly involves the love for his future wife #anyway that's my GRRRRRRRRR AAAAARRGGGHH rant #not happy things

[wisteriasymphony]

i agree with emilie being a typical boy mom jocasta complex style shes been the centre of attention her entire life i dont think she would be okay with having a mini me daughter at all 😭 she definitely enabled gabriels rapunzelment and child modelling i hate headcanons where she is a good person fr 😔 also what does this say about nathalie and her being/wanting to be romantically involved with that couple 😭

i mean... it says bad things? even if she didn't encourage it or just did the bare minimum to scold emilie for being inappropriately close with her son... it says bad things, dude. why are you so invested in the worst couple of blondes to grace the planet?? were there no other options??

or, we could go the route that nathalie was also groomed/manipulated into it. we don't exactly know how old she was when she met the agrestes, she could've been just starting out as a plucky archeologist when these kind and wealthy benefactors introduced themselves into her life via tomoe. and emilie's cult of personality with gabriel's coolheadedness and determined nature might've just drawn her in.

^ of course, this works better for situations where Mayura was never a thing. and there's also arguments that both of these options can coexist. yikes all around regardless

#also i wasn't gonna saaayyyy jocasta complex out loud... buuutttttt.... #aristocratic white people and themes of incest and corruption go together like peanut butter and jelly. #make them gross. make them eugenicist. make them capitalistic and bigoted #make emilie a narcissistic mother whose undoing at the hands of the peacock brooch was long and terrifying and horrid #where she is drained to the very core by that which she thought would give her absolute control #or where gabriel gives her the peacock miraculous on purpose to weaken her and control her better!!!!!! #if we're making gabemilie a failed marriage. which i also like. #god actually i have a thing i wrote about this involving the lock on adrien's door changing every week #because his parents keep changing it to ones where only they have the key and not the other #and one of them tries to pry open his door with an axe one night. #HORRID shit. should've been canon #wissym answers

[chilapis]

baby’s first vent post. <3

#vent tw #i feel so gross & weird & disgusting & the worst past is that i can’t even use selfshipping to feel better right now. #i hâte when she says things like this. #‘women like you get beaten up by their husbands in the street’ ‘women like you get killed’ ‘women like you get left’ #it’s all women like me this women like me that. #& she’s being fucking ruining my life over the haircut i want to get tomorrow too. #she always fucks me over whenever i want to get my hair cut. talking about how boys don’t find short hair attractive. #how I should feel gartefuk for having such thick long hair and what an idiot i am for getting it cut. #she talks so much about how unhappy i’d make my husband & lean it’s So hard to selfship in such moments. #she talks about how i ruined her marriage (blames my father’s absence on me) & then talks about why i would expect it to work out for me #i feel so gross. i feel so gross. i feel horrible. #i can’t believe i have to be here with her alone til thursday. #🥀 #been fucking ruining my life* not being. great job on the spelling lapis.

[courtrecord]

it’s so funny how people want leida to be tay’s kid like do you really think mon was out here having an affair in 19 bby that woman says “i could not possibly fuck at this juncture” as she powerwalks into the senate

#andor #mon mothma #no but actually like one of the most romantic things about montay in the current show timeline at least to me #is the idea that she genuinely has no clue how to care for herself bc everything she does is for the Appearance of it all etc etc #and he’s the first one to be like ‘no. what the fuck. please let me take care of you’ #like i want ‘it can be challenging’ to be a Genuine Admission and that only works if she has just been sooooo fucking repressed #my girlboss babygirl who is SO repressed #also um i’ve read some stuff in the montay tag that treat leida super gross & imply that her life would be worthless #if she actually was the daughter of a loveless marriage which just. no. no. get a job stay away from her