#love irl gay people

[gonzocoded]

spectacular

#love irl gay people #today i learned that a friend of mine has been in her own journey of bisexuality #that was really wonderful to learn #i am drunk but don’t worry it’s ok #bc i was safe and i got home just fine and was surrounded by friends and i even drank lots of water and brushed my teeth #and removed my makeup #all is well truly #but i am a little bit hungry #oh well #i’m gonna say that i’m not actually hungry and that it’s just the alcohol talking #that makes things easier in the long run LOL #ok good night it is bed time #anya.txt

[martyryo]

Doodle Request: Tyler & Jack The Narrator kissing and that would be Fight Club Yaoi

Most hormonal drawing ever

#artists on tumblr #digital art #illustration #art #pixel aesthetic #fight club #fight club 1999 #narrator fight club #jack fight club #tyler durden #soapshipping #tyler durden x narrator #gay #I'm officially a closeted fight club fanartist #quarter of life crisis going well guys #thnx for request cause I never drew people kissing so this pushed me out of my comfort zone huhu #let's mot talk about the perspective and pose ajnsbe #they are having fun and being themselves #also gotta love top narrator he isn't actually a top but he tries his best #I hope irls don't find my tumblr #m art yryo

[gayforminatozaki]

how can I stop internalised homophobia I can’t take this anymore

#I WISH I WAS STRAIGHT SO FUCKING BAD 🔥🔥🔥🔥 #or for homophobia not to exist that would be cool #I love being alienated from my friends and jokingly called slurs and told to stop acting so gay and questioned constantly on why I don’t #have crushes and hear threats about beating people up if they’re ‘a homo’ and be treated like a joke or second class human and told to #fix yourself and to regularly see banners irl calling gay ppl filth and animals and #and to know nothings gonna change bc the lgbtqaisjsjsjs community is a fucking joke #lol everything aside if anyone knows actually helpful ways to help please lmk #internalized homophobia #comphet #compulsory heterosexuality

[pogasm]

i’m like a schrodingers queer where im every queer gender and sexuality at once but also at the same time i’m cishet

#theres two wolves in me one is superstraight the other is supergay #so like. that’s y i dont rlly click w labels bc all of them fit me?? idk #like i’m bi and pan but also a male lesbian enby and im definitely aspec #i don’t spend my time thinking about my labels bc tbh i have bigger fish to fry in my life. i just put up the pride flag and call it a day #so people usually assign me labels based on what kind of attraction i show? so like. basically irl people read me as a cross between- #- a butch lesbian and a gay man. which is sooooooo me #anyways i jst felt like dumping out my feelings i dont rlly care for concrete labels #also i feel like my sexuality/gender changes over time bc i’m been bi and a lesbian and nonbinary and transmasc and all of them fit but also #they kinda don’t? #and i’m a v radical person so queer love to me isn’t about labels but about doing who makes u happy #and if it takes one man or eight nonbinary people two bigenders to get me there idrc… jst as long as thé love and happiness is there

[dykesbites]

i hate the lgbt community you cant go to a single event or website that has gay people without running into someone named sunny and 8 times out of 10 they're a toxic sludge of a person

#IF I KNEW IT WAS SUCH A COMMON NAME I WOULDNT HAVE CHOSEN ITTTT #irls have NEVER heard of someone named sunny and then i stepped out of my hs bubble and every gay/trans person on earth has my name #to my mutuals named sunny you are cool youre the 2/10 normal people and i love you #kaya.txt

[iloveyouitisruiningmylife]

i just came out to a real life person and i think im having a heart attack

#IT WAS SO UNPLANNED I HADN'T THOUGHT ABOUT IT AT ALL I DIDN'T EVWN THINK WE WERW FRIENDS?? #she lives in the building next to mine and we go to tui together to divide the auto fare and we've been walking home 2-3 dino se #and she likes kpop and kdramas #but like there isn't that Spark yk like oh ny god i love u best friends forever its a little awkward and formal still #but we were talking about something and oh my god #when we reached home we were standing uski building ke neeche and she was like i want to introduce you to my childhood bestie i think you #two will like each other #and i was like kinda weirded out like um are we that close yet i thought we were just classmates 😭😭 #so i asked ki oh why all of a sudden #and she's like 'i like you' and i look at her and laugh and she said STOP LAUGHING i don't meant it like that im straight ok #and idk something in me snapped i was like oh are u homophobic too? #but pls she didn't know what it meant 😭 so i explained ki do u hate gay people then #she said no no ofc not SO I JUST BLURTED OUT KI good cause im bisexual #THE SHOCK ON HER FACE OMG im saying this now in freaking out now but at that time i said it really coolly and proudly without fumbling #my voice didn't drop down to a low volume or waver or anything (which im so proud bc she's like the first irl person ive come out to face #to face??????? i mean obv childhood friends don't count they're all gay #but anyway she was like OH and then SHE FUMBLED she was like oh nice i respect u very much and it was so awkward i was like haan haan shut #up just don't tell anyone very few ppl know 😭and she wasn't done she was like so as i was saying #we're growing old and real good friendships are getting harder to find and i like you (stop laughing!!) and i hope we don't jinx it #and she literally touched a wooden table lying there and said touchwood???? 😭😭😭😭😭 #now i am thinking why did i tell her she's so extroverted she talks to everyone we go to the same tui this town is tiny #she could tell everyone my parents could find out #but also a part of me is relieved cause im so sick of hiding something that is such a small yet imp part of me #and if she tells everyone then cool maybe there'll be more queer people i can't ve the only queer person in this town and we could be #friends and my parents eh they'd never believe something like that they'll ask me if it's true and ill say nah just rumors dumb kids #and they'll believe me because they'll want to believe me so bad #so no harm #i still don't feel very bestfriendy with her but maybe my standards are too high 😭 idk ig i can't see myself being friends with her #for a long time if we weren't forced by circumstances and i don't like her that much but im happy i got to say it #literally said it omg 'kyunki main hu. bisexual' FUCK THAT FELT GOOD

[perilegs]

i rlly like my new co worker bc do you guys know how refreshing it is to hang out with another queer guy multiple times a week irl

#i love all my friends and the gay ppl in my phone but i did really need more regular irl interactions with fellow fags #and i dont mean just like going to the club but actually hanging out with someone and possibly befriending them #leevi talks #our last summer trainee was a cishet guy and he was alright but we were not on the same. like. not page but #we were clearly two very different people who saw the world in wildly different ways and had nothing in common #we werent even work friends. just co workers #he was alright tho like he wasnt a bigot or anything! but not everyone needs to be more than acquaintances

[cowboy-robooty]

i dont got a gaurdian angel or devil on my shoulder but i do imagine grandad (robert freeman) from the boondocks reacting to everything around me

#been like this for like two months now or something #everytime im too exhausted to get up but am like 'i need to get up to eat dinner' i hear grandads voice like #'have sleep for dinner youre getting fat anyway' #that sounds bad it sounds like i have an eating disorder or some shit that is not true. i love to eat im monkey d luffy irl and its not a #joke. me and wiener are fucking beasts we will go 20 minutes without eating and go gawd... im so hungry rn... #but sometime my demon of a bed traps me like quicksand again and im like i need to eat food.. but god sleep feels so good.... #i love the have sleep for dinner youre getting fat anyway line okay it makes me laugh so fucking hard riley be starving af #pretty boy flizzy episode 😍😍😍 #i think about the allowance line too all the fuckin time #you want an allowance? i ALLOW you to eat my food. i ALLOW you to burn my electricity. i ALLOW you to sleep in my bed! #robert freeman is so deadass i love him especially when he thought riley was gay and heard tom say all the good things about gay people and #and went 'damn thats a lot of good shit... nah still gotta disown him' #LOL #grandad was not rockin wit that gangstalicious manbag

[bylertruther]

sometimes. people on here will say things where i know if i point-blank asked them "hey, do you like butches, femmes, and people that do not 'look' or 'act' queer?" they'll of course say yes duh. and i know if i asked them, "cool. do you think that an androgynous person or 'very gender nonconforming' (for lack of better phrasing) is more queer than someone that isn't?" they'll say no of course not.

but then you read the things they've said about how queer people present themselves, how they "should" present themselves once they've reached a fully realized state, and how it relates to gender and relationships and its like Hmmmmmmmmmm. i don't think you do like any of those three groups i mentioned actually if that's how you really feel on those issues lmao.

it's the same school of thought behind the perplexingly popular idea that because noah wears athleisure, he couldn't possibly be gay (before he came out, this was the common sentiment; and even now, people act like finn is more queer than noah, just because he "looks and acts" like it according to them). this idea that you have to look and act a certain way to be Actually Queer or Queer Enough, and if you don't, then that's because you've fallen victim to conforming or you just aren't as comfortable with your identity. (what? as if there's a single queer identity to begin with?)

that if you're a queer guy and you behave or look masculine, then you just haven't come out of your shell and accepted yourself or experimented enough. that if you're a queer woman and you're feminine, then the same applies, or you're not as queer as a butch woman, who does exhibit gender nonconformity, for example. and if you're butch or femme (+ other equivalents), or in a relationship with your counterpart, then you're perpetuating heteronormativity, as if that's even possible, and we all know that's so very, awfully, terribly Bad, you're a stain on the community, and you have issues you need to work out.

people don't have to look or act in a particular way to be acceptably queer enough. we don't all gravitate towards certain expressions of gender nonconformity or androgyny just because we're queer, and a failure to do that doesn't suggest that we're uncomfortable with ourselves and our identity. you can continue to be yourself as you were even after realizing you're queer. that's not impossible or a bad thing.

femmes and gay men that are masculine in any capacity are not traitors, confused, or less gay. some people are the way that they are, regardless of their sexuality. we don't all morph into the same person when we realize we're queer. that shouldn't be a difficult concept to understand? that's literally just... being a human and treating queer people as such.

those evil gay people who are in "masc/fem" relationships aren't perpetuating heteronormativity either. just because they exist outside of your realm of understanding, or have the kind of relationship that you wouldn't personally want for yourself, that doesn't mean that they aren't members of your community—which is the queer community, in case you forgot—and don't deserve respect, too.

like. it's just so demoralizing lmao. what's so hard to understand about accepting that people are all different and that just because we may belong to the same community, that doesn't mean that we are all the same and must fall in line? it's so tone-deaf, insulting, and just plain unrealistic. you may not mean it that way, but it is. that rhetoric just is.

feminine gay women exist. masculine gay men exist. sometimes they may experiment with their gender expression once realizing this, but they don't always and they don't have to to be considered queer. butch/fem relationships and other similar relationships are not imitations of heterosexuality, because they're fucking gay, and they do not adhere to traditional heterosexual roles, because, again, they're fucking gay.

your experiences and beliefs are not universal. gay people are not clones of each other. stop invalidating or speaking down on other queer people just because you can't relate to them personally. i know some people don't mean to insinuate these things, but you do. you are. constantly. and the people that fall in those categories you've deemed unacceptable and other, see it.

it's so... exhausting to face that in this space, which is supposed to be a respite from the physical world where that happens, too. and those actions, those beliefs that people share, they also bleed into the physical world and how you interact with other people in your community. it's not just little words that you write and have no meaning. it doesn't start and end with a fictional character. the things that you say matter and sometimes they're very troubling.

people who have been in those "fem/masc" relationships, or that identify with any kind of similar label, have not lived a life that's an imitation of heterosexuality, nor are they any less queer than you just because you haven't been in/participate in relationships like that.

#personally idk about you guys.... #but i LOVE getting invalidated irl and also online by fellow queer ppl just bc i don't 'look' or 'act' gay enough according to them 👍 #anyway. yes my feelings are hurt lmao. of course they are. sometimes people say things innocently and don't realize how it #comes across or what they're implying. it happens. i just wanted to offer a different perspective from someone that has been the #fem in gay relationships. bc quite frankly i don't like the idea that i have to be more androgynous or masculine to be a fully realized gay #nor do i like the idea that my relationships have been less than or would be bad representation if shown to an audience lmao. #same for my gay male friends that are also feminine. and same for my bi male friends that are more masculine. or the butch women i've #dated. i don't think any of them are any less queer or bad representation and i would never think that if they had just #experimented with androgyny then maybe they'd be an elevated version of themselves. #it sounds crazy but when you take those same words that ppl say and apply them to real people... that's what you're saying. #anywayyyyyyyyyy.......... i'll fuck off again

[mrdyketator]

yo “straight or bi” doesn’t mean straight girls lmao! if you equate bi women with straight women then pls examine your biphobia

i was specifically talking abt women who identify as lesbian despite being aware of their attraction to men, and then later come out as straight or bi. like I mean the lesbian until graduation phenomenon. not bisexual women who just initially thought they were lesbian. the other instances I listed on that post are only applicable to straight women, which is why I only mentioned bi women in the last line.

#also I was speaking from personal experience irl regarding the thing abt women displaying evident attraction to men iding as lesbian #it's happened like thrice to women I'm acquaintances with irl; people who talk abt how 'gay' they are and how much they hate men #only to just suddenly have a bf or male crush and the crazy part is they accuse me of being straight bc I have male friends #ask #anon #anyways we love bi women who aren't lesbophobic and lesbians who aren't biphobic in this house

[nucleargnocchi]

my "type" is pretty boys, handsome girls, and every single non-binary person ever. also they can't be real

#there's just something about fictional people that's so *chef's kiss* #they've just got that certain je ne sais quoi #except actually i do sais quoi #it's cause you can romanticize the hell out of them #also bonus points if they're queer #there is NOTHING sexier than gender fuckery #the hottest thing a person can do is be gay #also if i don't know you irl you do not count as real #people are attractive until you get to know them #then it's like #friend <3 #i love and adore you so so much #but i simply CANNOT see you in that light #don't worry tho i'll still comment 👀👀🤤❤️😍🥵on all of your selfies

[seilon]

sorry I will not shut up about this show But. I just. wanted to mention how fucking cool it is that ok ko has a major bi character in it (a bi man at that) that has important on-screen romantic relationships portrayed with both a female partner and a male partner and neither is considered less legitimate than the other. his orientation isnt pointlessly called into question or suggested to have been faked or changed for ending up with a man when he was previously with a woman. It’s just natural, and so one doubts that he was once romantically interested in/involved with carol just because he ended up with boxman. and I think that is very cool and something I feel like I super rarely see with bi characters– when bi characters are represented I feel like it’s pretty common to only have them shown romantically involved with one gender or another and it’s more of a side note that they also like people outside that gender, or they’re portrayed as “confused” or god forbid suggesting their feelings for someone weren’t really real because they ended up with someone of another gender (not to be confused with comp het; in that case the individual isn’t bi and that’s different). And so having a children/family show that has two solidly bi characters first of all, and one who’s a grown adult who’s had established relationships with two genders on screen is just honestly really cool and I appreciate that so much

#kibumblabs #ok ko #ok ko spoilers #also I emphasize that he’s a Man in that first part because bi men are doubted so fucking often over their orientation and hardly #openly represented on tv– let alone childrens tv– at all. I’ve been told irl that bi men don’t actually exist and that in the end they #end up gay or straight becuase that’s what they Actually Are. #which is obviously fucked up on many levels and blatantly false #so yeah like!!! seeing a grown man who’s obviously not ‘confused’ and who isn’t questioned over falling for a woman then a man is just!!!!! #it’s very good it’s very good it’s very good #i love the purple bisexual snake man so much <3 #long post #professor venomous #ok ko let's be heroes #there’s also no obvious coding of the queer characters in queer relationships to fit them into a masculine or feminine role if that makes #sense which is also cool. #like you don’t see red or enid and think one is in the Woman’s Role and one is in the Man’s Role– they’re both just. themselves. #same goes for pv and boxman; both are just. dudes. weird mutant dudes but dudes. with some traits more masc some more feminine because #the people making the show understand that how those traits are distributed does not matter #i feel like I was gonna say something else but I’m forgetting what it was so oh well

[lostlegendaerie]

I know this doesn't do much good in a society that loves stuff like Meyers-Briggs and astrology and Hogwarts houses, and I get it because I love sorting things too (especially when I'm eating fruit snacks) but

You can't draw accurate conclusions about people just by looking at the media (games, movies, music, etc.) they consume. It's just not possible. You cannot tell what parts of a movie resonate with someone just by seeing it on their Liked list on social media, and you cannot extrapolate things like their politics, social background, childhood trauma, race, or anything else from their Most Listened To on Spotify.

It's tempting, and usually fun, to look at a small aspect of someone and make an assumption about who they are. And yeah, feel free to avoid people whose interests don't align with yours. But please, please, don't get in the habit of slapping a hateful label on someone who listens to country music or doesn't wear make up or whatever TikTok is dunking on this week.

Social media is never the complete picture of a person's life. If we're going to remind the younger generations to be careful about predators and groomers, we should also advise them to be wary of applying those labels to anyone they don't understand.

#long post #kicks the hornets nest again #like some really dear IRL friends of mine who consistently go to the Capital with me to fight for Trans Rights still love HP #not everyone is terminally online and aware of how their media consumption is unethical and That Doesn't Make Them Evil #some people are just. coming at things from a different angle. or don't know which ear is the Gay Ear to get pierced #anyway I know someone's gonna reblog this eventually with a pithy one-liner because That Is What The Internet Has Become #so I'll go ahead and say this: you're probably wrong #and your desire to shut down a reminder to not make knee-jerk assumptions about strangers makes you the problem

[toastyblackcat]

the saddest thing a man can experience is when you headcannon a cannon male as a trans male but half the fandom headcannon him as female and use she/her for him

#joke #half joke actually #and almost all the fanart i see hes drawn female/femine #im looking at u sigma from bsd #im also looking at nikolai but he isnt headcannoned as much #im all for headcannons but if ur talking abt the cannon character use the cannon info pls #nikolai is especially annoying cos hes based off an irl closetted gay man who died bcs he was gay #especially when people ship him w fyodor then draw him female #because (apparently) his relationship wuth fyodor is based around the irl nikolai gogols relationship with god/the priest he fell in love w

[metallicmikus]

I just saw a local production of All Shook Up, and please tell me why a jukebox musical from 2004 has a man fall in love with another man??? (to be fair the other man is a woman pretending to be a man, but the man (chad) doesn’t know that) I unironically love this show now and there’s no fandom for it :((( Chad and Ed forever 🫡🫡🫡

#all shook up #all shook up musical #jukebox musical #i love gay people #chad and ed #also the actor for chad is gay irl #why is there no fandom for this show

[deathdxnces]

my toxic trait is constantly wanting to pick up new muses

#» out of character — ⌜main sup irl.⌟ #i've considered kaisa but i. #only really am interested in her alt verses ISHDJSJDJHD #i've considered ahri bc i always loved her and have tried to write her in the past i'm just #too baby to write popular characters #i really really wanted to make one other character that the band hype actually killed my mood for USBAJHDJSHR #even ksante although i feel thats a little out of spite bc people be leaving him out #and its gross and i think he deserves more love #ive considered varus bc i love the 3 gays in a trench coat #ive considered xolaani bc what is self control #also going back to nidalee.... i like the kitty.... she just difficult to interact w #in runeterra. in modern verse it'd be v easy #ultimatrly im barely keeping up with stuff here so #im just. 'bitch stop' AJBDKSJDJSJD