#love a good family function

[rillette]

recolored an old jason sketch 👍

#jason todd #basketball #saw the old version and went u know what i could do more to this so i did #i still think he should retire to conneticut and become an artisanal woodworker #i saw my uncle at a family function not too long ago and he showed me his woodworking pieces they were so good u guys. #anyways i think jason would love woodworking and carpentry #i know in my soul that mf watched holmes on homes as an impressionable child. and how its made never forget how its made and mythbusters.

[atopvisenyashill]

not an f&b aegon ii fan, not a hotd aegon ii fan, but a secret third thing (a fan of the aegon ii that only exists in my mind)

#extreme mommy issues his father figure is his grandfather & a dude who literally cannot stop committing hate crimes deeply upset that he #could have been his older sister’s male wife but his mom said no and now he has to be king #wants to be a good husband to helaena but resents how gentle she is and dependent on his protection wears his hair short bc he resents his #father’s obsession with valyria when westeros is here now and needs him to do more than just acclaim rhaenyra decades ago and aegon #his true love is his dragon and he was never going to live long after sunfyre. the son that actually DID come with fire and blood to save #his mother but it wasn’t enough never enough because he’s the oldest son but he’s also only second born and what is a second born son than #girlson who is functionally useless as anything more than a pawn to his family. #dying miserable and alone without even his mother’s love bc he came for her too late but he CAME FOR HER!!! HE SAVED HER. too bad. #she doesn’t care anymore bc everyone she really loved is dead. dying a pawn and yet the powerful man in westeros. #letting the narrative consume him alive after sunfyre is injured and finds him on dragonstone. he knows he’s doomed when he goes up against #baela. he does it because what else do you do. you’ve gone too far. killed too many. you killed your sister’s children and she killed yours #in return and now you can’t go back. no choice but mutually assured destruction with the only woman who ever saw how dangerous he was and #how desperate for loce he was. once upon a time. he was a baby bouncing in his sister’s lap on the throne. and she was beautiful and tall #and soft and smart and she told him he was beautiful and loved and pointed out every name and held him the way a mother does. #it has to end there. if the narrative eats me and sunfyre alive it has to eat her too. he won’t go down without her. #getting on my soap box #aegon the usurper

[bitimdrake]

how would you describe arrowfamily in canon? Cause i have seen conflicting things ranging from "Oliver Queen is a terrible horrible person" to "canon arrowfamily is what people think batfam should be like/if you want fanon batfam you want canon arrowfam" and it is confusing

Disclaimer first. A full, proper, arrowfam read-through is next on my list once I finally catch up with the bats, but I haven't gotten there yet. I have still read a whole bunch of comics, and by virtue of how the DC universe works, I've seen a fair bit of the arrows scattered throughout. (In particular, I've read a lot of Roy via Titans and Outsiders.)

So I can give a broad strokes answer here, but I'm not going to try to claim a deep meta analysis of the arrows yet.

I think the quickest way to explain the contradictory information is this:

batfam fans take up most of the space in DC fandom

for whatever reason, it has become highly popular bat fanon to use Oliver Queen as a scapegoat Designated Terrible Dad to show how much better and cooler and nicer Bruce is.

This is not a fair or accurate depiction of Ollie.

(Nor, for that matter, an accurate depiction of Bruce, but that fanon diversion is intentional and less like throwing shrapnel at a guy who isn't even part of this.)

People who actually read comics and like Ollie therefore try to push back on this extreme and ooc demonization of him, and also vaunt the arrows in general.

Said pushback is sometimes an exaggerated overcompensation.

Basically, no, Oliver Queen is not a terrible horrible person, nor even a terrible horrible father.

And I would say the canon arrows are a lot closer to what fans are desperately trying to find (or just make up) in the bats. There are various things that are true of the canon arrows/Ollie and of the fanon bats/Bruce that are not true of the canon bats/Bruce. [All post-crisis disclaimer.] Examples:

Ollie is outspokenly liberal and this is a well accepted piece of his canon characterization. (Meanwhile DC writers try very very hard to make Bruce Totally Apolitical and therefore acceptable to all readers. Not that anything is ever actually apolitical.)

Ollie also hates cops! And rich people! For a significant chunk of comics, he lost his fortune and was better off for it, realizing he could never be truly good if he were still a billionaire.

The common fan argument about how Bruce totally isn't abusive; he's a good dad who's just been written that way once or twice by bad writers is...actually not that far off from describing Ollie? He hit Roy once in a comic about How Not To Respond To Addiction; in another comic he was revealed to have secretly known about and abandoned Conner, despite this not lining up with previous comics showing how he really wanted to be a dad. Both of these things are canon and bad, no doubt! But he is also usually a lot better, and has shown an ability to grow and change. (Meanwhile canon Bruce just has a consistent pattern of abuse.)

Subjective, but Ollie seems to really think of himself as a father and delight in it in a way that Bruce just kinda...doesn't.

All the arrows, from what I can tell, actually like each other.

They don't try to murder each other either.

But, as you surely notice, being closer to batfanon desires doesn't mean the arrows literally are the fanon batfam. Like the bats, they are not a perfect model nuclear family (nor should they be!). They too have had conflict and dysfunction (Roy and Oliver stopped talking for a significant period of time!). And they do indeed exist in a comic book world driven by crime and superheroics and conflict, not a fluffy fanfiction world driven by comfort and interpersonal reassurances. (This is not a dunk on fanfic, which I love, just a reminder).

so tl;dr, the arrows aren't a perfectly fluffy fanon family either...but if you see a batfam fan throwing Ollie/other arrows under the bus to make their fave look better, that is definitely bullshit.

#* #ask #anon #*dc #dc #arrows #ollie queen #canon vs fanon #ALSO if you have come to dc comics via batfandom #and the thing you are MOST interested in is this idea of a big loving superhero/vigilante family #may i recommend to you: anything except batman comics #the superfam is very loving and supportive! #the flashes are perhaps the most functional and i hear are having a great run of comics right now! #wonder woman's cast is full of respect and love and bonds of sisters and warriors! #and yes even the arrows get closer on account of liking each other! #the bats are so goddamn dysfunctional and that's why i love them #and if you are on board with that too then jump on in and have fun #but if you are looking for a giant family that is all love #you are probably not going to have a good time. you are going to be desperately pulling out slivers of what you want #from a piece of fiction that is not actually designed for it. and indeed often designed for the opposite. #and that is not a failure of your tastes. but it is also not a failure of the fiction!! #it's a mismatch #you want to go read about wally west instead i think

[parvuls]

woke up today and immediately thought that all I want is an enemies to lovers + single dad fic, where bitty and jack get along about as well as they did in canon year 1 (so not at all), but unfortunately have to grin and bear it because they're jack's kid first and second most favorite person, and their love for the kid overshadows their distaste for each other

#omgcp #omgcheckplease #zimbits #it's something about being faux coparents and learning to function as a team even BEFORE falling in love #something about being able to slot together when there's a good enough incentive only then realize how good the fit is #something about falling in love with a kid first and a dad second that truly negates that 'using a child for a ready made family' trope #anyway I'll be here all day thinking of this #prompts #text

[danny-chase]

You ever think about Donna coming back to life right smack dab in the middle of a crisis event and her best friend in the biggest personal crisis of his life (and nearly dying in the crisis) and her team/family in the titans split into two with the team holding onto the old namesake hardly having any of the same members as when she died. Like when she died not everything was good, her friends still had their challenges and issues, but I can't help but think that she'd see all the turmoil and fallout after her death and end up blaming herself (even though, clearly dying isn't her fault). Feeling like everything rides upon her being okay and maintaining that perfect facade. Anyways-

#i love donna #sometimes i think about her in the 3 weeks after the crisis is over when Dick is in a coma not really sure if he's going to pull through #and just sitting with her head in her hands trying to piece together how everything fell apart #blaming herself for not being there #blaming herself for dying #blaming herself for not being good enough to get people the proper help before they got themselves to this point #blaming herself for not building a family that could function in her absence #ANYWAYS #donna troy

[furbygone]

my mom was concerned that my interest in furbies was becoming an unhealthy obsession... so i wrote an 800-word letter to her explaining why furbies are important to me ^_^ she said it helped her to understand so yay.

#p disheartening to have ppl pathologize ur interests when ur having a good time but whatever. #ive tried to tell her im autistic a couple of times and she just goes 'yeah but ur high-functioning' and then doesn’t think about it #and then she'll go on armchair-diagnosing my brother and dad like :// #SORRY FOR THE VENT #i love my mom but sometimes family is hard

[bleeding-hart]

God I can't fuckin catch a break my adhd keeps pelting me with so many things to be obsessive about and my autism makes sure that if I don't interact with them I'm gonna feel like my chest is being torn out and I'm dying slowly but my adhd doesn't let me actually choose one to interact with cause it keeps bringing up the others but my autism is panicking about that because I need to have a Thing to do

I just want to like. Read, write or draw in peace. Is that too much to ask for. Five minutes

I missed having a hyperfixation when I didn't for a month or so but I forgot how extreme my brain gets about them ig they're called hyper for a reason

#Ranting #AuDHD #Adhd #Autism #neurodivergent #hyperfixation #special interest #Either this is an adhd hyperfixation or an autism thing and if it's the first one I'll be okay within a few weeks to a month #But if it's the second then I'll be MIA for my other blogs and my friends and my family and my life for. Up to two years knowing me #I won't #I'll learn to deal with it again in a bit #But like my parents already think I'm having a depressive episode #And they deny that I'm ND (even after my psychiatrist said I was??) so I can't explain it to them #I'm painfully excited about this stuff. I love having passion like this but ughh I was NOT prepared #My hyperfixations always do this like I go without for a few weeks to a month every year or so #And I'm super lost and sad and grey and passionless yk #And then they fucking SMACK ME IN THE HEAD WITH A STICK #SURPRISE!! GET FUCKIN SMACKED WITH THE HYPERFIXATION STICK #NO MORE FUNCTIONING #like I haven't texted my best friend/ platonic partner ALL DAY #And I spend literally all night last night cuddling with him and being sappy and telling him how much I love him #Like I'm an autistic introvert #needing recovery time after Socialing is normal #But I didn't even say good morning or good night #He knows me so it isn't an issue but like #I forgot how intense this stuff is like. 24/7 I'm thinking about It #I really do have AuDHD don't I #It's pretty obvious

[haberdashing]

Proof that I've internalized my role in the legal field: I'm playing a casual mobile game and keep wanting to object to the legal system's portrayal within the game

#personal #shitpost #the game in question is called love & pies #it's actually a good game! cute lil story would recommend #but. BUT. #it seems like with every new twist in the story i have to go #'wait that's not how alimony works' #'that's not how transfers of property work' #'that's not how... BEING A LAWYER works!' #admittedly i am only really familiar with family law and then only in two states in the usa #and the game is set in some ambiguous setting that can't be the usa #(since the town it's set in apparently got founded 1000 years ago) #(imagine a world where that was the usa. where we actually kept native towns intact and honored their existence) #(instead of committing genocide against the natives in both the mass racial murder and the cultural erasure senses) #(but i digress) #so like. the rules are presumably a little different in this fictional 'appleton' setting #but. some of this just... no. #no jurisdiction out there is gonna work like they show the legal system working #that's just not the way it all functions #also as someone in the field of family law and whose father is a family law attorney #i take almost personal offense to the suggestion in the game that all that matters in family law is $$$ #and the side with the better lawyers can make blatantly unfair decisions without guidance #judges are there! and get involved in these cases! and for good reason! did they just forget judges exist? #and even then the whole '$$$ means good lawyers who can do anything' is... not entirely untrue but at least overblown #the story is good in other ways to be clear! #i doubt any of this would bug someone outside the legal field! #and in fact i really like that one of the characters is both a lawyer and a runner #because my dad is both of those things also hehe #but. ughhh. i needed to let this out

[im2tired4usernames]

My parents should be fuckin ashamed

#you borrow 80 bucks then can only find me 21 back then i put that 21 into good for your kids then spend the rest of my paycheck getting #diapers pull ups medicine more food for kids and then i fill up the 15 passenger van and then when dad asks why i don't have money to eat #on my lunchbreaks at work like I'm some over spending wild irresponsible bitch when he's the one going to concerts and paying for fancy dat #s and jewelry for his gf and buying groceries for her but you know it's fine #take all my time and energy #so that i literally am a zombie and fall asleep on the very very very limited free time i get #(after doin extra chores to earn said free time) #wo that i fall asleep half way in which isn't fair to my partner and isn't fair to me #take all my income so i cant afford anything #take all my time #take all my energy #YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED YOU GROOMED ME AND MESHED THE FAMILY'S ENTIRE LIFE STYLE FOR ME TO BE LIKE THIS #I CANT MAKE HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS BECAUSE I JUST CAN NOT FUNCTION IF I'M NOT GIVING EVERYTHING TO SOMEONE #IT SUCKS I HATE IT #THEY'LL NEVER ADMIT THEY FUCKED ME OVER #EVER #THEY'LL NEVER DO ANYTHING TO FIX IT OR CHANGE #AND I HAVE NO HOPE FOR ANY CHANGES #MY LITTLE SIBLINGS SEE WHAT I DO FOR THEM AND THEY HUG ME AND TELL ME HOW MUCH THEY LIVE ME #'thank you so much for taking care of us' that tell me all the time 'you do so much for us' #it breaks my heart i wish i could give them the world i love them so much they deserve so much better #my mom lost her chance to be decent my dad better learn soon otherwise all his kids minus his favorite will hate him #i love ny parents #and i know they live me and my siblings #but they groomed me into the most miserable personification of elder daughter syndrome and they should be ashamed for what they've done #and be ashamed that they sucked so bad that they're own child had to step up

[dreamlogic]

...

#shit chat #family cw #parents divorcing: dad moved into tiny apt & doesn't want anything. mom moving to kentucky in a few weeks? months? w/ new fiancee #brother sick of the drama; doesn't want anything & isn't talking to my mom rn (understandable) #so i'm. pawing through 30 years of my parents' junk trying to sift out & salvage childhood relics #the leftovers mostly bc my mom has already laid claim to most of the things i have a strong attachment to #and currently having an existential crisis on my bedroom floor sorting through xmas decorations to keep/donate #like damn my childhood has so much substance in my memory & these objects seemed imbued with so much magic #and looking at it now there's a few things that still have a glimmer of life but mostly it's just cheap old shit. #i don't want any of this; i just want the sense of comfort and love and security of a functional loving family #but the divorce is also dredging up a lot of shit that i'm further processing in therapy #and i'm coming to the very depressing realization that a lot of my childhood kinda sucked ass #not all of it! and looking at photos i still feel strong positive emotions towards my past #but there really isn't any legacy to speak of. heirlooms consist of a few sentimental tchotchkes & a box of old picture books #also my mom kinda fucking sucked as a parent in ways i'm only just now allowing myself to admit & examine #like i don't think i could ever hate her or write her off completely and i did get certain wonderful aspects of myself from her #but she hasn't consistently been a Good Mom to me. p much since my brother was born when i was like 5. #more like a very mentally ill fair-weather friend who was also partially responsible for raising me #god this sucks. but at least i have a box of delicate sparkly glass baubles that i can smash on the pavement for catharsis sometime #anyways. friends if it seems like i've been more hermit-y and avoidant than usual lately– this is why #i've been estranged from most of my extended family for years & used to be really close with my immediate family. #which is currently a reeking dumpster fire that's choking my life with noxious smoke #and p much all of my energy & free time is going towards not letting actively retruamatizing current events nuke my brain #brother & i agreed that the current Vibes are like... #trying to cut loose the life boats from a sinking ship and get clear before the water displacement sucks us under #but i finally have all my shit out of the house except furniture that can't be moved until my mom moves #so the gaping chest wound is slowly starting to scab over and i can start actually clearing out some of this shit & #tracing the panicked exodus back to a more grounded stable version of myself #ugh.

[viikingwitch]

"poor girl. you searched a thousand years for family, and, in finding them, they will be your undoing" lives rent free in my head actually because yes! they are! she escaped the dysfunctional mess she was in with dahlia only to immediately step into an also dysfunctional mess that is her family. she never really had a chance

#about >> the world is a bad place and sometimes we have to do bad things to survive #// yes she made her own bad choices absolutely // #// and i'm not saying she was a good person before them // #// but i am saying there's a reason that the only time we see her be remotely functional is when they were forced apart // #// i love them <3 // #family >> when is a monster not a monster? oh when you love it

[sensitivedead]

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#VENT IN TAGS #OH i love doing this #my feelings about my depression atm feel so weeird #im just mad #like its so annoying to have to keep picking myself back up lol #i wish i could just function and regulate myself better? im really bad at it #its like #i can do all this shit that helps me get out of all of the different this affect me #but its so easy for me to get lost in the depression and to not do that #like i forget that when im like literally just confused with my emotions and in a fog and i dont want to do things im interested in #and not able to fight this boredom i call it ive been out of therapy a long time idk therapy speak anymore but this lack of socal wtv #thing idk ANYWAYS but i KNOW things i can do to help myself to get out of that #i havent been lately and idk #im in a moment of clarity but trying to get back into #a routine since moving out i havent had one or the one ive had is like not good for me leading me to a bad state of self #i need to get back on vitamins and shit i might take gaba and htp 5 again and i know im deficient in like vitamin #b12 and vitamin d and magnesium but since i moved i havent reupped my supply lmao and its been over a year!! RIP i did this but #i dont have a great social life? i have strong family and a loving bf and close friend but a lot of its complicated and i struggle #communicating online (LOL THIS SUCKS NO? I CAN WORK ON IT IG BUT LIKEAAAA--) and i basically only wanna talk to people IRL but im home #constantly so i just have no one to talk to but im like a fucking old person annoyed that they live in a digital world #like I HATE THIS GRR THESE KIDS and the these kids are my parents and friends and shit like its completely a me issue but my brain is like #my brain feels useless s #my brain feels useless and like im unmedicated but also not on the suppliments i should be on and also doing things like #being up to date on news and specifically negative news and like focusing a lot of my energy on that for some gd reason like im aware ive #been into that but i am like #this is me being like ok rose im ready to go back to myself again #ye

[grassbreads]

Oh my god. I've been reading (and really enjoying) the book Love Medicine by Louise Erdrich for a while now, and I'm finally almost done with it, so I went to do a little reading about Erdrich, and.

She wrote 3 sequels???

I've read this entire book and I had NO idea that there were sequels. My goodness.

#part of me is really excited by this #because I've grown SO attached to these families and the thought of getting to stay with them longer is so nice #but on the other hand. this book is incredible #in such a way that I'm really scared to look at the sequels #because I don't think they're as acclaimed #and what if they're not as good? #I'd love more but only if it's more at this same level. y'know? #it wouldn't feel write reading about the Kashpaws and the Lamartines and co in a context that was less beautiful #also side note but. #I own this book because I was supposed to read it for a class back in college #but that was during the time period where I just fully stopped going to most of my classes #because I was. uh. so stressed I kind of completely ceased to function #and genuinely one of my biggest regrets looking back in my life is that I didn't attend/participate in that class properly #the class I would've read love medicine for #not even that I didn't do the reading. I just didn't go. #stopped going to any of my classes that were on days I didn't have work #which I never ever did before that final term where I kinda just stopped #and I regret it so much because that professor was fucking brilliant #I wanna know what he'd have to say about this book SO bad #I wanna do a good class discussion about this book so bad #of all the things in my life for the mental eelness to deprive me of. why this? #anyway. love medicine is really really good #invasion of the frogs

[windfighter]

Prompt: Bad luck

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The ice cracked beneath Kouji. He screamed. Icy water wrapped around him, cut through his limbs and rushed into his lungs. He closed his mouth, curled up. Tried to spot the hole, but everything was dark under the ice. He couldn’t tell what was up and down.

Kouji’s lungs were burning. He needed oxygen. He opened his mouth again, coughed. Air left him, bubbles floating to the surface. Water replaced it, ran down his throat. The cold water was freezing, it felt like his lungs were on fire. He kicked, tried to move through the water, follow the bubbles to the surface, but his body felt heavy. Slow.

It was getting hard to keep his eyes open.

Another splash cut through the quiet of the water. Arms wrapped around Kouji’s chest, pulled at him. He tried to break free, but couldn’t move, his body too tired. Something kicked against his leg and he tried to kick as well, tried to help get them through the water. His legs hung limp.

They broke though the surface. Kouji tried to pull air into his lungs, coughed to get the water out. He couldn’t, his coughs too weak.

”I’ve got him!” Tomoki’s voice called. ”Rope!”

Ice cracked, Tomoki’s grip around Kouji’s chest got tighter. Kouji wanted to say something, but his brain was just as still as the rest of his body. He closed his eyes.

The ice was cold beneath him. His wet clothes got stuck to it. Someone put him on his side and he could finally cough up the water. Air replaced it.

”Hey. Try to stay awake”, Kouichi asked him.

Kouji was starting to feel warm. Tired. He wasn’t sure he could.

”We need to get him dry clothes”, Junpei said.

Breathing was still a struggle. His head was lifted off the ice, placed on something soft and dry. He was safe. It was probably fine for him to accept the call of unconsiousness. Hands started pulling at his clothes, and Kouji fell into oblivion.

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Something was beeping next to Kouji. He opened his eyes, glanced around. Hospital. He closed his eyes again.

”How long”, his voice was rough, talking hurt. He coughed. ”...was I out?”

”Four hours”, Kouichi answered and grabbed his hand. ”Mama and dad will be back soon, the others weren’t allowed to stay.”

Kouji nodded. Kouichi squeezed his hand.

”Get some more rest, your body temperature is still low.”

Kouji fell back asleep.

#windy writes #whumpcember #digimon frontier #lights out AU #kouji minamoto #drowning #hypothermia #I was planning to fall asleep in the snow yesterday #but then I changed my mind and threw Kouji into the water instead #I am not great at handling pain inflicted upon me by others #anyway I didn't write this yesterday because my neighbours were giving me a headache #sorry for the lateness #it doesn't come up in the story but the crew is out ice skating :3 #Kouji is never gonna ice skate again after this #he managed to hit the only spot in that lake where the ice was thin enough to crack #good job kouji! #kouichi calls satomi mama for reasons #this is a couple years after the digiworld #satomi loves when he calls her mama but she has told him he doesn't need to #if I can't have a functioning family irl #at least my blorbos can have one

[sparklev0id]

august was for tomfoolery . september is for Thomas Responsibility

#im an adult doing adult tasks #functional and successful #my family and peers will be impressed in a way that is genuine and not condescending #and more importantly I will be impressed #by everything im accomplishing #im not talking to pwople because im in my mental cocoon reforming into the glorious bastard wanted and revered by everyone #that i am in my soul #fucked up and beautiful. fueled by spite and radical self love #theyll see me at my best and itll be so good theyll forget what i was like at my worst #it might be more than half over but this is my fucking year