#literally i thought they were roommates

[fandomsandfeminism]

Yall wanna hear a kinda funny, kinda sad story about my grandmother and hetero-normativity?

Ok, so... when my grandmother was in her 50s (I was an infant), she met a woman at the Unitarian Church. And, as can happen when you meet your soul mate, this event made it impossible for her to deny parts of herself that she had fiercely hidden her whole life.

All the drama- their affair being found out, the divorce with my grandfather, the court battle over who got the house, happened while I was a baby. Even in my earliest memories, it's just Mama Jo and Oma, and my grandfather lived elsewhere (first his own apartment, then a nursing home, then with us.)

But here's the thing- no one ever explained any of this to me. No one ever sat down and was like "hey, Rosie, so do you know what a lesbian is?" It was the 90s. It was Texas. I think my mom was still kinda processing all this, and just assumed that like... I was gonna figure it out. Don't mention it, let it just be normal. Like I think my mom thought that if she explained the situation, she would be making it weird? I dunno.

But like. In the 90s, in all the movies I had seen and books I had read, do you know how many same sex couples I had seen? Like. 0. Do you know how many "platonic best friend/roommates" I had seen? A lot. I had no context, is what I'm saying.

I literally thought this was a Golden Girls, roommates, besties situation until I was like...I dunno, 11? 12?

It was actually their parrot, an African Grey named Spike, imitating my grandmothers voice saying "Johanna, honey, it's getting late", that triggered the MIND BLOWN moment as I realized that *there's only one master bedroom and it only has 1 waterbed* when all the pieces finally clicked.

Anyway. I think it's a real important thing for kids to know queer people exist, for a lot of reasons, but also because kids can be clueless and it's embarrassing to have your grandmother be outted by a parrot because everyone just thought you'd figure it out on your own.

Anyway, here is my grandma and her wife, my Oma, after they moved to Albuquerque to be artsy gay cowboys and live their best life. They helped run a "Lesbian Dude Ranch" out there (basically just with funding and financial support. As Oma has explained "traditionally, most lesbians don't have a lot of money" so they wrote the checks and let the younger ladies actually run the ranch.)

#this is the grandmother who passed away unexpectedly earlier this month #she was so cool yall #and so weird #they got married twice by the way once when Massachusetts legalized it and once when New Mexico did #they hiked the grand canyon together #they had a european river cruise planned for this fall #she was 89 and she wanted to see the whole world with her wife #and they were working on it #literally i thought they were roommates #and there was only one bed

[high-voltage-rat]

man okay so I used to play mechquest and dragonfable back in like, 2008 when I was a kid with very little patience to follow a storyline. coming back as an adult and finishing mechquest has absolutely slapped me silly with how deep and serious the story is in between all the absurdist humour. I have. so many emotions over the whole storyline, and especially so many thoughts about the unique form of tragedy that is The Reset.

You save the world but it's not the world anymore. You and your friends survive but you don't know each other anymore- have nothing left of the lives you fought to keep. You 'save' everything but it's still all gone. Everything you knew and loved, gone, and you don't even know what you've lost. You can't even keep the memory of what you had- and that's almost kinder compared to being one of the 3ish people who DO remember... and have to live around everyone else who doesn't, knowing their closest friends look at them and see a stranger, and that they may as well be because they aren't that person they remember being.

And to top it all off, that terrible sacrifice doesn't even end it. you're still left fighting impossible and devastating wars over and over. It's the tragedy of doomed time loops with extra layers of devastating all over the place. The GEARS University students being forced to become soldiers because they're all that's left to protect their homeworld. The horrors of the Shadowscythe virus taking over friends and loved ones you may be forced to put down to save yourself. The town of Falconreach burning over and over because no matter how hard they fight, it's never enough. The people like Sha'rae who sacrifice themselves to try and prevent tyrrany from seizing power, only for it to be utterly useless.

Anyway the brainrot is severe and especially dangerous since I'm coming into exam season and all my hyperfixated brain wants to do is chew on glass about these games.

#late nights with ali #ali plays ae #<- tentatively establishing this tag For The Future #mechquest #dragonfable #literally forced my roommate to listen to my thoughts on the absurd clashening of humour and tragedy that is cysero last night lmfao #imagine remembering being sys-zero with all the trauma that brings but being confined in your new self by the laws of comedy #so you can never truly acknowledge it and you have to spend your days around the people you were closest to- #(minus odessa who's just. completely absent)- and never FEEL it in any meaningful way. because you're cysero now and cysero is a comedy. #also like dude is roommates with warlic. formerly the dean of GEARS and a leader figure to him. but now he's just. some guy. #what must that be like??? pretty messed up for certain!!! #anyway I'm supposed to be finishing my final biophysics assignment and all I can think about is this #so I'm taking breaks between questions to make a playlist that I may post alongside the art I did of my MQ hero at some point #pls pray for me and my grades

[todayisafridaynight]

whatever og text i had in mind for this post about ko shibasaki looking like sayama in this movie is completely cancelled on account of utsumi (this character)'s first name being kaoru and i only found this out cause i was looking up her name just to be sure when making this post

like jesus christ i legally have to make this post now

#snap chats #they literally never say her first name in the movie. i think lol LIKE WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS JUST 'NO FUCKING WAY' #i do have to be tbh and say her face /is/ a little more round than sayama's #and its absolutely predominantly because of how her bangs and wardrobe are so close to sayama's that i think she look like her #BUT I CAAAANT THE WHOLE MOVIE I WAS JUST THINKIN ABOUT SAYAMA... i miss her... #OH RIGHT THE MOVIE THOUGH noooo fuck you this movie was so good it actually made me want to write a summary for it LMAOOO #LIKE I LIKE WRITING SUMMARIES BUT IVE JUST BEEN SO LAZY ABOUT IT WITH THE PAST FEW THINGS IVE SEEN BUT GOD. #ignore the fact i finished this movie two hours ago i was too busy fiddling with a card holder kit but. ill make a post about that next-- #THIS MOVIE THOUGH NOOOOO IT WAS SO GOOD //SCREAMS AND YELLS AND DESTROYS A SNOWGLOBE// #god the part where ishigami and yukawa are walking by the homeless and it just lingers on an empty spot.. LIKE I THOUGHT I WAS WACK #CAUSE I WAS LIKE 'hang on wasnt there a guy there last scene' and obviously there was since the shot lingered right #BUUUUTT WHEN IT WAS REVEALED DOWN THE LINE SHUT UPPP I LITERALLY YELLED IM SO GLAD. my roommates arent home.. #on god i thought the movie was gonna end with utsumi and fukawa's convo from the beginning #and i was gonna make a gaf about how fukawa was acting irrationally because he was too in love LMAOOO #BUT THEN IT KEPT GOING AND. im so glad it did. ishigami valid tbh #id also cover up and take blame for AND ACTUALLY commit murder for a girl if she said hi to me and made me lunch while i was trying to kms #while fukawa and ishigami were talkin that first night tho i just thought of after the rain.. lol... maybe the mangaka was inspo'd by that. #anyway. this movie was great. it reminded me of sherlock but if it was directed well and actually let you solve the mystery too #CAUSE WHILE I WAS WATCHING THERE WERE POINTS WHERE I TOO WAS JUST 'hang on' AND I JUST POCKETED THE INFO FOR LATER #i kicked and screamed when ishigami was talking abut how he formats his tests LIKE I SAID 'oh you fucking slipped' #when ishigami called and told her he had a white envelope in there bitch i knew it was gonna be the stalker letter i YELLED #LIKE I LIKE HOW THE MOVIE SETS THINGS UP SO ABUNDANTLY. IT'S FUN SEEING IT FIT IN THE MOVIE LATER ON #the twist of there being two bodies was so fun tho cause at the start of the movie i was sure two murders happened the same night #so when it was played off as just one i was like Oh. Ok. im still stumped on how he snuck a body out of the apartment #but yk what one detail is like. whatever in comparison to the rest of the movie being fun to watch #god im running out of tags POINT IS. PLEAAASE watch this movie if you got two hours #ive left some minor warnings on my Watchlist doc but there's nothing. TOO extreme ?? #i mean there's an aforementioned suicide attempt but aside from that it's nothing too grotesque. for an rgg fan ig #ok bye i have to ramble about the card holder i got <3

[honeyvenommusic]

❗️NEWGLASSANIMALSGLASSANIMALSGLASSANIMALSGLASSANIMALSGLASSANIMALSGLASSAN-

#glass animals #honestly i wore out dreamland sm my brain took a lonnng break from expecting anything from them?? idk i’m just huh???? #like….. when i say wore out #i cannot describe how much i listened to it #i usually have some vague idea even if it’s a ridiculous number #like 52 times in a month for an album or something (has happened) #i cannot recall w this #gonna say bc 2020 & they were Literally the last band i saw live. next morning everyone found out about everything annd lockdown. no joke #so it was big dreamland time when it dropped and revisiting their past albums when i broke out of its spell lmao #(pretty sure before that like january was when i listened to déjà vu 100+ times in a row tho so oop. it was a tough day lol) #anyway seeing this aww man. i really have had this band with me for a long long time. 🥹 i remember hearing gooey on the radio one night #driving home from work late @ night in 2014. the drive was so short i couldn’t be arsed to fish out my ipod & plug it in #sometimes so just popped on a good station i had preset. started the car and heard this *voice* and i was like who???? #had to check the station bc it was an alt station and i thought i had it on another one which was fine i was just v confused #it was in the middle of the song & i was immediately anxious to know the name hoping i’d hear it & it wouldn't just flow into the next song #then the dj would pile the names together after x number of songs played bc i was tiired (but woulda stayed in the car ngl). got lucky & #ran inside to find it then yelled at my roommate the next day that she HAD to listen to it during a smoke session after work #(i was right & it blew her miiind) #god. what a fucking time. what a fucking band. idk what the disc horse is surrounding them now since they blew up via tiktok #i’m sure people are v quick to say they’re overrated bc of that but idk & i’m glad i don’t know. they’ll always be this #highly inventive incredible band i stumbled upon for the perfect night drive home after a long long shift #a band that came back from a Horrible accident that should have ended 1 of their lives & somehow didn’t & should have ended them #as a band (like still cannot believe Joe was drumming in 2020 & i saw it with my own eyes like how tf???!?) #a band deserving of all of its successes. glass animals forever

[mayathescientist]

I don't trust people who are obsessed with cleanliness and personal hygiene and rely on their feelings of disgust to make a moral judgement or form an opinion about a person.

I don't trust people who make conclusions about people very easily and like to claim people with one or two words they use to define this person's place in their eyes.

I don't trust people who are popular, sociable and talk about others a lot. I don't trust people who measure everyone by how that person compares to them.

for no particular reason at all :)

#maya posts #talking to mia #vent post #Almost #I hate my roommates and the way they talk about other people behind their backs and how they treat me with discreet contempt when I'm here #and how they no doubt already talked so much shit about me when I wasn't there considering discussing other people is this favorite pastime #they're also friends with our class leader which no doubt shaped her opinion about me loooool #can't wait to turn into an exile in my uni class too hell yeah #they know nothing about my personality my interests etc and frankly they don't fucking care #as long as they see that I'm fat obviously neurodivergent in my patterns of communication and have poor hygiene and have to build self care #habits from the ground up after years of untreated mental health issues #as long as they see I don't go out as much as them don't have many friends or a boyfriend and don't rly have what's considered achievements #their judgement on me is sealed #and it would be fine if they just thought i was a loser because well socially I am and they think so too #they literally pretend I don't exist. like it's just the two of them living in the room. #all of the decisions are made without me. they cook for themselves I cook for myself. my attempts to even ask if I can move something while #cleaning are IGNORED. #all of my attempts to mend our relationship by giving them awkward gifts or clean the room every other day since I know how obsessed with #cleanliness they are #all of my attempts to make peace were IGNORED. #whenever someone knocks on our door it's always one of their friends looking for them #I'm a nobody #absolutely a nobody #I literally just don't exist. #also these girls are extremely lesbophobic and just bigoted in general I don't think they know anything about my queerness but they might be #just kinda able to tell #I literally wear boxers and flannel shirts and I own a shirt with a male cut and I have extremely short hair and wear exclusively trousers #I don't think they haven't noticed #considering the fact they cared enough to notice how often I was my hands

[yourqueenb]

Damn wtf she really was gonna fail MC because Drew didn’t do his half? That’s idiotic

#choices rwb #choices roommates with benefits #choices #choices stories you play #playchoices #I was sticking up for her before but Takeda really is just unreasonable #I thought Drew’s portion was necessary for them to complete the film #and that they were missing out on checkpoint assignments #but they literally just made two separate films about each other? #so why would MC have to fail because Drew didn’t do his film about her #this isn’t even really a project that should require joint grades #Takeda basically just assigned each person someone else from the class to do their film on #just dumb #choices app #pixelberry studios #pixelberry

[inexplicablymine]

Oh you are writing an au, what magical place will you put them in

Author: mmmm thinking they are roommates on a college campus

But… but you could put them anywhere doing anything are you sur-

Author: yeah no they are going to be roommates this will be so good

…

Author: what about it

#and they were roommates #literally #ao3 #fanfiction #my favorite trope #I will write it until I have no air left in my lungs #every single fandom deserves the best and they were roommates stories sorry #I don’t make the rules #inexplicablymine #shower thoughts

[roseworth]

kevin smith is someone that has made countless things that i love and is also someone that i want to rip apart and study under a microscope

#i need you guys to be into the view askewniverse i cant be having these thoughts all on my own #<- ok im sorry its not on my own. my roommate and i bring up kevin smith in like 80% of our conversations #its not the same. i need to post. #but i was thinking about jay & silent bob reboot #ignore the fact that that movie made me sob like a little baby. it sucked so bad #kevin smith made jay & silent bob strike back and perfected cinema just to turn around 18 years later and make reboot #shitass movie. why did you give it a plot #they were literally a gay couple with a monkey son in the first one #why did you have to ruin it

[puppyeared]

OH HUGH GRANT ISHIS HUSBAND

#I THOUGHT THAT WAS HIS ROOMMATE IM SO USEDTO ROOMMATE SITUATIONS BY NOW.and they were roommates moment..... #im going throughthe glass onion tags now THE MOVIE WAS SOOOO GOOD I WANT TO WATCHKNIVES OUT AGAIN NOW AHH #someone pointed out the mona lisa was a dud bc they knew they shouldnt trust it with him and he wouldnt be able to tell the diff LMAO #im so glad i still love blanc in this one too HES SO COOL YOU GUYS. HES LITERALLY THE BLORBO #god yes and trashing billionaires houses and calling them shitheads YESS #SO INTERESTING THAT THE MONA LISA BURNED DOWNT HE SAME WAY HE BURNED THE NAPKIN. AHJHHHH #IM NOT GOING TO SLEEP TONIGHT #yapping #glass onion spoilers #glass onion

[munamania]

like not to be crazy but life yesterday for me was just wake up 9am class sit edit (see film friends briefly so yippee yay) oh my god thank god the little bit of time i sat outside in the sun but then class till 5pm walk to store w sam for their shit to be way too pricey to be worth it lmao um not even get on bus till 5:45 call parents around 6:45 dont get off phone with dad till after 8:30. um. watch tv with lydia for a little bit smoke make a shitty little dinner bed. idk typing it out it's like oh thats not So bad i had at least a few chill moments. kind of. it still feels bleak though anyone else

#and well yes i had to sit for a while and wait for lydia for the bus #bc i happened to see sam's roommate and two others of that friend group sitting right out front of yk #the building i work at and near the bus stop. and i was just like. oh jesus Christ. i cant do seeing people today esp not 3v1 #and sunday i had the most painfully entangled physically awkward run in with this girl who is also friends w them. whom i met that one #rlly weird night but we didnt even really meet we were just in each others vicinity enough to make eye contact and be like um hi ig yk #anyway tiny br and my bookbag is like a foot and a half deep rn so i went to hang it up and wash my hands and the straps get all messed #up w hers and i walk over to be like omg im so sorry but she has headphones on as do i but i thought she at least saw me grab my bag #and put it on and then i opened the door for her bc i literally did not have room i would have run into her and she still managed to #like squished cause its cramped and almost smack the door/me again and i was just so fucking tired and gross after work like girl i am not #a person rn... yk.... anyways. none of that really mattered but it's stuff that happened in the periphery of like life idk #abby talks #i need enrichment so bad. but preceded and followed by so much rest

[posallys]

Oh my god isn't it totally crazy and ironic how all of my boyfriend and I's food that was going missing stopped disappearing for the entire week one of our roommates (who is "not taking it i swear") was gone and suddenly is magically and unfathomably disappearing again now that he’s back? So wild what a coinkydink

#but bro has the audacity to go 'i only have enough money to support myself so i can't be sharing my stuff' #brother how about you get a fucking job instead of sitting on the couch all day 🤩🤩 #and it’s funny bc my boyfriend and i are NEVER THERE to take shit bc we're always at work #but our roommate will literally be in the kitchen making a full meal woth our groceries when we come home and go #'oh i thought they were for all of us' brother what about the TWO chicken breasts said they were for the entire fucking apartment #dude threw away the bananas inwas saving for banana bread because they were going brown like YEAH I KNOW THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO #'oh cool you went grocery shopping; we have a lot of stuff now' brother who is this WE you speak of bc it doesn't include you #WE ie my bf and i have stuff because WE bought it #maybe you should get a job if the money your mommy and daddy are giving you isn't enough instead of going out drinking 🤩🤩

[awek-s-archived]

I’m like forever insecure re friendships bc everyone I’ve met so far is like. incapable of communication and I don’t even mean that as an excuse .. ppl just genuinely can’t talk abt shit when it matters and then it ruins everything

#I had a roommate who like. actively tried to get my best friend back into drugs #like class A hardcore drugs. he doesn’t remember the entire year we became friends. he literally didn’t know who I was when he got clean #anyway he got back into them and knew what they did last time so he asked me to help him and he gave me all his drugs and told me to give #him one or two when he couldn’t function at school and it worked for a couple days. then our roommate kept sneaking him extra drugs without #me knowing bc she thought it was funny ?? so naturally he got worse and he ended up having to get clean on his own. which is a very painful #and lengthy process #anyway we were never friends again after that (me and the roommate) and whenever one of our other friends brought her up I’d be like I #literally hate her I would not care if she died stop talking to me abt her etc and the friend was like #‘I put up with u at uni but i will not anymore’ bc like. I don’t wanna talk to the person who actively ruined my best friend’s life #anyway that was 4 years wasted bc she basically pretended to be my friend the whole time. when she never liked me bc i said I wouldn’t piss #on the roommate if she was on fireFJSJFNSN #sorry I think that’s millions less serious than the roommate giving my bestie class A drugs because she found addiction funny #but anyway never told anyone that in such detail but that kinda messed me up re friendships so yeaaaah #sorry everyone #aweks.txt #idk

[radishhqueen]

the horrors are hitting, have a wip

#radish #rs tag #local guy realizes his girlfriend's friend has not been in lesbians w her roommate for the past 3 years #and is in fact still dating the same white bread guy from when they were kids #heidi and luke are very silly in that literally everyone around them is like. oh they CANNOT become friends #they become a bad decisions echo chamber #neither of them have ever thought thru anything in their life 😔 #the horrors are persisting. now i have writers block for everything #some day. i will be less stressed

[griddlegold]

new rule you can't ask the friend you functionally dumped for advice on getting with someone new :)

#like you didn't even reach out after you (tagged along with r to) drop me off at my apartment after my ta had to call paramedics for me #you haven't talked to me in a WEEK and that was ONLY because r called thinking you could get to me faster after THE PARAMEDICS WERE CALLED #you've literally only reached out to me ONCE since you called from across the country like 'i chose to drop out but i miss you guys :(' #and it's to be like 'oh look i matched with that drag artist who performed at the show we went to (and got real homoerotic at)' #and ask how to go about talking to them #also they're subletting from a guy. who didn't tell his roommates he was moving out. had asked out one of them. they were all like #'oh wow i guess we weren't as close [to him] as i thought we were' #and they relay this story to me (as. again. i am laying on a couch in student services after the fucking paramedics leave) #without a fucking GLIMMER of irony #i'm still so FUCKING mad. #el speaks

[aemondtragaryen-archived]

having the worst day known to mankind so pls tell me something that has made you really happy recently.... or like any kind of happiness you want to share <3

#pls pls pls I am not doing well #tw rent in the tags!!! #I really thought I was doing well with my roommates #but my one pretty much told me in the kitchen how terrible she thinks I am #all because I sent a text to our group chat saying the dishwasher was dirty and we could put our dishes in their #because I was the one who did it. that is why I sent it. and there was a million dirty dishes in the sink #she said to me and I quote. I do not like being told to do thing #things* #I didn't even tell her to do them... I said I did them and that we could put our dishes in their that were dirty.... I dont get it #and we have pet rats and she told me I basically she does more than me in the house (she doesn't lol) #her reasoning was that she does the rat cage more than I do which is NOT okay because that to her is a shared responsibility #but doing the dishes is somehow not something that should be a shared responsibility ????? I cant explain it BC IT MAKES NO SENSE #she literally just got sooo aggressive and went on to say if the dishes dont get done in a few days that is okay. I have no reason to expect #expect her to help with the shared spaces being cleaned. it will get done when it getsdone #there is more but it is just the same level of entitledment #she was talking over me and calling me passive aggressive when I stood up for myself it gave me an anxiety attack #and she knows I have bad anxiety and I guess she saw my hand shaking from anxiety and said so condescendingly that SHE gets anxiety too #like im so ridiculous for having anxiety #I told her we should talk when my other roommate was home and she ignored that and told me it WOULD happen now. it was so disrespectful #idk im so upset also bc I have a really good day with my friend until I came home to her doing that #going to try and write fanfic to distract myself now ugh #if anyone actually read this and wants to voice how insane she is feel free lmao I am not okay rn

[arctic-hands]

Re: the being immunocompromised and nearly dying of agony from shingles all over me at sixteen thing. I used to say that was the worst pain I've ever felt in my chronically ill life, worsened by the fact that weenie me refused morphine because I was fully indoctrinated by D.A.R.E. and terrified that I would become an addict as I lay in the hospital bed writhing in agony as I was damn-near actively dying. Even breaking my toes a few years later just warranted a mild "Fuck." in comparison.

Anyway I recently experienced three infected teeth (two wisdoms that apparently just grew in already rotted? and one cavity that got out of hand because I kept forgetting to call my dentist and couldn't afford it anyway) within a two year span and let me say that that knocked the nearly dying in agony thing right out of the park

#it had literally been a decade by that point since I ever cried in pain #the last time before that being when I had my first bowel obstruction that coincided with a migraine #I miss my tooth #not the wisdoms to hell with them. but I couldn't afford a root canal for the third tooth so it had to come out #the kicker is that as of a month ago Maryland Medicaid covers dental. again. #it used to cover dental even before that but they cancelled the coverage the year I moved to Maryland #I'm glad they are covering dental again and I have an appointment in May but I wish it had come a year earlier #because my options were between a two hundred dollar extraction or a thousand dollar root canal #teeth are a luxury in the U.S. #also when I had my wisdoms removed I went to a dental surgeon and had laughing gas #but when I had the third tooth removed I couldn't afford that again and went to my regular dentist and didn't even have valium for it #I was SHAKING in the chair trying not to freak out or faint #it was longer than it should have been too because the tooth shattered in the process and he had to dig out the roots and let me tell you #not. fun. #at least for two hundred dollars I got novocaine. If I had gone to the dental school for free they wouldn't have even given me that #cannot don't want to imagine that pain #I wish I could have kept my wisdom teeth like my roommate did when he had one years before #but the dental surgeon refused to give them to me because of pandemic protocols. I never even got to look at them #laughing gas is better than valium I think. both are great tho #I wasn't out of control loopy on laughing gas but when they were stitching up my gums I thought 'huh. hell of a time to floss my teeth' #teeth #toothache #Thou hell o' a' diseases