#it’s a difficult mindset to get out of

[longlostdiaries]

One thing I hate about having ADHD is that you only got two times available: Now and Not Now. And when you're having a really fucking bad time Not Now may as well not exist, and Now may as well be eternal. And you can rationalize how that is not true to hell and back, but that won't stop the feeling of an eternity of pain and/or misery weighing down on you.

#neurodivergent #adhd #actually neurodivergent #actually adhd #mental health #time blindness #combine this with the possibility that I might be developing chronic illness and some of my pain might actually be eternal #and it's even more difficult to try to get out of that mindset #longlostposts

[crescentfool]

beaming everyone on the dashh with good brain day vibes!!! i hope that you all can remember to extend self-compassion to yourself whenever you're feeling down about something 💙

#lizzy speaks #the human brain works in such profound ways i think #lately i've been thinking about that post that was like 'you will always be your oldest friend take care of yourself' #it's definitely a sentiment i agree with and i appreciate how it emphasizes the importance of extending compassion to yourself #you wouldn't say such hurtful things to your friends right? (or at least i'd hope so) #so why would you say it to yourself? #you are your own friend too. and i think everyone has a beautiful soul within themselves. nurture it! water it! feed it good thoughts. #basically i wish everyone a 'i hope that your brain is not your own enemy but rather a friend that you can find comfort in' #things will work themselves out with time. there's beauty in life and you will find small delights to cherish!! i am manifesting it for u!! #and for those who find it difficult to transition from a self-critical mindset to one that's more compassionate and nonjudgmental #i truly think that with time you will be able to rewire your brain to be kinder to yourself. i'm proud of you for taking any first steps :) #there are times in which it feels counterintuitive to go against habits that feel hard-wired... but brains are very malleable littel guys- #with such a wonderful capacity for changing and learning new things. so i hope everyone can learn to be their own best friend! #not to undermine the importance of a support network ofc. that's good too and im all for that!! but i hope everyone remembers to be kind- #not only to others but also to themselves!! you're going to do great out there!! i love you all!! #ive just been thinking about this a lot... i needed to get it out there. you all shine so brightly!!! we shall be fine!!! have a good week! #sorry if this is out of nowhere but if there's anything about me you should know it's that i'm the 'hey dont cry 8 billion people on earth- #ok?' post. idk i just find great joy in knowing others are out there thriving and finding a daily delight yknow i love humanity!!

[auphelia]

Who would've thought? I actually made a header for the dottore x reader fic I'm writing... It's here by the way (two chapters thus far)

#time to wait for daylight to get a better picture #memento mori #sumeru script was difficult to get right sigh #kinda happy with how it turned out and im trying to keep that mindset lmao #now back to writing chapter three #dottocrow #dottore

[sp00ky-scary]

Idk how but I think those tutorials and like art rules everyone was obsessed with ages ago have seriously fucked up my ability to make art

#it's so difficult to get out of the mindset of like #you need to sketch then sketch again then do line art then colour then shade #only recently freed myself from needing to do proper line art #no offense to lavendertowne #but i think her tutorials especially impacted my art in a very negative way #anyway i need to study anatomy again and do some studies of other artists

[astro-b-o-y-d]

I really do love the sentiment of ‘I wish you wouldn’t think so poorly of me in your head, you are loved and my friend’ but also it does get a lot more difficult to remember when people have actually outright said the mean things in your head to your face

#Hayley Speaks #Like yes I fully support the mindset of not assuming the worst in the people who love you #But also it does get difficult when the people you've loved in the past really are that cruel #Through no one's fault but those who chose to be cruel #My brain's in a weird place tonight #Like I've constantly had experiences where my anxiety tells me 'You're annoying' and my own friends have come out- #-and said 'You're annoying' #It's very hard to fight some days

[bethrnoora]

nervously researching pattern drafting. we'll see where this all goes idk

#trying to get into a 'start the biggest/most difficult portion of your project before getting more little things' mindset #so as not to chicken out and have a bunch of misc crap lying around from an unfinished project #if i need to figure out an alternative then so be it but i at least want to like. see if i can wrap my head around it

[scarletcomet]

does anyone else ever feel like maybe they need to be hospitalized or weren’t ready to be discharged from the hospital?

#i was discharged almost a week ago now and i felt really ready to go #i have a much better mindset now after the second hospitalization #but the suicidal thoughts and self-harm urges are a lot more difficult to deal with in the real world where i can hurt myself #i still feel very depressed pretty much always but at the same time my mood has been pretty ok #regardless of how i'm feeling and what i'm doing i get those intrusive detailed suicidal thoughts #i want to do more research and stuff just like out of curiosity or to indulge myself a little #but that's the kind of behavior that gets you sent to the emergency room and admitted to the hospital #i feel ok and not actively suicidal but at the same time i want to plan even though i don't want to go through with it at the moment #if i tell my doctor or therapist at my treatment program this i'm worried that they will send me to the emergency room (again) #it would be weird because i feel ok even though im having these thoughts #similar to how i felt last time i was sent to the ER but i wasn't sure if i could keep myself safe in the long run last time #idk. i feel like i can keep myself safe but at the same time i want to plan and get ready #what is wrong with me #i can think about the future and am starting to see a future for myself (at least for the next year) so why do i feel this way? #i need to write some of this shit down and talk to the therapist at my treatment program tomorrow #i feel like it might be too triggering for others to bring up in process group but i do kinda want feedback from my peers

[dottores]

i finished the masterlist and playlist to my series after LDA and i want to post it immediately i’m so excited oh my god

#off to work now #i’ll answer asks later #me looking at the other 3 i have posted rn that i still need to get to :o #warring states is difficult tho cuz i need to be in a particular mindset for it #and wastelands i fell out of 🥲 so i need to rewrite the whole thing

[archivedbyebye]

I need to shove media into my head until it comes out of my ears so I stop feeling so sad all the time

#screaming into the void #it's getting more difficult guys #i can feel my creativity slipping away #it's so sad because i used to have the brain capacity to create and use my imagination #used to be smarter too #now all i use my brain to do now is bullshit writing and anxiety and how much i hate myself #and it's honestly just so pathetic and i need a way out of this mindset

[dimiclaudeblaigan]

we all clear on that point now? yeah? yeah??? good.

#DCB RD Run #bitches be pretending a tellius character can't and won't get development #there's a difference between “i don't like this character” and “this character is objectively xyz and never gets development” #y'all's memes and “jokes” are so ANNOOOOOYING #unless y'all are gonna start using those jokes for soren jill tibarn reyson janaff ulki naesala etc #it's to time to shut up and accept that character development doesn't just apply to characters you like #like y'all don't know how annoying it is to find good art of a fave and see them pull the ''bigot'' or ''racist'' jokes constantly #y'all are either gonna call reyson racist and not pull the ''but he developed!!!'' card #or y'all are gonna stop whining about another character being racist and conveniently ignore the blatant development he has #just bc it's small and takes times - like you know real people and how they grow and change out of habits slowly - #doesn't mean it's not there and that it's not very direct. having some instant immediate change in perspective #is not only unrealistic and boring but when you're dealing with an adult who is used to old habits and generally set in their ways #changing their entire mindset (not just behavior but their actual manner of thinking abt smth) takes TIME #I can absolutely see 27 years of belief and habits being difficult to get out of and change #I can absolutely see that taking three+ years to worm out of and come out a better person for it #I can absolutely see trying to be better and still slipping up sometimes. Naesala similarly took over an entire game to get better #in that exact same regard. he put up with beorc as long as he had to then outright told Ike #not to visit Kilvas unless he paid to visit specifically bc they don't rly want beorc there #the pace in change and changed mindset took time and gave him a character arc spanning both games #it wasn't a one and done there you go he's fully developed after one game with a planned sequel #it was a longer and more interesting experience and a few others got that too #it's always also wild to me how ppl absolutely refuse to go from hating a character's guts to actually loving them or even just liking them #there's a character in another series I used to /hate/. got development and she became one of my faves #like my top fave alongside someone else #and again: disliking a character doesn't mean denying them development even if you still don't like them post development #they still got it. pretending they didn't just to keep hating them is stupid

[liinos]

idk how much clearer i can make "i cannot talk to people" to my dad bc no matter how much i try to express the fact that it either makes me cry or makes my throat close up to the point that i can barely get words out + my tongue feels glued to the roof of my mouth he just tells me i'm "thinking about it wrong" and that THAT'S the problem like.... this is not a voluntary reaction. "it's over zoom so it's fine" the inperson-ness is not the issue i started crying doing a customer service chat yesterday i literally don't know how to make you understand🧍🏻‍♀️

#like i get the shakes writing emails. what's not clicking #'change your mindset' this is like when i told my parents i used to only get nervous Right when i was doing auditions and they just told me #i needed to relax like wow thanks <3 i'm not choosing to be like this it's literally not an active thought process it's just Happening #WHICH IS WHAT HAPPENS NOW TOO #like sure if i think about it beforehand i can psych myself out but even if i don't i Just Cannot Do It it's like something is running in #the background #bc i am doing something else when it happens so that's the thing i'm actively thinking about!! why do we not understand that!! #'change your mindset' i'm going to start snapping i truly am #i understand being able to talk to people and ask questions is important but i CAN'T and you're not helping me overcome the issue #sorry but 'just do it more' is not helpful in this situation. like at all. I gave myself a sore throat recording a presentation during #zoomuniversity and i was recording it alone in my room... my throat closed up to the point i could barely speak #how do you not understand how genuinely difficult stuff like this is for me. it isn't something i can push through when i have a physical #reaction that gradually makes it impossible to do so and bc it makes it so hard for me to even form words it makes me look like i'm actuall #incapable of forming cohesive thoughts #it isn't helpful for me to be like 'just talk to this person' it really just isn't

[xx-valentine-catastrophe-xx]

the Guilt is here

#dating cis people is different. not difficult #need to get out of this mindset I love my boyfriend #but i feel like im just secretly being seen as a woman and it’s stressing me out #top ten feelings that will pass I’ll be fine in like 5 minutes

[qqueenofhades]

https://www.tumblr.com/qqueenofhades/743255237060689920/the-thing-that-confuses-me-about-the-dont-vote

The “don’t vote” left’s point is basically that, if Biden gets a second term, it’ll basically signal that “They’ll vote for us as long as we’re not Republicans, why don’t we do some REAL fucked up shit, if we can get away with it?” It takes the power out of the people’s hands and places it firmly in the party’s.

I can’t completely disagree with that, my caveat is that there’s no real alternative system or party in place, because top-down change is ineffective; a third party president has to contend with a two party congress.

Except no. This whole "Biden just wants to do as much fucked up shit as possible while not being a Republican, and if you give him a second term he'll do more fucked up shit deliberately to spite you" mindset is only possible as an interpretation if you a) deliberately and comprehensively ignore everything he has done to date, and b) you approach the situation with the maximum bad faith possible. Not to mention, the ultimate outcome of this Big Important Teaching Biden A Lesson is that Trump gets back into power and makes everything orders of magnitude worse, because he does in fact want to deliberately do evil shit to everyone and says so at every opportunity. There is not some magical happy alternative that springs into existence by not voting. If you choose this as a year to Teach Biden A Lesson, you are enabling Trump. Trump will be much, much worse. If you don't care about that, I still do not care what your Great Ideology is. You are not helping anyone and you are directly and irreversibly hurting everyone.

I made a post a few days ago wherein I mentioned that I want to assess Biden fairly, taking into account both strengths and weaknesses, but the rampant bad-faith, lying, misreading, misrepresentation, and open sabotage of him (especially by the online left; the GOP sometimes only wishes they were as good at turning Biden's voter pool against him) makes it really difficult to do that. My frustration with those people makes me just want to go "BIDEN IS GREAT THE END." I know he is a flawed old man (though by literally every account of a career spent in public service, he really does care about making the world a better place and any remotely good faith reading of his accomplishments thus far can see that). It is also very likely that he goes MORE left in a second term because he won't have to face the electorate again, he has always gone more left when pushed before, and he's not actually the scheming genocidal mastermind that leftist social media paints him as. Shocking, I know.

I know there are things in the world we don't like and don't want and want to stop, and therefore we blame our own president for not making it stop. But I have zero, no, none, absolutely none whatsoever sympathy for this pseudo-populist "WE NEED TO TEACH BIDEN A LESSON BY ELECTING TRUMP AGAIN, I AM VERY MORAL MUCH ACTIVIST" mindset. There's this funny thing about America wherein it is still (for now) a democracy. If Biden wins a second term, he can't run again. I would take literally anything these people said more seriously if they focused on developing their dream progressive successor for 2028 (and also figured out how to get that person elected and in a place to make real change) rather than cynically sabotaging Biden in the most consequential election year, again, of our lifetimes. If you don't like him now, find a way to make his successor a better option. Throwing a toddler tantrum and handing the country back to a senile, deranged, fascist, revenge-riddled, theocratic Trump HELPS. NOBODY. I still don't know how many times I'm going to have to say that, but yeah.

#anonymous #ask #politics for ts

[prettieinpink]

NEW YEAR, NEW ME

( A collab with thee lovely lele @bloombabydoll )

If you want to reinvent and rebrand yourself, or just continue to make positive improvements in 2024, the first thing is to evaluate your current year. 

EVALUATION

Reflect on how things went for you. Was there continuous growth? Were there many difficult times? Did you discover anything major about yourself and so on. Try to summarise your year in (a) paragraph(s) at least. 

Oversee your goals. Which ones you didn’t, did achieve, difficult ones, easy ones and the impacts it had on your life. 

Compare your dream girl then and now. Is your visualisation of your life currently different to the one you have now and why? 

List any major losses or successes you’ve had in your life, and how they have helped you or why it matters to you. 

This evaluation can be as detailed or simple as you like, but as long as you have a decent outline of your year. 

PREPARING & PLANNING

To prepare for 2024, you want to know what you want life to be like in 2024. Something realistic to a point, but still is a growth journey. 

Think of something that you can associate with 2024. This can be a word, a symbol, art, a song, a book, a movie, a place, or even just all of these things. When you think about your goals and your journey, this is your theme. This is something that should relate to your goals or your dream girl somehow. 

For me, I chose a word and a song. My word is growth because, for me, 2023 was a year for just being able to shed my old self which I did achieve however I just felt there wasn’t much growth as an actual person and not just in my environment. 

For my song, it is Mayflowers by Proleters and Taskrok. This song is the epitome of what I would imagine, is the most polished mindset. I would say perfect, but having a perfect mindset is near impossible. I want to have a mindset glow up because I’ve just been hard on myself lately which has caused my confidence to plummet. 

Before we get into the fun part of the preparation stage, we have to do some organisation in our life. I want you to take a look at your daily lifestyle and your habits, and be completely unashamed about this. 

Then categorise these habits into two sections; Leave and Leap. Leave habits are habits that you are leaving behind in 2023, leap habits are habits that are leaping into 2024 with you. 

Any habits that are self-destructive, addictive or generally harmful are leave habits. Beneficial habits and self-building are leaping with you into the new year.

I want you to do the same for people in your life, all environments (school, work, online etc) and anything else you believe needs to be sorted out. 

This works better if you can reason with yourself why it is a leaping or leaving habit, but don’t try to convince yourself a bad habit is good or vice versa. 

Now, I want you to document an honest paragraph about who you are right now. List your bad and good habits, your strengths and weaknesses and your behaviours. This one requires a bit more detail. 

Then, write a paragraph about who you will be in 2024, your dream girl. List her habits, lifestyle, behaviours, mindset, strengths and anything else extra. I’ll explain later but do not include materialistic desires in this your dream girl. Once again, this one also requires details. 

Stemming from those paragraphs, I want you to create specific and achievable goals. SMART goals are best, but I want to introduce you to how I set goals. 

I divide my year into quarters. For each 3 months, I have 3-5 goals for those months. Usually, it’s one from each area of my life. Then, I break down these goals. 

Questions and How They Help 

Why do I want to do this goal - For motivation and commitment. 

How it’ll benefit me - For the sake of improvement. 

How can I involve myself in this goal - To achieve your goal.  

I prefer this method because it is a lot simpler for me, as I am just a young girl and my bigger goals are more in the future in which I’ll utilise SMART goals. 

To create good goals; Make sure they align with your current values and life principles first. Try to avoid creating goals that you have just taken from the internet. Those goals just aren’t it and you most likely won’t follow through with it. 

Be specific. Don’t say you want to eat more healthily, instead say you want to include (a certain group of veggies/fruits) in your diet and reduce the intake of ( food/drink). 

E.g using eating healthy example

I want to eat healthy -> I want to start including foods that boost my immunity system and support my skin while reducing those that have the opposite effect. 

Then break down those quarterly goals into monthly, weekly and daily goals. Make these habits that you can establish in your lifestyle and have a way in which you can refer back to your progress. 

EXAMPLE GOAL BREAKDOWN

Quarterly Goal - Read 6 books.  

Monthly Goal - Finish 2 books.

Weekly Goal - Be or near half way of one book.

Daily Goal - 20 minutes of reading per day. 

AREAS TO SET GOALS IN YOUR LIFE

Academics

Spiritual

Fitness/sport

Health and wellbeing

Mental health

Personal life

Relationships

Hobbies and recreation

Now for the best part- vision boards! Collect all of your favourite images that embody your quarters or the whole year, then put them in one place where you can see them regularly!

Some ideas are a scrapbook, Pinterest boards, mood boards, playlists etc. 

Choose your theme; It can be your healthy girl era, your academic come back or whatever you want. You can have more than two btw.

Use quotes! Then actually say them in your daily life as a way to shift your mindset to reflect said quote.

Include inspirational people. It doesn't even have to be a millionaire or a very well established person, it could be your friends or someone on the internet.

Be imaginative. Your vision board doesn't have to realistic in my opinion, as the whole point of it to me is that viewing it daily and considering it to be part of your life one day allows for you to open up to those opportunities.

Materialistic Wants

I feel obligated to make this a separate section. This section is practically tangible objects that you want.

However, when choosing this said object that you want, mindfully think about why you want that thing specifically.

It doesn’t have to be meaningful, but as long as each thing on that list has got a purpose to you, and will serve you, I think it’s all good!

Conclusion

If you want, you can definitely start implementing habits before January. However, I believe that as long as you go into 2024 at least knowing who you want to be and shedding away any limiting beliefs, you’ll be fine.

Make sure to incorporate some self care rituals into your daily life as well✨

To end this, I hope everyone has a very merry Christmas! And that 2024 they will achieve to close that gap with their current selves and their dream girl selves! 💖🙏

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