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littlebent-notbroken · 3 years

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I've used the visualization before of asking yourself what you would tell a friend in the same situation (usually words full of compassion and love) and telling yourself the same thing. Today I want to offer another perspective: What do you WANT to hear instead of the inner critic? Maybe it's something you needed to hear when you were younger. ("I'm proud of you.") Maybe it's something you want someone to say to you right now. ("It's going to be okay.") Maybe it's something already stirring inside that's trying to get your attention. If we imagine the voices in our head as being different radio stations, which station would you rather stop on and listen to? And I know it's not always that easy--if it were as easy as changing a channel, the inner critic would never be heard. But for the purposes of the analogy, let's give ourselves the power and permission to change the channel. To say, "Hey, I hear this song [inner critic] and I don't like it, let's see what else is on." What else might you hear? What would you rather listen to? My mission is built upon the belief that everyone carries a wise, compassionate inner voice. This voice might already be loud enough to be heard, to cut through and talk back to the inner critic. Or maybe it's a faint blip on the radio and if we turn the dial just right or move to a different place in the house, it comes through more clearly. Perhaps you yourself need to take back control of the radio instead of letting other people change the channels (offering their thoughts/opinions that may or may not be helpful in that moment). (Am I super dating myself talking about radios and dials?) #innervoice #selflove #innercritic #emotionalawareness #empoweringthoughts #cognitivedistortions #innerdialoguecoach #youareworthy #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #productivityhabits (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CMfqdLFD9_u/?igshid=1l84eckuujbk2

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littlebent-notbroken · 3 years

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Negative, limiting beliefs may be wired into us through past conditioning, but they are not HARDwired into us. Breathing is hardwired into us. Blinking is hardwired into us. Digestion is hardwired into us. But speaking harshly to ourselves? Calling ourselves stupid, dumb, ugly? We weren't born hating ourselves. We weren't born already believing we were less than, unworthy, or unwanted. We may have learned to believe these things from conditioning, chronic exposure to abuse, shame, or guilt. These thoughts and beliefs became a habitual thought pattern on repeat for far too long. And just like any habit, it CAN be changed. It can be replaced. Just like people pleasing or the inability to set boundaries. Will it feel hard? Probably. Will it take a lot of work? Most likely. Will it be worth it? Absolutely. You are worthy NOW💜 🌙Are you ready to unlearn these negative beliefs and replace them with an inner dialogue of love and compassion? I have three spots open for 1:1 coaching in April! Check out the link in my bio for more information. #innerdialoguecoach #innerthoughts #negativecorebeliefs #limitingbeliefs #limitingbelief #emotionalwellbeing #winningmindset #worthiness #worthynow #selfesteem #emotionalabusehealing #mentalabusehealing #unlearning (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CL-VEdCj-Q2/?igshid=w25tytl5gced

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littlebent-notbroken · 3 years

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The voice that kept saying “you’re a worthless piece a sh*t” sounded like my voice, but it also sounded a lot like my mom’s words. And in making that realization, it jolted me into wanting to speak kinder to myself, about myself. I wanted to be nothing like my mom, in any way shape or form. Then, as I got older, the voice started to say things that COULD be said by real and imaginary people. It was like my default setting was skepticism and criticism. I would imagine that as soon as I walked into a room or when I finished a presentation, people would begin judging me. I would go down the list of all the possible awful things everyone would say about me, and convince myself that they were true--even if there was no "evidence" to back it up. “I’m ugly, I’m fat, I’m not smart, I’m not funny, I’m being annoying, a burden.” So, who’s actually saying you’re not good enough? Who’s conditioned you to believe you’re less than? You’re unloved? You’re unwanted? And how can you come back to yourself and wrap yourself in the love and compassion you need and say to yourself “I’m here, I’m proud of you, I love you”? How can you reclaim your voice? #selfworth #findyourvoice #depressionrecovery #innercriticalvoice #criticalvoice #innerwork #mentalhealthawareness #cptsdwarrior #resilience #turnitaround #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #innerdialoguecoach #innercritic #empoweringthoughts #perfectionism #recoveringperfectionist #practicenotperfection #impostersyndrome (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CLZuE54D-MF/?igshid=1kls6qwsge5ad

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littlebent-notbroken · 3 years

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⚔️ Any GoT fans? Lately my inner critic has been sooooo loud: “You’re not good enough. You’ll never succeed. You don’t know what you’re doing. Who do you think you are?” It’s like when I’m really excited about something I can’t fully feel excited because that voice in the back of my head is holding me back. It’s like a white wall with one speck of black paint and all I can focus on is that one speck. But today I’m tired of listening to the inner critic. I’m changing the channel on the radio, I’m not feeding it or giving it power, I’m not letting it hold me back. Not today. What do we say to the inner critic? Not today. #innercritic #innerdialogue #innerdialoguecoach #innerdialoguecoaching #reparenting #innerchildwork #mentalhealthmemes #mentalhealthmatters #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #cptsdrecovery #cptsdawareness (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKzhyUiDrWo/?igshid=197s73o9uysbu

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littlebent-notbroken · 3 years

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Words mean things. Words carry energy. Words have an impact. The words we use about ourselves and others can influence so much of our daily lives, our mood, our mindset. The words we think about ourselves and others have a similar impact. I never understood the old adage "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" because growing up, words hurt just as much as a bag of bricks would've. The words my mother used about it felt like a giant boulder on my chest, a dagger in my heart. And the words she said about others and about the world influenced how I saw and talked about the world. Complain about everything, gossip about this, judge that. Hate was the only language I knew. Hate of myself and others was my first language. Learning how to speak with love and kindness was really like learning a whole new language. I used to tell myself I was a worthless, fat piece of sh*t who would never be successful and would never be happy, that I'd spend the rest of my life miserable and alone with no one who cared about me. Now I tell myself that I am loved, that I am doing the best that I can and that's all I can ask of myself, that I'm strong, brave, and resilient. That I don't need external validation to prove I am worthy. I am worthy as I am now, right this moment. I kind of imagine as words having a weight & color. And the words we use/say/think form a kind of cloud around us. Is the cloud dark and heavy? Or light and airy? And whose words are you actually using? #innerthoughts #selfcare #emotionalwellbeing #winningmindset #selfhealing #innerdialoguecoaching #worthiness #selfesteem #emotionalabusehealing #mentalabusehealing #corelanguage #itdidntstartwithyou #corelanguagemap (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CLXpwfKDyRl/?igshid=c464dzi0cg5

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littlebent-notbroken · 3 years

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The first step in healing looks different for everyone, but what we all have in common is that there is that first step. For me, standing up after hitting rock bottom looked like admitting out loud to my doctor that I wanted to die. For others, standing up after hitting rock bottom could look like getting sober, deleting and blocking that person’s number, taking a risk and moving out/away, or just asking for help. Sometimes it could even be just taking a deep breath before standing up. *you also don’t have to hit rock bottom to heal* We all start somewhere. So wherever you are on your journey, just know that you’re not alone. Know that you are loved, you are seen, and you are heard, and your story matters. #healing #healingjourney #selfhealing #selfhealers #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #woundedinnerchild #innerwork #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #selfawareness #consciousness #therapyiscool #cptsdrecovery #traumarecovery #mentalhealthmatters #depressionrecovery #anxietyrecovery #youmatter #abuserecovery #abuserecoverycoach #innerdialoguecoach #yourstorymatters #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthquotes #childhoodabuserecovery (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKro0Dij30c/?igshid=x34uwshf4115

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