#im so sick of being nitpicked and criticized all the fucking time

[gothicprep]

i like contrapoints because, in my opinion, she's one of the few big names online that understands that coming off as non-judgmental is a lot more rhetorically powerful than it's often credited for. the one really big criticism i do have of her is though that her grasp on internet history isn't the greatest and i think it drives her to bad conclusions sometimes.

two claims i'd contest are the one in her incels video about alana's involuntary celibacy project in the incels video, and some of the framing she does around chris-chan in her cringe video. the alana/invcel thing comes up a lot when people talk about the incelosphere because i think people almost *want* it to be true. like, how much of a dunk would it be for this community to be the corrupted downstream of a concept first articulated by a queer woman! but this isn't really true, to act like there was a linear progression from alana's involuntary celibacy project is leaving a lot out, mainly that what we understand as the contemporary incelosphere is mostly a backlash to PUA and early red pill stuff. even the term "involuntary celibate" wasn't something alana influenced, someone with too much time on his hands dug it up from a henry flynt book from the 60s. and like, as for chris-chan, there's so much to unpack with that one, but it is probably worth pointing out that she does have kind of a symbiotic relationship with her trolls.

another thing i've taken issue with is her paywalled tangent vid about new atheism. this one can probably be chalked up to it being more intended as, like, a retrospective of her experience in the youtube atheism scene, but new atheism was mostly a product of usenet coming about when one of the big culture war issues of the time was creationism in schools, and this was all hot off the heels of the satanic panic. 9/11 didn't help, but it definitely wasn't the genesis point, nor were the "four horsemen" as they liked to call themselves. talk.origins went up in 1998, and alt.atheism goes back to 1990 and was incredibly popular. also, like. feminism did very much kill atheism. it's not because of anything malicious that feminists did, but because there are always topics that take up more oxygen online than anything else, and feminism became that thing after we all sort of tacitly decided that we were fucking sick of arguing about religion.

i know this sounds like a nitpick, but when you deal in the domain of internet bullshit, it's generally best practice to have a firm grasp on the origin stories for all these varying trends and how the moving parts interacted with one another. it just lends to more accurate analysis,. as a boomer would say, the more things change, the more they stay the same. ime this has been extremely true of the internet.

[babydarkstar]

fucking hate when parents do something they know will upset me and then laugh about me getting upset and then get angry when i dont have the quiet little ‘look the other way’ that they want

#like it drives me fucking insane #also my nana told my mom she thinks i have ‘anger issues’ #i was like wow well i can definitely not show up to live with u and help u whenever u need #also that’s rich coming from someone who snapped at me when i said something mundane #and needs to have things done a certain way #like literally it’s making me so angry that i want to cry #maybe i dont have anger issues maybe you have issues abt crossing peoples boundaries #and purposely trying to trigger me/my sister/anyone who u feel like making fun of #i literally cannot wait to be independent from these people holy shit #like FOUR MORE FUCKING YEARS OF IT BUT IT’S FINE. IT’S FINE #im so sick of being nitpicked and criticized all the fucking time #anyways #wnd dont tell me to move out i will hunt u down and rip you apart w bare hands #bc that means u dont understand and u never will #also im terrified that i’ll never be able to move out bc mental illness #like i have zero self control zero self discipline i wont deny myself things #anyways like i know im capable but i also feel like i never will be #also bc of my depression all of my friendships are distant now #and im too ashamed to go back and be like ‘hey sorry i ignored your snaps and only sent streaks for an entire two years’ #and like. some of my old friends are sooooo draining to be around i dont even want to try #and they remind me of being in a shit school with a shit mentality and sksnksjsjs #im just complaining

[deathgod-ben]

My tua unpopular opinions too lmfao

• sparrow academy hate is actually fucking stupid like how are you going to hate on something without knowing anything about it, like damn at least be excited bc they were coming in the show one way or another

• people overhype klaus powers too much and make him too OP

• klave overrated, like it’s not hate or whatever it’s just that it has the fandom by the balls whereas other ships like almond and vissy get brushed aside

• people who say “ insert character” went thru more trauma makes me wanna throw myself into a car. Sick and tired of the trauma comparison

• I will never stop saying this but klaus is not teeny weeny tiny ( shit u not ppl on tua twt say this shit ) and ppl constantly relish in stereotyping klaus

• Listen vanya is kinda overhated but I won’t ever forget them for jumping my girl Allison in season 1

• never forging tua stans for jumping Ben and nitpicking every scene he’s in, and making his character into something he’s not from just 3 mins of screen time every episode

• I’m glad sparrow Ben is here. He’s not some shy nerd who’s only plot is serving a white siblings every need. People just don’t like it bc they want Ben to be this uwu sweet bean and who’s only a nice angel too klaus and the others and don’t fit this image of being a servant to the whites. Let this mf curbstomp someone

• Lila and Allison ship is everything sry not sry

• tua twt is filled with white favoritism in debate with the deterioration of the klaus and Ben relationship

• never forgiving tua stans for jumping Ben. Free my brother from this fandom

• Luther deserves a lot more credit, plus him and Ben had a low key underrated friendship. There’s a image of him and Luther doing a interview when they were kids and him putting his arm around ben when leaving reginalds office. Not to mention his plant is named after him and he feels the most regret

Sry this is so long Jesus 😭😭😭

Sparrow hate is a thing??? people do be bored sometimes

I personally think Vanya is the op

People are just fetisishing gay men couple at this point, maybe that's why Klave so popular (+ they white)

tua twt sounds like hell and im just gonna stay here on tumblr

the way people were jumping on allison and ben was sick. making them seem like monsters like wtf. all because they hurt their fav innocent white characters.

Im hoping for Sparrow Ben to be a bad ass bitch in next season. I love Umbrella Ben but i agree with you. His character was mostly there to serve as a plot device for Klaus, and fans were using him as a servant for Klaus. Praying for Sparrow Ben to be what we imagined Umbrella Ben was

You know, Lila and Allison do be sounding hot. im into this ship 100%

any criticism against allison and ben shouldnt be made from vanya and klaus fans, at this point is racially motiviated whnever they say something again them

yoooo i do really love luther and ben, they my second fav sibling duo.

dont be sorry this was so fun to read and i agree with u so much

#loving this #yooo lila and allison got me invested #the umbrella academy #tua #ben hargreeves #lila tua #allison tua #i think i gotta rewatch tua again before answering some asks cuz i dont remember shit #shitpost #asks

[koizik]

im so tired of living here. im so tired of having every single thing i do nitpicked and questioned and judged. no matter how many times i tell her i don’t need her input on things, she gives me her opinion on everything anyway. even my sisters get annoyed when she does this and have tried to tell her to stop, but she of course just got super defensive and ignored everything we said instead and tried to complain about things that we do instead of taking responsibility and actually listening to us for once. she criticizes me constantly and is completely incapable or receiving any form of criticism at all. she tells me, not asks me, to do things. so i do them. and when i do them, she tells me i did it wrong, or tells me how she would have done it instead, or just rearranges what i did so it’s how she wants it. why make me do it if you’re just going to get annoyed with how i did it and do it yourself anyway? what’s the point? it just makes me feel like i’m incompetent and nothing i do is ever right or good enough. why should i even bother doing anything if it’s never going to matter? she told me to do the laundry, so i did. then without even checking the closet to see that i did it, or taking the time to notice the laundry basket is no longer in the hall and is empty in her room, asks me if i did it yet. then she tells me i should have added a different towel in the loads that wouldn’t have fit and was a completely different colour, and then tells me that how i did it was wrong and i should have done two loads instead of one when there was what, 4 big towels and two hand towels? why would i waste money and water and detergent on two loads? it all fit into one machine. how are they not “clean enough” now? i ran them in hot water and put enough soap in. it’s fine. every time i put things in the dishwasher, she takes everything i put in and rearranges it instead. yesterday she texted me while i was out and said “you should have done the dishes”. i didn’t have time before i left, i was kind of busy. and would it kill you to be nice about it and say “could you do the dishes when you get home?” instead? maybe i had other priorities i was seeing to first! but of course that doesn’t matter. it only matters that i didn’t do it when she wanted it done, so i’m in the wrong. she assumed i put my coffee back into the coffee machine to heat it up again when i was just making an entirely new coffee because i finished the first one. she saw me empty my mug into the sink first. she saw me heat up my previous coffee in the microwave. why would i put already made coffee back into the machine again? that makes no sense at all. she nitpicks the things i eat and the things i wear and the things i do and constantly demands to know everything i do at all times and gets mad when i tell her no and says she’s just “being curious” and that she’s allowed to know because she’s my mother. she has no respect for my boundaries or my privacy and doesn’t care what i want ever. she constantly asks me about my doctor’s appointments and gets offended when i tell her that the things i privately discuss with my doctor are not her business. she tells me she liked me better when i was smoking weed and keeps trying to get me to do CBD even though i’ve said no many times, and even though smoking made me really sick. she keeps telling me she doesn’t want me to go back on medication like her opinion on that actually matters. she constantly calls me rude for not being enthusiastic enough when she speaks to me but she never ever listens when i tell her the way she speaks to me is equally rude and is incredibly annoying and intrusive. i’m never allowed to be upset with her ever. she doesn’t care what i want or how i feel about it, i have to be nice to her no matter what because she says so, regardless how she speaks to me. she annoys me to no end and then gets mad at me for being annoyed. she interrupts me whenever she wants to and doesn’t care if i’m busy. she literally used to just barge into my room without knocking and still does sometimes. she leaves my door open even though i’ve said many times to close it when she leaves. she once opened my door when she thought i was sleeping for no reason other than to spy on me and see what i was doing and then got mad at me for telling her it was intrusive and creepy. she does not care about me or my feelings, no matter how much she claims she does. her actions speak far louder than her lying words ever have. if she actually cared about me, she would not constantly treat me like a fucking child she thinks she can control.

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